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MONDAY MEMO

How una dey? I dey Oh...Weather is just too cold...

I know you will read this cos i can see your footprints all over comments.....RAT STOP IT BEFORE I DRAG YOU AGAIN....I did not employ to go and be laughing and dragging people!

Those urgent 2k people hired by the lady that was deported to be dropping comments here, i see your comments and i delete them, go to facebook where my name is trending to drop such comments and dont come and disturb me here..I dont mind being lied on or being slandered or being cursed or called out, just do it in your own space OK? Thanks and God bless!

Santa list will be posted tomorrow and i will be attending to those who asked for foodstuff...Some of you dont know what Santa post is about and i am sad for you...Those of you who asked for phones, i cannot attend to you cos I am already gifting two people from this Blog phones and thats not part of Santa giveaway....

Those of you looking for bizness giveaway, please not now oh......

May God bless and provide for everyone.......Kai if i was a Billionaire no one will be hungry if its in my power to provide....

God please hear my prayer and send money, not for me but for me to bless people with....AMEN...

Enjoy the rest of the day.

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NOTORIOUS FOR JESUS

My daughter has a hairdresser that makes her hair, courtesy of my husband's street sister. She seems great and sweet but deep down, I was getting another energy.
Last weekend, my daughter was there to make her hair but she turned her down. I was kinda concerned because she has to go to school in an updo which is prohibited, else, she would be punished.

We managed to scale through Monday and after school, she was there but the woman was not around. According to her younger sister, she stepped outside quickly and would soon be back so my daughter returned home and I immediately knew that wasn't the problem.
My husband phoned her and she corroborated her sister's story but she promised to call us once she gets back, however, she never did.

After hours of endless wait into the night, hubby was furious and decided our baby girl won't go there again.
I told my hubby; the problem is not her, it is you making her appear irreplaceable. We decided she would change hairdresser because she had disappointed too many times. I still do not understand the reason for her behaviour and honestly IDK.

She may have been going through something...Did you pause to consider that? Otherwise who doesnt want money? Or maybe that is her silent memo to you, to go somewhere else and get the hair done...LOL

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WEIRD FACTS

---Once you've accepted your flaws, no one can ever use them against you.

----An adult male duck is called a 'drake'.

---Elephants are scared of bees.

---Remember the five simple rules to be happy: Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

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Uncomfortable Questions That Make Your Relationship Stronger

Every strong relationship has one thing in common: courage.
Not the kind of courage that fights battles outside, but the one that dares to face the truth inside.

Love grows when two people are willing to sit down, open their hearts, and ask the uncomfortable questions most couples avoid. These questions may sting, shake the table, or expose hidden fears - but they also create honesty, emotional safety, and deeper intimacy.

Below is a simple and powerful exploration of these questions, with illustrations to show why they matter.

1. “What kind of love do you truly want - and are we on that path?”
Many couples assume they want the same type of love, only to realize later that their expectations were different.
It’s like two people planning a trip: one is packing for the beach, the other for the mountains.
Clarity prevents confusion.

2. “What habit could destroy our relationship if we don’t fix it?”
Sometimes the biggest threats aren’t dramatic - just small, repeated behaviors.
Ignoring calls. Silent treatment. Lack of appreciation.
It’s like a tiny leak in a house: leave it long enough, and the whole ceiling collapses.

3. “Have you ever felt tempted to connect with someone else emotionally?”
This isn’t about catching a cheater - it’s about understanding emotional needs.
People drift when they feel unseen.
Asking this question brings hidden loneliness into the light.

4. “What mistake from your past still haunts you?”
Everyone carries something.
This question invites vulnerability, like handing someone the key to a locked room in your heart.

5. “Do you still feel seen, desired, and valued by me?”
Love needs maintenance.
Just because they stay doesn’t mean they feel cherished.
Sometimes the person closest to us is starving silently.

6. “Do you ever compare me to your past?”
People don’t always compare you intentionally - it sometimes happens subconsciously.
Talking about it breaks silent pressure and unrealistic expectations.

7. “When was the last time you doubted us - and why?”
Every couple faces moments of doubt.
Ignoring them is like sweeping dirt under a rug - it piles up.

8. “What do you wish I did more - or less - in love?”
Maybe you think you’re loving them fully, but you’re loving them in your language, not theirs.
It’s like giving someone flowers when what they need is a listening ear.

9. “Do you ever feel bored or emotionally unfulfilled with us?”
Relationships don’t die overnight; they fade slowly.
This question allows you both to catch the fading early and rebuild connection.

10. “How do you really feel about how we argue?”
Some arguments heal, some wound.
Some build understanding, others build walls.
Knowing the difference saves relationships.

11. “Do you feel I understand all of you - or just parts of you?”
Sometimes we love the version of our partner that is convenient - not the full, complicated human being.
This question invites deeper knowing.

12. “What is something I do that hurts you, even unintentionally?”
Most emotional wounds in relationships are unintentional.
A simple statement, a tone, a habit - these things matter.

13. “When do you feel emotionally disconnected from me?”
People disconnect not because they want to leave, but because they want to feel close again.
This question helps you find the cracks before they become distance.

14. “What is one thing you’ve never told me because you feared my reaction?”
Honesty requires safety.
If your partner is scared to tell you something, it means they don’t feel fully safe yet.
This question can break the fear barrier.

15. “What is one thing you've never told me?”
The simple version of the previous question, but deeper.
It gives your partner the freedom to choose what their heart has been holding back.

Why These Questions Matter

Asking these questions isn’t about finding faults - it’s about creating a relationship where nothing is hidden, nothing is assumed, and nothing is left to die quietly in silence.

Great relationships aren’t built on perfection.
They are built on honest conversations that many people are too scared to have.
If you and your partner can sit together and explore these questions with patience, empathy, and openness, you’re not just in a relationship - you’re building a deep emotional friendship, the strongest foundation love can have.


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LOVE CAN BE REAL AND STILL FAIL

There’s a kind of heartbreak that doesn’t come from being lied to.
But from knowing the love was real and still watching it fall apart.
You weren’t imagining the ease you felt when they came home, or the way your future looked clearer when you planned it together.
Those moments happen because two people are reaching for the same dream.
And for a while, the both of you were.
But love can be real and still fail.
It can live beside fear, selfishness, or the desire to avoid responsibility.
Some people feel deeply yet cannot stay steady.

They can cherish something meaningful and still walk away the moment it asks them to grow.
That doesn’t mean they never cared. It means their limits outweighed their courage.

You keep searching memories for the instant everything changed, but most endings don’t arrive in a single moment.

Often, the loe was true ... right up until they decided their comfort mattered more.

You loved honestly. That’s your strength.... not a mistake.

One day you’ll see the loss wasn’t proof that you were unworthy, but proof they weren’t ready for the kind of love you had to offer.

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Nobody talks about this part.

Nobody talks about what happens after you finally heal from a traumatizing relationship. After you’ve spent months or years rebuilding yourself, learning your worth, relearning trust, and stitching together the pieces of who you used to be.

And then .... when you’re finally ready to step back into the dating world, you realize how hard it actually is. Because now you see every red flag. Every inconsistency. Every tiny shift in tone or behavior that you used to overlook. You trust your intuition in a way you never did before, and it makes you walk away faster than people expect. You don’t let your feelings talk you out of what your logic already knows.

Then you notice how many people aren’t doing the work. How many want connection without accountability. How many think they’re fine as they are, with no interest in growing into anything deeper.
And honestly, it gets lonely. Exhausting, even.

But at the end of the day, you remind yourself of one truth:

It’s better to be single with high standards than attached to someone who can’t meet them.
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Stop Giving Your Passport to Agents — It Can Destroy Your Life


My people, please stop giving your passport to agents or employees to “keep” for you. It is not safe at all. Once your passport leaves your hand, you don’t know what the person can use it for. 

Some people use passports to open dating sites, loan apps, betting accounts, or even do fraud. When police start tracking the crime, they will see the passport that was uploaded on the app. That is how an innocent person enters trouble they know nothing about.

Someone can also use your passport to pretend to be you and collect money, run from debts, or do things that will bring your name into problem. Agents can even use your passport to apply for fake visas. If immigration discovers it, they will hold you, because your name and your document are inside the case.

Another problem is control. When an agent is holding your passport, they can delay your travel, demand more money, or use it to force you to do whatever they want. Your passport is your identity. Don’t give it to anybody to hold for long. Only give it when necessary and collect it back immediately. Protect yourself. Hold your passport tight.

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