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Thursday, 10 March 2016

Marrying Somone With A Disability......

Its time for the Couch Session...Please sit down and enjoy the cold drink



You know it's easy to date anyone but when things get serious, people become picky....Yes,picky!

So my question is, would you marry someone with a disability? Does your answer change depending on severity and type? Physical, mental, sensory?

What if the disability was hereditary and you wanted kids, and this meant
there is a possibility of having children with a similar disability?would it take that step of Faith and marry this person?

Don't be this goody -two-shoes kind of person and say "oh yes, i love disabled people, they are human too"..please let your answer be honest... consider your own needs... your own level of toleration....

So does disability really matter when one finds love and wants to settle down?

What if you marry and your spouse becomes disabled?Would you stay or look for an excuse and leave?

I remember one time that a BV called me in tears,we spent a long time on the phone.She had a disability and thinks her boyfriend is only with her because of her money.he avoids public outings and is only comfortable when they are inside.

Okay let me paint another scenario...''they met online and fell DEEPLY in love,dated for about a year and then it was time to meet physically.he travelled back home and after she had given too many excuses on why they couldn't see,he demanded to see her and when he did,he got angry and walked away.
what did he see?Her two legs were like tooth picks and she could only move around with the help of crutches.He RAN....''


NB- This post isn't meant to ridicule disabled people as they are humans who deserve to love and be loved as well but society has placed them in a spot where we need to bring them out from...



  

196 comments:

Joblesshousewife said...

hmmmm

EA EVENTS AND SERVICES said...

Aunty grace married her hubby dat got only 1hand, she is happily married with lovely kids!

RICHBEE said...

I can't not marry I disabled man.i already have someone and the person is not disabled

Watch and download new movies on afrilix.com said...

Hmmm.... I just dey observe!

STARRY LARRY said...

I need to read comments today, but to be candid, I can't date them




*Larry was here*

Blessing Jackson said...

I can't marry someone with disability..o if you are disabled and you meet someone online,the best thing is to open up in order to avoid stories that touch!!

Sweet Mother said...

It's hard for people to come in terms with any form of disability. I really do not know what to say but my honest answer is No. I can love you from a distance but that will be all.

Ada Nwanbueze said...

I will read comments oh.

BLOGBRITY said...

I cannot marry a man with disability except ??????

Cindy said...

Truth be told? I no fit o, but peradventure I find myself in that situation after marriage, I won't run but carry my cross. I remember wen my aunt desperately wanted to settle down, she was willing to marry a guy who bends holding one of his legs while he walked. I was small den, but I asked if that's what desperation cud cause and to think she wasn't even up to 30 then. Bcos her mates were getting married. Mtcheww. Today, she married sm1 else who isn't disabled and doing great too.

pax dimond said...

Disable people are also humans, if true love finds you and you are comfortable with settling down with a disable person. The choice is yours. Me on the other hands I will not be comfortable to marry a disable person, just me. If my boo becomes disable after marriage, I will stick to him and support him cos I did not marry him in such condition. Love covers all sins, some lovers could also be blind that they do no see a person's disabilities, I cannot sign out of my marriage cos my lover is now disable due one thing or the other. Father I reject it in Jesus name.

white Berry said...

This story reminded me of one chat group I was years back, got chatting with this guy and after sometime we decided to see and explained where I can meet him up but I noticed he signal somewhere to direct me to his car and refuse to get down, only for me to him the car we were chatting very well then after some time I noticed he is got no legs don't really know hw dat hw done controlling his car, immediately I tool excuse frm him dat I came with some1 so let me direct that person dat I am here, my dear bvs that was how I took the shortest cut and ran for my life, only to be getting calls frm him on my way but I didn't pick up then he sent a very touching text that he knew I ran away and refuse picking up cause of what I saw that he never choose to be like that. Mhen I was now feeling guilty but not just my fault then I found out I can't really date someone or get married to one who is disable but while in the marriage God forbids it he/she happens to be disable along the line that is a different case. One can stay on that. Well I really feel for the disabled ones.

Chidinma Grace said...

If d disabled person isn't a burden, I mean he earns his own money n don't blame d whole word for his disable, then I can marry such person. I don't like someone that blames everything but himself if he fails to make it in life n now take out d frustration on someone else be it disable or not, I can't deal.

AdeEsther said...

Hmmm
Let me read comments

Bootylycious diva said...

If you are disabled abeg look for your fellow beings to avoid dogo magana .But the truth is money answereth all things.

Anonymous said...

My dad has hearing disability, he can talk but doesn't hear properly. The truth is that except you don't love the person, disability is not an excuse. Since I was born till date, my parents have never quarreled, at least not to our knowledge. I grew under the most peaceful and loving parents in the world

lauretta andra said...

Truth is I don't think I can date/marry a disabled person, but if it happens while we are married, there is every possible reason for considering it. Please no offense to disabled people, it's my opinion and it has nothing to do with your present situation.

James said...

Seen

Anonymous said...

But can a guy date a lady that is bending in one directions, not really disabled they called them spinal back hump. The spinal cored is partially bend towards the waist region .and have seen a very pretty lady with such case but not yet married but isn't disable if u don't look at her properly u wouldn't take note of it

Doppelgänger said...

My problem with people with disability no offense is that they are always cranky.
Short people to me are disabled and see how irritating they behave.
I do understand their plight though. When you have people look down on you or pity you because of a disability which you have no control over. When people believe they can't do certain things because of it without first asking them must hurt.
Wold I marry someone with a disability? Oh well it depends on how the person sees himself. Does he let his disability get to him, then I won't bother.
Their temper is usually out of this world and combining that with mine is a time bomb so I doubt it very much.
But there is someone for everyone though.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

I Can't date or marry a disabled guy period,but if he's Like Dangote, I might consider him, a guy cannot be disabled and poor at the same time mbanuuuuuuuu.

Quiksilver said...

No vex, I cannot date or marry someone with disability.
Well except your disability is having a very big dick and fat pocket. Ehen!

Bye.

Freshdew said...

Came to read comments.

Chilaka Christian said...

Shaa this Post just reminds me of a funny scenario during the days of 2go, what social media will cuss no be child's play

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Mental disability is a big NO for me. Other disabilities depends on the causes but if hereditary, I can't push on into marriage with such person knowing one of my child will be affected by it.

The General's Wife said...

My dear,with God all Things are possible. If u focus on d things that matter and bring u joy,u wil be happy.and pray For Grace,u will be fine. U wil see u can take d lemons and turn them into Lemonade.
My love of S3x has turned around in my favour.Where there was a casting down,there is now a lifting up. Thank You Father!

Hottest Chic said...

No need to be sentImental here. I will not marry a disabled man cos if the table is turned, will he marry me? Of course NO.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

If I got married and my husband developed a disability.... why would I leave him? I can't and won't leave him. But I won't open my eyes and bargain for what is more than me. Mental disabilities are the toughest to handle sha!

Mosi Jubelo said...

I won't lie Stella, I won't date a disabled person. Maybe my love hasn't reached that level yet.
Nobody prays for evil but if my DH becomes disabled due to accident and all, doesn't mean I'll leave. I'll most definitely stick with him.
But to meet you like that, blind, deaf, imbe, lame, God forgive me, I can't. I won't.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Stella ibiakwa!!...
Marry wetin?...God forbid bad thing...
Well,I will marry someone like that on one condition...if he is rich!..
Extremely rich!...Asin Dangote kind of rich!!...

If I marry and my spouse becomes disabled, I reject it in Jesus name Amen!!!...
Well,I will stick with him if he has been good to me...BUT if he was the type that uses me as his punching bag when he was okay,I would make sure he suffer!...infact,I would leave and poison him to death ontop!...
So men,treat your wives right!...cos they are the only one that would suffer and carry your burden with you when the ship is down!...

I don't blame the nigga that ran mehn...i would do the same thing if I was in his shoes...

ngozi frances said...

I can marry a disable person if only we were getting on well before he became disabled and that depends on the level of the disability

Lara Peperenpe said...

For me, i love my man complete and 'flauntable' no matter how rich you are as a disable, i don't think i can deal with it. Forgive my bluntness but that's me.

You might want to ask what if you marry him a able bodied man and life happens, a form of disability comes to play (God forbid).

Well, if you have a chance to love, love like it's your last day on earth, because no one knows tomorrow. The amount of selfless love you dish out to people when you are at your peak is what they most likely give back to you when the ships are down. So...

Aijay - Aces n Spades said...

Lemme keep mute cos i have never dated a disabled person, neither am i married to one.

Disabled person never waka come toast me before. I sure say when dem see me, my face never looks friendly/approachable.... lol

Default Smile said...

E hard o....but love de say conquers all.

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Christy Odoo said...

Hmmmm. I will.

Anonymous said...

@stella shebi they said ur hubby is in a willie

Anonymous said...

Someone in my office just said disabled men are for aunty gwegs and disabled women are for goldiggers. Smh at the way Nigerian men think

young FOREVER said...

Truly,it depends on d severity and part of the body affected,so its a yes

MOTHER NATURE........ said...


Disability has grades and it depends on which of them can prompt me to say yes. I want to be honest with myself that is why I won't rush to say yes. If one looks at it critically, you will see that it is more difficult than you think.

I really respect women who are married to disabled men (I used women because they are the most caring and considerate human being on earth). Pushing him from one place to another, bathing him, leading him to where ever he wants to go, cleaning waste product, etc. Kai! is not easy whali.

The other question is yes. I signed to stand by him through thick and thin, in sickness and in health till death do us part. It is my cross so I will gladly carry it- that is when I will love him more so he wouldn't feel less of himself and commit suicide. Na only for Nija I see say some disabled people get mind wella (I love that spirit) Oyibo man will start thinking of suicide the moment he gets the bad news.

At the end of the day Love conquers it all.

Sweetheart said...

Nop! I can't!
Yes..they deserve love too...that's why they probably should marry themselves, might be hard tho.
If the disability came after marriage, maybe i could just accept it as my cross (GOD FORBID!!!) but falling 4 anyone with my two eyes open right now, I doubt if it can be a disabled person.

Stells, now i feel bad after all that

Anonymous said...

Not to ridicule anyone, but some "disabilities" or deformities can't be considered... mental?? Why would I get involved in anyway with someone with mental issues?
One time this "big boy" from Denmark came asking me out. I watched the way he walked like "okuko agric", I wanted to attribute it to long years overseas, till I noticed he kinda gets spit around the corner of his mouth when he speaks... Stella, I knew at that point this wasn't gonna lead anywhere. Why would I do that to my innocent children I already envisaged as cute, brilliant, smart. I walked!...to think he is that type that would always have his teeth open (as though smiling) no matter what he is saying. Eh??! I ran!

Anonymous said...

Stella, what do I do
I have ugo, i mean i can't plait my natural hair cos my head has a funny shape which can't be noticed when i'm on weaves tho...Sometimes I just want to go natural but I can't...I know God is aware sha

Aya Williams said...

I can marry someone with disability but definately not the one I will marry n the children will hv that disability,I can't marry that kind of person asides that I can marry them.

jay said...

No

Atheist. said...
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Anonymous said...

Its not an easy task but you can choose to love a disabled person. Count the cost,and if you can deal,then go on,a family friend of ours married a blind man and this is their 6th year in marriage,so far so good. It all boils down to choice.

Charming said...

NO I CAN'T!

Anonymous said...

This story reminds me of my ex who said if i get blind or disabled, he will pick up his shoes and run away.Well no one thot me to drop the mad/wicked guy alone.

Nwa Amaka said...

It's no problem for me. But I don't think what we will share is love but pity. But again, what if accidentally, our able bodied Dh and Lee boo becomes disable are we going to dump the person.

Anonymous said...

If it's mental disability I am out..

IVORY said...
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White Diamond said...

I've been in a slightly similar situation.

He had stage IV Hodgkins Lymphoma, and though I knew that even if he made it, there was every chance of it coming back in the future, because it came back twice before, I wasn't going anywhere.

He was that good,such a beautiful soul.
But sadly, he didn't make it. Got pneumonia after a successful marrow transplant, and transcended from a medically induced coma, after two weeks.

So,it really depends. If you love someone enough,and you know they love you do, and would be there for you, if the roles were reversed, their being disabled won't make a difference.

Afterall, one can marry a perfectly healthy person today, and then tomorrow, something goes terribly wrong. If you truly love the said person, of course, bailing out cannot be an option.

But then, the depression,anxiety and fear you might have to put up with sometimes, no be here.
It really takes a very strong person, to take all that, and still stay put.

After knowing what I do, I don't really blame most people that bail out, when they meet someone that's handicapped, or when something befalls their spouse. Not everyone is mentally able to do that.

Some of them don't help matters. They get cranky and unreasonable, but then, when you're in a bad place, it's to be expected.
When the person over does it though, and decides to make you miserable too,that's another matter.
Being disabled or terminally ill should not be an excuse to be nasty.

#WhiteDiamondOut

xxxTrinityxxx said...

I have nothing but praise for women that marry disabled men. They go through a lot and they still do it. To be honest, I don't know if I can marry a disabled man but love sometimes makes us do things we never thought we would. And if my partner were to get disabled while we are married would I leave? Never. That's when he need me the most so if I leave him what type of person am I? If I was in same position a nd he left me, I'd be devastated

IVORY said...

Depends on the severity of the disability.

Funlad said...

Tough question.......

ROLEX CHICK said...

I am very sorry plz forgive me but I dont think I can ever marry anyone with disabilities.
BC life alone is challenging,i don't think I should add to my problems.During my Nysc in lagos,I chatted with a guy who works in federal ministry of justice abuja. He was loving, so nice,he called me day and night we go on skpy etc bf I knew it he was talking about marriage.
So I told him I was too young and needed some time to build up my Career, he kept saying I wouhd leave him,I would dump him,I should promise him I won't leave him,I was like is this dude kidding me? He is super cute has money and all why should I leave I shoujd be the one begging him to wait for me at least another 4 5years if he can.
My dear,only for me to now call a relative in abuja that I was coming and lied to popsy that I was having an interview let me give it a try becoz there was no way I would be in my uncles house and popsy won't know
This was like after 7months of chatting with this guy,I was anxious, curious and inlove.
So fiaaam I flew aero to abuja went to my Uncle house in wuye,this guy said he was staying in a place called galadimwa after charly boy house,fiammm I took taxi the next day claiming I was going for an interview my goodness I am stil reminiscing what I saw that day.

Dude was on the chair and said am inside come in,I was like why inside he was supose to come meet me outside give me a hug and all that....I opened the door and saw a sight I had to struggle to behave my self and fake a smile.
He was disabled to a fault,apart from the fact that he had hunch back, his legs seems to be bent,stella I tried I really tried and controlled my self,we talked for a while and then I told him u know I came for an interview I have to go it is by 11.
Cos the time was 10.am
So he said he wouud drop me off on his way to work...my jaw dropped when I saw him entering the car his seat has been customized lifting up some parts and fixing iron here and there.
He got in him self I am telling you and actually drove me all the way.
When we were getting close to town he asked for the address lol me way no get any interview.....I just told him is mtn office and that was how he dropped me and was even giving me 5k said take for your cab and lunch fear no let me collect I said no now haba don't worry he insisted and I insisted too.
That was how he Left and me self took cab back to wuye the nxt day I had to rest and tink about all I witnessed.He called and called for where I jump am pass he sent several messages not one word from me self.
When I told bae this story he laughed and laughed but I don't find it funny.
BC I dont know why they won't just tell you the Truth about their disabilities.
No disrespect but I can never marry anyone my dad won't even agree he would shoot the guy one time .

Freshdew said...

Stop it!!!

Pweety G said...

No abeg..i go run four fourty. I fittin't not!

EJIASINWEZEGINI said...

They did not create themselves deformed. It is only God's grace and if there is TRUE Love.

Mrs D said...

If it's hereditary, no, I am not sure my faith can carry it. Once I said, Cobhams wife is a strong woman because I know I am not that strong.

White Diamond said...

Lmao

This reminded me of the movie, 'Diary of a Mad Black Woman '.

Her husband was a monster to her, till he had an accident that temporarily put him in a wheelchair.
She showed him pepper...lmao.

#WhiteDiamondOut

Pink shell said...

Awwww!

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Me too,cos I don't want to lie

White Diamond said...

But then, I can't go into anything with someone with a mental disability. Naah!

I can lend a helping hand, if it's in my power o, but that's it.

No offence Lord, but I'll be very miserable. Not to sound conceited, but I love being around people who keep me on my toes, make me crack my brain, broaden my knowledge. Our children might even be affected.

When I couldn't even stay with someone that adored the ground I walked on, because he's AS.

May God help us all and keep us healthy.

#WhiteDiamondOut

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Who knows what love can make you do. Never say never. If my partner gets disabled while we r together, I can't leave him unless he just decides to push me away due to insecurities. If not, that's when he needs me most so y would I leave

RICHBEE said...

Except he is BLOODY RICH ????

White Diamond said...

Oh gosh!

This is so sweet.

God bless your parents, Anon.

#WhiteDiamondOut

ZIONA said...

2nd awwwww,

Blackberry said...

No, I cannot!

If he has one eye n he's a money maker,
I may re-consider!

brownsugar said...

I don't like the idea of them hiding their disability. This is for the ones that date online. Why not say it upfront. Not after investing time and energy you'll now be disappointed on seeing them. Not cool. If single parents are told to reveal their children early in a relationship, why not those with disabilities. There are people who will love you for you

White Diamond said...

I'm telling you, that woman strong die.

From what we're allowed to see, they are happily married.

And I wouldn't be surprised to learn that she'll never trade him for anyone else.

And again, he didn't let his disability limit him at all, at all.


#WhiteDiamondOut

Blackberry said...

Hahahahaha booty booty, no make me laff abeg!

Classyd said...

Lmaooooo...this is so funny

Blackberry said...

Hehehehheheee...Quick

MISS TRUTH said...

Can i marry a disabled man? NO. If my DH becomes disabled after marriage ( God forbid ) i will stay with him till death do us part. My DH is too good. #luckyme

Blackberry said...

Truth

Chiamy N said...

These comments reminds of this dude I met online, very nice guy and all that, when we met, he was short, as in, I am not tall just about 5'2" and I was a good head taller than this dude. I couldn't continue abeg. I know he was hurt but there was little i could do, I know that wasn't a disability but I just couldn't deal, esp as i thought of my future kids. I am really in awe of women who marry disabled guys... It takes courage and a lot more to go into such marriage.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

It's Wuse...
Gwarimpa...
Abeg make I laugh small...Hahahahahaha...

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Lolz

I will if i love the person and he treat me right but if not. No way.

EJIASINWEZEGINI said...

I know of a man that is married to a woman who has complete paralysis even before he married her.His family disowned him yet he did not give up.So it is God's grace ooooo

The General's Wife said...

Eeeeya dis is sad.
ROLEX CHICK nne u should have made d break-up a gradual thing.small small and u disaapear. Chai.
Poor guy! He'l know its cos of his disability.And I am fairly certain dis is not d first time a girl would be dumping him.kai!

PORTABLE viv the queen of this blog said...

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
I will pass.

PORTABLE viv the queen of this blog said...

I just remembered that hunch back boo!
Heheheheheheheehehehhehehehe

mystery said...

Y'll are here going on about how you can't deal with a disabled guy but your boyfriends and husbands are broke AF! Sweeties, that's one hella disability.

The General's Wife said...

LMAO @ Shortest cut n ran for my life.
But eeeeya @ the touching text he sent.Chai

Ayodeji .N. said...

I can except if he's a hunch back (God forgive me please but I don't think I have that level of grace) any other type then yes I can BUT he has to be financially stable...I don't mean filthy rich but have a steady source of income (infact any mature guy able or disable wey marriage dey hungry should have a steady stream of income)

Ruthie said...

I am married to a man with disability, it's actually hereditary but my God is good,our kids re healthy.I didn't have a problem wit it but my family had issues.I wasn't going to let anyone disuade me.My hubby is wonderful, he has a good job,funny enough I don't even see him as one.Fine he can't help me with house chores,he can't run wit me,he can't carry me but on bed I get all d loving I deserve.My husband is one of d beat ting God has given to me and I tank God for him

Zizzy Genovese said...

Lmao @ mad/wicked

Mumzy Ewar said...

What nonsense is this,Stella pls stop allowing this type of comments now.haba!

moy dot said...

Lol....bitch pls . . #sipsMoetnChandon#

Anonymous said...

But you yourself are disabled. Your mouth is disabled.

That is why even on your birthday yesterday, no one could even wish you a happy birthday or even acknowledge your 100 naira recharge card. (I know it can't be more thanbthqt)

You shouldn't have bothered sending it. Maybe they were afraid that if they load it, they will catch your disease.

Find someone who can manage your disability.

Cynhams Cakes & Pastries, Abuja. Home delivery. said...

Lol. Short people are not disabled biko.

Anonymous said...

What is Ugo?

BIPOLAR ME said...

Please don't tell me you finally got General to get you that "coveted thing!"

I refuse to say maybe you are pregnant

moy dot said...

..not fair...u re wicked! #sipsMoetnChandon#

No time to lick ass. said...

I can only do it out of pity.

No time to lick ass. said...

I can only do it out of pity.

Indigo said...

* for his disability

Indigo said...

TGW.. O dikwa ka o bago..
Hmmm

Indigo said...

Cut the stupid head off.. I have spare one for you..

Stella Don suffer for una hand

Indigo said...

That oyibo man Nick that has no limbs nko married to a very pretty lady with two kids.. I was watching a documentary about them and wanted to puke.. That woman is the real mvp I tell you

Asanwa Ndigbo said...

The greatest deformity and disability is that of the mind. We all hv same opportunity, different goals n visons.
Your dreams are what matters, so been disabled physically is not by choice but fate.
If I truly love the person, why not?

Imo Chic said...

Cobhamsown is better. He wasn't born like that and he is cute and making a name for himself

xxxTrinityxxx said...

With God and live everything is possible. Never say never to those screaming I can't marry a disabled person. Is he not a human being?

Imo Chic said...

I feel sorry for the guy. And anyone who knows him will know it is he that u r talking about. You shouldnt have written all his details here

Imo Chic said...

God will punish him

xxxTrinityxxx said...

This story is sad. Y didn't he just tell you so you'd know? Well they don't say anything for fear of the girls running away. But whoever will stay will stay. If she's meant to be there, she will be there. Just tell the truth

ROLEX CHICK said...

Why didn't he tell me bf I met him.
My dear I was even scared of taking his calls.

Anonymous said...

@ Quicksilver, you never see big dick o,



I dated a guy with a monstrous dick, looooong, fat, con bend join, nicest guy I ever met and his stature never gave any indication of what he's packing.
Con get money join, he was so nice his presence used to make me wet (the power of money).




After months of him not asking for sex, I started giving him the side eyes, how can a man be this cute, this rich, this nice, this caring and not want "something" in return? I never knew he had something up his sleeve (or up his pants in this case).



The day finally came after about 7mnths of dating, we went for his cousin's wedding in Ibadan and of course had to sleep in a hotel together.



I already had plans to "rape" him anyway, so when he started touching, I didn't mind at all........



I got suspicious when each time my hand goes down, he'll stylishly bring it up but I thought he was "packing a small engine" and was kinda embarrassed about it so I stopped trying.




Finally, he took off his every, stood up to turn off the main light........ I was already panting.....only for him to turn around and my "horny" flew out the window!




Staring at me was the biggest dick I've ever seen till date, looking so vicious and bent to one side! Omo, I swallowed spit, blinked to be sure I was seeing right, asked him to turn on the head lights again, he did and my heart missed a few beats!



I told him point blank that I couldn't, he begged and begged, finally gave up, that was when he opened up to me that women run from him on sighting his "dagger", the few who have dared leave after the one and only encounter, he told me about a girl bled for 18days after having sex with him.



I felt sorry for him but not sorry enough to risk my life, in fact, I didn't sleep all night, make he no go change mind take me by force!



We still talk once in a while, he's still single, I guess he's not found a woman willing to live with his "disability".




SHARONNA

Anonymous said...

Lmao. Financially disabled.

Miss Ess said...

Truth of God be told, I CAN'T. I can't even marry an obviously short man, you know that kind short that people would look at the man and murmur, am not even talking about the Aki and pawpaw kind, with their millions I can't

Anonymous said...

TGW I like you but sometimes you can sound so plastic.
@ white berry I guess you ran due to nervousness cos it's not like he was going to marry you in that car. You could have at least talk to him.

Pisces said...

Lol...

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Haashhhhhhaaa I can't date a short person oh. Big no for me

s@min@ir@ said...

My girl is not even deformed but I do virtually everything for her, cook, clean, even lay bed when she wakes up, this post got me thinking, if she was deformed then it would be war! Sha we know they didn't create themselves but I really wouldn't marry a deformed woman it's a serious baggage no offence intended tho.

The General's Wife said...

HAHAHHA @ BIPOLAR ME.
@ Indigo,ana aku owa my dear.
@ Trinity,gbam! U see dis love eh,it has power. The Power of Love is indescribable!
Never say never my dear.Fate.
Destiny. It has a way of re-writing stories.

ROLEX CHICK said...

No not wuse,queen and boss my uncles house is in wuye I didn't make a mistake wuye is different from wuse.
Wuye the finiace quarters.

EJIASINWEZEGINI said...

Ruthy u are a good woman, may God continue to bless your home.

shines teeth said...

There are different shades of disability, and I dare say that majority of human beings are deformed.

Some people are partially blind, while some are battling with partial deafness. What of low IQ due to internal deformity, short attention span, twisted womb, vaginismus, damaged womb, and several others that are inward disabilities?

Most people are disabled, so those who say they can't marry a deformed person are equally disabled.

Anonymous said...

My dear money answereth many things.
A secondary school mate of mine had small mental retardation. I heard her mum had her in her 50's hence the retardation, as an only child. (dunno if its true sha)
The girl use to talk to herself sometimes and do strange things, you may not notice it at 1st but you will know smthn is off with her.
She wasn't like dumb in academcs, she was fairly average.
Her parents are rich and influential( I wont mention the name). I always wondered who wld date her.
Na so I open Bellanaija like 2yrs ago and saw the girls wedding pix o.
She even has a child now. Heard her parents arranged the guy for her, set up d guy in biz and bout them a property.
Thou I heard the guy is a 'guy man' and he carries women, but hopefully he treats her well.
Anything is possible. Atleast she's married and a mother now when some ppl are still TCC. I am sure she will need help from ppl to care for d child sha.
But atleast she's a wife and mother now, whether bought or not.
Let me go on Anon before ppl decode me on dis blog aeg.

Anonymous said...

Queen and boss miss know it all. You obviously dont stay in Abuja but you want to form.ITK!! For your information there's actually a place called Wuye (just as there is Wuse) nd Galadima. You got half right as Galadima is also in Gwarimpa.

Sharon ifeoma said...

I knew you were going to make a post like this Stella which is a good thing by the way. I am not in the mood to write today (busy at work). I will send something in sometime next week in respect to this post. I have read some of the responses here and I respect everybody's opinion. However, I would like to say that persons living with a disability are first humans before their disability. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. Disabled men and women are lovable people ....(we are not all monsters or a bunch of angry people).
A lot of them are happily married with kids. I know there is a lot of misconception and misunderstanding surrounding disability and there is not much informations and awareness out there about the psychology and live of persons with various forms of disability (the thing get levels oo lol).
It is complex, dynamic and beautifully unique. From the comments so far, I have noticed that a large number of people here only think about disability to be physical (wheelchairs, crutches, the blind etc.) hmmmm it goes beyond that because most cannot be seen. If you cannot love someone beyond their challenges, do yourself a favour say hi from a distance because if it is not your cross, please don't carry it. Finally, learn to discover people for yourself disabled or not.

See you guys next week..... Oh Ooops! I have a disability too *side eyes*

barbie micheals said...

And another awwwwwwwwwwwww

Anonymous said...

Its becos he can't hear all the curses yur mum rains on him...hence they've nt quarreled....hehehehe

Cissy said...

Hahahahaha @ Sharonna...lol

Cissy said...

@ Blackberry, if he was a Dwarf with money will you re-consider? Don't forget you have to carry him up to kiss him...lol

#KING_KHALIFA said...

Why wud I marry a disabled woman wen I can equally get an able bodied woman to marry for me is a No No.

Bella's cakes and pastries, Abuja. 58DA8ADF, 07080305132, instagram @bellas_cakesandpastries_abuja said...

Queen and boss, there is wuse and there is wuye. They are two different areas.

Anonymous said...

LMFAO...your story made my day.So hilarious

Uche'swife said...

My husband was on a wheelchair (a crazy driver lost control and and hit him as he was supervising a project along the road) when I accepted his proposal.Even my father kicked against our relationship (he feared my husband just wanted me as a meal ticket)and my friends feared we would not be able to have kids. My story is quite long so, I'll just leave out some details. I saw a dogged fighter and a man with great prospects (his kindness and humour is one of a kind), and when my dad realized i wouldn't have it any other way, he gave his blessings. Many years after marriage, I'm still a very happy woman and a spoilt wife. My husband is a hardworker and makes sure I get the best he can give and we have three (4) amazing children together. Everyday, i thank God that I didn't yield to the pressure of my family and friends. Lest I forget, my husband now walks, albeit with a little aid, shocking even the doctors who said he had lost his ability to walk in that accident (in fact, he was even confirmed dead on arrival at the hospital, but hours later, he woke up to the amazement of everyone present). People with disabilities are just like every one else, so I encourage people to look beyond the disability and find the beauty instead. This is only a fragment of my story. Maybe some day, I will send in my chronicle of Hope.

Elixir Ray said...

Hahahahahahahaha... Indigo you are cray!

Imo Chic said...

Enya. Sorry 4 ur loss

Imo Chic said...

So i'm disabled?

*flings away weed n weeps*

Anonymous said...

Lmao. You're not serious @mystery

GOONs Mi said...

@sharonna, was it that bad??!!
Ha hahahahaha hahahahaha ha hahahahaha

Imo Chic said...

Wow! Very inspiring. I'm touched. Send the chronicle of hope biko....

*lights weed*

Anonymous said...

Thank u for ur comment,I read what most ppl said here and I was heart broken.., if disabled ppl shld read dis post dey wld hv bin so heart broken but thank God for encouraging stories like urs....

Pisces said...

Angelrayforsdk...we birthday mates..happy birthday in arrears..I was too busy yesterday to check SDK.hope u had fun

Anonymous said...

Stella, twist the question, if one marries and the spouse gets disabled during the course of the marriage, would they stay. and if the shoe is on the other foot, would they expect their husband/wife to stay if they had the disability?

Life happens when one does not expect - We all pray for good health till death comes Amen.

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Anon 13.48, you are mouthed walahi

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Most times guys with long and big dick dont know how to use it. Blister/injuries every where. I dey here gist eh eh from my friends. Thats why runs babes go for old men ndi ike uwa gwu golu cos some dick can be a painoo


LMAOO

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

Treats

Anonymous said...

Lol,Sharonna dis is d funniest story ever!!!!!!!!! Dat is a serious problem.😂😂😂

JSBunny said...

Marrying a disabled person that is hereditary is tricky. I'm still tackling my own now, and there are days where I think if I hadn't married him, I won't be going thru all these stress, stress that will last till the child is an adult, and she's just 6 now! God give me strength.

Pisces said...

Queen there is a place called wuye in Abuja and galadima also...sometimes it's good to tone down ur itk esp if u ain't so sure

Anonymous said...

Lol @ mystery u dey mind dem

Pffft said...

Yes, you've said you are disabled twice so far.

To avoid incessant repetition would you like to add it to your moniker?

Exactly.

Totally not necessary.

Anonymous said...

God bless you madam. May your kind heart be blessed forever. May your home, life & family not lack any good thing. May your children & those around you rise up & call you blessed.

Anonymous said...

Growing up two friends fought and d other gave a bite on d chest. Twas found dt 1 nipple came off. Awon guys, wud u marry a babe wit 1 nips? Also remember dt u can imagine dts it's inverted. And d babe fine oo.
I must go anon on this.

Anonymous said...

Jesus! Anon you are right though. Angel of doom watch your acidic mouth. You stink!

White Diamond said...

Thanks darling.

Thankfully, I've moved on, knowing he's free from pain now, and it's made me a better person.

Where's your weed na? Don't mind Doppel. She was just joking. You're not disabled, but portable...lmao.

#WhiteDiamondOut

White Diamond said...

God bless your marriage dear.

#WhiteDiamondOut

Anonymous said...

If na disabled woman will a Nigerian man marry? stella ask them

Anonymous said...

Idiot trinity u sef get idea. Oniranu omo lasan

esoteric said...

Imo Chic Oya go and pick up d weed and take one drag, you will feel better

crazyhornywife said...

Lemmi perch here and write.
When you see the way people with disability live their lives here,you will be amazed and not even know they have a disability. Disability is not just physical,it can be a health challenge. I av sicklecell and Everyday I look at dH and 1da how he convinced me to marry him. Mayb because I already had a good opinion about my life(i dunno) or its the way I carry masef(i dunno).
I will alwaz thank God for him because I know what I suffered in hands of some silly men which I hold no grudge because marriage alone is a baggage. Bringing another baggage(disability) takes a strong willed person+God's grace to go through it in marriage.
Can I marry some1 with disability,will only be a yes if the person doesn't blame the world for his disability and 2ndly if there is money.

Lilly simple said...

Waoooooo
God's faithful

Bimpe said...

Wicked heartless bitch!

Anonymous said...

All of you saying "I can never marry a disabled .person". Stop and think for a moment. If a trailer ran into your car tomorrow and you lost your legs, hope you will be happy that nobody will want to marry you. It can happen to anyone or anyone's brother or sister. There is more to people than just looks.

Anonymous said...

Awwwwwwww jion

Anonymous said...

Imo chic you are a case, lmao!

Iphie dearie said...

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!

Iphie dearie said...

@Whitey.. you know she still had pity for him. Lol

The white lady he left her for simply walked out.

Iphie dearie said...

So sad.

Iphie dearie said...

*Wuye
*Galadimma

Wow, that was even risky. And thank God you were calm. Some might actually resort to rape or physical assault...Since-I-can't-have-you,let-me-mess-you-up kinda thing.

I feel bad for him,but I wish he was not sneaky about it,guess he has been rejected a lot. Chai. So sad.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm. Na so I see one like dat. E big well well, but wetin make I run be say the thing long ehn! As I see am na so I swallow spit. I come shine teeth tell am say next time. Next time! For where!

Ada-nne said...

And your blog Id is ...

Kbear said...

Ur English sef nah disability.

Anonymous said...

while growing up she was pushed on a nail and it scared her breast which lead to the slow growth of the breast. Making one breast bigger than the other. She was taken to the hospital later when it started disturbing her mum but Doctor said it is nothing and it happens to some people like that and she is just one of them. Now,what bothers her is how her future husband will feel when he sees this and she never mentions it to him. Let me throw the question to the house. Guys/men,can you marry someone with this issue? And if she dosnt tell you until you discover yourself what will you do?

Anonymous said...

Portable Viv I will rather marry a disabled woman than you here....you are so rude and your comments so annoying.....how did your mum raise you?

switflavia said...

@sharonna... So hilarious. That is equally a disability with hefty ability.

switflavia said...

@indigo..why evils.you have spare for her? Ur love do ukwu nnem oo.cheiii SDK bvns no dey carry last

White Diamond said...

Yeah, she did. Well, she was obviously in love.

The white lady couldn't deal maynne....lol.
An epic case of when the chips are down.

#WhiteDiamondOut

Anonymous said...

I have dated someone with disabilities. If the person has a good heart and treats me well, why not. I don't see anything wrong in it.

Anonymous said...

I hope that ain't you.. lemme check your pic.

Anonymous said...

I pray you find someone worthy, you are truely a white diamond.

Ernie.

Anonymous said...

You just broke my heart,hubby passed on too cos of stage iv lymphoma.Sad he is gone but happy he is free from the pain.God bless your beautiful heart.

GERMAN JUICE said...

So she should follow a man that didn't tell her about his disabilities plz she didn't do anything wrong she was just being human I would do the same thing.

I am sure some girls would even rat his money but she didn't take a dime from him I actually applaud u for that Rolex.

Anonymous said...

Marry first and post pics let's see .

sisi eko said...

Hmmmm very sensitive topic. Well, honestly I wouldn't have nose dived into marrying a disabled man if I were still searching o. But God forbid, if in the course of marriage anything happens and he becomes disabled. I ain't going no where. I'll stay put and carry my cross. It's an individual thingy jare.

May our loyalty of love not be tested.

Anonymous said...

A lady once responded to this same type of question on another forum saying "over her dead body, she can never married a disabled person, they should find their level, etc..." A few years later she lost both legs in a road traffic accident...
Mental illness is no respecter of person either and can befall ANYONE too...

Topics like this should be out of bounds and never be discussed because nobody knows tomorrow...

Anonymous said...

And Pffft is either a foolish teenager or a self made insensitive retard. Grow a brain.

Tochi Obinna said...

I know someone that married one and they are living happily with kids, what I don't is if she married him out of love or desperation. She was jilted by a boy friend and ended up in psychiatric hospital , the guy footed the whole bill and nursed her back to health, she is a beautiful woman oh, the guy is not rich but comfortable. I learnt he was not like that but as jazzed by a man that refused him from marrying her daughter, anyways when this friend got well. The man issues as just started, she in turn stayed with him at orthopedic hospital Enugu and oversaw his business, he was discharged but The two legs has gone south, he returned with a crutches . Anyways, they went ahead and got married, the guy is still making mad money and my home girl is mad happy, they have three kids 3boys and a girl.
As for me oh, to be honest, I don't know if I can go through with it. But if I'm already there, I ain't going anywhere . Couples should stand by each other.

Anonymous said...

If HE/SHE! !!! You swinging White berry ....gay

#KING_KHALIFA said...

It's annoying for u to start mentioning some once mom in a topic that doesn't warrant that is childish besides why ho Anon is u that outspoken SMH nonsense !!!

Abs said...

Hahaha haha financial disability indeed.

Imo Chic said...

Take heart...

Thanks white diamond


*sips weed juice*

Imo Chic said...

Lol

oyeenloorler said...

My crush is deaf in one ear, he doesn't even know me but I'm attracted to his mind and all he's been able to achieve in his life despite his disabilities. Would I marry him if he proposes? I will especially when I know him deeply. My parents might be against it but it's my life and I'm the one who's going to have to live with him for the rest of my life and I'm sure they'll come around.
We shouldn't let disabilities, especially one that's not the person's fault and isn't stopping the success of that person make us miss out on great loves.

Imo Chic said...

It seems she is the one wearing the pants in your relationship

martha eleyinmi said...

Lol.

Anonymous said...

Hahahahahahaha @kbear your mouth na die hahahahahahaha

Anonymous said...

A lady with a combination of nympho and klepto disease is also disabled

Ijeoma Eze said...

I watched that movie a long time ago, but i forgot the name. And i've been looking for someone who knows d name of d movie. Thanks.

zamfy said...

Scoliosis you mean.

zamfy said...

Not your fault really. He shoulda told you all along, that way you would have been more prepared for the sight in front of you.