Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Former Beauty Queen Ibidunni Ighodalo Talks About Her Quest For A Child And Her Desire To Help Those Equally Searching

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Monday, 5 September 2016

Former Beauty Queen Ibidunni Ighodalo Talks About Her Quest For A Child And Her Desire To Help Those Equally Searching

When former beauty queen, Ibidunni Ajayi, got married in 2007, her expectations were predictable. Like many married women, a leading anticipation of hers was the hope to give birth to children. Her wedding to accountant and clergyman, Itua Ighodalo, was celebrated, even if it was attended with a heat of debate from his previous union.



Nonetheless, friends and family members rallied round to give them the much needed support, while other interested members of the public attracted by their individual and combined eminence followed with keen enduring attention.


Close to one decade on, the loathing generated in some quarters at the onset of their relationship has definitely receded. The rumour mill which spewed torrents of lopsided and coloured tales that caused the couple a lot of trauma, even if a bit, has withdrawn, but the pain of those turbulent years live with her still. For one who keeps to herself, the scrutiny of her marriage in the public, led her to sew-up. She reduced the number of persons she called friends to a handful, becoming more and more engrossed with her husband.

Apparently, the media is one of the perpetrators of the wind of ill-perception blowing around her; so letting this reporter into her Ikoyi-Lagos home was a decision she weighed thoroughly. First, she insisted on a questionnaire against the suggestion she should have a sit-down with the reporter. She would later concede to the one-on-one at her event centre, The Dorchester, at Oniru-Lagos.

 The venue was changed at the last minute with the explanation that artisans carrying on renovation there may distract the discourse.

Smiling with her hand extended for a welcome shake, she waved the visitor to make himself comfortable in her living room. Her publicist, Uyai Abasi, took a seat as well.
‘I have answered your questions,” she began referencing my earlier questionnaire. I took time to explain how a personal encounter brings home the mood and circumstance of an interview. She listened quietly (all the while studying her guest), then she declared her confidence in the one who brokered our meeting. “I trust her. She said we should do it.”

Incidentally, the Ighodalos are frequently involved in news worthy activities, even if it may be argued that they do not deliberately hug the media. For instance, they have given life to and support a couple of charities. Mrs. Ighodalo’s known trade may also have unwittingly ensured permanent presence for her in the media. As CEO of Elizabeth R, one of Nigeria’s high profile event management companies, she is often spotted at widely publicised occasions.
However, Elizabeth R was just going to be an appendage at this meeting. 


It was agreed that the focus would be on her new passion to bring a cheer into the lackluster life of childless couples through her Ibidunni Ighodalo Foundation, IIF.
IIF is the latest paradox in the life of a woman who makes a job of organizing huge, crowded events, but prefers to remain behind the scene; a beauty queen who does not flaunt her beauty (this trait was displayed when it came to choice of photographs from a recent photo-shoot by celebrity photographer, TY Bello, to illustrate this story. She gently, but firmly refused to allow certain images of her go public; so they will not be misconstrued).

Her newest contradiction to fund IVF treatment for couples who are hoping to have their own babies is a landmark irony. How can a woman who is challenged under similar circumstances forget her own predicament and turn all her attention and huge resources towards helping others out of the quandary?
Finally, when she started talking, it was in a soft and measured tone like one dwelling on the implication of every word. No doubt her heart was heavy. Often the vehemence in her statements were conveyed in her narrowing and widening eyes and her flying hands. Her voice never rose one decibel above what may be considered normal with her. Throughout the interview, it remained almost a whisper. With each sigh that preceded her response, she yearned to share her heavy burden; to find an understanding soul, apart from her husband. The words came through her teeth, almost without parting her lips. “I have heard stories of in-laws calling the woman painful names. Those are hurtful things to say. There are names you don’t want to call a woman that is looking up to God.”


She continued to share her experiences. “People may not want to be mean, but they don’t know that certain statements and body language hurt. When you are waiting on God, you can be sensitive to what people say or do and they might not know it will hurt or hit you. It is good to raise awareness and understanding about childless couples. Friends and relatives should be a bit more sensitive to women or couples who are waiting on the Lord. I know that because of our culture, the pressure is so much. The shoes of women who are waiting on the Lord are not very easy shoes. Emotionally, mentally and psychologically, hormonally, when you are going through treatments, it’s a rollercoaster-you deal with in-laws, society, friends, there’s a lot going on.”


“People who get married and have children don’t know how lucky they are. I mean you are even careful not to get pregnant again, you are so blessed by God, you should thank God every day. It is not easy to find yourself in a situation where your friends are doing school runs, you don’t know what that is, you don’t even know what your first trimester is. The friends you had bridal showers with are having baby showers, it takes the grace of God to remain sane, honestly.”

Today, she hid her tears. But you could tell a woman who had previously cried her heart out. In fact she was not ashamed to confess she was frequently given to such emotion in the past. 


On her 35th birthday last year, she decided to turn the lemon that life had thrown at her into lemonade. It had become her fashion to write a wish list on the day she was born and then tick-off the accomplished ones on her next birthday. Every year, she scored high on every point, but one: The issue of childlessness had become a sore point that could not be addressed. She had prayed and sought different avenues for a medical solution, but the problem just could not be wished away. Although she enjoyed the understanding and love of her husband and in-laws, the quest for a child consumed her.


“I had tears in my eyes when I told God, ‘you know what? This is enough. You are going to do it when You want to do it, in Your own time and if You are not going to do it, let it be left undone. This is You. I trust You. Right now, it’s ok, I’m going to live my life. I found out that I had stopped living, because that was all I wanted. I said no, I’m going to be happy, live my life and leave it all to God. I’m grateful to God for my own family, for the family I’m married into.”


Those statements to God with tears in her eyes opened a window to air her bottled emotions. It lifted a huge weight off her shoulders. As she cleared her mind of the cobwebs of trying to have a baby, she was amazed to receive one of the most altruistic ideas with clarity. Her husband was no less enthused when she shared the idea with him.

“My focus now is to help others, one at a time. I want to make a family happy and with the help of God, their prayers would be answered. I know the pain and what it feels like. It will give me joy to see them jumping and rejoicing, saying that they are expecting their own children. I have seen it happen. I have seen the two sides during my course of treatment. I said God help me, let me do this. When you focus on helping others, you don’t know the blessings that come back to you. It is difficult but I said Lord you have put this in me, You have to provide. You know when God gives you a vision, He makes the provision. I have been amazed at the response. It is unbelievable.


“When I was going through some treatment, I would get to the clinic and someone who has just done a pregnancy test was being told that it didn’t work, it was always so devastating for me to hear them wonder aloud where they would get money for the next treatment. I have met women who came to the hospital to get the treatment but they couldn’t afford it. Some couldn’t even afford the test to know what was wrong. I have also met women who decided to share their burden, this is how financially draining this treatment can be. If you have extra eggs, you can sell them in exchange for the treatment. When women share eggs left from a successful IVF on another women or they use the woman’s extra cycle that has been paid for, these are ways women support one another because getting an egg donor can be very expensive.”


Mrs. Ighodalo is further challenged by her ecclesiastical responsibility as the wife of a pastor. Parishioners at the Trinity House in Oniru-Lagos where her husband presides call her ‘Pastor IB’. “I think you have to be called by God to be called a pastor. You know how it is when they say two have become one. Automatically, when they call your husband a pastor, they call you a pastor, as well. I’m under the leadership of my husband. I’ve learnt from him and I’m still learning. I’m just taking it, one day at a time. I provide a support system for him. I believe that being by his side is what God has called me to do. I lead sessions of prayer. I do that more. We all pray and should be able to lead prayer sessions. I allow the spirit of God to lead me really. There is no pressure whatsoever from my husband. He just allows me grow and learn as much as I can.”


Lucky to be surrounded by experienced and loving women in church who work in concert with her through a group called ‘Timeless Women’, they pray, hold business sessions, deal with issues on parenting, singles, the elderly, mature singles and try to meet as many needs as possible in the church. “I have ministers’ wives in church who help me to fulfil these dreams. They are so supportive. Some of them guide and teach me because they are much older. God has blessed me with the support system of women who have those skills to deal with the elderly ones, mature singles, women with the issue of the fruit of the womb, single parents. They surround me. I’m everybody’s mother.”


It is only when she puts on the toga of a matriarch that she sometimes sees the humour in her situation. “It is so strange and funny, but when you sit back and think about it, every family has somebody who is waiting on God for a child. The person might be your cousin or mum’s sister. There are certain ways we will treat the person. But do you know that there are certain ways we treat somebody else coming into our family with the same issue? We don’t treat them the same. It is not intentional. If you have in-laws who are not nice to you, they will think it’s your fault. They will call you names, talk down on you. If your in-laws have somebody in their family who is waiting, they will never speak to the person like that. We really need to have a support system and also learn to put ourselves in other people’s shoes.”


The interaction had been cordial with Mrs. Ighodalo markedly toning down on her cautious approach to answering questions as the interview progressed. Her husband came home as the reporter made to leave. As she moved into his arms to welcome him, he looked from her to the departing visitors. The query was not uttered. It was in his eyes. She understood and went on to explain my mission in their home. ‘I will see you upstairs’, she said, disengaging from him to see us outside. Before we left, she showed another side to her that is not frequently in the news. She loves pets and keeps different breeds of dogs. As she approached their quarters and called out, a couple of the canines bounced towards the iron gate separating us from them. ‘Let them come and greet you,’ she offered. She laughed when her publicist and this reporter cringed at the suggestion, but thanked her, nonetheless, for the hospitality.


Right now, Mrs. Ighodalo who is a graduate of Microbiology from the University of Lagos is using the platform of IIF to award grants for fertility treatment such as In Vitro Fertilization (IVF), Frozen Embryo Transfer and Intrauterine Insemination. She was forced to change her initial plan to help one or two couples when she received tons of applications. The plan has now changed to accommodate 28 couples. “There are some couples that have applied that have been married for between 20 and 25 years and when I read their history, they have come to a point where they are tired. I even found out that it was their family that applied for some of them. A lot of people have asked me why I don’t face my life, why am I trying to be Mother Theresa. What is it? Is it that you have so much money you don’t know what to do with it. I can’t even explain it.”
Mrs. Ighodalo is not new to charity. She described herself as a great supporter of a motherless babies home called, Heritage Homes, and as one who is actively involved in Lydia Grace, a foundation for socially challenged women. Working for this particular charity demands that she goes out on the streets (sometimes at night) to engage, re-form and re- habilitate delinquent women. 


She also supports her brother’s charity called Biire Foundation- for malnourished children, women and HIV patients. Another great passion of hers is to lend whatever form of support she can for youth causes.
However, IIF is a pioneering work as there is currently no other charity with similar objectives of educating people and promoting other forms of becoming parents and providing a spiritual, mental and psychological support system for couples/families. The importance of IIF as espoused by Mrs. Ighodalo is to help address the prevalence of couples in this situation, while providing enlightenment on the causes of infertility and ways it can be dealt with.

Culled: ThisdayLive


*sigh*
I read this interview smiled all through at the strength in her words.
Ibidunni it is well with you.I said a prayer for you with all the love in my heart and God will do it when he wants to...
You shall carry your Children and be a testimony to Gods glory...Please say a quiet prayer for this woman who loves everyone like her own,love without ceasing and gives without caring.
God will do it IB.




93 comments:

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

Gods time is the best.

Quiksilver said...

God will do it for you pretty woman

Dear God, please bless me with fruits at the right time, In Jesus name.

SUNSHINE said...

Wow.. powerful words they are.
I always tell God that when the time comes, may I never TTC. May it come easily because God says so.
I pray for all the women TTC that the almighty God speeds up your miracle. All is well.

Loveme Jeje said...

Very long interview. I did not finish reading it.

May God forgive her and grant her her wishes. She need a child and she will receive it Amen.

Well may be both of them should ask God for forgiveness and even if they have hurt anyone, they should also pray for the people to forgive them so that it can be well with them.

Maybe someone is hurting somewhere, i dont know ooo. let me not talk what i dont know

Anonymous said...

she for no marry as second wife.even if the man wife leave am must you be the one to fill in the gap? i fex for you when u dey wed the man. but as bible talk am, the lord will have mercy. you are 36 , you go born no worry

Loveme Jeje said...

Sunshine this your edo witch flying picture, anytime i see it i laugh. abeg try and change it small. you are a beautiful lady.

Anonymous said...

Great job she's doing, iv always admired dis lady right from when I was a jambite in Unilag and she was a final yr student. Beauty both inside and outside,very warm and friendly.
My question is, is she sure she is d cause of d infertility bcos Ituah's first marriage also didn't produce a child, cant stop wondering that bit.
I have an aunt who has been married since before dem born me sef, very beautiful n successful, married to a doc. They neva had kids n as usual na d woman everyone dey look. Like 10yrs ago when she was abt 47, she all of a sudden left her hubby which everyone was angry abt, ppl said dis man stook by you 20smthn yrs of childlessness.
She just disappeared from everyone for almost a yr, claiming she's doing a course.
One Christmas day came, she just arrived with heavy pregnancy. Her daughter is now 10. And she's remarried, her ex-hubby is still single and without child. I'm not saying dis is Ibidun's case o, just sharing of stories.
Has Ibidun ever looked into surrogacy or into adoption? don't know why Nigerians don't totally agree with that. The end product is a child, and ur womb may even be opened after nurturing another child thru surrogacy or adoption.
Shes a gud woman, Pray God answers her soon.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful woman
The God that did it for Sarah and Elizabeth will surely do it for you and all others waiting on Him .

White Diamond said...

Awww! I teared up, reading this.

Your father is a King. He'll never let you be put to shame.

Just said a prayer for you, and all the expectant mothers on here. He has promised. And He'll never fail you all.

Very sobering piece.

#WhiteDiamondOut

Anonymous said...

A great sacrifice is giving and with this charity, she will birth children both the participants and hers. God bless

Mosi Jubelo said...

It's well with you Mrs Ighodalo. God has said it, none shall be barren in th land. You will carry your children in Jesus's name. I actually cried reading this. That's why I don't judge any couple who have no kids.
There's nothing God cannot do. You will smile Ibidun, you will laugh.

Anonymous said...

Simple.

Mosi Jubelo said...

Amen

Anonymous said...

Do u know if she was the trigger to ending d first marriage? Or because d ex didn't spill? Just d way okoties refused to spill, chill o, it's way deeper.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

How come you didn't recommend your bishop this time?

Anonymous said...

I cried for her. I have worn the shoes, I know where & how it hurts.

I have been praying for her & her husband no be today. It was a burden laid in my heart long time ago. I don't know them personally, only on 'pishure'. However almost a decade ago in Yankee, I happened to be in a church where Pastor Ighidalo was invited to preach. I was blessed & had admiration. I was inspired by his own personal life's struggles & how through Christ Jesus he overcame them. Funny man indeed.
I pray, by the super natural intervention of God, Ibidun Ighidalo you shall carry your own baby. As you have "surrendered all to Jesus" & channel all you got in helping other couples, God will show case his power, his awesomeness, his ingenuity in your womb. God alone created all things, he is the giver of life. Even the most intelligent, successful Fertility Doctor will tell u that in this business there is a higher being involved. That being who can do what science cannot explain, who can reverse time backwards, who can put what was not there before. That is the Almighty God, the Alpha & Omega.

I just so love her and her husband. She is so beautifully created.

Anonymous said...

is this the reason she took her brother's kids from their mum.

nzube izuu said...

It's well with you Pastor IB. The Lord will never leave you childless. You will be a mother of nations by His Grace.

calabar Chick said...

It is well with you madam!

Anonymous said...

And the man is a pastor, I wonder what pastors of nowadays teach, Christianity and divorce doesn't go hand in hand and if you must u should not remarry.that's the instruction.Ofcourse the 1st wife is hurting even if she left her home the man did something to her that made her leave her home For A Strange woman. God is God he is not man and he is not author of confusion his words have standard and rules(1cor 14:33) she is in another woman's home the earlier she found her home the better for her. IB you are a strange woman in another womans house that's the only problem you have that's why IVF even failed you.

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

No time is too late for God to show himself worthy .
He is God of eleventh hour.....hold on ma........God is still on ur case

Amacastel said...

U said it all

Rare Gem said...

God will do it! Ttc is very heart wrenching. Thank you Jesus for counting me worthy. Mine was very short but I know how it feels.

Lady j said...

Lord pls grant ib an endless testimony by blessing her with her own child.. Anytime I read abt her childless state my heart always break for her..

Miss Ess said...

Chai! #sad. I read through this post and I was enveloped in praise. Father Lord I thank thank you for being a single mom of one. I thank you, I glorify your name. It is not that I am righteous but because you decided to favour me at a very young age. You saw my end from the beginning and here I am. At 21 then, lost his dad to accident, not married, was in school, left school to birth my child and went. I thank God I didn't do the unthinkable, now I look at my son, a bubbling teenager with a very bright future is enough for me. If it was with money, even five thousand naira as of today I wouldn't have been able to buy *crying*. I am grateful, Lord i am grateful. TTC is another kind of cross, I have not been there but I understand. This post broke me down in tears. The God that gives a mad woman children, baths the baby with gutter water and in our presence there three years later on that same street the child is running up down, that same God will hear the cries of every woman I know and don't know ttceing the fruit of the womb, and to you alone not any man will take the glory.

Anonymous said...

God will surely answwer your prayers

Page said...

Dear Lord bless her with the fruit of the womb and take all the glory in Jesus name amen. It I well

Anonymous said...

Hmmm, Anony 15:46 una go talk wetin una no sabi. Judge not another because you have your own spec in your eye sticking out.
So the man should have stayed like that forever? More than 10 years, no wife. The man should have remained like that? OR no woman should accept marrying him? That's how you Anon 15:46 & some ' holier than thou' so called Christians will push a pastor till he falls in to sin. Somebody's vibrant son, brother, uncle should suffer like that ? A decade +, no woman when he is capable ? When he was not called into ministration to be celibate?

Common people, even the Bible says in GENESIS 2:18, "...It is not good for a man to be alone....". God had Mercy on them and joined them together.
Exodus 33:19 and Romans 9:15, still God saying he will have mercy on whom he will have mercy and will have compassion on whom he will have compassion, and be gracious to whom he will be gracious.
I plead with God to renew his mercies on them. Ibidun will carry her own child full term & healthy.

Anonymous said...

Amen.
bella d chemist

lovelace said...

Amen.

The General's Wife said...

Eeeeya. Your Miracles are on the way Beautiful.
Triplets-2 boys and a girl.
And so shall it be for Chinenye my pal and all those TTC, Amen!

Anonymous said...

I pray for myself as pastor adeboye prophesy that No more fruitless efforts,God bless me with the fruit of the womb,God make me fruitful. I also pray with you be fruitful. We will all rejoice with our children in grace in jesus name amen.

Anonymous said...

I know God will surely answer her prayer, now she passing tru a test, the of calvary as done it before he will do it again in her live an turn her situation around

Anonymous said...

Ibidun,u were very young, an ex beauty queen wen u married pastor ituah and became a second wife.I was really angry cos u were a very pretty young girl and so many younger promising men were at ur beck and call. I still cannot understand why u married a man dat is very much older than u I refuse to accept dat u were in love.it is a sin to remarry please read I Corinthians chapter 7 and to think ur husband is a pastor. So many people are against ur marriage.In the eyes of God,ur committing adultery.The best advice I will give you ibidun,pls leave that relationship cos in the eyes of God it is not marriage!!!! You will take in when u marry ur own husband.Ur in the wrong place dear. DIS IS D TRUTH.

Anonymous said...

God will surely answer her prayer she passing tru a test right now, that man of Calvary has done it before he will do it again and God shall silence her enemies forever

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

See the nonsense you're talking
He was single when they met and married
Y'all be forming I too know on top falsehood.

Starjoy said...

Lol @sunshine edo witch flying picture. Pretty woman God will bless you with your own children soon, you will carry and shine with your babies.

Anonymous said...

It is a sin to remarry when u divorce , dis is according to the word of God.plss read I Corinthians chapter 7.

Anonymous said...

Amen and amen

Iphie dearie said...

Weldone@ Miss Ess.
I'm proud of you.
Yep, a total stranger is super proud of you😀

Loveme Jeje said...

Swag lafresh D husband is a pastor let him pray for his wife

Flakkie Chris said...

Hmmmm......I remember that story. This matter is one kain. These days, one has to be very economical with undue emotions.
The person you're feeling sorry for today may be going through the repercussions of a prayer you said yesterday.

Anonymous said...

But d truth must be told...let her leave that union, she is married to someone s husband,ib u are still young read d Bible very well..no matter what God still honors d kneel of wife of ones youth, u are a stranger there,my aunt is married for 10uears now without d fruit of d womb she is 45 years pipu were blaming her but dey couldn't go to any hospital in Abuja for check up but when they finally relocated to Ibadan they both went for check up and d husband has low sperm count she is still there she can't leave imagine a lady is seen with her man now won't she go to God for serious prayer ontoo d strange lady?so my dear leave that house it's not ur home thank God ubare independent... God is ur strength,He will surely put a smile on ur face

Iphie dearie said...

I admire this lady a great deal.
I know God will do it for her.
And every other woman looking for the fruit of the womb.
#SoberReflection

Anonymous said...

Anon 16:48/IB keep justifying bad things with bible quotes. Keep turning the bible upside down to fit your sin

Bolty said...

The God that answered prayer for Abraham, Hannah will answer for her. By this time next year she will give a testimony of a bouncing baby girl. Stella note it.

nzube izuu said...

Anon shut up! What rubbish are you talking about?

Onyx said...

Great is our God! Darlyn, fear not..He is in it with you.he is never late.he is perfecting all for you.keep giving lives a meaning and keep shining. God bless!

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Go and adopt or do artificial transmition..
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Sandra Daniel said...

Ibidun has always had a lovely heart and love for God she and senior Buchi where seniors that knew the lord at a very early age while in secondary school and we looked up to them. Please people l dont think we need to judge her but to pray for her . God knows best.

Adaeze Writes said...

I pray she carries her babies soon, be them biological or adopted. Every woman who really wants children deserves to be a mother.


www.adaezewrites.com

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Anon 16:00 and 16:00 Oya oh! Make una come take wig and robe, with hammer. Na una don Sidon for just judgement throne finish oh! Gods mouth piece.

happywoman said...

Baby dust to you past IB and to all women TTC.

Anonymous said...

Idiotic mumu.

Anonymous said...

Don't give up ma'am I assure you,when the Lord blesses you,you would have babies in three's,pls try st Ives Ikoyi clinic ,after 23 years ,God heard my prayers through their IVF unit,im currently carrying triplets.

Anonymous said...

You watched a mad woman do that to an innocent baby? NIGERIANS!

Anonymous said...

Only the holy have babies? I sorry for Una.

Anonymous said...

All of una wey de cry I laugh. Dem de work una. The skeleton inside ur cupboard is dancing skelewu. Jezebel

Anonymous said...

If only people will extend such love and concern to single people. We all have cross to bear and all we need s encouragement nd love.

ROLEX CHICK said...

Most pastors suffer from childlessnes but at the end she would give birth to a miracle baby. I think is just God's test.
Some of them would pray for women who are ttc and they would have babies ad give birth but they, the pastors them selves would be searching and praying. BUT God always answers then in the end

ROLEX CHICK said...

Most pastors suffer from childlessnes but at the end she would give birth to a miracle baby. I think is just God's test.
Some of them would pray for women who are ttc and they would have babies ad give birth but they, the pastors them selves would be searching and praying. BUT God always answers then in the end

ROLEX CHICK said...

Enough of this madness.

Anonymous said...

I can imagine how ur filthy u look typing this...how can u come n tell dis ur useless story here..

Anonymous said...

if u can actually see d people DAT come here to judge...u can't even shake hands with dem or even eat on d same table with dem.. yet dey spill trash from their mouth...if ure married dem. ur husband must be wretched

Anonymous said...

if like don't go n divorce DAT ur wretched husband be there during of poverty...ugly beast...wretched poverty people with ur houseboy of a husband giving birth n populating d whole Nigeria..idiot...u go n read 1corinthians.ewuw

Anonymous said...

IF YOU ACCEPT MALACHI 3:10 YOU MUST ALSO ACCEPT DIVORCE BY MOSES LAW.

Diamond Forever said...

so touching. God will bless you with your child soon.

Anonymous said...

Thank God God no be man,for if God be man oh,...I for don die oh,I for don kpeme oh. If some of u were men ehn,I wonder what wld av happened. What happened to mercy,grace,favour,forgiveness?

Anonymous said...

35 and she is complaining? Nigerian mentality at work. The stress she is putting on herself could be a factor for all she knows. God's time is really the best time. She should consult with that former beauty queen who know has twins. Yes, find a surrogate, use her ownseggs and her husband's Spermatozoa and this time next year she will be bouncing twins on her skinny laps. Then, who knows, God's willing, if she wants the 'Push' experience herself, she will carry her own child. For now, she needs to shut up and address her concerns to baba God. We live in a world where people think they owe the world an explanation, truth is, we don't. Her husband isn't explaining why they don't have children. Why is she? She needs to focus on her charities and live her life. Adoption is a good idea also but in this modern day and age,medical miracles do happen. Madam Ighodalo, save the rest of your dignity and use your money wisely, surrogates are waiting. Whoever curses me for my opinion can be rest assured that it will ricochet back on them. Good day.

Greenland said...

Having faith in God is the first step for receiving from Him. God will honor your faith in Him ma'am and your shame will be taken away.

Anonymous said...

Has she returned Olamide Agunloye's children. Omo meta tan. Please do.

Anonymous said...

It is well! I and my husband intend to start trying soon . May God bless us with twins

sisi eko said...

Hmmmm Ibidun my dearest sister. Very soon, very very soon, it will happen

sisi eko said...

Please don't say what you don't know.

Ibidun met Ituah long after his first marriage was over. As in completely over. And no, he didn't just divorce the first wife. She chose to leave him for many reasons beyond his control and which I will not like to repeat here.

So should he have died a single man? Or how does that affect Ibidun who jejely met a SINGLE man and he proposed marriage? Huh

sisi eko said...

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

sisi eko said...

She did NOT take her brother's kids without their consent. The brother's wife abandoned her kids with their father, and the father thought his sister, Ibidun, would do well to take care of the kids better than he could. Would u rather they left the children unattended with a clueless bachelor?

Ibidun was only helping them take care of the kids whilst they sorted their mess out. Their mother had access to them so.. That is what any concerned sister should do. Forget about whether Ibidun has kids of her own or not.

sisi eko said...

Deep.

Anonymous said...

Same thing I've always wondered. Infertility in men is on the rise.If it is not from her,they should go and do IVF using donor sperm before infertility sets in .

Anonymous said...

* before menopause sets in

Anonymous said...

???

Anonymous said...

By the authority in the Name that's above all names,I biodun by this time next year you'll be carrying twins in your hands IJCMN.

Anonymous said...

By the authority in the Name that's above all names,I biodun by this time next year you'll be carrying twins in your hands IJCMN.

GCL - Customized Bridal Robes - 08106156009 said...

She has finally touched the Heart of God by starting IIF. I have learnt that one of the surest ways to get answers to any request is to pray and assist others in similar situation... Just forget about yourself, pray as intensely as you would pray for yourself, for someone else in a similar situation as you are. It works. It's called Intercession. One, it will bring peace and assurance; two, burden will be lifted, joy will increase in your life and three, just like that, when you least expect it, your own change will come! He that waters will also be watered! Your season of change of change has come dear Pastor Ibidun Ighodalo!

GCL - Customized Bridal Robes - 08106156009 said...

She has finally touched the Heart of God by starting IIF. I have learnt that one of the surest ways to get answers to any request is to pray and assist others in similar situation... Just forget about yourself, pray as intensely as you would pray for yourself, for someone else in a similar situation as you are. It works. It's called Intercession. One, it will bring peace and assurance; two, burden will be lifted, joy will increase in your life and three, just like that, when you least expect it, your own change will come! He that waters will also be watered! Your season of change of change has come dear Pastor Ibidun Ighodalo!

GCL - Customized Bridal Robes - 08106156009 said...

She has finally touched the Heart of God by starting IIF. I have learnt that one of the surest ways to get answers to any request is to pray and assist others in similar situation... Just forget about yourself, pray as intensely as you would pray for yourself, for someone else in a similar situation as you are. It works. It's called Intercession. One, it will bring peace and assurance; two, burden will be lifted, joy will increase in your life and three, just like that, when you least expect it, your own change will come! He that waters will also be watered! Your season of change of change has come dear Pastor Ibidun Ighodalo!

GCL - Customized Bridal Robes - 08106156009 said...

She has finally touched the Heart of God by starting IIF. I have learnt that one of the surest ways to get answers to any request is to pray and assist others in similar situation... Just forget about yourself, pray as intensely as you would pray for yourself, for someone else in a similar situation as you are. It works. It's called Intercession. One, it will bring peace and assurance; two, burden will be lifted, joy will increase in your life and three, just like that, when you least expect it, your own change will come! He that waters will also be watered! Your season of change of change has come dear Pastor Ibidun Ighodalo!

GCL - Customized Bridal Robes - 08106156009 said...

She has finally touched the Heart of God by starting IIF. I have learnt that one of the surest ways to get answers to any request is to pray and assist others in similar situation... Just forget about yourself, pray as intensely as you would pray for yourself, for someone else in a similar situation as you are. It works. It's called Intercession. One, it will bring peace and assurance; two, burden will be lifted, joy will increase in your life and three, just like that, when you least expect it, your own change will come! He that waters will also be watered! Your season of change of change has come dear Pastor Ibidun Ighodalo!

Anonymous said...

May God grand her heart desires in Jesus Name Amen.....

Anonymous said...

God will answer you and every single person out there that desire to be married
God will answer me and all ttc'ers out there that desire to bear fruit.
One thing i know God keeps His word

Anonymous said...

Anon 22.26 shut up! Someone that got married since 2007 shouldn't open about her troubles. Why are Nigerians like this. So you know it all. And because you can comment with your dirty hands and talk bad about a woman of God. Shut up if you cant pray. Hungry people in this blog feeling funky.

Anonymous said...

Ridiculous people with one sense. If you cant have kids you are unholy.

Anonymous said...

Stella I blame you for enabling some lame comments after your long prayers. Cant Nigerians just get enlightened for once and stop all his self righteous crap. Do not judge anyone because Gods ways are not our way. He is wise. He is a God of forgiveness. Why would people spew trash. Pls do save up and see the world people and not sit behind your phones and disgrace us. Stella people read this blog from all over the world. Sometimes i cringe to my peoples mentality.so backward and judgemental.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous 20 21 you are so right, that is why I never understand why some people fight anonymous fake people online.

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