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Thursday, 3 November 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

Hmmmm....This should be easy right?



STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CANADA OR LONDON?

Hello Stella ,may God continue to bless the works of your hand.
Here goes my chronicles , I'm a 31 year old lady ,beautiful ,educated,not fully employed but do some small small contract jobs ,I also have 2 men in my life let's name them X and Y. I've know X for 5years but we've never met in person ,he is from the south south area like me,he's 49 (I like my men a little bit older,so the age is not a problem before BVN's start cussing me)he has a 16 year old daughter but has never been married.


He is well educated ,a Canadian citizen and has a good job.we've been on and off cos he always tells me he will come to Nigeria but always ends up changing his mind,so I had to free him until about 4months ago when we started talking again after almost a year . 

His dad suffered a stroke recently so he is planning to come in January 2017,he plans on staying for 2weeks ,see his dad and me and go back not mentioning anything about seeing my parents cos we discussed that about 2months ago.i really like him.

I've known Y for about 4years ,he is based in London but we've never met,he is 40,from a Muslim family but turned christian 15years ago,he has a job (not so cool job)but he earns well,he is living illegally in the UK and he is very bad with English-speaking and not yet a British citizen .


He has never been married and no kids.When we started talking initially he said he likes me and want me as a wife but I never took him seriously cos he always says some annoying things like ''marry me and I'll changer your life'' .

We met 2weeks ago and I must say the chemistry between us was awesome.He is like the perfect man I've been looking for ,what attracted me to him is his love for God (he knows the word a lot),a worker in church,funny ,cool headed ,doesn't drink or smoke and he is extremely caring ,I invited him over to where I was staying in London ,he met my aunt and her husband and he told them about his intentions towards me , he also spoke to my mom and siblings in Nigeria.

he invited me over to where he stays to let me know he doesn't have anything to hide and showed me all his recent medical reports to show he doesn't have a problem in case I'm thinking he isn't married cos of a reason .one thing led to the other we kissed and made love (protected sex)and it was explosive . We saw frequently for the 2weeks.I was leaving London few days ago and he brought 2 big bags of stuffs he bought for me and an extra bag full of items for every member of my family. 

He followed us to the airport waited till I checked in before he left with my aunt.I was stunned.He is already drawing out a business plan for me on what I can do (he is ready to foot the whole bill).For the past 1week he calls my mom everyday to check on her and pray for her cos she's been ill for months.He also made me and my family understand that he can't travel out of UK for now if we are to do any wedding preparations but his family will represent him and all the wedding prep can take place.

He says it's my choice if I want something big or small but it doesn't make sense doing something big since he won't be present.He says since I have a valid visa I can always visit him so we can start a family,I have a valid 5years visa .He wanted to order for a car for me when we spoke on phone yesterday cos I'm back in Naija and I said ''wo wo wo slow down oga''.

So instead he told me if he could get me a ticket for December to come spend a month so we can get to know each other more,I'll be staying with my aunt which he is cool with.my aunt's daughter is having her birthday soon and he says he wants to represent me there.My aunt and her husband already like him,i also noticed people seem to like him a lot even with his bad English.

Now my issue is his bad English ,he can hardly express himself in English except he adds a little bit of pidgin or Yoruba,i feel a little bit embarrassed when he talks outside ,funny enough he Writes well and he is a graduate! 

Does good English speaking really matter in choosing a spouse?I've always prayed to God for a good man but this looks too good to be true .And No I'm not desperate for marriage ,I think this is just my season (every lady has their season in case some bvn don't know that) 
I've got other suitors too but this is the two I really like .
Thanks Stella.


*Hmmmm the Canadian guy is indecisive and sounds like a NO NO NO...
The London guy sounds too good to be true so you might as well go for it if you like him and stop double dating cos that alone causes confusion and at the end of the day you might make a wrong choice altogether.

When you are really into someone and fall in love with them,their flaws fade into nothing...forget that his spoken English is bad and begin to see him as your personal comedian ..lol
Hmmm it sounds too perfect,I hope it remains that way if you decide to marry him.All the best with him.....Forget that Canada man abeg!



161 comments:

stunning slim shady said...

Kronicles ti de

Highness Gwen said...

Who English EPP?

xxxTrinityxxx said...

go for the london guy poster. teach him how to speak english properly without making him feel bad about himself. forgot the canada guy. if he is not married at 49, what makes you think he will marry you? he still believes he's young not realising he is an old papa forming youngie

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

X is probably married or just doesn't believe in marriage, so take your eyes and thoughts off of him.
Y is living abroad illegally and you're scared of planning a future with him? I wonder what kind of job he does to have so much money to spend. Shouldn't he use the money to settle his stay over day legally?
Why doesn't this bother you but his English? You seem more concerned about a comfortable life which isn't bad but what if he is into drugs and gets caught one day after you've both settled as man and wife, what happens then?
Or maybe I don't understand what living illegally and having a cool job means.
Whatever decision you decide to take, it's your bed and only you will lie on it.
I think you should match brake small and give it time. Don't be in a hurry before you'd regret it all few months in.

Giselle Lawrence said...

My Dear, happiness is the most important thing, if Mr Y makes you happy and you are free and comfortable with him, why not go ahead with him. Forget his English, happiness and love are the key to a great marriage.
I won't even say anything about Mr x, that dude is fake.

peace maker said...

Poster,I hope u r dealing with a yoruba demon

becky naka said...

Stella u funny abeg...... Poster you know what you want... who English epp?.

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

Go for the London guy
And why are you telling him to slow down? Are you allergic to the good life?
Babe, just grab whatever he offers you and marry him if he's really serious
What do I need a broke ass guy that speaks British English for?
Shey English will buy me good creams to maintain my color ni?
Don't be slow girl

Chi doesn't like broke ass men
Chi loves the good life

Be like Chi.

PLATINUM said...

Poster please follow stella's advise. U sef reason am na, a canadian that doesnt take u seriously and a uk based that want to move the world around for u...

Kim Kardashian Aka portable queen of sdk blog said...

None of them is good for you.
x=yimu*
y=double Yimu

Don't let desperation land u into an unhappy marriage.
What's with u and abroad guys?
At your age u don't even know what u want.

white Berry said...

Who English don epp?go for him and if it leads to marriage fine and if it doesn't still fine. It's not even necessary all relationship must lead to marriage, try ur luck is what most relationships re called, so try ur lucj with the London guy if it work out to b real congrats to you but if not life continues, then that first guy just forget about him,because frm ur narrative he seems nt to be serious. Okay bye

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

This your London guy that is too nice like this..I hope he dosent have a skeleton in his cupboard!...
Well,who English epp?...
Since he makes money without a good spoken English,what is your problem again?...
Investigate his riches well to know his worth I mean his investments before accepting him!..
Make you no end up with the more you look the less you see guy!...

becky naka said...

Stella u funny abeg...... Poster you know what you want... who English epp?.

Tayan Taylor said...

Be there asking stupid questions and watch another girl take him away. Aunt gwezg like you still acting confused.
English is your mother tongue abi

Becky Divine said...

I guess it sounds too perfect because Mr London is the right man for you. I believe he is your husband from above!!!

Since you speak so well, use that one month period you'll spend with him to help him improve. The guy loves you, so he obviously won't pick a fight if you tell him how uncomfortable his speech makes you. So long as you don't make it sound like an insult, then he'll listen to you and get a tutor to help him improve.

Also.. since you're so worried it all seems too good to be true, then the fact that he doesn't speak good English is enough to show you the guy ain't flawless.

So keep calm and enjoy the man! And please oo stop acting too 'holy nwejerish', if he wants to spend on you or buy you things, please let him! Who good girl epp? Lol

As for Mr Canada, cancel that one off your list Asap! Bad news!!!

Nonye Inspired (James Bond's Girl) said...

Dear Poster: Mr X should be rated X cos he is already an X and should remain there..why not Go for Mr Y, with what you have said, he is a very nice man and ready to do anything for you. The English part is so easy to handle at least he knows basic English words. why not encourage him to go for English classes (Night classes) to brush up his English and you are good to go..Secondly, Pray very well to be sure he is really your man..All the best

Teacher Queen said...

Poster Stella is right, once you start complaining about good or bad English just know that you are not in love yet. That's an excuse when you are not so into a guy. when the love is from your heart and he asks you a question like this ''Baby did you went to church?'' You will respond, ''Yes darling I wented in the morning'', the love ana aga aga mehn.

But if you don't like him, hmmmmmmm, all your friends will hear that Emeka's English is bad.

Anonymous said...

His English does not matter, u can help him get better
All d Best

Atheist. said...

I hardly comment on chronicles as such, whr you're stuck b/w 2 guys & ure indecisive... cus at the end of the day you'd follow ur heart, no matter what anyone says here, youre the one wearing the shoe & u alone know where it pinches.

Winter is Coming...
And John Snow turns to a white walker...

barbie micheal said...

Aunty madam, you're not desperate abi? Then take your time, you just met these people, spend more time with each of them before getting confused.

Adanne said...

Who Canadian citizen epp?
Focus on the guy that is willing to settle down, that way you have a lot of time to get to know him. I think going there in December is a good idea, as you need to spend real time with him.

Don't let the gifts deceive you oo, shine your eyes well well, men can be sweet until they get what they want. Goodluck

Blackberry said...

At ur age u are still confused? Are u dat naive u don't know d Canadian has a wife or a serious madam at 49 hence he don't wanna get too close to family?

If good English is ur criteria for choosing a partner, then choose d unavailable Canadian, cheers!

OlaGold (add up 58BF8F56 for 18-24k raw gold dust and bar) said...

Na wa for this poster o. Na English u wan chop? Abeg begin to see the basket mouth in him jare. Teach am oyinbo if you fit. No go 'juns' yourself o.

Eh en, that yesterday chronicles be dey make me think and wonder o. I still don't understand when ladies say they fainted during sex. I just don't understand. Is it the real 'faint as in daku' or which one. It's in this blog I read ' I fainted during sex , he poured water on me to revive me'. Just wondering what kind of sex will make a lady faint to the extent of pouring water to revive the lady. Is it that these ladies didn't know that they are about fainting or they just want to taste a mini death or what? Lastly why is it the ladies that faint during sex, why are the guys not fainting?
What do I know sef?
I'm out!

Monkeynofine said...

U already know who ur heartbeat for. For the London guy is lit!

bukola fagbemiro said...

Aunty Stella just spoke my mind. I have no addition or subtractions

stunning slim shady said...

London guyyyyyyyyyyyyyy all d way.


Commit evry evry to God still

Madam Small Chops said...

I feel Mr X will give you peace because he is mature and has a grown daughter already so he will take care of you and your kids but MR Y seems to be almost perfect and I like the fact that he opened up to you that means he can be trusted.

I cant pick for you oooo, think am well and decide.you will live with the consequences of your choice either ways, All the Best.

Anonymous said...

Who English epp?
If we have accepted Linda and her bad English, pls accept the bros. We are off to London!

Nne, don't say no to any gift, if he wants to buy a car, let him go ahead!

peace maker said...

Good to know

Adibuah Felix said...

English is not and should not be a yard-stick when looking out for qualities in someone. It is not our language. Proudly Naija

Lizzy Berry said...

I know ur mind already... U love the London guy? Right? Go for him but please be observant also.... U can also teach him how to speak and other tenses.... Luck!

Mao Akuh said...

You dey complain o.

They are many nah, some of my Yoruba graduate friends will say..."I'm beginning to having headache," "I'm feeling sleeping" na graduate o. Free the guy and pray for God's direction.

Please leave the first one for he has a white oyibo wife there.

Pam said...

I prefer the london guy. if you really love him, English no be problem

SUNSHINE said...

"This is the two I really like".
You are not better than him.
If you love him, help him improve.

Victoria's Heart said...

Remember that sign on quote Stella put here sometime ago? It said..

"When God wants to bless you, he puts a person in your life. When devil wants to destroy you, he also puts a person in your life. The wisdom is knowing who sent who.."

My dear if you ask me, i think Mr Canada was sent by the devil while Mr London was sent from heaven to you! So it's up to you to use your wisdom and choose the one you want.

But in my opinion, bad English is not and should not be a hindrance to your marriage to the man. It's a problem that can easily be fixes with help from the right people. Tell him to employ a suitor to help him out with that little.. then if you love him like he loves you. Go ahead with the marriage plans, you can do traditional here, then do white and court wedding with him over there. A word is enough for the wise.. good luck.


Victoria's Heart

Kiks said...

I totally agree with Stella at the risk of BVs saying I (we on this blog) don't have a mind of our own. If you can get past the spoken English which I doubt I can if I were in your shoes, go for him. Mr Canada screams red flag in all angles. I also pray he remains so. BTW BVs have you noticed converts almost always make the best Christians?

Loveme Jeje said...

hahahaha who english epp? Please wait for a USA man with english, then you can decide.

You have given us 2, remain the 3rd one.

Dont go and marry uk man with pidgin english. Afterall na dem full london, so no shakings for you.

Anonymous said...

So the London guy is God fearing, knows the word, prayerful, a good Christian, as well as a devoted gbensher... BVNs una matter tire me abeg

GORRETI BAE said...

Hahahahaha... Lmfao.. Aunty marry him oo so Dat he will CHARGER ur life.. Bad English I know is a turn off, but it's no criteria to determine a good or bad man. Better get serious with him cos at 31,u are already a gwegz

Sewa Joseph said...

christian knows the word and sex was explosive. interesting!!!

Chike TEFLON said...

Why is it that all the ladies that writes chronicle are always good looking?
Im not understanding.
Can someone make me comprehend why they are all beautiful with illustrative elaboration so that it will be crystal clear for my comprehension.
Madam beauty Queen, just go for Y-axis. I think he is far better than X-axis. But don't forget to be humming London fever by African China as you are going to Y-axis.
This is the only compass I can give you.

Chike TEFLON said...

Why is it that all the ladies that writes chronicle are always good looking?
Im not understanding.
Can someone make me comprehend why they are all beautiful with illustrative elaboration so that it will be crystal clear for my comprehension.
Madam beauty Queen, just go for Y-axis. I think he is far better than X-axis. But don't forget to be humming London fever by African China as you are going to Y-axis.
This is the only compass I can give you.

Monkeynofine said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Is it a sin to gbensh? Is it ur SIN ? hope u sinless?

Isaacson said...

Aunty stella spoke my mind..im even shocked that for d first time I agree completely with her advice

Abenaa said...

I've never seen anyone carry English to the bank and withdraw money or anyone eaten English yet when he's hungry....

OlaGold (add up 58BF8F56 for 18-24k raw gold dust and bar) said...

LMAO

marriedchick said...

I think the fact that he is still an illegal citizen should be given a thought just in case trump wins the election... how come u have plenty suitors but the only two u like are based abroad? maybe its a coincidence but I find that a bit fishy...and please I don't know how old u are but the 49years old man is old for a single lady who has never been married or given birth.. think of ur first child when he/she turns 20, the dad is already 70years... biko get sense and choose wisely in Jesus name... #hugs

Atheist. said...

English epp Wole Soyinka oh.....
When ure in Paris, and u have to buy an ornament from an English speaking guy, you'd be surprised how he'd slash the price for u, just cus of English..... Lol.

Dewdrop said...

I think I like the London guy since you have narrowed all your suitors to just this two. I always say it's better for a man to love a woman more than the woman does. Thou personally I won't be caught dead with a man who cant speak fluently. I will suggest you spend more time with him and get to know him more. You just might be able to get over the whole him not being able to speak well Issh. Besides who English help? But also do pray about it. You didn't say if he already has his residency. In all u wish you all the best and may the good lord lead you to make the right decision.

Abenaa said...

This same person if you give her a German, Japanese or Russian she will marry, so i wonder why she is complaining about English....

Ada Nwanbueze said...

Abi oh Anonymous who English epp sef? Sey e go put food for table or money for account?

Sewa Joseph said...

@victoria's heart, an illegal immigrant cant get married here neither can visitors at least court wedding anyway. Being a worker in church does not take you to heaven, bad english does not constitute a bad husband.

brown said...

Madam poster,be looking for English there,you see someone that is showing you love and u are confused, I pity u,as I am her if I see that kind of man I will grab him,u better don't use your hand to chase a good man,abeg make I waka go look wetin I dey cook

Atheist. said...

Lol..... His dick speaks English fluently to her understanding while inside her & also he has a clean accent when moaning in pleasure, so it works for her.

Shennel Hyacinth said...

Go away πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

DoppelgΓ€nger said...

*you're not scared
*Over there legally

Ehi Human hairs and handmade wigs London said...

Are you sure this London suitor dosent have children elsewhere? I don't trust long distance relationship if you get married to him, where will you live as a couple. I doubt you will be able to see past his bad spoken English. My dear follow your heart.

Anonymous said...

lmaooo!!

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Go for the london guy. The only problem i have is that his stay is not legal.
All the best

Anonymous said...

It's so obvious the Canada guy has no plans for you so why do you want to tag along when there's another man who is ready to give you his all, give the london guy your all dear. For all your office and household needs, whatever you need we are available to take off the stress from you. Ibadan mobile shopper 08150833829.

Jennifer Ojay said...

Canada guy already has baggage nine d guy

Asa nwa said...

Me sef tire for the matter πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Akinbobola Korede said...

Go for d Londoner

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Exactly. His stay should be her major problem not spoken English but she's ignoring that because of money.

Robyna Wenger said...

Forget about Mr Canada. I hate long distance relationships plus in 5 years you guys have never met? If he really liked you he wld have asked you to come visit ages ago. From your description you both are doing ok so money isn't a problem. Also as a citizen he could have visited you if he wanted. It seems likes he likes having you to gist with but I don't think he wants you as a wife or around him constantly. Some guys abroad are like that. They want someone to reminisce about Nigeria with. Even if he likes you, 5 years is a long time to have cold feet. He is coming to Nigeria to visit his father not to marry you.
As for the UK illegal immigrant you said there's chemistry and you seem to like him. He doesn't have much, yet he is generous. (Hopefully he wont change)I doubt its possible to marry someone without a flaw. It's just that in you own case its obvious. Just remember it could be worse than bad english. Tbh I don't think i can cope with that but I guess when you reach a certain age somethings are more important than others. The only problem is that he is an illegal immigrant so he cant offer you stability. How soon will it take him to get his papers? Hope he won't need oyibo wife? What happens if he gets deported to Nigeria pennyless? These are serious questions you must answer before thinking of marrying him. Also I hope you took emergency contraceptives cos that one is another chronicles loading if you didnt. Finally, must it be Mr Canada or Mr U.K? Get a Mr Nigeria.

Who'sThatGirl doubleuteegee said...

*Wetin concern the man concern Trump?

*The 49 yr old has a 16 yr old

IJAY said...

Poster when you get married to him, you can teach him the all the English you know, including dictionary tooo, for now if you really loves him follow heart.

Martins Aboy said...

@poster;if i was to make the choice on your behalf,i would go for the london guy..and my reason?? LOVE CONQUERS ALL!!

He doesn't speak well right?? Then that isnt an issue!! Cos its never too late to learn..
Perhaps,he has A good job;and you ve confessed already that he is A GOOD CHRISTIAN and TAKES CARE OF YOU..and that is what actually matters dear!! TRUE LOVE and the FEAR OF GOD!!

Except you have another picture of your own perfect guy;then this here is A good man..

LOVE FOR YOUR SPOUSE and THE FEAR OF GOD is what actually matters..and we have it here starring at you..

I understand that every human loves A spouse who can express him/herself fully when in public;but dearie that isnt enough reason not to consider A good man/woman..

This is just my 2cent tho,but know that finally,you still have the choice to make here...

#Goodluck

@MARTINS ABOY

Anonymous said...

my documents are still in home office. I work and I earn over 2k in a month but I don't do drugs. not everybody living illegally and earning good are into crime. when God is with you, He is with you in every situation. poster hope you are not talking about M sha. every description points to him. be careful and may God guide your decisions.

Anonymous said...

I have come to respect your opinion and the sort of advice you dish out. This is the most reasonable anyone has said to this poster.

Anonymous said...

A good Christian, knows the word, pray for your people BUT A GOOD GBENSER! Just Negodu! I raise Beyonce hand for you. Better marry your London guy....By the way, For BV marriedchik who is concerned about Trump winning election cos the guy is illegal citizen, how does LONDON take Resemble USA? I am not understanding..... I believe it must be a sleep of finger

Anonymous said...

You this gurl just don't care

Robyna Wenger said...

Back in Uni my neigbour's cousins fainted during sex. Apparently it happened during the 5th round. The dude ran out and was screaming that she wasnt breathing. Her neigbour wickedly call her father.

Who'sThatGirl doubleuteegee said...

The fact that his English is major factor shows you're attracted to and love him because he is loaded otherwise you would have underrated him and drop him like a hot potato.

Olowolayemo mehnnn

kike Bunmi said...

Dear poster, with aΔΊl the good diction Nigerian' get e no take us out of reccession. I pray you won't go to relegation as you they find perfect English man wey go do u anyhow. May God donald trump deliver you from good diction, Go to Dubai and hear Arabs speak English with their wealth you will faint...na who good diction epp!! Even you sef dey put Canadian citizen( use Canadian or Canada citizen).πŸ˜† u see say nobody perfect.

Anonymous said...

London guy is your best bet, tell him to enrol in an adult English class. To perfect his grammar, ask him how he is planning to legalise his status in the UK. Don't have kids until he has his indefinite leave to remain,if you choose to do get ready for the wahala.

Anonymous said...

Lmao

Robyna Wenger said...

Like!!!! I just unlook.

Robyna Wenger said...

Trump is an American. The UK guy is in the UK.😐

Anonymous said...

He loves God, he knows the Word of God.... then he had premarital sex with u. I'm not judging you oh, just stop confusing us.

Anonymous said...

go back and read, then calm down to understand what you have read then come back and advice the poster biko.

Egwuonwu Bertha said...

D UK guy sounds too good to be true, but if I were u I would enjoy d money while it last. Shine ur eyes babe.

Nkylorah said...

Dear poster,will good English put food on your table? That Canadian guy is a No No No,forget good English and think about marrying the London guy. You can teach him good English*as an English teacher you is(in Jennifa's Is)Goodluck and also pray about it

Tilly said...

If not for his dads burial,the Canadian guy wont be coming to see u. Hes not coming for u but for the burial. Let the London guy enrol in a language school if thats the only problem.
How is that you fall for guys that are abroad?

Anonymous said...

Why do folks especially women deceive themselves and think they are deceiving God?

Oh he is nice and cool,
a fantastic Christian who loves God,
a worker in his church
Knows the word a lot
Calls my mom and prays for her

. . . we started kissing and one thing led to another
And we made love and it was explosive; huh?

Girl, you made "fornication" not love! This man has not paid your bride price or did I miss something? Which God is he praying to; the "god of this world; the one who tricked Eve to eat the forbidden fruit?"

Wake up girl. The foundation of God stands sure with this inscription; the Lord knows those that are his and let anyone who names the name of the Lord depart from iniquity.

And mind you, you and this man are "stealing sex" and appearing pious before everyone in the Church. When you marry him, what makes you think that he will not steal sex from other women and hide it from you? Wake up woman! Both you and this man are in error; grave and grievous one!

Shennel said...

Lmao

Jenny zee said...

She can't go for the London guy, he has no papers nd she would regret distant marriage or whatever they want to go into, f guy needs someone to help him legalise.

Jenny zee said...

Maybe he is working with someone's paper but my dear, don't marry him ooo cos u will regret it nd u go just hang cos he can't travel to Nigeria and he won't leave uk to come to Nigeria to start looking for a job, better listen to me or end up with another chronicle, I stay in d uk and I know what am talking about

SDK MISTRESS said...

i dont feel right about both of them. take things slow with oga London and ask the necessary questions to know why he is still living illegally there. if he can offer to buy you a car then he can foot necessary docs to make him legal
hope he has his priorities right sha



monkeynofine all these blessings you are sharing biko tell me the pencil i can use to draw your attention to my side o. HB OR 2B?

Anonymous said...

Dear poster, the London man seems truthful, he told u the true situation of his stay there, I like men that lay thr cards on d table, u need to find out how he intends to get his papers or do u plan to stay in a distance marriage whr u ll be visiting, don't start what you can't finish o. Because he has already told u he can't come back and u can only visit, don't get carried away with the goodies just yet. He might ve good intentions for you but can u cope with being a visiting wife?

SDK MISTRESS said...

Abenaa true talk

Jenny zee said...

Queen he is illegal nd she won't be happy ooo, poster if u like go marry am na u sabi, he can't go to Nigeria nd u would be d one going there nd u don't even have working permit, u just have a visitor's visa, I pity u in advance cos I don't know how I want to run that marriage, he can take care of u cos he is using someone's paper to work

Anonymous said...

Martins Aboy,I always look out for ur comments...so matured & always on point. πŸ‘πŸ‘

Jenny zee said...

Poster ask d guy how he intends to legalise his stay in d uk nd how d marriage would run, would he later come to Naija or how? Hmmmmmmmmmmmm, only people who resides in d uk would understand what am saying sha

Anonymous said...

Na this kind advice dey put women into wahala..we haven't gotten over the domestic violence issue of today o. Poster what kind of work does an illegal immigrant do to have such money in London? Have you investigated? Look well before you leap oo. Everybody loves a good life but being good till the end is what we want. Tackle any bad sign you see now so you dont come back with chronicles. When i say bad signs i am not talking about his spoken English because that is not much of a problem. Try not to dwell solely on this kind of advice by this chi whatever..it reeks of naievity and gold digging. She is a runs girl from all indication and if you ain't one, look well.

chiphanie said...

Lmao @ I wented in the morning.This your comment cracked me up
Have a friend like that too. He's everything a lady could wish for but his english is nothing to write home about. Funny enough am used to him that I forgot he speaks bad english.

prettyi said...

You should be more worried about how he has money to spend, and not process his paper to stay legally. English can be taught.

Anonymous said...

"Prayerful fornicator" what an oxymoron!
Nonsense and ingredients. Mscheewww
Continue.

Amebo said...

The thing tire me

TUSH BABY said...

At your age you are still looking out for a man that speaks well, go ahead with the second guy since ur options are exhausted and you might not get lucky with another soon

Anonymous said...

This same person will call you a gwegz next year. Go for the London guy. He his single cause his hustling. If the source of his money is clean please go ahead jare. However you need to hel0 this guy invest his money here in Nigeria

Anonymous said...

Who English epp. I married a graduate from Babcock however when we dated his spoken English was smh. Now he speaks well and even when he does speak the "foreign language" occassionally I usually don't notice.

Jan said...

Will you be my friend...I could use a sensible being like you. 331DA7D5. Holla

Anonymous said...

Atheist I like your online personality. Keep it up.

Anonymous said...

You are obviously still young and naive if not you will know better than to give this advice.

Anonymous said...

Having a car aint even a luxury it's a neccessity. However please don't collect it if you aint ready to settle. That will be too selfish of you. Don't inherit generational curse for your unborn generation.

Henny said...

Teach him how to speak English and marry him, make you rest for the matter.

MUMMY SINACH said...

Babes please go for the London guy.
With time you can 'changer ' his English.
He seems cool.

Abenaa said...

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Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

I agree about every lady having their season joor and I think I like the London guy. But this one he's illegal? What would you do to become legal nau? has he given you any plan towards that? Before one day they just deport you people and that time knowing the word and having a good heart won't help oh. Ask for a long term plan as you WHERE YOU BOTH WILL LiVE
Forget Mr. Canada Biko!

Anonymous said...

Both options are bad. You want to marry someone living illegally in UK. This day and age? How will he invite you over without papers abeg. You want to come here and work with which papers? At 30 you want to go to UK and hide? What will make You want to marry an illegal citizen in 2016? You do not know the meaning of suffer until you marry that man and move to London to see first class suffer in this cold. The other guy in Canada is coming to Nigeria to have sex with you and leave. At 30 you shouldn't be wasting your time on long distance relationship if the persons status is illegal. Look for someone in Nigeria abeg.

Jenny zee said...

Thank u!! She doesn't know the problem she would get herself to marrying an illegal immigrant

Anonymous said...

Why do folks especially women deceive themselves and think they are deceiving God?

Oh he is nice and cool,
a fantastic Christian who loves God,
a worker in his church
Knows the word a lot
Calls my mom and prays for her

. . . we started kissing and one thing led to another
And we made love and it was explosive; huh?

Girl, you made "fornication" not love! This man has not paid your bride price or did I miss something? Which God is he praying to; the "god of this world; the one who tricked Eve to eat the forbidden fruit?"

Wake up girl. The foundation of God stands sure with this inscription; the Lord knows those that are his and let anyone who names the name of the Lord depart from iniquity.

And mind you, you and this man are "stealing sex" and appearing pious before everyone in the Church. When you marry him, what makes you think that he will not steal sex from other women and hide it from you? Wake up woman! Both you and this man are in error; grave and grievous one!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm...He's on fire for God, yet you two had sex with no guilty conscience whatsoever. Na wa ooo. He is even inviting you to come and stay so you can continue. Please if you love him do and marry ooo. Pls if you live home you can work things out. But to be honest, you don't know when he will be given a stay there. Investigate his source of wealth too.

Anonymous said...

Jenny zee why are you menstruating under ppl's comment. Leave her life those not start and end in UK. Poster go and marry jare no man is perfect

Anonymous said...

AT SOME POINT, I WONDERED IF I WAS AT SDK BLOG. IS THIS THE CHRISTIANITY THAT SDK TEACH YOUNG PEOPLE IN HER BLOG; TO "BE A GOOD CHRISTIAN AND HAVE EXPLOSIVE SEX". I MEAN YOU DID NOT MAKE ANY COMMENT ABOUT THAT IN YOUR ADVICE. WHAT IS THE DEFINITION OF FORNICATION AGAIN?

A'isha B said...

Please relax a bit and slow down all marriage intentions. Concentrate more on knowing this man and most importantly know his family.......let the family thing not be one sided. Get to know all his friends in the UK and if possible sef let him take you to his work place. DO NOT RUSH ANYTHING WITH HIM and I sincerely do pray it all pass and be true. May God be with you sister.

Trey Mama said...

Hahahahahahahaha! @ I wented in the morning.

Miss Ferragamo said...

And why aren't you worried about his illegal stay? Or do you plan on living in Nigeria? If you're sure Y is clean,I'll advice you go for him.

Anonymous said...

Poster, He knows the word... and then "one thing led to the other we kissed and made love (protected sex)and it was explosive". I think you are enjoying the explosion and the free gifts and caring. Don't worry, Continue. Very soon you will write another chronic chronicles of stories that touch.

Trey Mama said...

Who calls herself ugly???
Why should any woman see herself as ugly???
Some comments though...

Mosi Jubelo said...

Atheist, lol

Mosi Jubelo said...

London guy it is
Case closed.
Even though he sounds too perfect.

Mosi Jubelo said...

Lol

Mosi Jubelo said...

Hmmmmmm.....

Anonymous said...

illegal guy from london is loving you when there are girls with papers he can love stop wasting your time.

crystal said...

All I see is the London guy. He takes good care of and loves you obviously. There is nothing wrong with his English provided you understand him. My dear, you can't have it all. Do not allow English that is not your fathers' language take happiness away from you. I see you both together already.

stick with him and correct him with love, with time he will perfect it.

my only issue is his illegal status. Be wise

Anonymous said...

Please what is BVN? Can you guys stop saying BVN??? Its BV nau haba. Blog Visitor! What has Bank Verification Number got to do with it???

Anonymous gangster. said...

God bless you anonymous 16:07! God fearing fornicator! We like to indirectly mock God. Churches have edited premarital sex out of sermons. Hmmmmmm

I'veBeenTouchedByAnAngelWithLove said...

I see most people prefer the London guy, I kind of prefer him too but let's not forget that all that glitters is not gold and remember that nursery rhyme " London bridge is falling down my fair lady" lol
And did you just complain about his English? Yes you did!! Calm down babe, I counted nothing less than three bad English from your write up and you didn't beg/ask us to forgive your typo, meaning nobody is perfect.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

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SWAG LAFRESH said...

My friend had this yoruba boo during NYSC, the guy English na die but he cash dey make up for the bad English.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Hahahahaha

Hers is written English.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Trump for UK?

SWAG LAFRESH said...

She mentioned that his stay is illegal. I think that should be her convern not oyibo

Jenny zee said...

Ok anony let her marry d illegal guy lol..the same thing I will tell my blood sister is what I am menstruating under people's comment ooo

Anonymous said...

Abeg free us na so we dey call am. This s hiw we know new visitors. We BVN know ourselves. BVN 4 life!!!!!!

charitybino said...

This may not be simple as it seems.

I love doppelganger said...

U see why I love u? Always on point.

akinmayowa victoria said...

He's a scam

Who'sThatGirl doubleuteegee said...

Hahahaha @ the foreign lang.

Who'sThatGirl doubleuteegee said...

Exactly @ Teacher Queen
She's considering him because of the loaded pocket. Can't you see the only question and worries she has is his bad grammar? Something that can be fixed

General Zod said...

Two liabilities is all I see.

General Zod said...

Two liabilities is all I see.

Who'sThatGirl doubleuteegee said...

Lol

Mimi....#inyhurface# said...

Abeg where are you meeting all these people. .hook me up 😐😐😐😐😐

Anonymous said...

Is it by force to speak English.? English is only a language..smfh..Poster..can u speak Deutsch or French.?

Munch Mee party foods and small chops. 08033833239,08189706279. said...

Exactly, I personally cannot stand a guy who speaks bad English. A big turn off for me

Anonymous said...

Hahhahahhahhaha I wented in the morning,love ana aga aga mehh,u funny die I swear

Anonymous said...

Biko Jenny eze take several seats abeg,most of my people in Uk were staying illegally,but now they all av their permanent stay with their hubby's too,soo what are u saying?they are mature adults and should know about that biko,go and sleep

Madea said...

Robyna: Touchè
It truly doesn't have to be any of X and Y.

Anonymous said...

Don't you know that sometimes in cases of being illegal abroad, it doesn't matter what you do or how much money you have. Some situations or cases are hopeless and the best thing to do it leave that country!!!
Or return to Nigeria!
Otherwise you can die there as illegal or be deported whenever arrested or caught by the authorities.
The UK & many countries in Europe is like that. The US too.
Canada unless when you have been rejected and you commit a serious crime, then they'll never allow you again to legalize your status, and you have no other choice but to leave the country.

Anonymous said...

The poster is knowingly putting her life in high jump, with unsettling situations of looking for husband in men who are either unavailable and unhinged or clearly vulnerable to loose big time in life at the end of the day. Ur caught being illegal, u resources and everything can be wiped off in a twinkle of eye. Staying abroad and getting old without paper is one example of cursed life and hopelessness.

Why must you only "like" or consider men abroad for marriage ?
Don't you see men there in nigeria???
You go wound...oh!!!
Canada have so many old nigerian men and women looser and twised, singles and wasted people like that. Don't let them use you for an experiment!!!
Dem go take ur head crack coconut, when they bring you in as a spouse or go and marry you!!!
Or even worse theyll rubbish or abandon u at the airport upon arrival, that's a canada people way. Very popular thing that they do all the time in Canada.
Don't go near them if you're desperate or vulnerable and have a weakness that can be taken advantage off.

Anonymous said...

He is doing fraud, yes odu lon se....looking for acct for pple & u ve already painted a good pics of him, u just waiting for bv's. To second it for u, oga €2k,weldone enugo?

Anonymous said...

New visitor keh, if I slap you

leema said...

@Tilly, may be it is her destiny/part in life to fall for guys abroad.
I met a lady in my Aunts home, let me say she is my aunts younger friend.The lady is always meeting expartriates,their relationship get serious to the point of marriage then packs up. She works in an MNE.
I was surprised she meets them and they fall in love with her because she isnt pretty, may be to me , besdes in some issues eho those pretty help . Ones destiny is ones destiny

Anonymous said...

How do you fix bad english? I'm kinda in a fix like dis. One speaks good english,has big cassava, just starting life but has cheating tendencies. The other very bad english, has micro cassava, can spoil silly n has mega box.

Anonymous said...

Poster, does your UK guy hope to get his papers before your 5years visa expires? If no, will you still fill single on your form when you want to reapply for visa or fill married and per adventure they call you for interview (randomly selected) and ask where your husband live, will you say UK?
Also you cannot tell them at the UK immigration that you are coming to see your husband so how do you plan to manage the single and married stories?
Someone had her 10 years visa cancelled at UK immigration with 5 year ban because she slipped and told them she was married while she filled single in her visa application (hubby was still married to someone else for papers). She was sent back on the next available plane.
some people are good at these kind of stuff but I wont advise you to do it. Let him sort his papers out before you marry him or relocate back to Nigeria.

Anonymous said...

Let me tell you straight since you don't want to tell yourself the truth.

- The guy in Canada is married or has a long term love arrangement. In 5 years, he's had no reason to visit Nigeria? OK I can accept that, but his parent is "sick" & he's still waiting 3 months to travel? OK. Let me tell you, he's likely visited Nigeria in the years you've known him but didn't see you probably because of his wife.
Your London love is an illegal immigrant making money from fraudulent means and you're embarrassed by him but still think marriage is worth considering but you want to convince us that you're not desperate. You are. There's nothing wrong with wanting to settle down and be coupled up but when you start pretending it's not what you want you end up in messed up situations like these.
My advice, free then both. Be honest about what you need and want in a relationship and only give your attention and time to those who can do that for you.

Anonymous said...

Make I just see this type man the English is not my tin but the love...... she is lucky. .

Anonymous said...

Lmao at "I'll charger your life". Sweetheart my fiance is just like him, he is very caring and can spark English anyhow but I don't about that care anymore. Initially it was a turn off plus I thought he was too good to be true I swear I almost refused him thank goodness I didn't. When we starting courting I realised he wasn't faking it, he is extremely nice and provides for my needs 100%. Infact last year it was through him I relocated to the US. I've got no regrets whatsoever after all my exes wey sabi grammar pass soyinka sef na only grammar dem sabi feed person. You should give him a try and like stella said make him your personal comedian just like mine does

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