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Thursday, 9 November 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Oh Dear,Oh Dear!!!!




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

IT IS COMPLICATED


Hello 

 please I need your advice and that of your blog visitors 


I dated my wife for four years before marriage, few months to our marriage, my wife tested positive to HIV, I went for the test but I tested negative, but I promised to stand by her, and we kept it a secret, we got married and she is taking her drug well.


 I made sure I provide everything she needs as she isn't in working, Infact she is the one in charge of my salary, I can't remember the last time I bought something for myself, I was working for her and the kids, but my wife doesn't seem to appreciate that. She complains whenever money is no enough. I was advised to always come for HIV test every six months, before she is always happy whenever I test negative, but later on she started saying stuffs like, hmm you are lucky, and always gloomy anytime we went for the test, and I always assure her that even though I'm negative I can never leave her ...


I'm a state worker, but I've not been paid salary since February, and I'm seeing the other side of my wife, she is always nagging, I've borrowed money from people I'm not even supposed to borrow from, but she Is always complaining, she took the kids to her mother house, for which I'm grateful for because we can't afford to cater for them for now, just last week a friend gave me 20000,i gave it to my wife without removing a penny, thinking she will get some food stuff, cos there is nothing at home only for her to say she sent the money to her mother, well I can't blame her for that because she has been the one taking care of them since July, but I was angry cos she said she bought wig to fix, I was mad with her and I told her that she not helping me, there is nothing she didn't say.


 I did taxi driver for some months just to make ends meet, until the car develops some faults,, she packed her load and went to her mother, I decided not to call her, but after some days I went there to see her, only for her mum to tell me that she has gone to Abuja, I called her but she didn't pick up. Then after some time she came back to tell me she can't continue to be with me, I told her that she should be patient that everything will still be OK, do you know what my woman told me, that even if my salary is paid, will it be enough to settle all the bills, Stella I feel like dying, nothing is left for me to hold on to.


 I'm angry at myself, the government, my wife and everyone.. I've not called her since and she also have not called, I called the mother and she told me that she has gone back to Abuja, but the kids are still with my mother in law, I can't even go and see the children, I don't have anybody to talk to, cos I don't want to expose our secrets, even the mother is not aware of her status. Please what do I do. I've been crying since, Stella how do I rearrange an empty space?



*Oh Dear,oh Dear.....I hope she didnt go to Abuja to hustle with her status?
What would make you want to reveal her status?If you know for a fact that she is sleeping around then please do.

As for the FG,i dont know what to say,your story is sad but how does one prove it?...May God intervene !!!

63 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Are there still men like this? I am speechless. I don't even know whether to tell you not to call her ever again. But who is in Abuja that she goes to meet, or she is always around and telling her mom to tell you she is not? I pray the lord fix this for you.

nnuku Sexy pant-like boxers. 08170506432 Order now said...

Some women eeehn
U see a good man lik this u dey carry am play
This one wey husband scarce..
Na wa ooo people get mind ooo
I hope it won't be too late for her before she realise..

Anonymous said...

Human beings! So because she has one secret in your hand a woman should not be a woman. She shouldn't be angry that there's no money. She shouldn't go and hustle for money. Any small thing you start talking about revealing secret. What does HIV have to do with being mad at your brokenness. Better face your life and make money

Doppelgänger said...

Please calm down and breathe.
You're clearly a good man and do not deserve to be sad. Exposing her status would do you or her no good. She should be the one to tell her mother if at all she wants to divulge the information.
Money is the root of all evil and you know the true character of people when they are broke or rich.
Since your kids are with your mother in law, forget about your adult wife for now and focus on making ends meet. Don't let her bad words push you to do something you'd both regret.
Also, don't stop going for your routine checks. You were really brave for not turning your back on her and may God reward you for all your efforts and show of love.
When she eventually comes back, you both need to talk and she needs to get a job. If she can travel then surely she can find a job or business to do to support the family. Not all companies discriminate against carriers, so let her get a job too since she thinks it's that easy to put food on the table. Wipe your tears, God sees your heart and he'd surprise you soon.

becky naka said...

🎤Jesus take the wheel, take it from my hands cause I can't do this on my own, I'm letting go, give me one more chance, save me from this road I'm on... Jesus take the wheel.🎤

Cynthy L said...

When u found out about her status did you bother to find out the source she must have gotten the infection from? Did you even know if she was an olosho before you married her? No! You allowed love to blind you. Now see how it is. In my opinion I think you should let her go. You never can tell God is trying to deliver you from something. Abi you are not happy how you have been able to maintain your status? You want to be positive? Please let her go. Her waka didn't start today but you were too love strucked to see beneath her. God will send you a better woman.

Blackberry said...

Guy relax, maybe God is indirectly saving you. She has gone to hustle, I suggest u hustle for ur kids. Hopefully she'll play safe in abuja. It's obvious what she's in abuja for, abi she get work?
It pays to play safe!

Firstlady blessing said...

If what u say is true,honestly I had divorce her n face my life if I were u,she ain't worth it.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Oga leave her alone, let her be in Abuja and be distributing her hiv to unsuspecting customers.

She is just ungrateful. Try and rearrange your life. Na wa which state dem still dey owe since February? hope no be my state or Imo state.

Try and get small small business to do to keep body and soul together. Focus on your children and yourself.

Leave the mother out of her hiv status. Take care of yourself. It is well

La' Sunshine said...

Who get head no get cap who get cap no get head. Oga it is well keep praying for your wife.

Kele Bobo said...

Oh Lord!!!so sorry.i think depression is eating deep on your wife,you just need to calm down and discuss with you mother in law or someone close to her knowing her condition may be causing you so much trouble financially hence her harsh behavior to distance herself from you.you will be fine please.

HighlyFavoured said...

Oh my!
Are men like u still in dis world and Nigeria?
You married her knowing she is HIV+? Kudos man. You are d real MVP.
I think you should pop champagne & celebrate your freedom & toast to a new beginning.
Then, start w whatever legit tin ur hands find to do. And start paying ur tithe.
Yes, tithe. If not, you will keep going round in circles..
If u r faithful, regular in tithing, I assure u things will turn out gradually better.
Pls, don't take her back again. She doesn't love you and really wants to infect you w the virus.
Always make out time to go see ur children & spend time w them.
Your MIL seems to be a good woman, who would be patient till money comes. (_don't forget her wen it comes)
As for your wife, she has gone 'd highway' hope she doesn't catch other deadly diseases.
Stop crying and start praising God, for this is a miracle.

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

15:07 did u assimilate the story?

Faithful God said...

Leave her there in abuja and rearrange your life first, so you can take care of your responsibility

Anonymous said...

I just don't understand why human beings like suffering. My humble advice is you focus on yourself so that you can provide for your kids. You don't have a wife. You have a user going by what you have told us. Let her go and do her runs in Abuja afterall she is not new . If truly she has something legitimate and clean she should have discussed with you. She has gone for greener pastures so dust yourself up and start from scratch. And try and do anything legitimately that is humanly possible to start making money to cater for your children so that you can take them back. Don't worry she will be back once Abuja business crash and she will start asking for forgiveness and preaching love. But I think it's even better for you. It's a blessing in disguise so take the situation and make something positive out of it. But I will advice you not to make any plans with her,take her back or wait for her. She is a user and will keep dragging you down.

Anonymous said...

If all u said is true, brace yourself up n let her be, don't cease ur hustling 4 ur kids' sakes, I'm sure she'll com begging in future cos no guy not even her extended family wil 1 2 b close 2 her 1ce they know her status. Pls don't b d 1 2 spill it out o, it'll find its way out as long as you're bn sincere with her n ur d story u portray

Stella maris Baby said...

Ungrateful wife.

Just speechless!!

Oga,allow her to hustle for her self in Abuja trust me she will come back to her senses soon.
Just focus on your well being and that of your kids for now..

She will come back when she received sense.

Anonymous said...

hmmmGod please fix it for him, i will advise you to get other job as part time or try fix your car to be able to fend for your kids, the children dont want to know if you are not paid all they want is go to
school ,eat and be able to get basic needs like their peers
pls forget your wife for now and get on your feet like a man ,money makes the world go round ,even the bible says money answer all things


tiwa

VICTORIOUS EHIS said...

Oga relax urself. Take one day at a time for now. Hopefully, help will locate u soon and she'll come begging but by then, u hv to use ur tongue to count ur teeth

Anonymous said...

He did her a favour he deserves one too

Doppelgänger said...

She has HIV(wey no dey show for face) not leprosy. She should go and look for a job instead of pouring her frustrations on an innocent man. Farida Bedwei, software engineer she has cerebral palsy. Taiwo Lawal, blind photographer. So what is this madam's excuse? Shouldn't her mother even know her status and why would a married woman travel without telling her husband? If tables were turned, wouldn't you be calling him names instead.

Lacey Love said...

Waoh, did you read what you just typed? Hmmmmm

Anonymous said...

She has gone to Abuja to spread it. She is a murderer, she must be reported to save others.

Anonymous said...

I doubt.....u may just be another person with his wife's character, ungrateful idiot and it's really sad that u'r commenting under anonymous but ur behaviour will expose u

Anonymous said...

I hear you. Depression is eaten into her in abuja abi? Poster your wife was and is still a whore, and that's how she contracted hiv. You better go on your kness and thank God for removing such calamity your way. This is the Lord's doing, and it should be marvellous in your sight. Atleast you didn't chase her away, she chased herself. Such a foolish anf idiotic woman.

Anonymous said...

Your wife has a serious character defect and you are letting it get to you, no man! Evil bows before the good and not the other way round, so, you have to man up and feel big, that's who you really are, whether you have money in your pocket or not. What you are, counts more than what you have. Acknowledge the situation, talk to your mother in-law about the unfortunate condition of things and assure her that it's a phase that will pass. Master your situation! Trust God and hope in His word.
Friend, your wife is the least of your issues, just focus on getting back on your feet, she'll be the one begging you later. When that time comes, cease the opportunity and nail some sense into her brain. Right now, she's just playing the fool's game.

Hawk-Eyed!

Kiks said...

If all you typed is true poster then relax. You will heal with time and your wife will realize she threw away a good man with time but here's hoping it won't be too late by then. Work hard for your children and take away the burden of looking after them all alone from your mother in law. If it means going back to taxi driving please do so whatever you find till all else normalize. You love your wife and you are hurting but there's little you can do when someone doesn't want you anymore. In fact the more you push for reconciliation now the more you repel her. Give her time and space and hustle hard. Also remember you have no business exposing her status.

Anonymous said...

You should always be happy because you are not positive. God don comot her for your life and you are still sad. You better embrace reality and move forward. She has not going to Abuja before. You just didn't know.

Bibire said...

Dear poster,kindly look for another job no matter how small and move on with your life.Get something doing so you will be sending money for your children upkeep,if you have an opportunity to move to another state,please do so.That woman isn't worth to be called a wife,Any BV that can help him get a job should kindly do so for the sake of those children

Rappakatakata said...

Do not call her. Just gather yourself together and live your life. Now that you've just yourself more or less to cater to, take time to put things together. While you're at that, do well to regularly check up on your kids. I understand you're trying to keep your matter secret, but at times as this, there should always be that one person to speak to just for witness sake. Don't keep totally mum about the whole matter. That woman will likely go out there and alter the truth while spreading her baggage. She's most likely gone back to the trade from where she got the infection.
#ungratefulwomen
#theyareeverywhere

Anonymous said...

Women it is ya turn today. Na wetin dey worry una? Poster based on what you narrated you must be a saint in this modern times. Nawa ooo. How many HIV negative guys will agree to marry a positive woman knowingly? I think you did your best as a man, but I still have to hear her side because her behaviour as you narrated it makes absolutely no sense to me. I pray God mends things for you and your finances pick up. Hope you are applying for other jobs? Just remember this storm will surely pass. If you truly are this good Ayam seriously rooting for you. ✌ (Why can't folks appreciate good peeps when they have them?)

Anonymous said...

Exactly

Spanish Lantern said...

Oga, pls leave love aside and wake up. You don't have a wife anymore and your kids are in safe hands. Its time for you hustle like never before. Cry to your maker to proof himself to you by giving you a good job. Hustle my brother, life no be rehearsal. Fight so you can bring your kids home.

Shirley said...

My mouth was open all through reading this,wonderful woman. Nawa

Shirley said...

I bet you didn't read the story,what are you even saying?mutcheeeewwww

Shirley said...

My dear all this questions won't change anything.
Please focus on your kids and in making yourself a better person

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a Ugegbe Chike Teflon said...

So being HIV positive is now a disease ba? Who told her she can't work? I've never had any company request that i do any tests, all my career. Yes, banks and stuff request but not all companies do. So why cant she get a job? Is she an illiterate? Okay. Can't she do business? All the salary you were giving her why didn't see use some of it as capital for business? She was chopping and chopping. Now money has reduced and she's coming up with an attitude. Foolish lazy women everywhere!

As for you oga, I blame you. You have made her feel being HIV+ is an excuse to sit at home. It's like you see it as a disability too, so you made her useless to both you and herself. At least make she wait make you hammer first before she seat down.... even at that!! She can volunteer.

Please tell her mum she has HIV. Bone that secret nonsene there. And tell her you are taking the kids and leaving her for good. Such insolence and ungratefulness!! What bloody damn secret, So she can pass it round? Youre still keeping secret when shes on the lose? You sound really weak and sorry oh.... us women should know the difference between a good man and one who isnt firm. Why woman go use you shine like this? Put your foot down and give her an ultimatum. If she wants to go she should fuck off and keep your kids away from her waywardness.

As for your finances, don't worry things will pick up. You don't even need that type of draining woman in your life. I don't know where some of you go and pick problems and call them wives. This one too na wife? Shiooor!
If she comes back, no more salary remission to her. She doesn't deserve it. Put your foot down in your home. Contrary to the rubbish being spread on social media, My father makes me understand that it's a man job to keep a family together under one roof. Oga do your job! If your wife has excesses give yourself brain and stop sounding helpless

Shirley said...

Later someone will come and tell me how runs girls makes good wife's.
Dog wey dey chop shit go enter latrine to hunt for shit the day wet e no see bone chop.
You will be fine sir

Anonymous said...

that woman doesn't deserve you at all, can't she get a job and help reduce the financial burden? Just focus on your kids and forger her she's just an ingrate

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a Ugegbe Chike Teflon said...

This is how you people read things upside down on this blog and assimilate from your anus. And come and spill trash born out of ignorance.
Suit yourself!

Iya Oshoronga of Blogosphere AKA Mrs Always RIGHT said...

Poster my only advise to you IS TO BLOW HER COVER. Let her people know her status and everyone else that needs to know. She has betrayed you and its your turn to take your pound of flesh. You have nothing to lose. You are a good man, move on with your life.

Mama Rere said...

Wow men like this are rare. Don't worry sir, all will be well. Remember everything happens for a reason,very soon you will understand the reason behind all these and thank God. Pls don't try to force things with her. You have done your best, leave the rest to God.

Anonymous said...

Abeg the kind pigeon de knack this bros head no be here o. May such never find me and my brethren in Jisos name Amen!!!

kemi ade said...

Oga, what is the purpose of declaring your wife's status? I don't see its relevance to your story. You wanted people to applaud you for marrying your wife? Please go and hustle and feed your family. Your wife also needs to get a job or start a business to augment what you bring home. We all make sacrifices for our marriages. Stop the pity party and be a man. It was your decision to marry her despite her status, or is her status responsible for your financial situation?

OMEHE Nnamdi said...

The wound from a treacherous friend is deep. Don't worry, you will heal with time.

Mama Rere said...

Wow

Anonymous said...

Na wah o, different human beings,see comment. Madam may God baptise you with wisdom cos clearly you lack it

Anonymous said...

Exactly! Without meaning to be judgemental but she was with him for 4 years before marriage and caught the virus and he didn’t. To me, the fact that she’s in Abuja is very suspicious. God is trying to save this good man from something horrible. Pleas poster leave her be...

Anonymous said...

God and fortune really beacon on your path, which could be as a result of your good intentions towards that woman. Regret no more. Move on with all of you. I promise you'll be fine. For those asking you to listen or accept her back when she returns are more evil than your estrange wife. if you dare, you will not be this lucky and she will leave you in terrible state than you are right now. you were her option not choice and she married you because of her status. Please don't be a fool for the second time, if not for anything live for your kids and you.

Anonymous said...

Mama Rere and annoy 17:52, leave Kemi Ade, she just de use her hand de expose herself by herself.

Anonymous said...

Oga I don't want to sound crude but here's my conclusion
Your wife was a runs girl before you both got married, most times its hard for such women to not go back to their ways once things get difficult.
So the final decision lies with you.

sholetoga said...

Poster.....You have been good to her and God will soon open divine doors of favour to you. Stop worrying and stay focus but find something doing

Anonymous said...

Oga i agree with anonymous 18:40, your wife was a runs girl and you where too weak and naive to realised she wasn't for you. A leopard does not change its spots.

Push up said...

I think your wife has gone to spread her hiv o, abeg please report to someone. You were blinded by love and got married to an evil woman who never loved you, please just pull yourself together may God grant you the strength to hold on, and let her go, she was never into you, when you get paid take care of your kids cus you don't have a wife

Esther Mgbolu said...

Please leave that whoreman and concentrate on making money to feed your self and kids,don't you ever call her and oga please tell her mother about her status inshort tell everybody who cares to listen,Secret ma foot.Self centered and Ungrateful thing

kikki said...

This story sounds so one-sided creamy...... Not buying it!

Nonish said...

Hmmmmm please oh poster which kind work you dey work that since February you haven't gotten salary sounds not true sir yes they are owing but not for this long that I know of and on the second tot when things were going on well I'm sure you sef dey find your Abuja to go for evening hehehehe

DON™ said...

Amen.. Lol

Anonymous said...

Please try and be visiting your kids, they need you most now
Depending on their age, explain to them about the financial challenges you are having
Hope they are going to school?
Pray for your wife. It is time to mourn
Agaracha must come back

Anonymous said...

Madam Stella, he is a state worker not FG worker

Yemi7up said...

I agree with you completely. For you to keep her secret and supported her this far you are a good man.

Anonymous said...

yes because he needs to be applauded, not every hiv negative person can marry a hiv positive person

Halima Muhammed said...

Leave this woman and concentrate on ur kids she doesn't deserve u.

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