Hmmmm.....The Yoruba's will scream '' Aba jo!''
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO DOESNT LIKE/WANT INTIMACY
Hey Stellz.Howdy.Kindly hide moi identity.Thanks.
Just need the good people of this blog to give me their take on this issh.
Okay been married for about a year and blessed with a sweet baby girl.
All through courtship,there was no sex as i was a virgin and also he was so it was a mutual decision but we have dated others in the past.
Well we had this constant talks about sex in which he had me looking forward to several exploits once we became legal.
From our Wedding night till about a month after wedding we could go on and on in sex...however subsequently he started claiming he was tired due to work stress etc.
Sex reduced to Once a week...once in 2weeks ...once a month and now for the past 6months just twice.
I have asked...taunted...jested etc but to no avail.
Have even asked if he doesnt find me attractive anymore to which he ignored. Also asked him if his sexual drive is low and still no response.i further asked if he was gay sef...lol
I recently moved to another room with our baby because he complained of the place being too hot for him(so he was sleeping in the living room)
Hence my decision...yet he never till date asked why i left our room
Somedays i come meet him in the room and rather than he sleep there, he would rather move out and sleep in the other room.
I am team snoop and trust me he aint cheating. Also apart from work ,he rarely goes out.
Also we literally don't have any physical contact.
He Doesnt hug or kiss me(i use to be the one initiating it but when i saw that if i dont do he wont,i stopped)except during sex.even when i want to play(probably by sitting on him or something naughty) he claims he is tired or his body aches.
I need peoples insight cos am confused.
Shuo...what could be the problem?
Please check your mouth and tohtoh to see if one or both has an odour.
Have you checked?
if you are clean then honey i am sorry to say but your man is sending out alert that he might be gay.I could be wrong though.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN s3X HAPPENS BETWEEN YOUR SPOUSE AND THEIR SIBLING
Stella, I don't know where to start. I met my husband 10 years ago and we have been married for a year now with a baby. We have been through a lot together, financially and emotionally. Since we had our traditional marriage his business has not be going well but I come from a well to do family so I have able been take care of my son on my own.
When i travelled outside to have my baby his half sister got really close and was the one encouraging since I felt that my husband was not there for me.Yesterday I felt he was cheating and I confronted him. I made him give me his phone and password he then confessed that he had sex last year when i was not around. I went through his messages and found messages from his younger half sister.
The messages are so nasty and explicit. I still cannot wrap my mind about it. The chat like they have slept togather before and exchange naked pictures. Stella, I have never been so tainted in my life. After I confronted him, I made him swear to me of he had ever slept with her and he said no. But he never said sorry. Is like he doesnot see the big deal. All he could say was that the messages were not recent. I am so confused.
My family never really liked him. Don't know who to tell? I don't know if I should confront his half sister. The messages are so sick. I don't know what to do, am so confused. We are so supposed to have a church wedding in December but I dont want to continue this marriage anymore.
Please I need advice. Sorry for any grammatical errors
Hmmm a confrontation might open a can of worms..ARE YOU READY FOR THAT?
I dont know what to say but s3x between half siblings is very rampant....Is their half siblingship from blood or from marriage?
lets see what others have to say but if your hubby is committing incest wahala dey and doesnt see anything wrong then wahala dey..
Errrm make sure your son always has his pants on just to avoid stories that touch you hear?