STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN HE REFUSES TO BE FRIEND ZONED
Hi Stella, keep up the good work. My narrative is quite long so please bear with me. OK, so am about to lose my mind and its no joke! Here it goes... Am a female in my early twenties, am very pretty with a great figure, good job and Godly ( stating it will help understand my story). i am currently dating a guy (I love him to bits and vice versa).
Now, sometime last year I met a guy, a medical doctor, at first he lied about how he got my contact but later told the truth that a friend gave him, although he won't tell me who and claimed to have seen me several times at work but was too shy to talk to me, I said ok. Along the line we became friends , we would hang out n gist about work, life, relationships n stuff, chat and call (we're both in the medical line).
Two months later he asked me out and I said I was with someone. Stella, that was the beginning of my troubles. Honestly at least 1 guy asks me out each day but once I say no they understand and we remain friends but this guy won't agree. For over 8 months now he keeps repeating it over again, he gets sick and cries anytime I avoid him(am serious, I know), his dad knows me and wants me to be with him. he told his dad about me and even arranged a surprise meeting where I met his sisters from the UK.
I told him it was for no use that he should move on tho I liked him. I left my job for another place( we worked in the same place) cos I couldn't bear it yet he kept showing up at my new workplace with gifts and persuading and looking all sad and depressed. I even relocated to another state again hoping that would make Him forget but he came and insisted I see him, I did cos I didn't want him to get sad and be lost in thought and have an accident on his way back.
He once deleted all social apps on his phone cos i didn't pick his calls for a while and bashed his car once cos he was lost in thought about me (weird but true cos I know that one cos.I was angry wen his dad told me he bashed his car so he told me the truth) This guy has everything a lady needs, he's tall, young, very handsome , very wealthy and successful, extra caring, understanding, intelligent ,shy but outspoke around me (he's not so religious but doesn't drink or party).
I like his personality but can't be with him (he also wants to settle down soon), How do I make him go away. I pick his calls out of pity these days, I reject his gifts and gestures too, I hardly reply him but he keeps flooding my phone with sad messages and he has had a suicidal thought once, he's tall and slim so I know he's prone to depression and schizophrenia (medical bvs will understand me).
The last time I saw him he kept begging and pleading for me to date him so much that people would think I jazzed him. Your red pen is highly needed. I also didnt tell my bf cos he'll blame me that I didnt tell him from the onset cos we don't keep things from each other. Please advise me.on how to make such a person go away without hearing he killed himself because its that serious. I have even introduced him to other girls and arranged blinds dates for him, but he insists its me or no one
*This kind of love and wanting someone is sick,really sick..You shouldnt fear for him alone but also for yourself cos he might decide to hurt you as well when he gets really frustrated.He sounds sick.
So you changed work and location and he still found you?How?Who gave him the addresses?
You know what i think?you are the one holding unto this guy even though you say you dont want him.STOP BEING NICE AND AVAILABLE TO HIS Brouhaha.