Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Charly Boy Pens Pastor Adeboye A Reply To His Advice To Young Men Not Marry Women Who Cannot Cook.

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Friday, 5 August 2016

Charly Boy Pens Pastor Adeboye A Reply To His Advice To Young Men Not Marry Women Who Cannot Cook.

Must you Marry?



For the past few days, pastor Adeboye's advice to youth on marriage has been trending all over the place. I suspect that the good pastor's yarns tells me that he is a man suspended in time, between old and new school. 

Don't get it twisted, in as much as I flow with his definition of a good woman, from his statement I see that the obvious way to his heart is through his stomach and of cause through prayers. Good, No wahala.


However our amiable pastor rubs it in when he starts to yarn Akpata, " Marry a warrior, if a girl cannot pray for one hour, don't marry her. Don't marry a girl who is lazy, who cannot cook. She needs to know how to do chores and cook because you cannot afford to eat out at all times" Hummm na wa! 

Really? 

Seriously?

So if my wife to be can't rant, chant, shout and generally carry on as a prayer warrior, praying for a whole hour, the woman doesn't deserve a wife status. Abi?
Oga pastor, that one na missyarn. Over praying does not make one a better husband or wife, because the world especially Naija is filled with Fake people and "Fakest" pastors. Does a man having a job guarantee that he will make a good husband?

 Does a woman knowing how to cook guarantee she will make a good wife? Haba.


Ok I get it, The Nigerian god has an ear infection, so we must shout and pray for hours because that's the only way he may listen to our prayers, right? I know that a man is suppose to marry a helper and not a cook or a house girl. By the way, is anything wrong with encouraging your young male congregation to learn how to cook and do chores too.


"Do not marry a worldly lady" what the heck does that mean? Is it about being materialistic or just being fashionable, looking nice. I guess in your book we can't be a good Christian if we got swagg and we are trendy. Judge not pastor. 


We must all not look like Deeper Life people to have a personal relationship with God. By the way, if you want to start writing your own commandment you may as well write your own version of the bible for your congregation. Na una way.


Being married should never define a man or a woman. Marriage in a few years anyways, will be out of fashion. Being married is only nice if we are lucky to pick a partner who will be our friend, if not, that maybe hell on earth. All of us must not get married if our threshold for nonsense and garbage is low. 

The world is obviously changing and we are no longer in the 60s. Who wants to be suffering and smiling. Most importantly marriage should not be a milestone for anyone. Yes o.


 Like I always say, it will take two to tango. Marriage only works when partners are determined to make it work. It can never be a merit badge, or a status for happiness. Many of us are enslaved in our myopic mindset that makes a mess out of what should really be a good friendship. 

So Oga pastor Adeboye, watch your yarns because a lot of people lookup to you, Biko. I don talk my own.



*I agree with some aspects of Charly boy's response though...My argument remains that being a cook or a good one should not define why a man marries a woman...A man should marry for love and all else will come.
Otherwise the Pastor should balance his report and preach that women should not marry men who cannot make love or Kiss and Yes that would amount to testing before Marriage,otherwise I dont see why a man should test a woman's wifely skills before he decides to marry her.

#WifeNotCook PLEASE!

98 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Hmmmm....everybody has an opinion

STARRY LARRY said...

Lol



*Larry was here*

ukwu dimond said...

you people should allow the man of God to rest.

JACINTA MBACHU said...

Tell them

stunning slim shady said...

This cooking issue is

Over flogged

Over flogged


Over flogged


But if a lady cant make a simple decent meal even as a single person then u don't deserve to eat a meal prepared by someone else.

OlaGold said...

πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘ Charlie

Ed said...

There's a huge sense in Wat he said even though am not his fan

Princess Charming... The only crown princess on this blog since 2010. said...

Thank you chally.

Like I said on the previous post, I don't know Daddy G.O to say such things..

Anonymous said...

When will this generation men of God just focus on winning souls to heaven... theyre seriously losing their track, now they participate in everythg, from politics to selfies to intagram... to hiring a divorce lawyer. hian

Mama Afrika said...

Please leave Pastor Adeboye alone! He was talking to his congregation and not everone. Marry whatever kind of wife or husband you choose just dont come writing chronicles for us.

Blackberry said...

This topic don tire me!
For peace to reign,
Do not cook!
Make we rest!
Happy?
*slices waterleaf*

Anonymous said...

When will this generation men of God just focus on winning souls to heaven... theyre seriously losing their track, now they participate in everythg, from politics to selfies to intagram... to hiring a divorce lawyer. hian

white Berry said...

Am in support of all of charly's response, he spoke my mind, being a good cook doesn't not guarantee one a better wife or being a salary earner doesn't guarantees a man being a good husband.

brown suga said...

Well said charlie
couldn't agree more

Anonymous said...

How do you know he is a man of God? Most of you don't love Jesus the way you love pastor's,most of you here preach Fornication and most are supposedly Church people. Real "fakest" people

Cynthia Iyede said...

This matter isn't resting any time soon. To each his/her own jare.

Anonymous said...

Jenny Ekwe!Why would I scam?I only pen down my pain,my anguish,my sorrow cos I can't tell everyone.I am not lazy,its just that my job hasn't been forthcoming..I work and I know how hard it is to make money,so No I will never scam and let Heaven be my witness.

Anonymous said...

Jenny Ekwe!Why would I scam?I only pen down my pain,my anguish,my sorrow cos I can't tell everyone.I am not lazy,its just that my job hasn't been forthcoming..I work and I know how hard it is to make money,so No I will never scam and let Heaven be my witness.
Olubankole

Yemi7up said...

Everybody now seems to have a response to what he said. Is not a must you abide by it if you feel it won't work for you. Eni ba leti ko gbo ohun ti Emi so, even here on this blog when there is any bad situation sent in chronicles of my marriage we all say take it to God so someone that doesn't pray well before will understand how to take it to God or be running after men of God.

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

Why won't a man test a womans wifely skills before marrying her Stella? Na wa for you sef ooooh, a man uses his hard earned money to pay bride price, to buy bags of salt,kolanut,carton of wine,beer,minerals, goat, cow,chicken, bags of rice, in order to feed total strangers and few family and friends he goes as far as booking a venue, paying for decoration, he goes through the stress of meeting to the demands of some selfish family members of hers, just so she could bear his name and bear his children and you say he shouldn't test her wifely skills? Abeg abeg abeg my sons will not try that rubbish. They must test before marriage, what if she doesn't know how to even dress the bed she sleeps on? Abeg you world people have change the whole idea bout marriage into something else.

jane okudo said...

#wifenotCook#

Stella Asemota said...

I am feeling Charly Boy....

Anonymous said...

the pastor is getting old n thinking varies, my wife pray for 2min should I throw her away? my wife cook perfectly but I don't have a good job should she throw me away? haba pastor? what are u encouraging? as God call pastor so does Satan.

reemah said...

To each, his own.

Anonymous said...

He will not rest o@dimond,so if I no pray for 1hour God nogo ansa??or if I no sabi cook make I no marry??

Anonymous said...

Stellastica baby I am sure you can cook o, no matter how basic, be deceiving all these blog visitor girls that can't even make tasty indomie

Anonymous said...

i love d part whr he said he shd encourage his male congregation to learn to cook and do house chores!

Apple Juice said...

This matter is over flogged abeg. There are better things to worry about than the views of one man.
Women train your son's well to not dream or aspire to marry a good cook, rather your sons should be trained to be great cooks themselves.
Marriage should be about love and mutual understanding and not on ones ability in the kitchen or bedroom or financial capacity. With love and understanding all other things will fall into place.

shardeey said...

Oga charly, watch your tongue. That's all....

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Hahahahahahah...
This man is so funny...
Nice..

shardeey said...

Oga charly, watch ur tongue. That's all....

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Lmaoo... Pastor really fucked up though no doubt.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Lady j said...

Can somebody pls explain been a worldly lady? Is it dressing like mfm member or deeper lifer? Because if na so I nor nor do..I believe in d principle DAT looking good is good business.. What ever I put on,God always answers my prayers whenever I pray

xxxTrinityxxx said...

I totally agree with everything charley boy said

Loveme Jeje said...

Pa Adeboye dont have time for u guys. He has spoken, he has spoken what God wants him to speak

Oluwayomi said...

Pastor Adeboye spoke to the People God sent him to. The Wise will take counsel!

Stella maris Baby said...

They should let the pastor alone
Na wah oooo.

Tuscany said...

Stella i thought u dont support marrying for love as a priority?
All of you are just taking the cooking thing out of proportion. He said we shouldnt marry a lazy woman, that was his emphasis ftom what i read.

My take is everyone has different priorities. Me i cant marry a woman that isnt a Christian and spiritual, has manners, can hold a convo, fear of God etc.
To some their own priority is sex, food etc. So everyone to his own

Anonymous said...

So all those bankers that lost their jobs within the space of months and don't have jobs again,dont even no when another one will come in this naija,so their wives should leave them? No job is no job,it could be good from start,so what about along the line if job no day again? Will they pack out? We don't pray for evil days.

Juliet Isi said...

Exactly

Olaide Davies said...

He really needs to watch his tongue. I won't say more than that.

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Marriage
Marriage
Marry marry
People n marriage ......

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Slim shady......I love dis ur comment

Anonymous said...

Its surprising how people shrink away from the idea of praying for at least an hour daily. Jesus scolded his disciples when they couldnt last an hour watching.
A Lot of us can spend hours gisting with our friends but cant talk with God for 10mins. It is simply because we have reduced God to a request granter. Yes, we tell him our needs and he does it. God wants to be oir friend. Jesus who was the son of God, while he was on earth prayed aggressive prayers even to the point of his sweat being like great drops. Do u think he was making requests for himself? He was showing us examples of what makes up a worthy chriatian life. Praying for an hour for a christian shouldnt be something to be apprehensive about. If u know and love God, u would enjoy spending time in his presence in prayer nd u wont know when the time would fly. My opinion.

viva said...

I love Charlie boy so much,i see a very responsible family oriented handsome man behind his razzness. Most of the so called calm guys can't even keep a home but this gentle man has been in marriage for ages

1nigeriangirl said...

I agree totally with charly boy. This topic should rest already, to each his own

simple edo geh said...

Why una dey stress unaselves? Daddy G.O. Only advised his children. Jesus said "I know my sheep and my sheep knows me and they hear my voice" Q. E. D

nice said...

This matter will not end I know.

soul child said...

What if it sons can't get it up or last 5minutes in bed, so women should also not marry them abi?

Abel go and sit down jare!!!

Anonymous said...

Which food did Eve cook again ooo? Abeg somebody remind me!

Anonymous said...

if a man wants marry a woman who can cook, let him marry a food blogger or chef or better join a foodie group on FB. Simple!

And if he wants a 1hr+ prayer warrior, let him go to/join MFM or white garment church simple!

1nigeriangirl said...

Daddy ko. Papa ni

1nigeriangirl said...

Asinehh. Face the work of God

Anonymous said...

Well said

Anonymous said...

I have said it many times, too much religion makes one mentally unstable. Many ppl who pack these churches, mosques and temples are mentally ill, from pastor right down. Everything in moderation in life, even religion. Not every week in church sometimes stay home and do your own thing, not everyday reading Bible or Koran, sometimes just meditate. Not every prayer just asking for things, sometimes just make your prayers just thank yous. Moderation always!!!

Dominion said...

Thank you anon, same people saying they can't pray for an hour would be on SDK blog for hours. God help this generation.

Anonymous said...

Seriously ? If you can't buy a car do you deserve to drive one bought by someone else? Everyone should marry who pleases them. My uncle once told me he doesn't like his wife smelling like onions. He always has a a cook. I have a friend who no woman can cook for because he is a great cook and would rather cook for the family. Many women are the main bread winners (like me) not because we are more hard working but God blessed us with better paying jobs and our our husbands support us with domestic chores. It is working for different people in different ways. Some people decide they want to marry women that cook well and the wives live to cook and it is working for them. People are sad in marriages because of stereotypes. Choose what works for your marriage and leave stereotypes alone I beg.

Anonymous said...

You really need to take several seats with this your myopic comment..are you for real? Did anyone force a man to marry..do you know the risks involved in getting pregnant and having a baby,do you kno wat it means to trade ones names for another,oh yes he should test ur wifely duties because he has all the husbandly duties ryt? My friend go teach your daughters and sons to respect and love womamhood and manhood and stop yarning dust...how much is adopting a baby here in nigeria compared to ur so called marriage expenses? And oh yes because he paid the women should kill themselves....i see you must be a broke ass woman to think ur mans expenses are overboard.its people like you dat end up with wizards who would see dem as trash bought materials and still u go back amd lick his ass...infact i just lack words for ur stupidity

Anonymous said...

You should have said anything at all...hypocrites. Because its ur papa,no one should talk abi,even if he says jump into fire,we would all applaud ryt?..u amd ur supporter should take several seats..

Anonymous said...

Good to kno...buh hope u have have wat it is you ate looking for in her,plus the extra things she desires..hope you wunt start preaching *be content with the little i give you* if she complains its not enough..i hope you kno she wants a man who can provide her with her needs....remember everyone has what they want and if you insist on urs,i must insist on mine and pls dont preach to me when i ask for mine

Starjoy said...

Is from this same blog they said a lady shouldn't marry a broke ass guy that love is not enough, continue hating the man of God for no reason.

Anonymous said...

My dear the Jesus i know and was thought about was never aggressive in prayer.he was always calm and subtle,meek and humble whenever he wanted a request from hos father...he wasnt a man of many words he would rather recoil unto himself and sob seeking hos father in hos innermost heart.if i can be content with the little one my husband provides for me,then my dear husband would also be content with the little i can offer him.....

Anonymous said...

Well said. People look @ d surface meaning but not d deeper meaning. Just like d bible says "my people perish becos they lack knowledge". God help this generation.

Anonymous said...

Better don't blasphemy,how do you know it's God who asked him to say it.

Anonymous said...

Loving God is mostly how you treat people around you and how you keep God's commandment I.e avoiding sin.ok not just prayer.

Anonymous said...

Do you know in Matt chap 6,bible talks about repetition of words or praying with many words not a criteria for God to answer prayers.

Anonymous said...

Charly boy or whatever you call yourself, the man of God was speaking to his children o. You are not his member so why having headache over another man's advice to his children? Please, you guys should stop disturbing us with your useless opinion. The advice is not for everybody. Pleeeeaase!

OliviaSilk said...

I agree with Charly Boy 1000%!

badt guy said...

Abel go and sit down... So I that Cain can stand up... Lol

badt guy said...

Lol... All these single girls be tearing mouth here.. Ppl advising you are happily married and cooking for their hubbys oh

badt guy said...

Watch his tongue or what??.. That's why most of u have turn robots doing everything men of God tell you... God gave us complex brains... He knew we will question him sef.. So calm down let's use our God given brains

badt guy said...

Gbam!!! U just talk my mind

Anonymous said...

So as a Christian and man of God only the people who attend his Church are his children. What type of Christian and man of God is that? is that what the Bible teaches?

badt guy said...

His children?.... Or God's children?

badt guy said...

No fire that time... Na only fruits dem chop

Anonymous said...

Pastor A.E Adeboye wasn't talking to everyone. Take it or leave, he was only preaching to his congregations. All the souls he has being winning na u dey win am for him. Social media gives everyone right to insult or talking down everyone who speaks their mind.

Anonymous said...

Jesus and only Jesus remains the standard. Not Pastors, bishops, papa, mama, dada, daddy but Jesus and Jesus alone.

Sleek said...

Thk u oo.It is not for everybody oo. We hear stories in d courtroom couples coming to dissolve their marriage cos wife cannot cook for 20 yrs. In a nutshell, look before u leap

JSBunny said...

"People are sad in marriages because of stereotypes"! Thumbs up!

Anonymous said...

I wish I could kiss u right now...

Anonymous said...

Mumu Dts what you are

Dre said...

I respect the Man of God but that opinion of his belongs to someone with a parochial mindset.

rookies said...

Respect for Charleyboy now. Tank you Stella.

rookies said...

Do u know that his words c can cause c racks instead of mending. After all the work he has done for God.

Jasmine said...

Anon 15:13, God bless you.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 15:53 ur head dey diamond ojarΓ©

Jasmine said...

Steffy and her mis-yarn. Abeg learn first

Anonymous said...

Anonymous, did God call him for a select group? Think before you start talking or typing. He is A MAN OF GOD, that means he's representing God. Did Jesus despise anybody that came to him? Don't get ticked off because he may probably your "daddy GO". He is NOT God!

Princess Charming... The only crown princess on this blog since 2010. said...

Tur @ 1nigeriangirl,

That's what they call him now, so who am I to object that?

Anonymous said...

Osetigo on instagram. Ladies said no wahala, from now on, test the penis to see if he can nack punani, vjay for one hour before marrying. Lol
Watch @lapearlnyc

Anonymous said...

Do u know exodus 21 talks about how to appropriately beat up your slave? Pls...religion is the problem with the world.

Anonymous said...

Wow! This marriage of a thing has become a HUGE topic! No wonder most singles feel pressured! Please, does marriage now have a manual filled with policies and procedures? This life is funny! You will see the bad girls getting married while the " holy holy" are still waiting on the Lord! So, there is no moral justification here! I believe , Love conquers all!

Anonymous said...

Hehehe!

Anonymous said...

Pastor Adeboye's speech was for black people not whites because for here, oyinbo wey my brother marry can't cook, can't pray but she is a pleasant girl!

Anonymous said...

Have said it before. If I ain't fucking I ain't spending, I might let her get away with about 100g or more.......

Anonymous said...

Abi oπŸ‘πŸ½

Mr kain said...

Which bible Jesus read? What was the name of the bible? Ooooops

Anonymous said...

Anon 15:13, wish there was a like button.U make sense die!!

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