You see these GenZ children, they are thinking something else.
One was asking me if I know of a good 'old people 's home' in Nigeria so that he and his siblings would keep their mum there.
I have come into conclusion that these days a child that will stay by your side at old age will stay and the one that will abandon you will abandon you, no matter how you sacrifice for that child.
To secure my future, I'm planning on having and sustaining multiple streams of income that would not warrant me to be present physically before money comes in. If you have money at old age, you won't feel the impact much. You can employ people to clean the house, cook and take care of you.
If you are a lonely widower, you can even marry a young wife to take care of you while you grease her pockets in return. I won't advice a widow with grown children to remarry unless she has God-fearing children.
I still have goosebumps when I remember comments here from some bvs on one post years back. The post was about either a mature celebrity or a celebrity 's mum that remarried or talked about remarrying( I have forgotten).
One particular anonymous bv caught my attention. He said he would disown his mum if she remarries. He was so bitter about it that he could even harm the poor woman, from the way he sounded (this one is a topic for another day cos what da h€ll).
Now, back to our main topic. I know some people will say "what is wrong with old people 's home?"
My people, old people 's home in Nigeria? How will it work? Considering how we don't regulate our agencies, no supervision or maintenance, then add our people's wicked hearts. If they take you there, na to quick kpai be dat due to torture, especially if the place is owned by the Nigerian government.
My advice is "plan for your old age".
Now, back to our main topic. I know some people will say "what is wrong with old people 's home?"
My people, old people 's home in Nigeria? How will it work? Considering how we don't regulate our agencies, no supervision or maintenance, then add our people's wicked hearts. If they take you there, na to quick kpai be dat due to torture, especially if the place is owned by the Nigerian government.
My advice is "plan for your old age".
Before nko, plan for your old age and also raise whatever child you have with love.you can’t keep a child close or near you with manipulation or by control. It is only love that will bring them near you.
ReplyDeleteYour last line is so apt. Old people's home in Nigeria will be a disaster.
DeletePlanning for our old age cannot be overemphasized. Train your child and plan for your old age alongside.
Fresh petals there are old people's home in Nigeria o
DeleteI and my friend visited one old people's home two years ago
Even in the abroad most old people don't like the old's people home but they accept to stay there because they don't have a choice, most would have love to stay with their families till the end.
ReplyDeleteAnd what's with everyone thinking Genz's are heartless, selfish or wicked...the ones around me are very solid in a good way.
A good child is a good child regardless of the generation.
Some self-children care only when it suits them; some only support to access 'blessing of father's house' and can be so desperately wicked just to own it. Bottomline, parents, please prepare for your old age because you are supposed to leave an inheritance for your children, not live off them in your old age. You invited them to this world and if you consider the current plethora of events in Nigeria and the world, nowaday, just prepare and provide for yourself rather than see your children as social security for old age.
ReplyDeleteThank you for bringing up this discourse.
ReplyDeleteThe bitter truth is that these Gen Zs are self centered. Most of them don't care as much as the generations before them do.
I call them the rebellious generation. Before you even begin to explain to them why they should take care of you at old age, some of them will argue that they didn't beg to be born. Although, there are exceptions, but just a few.
Infact early this year, I watched a chit-chat between a mother and daughter on Instagram. The woman is a big business influencer in Nigeria.
Amidst their discussion, she told her daughter that she's sorry that she doesn't spend so much time with her because she is usually engrossed with travelling around, promoting her business just as her hubby; the girl's dad too is always busy with work.
She told her that they are this busy, because they are striving to give her and her siblings a better life all through their childhood up until adulthood, when her and her hubby would rest and then the children can pick up from there to reciprocate the gesture.
The little girl retorted and said, "Oh mum that won't be a problem, all I need to do is send you to the Home for the elderly and pay for services. You'll be fine there."
That girl shouldn't be more than 10years, if I'm correct. Her mum was shocked and her facial expression reeked of heartbreak. You could clearly tell.
Although she tried to explain to her playfully that it isn't a nice thing to do, the little girl had this look like... Care is care, so long as there's money, someone else would take care of you while I face my life.
So you see, that's why I keep telling parents of this time; while hustling, do not forget to take care of yourself too. Tommorow isn't assured. While you're caring for these kids, do take care of yourself too.
Plan for your old age also.
Thank you for bringing up this discourse.
ReplyDeleteThe bitter truth is that these Gen Zs are self centered. Most of them don't care as much as the generations before them do.
I call them the rebellious generation. Before you even begin to explain to them why they should take care of you at old age, some of them will argue that they didn't beg to be born. Although, there are exceptions, but just a few.
Infact early this year, I watched a chit-chat between a mother and daughter on Instagram. The woman is a big business influencer in Nigeria.
Amidst their discussion, she told her daughter that she's sorry that she doesn't spend so much time with her because she is usually engrossed with travelling around, promoting her business just as her hubby; the girl's dad too is always busy with work.
She told her that they are this busy, because they are striving to give her and her siblings a better life all through their childhood up until adulthood, when her and her hubby would rest and then the children can pick up from there to reciprocate the gesture.
The little girl retorted and said, "Oh mum that won't be a problem, all I need to do is send you to the Home for the elderly and pay for services. You'll be fine there."
That girl shouldn't be more than 10years, if I'm correct. Her mum was shocked and her facial expression reeked of heartbreak. You could clearly tell.
Although she tried to explain to her playfully that it isn't a nice thing to do, the little girl had this look like... Care is care, so long as there's money, someone else would take care of you while I face my life.
So you see, that's why I keep telling parents of this time; while hustling, do not forget to take care of yourself too. Tommorow isn't assured. While you're caring for these kids, do take care of yourself too.
Plan for your old age also.
This one long Small. I will come back and read it
DeleteI remember the comment, it was under Mama Gee Patience post, it's only a selfish child that'd deny his/her parent from companion.
ReplyDeleteParents should also embrace the healthy selfish lifestyle and kill that culture of living for just your children and marriage, as you train them be active in communities and group within your financial pulse, don't let go of your immediate and extended family just because you're building one.
Felicity
Yes, build other healthy relationships intentionally.
DeleteThis! This should be another topic; emotional blackmail by some parents...
DeleteI was trying to remember the post. I also remember those comments. The anon was all over the comment section asking what he or she would tell friends. That how can his or her mother remarry? What is she looking for again?
DeleteThat last statement says it all... Plan your old age ✅
ReplyDeleteMay God help us to raise Godly children
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Married man....We all need to start planning our future from now irrespective of your age.....The culture of black tax is gradually fading away with the new generation of children we have.....It is only wise to build yourself up financially...My prayer is never to be a burden to my children in old age.....
ReplyDeleteThanks for your thought provoking write-ups....
See you next Friday!
Most rich people don’t get abandoned by their children in old age
ReplyDeleteIs it love or money
Money! Nobody wan carry last when it comes to inheritance.
DeleteMoney of course
DeleteWho will abandon a rich parent?
DeleteMay God give us kind children
ReplyDeleteAlthough I am 60 I am glad genZs are refusing to be slaves to their financially irresponsible parents. Children are not your retirement plan in old age. They are not your slaves. If you invest love and care in your kids you will get it back. My parents did not invest love in any of us, They did the bare minimum and expected my siblings and I to put them first i everything and we did. It was our worst mistake. They are so ungrateful and if we did not stand united they would have scattered our bond. Some parents did not try at all. If you plan on having kids please invest in them.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you 100 per cent. Some parents will not send you when you are young but then expect you to be there for them later. The worst are the ones that insult you thinking you will amount to nothing in life. But as soon as you make sacrifices and hustle to make it, they become your number one fan with the hope that you have forgotten the past. Very crazy stuff.
DeleteThere's a girl on tik tok Ifunaya who tkd a story of how she went to rescue her dad. The man invested love in her I'm sure. But he still chose his dream of retiring in his home town and left his wife and kids in the US. His 3 siblings then showed him shege pro max. Very sad story,.
ReplyDeleteThat one is a different topic. He saved for his old age but got separated from his wife and moved in with wicked relatives.
DeleteGen z Gen z my nobours daughter of 17ys has the mum what has Daddy and you keep for your.old age, this is a girl daddy is paing school fees of. 2.1million and brother 1.5 the man and his wife stree to get this money. . this children are planing in the next few years going for Master degree in UK no coming to Nigeria again.
ReplyDeleteImagine!
DeleteThey will abandon their parents in Nigeria?
You've said it all.. plan for your old age 👌🏼
ReplyDeleteWhether I'm married or not, my mom is going to live with me when she's old, that's what I've always wanted.
ReplyDeleteOne of my brothers and I were discussing yesterday about our mom, and he said he will choose his wife over our mom and can even send our mom out if his wife doesn't like staying with her, because it's not our mom he will sleep with but his wife.
That's why my mom always say she thank God that he's not the only son and child she gave birth to.