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Saturday, 27 May 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TROUBLED NEW WIFE


Good day Stella,
To say I heart you a lot is an understatement. I like the work you are doing and I need you and my fellow bvs to advice me because right now I don't know what to do. Please permit me to say everything as it is. 


My story might be a little long. I met my husband eight years ago when I was in 300l. This man had nothing. When I mean nothing I mean poor like a church rat. I love him because he was very good and we were very close. He understood my kind of person and he was just the perfect man for me. I stayed with him. I helped him as many times as possible. 


There were times he was so depressed that he wanted to commit suicide. I was there to bring him out. We truly loved each other. I can't remember how many times I stole food stuff from my house to take to him. I even added money several times to pay his rent. 


I stood by this guy. Early last year, things turned around for good and we got married. Our marriage is not even up to a year and my loving husband is ‎ now a total stranger to me. Nothing I do is ever good enough now. He often tells me I'm not his type of woman and marrying me was a mistake. 

I'm presently pregnant and I don't want a broken home for my child. I try as much as possible to be submissive and tolerate his excesses but things keep getting worse. 

He cheats on me like no tomorrow and he is not sorry about it. He said it is the nature of men. There is a particular girl that he is seeing right now and he told the girl I'm his mistake. That we are preparing for a divorce. 

He has set with this girl and took pictures of all his escapades with this girl. I snooped and saw everything and confronted him. He was so angry I snooped. He never apologised. Instead he said he was tired of the marriage. 


I don't know where I have gone wrong. I don't know what to do. I love him and I want to keep and save my marriage. Please I need all the advice I can get. Thank you




*They are always loving and submissive when they are broke ass,but the minute money comes they remember that you are not their type..............This story is one of too many.


My dear since there is a new girl shacking him right now,the only thing left for you is to pray and then use all your emotions on your incoming baby.
Stop confronting him..I dont know what else to say.


168 comments:

STARRY LARRY said...

Safe delivery dear, I really feel your pain




*Larry was here*

Monkeynofine said...

They called me gold digger and opportunist issit ya goldπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚? U suffer with him oooo u no suffer oooo na he house u go stay, na children u go born reach and if the marriage go last E no mean say u go first suffer with any man!

Cherry topaz said...

Never trust the loyalty of a poor man. My God! It's too early.

Monkeynofine said...

Keep praying Like they will advise u here πŸ˜… but my advise for u is that , please start saving money in case he throw u out tomorrow THEN u will have something to fall back on!

Anonymous said...

One sided story;
i am more interested in what happened during all "those eight years" of knowing him
Were you having sex and perhaps aborting?
The reward for that is "not having family of your own" even when "married"; see Ex. 1
The solution for that is repentance and praying
Chose right lady

ola wealth said...

Please, try to eat well and have enough rest. So that your baby will grow well. That's the most important.
Just free him, do your duties as a wife and wait for whatever thing he wants to do.

Hope you have enough money to start a life with your child? Just in case he wants divorce. If not, try to save enough for yourself. All documents you have in your name on properties you have. Make sure u keep them. Prepare for the worse, there's nothing new under the sun

Wishing you luck!!😘😘😘😘😘

Priceless Jewel said...

Short of words as well. Never trust a broke ass men, they are never loyal! Keep fasting & praying dear, may God see you through in Jesus name, amen! You will testify in Jesus name, amen!


... Jesus is my worth!

Blackberry said...

Wake up call to those who will wanna suffer with a man..but then, all men ain't the same.

Madam, pls try stay healthy for ur unborn baby.
Damn, ur husband is a SOB, sorry to say, him no try at all.
I won't say pray let him go broke again, lol, but pray for God to fix his faulty brain, he has forgotten so soon how you were there for him.

Phenomenal woman said...

I keep saying it that the only thing that humbles Nigerian men is poverty, when they hold small change, true colors begin to emerge.
Poster nurse your wounds wisely, the Lord is your strength and by the way do you have a job? You sound jobless. Please if you don't, when your baby starts walking, find something tangible and do biko. And don't forget to pray. God's got your back.

Anonymous said...

Many women get married and lose their guard; just eat and expand
No more praying and fasting
Spend 24 hours on social media
We heard one side of the story
What of the other side?
A lot of girls are out there spicing up their charms to take any man; available or not

Fan Emmanuel said...

Stella I understand where you're coming from but how can a responsible girl shag a married man? Why are some girls evil?
Madam biko while praying, you can leave his cheating ass for now, go to anywhere you will get your sanity back cos with your condition as a pregnant woman, you don't need the trauma.

Isi beke said...

Me too stella i don't knw what to say, dis type of chronicle make me so sad nd angry. I don't knw y some men are so ungrateful, they forget so easily immediately God blesses dem with finance. My dear don't bother urself over his change of attitude, he's not worth it...... concentrate on ur incoming baby nd i hope he retraces his step. God will see u through

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

This is what you get when someone marries you out of pity!...
You see why I keep advising girls here to stop sticking with a broke ass?...
Those guys are demons!..
Poster,i hope you don't nag him cos pregnant women sabi look for trouble...
Go and chain him spiritually and watch him change!...
I hate divorce and I won't advise you to leave!...

RadioHead Steelheart said...

Hmmm I cant believe that I will say this but I agree with Queen and Boss of this blog...Its like broke guys dont appreciate ladies been beside them, struggle and genuinely care for them..My dear You are a good person and dont allow what your hubby is doing to you to make you change who u are..Keep praying and channel all your attention to your baby in the womb,and your job or business please..I have come to realize that you dont need to go out of your way to please a man..aint worth it..

Monkeynofine said...

Babe can't u pray that his dick should stop functioning whenever he want to gbensh another ladyπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ or he should start seeing d type of woman he needs in you? Babe this might be spiritual oooooo maybe your enemies turn his face against u, for me I can't stand a cheating man lai lai

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

You can buy seperation oil and candle for him and the side chick...
So they can break up and hate each other...
Oh never mind,you won't know how to use it...

ZONED said...

Another tale of a broke ass brother... They can be damn loyal asf. And confuse you with their lazy dick. I survived my own. So will you. At least for your unborn child,please be strong.

Wild Rose said...

Waiting to reading queen and boss comment. I know she will have a perfect answer for you.

Pls don't stress yourself in this condition. The most important thing to do now is to pray to God and save as much cash as possible. It is well sis.

peace maker said...

Madam. U never took any responsibility for any of the problem instead u blame it on ur horseband. Did u stop being submissive and respectful to him after he married u??? Did u start seeing two of u as equal after the wedding instead of seeing him as the head of the family? Did U feel u now hv taproot in the house after u got pregnant and started talking to him anyhow? Nothing happens for nothing. Pls examine urself and make d necessary amends.

Olori Orente said...

What a morafucker,a brokeass is now flirting around. When queen says don't marry a brokeass people bite her. now that you re preggy,pls stay strong for your baby.
Don't snoop and pray.let God fight your battle.

Miss Ess said...

At times like this, Jesus fix it is all I can say. I wish you save delivery sis. It is well.

peace maker said...

Did u add so much weight after he married u?No matter how anyone twist it, The truth is that most men don't love fat woman.

Madam Small Chops said...

*singing* only you can do, what no man can do Jehovah!!

#warRoom things

Toria_Beauty(Organic skincare and Hair5C247AB6) said...

Later they will say no lady want to suffer with a guy..... when someone is poor they use others people behavior but once they have money there real behavior will be out.RADARADA

Miyake said...

So because you were rich like a mosque cochroach while he was poor like a church rat 8 years ago, is that enough justification why you should rule over “your husband"?
You are lucky he married you as compensation! Better let him lead while you follow otherwise your marriage is heading straight for the gallows(that's the best strategy a good woman can use over a man that should work anyday).

Anonymous said...

They are very loving and God fearing when they have nothing to offer u.babe I feel your pain

Kzy Brown said...

Fly wey no dey hear word naim dey follow dead body enter grave... Nothing you did was wrong ma'am, and there's nothing you can do to stop him for now... Just let him sow his wild oats, when he's been burnt and learnt his lessons, he'll find his way home and know how special you're.
It's sad he doesn't know how rare your type are... When the karashikas are done with him, he'll come running back like a dog, with his tail in between its legs... Just tarry on a lil longer

sandybaby said...

So sad.please stay strong for your child and try to go out often and have fun.love yourself dear, life is too short to be miserable.

Atheist ™ said...

You can judge a mans true nature by watching closely how he treats those that do little or nothing for him, that'd gv you abit of an insight when he starts making money...
Your husband married you for the wrong reasons, the butterflies were long gone & sparks dull, possibly for convinience or companionship, he wasn't even your friend, if he was, then the friendship would hv sailed the union steadily till the passion/love returns to take the wheel, the passion is every marriage tends to wane at some point, but its only natural, but then patience, friendship, commitment, empathy, respect for one another etc, has a huge role to play till the love returns, ur husband lacks them all.
Lots of marriages suffer same encounter silently, but most men wouldn't cheat openly & disrespect their wives, you have very little options here, start seeing him like a flatmate, & know the boundary, the fighting will reduce.

Anonymous said...

They are very loving and God fearing when they have nothing to offer u.

BLUNT said...

"He often tells me I'm not his type of woman and marrying me was a mistake"...there lies your answer. Two things are probably involved here. You believe you're entitled to his loyalty 100%(rightly or wrongly) because "there were times he was so depressed and he almost committed suicide", and I believe you rescued him. You also paid part of his rent and stole food to feed him according to you. You feel you've paid your dues and for that, he should be yours 100%. I agree with you. The second part of it is that your husband was managing you because he couldn't afford the type of girl he wanted. He felt time was running out on him and maybe felt a little pity for you for all your sacrifices. Now, he has made some money, he can afford his type. Madam poster, I have to be honest with you, the only way you can reclaim and retain his respect is to hustle and make your own money. With that, you'd have a say in the home, and decide if you still want to be in that marriage. Prayer will not make you his type all off a sudden. Make your own money. Men have this latent fear mixed with respect for a woman with her own money. This post goes further to give more bite to what I've always said here. A poor man has no business getting married even if he's 100yrs old. Make money, and then go for the type of girl you've always dreamed of. Madam Stella, it isn't only men that change after they make money, most women also change if they make money and their partner hasn't. A lot of previously broke girls that had a turn around also dump their partners once they make it. It's a two-way thing

i am a hater of stupid men said...

God punish your hubby

Anonymous said...

I detest men, 99.9% of Dem are wicked.

May God grant u safe delivery.

Anonymous said...

Broke men are very humble and loving. If you want to know a man's true colour let him make money first.

Zinny Chocolate said...

I hope your working sha or at least have a business? Because as e be with this your "cheerful giver" husband, only God will save your marriage.

Anonymous said...

I de-taste man.

Someone's Pride said...

My love everything will be fine....
I am single and i have been reading the power of a praying wife.....it has helped me.. please try reading it....stop confronting him and tell it all to God. He fixes EVERYTHING. God bless your home

St.FranKooL.... said...

#Sometimes the best revenge is to smile, move on, and do nothing*

Omalichanwa said...

Monkeynofine my blog boo πŸ‘

Bootylycious diva said...

spirit of anti harvest forces at work .

if is bf I will say let him go ,no his your husband nack pigeon on his head nack another pigeon hahahhahahahaahah linda come faster something have spoil

Rappakatakata said...

Yea, Stella your advice is right but the preceding comment is too much of a generalization. There are also testimonies of men who have remained faithful even when things got better.
Poster just pray. There aren't anything prayer cannot remedy. I wish you well.

Anonymous said...

Miyake u r very stupid. Did she say she was rich? Did she say she is ruling ova her hubby? N did she say her hubby isnt leading? Most people r so dumb dat dey read witout understanding n u r dia leader. Pls go bk to kindergarten. Anuofia.

Anonymous said...

Very true, now he has some small money the idiot in him is now coming through.

Anonymous said...

Are you stupid

Monkeynofine said...

Gbam, gbamer, gbamest

Elastic said...

Werey Peacemaker....lols. That guy never loved her from the beginning Bros...he was just taking advantage of her. Poster please stop paying much attention to him and focus on your baby. If after delivery he still maintain his character.... please gbawa door! Your happiness is of great importance, don't let any man shortchanged it.


#DontQuoteMe

Isolde Fontaine said...

Poor men and humility...Poster give him some space and keep praying.

Heartbreaker loves TGW said...

Hmmmmm

Martins Aboy said...

Hahahhaahaha!! Chief Lynda,you dont ever dissapoint..

A BV i introduced some weeks ago is always looking for your comments..lol!! She finds your comment hilarious and nicknamed it "Tales by moonlight". Lol!!

Babe will call to ask me if i have read " Queen and Boss" comments on soo soo topic..kikikiki!

Lynda you are a character oooo!!

@MARTINS ABOY

Dark Horse *** for your 3D wall papers call 09021363953 said...

lol.. Who ask you?

Anonymous said...

poster, do u even have an inch of self esteem?? u better set him free and give him the divorce he wants. What sort of rubbish is this?? he will give u AIDS and u will still foolishly stay. Set him free and developed your self. I hope u are not a house wife, or else, sorry for u. Have some self esteem and divorce him abeg. Haba.

Heartbreaker loves TGW said...

πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

Anonymous said...

Loll...queen,queen...ijele nwanyi.After u na u.

Anonymous said...

Loud it queen!!! Tell us how it's used na...

Dark Horse *** for your 3D wall papers call 09021363953 said...

I was about saying that the conspiracy to bring men down got thicker because the end of your narrative made it a pure tragedy.. but hey, things like this still happen. Poster, I'd advise that you play your role as the wife & mother and ignore your hubby completely. Set your mind to work and make your own money. Crown everything with prayers.

Amacastel said...

Na there way as soon as they see small change they will turn dick tiger, madam poster ignore him totally till you birth ur baby, repolish ur self, get busy & make Newfriends to make you smile, you will see him run back you have him too much attention, men hate it when you get too close but if you get busy he will be begging for ur time, then look for a Sabbath pastor to hold him down & scatter his relationship with his girlfriends while you watch them fight by claiming too busy.

SUNSHINE said...

Hahaha. He has gotten an ID.
You are forever angry with women.

Anonymous said...

Poster I'm heart broken on your behalf!!! I dunno what to tell you, May God help you.

Anonymous said...

This person is definitely stupid, no need asking! You think you are being a Christian going round posts with your judgmental self?!?! How many of your sins has God rewarded you for? If he did wouldn't you be dead???? Would you be alive to be spewing rubbish? You lack wisdom and emotional intelligence. Ewu.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hian Omalicha nwa...
Leave my Monkeynofine!...
I don't share my boos here with people...
Look for another person and boo!...

SDK PEPPER-THEM QUEEN said...

I don't understand how girls date poor men...
How? I don't even talk to poor people smh
Sorry can't relate to this story so no advice, Bye

Anonymous said...

Lmao

Dark Horse *** for your 3D wall papers call 09021363953 said...

You got a point sir. Poster must have made several insulting remarks in the past or even tried emasculating him too but the hubby being the patient dog waited for his time of revenge.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hahahahahaha at keep praying...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Sweet!...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hahahahahaha Martins...
Lmao...

Cherry Wine said...

Peace maker learn how to read and assimilate what you read. Didn't you read where she said she became more submissive??

Monkeynofine said...

Queenie if the candle burst and she see ring inside she go fear throwaway amπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ meaning she have to start from scratch πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Cherry Wine said...

Angry bird

Kendrick's mum said...

I keep saying it poor men are always loyal,they promise heaven n earth n wen their status change u see d beast in them.my dear i pray God help u out.

Cherry Wine said...

The stories of cheating husbands continues to increase on a daily. #mycaseisdifferent

Shennel Hyacinth said...

I said it ..... Never trust the love of a broke guy.

DON™ said...

Lol.

DON™ said...

Yinmu

DON™ said...

Wetin be your own, na advice them ask you o.

Kendrick's mum said...

Yes very important @monkey no fine well said cos dis man is unpredictable as it is,poster pls take his/her advice sorry dunno if u a male of female...lol

Chartered Accountant said...

Nne pat your heart and Just try to be as calm as possible,in fact make him believe your loyalty is 100% then collect as much money as possible (use baby items and hospital bills or drugs as excuse because he may not even turn up on your delivery day). Then use your time wisely (either checking out business ideas or job sites). Remember to feed well for your baby. Concentrate on improving yourself and allow him wallow in his stupidity. It's well with you

Anonymous said...

Na today? Such people don't go far in life for God is not mocked. Watch how he will end up if he doesn't repent of his wickedness. Poster, wipe your tears. God will beautify you in His own time.

Uvwie!

Anonymous said...

Gboza Gboza Gboza all for chief linda always remember that i cant stay a day without ur comments.NANA AKUA FRM GHANA

Anonymous said...

If you are dating a very broke guy, be careful and cautious. My ex is a real golddigger. Now he is looking for a woman who will take care of him. Shameless guy

Bootylycious diva said...

linda ajunwa si overri ba niyin afor

SANDY YO said...

LmaoπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜†πŸ˜…
This Chief sef! Umu nwoke ndi ojooo. Kai

SANDY YO said...

Hahahahahahaha! Kai

Jennah said...

Well if I were the poster once I make my money too, I will dump his ass too. Who needs a randy man as husband anyway.

Monkeynofine said...

Yes that thing can sometimes annoy me πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ as if she don't use to pray before πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰

Anonymous said...

Please dear, pack your bags and go!! You are worth more than that!!! Never settle in life. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life in bitterness and most especially without peace?? Protect your peace girl! More so, there's no need bringing up a child in where there is no love, or that's the mentality they would have. Please go!! It is hard, but worth it. Please.

SANDY YO said...

Yimu! Terrorist

Adorable said...

men shaa! truly, you know the real them when they're in money. poster, go to God in prayers & focus on your baby. if u can't bear the heartache, leave him to avoid high bp.. be strong, God is still on the throne

PL THE GREAT said...

You're a perfect example of those people I talked about in an old post who go about parading fornication as the greatest sin ever. Have you stopped to think what your reward would be for assuming God's position as the almighty judge? Run your race and mind your business. How another person sins is totally none of your concern.

Miyake said...

Anon 15:53 the truth is bitter my dear. If you don't change your character fast in that situationship you are calling marriage, he will settle down with that side chick before you finish composing Chronicles part two!
@Sunshine yes o, thanks for welcoming me #shinesteethmishievously
@Cherry, 😐 if/when I am angry, trust me; everywhere go scatter......lol

Anonymous said...

Hmmm dis queen,I just googled seperation oil nd candle and it's real.i didn't knw such things exist.i tot u were joking.i don dey fear u

Anonymous said...

Give her free lessons naa

Anonymous said...

You're still single naa, how is it working?

Anonymous said...

Agbala nwanyi.

Anonymous said...

Awwww❤️❤️❤️❤️

Monkeynofine said...

😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒 if men were God😒

Sassy Meruche said...

See this judgemental fool! Aren't you all shades of stupid with this silly ass comment? Idiot!

Anonymous said...

Eyaaa de-taster of men

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Wawu!!...
Thanks dear...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Hahahahahahahahahaha..

Anonymous said...

I am from a broken home nd my only anger till now with my mother Is why she didn't leave earlier. Don't mess up ur kids psyche further by staying in a pychologiacal abusive Rship. Ur kids deserve to grow up in a healthy and love filled environment. Don't rob em of that with ur selfishness

Fuck you said...

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Ure a fool

La' Sunshine said...

Hahaha

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Anon,it's a practical work to avoid making mistakes....

Monkeynofine,hahahahaha your head is there...
These people don't know what's up atall...
Lwkmd

Sandy yo!!...
Asa di ok!,..
No be small ojoo...ha di nma itinye na bottle...

La' Sunshine said...

All this just ignore how can one ignore ? is easier said than done. It hurts mehn poster the lord is your strength I don't have words for because words failed me

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Anon, I di very sharp!...

Booty,this your Igbo na ato ochi!...
Hahahahaha...
Kedu ije gi nne?...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

Kikikikikiki...

Anonymous said...

I have a friend that's currently dating a fine ass broke guy.
As in the type that can't afford ur transport fare back home after gbenshing u left, right, n centre. And she will be flaunting the guy on sm that shes got the best boo😁😁. Girl!
u stewwpid!😒😒
But wait ooo! As a broke man, if u are sucking ur girlfriend's boobs, do u open one eye, or u close the two? Fear no catch u say poor man no surpose suck breast join gensh?
Common! Thats too much pleasure for a broke man. Una no dey fear sha.

Anonymous said...

When I see cases like this I begin to count my blessings. It could have been me. Dating for 15yrs doesn't guaranty the success of a marriage

Puregold said...

God is the only solution. Commit whatever that is going on in your marriage to Him, He will fix it. I said so because you said you still love your hubby. Pray fervently, God is there to see you through.

Sexy Bride said...

I Will keep saying it, girls love with your head, don't love stupidly or blindly.poster keep praying, cos with prayers everything is possible,and you need to save up, love yourself, love your child,make friends that will contribute meaningfully to your life, look beautiful attend antinental,gist,gossip,go shopping, attend church services,it will make you worry less,no man is worth the stress.

Anonymous said...

Queen and Boss, pls i want to be your friend. I too love you. #plentyhomo

La' Sunshine said...

Haha queen never disappoint

Anonymous said...

At Anon 17:25, you re very wicked πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

La' Sunshine said...

Miyake or whatever you call yourself you ars one mentally deranged mofo

Anonymous said...

My dear that's how most men re. An example is my father. When millions enter his hand now. The house will literally be on fire. No one nd i mean no one tells him what to do. To him he is perfect. He will scream at you at any opportunity he has. The last money he made he even threatened to divorce my mum πŸ˜…πŸ˜…. Nd scary thing is that ones that money finishes he becomes humble over night. Poster you just ve to know that your husband's situation won't last. Because God blesses humble people. He says what you do with the little blessings he gives us. My advice for you is just to save a lot of money nd be prepared for the worst. my dad now might hit another jack pot nd bring a second wife to the house nd trust me i won't be surprised at all.

Dope BaBe said...

Lol you're Cray..... damhn

jelly said...

Poster just follow Stella's advice

KIDJO said...

Your first paragraph is so true.😭

Mercy Felicity said...

Dear madam take this advice ☝πŸ‘† ........ while preparing for the worst pray maybe Holy Spirit might slap him with some sense😩

KIDJO said...

πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

KIDJO said...

πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

Omalichanwa said...

Kai can I say I luv u dis Blunt .ur comment is sooooooo lit! πŸ”₯

Meltingmozza said...

Did they just release this one from yaba left?

Cynthia Iyede said...

Hnmmmm

Anonymous said...

This is my life now without the marriage part... He was so poor that I shared my pocket money... Now he's so rich that he talks to me anyhow

Anonymous said...

Happy children day to dis guy(miyanke),kindly re-read ur advice ursef,dopemu

Linda peters said...

Men are not worth suffering with, babes should know this. As for me I will not advice any girl to suffer with any man just look for an average guy and be with. Sorry babe I can feel your pain u just have to accept your fate. All u need do is concentrate on improving on yourself and be financially independent so u can take care of yourself and your baby. Stella, if u like swallow my comment e no hard u but if I don't see my comment ehn! me and u go wear one leg of trouser.

Lacey Love said...

Anonymous, are you a sadist? Who did this to you?

bigbanty said...

I wouldn't advice you to leave him now since you did not tell us if DV is involved and the marriage is barely a year.
Look for whoever he loves so much within his family or friends,that can remind him of how much you struggled with him when he has nothing to talk sense into him and if he doesn't change after that my dear just leave the marriage cos staying in a loveless marriage is a form of DV.


My opinion

chinenye baby said...

Broke guys are always loyal,u only get to know their true colour wen they get money.

Anonymous said...

Madam poster just free d guy! Na dia way! Wen de are broke, de tend to be vry submissive and loyal! Once de start making money, de begin to show dia true colours! De begin to unleash Dia Dragons! My dear just look for how to tk care of ur baby and urself! Free him! May D law of Retributive Justice be meted out on him! Don't worry,he wld meet his own Karma And Nemesis vry vry soon! Fucking broke Ass niggers acting loyal wen notin gum dem! Once dem begin mk small change dem go begin de mess up! Wicked Assholes!mscheeeew!

chinenye baby said...

@Shennel Hyacinth,broke guys can love for Africa

Gifted C said...

Pls Go And Look 4 D Seperation Oil And Candle And Then One Correct Looking White Pigeon, No Wasting Of Time O My Dear,am So Believing Queen And Boss, Guys This Days Are So Disgusting.

chinenye baby said...

@Queen and boss,help a sister.

Gifted C said...

Itinye Na Bottle Aburokwa Nke Obelie Oo,i Won't Go Anywhere Untill I Get All My Entitlements,if I Hear Say I Pack Na Better Pigeon Knacking Sure Pass,infact Am Vexing On Ur Behalf Poster.

Anonymous said...

Big fool. Must u comment?? You too read Ex.2. Judgina..meanwhile your toto na water water.. Who are you to talk about anybody's reward. Backward fool. Go and continue masturbating. Mpama. I you dey here I for beat you blue black purple.

Push up said...

Just start stealing his money, the more you can save the better for you, cus he may just come and say he is no longer interested. Pls do not put your whole heart into this, save all your emotions for your baby and always prepare for the worst and really women are their own enemies, a young girl out there is waiting for a man to divorce his wife so she can come in, nawa o

Blossom said...

So sad about your predicament. Focus on your baby's arrival and please don't continue the snooping because of your condition. If you feel you can nolonger cope,please walk away.

Your hubby is an ingrate and he doesn't deserve you.

Anonymous said...

Poster I have first hand experience.... I know you will be longing for your husband's attention, care and support. Unfortunately, confrontation is a wrong antecdote.... Just like many have advised you, pls focus on your self improvement and rediscovery... You got to mature and pray more... Its only Jesus that can touch anybody's heart for good. The truth is that some pple' s nature... Check the behavioural pattern of his family members and this will guide your thought process on him.
Prayers is the answer. And physically take good care of yourself- dress well, be adventurous in bed and learn other ways of cooking. God luck and God's grace. Nkmama

Anonymous said...

Hahahahahahahaha

Anonymous said...

Wow it"s actually so good to be back. Dear poster your story is a really sad one, but the truth is that like Stella rightly put poor men are always sweet, loving and all but their true colours are seen when a little wealth comes their way. But i'd like to say to you that all hope is not lost lets assume its a little bit of the wealth and the devil that's be-devilling him, now hard as this might sound the truth is that only God can rescue the situation. I know how hard it is praying for a husband that's cheating on you and hurting ur feelings but that is the only way out. Now if you have a trusted pastor you can ask him or her to join you in praying for him. play the fool which is the hardest thing ever cos i admit there were times i thought of doing him great harm but you see my dear it does not pay. Pray for him everyday asking God to put confusion in his relationship with the said lady cray to God sincerely. continue to be kind to him pamper him even more that way he will look stupid. Stop showing him his deeds hurt you do not nag if u need to hide in the toilet and cry to God who joined you with him. Take care of u and your unborn baby do stuffs that make u happy while you wait for him to come around. It is well with u dear heard and seen alot of couples who went through this same challenge and with wisdom the wives prevailed and today their husbands are love sick puppies over their wives.

ukwu dimond said...

Poster Stella said it all, if you can ignore him a bit and concentrate on your health look at your condition, have pity on yourself and your on born baby, prayers is all that you need at this moment, don't stop being a good woman, God is the only one that can save your marriage.

Your husband will come back to you, he is only being carried away at the the moment, that girl will soon walk away. Talk to God.

Jeni_zee said...

Lmao u r cray

Crush said...

Poor men can humble kai!! I think you are also desperate because of the emotional attachment aka love you have for this ingrate,you are in a marriage with yourself.find your feet and take care of you.
He has shown you his true colors so what else do u want to see.find your way out of that situation you call marriage before it's too late.and did I hear domestic violence too ?you are playing with fire

Iphie dearie said...

LinLin MNF that I have finsihed snatching from you?😳😳😳😳
You are sleeping on a longggggg thing🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

Heartbreaker loves TGW said...

Lmao

Anonymous said...

All of una leave anony to comment it is anony's opinion.

Jasmine said...

Sdk pepper them, loud it

Anonymous said...

Where are the guys' comments?

Anonymous said...

Man wey go cheat go cheat even him wife na Agbani.

Anonymous said...

Ain't worth it rara. Infact such men will dump you for the woman who will not sacrifice anything for him.

Anonymous said...

Tell them!

Anonymous said...

But it is more common with the men even if you will not admit it blunt, and I will bluntly tell you. Most women stick with their men regardless, the problem when a woman is more successful usually comes because the man feels jealous, and begins to make her life miserable, even though she is the one carrying the home. He nags at her, accuses her of infidelity and lack of respect or submissiveness, then goes out claiming he is looking for a submissive women or resort to dv. Very few Naija men can handle a more successful spouse.

Anonymous said...

Exactly! When will some men learn?

Gold Taken said...

Blunt! Spot on.

Anonymous said...

did you get fat? did you stop being submissive? pray harder for him? continue doing your duties? give him more sex? kill yourself?....Thats the problem with marriages these days.
Nobody is blaming the SOB.......but it definitely has to be the woman's fault that a grown ass man is being an infidel.

Anonymous said...

What a stupid person with a brain on exile. Your stupidity stinks despite the fact that one can't see you, Dundee United.

Anonymous said...

This is so true. He will soon lose it all. very soon

Anonymous said...

Poster this could have been me but I had to reset my thinking cos of the advice from most of the bv's here that broke guys are always loyal, my ex was extremely loving and loyal but he didn't have a job, I was always spending money to visit him and he won't refund. Sometimes I use my money to feed him, I had to pinch myself to wake up and smell the coffee, I can't suffer with a guy now and when he becomes successful he'll forget about the sacrifices I made for him. My advice to you is to save up for the rainy days, try as much as possible not to think of his cheating ways just focus on your health and that of your baby.

Anonymous said...

Spot on!! Anon 22:37. Blunt, I agreed with majority of what you said.... until you tried to compare the attitudes of a broke man to that of a broke woman before and in marriage in relations to their attitudes once they become rich. They can't even be compared. Women don't change because of money in marriages. They change when they get tired and fed up of the husband's insecurities, lack of support, jealousy, sabotage, laziness and the usual nagging they get from these less successful husbands. It is no secret that men, especially African men are extremely insecure about their spouse doing better than them. They would lash out at her in these various forms but claim and shout it from the rooftop that she's changed because of money. On the other hand, formerly broke men who change do so because as you stated, they've always had a "type" but believed they weren't good enough for her and now that they have money, they want to go for what they've always wanted. Also from experience, I believe that men generally want a woman they can "dazzle", be a knight in shining amour to. A woman who is amazed by them and looks up to/at them, not one who has seen them at their lowest when they were nothing. They believe that "superman effect" would not be there and so they want fresh eyes and mind to watch them be her superman. That's why even if these sort of men settle down with the women who was there when they were nothing, they do that due to obligation/gratitude (to some degree) but they would still go out having strings of affairs, even long-term/permanent affairs while leaving their wives at home, creating this image and relationship they've always pictured with those girls outside. They believe they've paid the wife back for her loyalty and effort by marrying her and making her the "Mrs" even though she's lonely as heck in the marriage. That's why I will never advice any lady to suffer with any man. It rarely ends well and even if they end up together, it's usually an unfulfilling marriage for the woman. That is not to say that there are no happy endings to such scenarios but it is very rare. Anyway, there are still very few good men out there. I just didn't need to be testing and seeing. Too many stories like this and more did not let me even venture that route....,. Just Me

Anonymous said...

Or you chain this nigger na make him humble...

Penkelemorgen said...

This makes a whole lot of sense.Blunt and deep message for my people.Thank u.

junior maduforo uzuegbu said...

*thumbs up*

junior maduforo uzuegbu said...

Busted.......I no fit shout blunt.
I think there's is even worse "women"

Still reading comments

Tilly said...

So that he can lead her to HIV. Stupid comment

Someone's Pride said...

The answer to your question is in the book. Go grab one. Anon 17:25

Meeee said...

When I See my friends with broke guys and give them good advice they think I'm just being bitter.....broke guys can love for Africa and can sweat on somebody's daughter 24/7....also girls learn how to close your legs so you can discern if it's the dick or character that's letting you stay .

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