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Friday, 19 May 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LOVE DOESNT LIVE HERE ANYMORE....

Good day madam Stellz, i love your blog so much, but without wasting your time and people reading let me go straight to the point. So I have been married for 2 yrs now, I have a baby boy. I am a Lagos babe born and bred in gidi, but fortunately and unfortunately I fell in love with a guy who t resides in ekiti.


To cut the long story short I have been living in ekiti for 2yrs now.though it's very difficult 'cos I am not used to their way of life and co..so here is the problem my husband had to travel to south Africa for 6 months, Stella do you believe that during this 6 months we fought through out, there were days he wouldn't even talk to me for 7 days, 7 days increased to 6 wks, in all honesty to God I was heartbroken N.b in this whole time he didn't send a dime to me or the baby, it was just me "ruffing" it up and down so my boy can at least eat, I was looking so tattered and rough cos I am a housewife..


I was wondering why a man that married me won't speak to me or his boy, reason for not speaking to me is because he said I should go back to where he married me instead of staying back in Lagos.


I said I can't go back and live alone in a state you brought me to, to cut the long story short he broke my heart and my love for him reduced drastically, along the line I met this caring and nice man who lives abroad, he has been so good to me and he actually healed me a bit and made me somehow fall in love with him, this guy in question is so comfy, religious and homely, while my husband is the opposite of all this I just listed..

Now my husband wants me back, I am in love with this God fearing new obodo oyinbo man, N.B I have made my decision to go with the obodo man because he made me see love from another angle..

Now my question to my dear bv is this..am I making a wrong move by going with this new man??? 


Or do I stay with a man who abandoned me for weeks and all of a sudden wants me back..thanks and God bless you.




143 comments:

Istanbul said...

BRB

Miss Ess said...

Hian! See devil see red sea. You would get your answer in the comment

Blackberry said...

Kai, why are you like this poster? Obodo oyinbo man that might be married? Which responsible man will lust after another man's wife? Go naaa, he will spread ya legs n fuck shege out of u n clean mouth. Better be wise o, lemme keep quiet,cos u have very light brain.

Anonymous said...

You mean the "obodo Oyibo" man is having sex with you and is "godly"? Or is he helping you for free?
Since when was pounding another man's wife become a godly character?
Please ladies, tell me the kind of bible you folks read
Madam, you are still married; honor the marital bed if you do not want to enter God's wrath!

Madam Small Chops said...

Hmnnnn this is deep, let me think about it .


What will I do if I find myself in yout situation?*Hands on jaw thinking*

Istanbul said...

GO BACK TO YOUR HUSBAND inugo, I don't see any issue here rather than you been the problem, you knew the state in which your husband reside before you got married to him why kicking against it now, and you saw all of the opposite character you claim to be seeing in husband before accepting to be his wife. You are just creating problems for yourself frankly speaking. You better go make peace in your home.

Anonymous said...

Madam, to go "Obodo Oyibo" dey hungry you sure?
There is a way that seems right to a person but the end of it is destruction and death
Madam, fix your home
It takes two to "fight"
But it can take one to decide to stop the fight; by backing off or submitting

Chike TEFLON said...

Poster 1st of all clear me if you are legally married or your estranged husband impregnated you and you started calling yourself his wife. I don't understand this your story of going to obodo oyibo guy without talking about divorce.

You are in love with money and Amurika *in Jennifer's voice *

GALORE said...

You no kuku take advise wen I go give you


So, I will say, follow your heart

You know what is good for you


Make the decision yourself





@Galore

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

My friend shut up, olosho married woman, did you not see his bad side before u married him, a God-fearing man will!Not fuck another man's wife, u were desperate for marriage na, u better yansh down in your husband's house, idiot.

phemmy said...

maam, your story is biased and incomplete.and besides u av decided to be with ur new Obodo man, what advise do you need again?

SWAG LAFRESH said...

I'm not married and in love with another.

I will pass

Anonymous said...

By the time you leave your husband and the obodo oyibo man finishes browsing and logs out; you will be dry and with no home

Greatlady. said...

Madam, I don't understand this your chronicle at all? What is marriage to you? Abi, are you dating your husband?
Define marriage then answer your chronicle yourself.
What do you even want BVs to tell you? To move in with OBodo Oyinbo(as you call am) so you come here and say SDK BVs broke your home.
You are under every obligation to obey your husband. Didn't you make friends in Ekiti? So within 6months of having issue with your husband, love have died and you want to move in with a new man you don't even know.
Madam, you are confused and I don't think you know what marriage is.

Minnie Rexpect said...

You didn't tell us if you divorced your husband before going out with the obodo oyinbo man.
You also said you've made up your mind to go with the obodo oyinbo man, you know what you want and have already made your choice. I personally don't think there's any use answering the questions because from all indication you don't want an advice.

All I see here is you looking for someone to help you assuage your guilt, you want to be able to reference SDK Bvs. #myopinion.

I am king EZE said...

Are you not an adult? You want us to give you the go ahead......whatever makes you happy mehnnn.

STARRY LARRY said...

Honestly I see no brain in what I just read




*Larry was here*

Sexy Bride said...

Poster follow your heart.

Anonymous said...

Ashawo housewife that wants validation for cheating on her husband.

GOONs Mi said...

Your marriage was dead on arrival......kindly divorce fayose's brotherπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.
Not because of obodo oyibo guy, but cos of your sanity.

But sister if your heart tells you obodo oyibo is genuine......go with him.
Life is too short to be frustrated.

RadioHead Steelheart said...

My Dear You have to settle yourself cause obviously you have issues..Why do u think it will work out with Obodo Oyinbo man?? My Dear Dont allow longer throat to worry and you are not single anymore to jump from one man to another, Remember you have a child, a son who u should be responsible for..You need to build yourself and stop limiting yourself to housewife and cause you are in Ekiti, you can make it anywhere in Nigeria if you are determined to..Why not try Hair dressing, sewing or selling food sef..There is nothing like menial jobs but menial minds..Start making things happen for YOU.

Secondly I think you are nagging your hubby, he is not a baby but an adult..Make requests to him and not demands..Sit down with him and talk to him, ask him how you can be a better wife to him and things u need to do to show that you love him and vice-versa..You both have to understand LOVE LANGUAGES..Your marriage is 2 years old which means there is hope for it to be better..Remember the grass is not always greener at the other side.. in fact a man who knows you are married and is still dating you doesnt mean well for you at all..

I recommend this book for you, it will help. UNDERSTANDING LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman..

sexy Daddy said...

Poster,here is my sincere advice for you.If you don't want or love the man again divorce him properly before making any decisions with the other obodo oyibo man.But let me ask ooo how are you sure of this your new man that you are falling for now?My dear sometimes we men can form lovy dovy in other to get between the kpomo.Look before you lip.I wish you goodluck..

Gbonju said...

How did you come about marrying an Ekiti man whom you don't love, I guess his job made u marry him.

Anonymous said...

Madam, pls make up with your husband. You should not have dated until you were officially separated or divorced from him. If he wants to make peace, I think you should give him a chance. Both families should come together and come to an agreement.

Dainty T said...

This your matter get as e be. I am not married yet, so not in the best position to offer you advice. But did you say the abroad man is God fearing??*scuffs* do not be deceived. A God fearing man would most likely not go after a married woman. Its like you've codedly decided to follow the man, you just need people here to support your decision. I honestly hope this decision should you choose to go with him does not come back to bite you in the arse. Reason am well madam.

La' Sunshine said...

Aunty your story is disjointed did you guys divorce or you're separated ? I don't understand this gist at all. Anyways your husband is not in love with you.

Atheist ™ said...

Before i comment, lady do u remember your vows? I mean the ones u took on the aisle.... "For better For worse"...

You married an uncaring man, how do u turn ur back on ur flesh n blood? Then sleep and snore.
Ofcourse misery loves company, so i can't blame you for allowing ur heart drift away, the human mind is designed to adapt to whichever changes thrown our way over a period of time, be it environmental, physical or emotional..... 6months is a long time for a housewife to be left alone, even if ure not entirely jobless, you'd somehw start giving in to compliments & passes made by colleagues, cus u lack passion in ur union. That being said, its time to go home & repair what was broken for 6months, not just for u but ur son as well.... But don't 4get to thank the other man profusely for keeping ur sanity in check.

Queen of England said...

Y do people keep saying'i was bred in blablabla'?are u an Animal?only Animals r bred please.

Arcadian Guy said...

This world is full of loss, and pain, and every imaginable form of suffering. The line between love and hate is thin, and I don’t know a single person who doesn’t know this firsthand. None of use needs to cross over, even though pain seems to drive us toward hatred. The desire to hurt others only makes us suffer more. Don’t follow it. Do bring light to the darkness.

TheLagosShopper(bags?shoes?laces?aso-oke?u get ur goods from lag?need a personal shopper?bride&groom? What can't we source for? Lagos to anywhere in/out of naija,07030493148! said...

Madam but you loved ur husband before u married him?you should have made up your mind when you got married about staying in ekiti,home is where the heart is shebI?why didn't u tell ur husband you would never enjoy ekiti?when you eventually get with the obodoyinbo guy and you begin to see his flaws too will u stay?it is well with you o!!!!

Rowland Dominic said...

One problem of hearing from one side of the story is, you don't get to know what could have made the other party act the way he did. My advice to you Madam Poster is that reconcile with your husband. Yes Marriage is not a do or die thing he was so wrong to have not cared for you and your child a a particular time you needed him the most and that I won't blame him for because I know not what his reasons were but as the saying goes the devil you know is better than the Angel you don't know. This days most persons quote the Bible from A to Z yet they beat their wives/GF behind closed doors.

Anonymous said...

ASHEWO LO FE SEH !!!(NA PROSTITUTE WEY U BE YOU WAN GO BACK TO) WITH ALL DIS UR

XKUSES!! YOU WAN DEY BORN UPANDAN LIKE PIG SEH?? U HIA OBODO OYINBO AND YOUR CLITORY

STAND LIKE HORNY MAD WOMAN BREAST....!

KWANTINU ...NOT TODAY MARRIED WOMAN DON BE OLOSHO.

GUYS PLEASE ALWAYS DONT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE WITH ALL THIS JEZEBELLA PROSTITUTES

EVERYWHERE OO.

Blondie Thorne said...

Exactly...

Em jay said...

Just small quarrel you are thinking of the Obodo oyinbo I laugh you in Arabic ohh, better make peace with your hubby, all that glitter isn't gold ohhh, I know your mind is made up shaa.
My 5kobo.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#A man who has committed a mistake and doesn't correct it, is committing another mistake*

Heartbreaker loves TGW said...

If you have made up your mind madam, what are you writing this epistle for?


Some of y'all think​marriage is a joke.


Didn't you talk about the issue of location and all before saying I do?


By all means do whatever makes you sleep at night but dont think the grass is always greener on the other side.


Good luck

Anonymous said...

Hmmm.... I have been married for almost two decades so you should know am not a small boy who just wants to insult you but want to tell you the truth.
You are a lazy,self centered,greedy woman. You are the type of woman that gives the hard working women and mothers a bad name.
No. You didn't say what caused your fight. But from what I can see through your story you wanted to go back to your aristos in Lagos while he is not around.
No 2. Didn't you know he stays and work in Ekiti before you married him. You want to give us the excuse that you don't know anyone in ekiti. Make new Fri and engage yourself in a business and before you know it you are at home.
No 3.At this time and age will any woman subject herself to staying a full house wife if not that she is lazy. But I guess you are the parasitic type of woman.
No. You didn't even call off or end the marriage before jumping into another man's arms. A jobless woman is always easy to be impressed. Very soon this new man will dump you once he sees you are a parasite and the only thing you have to offer is your second hand pussy.
No.4. You all come her to insult our intelligence by asking for advice when you already taken your decision. And probably pregnant sef....don't worry you will come back and tell is your new found love has a family abroad and he used and dump you.
As you lay your bed you will lie on it.

The Lifted said...

I'm not here to judge u,but @every step ,look carefully b4 u move..there's the part of forgiveness too, think,pray & choose what ya want.

vicky j said...

From what I read up there I doubt if you are really married to this man and not just a live in lover. Your husband abandoned you for six weeks as you claim and within the six weeks you have seen "obodoyinbo man". Fear God small now. Did you make any effort to reconcile with him or involve his people/your people before moving to "obodoyinbo man"? He is not the lovey-dovey type of man that you like and you agreed to marry?
He is trying to reconcile with you but you refuse. Well since your mind is made up do what will make you happy and bear the consequences when it comes. But remember that the grass is only greener from the other side.

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

What was his excuse for his actions was he cheating, having business or money issues or just been plain wicked? Be very careful with this new guy, cos he may just be using you vulneribilty against you.(Is he married?) I waka pass

Comprehensive Production manual on all chemical based product-#2,500. Bbm pin D8B2C6BE said...

madam I will be frank with you, you were simply not ready to settle down. which one is "you were a Lagos babe". didn't you talk about the future of your marriage with hubby before you got married? so. what did you guys talk about during courtship? so in all, bcos he didn't call nd send money, all bcos he ask you to go back to your home(ekiti), you decided to follow obodo man. what if obodo man travel one day too, refuse to send you money and call you, you will also leave him. see, marriage is more than parting leg nd collecting prick. once you decided to marry someone, be prepared for anything. kindly respect your marriage, call your hubby, tell him you hav resolved to move back to ekiti, tell him you need money to trade, look for cheap products (especially consumable commodities) over there, look for buyers you can steadily supply in Lagos and do your business . Nowhere is fallow, just fertilize it and make it green. shalom.

Ed said...

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Ace said...

To cut the long story short I have been living in ekiti for 2yrs now.

...........reason for not speaking to me is because he
said I should go back to where he married me instead of stating back in Lagos.

Were you staying in Ekiti or Lagos when he went to SA?
Why can't you stay where your husband put you or don't u know he lives in Ekiti b4 u married him?

Born and bred in Lagos so u must die there abi

So u left ur marriage because of location issue

Lol @ he made me see love from anoda angle. 45 or 90?

Negodu

My advice-try to be more tolerant and work on your marriage

Chickyclassy Mee said...

A man leaves gor a long time without talking his son or sending money at all, that's one very wicked man, I don't know what to say to u but if I were u I will leave the man, he is mean, if the abroad guy is single and serious amd wants to marry u legally, go to him and make sure u and your ex are divorced, I dislike mean men

Atheist ™ said...

*Side eyes*

Lady Ijaaay said...

My dear when you say "husband" was he married to u?
Because the way you started dating the "obodo oyinbo man" shocked me o, and also how can a married woman begin to date another man suddenly?
You sound like you just born for am.

Anyway if he didn't wed you, you can move to wherever you find yourself, but if you were married to him you better rethink again.

And... to your question "if you are making a wrong move" Na u suppose think that one yourself, na u know wetin you dey find and na u know wetin you want.
#Ok bye

Ed said...

If you were not legally married to your husband,you can go ahead with the obodo oyibo man,cos no matter what we advise you here,u would still be seeing the abroad guy... But if you were legally married,better reconcile with your husband.... After all South Africa na abroad too na....

Monkey Face said...

Postet, Do you know what marriage entails?
I doubt

Anonymous said...

@blackberry u just killed meπŸ˜‚πŸ˜…

Monkey Face said...

He is not only "responsible", He also is " God -fearing"
Lmaoooooo

Good luck @ poster.

Monkey Face said...

He is not only "responsible", He also is " God -fearing"
Lmaoooooo

Good luck @ poster.

Anonymous said...

Stay with your hubby.finance wise does ur hubby have.that was wrong from him.communicate Ur hurt.rember always pray for Ur marriage. Do not cheat on Ur hubby.two years is too short for divorce.no marriage that does not have challenges. Respect and submit above all learn to read and confess the word of God and be prayer warrior.

Anonymous said...

Poster ur a fool sha u have seen someone that will cherish u n u r still asking questions go back 2 ekiti is there that fit you

Sista Jane said...

Honestly! No brain @all.
Are u even talking about your husband or your boy friend that put u in the family way? Cos i dont understand why u are talking about following a man abroad when you are sum1's wife. Didnt you know your husband was living in Ekiti before you left lasgidi??
Go now, that one will show you pepper.

Cookie said...

Thank You jare.... Make she go Nah, Mscheeeeeeeew!!

Mao Akuh said...

Bia this poster please respect your womanhood and go back to your husband. I think you're the stubborn type...Lagos babe ke. What was your mindset when you were marrying your husband? Do you really know the purpose why God brought you two together? That's an assignment for you if not, single mum with sufferings await you. Go and look for a job or learn something.

Cookie said...

See the way you painted your husband bad... All of a sudden he didn't call you, just two years, love Don run die, and then you're already in love.... Please what should we tell you?? Mscheeeeeeeew!!!

Some of you women just make others look cheap.... You think marriage is a walk in the park?? God fearing indeed, yet he's converting another man's wife, Shior!!!

Madam Small Chops said...

Dear poster in my opinion you didn't fight for your marriage.Yes what your hubby did was very wrong but did you find a way to make him come around?

Did you call and he didn't pick? Did you call his parents or yours to talk to him and he didn't listen? Didn't you know he stays in Ekiti before you married him so why run back to Lagos? Did you give him opportunity to work things out before moving on? Yeah six months is a long time no doubt but Love conquers all right?

I feel you threw your marriage away,I feel you are dating this new guy cos of financial support of which his family (hubby) and yours could have helped you out till you guys sorted things.

Well if you tried to make it work but didn't state it or maybe I didn't read properly then forgive my allegations.

To stay or not to stay in your marriage is your CHOICE.I pray you make the right choice.All the Best.

Push up said...

Go back to your hubby but show him pepper, plenty pepper mixed with tatase, he must suffer for his actions, he went to mee SA babes, those ones that can use their privates to trap a man ( I am speaking from personal knowledge ). About the new man, no God fearing man would be loving another mans wife so just remove that God fearing from his title. The bible teaches us of second chances so I say give him another chance, but check him for stds and remember the pepper I told you to show him

Monkeynofine said...

Wasn't your husband nice to u during dating that makes u fall in love with him? He abandoned u for weeks and now you're in love with another man now now? What if this man change overnight after marriage? What if he use this against u tomorrow by always suspecting u cheating on him just the way you're doing to your husband now? Marriage is not always rosy my dear! U didn't even try to fight this temptation before jumping into another man's hand. Na wa for this new generation marriage oooooooo. Well I have no advise for u sha but one thing I most tell u is that marriage is like growing up with ur siblings, u fight,keep malice,hate each others and at the end the love comes back again ! Except there's something u ain't telling us!

Monkeynofine said...

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Anonymous said...

na Ashh this woman wan do o.

Anonymous said...

Madam born and bred in Lasgidi, why would you leave your matrimonial home to stay with your family in Lagos without genuine reasons just because he traveled for six months? if i were related to the guy i will say same. To me all the reasons given are not tenable, what do you mean by you are not use to their way of life, do they eat people? i'm a housewife, is that a title or job designation. Yon knew the guy is not lagos-based yet went ahead to marry him. did he promise to relocate to Lagos after marriage or what if it had been a good paying job that took you to Ekiti, you will resign because you are not used to their lifestyle. From all your story, you dont need advise, you just want to leave your husband because you have seen short cut to the abroad for your mind, forgetting that you do not know what lies ahead in your new relationship. Have a deep rethink and seek the advice of those who really love and care about you before jumping

Blessing Jackson said...

But why will a man travel out for months and not cater for his family? He didn't even think of his son, some men get mind sha. Poster you need to sort out you issues with hubby, who knows if the man went to meet another babe in SA, n started forming vex, na wa sha.

NaMe BeDis said...

Poster is married/baby mama to a yahoo boy.

She already knows what she wants to do.. wish you luck

Anonymous said...

Blackberry I love you for this comment

Dainty T said...

Thank you o

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

*vulnerability

IJAY said...

Poster, please make me understand, so your problem with your husband is just because you want to come back to LAGOS, nope you are just looking for an excuse, how well do you Know the obodo oyibo man, please try and settle with your hubby biko

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

Thats it! Apart from DV,marriage is tolerance and hard work some people think is all rosy, sometimes you just have to put in effort to make everything work not to forget a lot of sacrifice and compromise to keep the ship sailing.

Anonymous said...

69.

Dainty T said...

Why are you shouting??

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

If your husband is the opposite of what you listed.... why did you settle for him? Errr....Let me guess.... pressure? Oh and maybe he had small change. I'm sure he doesnt even have a good source if income. Who leaves a stable income stream in Nigeria to go and hustle in SA for just 6 months? Let me guess.... a yahoo boy. Yes, Ondo and Ekiti are flooded with them EFCC makes Lagos too hot for them so move to neighbouring states.

Anyhoo.... Me i dont give unhappily married women advice on this blog because when you people want to abuse happily unmarried women you unleash all the pain your husband causes at home as if we pushed you to go and marry. When you want to marry you wont shine eye and make the right choices, weigh your options and draft out a sustainable plan. How could you intend to move to a state like Ekiti and sit idly at home without imagining that you would be bored one day? Of course an idle mind is the devils workshop that's why you have time to look for man. If you had a business to build or a job to go to you won't have time to look for a quick-fix or let anyone move you around without a plan. Abeg can we start having sense??!! As in... PLEASE!

Anonymous said...

Love u Atheist, check ur mail

MamaD said...

Madam..I will hold back the insults,believe me its one of the hardest things I've ever had to do..What are you looking for here?validation?..really?..I dont have anything to say to you ma..I only pity your husband who was so unfortunate to end up with a wife like you..You knew he lived in Ekiti,you knew he wasn't Godly(Based on the standard set by you and your Godly adulterous partner).He wasn't caring(as you were so caring and loving to disobey your husband and refuse move to his state of residence,a very caring wife you are ma)yet you married him,you were neither forced or underaged..Now you've met an 'oboobo oyibo'man and you want to move in with him without even settling your issues or having a proper divorce..Your husband may be mean or whatever but madam you have no dignity and you are without shame.Thank you

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Purpose?? Purpose was to be a Mrs. Simple!! I don't know if people think marriage is a joke. For God's sake these are things you discuss and sort out before marriage. If e work, fine. If e no work, God be with you ✌ Odabo. But no, you just enter blindly and start complicating your life. She will either:
1.Stay with the husband and divorce later after having more kids. Because i don't see them lasting very long as they both don't know the meaning of marriage.

2. Or divorce and then marry the other guy hoping they can make it work, lest she becomes a serial divorcee.

Henny said...

Married women are excharging husband like it is going out of fashion,Babay mamas are exchanging men like pure water , divorces are remarrying anyhow. Single ladies no even see one marry? God please help us before menopause catch us in Jesus name, amen.

Bumbum said...

Lol madam how old are you? Are you 14? What sort of chronicle is this. So because of the misundersting you had with your husband you think this new man is it? My God! You are in for it. My advise is go with this new man and come and testify later. How good is a man willing to take another man's wife? This is a man who did not cheat or beat you. Yes he has a character flaw which I am sure if you guys sit and talk it out he would watch himself. Please go with this abroad man and I seriously pray you do not regret it. Come and tell us the good news when life with him is perfect and smooth. At least now you have trained this your husband to be a better husband to somebody else. And I am not even one to take sides with the man but this is a clear case of you are yet to grow up

Fuck you said...

Where's queen n boss now??

Anonymous said...

I have seen lots of married women like you behave very badly. And yes, i have f****d your kinds a lot cos you always lie about your marital status. Your type is not ready for marriage and will never be faithful to your husband. I am pretty sure the Obodo Oyibo guy is not the only guy enjoying your honey pot. He is simply the best among the rest

Gold Taken said...

Poster look, Lagos life + abroad, (Ekiti) what a contrast abi? You are married but still thinking like you never born. Your husband needs a second chance just as you will need cos lust don carry you go. Ps. A man lusting after a married woman/adultery,fornication etc, doing it at will is not a Christian but a church-goer. Dont be gullible.

Gold Taken said...

Yeah, I forgot to ask Poster, what is the basis of your marriage? Was it in order or out of order?

Anonymous said...

Hmmm this sounds like my story except that i dont have kids for him and i was abandoned for 2 years plus at his younger brother's house without a dime till God sent an angel my way. And now that i settled with this angel and even have two kids my ex husband is on my neck begging me to come back and has refused to sign divorce papers.

Anonymous said...

Dear poster,

I hope you read this. Your husband travels and you left your matrimonial home to go stay in Lagos because you feel Ekiti State isn't good enough for you. And when your husband asked you to go back home you bluntly refuse. You forget Etiki is now also your home. I think that is reason enough to make your husband angry with you. Even though he over reacted.

Marriage comes with both comfort and discomfort. Marriage means more than we know. Marriage is worth going that extra mile for.

Considering leaving your husband because he abandoned you and your son because you disobeyed him and abandoned your home isn't a good reason to throw in the towel.

Questions to ask yourself

1). Do I see Ekiti safe as my home
2). Has my husband ever acted this way in the past
3). Do I truly love and honour my husband
4). Have I given my marriage the best shot

Long story short, find something doing, long a talk with your husband, help him grow his relationship with God, let him know you will be with him no matter where he stays, that's if that truly applies to you.

With love

Anty Caro.


Anonymous said...

Lovely comment.

jelly said...

What your husband did is bad, how could he not call for weeks nor say hello to his son very bad of him, i will say follow your heart but be very careful watch your obodoyinbo guy before jumping but getting back to the father of your child is the best advice i can give

She Listens said...

Ahn! Ahn! Dear poster, a God-fearing man won't come close to another person's wife. Did you tell him you're married? You didn't mention it. In every marriage, there are bound to be some misunderstandings. I think you guys need to Sit and iron things out. I'm in no way supporting your husband's behaviour cos they are better ways to handle issues. He was angry, so where you and you are about to make the greatest mistake of your life. If your suitor knows you're married and is still coming for you, then he's nothing but a pretender. He's far from being God fearing. Go back to your husband and work things out.

odi said...

Ur post got me really pissed. this is exactly why ur hubby is mad at u cos he knows ur eyes dey outside. Where did u meet ur new bf isit not the same lagos? aunty face ur marriage. it seems u dont know the meaning of marriage. am sure u just rushed witout being prepared fully. No chronicle here

Anonymous said...

She disobeyed the man, by moving back to Lagos instead of Ekiti.

Anonymous said...

Dear poster, please reconcile with your husband, it seems you're not emotionally stable and if this new angel you called godly does the same to you, you'll go for the next nice guy. Marriage is an institution on its own and no two challenges are the same so choose your battles wisely.

Anonymous said...

Madam poster u had beta stay wit ur husband o!d devil u knw is beta dan d angel u don't knw about!d way u sounding,u sounding as if u whr nt properly married to dat ur ekiti husband! Abi na pregnancy join una together? Ds ur new boo sef,are u sure his not a married man?wat makes u tink hs gonna be beta dan ur husband after 6months?d guy sef go fit tire for ur coochy o! Y nt try to mk amends wit ur ekiti husband and continue managing in dat marriage?try and get sometin to do so dat u wld nt be bored or idle!an idle mind is d devils workshop o! Me I don talk my own! Ehen!

NaMe BeDis said...

Kisses for you my darling. You wrote exactly what I lacked strength to type.

Adekunle Anthony said...

@Blessing. It's bcoz she refused to stay on Ekiti..

All I see is a very troublesome lady who feels she is equal to her husband. She obviously does not listen to her husband.

Useless woman wey toto dey scratch. Y u marry nah. U for remian for ya papa house dey fuck anybody wey u like.

U even get mouth to say d obodo Oyinbo man wey u dey fuck dey godly.

Nne, thunder fire dat ur mouth

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Ehn oh....God fearing my flat ass!!

treasures said...

I love the way you dish out ur advice,

Candid! said...

Chikito, im sending u tons of love from Abuja. That's how one guy asked me to leave my business in the name of marriage and start all over in ondo or wherever he says his parents are and He doesn't live in Nigeria o. I didn't even bother listening to the nonsense he was saying. I should uproot my whole life for love without a sustainable plan, worse yet, u as a husband would be gallivanting from one country to another all in the name of work, he said sometimes he doesn't even come to Nigeria for a whole year, so becus of pressure ,someone else would have married him like that o. All na marriage. while I'll be starting and scraping all over again in a village in Ondo abi Ekiti or ogbomoso or wherever he even proposed, he would be moving from one country to another. Women really dont think ,all they want is just to wear white gown and call make up artist and drop the miss title like its hot.

Poster u better carry ur cross and carry it with vigor. U chose that man as a husband. A man who abandoned u and his child for 6whole months ,nawa. You could have been eating sand for all he cares. That man doesn't have ur best interest at heart if ur story is actually true. Carry ur cross, wether u go back to him or ur "godly" obodo oyinbo man, it's ur cross either ways. Whatever decision u make ,if it works out for u, it's to ur betterment, if it doesn't, it's ur headache. Noone here will suffer or enjoy with u, or even face ur judgement before Jesus with u. What I'm saying is ,it is ur headache madam. Do it ur way, On the day u die,ure going to the judgement seat of Christ alone.

P.s, if u go back to ur husband, make him get tested for stds. South Africa is a hot zone for stds.

Anonymous said...

Kindly change ur name to angryray4sdk, life must have dealt with u o, u re always angry

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Why are you anonymous? 😭😭😭 I love you for this comment ❤❤

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

@NaMe BeDis thank you oh.... na the work wey we dey do. πŸ‘‹

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Dont mind her. She hasnt even for a second figured out her life. She's here bed-hopping and seeking for men to throw her issues on. Poster What is your future plan? When you answer that question you will advice yourself on what to do

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Abeg not all single ladies oh... me i see enough marry biko. Its when a single girl is not an asset that's when men will be avoiding her.

Anonymous said...

Walahi, 360 degrees Na hm sure pass!

Omotola Brianna said...

The last paragraph is hot. LMAO

Anonymous said...

Did I hear someone say religious man?An adulterous man is religious? You and him must be reading a different bible.

Omotola Brianna said...

LMAO....... Chikito u Don take am personal.

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

U think u just gave an advice @chickyclassy???

If she follows this advice,then shed doomed


Just 6wks (a month n 2 wks n u couldn't cope)?

Shame on u for running after d next available guy dt came along.

My dear,u better take bck ur hubby. If I were u,this is d time I'll set things straight up wt him

Of course u mk ur shakara but for abandoning u n d kid, set laid down rules

Give him conditions u want him to meet or be meeting regularly

I believe in d verge of wanting u bck, he'll accept almost anything u ask



My dear,marriage is much more than jumping on next available bed or running away wen u hv little misunderstanding

As long as there's no violence,he has bn n still provides shows u he loves u in his own little ways and he is ready to apologize n make amends wen he offends u, u r good to go


Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Okay. So you're proudly saying you f**ked someone's wife? Waaawwu! Bravo πŸ‘ you must feel like a stud right now πŸ‘Œ classic man. Oshey baddest! πŸ‘ global wife servicing machine. As a servicing tool that you IS now? They behave badly but you're damn good man who services them as their reward. Master blaster πŸ’ͺ Fellow pot enjoyer.

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

@Candid!! I reject it for you in Jesus name. Uproot who to where? As i dey so even if na obodo oyibo that relocation must be adding positively to my life. If its not then that man is selfish. A man who is looking out for you will ask you where your life is going as he is relocating you. And if he doesn't think it will favour you, he will adjust plans.
So in this case, you will go and be with his parents while he is galivanting upandan? As a horseband? I say I reject it for you in Jesus name!!

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire said...

Me i sha wish people will actually 'court' before marriage and not just gbensh before marriage.

Blessing Anthony said...

This is what I call "CUSTOMIZE ADULTERY".A married woman having an affair and still sees it as normal phewwww.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

The woman is not even in love with this new abroadian. The fact that he lives in Lagos is what she likes.

You dated a man and knew he lives in Ekiti and that when you marry you will live in Ekiti you still went ahead and accepted his proposal. Now you don't like Ekiti anymore.

Oshisco weldone πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ

SWAG LAFRESH said...

πŸ‘πŸ‘ for no 4

Chickyclassy Mee said...

Victorious ,I now understand, she was stubborn to her hubby well it's just what I think, he could have at least checked on his son

Anonymous said...

Chikito I will get an ID.... Am always busy but I comment once in a while and people keep telling me to get an ID.

Anonymous said...

From what she said about her husband abandoning them and not even speaking with his son am beginning to suspect the man is not even sure or has evidence the child is not his. It's a one sided story that does not add up. But one certain thing is the woman is lazy,sleeps around,a party babe and a liability.

Rib said...

Anonymous 17:12... May your fountain of wisdom never runs dry. Gd bless you for this advise. Straight up and on point! Madam poster, may God open your eyes to see what you are about to do to yourself. Good luck.

Renee said...

I need a like button for this comment.

MISS TRUTH said...

She "forgot" to tell us the reason she moved to Lagos without her husband's consent. Madam, you moved to Lagos because of your lover. I put it to you that you are the problem and not your husband. Madam hot pant, follow Mr Abroad we will be here waiting for another chronicle from you, write this date down. And please stop saying he is God fearing, God fearing man that is fucking another man's wife okwaya?

Unknown said...

she thinks marriage is same thing as boyfriend/girlfriend relationship where you just go in and come out as you like. Madam better go and make peace with your husband before its too late for you.

Renee said...

You can break the jinx by doing a one minute marriage, divorce and meet the real deal. Bye.

Anonymous said...

Ode.

Anonymous said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚chikito ooo.

Anonymous said...

Well.. I won't blame you entirely, but I would only tell you that you are not the only one like this.. At least I left my base to my husband's base. This place is not even a place I like oo. I also left my job too. I had to get a teaching job to get busy, in fact, he wants me to be staying at home. You said you don't like ekiti abi the people, lol.. This is a place I stayed for a while, and I didn't die, haba! Work at your marriage dear and forget ur side boo for now.. God will give you wisdom.. If you stay in Ado-Ekiti, I could link you up to some people you know, to get you, even if it's a teaching job.. I also knw that ado can b quite boring.. U can learn to love it.. I remember an igbo friend of mine who served there sometimes ago, she hated ado so much that she hardly stayed there, but u know what, she found love.. She is married now and has no Choice than to live there..

Bheem said...

The grass is always greener on the other side. Men can pretend to be saints during courtship just to get u. Be. Warned!

Anonymous said...

What are u saying pls. And why are u shouting? Take it easy, it's not that serious

Anonymous said...

I love u already for dis comment

Anonymous said...

Poster wareva we say won't matter to you because you have already stated that you have made up your mind on what to do. Neither are we soothsayers.

Anonymous said...

Gbam!!!

Anonymous said...

Madam, use your brain

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Anon 19:25 best description of the womam πŸ‘Œ

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Na the gbenshing before marriage dey spoil everything.

Time for them to sit and talk things out, they use it to check size of dick and duration of sex.

Yemi7up said...

Poster if only you will sit yourself down and think about your courtship years, was your husband also not all this you said about this strange man.What he did is not enough reason to leave your marriage, I guess the state you find yourself and the fact you are far from your own people is also getting to you. Get a job or go into trading,acquire more knowledge just get bussy and you will love the state even if not as your Lagos.

Yemi7up said...

God bless you Swag,the issue is loneliness. Her husband traveled and she was in an unknown environment. I can understand,, we all love our Lagos and not always easy to leave or move out of it.

Dunces said...

I don't understand why y'all blaming the poor woman with a two years old baby. What about Oga that abandoned his family? Abeg make una park well jare.

junior maduforo uzuegbu said...

We often time miss use words. Marriage,Love, its just obvious the poster is a very young lady who is naive about what marriage and love really is.

Painting the story to justify her intent.

God help this young ladies who make judgments by what they see and hear.

We lack knowledge.

Anonymous said...

Aunty caro na advise like this we need to De see for this blog. Aunty your head dey were well. Why will you leave ur matrimonial home? A home you both have built? Abi I wonder where she went to perch in Lagos?

Then in between she met someone only 6 months or six weeks abi she does not know marriage is forever abi? This obodoyibo man might even be married to a white woman abroad and have serious visa issues for you. Do you know what it is to raise children with differnt fathers? And you will do this by choice? U better stay with the father of your Child and work it out. Its wayyyyy to early for all this. U will regret oh

Anonymous said...

Small chops ur head dey dere. Hope poster is reading.

Anonymous said...

What's so bad about ekiti really? You don't like d people or d food. So in the Whole ekiti you couldn't make one friend? Which one is food again abi will you not cook at home? Meanwhile the man is a fool for abandoning her. At that point she should have involved parents of both to speak to him and intervene not start dating someone else inside d marriage. Marriage of only 2 Years? Haba.

Anonymous said...

Finish browsing and logs out!!!! I don die!!!!! I'm dead!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Even if you don't have friends stay at home and watch date. Haba. IR get a job.

Amacastel said...

Lolzzz

Julie Jack said...

Hmmmm.... This kind of religious man who sees no wrong in gbenshing a married woman. Think twice o

Anonymous said...

Joor, this Comment is Tooooooo Gbaski!!!

"a jobless woman is always easy to impress"....
I love that!!!!

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