A RANT ABOUT EX
A man you got married to in church, court and traditionally, left the marriage without you doing anything, all efforts from people to settle whatever the matter met a dead end.....
You didnt even give anyone a chance.
After the divorce, you kept coming back saying there was no one like her, you were doing on and off with her, each time you came as if you were coming to right your wrong, you leave her with another open wound.
She always asked what caused the divorce and unending issues in the short marriage, you said you cant remember or place it. That the past is in the past.
You kept in touch for the kids and whenever you need someone you need to pour out your heart, I was always available.
All of a sudden after six years, you came back that you have a conviction that I was meant for you and I asked again what caused the issues that lead to divorce.
And for the first time, you said it was SxxX that my sxxxx was too bad and he cheated on me with a girl with bomb pussy and he didnt mind leaving the marriage and kids behind.
I asked why he never remarried her instead, he couldn't give the right answers.
He has been in series of relationship, is he saying all the women are bad or I am the foolish one that keeps entertaining him.
I dont know if its because of the kids or because he is the only man I have known.
He came back, instead of apologising, we going for therapy, counselling, being patient, he jumped all that and was saying until we have sxxx before he can fully make his decisions.
And I asked what if the sxxx was still bad, I told him to give me time, he said he cant because he doesn't have time and it got me thinking abi this person wants to use me for rituals....he told me not to talk to anyone about our conversations.
I told him no, you cant just come from somewhere and demand for sxxx, that you claimed was the number reason for the divorce.
My heart felt heavy because the kids have started seeing him around unlike before, I just couldn't understand why I keep allowing him mess up with my brain.
Hmmm.....
Rant over.
Hmmm, please eh whatever you do, not do not sleep with him, it sounds like ritual ooooh...he will finish and run and you begin to fall sick...Please tell everyone and dont keep quiet.....He doesnt sound normal at all..
Tell him that the sxxx is still the same way he left it....
Stop entertaining him, he has no right to offer you conditions instead of apologies.
DONT TAKE HIM BACK!!!
Take him back and he will use you for money ritual.
ReplyDeleteI get your point Stella but I'll like to think he's in a haste for s3x cos he's still seeing the girl with the bomb pu××y but would prefer his family back together. He needs to have it with her to be able to make a decision (if it improves, he stays and if not,he will never come back).
DeleteSome men like it wild but only get it outside cos their wives a the missionary types. Unfortunately, I'm also the missionary typa lady cos I don't enjoy it any other way. Dear poster,if you think you can do better senxually, give him a chance but if you can't let him go and never entertain him again.
Or even HIV maybe he has tested positive and decides to infect you too you better run far away from that man before he destroys you
ReplyDeletePlease avoid this person, give him 1000 kilometers. What's this? Never read a chronicle as annoying as this. It seems you're still in love with him and ready to accept him back though. But please don't, ahn ahan
ReplyDeleteEven if he comes back, another bomb pus will take him away. I doubt he is correct upstairs and he is taking advantage of you because obviously you still like him. Plus he may be carrying diseases or involved in horrible things.
DeleteStop enabling bad behaviour
ReplyDeletePoster run oooooo run with everything in you,don't look back at all.ha! I pray God keeps protecting you from that evil man, maybe he wan to use you for ritual or pass on a disease he has contacted.
ReplyDeleteYou are divorced please stay divorced. He seems odd and appears to have some kind of mental illness. My dear, consider the divorce an act of mercy and thank God. You have no more connection to him save the children, you want to reopen the door to turmoil. He did not return with peace, only confusion and you are considering returning into his confusion, you don’t love yourself. In what way will his return improve your life?
ReplyDeleteI have a feeling he only returned because the woman he cheated with had no longterm interest in him beyond a fling and he probably got diagnosed with some disease so he is returning six years later to secure care. You better get to dating and leave him in the past. His mother and sisters can care for him. You can forgive him and leave him in the past. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you must take him back. Put a value on yourself. Your vag is six years older, it is even aged from when he had access to it. He can pay for a caregiver, after dropping you without the dignity of even attempting to save his marriage he wants to resurface now, coming back because he ain’t all he thought he was and nobody wants his problem azz. Mtsscchhwww
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Exactly. He sounds mentally unstable. He thinks he’s the prize hence no real explanation. People believe that their ex coming back is a flex. It isn’t. He’s coming back to the only person who will tolerate his crap and he’ll do it again. He may also be getting old or sick. Even if he’s young and well, stop entertaining a user.
DeletePoster, move on with a new person or stay single, both options are better than this nonsense.
Ozuo dey give you ultimatum?. Na wa oo. You were not loved at home or what.? .
ReplyDeleteKeep simping
😂 I am sorry for laughing but this comment is funny.
DeleteMaybe he has gotten a disease, he wants to share with you.
ReplyDeletePls, avoid him very well.
omg,!! Run from him!!! Stop entertaining him.
ReplyDeletePls whatever you do, do not have sex with this man. He lost his rights.
ReplyDeleteThis here doesn't smell right.
Exactly
DeleteAre you a Dumpster for emotions,or a cum-bucket where he can wake up to anyday and pour out his life issues or frustrations on?
ReplyDeleteIt's okay to be selfish and figure out your own life too,and what you need now is not making out with him without a purpose;because it's obvious he isn't in love with you,rather you are only an option to him;where he can either pour out his life lamentations;or his spermatozoa when there is no other woman available to ease it off.
Everything isn't ritual,you are just the only one available to take anything he throws at,so make him realize you have better things to do with your time,emotions and life;by redirecting him to the other women whom he left you for previously.
Hope this helps.
@MARTINS
Martins, you have said it all.
DeleteRun away from this your enemy! Run!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou better run for your life..
ReplyDeleteStart seeing someone else,if not he will feel he has right to your body any time he likes..
Even if you take him back pls insist on hiv test o plsss
ReplyDeleteHe keeps coming back because you haven't moved on. You still left the door opened. No one will tolerate him and he knows that. He knows his behaviour is "shitty". That is why he won't respect you or do the right thing when it comes to you. Because in his mind you don't know your worth so will accept anything. He won't respect you because no one respects a worthless thing(excuse my language, it's just so you understand what's going on in his mind, I do not think you are worthless. Infact i think you haveso much love to give but pouringit in the wrong man).
ReplyDeleteSis. You are showing that man you love him more than yourself. Stop doing that. Start working on yourself (acquire knowledge, socialise, improve financially,improve your wardrobe).
You will start attracting better than his type. That is the best revenge; work on yourself improvement.
Please choose you and your kids. Let him go and sort himself out, you deserve better. Don't take him back. It may not be easy but move on.
ReplyDeleteThe other lady refused to marry him. He is using you and needs an ego boost with some free sxx.
ReplyDeleteIgnore people’s words unless they match their actions. Watch for patterns instead. Confusion and nonchalance are bad indicators.
When someone shows you who they are, why can’t you just believe them? Years have passed, other women bla bla. Stop it, you deserve better. He’s just the father of your kids, move on, just co-parent. Women, many behave desperate and want to be martyrs, while he’s living on his terms.
ReplyDeleteNo matter what we say. You will still take him back. Your last sentence said it all. Congratulations madam.
ReplyDeleteThis lady is naive . She no tear eyes and because a man was your first shouldn't be your choice every time. Omo , check other avenue .
DeleteStop entertaining him. You’re divorced.so pls stay that way. Keep your emotions out of it and stop entertaining any sxxx talk with him
ReplyDeleteWhy are you still. Listening to him. You better run away from him
ReplyDeleteEven sparetyre won't let itself be played like this.Oh plssss!
ReplyDeleteHe Has Seen You Like Door Nah
ReplyDeleteAny Time He Likes He Open And Close
Person Wey You Suppose Carry Throw Away Inside Dustbin ..
Close Your Leg Very Well And Watch Him Leave And Never Comes Back..
Hello iya Boys
He keeps coming back, cos you allow him to. Don't you care about your mental, and physical health? He will go and have sex, and still come back to you. You gotta say enough is enough.
ReplyDeleteIt’s not any ritual. He has seen that you have no value for yourself and will continue to entertain his shenanigans. Can’t say I blame him
ReplyDeleteHere’s the truth: any man who could walk away from his home, his wife, and his children because of something as shallow as “bad sex,” and then return years later demanding the same thing before reconciliation, has not changed. That’s not love, that’s manipulation and control.
ReplyDeleteHe isn’t coming back because he’s ready to rebuild; he’s coming back because he knows you still have an emotional attachment to him. He’s testing if he still has power over you. His insistence on sex first, before any form of accountability, therapy, or healing, is a red flag, and your instinct that something is off is absolutely right. When someone tells you not to tell anyone about your interactions, it’s usually because they know they’re doing wrong.
You’ve carried yourself with dignity and patience for years, for the sake of the children, you’ve allowed him in your space. But now you must draw the line. Protect your peace, your dignity, and your children’s emotional stability. You don’t owe him your body, your forgiveness, or another chance to break you.
If he truly wanted to make amends, he would start with a sincere apology, accept responsibility, seek counselling, and prove change through consistent action, not through lustful urgency.
Let him co-parent if he wishes to be in the kids’ lives, but keep your boundaries firm. You’ve given him more than enough chances. It’s time to start healing for yourself, not for him.
You are not foolish, you are human, hopeful, and loyal. But now, be wise. He left once without cause; this time, don’t let him leave with your peace again.
You are his foot mat. When a man comes back it is to destroy you. He DOES NOT LOVE YOU. He loves the power he has over you emotionally, mentally and psychologically. Stop using the kids as an excuse. Rediscover your self worth and tell him to eff off in every language.
ReplyDeleteYou're entertaining him that's why. High time you shield him from everything "YOU"
ReplyDeleteHaba mana ? What nonsense !
The day that you hear what he says about you behind your back, I hope you will be able to bear it. This situation is common that's why all the comments here are aligned. You are a loving person who can focus on yourself or find someone else to love you equally not waste your life.
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