Most Mother In Laws use the Omugwo period to visit and rest..lol
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I gave birth to my first child two days to my due date,both families were eager for the child to arrive because he was the first from both families.
I laboured for like 24 hours,i was discharged the next day and MIL came a day after,she brought a lot of food stuffs for us(God bless her for that).
The day she arrived she slept all through the night and I blamed it on stress cos we do not stay in the same town and the journey can be very stressful.
The next morning she woke up to bathe the baby, and everything was cool,thank God one of my senior wife had already advised me on how to go about everything (I actually thought people around me will be the one taking care of me lol).My younger sister was around so she helped with the cooking,cleaning the house, washing cloths, in fact everything.
Well,i forgot to add that MIL said she came to rest and that she has promised herself that she will not enter the kitchen I said ok..The next night she went to the other room to sleep again,My sister and i were left with the baby and both of us didn't even know how to handle a baby.Hmmmm,my baby can cry for Africa and my breast milk was not even flowing for like 4 days so some1 advised us to get SMA Gold Which we did.
In all this stress I was seriously angry at my mum for not coming on time, for like six consecutive nights my sister and i did not sleep until the arrival of my mum.
My sister kept on with the cooking and everything, until this fateful Sunday morning when one of my MIL's relative came and all hell was let loose,she complained about the food (meanwhile my BIL staying with us told me what she eat is liver and fuku(sorry I don't know the English name for that) and we cooked her food separately cos she does not eat the type of food we eat.
Throughout that day I was just crying and disappointed, this is the person that says so many prayers for me anytime i serve her,infact that morning she still did same so I was so disappointed, she could have told me or her son staying with us or even my hubby.
When hubby got back from work I told him what transpired and he was not happy about it,so he called his mum and myself and asked what happened and she could not say any tangible thing that I did wrong o,i guess she was now ashamed of her act,the only thing she could say was that she asked me to burn the sponge we bath the baby with and that I did not answer her........haba.
We sha went on as if nothing happened, I sent my sister to the market to buy turkey, meat,fish and cut it big big,at times I use to wonder how a single human being can finish two pieces of those stuff at once. I will wake up 5am to peel beans for either moimoi or akara cos she complain I don't cook on time,all this while I was cooking with my money,that was the reason why I was so pained.
She left after one month,I got her some things and when she got back to her state,she started calling me almost every day and started sending me credit almost every week, until I felt uncomfortable with it and told DH to tell her not to send me credit again.
The next time she came to visit us, we were best of friends, we bonded well but when I had my next baby it was another drama,but this time I was emotionally matured to handle with wisdom cos the first time I was always crying like a mumu.
LOL,thank God it ended well cos as i read i was just tensed not to read that you warned her or asked hubby to tell her to leave...You used wisdom indeed.