STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIED TO A CHRONIC SERIAL CHEAT
Stella, this is the only place I can think of to tell my story as I'm hoping to get the best advice from blog visitors. I'll try to make this chronicle as short as possible.
I am married to a chronic serial cheat.
We've been married for 12 years with five kids.
In our first year of marriage, my husband slept with my sister and my cousin, and some of my close friends, which is the reason I don't have any close friends today.
My relationship with my family is also soured as my sister and I don't even talk anymore. My husband admitted to his infidelity and asked for forgiveness, even my sister and my cousin did not deny their roles too. I forgave them, but the problem is that my husband has continuously cheated, thus constantly reopening the old wounds I've been trying so hard to heal from.
He chats with random girls and calls them the same endearing names he calls me. The sad part is that my husband is very kind to me and treats me really nice, but I hurt every time I discover his misdemeanours, even with married women. He is always quick to apologise whenever I confront him with evidence but how long will I continue to forgive a man who can't stay faithful for even one week!
Recently he's been having some financial troubles and I'm the one barely sustaining the home with my meagre salary. I thought his poor financial status would deter him, but alas, how wrong I was!
Just last month, I saw a whatsapp chat between him and a married woman in which they were professing love to each other and the woman even sent nude pics.
Stella, I died a thousand times!
When I confronted him, as usual, he apologised profusely, and you wouldn't imagine the reason he gave me....he said he wasn't really cheating but was doing it to see if he could get some money from her and play his role in taking care of us.
My gawd, I was livid!
I threatened to also start cheating (I'm really not even considering such taboo), or better still leave him (but I really have no plans for divorce), and he fell on his knees pleading and swore it would never happen again.
Well, I reluctantly accepted as usual and thought nothing again of it until last week when I just had a hunch to check his social media handles. It turns out that my dear husband has met even new lovers amongst whom are also married women. They also chat on whatsapp but he has become "smart" enough to delete the chat, but from the history, I know the chats are very recent.
My problem now is I don't even know how to handle this matter anymore. I'm considering leaving him before he infects me with something I can't handle, but who will take care of these kids because my salary can barely feed us. I've prayed o, still praying, but I'm tired! If I could afford rent, I would've moved out and start afresh with my kids but I'm not even sure that's a good idea.
In fact, I am confused, hence I need your advice and that of blog visitors so that I can make a better decision. Did I even tell you that he's right in front of me as I type this mail, but he's busy chatting with "them" on Facebook.
I know because I have his password and I'm reading their conversations from my phone here. From what I see, this man is not about to change anytime soon unless something drastic happens.
WOW...Dunno what to say!!!