STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.
WHISTLEBLOWER IN THE FAMILY
God bless the good work you do and the kind hearted BVs. I am a blog addict, your blog keeps me awake and puts me to bed. Yes it does both.
I have seen lots of chronicles and I was one of those who wondered if some stories were real. Here I am with mine, i'd like all the advice I can get.
Its a lengthy one but I plead we are patient enough to read and advice. Stella D, please I need any colour of pen, I just want to hear your opinion. Use white ink if all the colours are finished.
We had our small introduction at the family house sitting room, no long stories or elaborate parties. I just didn't want to be a gwegs, not that I cared about marriage but my family has been talking about how important a man is in a womans life and it was my turn to get a man. Love wasn't in the offing, that's a fantasy, I no fit love anybody.
The only love I know is my mums' and I couldnt bear to disappoint her after she had sacrificed so much. He seemed like a good option so I took it. We had our registry at the local government registry close to his sisters house. No guests, just us and two witnesses, no fancy clothes or anything, not for lack of money but because its how I wanted it. No traditional, no bride price paying, no white wedding. We would plan for a big wedding when I am actually ready to settle down.
I signed the documents and realised I just made a mistake. We made a pact right there not to call ourselves married till we had planned and done an actual wedding. We did not even have a wedding night, we did not live together. I regretted what I had done. I did not even seek to find love, I was going to settle for the rest of my life. From then on, I sought to leave the marriage. Thank God no one knew about it save my immediate family I could trust. We had an uneventful divorce. He moved on, got married.
I met a charming young man whom I will die for, YES. The feeling is mutual. We plan to get married by next year, I told him my divorce story, it didn't even exist to him.
BVs, his parents are good christians, they have accepted me but they do not know I am divorced. Le Boo insists there is no point telling them, I like to be open so I want us to come clean. Besides, I have an uncle; same one who is supposed to give me out, he has vowed to bring up my divorce as a topic whenever I bring a man home again.
He says he would show the guys family both the marriage certificate and the divorce certificate so they know what they are marrying. He is my late dads younger brother, he lives to run others down. My uncle doesn't have the papers but he bragged to my sisters hubby that I would hand them over as a condition before he meets my fiancee. He has it all planned out and now I am trapped.
How do we tell my inlaws to be that I am divorced so when my uncle brings it up they can back me up? We have thought about it over and over again, no idea seems good enough for them. I do not want to loose a good man because of my past mistake.
Where are those who got divorced and remaried? How did you handle your inlaws? I would do anything to be accepted even if I am judged. I just want my forever with my darling.
Le boo has asked I put it up here to see if we can get help. I introduced him to your blog. he says women have each others back here...lol.
I love you Stella. You are my no1 celeb, no jokes, no flattery and I am not patronizing you.
Thanks you all.
*This your whistleblower Uncle,can he not travel somewhere else on the day of the wedding?
Get someone to distract him and do a good job.DO NOT LET HIM COME ANYWHERE NEAR THE WEDDING cos it looks like whether you tell them or not,he will do the damage with whatever he says.
It is nobodys business whether you were married or not.