Dear SDK and BVs,
I don't know exactly where this call for help fits in but I know I urgently need help as my situation is beginning to get to a choking state.
I've been married for almost 8 years now amd we have two lovely children, we didn't always used to have it all rosy and like every married couple we had our challenges.
We had accommodation problem at a point and my husband pleaded with me to go stay with my aged parents and give him time to sort himself and our accommodation problems out, I reasoned with him and did like he suggested with the promise that we would be back together in a period of three month; little did I know that was going to be the beginning of the end of our married life.
My husband suddenly changed, he will only call to check up on me and the kids whenever he deemed fit, he wasn't providing any sort of support either; days turned into weeks and weeks into months and he wouldn't call and whenever I called he either picks with an unpleasant voice or decides not to pick at all.
I was praying and hoping things would get better, I thought his reaction was as a result of his inability to secure another accommodation; I also complained to some of his family members that I was very close to and they implored me to continue praying for my husband.
I was all alone with the kids with the support of my family and I didn't relent in my prayers and then one day, one of our family friend called to say he won't sit down and watch me being cheated on; he gave me the news that my husband had secretly gotten married to another woman.
It took my going to Facebook to check the supposed wife's timeline to confirm things for myself and behold the pictures of my husband during their court and traditional wedding was allover.He had another court and traditional wedding with a second woman without ending the one he had with me.
I was broken, I called him to tell him about my discovery; he vehemently denied and then I told him about all I found out on facebook, I told him that since he has decided to get married to another woman without ending our marriage and going through the proper channel he should get ready to start taking full responsibility for the kids and that he should not force me to take him to court. He answered that I'm free to take him to court if that's what I want, i guess he knows for a fact that I can't do that.
It got to a point that I had to talk to one of my brother's friends who is a lawyer, he explained that he will work towards getting a meeting with him and make him sign an undertaking to what and how he will be providing for our children's needs on a monthly basis but that he may be sued and charged for bigamy if he proved stubborn; on hearing this, I asked for time to think about it.
After days of thinking, I called the lawyer back to tell him to stop the whole process that I don't want to send my children's father to jail. The lawyer was angry and vowed not to get involved again because according to him I was allowing my husband take me for granted.
I took up the full responsibility of a mother and father providing for our children's education, feeding and upkeep with support from my family; their father only send money once or twice in a month whenever he remembers he has children somewhere.My family vowed to not get involved because left to them I had no reason marrying his kind of person in the first place,
It got to a stage that I had to report the matter to the ministry of women affairs and a letter was sent to the last known address I provided but the postman returned with the letter saying his sister that he was staying with had relocated. He was called on phone to come down to the ministry and a date was fixed but he never showed up.
I am writing in because I need help; I want to know if there's anyone out there that has been in my situation, I want to know how they handled theirs, I also need lawyers to advice me on what to do from a legal point of view.
It's been four years since we became separated, I want to finally end my marriage with him and sue for bigamy but I can't employ the services of a lawyer now because I am job hunting at the moment. Please I need help, somebody should please come to my rescue; my husband is taking me for a ride, he has abandoned everything that concerns our children's upkeep all on me, he doesn't even call to check up on the children .
Please help me out,Please advice me, if you feel the need to reach out personally; kindly mail me on firstname.lastname@example.org. Thank you and God bless.
*Bigamy is a crime in Nigeria right?Please help her SDK Lawyers,she does not have money to pursue this,please do this as a Christmas giveaway for her.