This story will blow your mind away....The way Mills and Boons used to affect Ladies back in the days...
A tad bit longish but please stick with me.
You know it's funny how you get to meet 'him' and you never know he is the one until...love happens. Lol. It's amazing how two paths destined to be together cross. The way I see it, it's not a co-incidence; it's God-incidence. *wink*
My baby (that’s what I call him plus other names shaa) and I met in the University (2002). He was in his 3rd year and I was in my 2nd. But our relationship didn't kick off until he was in his final year Masters and I, my final year Bsc.
2002: I was at a friend's birthday bash in school minding my own business when someone tapped my shoulder. I turned around to see this tall (6ft3'), handsome guy staring back at me, a gentle smile playing on his lips.
The place was noisy so he motioned we stepped outside.
"My name is J..., " he introduced himself. He had seen me earlier at a school fellowship program where I had rendered an acappella song and coincidentally he loves Acappella.
"Do you have any Acappella tapes I can borrow?" he inquired.
"Oh no, I don't " I replied "Even the ones I have I borrowed them from a friend."
That was how my acquaintance with J started. From then on, for the next 3 yrs, it was a casual hello-hi affair between us. No attraction at first sight. He was merely 'the tall fine guy' I saw around school, nothing more.
But something attracted me to his personality - his love for God and his charisma! Seriously, the sexiest man alive is a man who loves God (I know so!)
Though I couldn’t describe J as a friend then, neither did I know much about him, I was drawn to his simplicity and Christlike nature. I had a lot of respect for him.
2006: One day, as usual, I stood in an uncompleted building in school very early in the morning praying for 'my husband', whoever he was. Lol.
Then I told the LORD, "Father, you know it will be funny if I eventually get to meet my husband and it happens to be someone I had always known.." and I laughed at this. I'm sure my Father laughed too knowing what He was cooking up for me.
J and I sometimes meet around school but on this particular period I noticed that I seemed to have started developing feelings for J!
Huh?! Feelings for someone I barely knew? Where did it come from?! It was shocking because I had never felt like this for him or for any guy for that matter. I had always liked J but not like 'that'... You-know-whatta-mean?
One day I saw him at a distance and there was that feeling again and I told the LORD,
"Lord, I don't know what this feeling I have for this guy is all about but if it won't yield into anything, please take it away. Why torture me?"
After that, the feeling disappeared. I completely forgot that I ever felt anything for J but when I think of it now, I know it was the Holy Spirit saying to me, "He is the one! That’s the answer to your prayer!" It was a sign.
2007: Fast forward to my final year, I arrived our fellowship venue a bit too early. Suddenly, I had a strong urge to step outside. I obeyed. As I stood outside gazing at the stars and praying silently in my heart, I saw someone walking up the road.
I could only make out this tall silhoutte advancing. But as he drew closer I saw it was J. He was just coming from church. There he promised he would visit me and after a long while he did in April. I felt so honored.
We chatted about a lot of things. We flowed so well really. I found he had a great sense of humor, likes working out (his physique says so) and was very matured.
I like men who who behave maturedly. J was a typical proof that age doesn't define maturity. He was just 25 then but behaved like he was in his 30s.
We began hanging out a lot after his visit. People saw us around school together and automatically knew we were an item because J wasn't the one to be seen around with girls so for him to be seen with me practically every day spoke a lot of volumes.
On our first date, we discussed about the future and what our passions were. It made us see our compatibilities.Over the course of time we noticed we thought so much alike that we could even complete each others sentences. Lol.
Our attraction and friendship blossomed into love almost immediately but I didn't want to read meaning into what I felt for him or what I perceived he felt for me until he defined where we were headed with the relationship. We simply enjoyed the warmth of falling in love and getting to know each other better.
With my emotions in check, I was determined to let God lead me and not my emotions. I wanted His will in this and if God was in this, everything would pan out as He planned it. Allowing God direct me, I knew I couldn’t make a mistake in choosing my life partner.
One day, as I lay in my room in the hostel, the Holy Spirit asked me, "If J proposes, will you marry him?"
I gave an unwavering YES. There was no iota of doubt. With J, I had peace. Another sign.
JULY 21 2007: 4 months after we kindled our relationship, we took a walk one night and J popped the big question. I was thrilled but I kept my cool.
I simply asked him, "Why me?"
He gave me a satisfactory answer and I said yes! One thing he told me that night that has kept ringing in my ears all these years was, "We are going to be a unique couple." And so are we!
My baby and I had this habit of taking a long walk round the University at night. So this beautiful night, we were taking a stroll when we stopped for a bit and J took me into his arms. Turning my face towards his, he gave me a kiss (our very first kiss!). It was brief and sweet.
I couldn’t believe it. I just had the first kiss of my life shared with the man I love. The taste of that kiss lingered on my lips for a long time.
2010: 3 years later we got married. He was my first and I was his. 6 years on we are still crazy in love. In fact, na everyday the love dey increase sef.
By God's grace, our 6th year wedding anniversary is few days away this December with 3 gloriously beautiful children to show for it.
J told me later when he knew instantly that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me; it was that night he visited me in the hostel. According to my baby, he had always admired my personality a lot before then with no 'feelings' attached.
But he mentioned that the first time he felt an inclination towards me was when I rendered the acappella at the school fellowship.
While he listened to me singing, the Holy Spirit whispered to him, "This is your wife!" but he brushed off the thought as soon as it came. Lol. He didn't know who I was cos that was the first time he ever saw me. It must have been to him one of those crazy thoughts.
But God is a master planner always directing the path of His children even when we don't know it or understand it.
Seriously, J is amazing. I always say that God gave me more than I dreamed of. We just can't resist saying 'I love you' each day to each other.
And the PDA? Hahahaha! When are crazy in love, it reflects even in public. You just can't hide it.
I couldn’t have married anyone else. He remains the love of my life. It's exciting waking up by his side. He is what you call the typical handy man helping me out with the children and even chores! He is that simple and humble. He even cooks sometimes. Lol.
Has the journey been easy? No cos there is no marriage without its issues but putting God first and allowing Him lead us has kept us waxing stronger. We don't allow our trials bring us down rather they make us stronger and even more resilient.
Really, there are so many beautiful marriages out there. Please fear not if you are yet to be married. God created marriage to be enjoyed not endured. So I encourage everyone 'Do not keep God out of your life and your marriage. Put Him first.'
Even if you are going through stuff in your marriage, please try putting God first, and yes, watch WAR ROOM to learn how to prayerfully reclaim your marriage *sideeyes @ Stella* Lol
Prayer made in faith is powerful and God wants the best for you.
Love you all. There are so many amazing BVs on SDK. Make I no mention names.
God bless you Stella-licious *hugs*
*If not for a few things eh,I would have said this is one Mills and Boons i read years back!..Sweet story meeeeen.
WAR ROOM?*side eyes right back!
Now let me ask my mum questions (according to some blog visitors)
Please how do you hear the holy spirit speak to you...do you hear any voice at all or you assume the thought that comes to your mind is the holy spirit?I ask this question cos a lot of people have missed it thinking the voice they 'heard' is that of the Holy spirit.I ask this seriously HOW DO YOU HEAR THE HOLY SPIRIT SPEAK TO YOU.