A year ago this kiss was front page news....celebrated in flamboyance and had Alister's in attendance.
Now we are sad to learn it is over between these two.....This just goes to show that man proposes but God disposes.
The way Marriages are crashing these days in the Entertainment sector in Nigeria is alarming.What has gone wrong with Marriage In Nigeria....I mean we are Africans and taught to hold on and fight for love;our parents stayed for better for worse...
Is the white man's culture to blame or these Entertainers to blame?
*This post is not targeted at Funke Akindele in particular,please do not concentrate on her.
Just this morning I was congratulating myself for keeping my marriage despite all the wahala , the pressure family and friends put on you as a single woman eeeeh na die , then when you have added value to yourself , gotten educated , working aaaaa double die , they will say you are getting old , you are making yang a, they want to see grandchild , just bring somebody .
ReplyDeleteYou now meet one that looks like a correct guy . fast forward to marriage then you realize both of you are so different , then the man is a lazy , chronic woman chaser , he starts to beat you and panel beat you , assault you sexually . You just take a walk and tell society , family and friend to go to hell . Toyin
Always blaming the men. Nobody is perfect and no two marriages are the same. What works for one couple may not work for the other. Marriage is 90% understanding. The other components no matter how many share the remaining 10%. Know this and your marriage will be successful.
DeleteFunke I understand am sure u are d one comenting
DeleteFunke is that you? I'd that what happened?
ReplyDeleteIn this case, It was glaring it won't work...1, he's a muslim n she's a christian( same belief matters). 2, there were rumours of anoda wife. 3, she be public figure and she no need anoda public figure
ReplyDeleteFunke dear, move on like a typical suliat, the bigz gehl...
Nigerians are marrying for the wrong reasons, there is always one agenda or the other from one or both parties. Everybody is looking for mugu to use to get the kind of life style they want regardless of what the other person want. It is a matter of being married and not bothering to find out what it takes to keep the marriage.
ReplyDeleteGbam! I can bet you if you ask most of the ppl who got married from jan-this month why they got married, they won't be able to come up with a good reason! Both men and women, esp women!
DeleteIt is better to divorce than remain in a marriage where you are miserable, worthless, unfulfilled. As human beings, some of us will make wrong choice of spouses. However, the greatest thing you can do for yourself is to walk away and start again having learnt your lesson. Life is about learning and learning involves failing and passing the test. Most of our parents you refer to, were in bondage, that is why most people nowadays DON'T know what it takes to remain married.
ReplyDeleteMost times its the family pressure to get married and most marriage are contracted out of love and mostly through Mama Dolphin things. May God help us all and no one want to be patient again especially with a lazy drunk, loose husband who can't even put food on the table for the family.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for funke ♏ƴ name sake
ReplyDeleteSocial media is a big contributing factor. Its very easy for both partners to cheat. And its also easy to get caught.
ReplyDeleteWomen are also no longer taking the bullsit, suffering and smiling. Its a global village now, women are more aware of western ways and are following suit.
Stella,let's leave the "white man's culture" out of this.I live in the USA and I know a lot of "White" couples who has been married for over 30,40 and 50yrs.Some were high school sweethearts and while some meet during College.I think divorce is an personal thing that only the two people involved would trully understand.I'm married so I definately understand dt it takes a lot of work and commitment to make a marriage work.Marriage and Divorce isn't all black and white like spectators often think it is.Sum marriages are worth the hardwork while others aren't worth it.Do we all knw who Kenny Doo really is? We've read on here that he harrasses women,we've read abt his several baby mommas,we also know he's an Agbero.But do we really know how he is behind closed doors? Do we know if he's one of these "I'm cheating,so what" - in your face kinda guy? Do we know If Funke herself is d one that's hard 2 live with?.Let's face it,Funke is a succesful independent woman who has been on her own for a long time.Do we knw whether she has a hard time letting go of control ? Do we know whether they are just having Power struggle ?My point is,u jst can't generalize.I wish dey made it work tho,cos we all know the 1st year of marriage is d hardest.
ReplyDeleteRightly said.the first year is always the hardest almost left my husband at that stage.if not for my parents counselling!got married at 35 meaning I've been independent for a long time .it wasn't funny taking orders, to the extent we fought & I was determined to leave but looking back I know we just needed to understand ourselves & I learnt to respect him more.men need respect & they ll be willing to do anything for you.wish all the best in their marriages & those looking up to God ll marry their friends
Delete@ Anon 6:11, it is not... a lot of white couples who "has" been married. It is... a lot of white couples who "have" been married
DeleteIt is not...divorce is "an" personal thing. It is...divorce is "a" personal thing.
It is not...I'm married so I "definately" understand. It is...I'm married so I "definitely" understand.
Thank me later
I wish we could meet up fr cofee so I would "thank you" in person mayb I might forget my Starbucks cup in you dirty lil face. What a childish punk you are! You ignorant fart! Madam ITK,Why don't you write a book since ur english is so perfect? You are above Typos abi? Oniranu Omode!
DeleteAll u should simply say is thanks for the correction. No one is above mistakes. Even our blogger Stella is so humble enough to take typo corrections and still say thank you. I personally have learnt stuffs from other people's corrections. You are so senseless and u r such an ingrate cos the person who corrected you never even insulted you. Grow up you low life
DeleteStella! It's not only the entertainment sector, its everywhere! As in?! Something needs to be done regarding society pressure on marriage issues. Family pressure, peer pressure......that alone can break a single lady. And it's not only women who go through pressure to get married, even men too. I know some people here will say " why wld you allow someone pressure you into marriage" but it does happen! If not, why would someone marry a man who already has 3 or 4 wives, 10 kids and counting.........
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine how people like Rita Dominic, Genevieve and co feel when evil people write stuff like " go and marry, you are getting old, menopause is here, old mama youngie" and all those nasty comments. Some people get married for all the wrong reasons, 2 people who are not compatible, no love, nothing! Smiling and acting like everything is fine yet the marriage is hell! If someone is not meant for you, it can never work. But trust niaja people.......na by fire by force! They will rather die in that marriage just to be Mr and Mrs somebody.
My thoughts exactly! For spme of us who are still single, we have to enjoy and be proud of being single. Marriage is not just about carrying someone's last name! This society pressure, choi!
DeleteI felt so terrible when I read the comments on your initail post about these two getting a divorce.Nigerians are so judgemental it's ridiculous! They are also quick 2 back their ignorance up with the word of God.Folks,we need 2 chill! Expectially the single ones,Never say Never! When I was I was younger/Single,I used 2 judge pple for not fighting for their marriages.Now that I'm married and I know better.I realized realy quick that marriage isn't as easy as it looks to the people on the outside.My girlfriends always comment on how great of a relationship my husband and I have.I always try to tell them that everyday isn't all peaches and cream but they always dismiss me or take it that I'm just trying 2 act humble.But the truth is,my marriage is the way it is today because of the hardwork we both put into it.Marriage counselling,couples retreat,and financial counselling...name it, we've done it! Now,we seem to be on the same page and that's what reflects to others-its still not all perfect :).So wen I see a couple going through a rough patch,I understnd because I've been there.When I see a couple who couldn't make it work,I also understand because it's not easy.What Funke needs is y'all's support not judgement.She's an intellegent woman,her success speaks for her level of smartness.You guys need to just trust that she's making a descision she feels is best for her.Also,all you young folks should give her a break! Your opinions are like that of an high school student who is giving and undergraduate and advice...they are two diffrient institutions.And all you smartasses that enjoys attacking people for voicing their opinions,be sure you have been married for over 10yrs before you reply me.Shalom!
ReplyDeleteWell said babe....its only the person that wears the shoes that understands how & where it hurts! I refuse to judge either of them as I wasn't a part of their marriage. They got married because they intended and hoped to spend the rest of their lives together...they are the only ones who can decide that its time for both parties to go their seperate ways. Pls let's leave them in peace and concentrate on better things!
Deletewell said maam! It takes a lot of hard work and dedication from both parties.. They both must be willing to compromise all the tym..
DeleteBaby, 6:22am??? Really?? Chai! U don gbadun dis blog thing pass me sef..Oga o
DeleteI think the whole ish is that people just go into marriage for the wrong reasons; mostly cos of pressure from home or cos you feel you are getting old. I'm gonna be 25 next month and I can't count how many of my family people including my pastors wives that are chasing me and giving me the talk on getting married; at times the pressure is just too much but I still have to stand my grounds cos they won't be the ones to handle my home. And also, most of us don't want to make it work anyone, once there's a fault, you blame the other person and get moving. Why take the vow when you'll be out in a few months?
ReplyDeleteToo much talk. Nowadays people just get married to tick that box. Check it. Couples aren't really in love. Many wives now have boyfriends to occupy their minds and keep them happy. Anybody can get married, Marrying your friend is the real work. Parents make u bring "Anyone". Check it most of our mothers are not truly happy. They prolly just stayed on for the kids. Marriage is HARD! If it's not working out, park it up.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with marriage, marriage is still as sweet as it used to be,it is the parties that are going into it for wrong reasons-sympthy,societal pressure, class,money,physical beauty, business etc.
ReplyDeleteStella, would like to suggest will set aside a day to pray for Nigeria on this blog. There are so much troubles in the land and we can't afford to keep sit down look, because me no fit carry gun. Just a suggestion. Thanks
ReplyDeleteIts better to divorce a man that lives off your hard earned income than have him live off you yet still cheat like there's no tomorrow. Annabell and osagie jnr consoles so go to hell MI. You are a looser and I am happy yes I am. Women need to grow some balls to throw away cheating spouses. Signed FA.
ReplyDeleteFunke Total is this you? Unbelievable you say this of martins? That's gross of you. Well I hear he's hooked already sef in that Abuja. Weldone fucking your men in lagos,noone will marry you with 2 kids. Shikena
DeleteHope not the same martins that speaks rubbish english in abuja. Cz those are names of his kids...annabelle and osagie. Well you did well by checking him out of your life. He's a fucked up goatie. Goodluck with your life funke.
DeleteS to D K, I tell u sum'fn, people get married for some reasons other than love and understanding.
ReplyDeleteUnderstanding being the major watch ward. Once this is not your start point for embarking on the marriage journey, be sure that that's the beginning of trouble.
When you marry out of pressure ( go and marry, u don due old) you end up with the wrong man cos you are desperate)
When you marry based on money or material stuff, same shit.
Any marriage with a foundation of mutual understanding and genuine love can never go wrong.
You don't know the half of it. Being 36 and single is like an eye sore for my extended family and friends to the extent that every time they see me its 'may God send your husband', not even a good husband ooo just a husband.
DeleteI'm not unhappy with my life, God has blessed me so far, I have a good job, house, car and I can afford to go on at least 2 holidays a year. Who am I to complain.
I believe God will send the right person to me at the right time but in the mean time I'm living life.
Send me your email. Let's hook up. Cheers. Frank.
DeleteMothers, fathers, uncles, aunties, cousins, married friends, pastors, church members etc should please stop putting pressure on single folks about marriage. All fingers are not equal and everyone's time is different. It's only in our society that anyone in their 30s is considered old or getting too old for marriage!! Like seriously?! This marriage topic is really getting out of hand oh.The most annoying ones are those who leave comments on blog with all sorts of hurtful shit! When there is a post about Rita, its the same " go and marry" bullshit! When there is a post about Omotola, its " Omotola go and take care of your husband"! You are single, wahala! You marry finish, wahala! But if its 46 year old Halle berry now......my niaja people will congratulate her like she is their family member. All the bashing needs to stop. What happened to supporting one another?! Nobody knows what happened between Funke and her husband but if its not working out, it ain't gonna work! Whether she married abgero or danfo driver, that is her problem. At least she knows better now and I hope she finds someone who will make her happy.
ReplyDelete#2# no dumb ass it's not Funke like you cannot read ---- use your brain Olodo !!!!!. * Toyin *
ReplyDeleteOh please shut up! Do you have to insult someone before you make your point? Hisss
ReplyDeleteMarriages fails these days because people do not seek God before going into it. Personally seeking God's face concerning whom to marry, I tell you, you will not make mistake.
ReplyDeleteStella if u kip talkin dis way women will stop comin out of an abusive marriage cuz dey wnt want2 b yabbed by u..d truth is if ur no longer happy in ur marriage n uv tried every 2 correct dat abeg my sisters come our sharpily..dis life is 2 short abeg
ReplyDelete*you don 'dey' old....
ReplyDeleteA lot of people marry for the wrong reasons. Marriage is about understanding/communication and dat is what most people fail to realize
ReplyDelete.Forgiveness is also a part of it. If u r married and can't forgive ur spouse all the time, there is bound to be tension. I don't know y her marriage packed up but I wish her well.
if parents did nt stay put in der marriages n tak d shit just 2 kip home, i bet sum of us wil nt hav cum out being responsible. Im a product of a seperated parent n i knw wat i encoutered, now im married, i n my husband agreed dat we must mak it work. By God's grace we are 6yrs on n stil counting... Pls let us luk inwards n stop luking 4 who n wat 2 blame.
ReplyDeleteif parents did nt stay put in der marriages n tak d shit just 2 kip home, i bet sum of us wil nt hav cum out being responsible. Im a product of a seperated parent n i knw wat i encoutered, now im married, i n my husband agreed dat we must mak it work. By God's grace we are 6yrs on n stil counting... Pls let us luk inwards n stop luking 4 who n wat 2 blame.
ReplyDeletei'm in same shoes, i'll be 24 by October but i tell you the pressures i go through daily is killing and to think my mum that knows everything about my relationship is among. just cos i have a good job, everyone lectures me on marriage. i've resolved to form fake engagement sef, now i tell everyone that greets me that my engagement is dis year when i dont even have a boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteOMG!!! This is so funny. Rotfl @ fake engagement o
DeleteMarriage!!!I am single but I think about it a lot. people fail to realize that it is more than asoebi, white gowns etc. I believe it is all about understanding and submission on the part on the woman. when I meet a guy, I look closely at his character and ask myself would I still love dis guy 10 years from now. can I live with him ? can I cope with his bad side if the answer is NO I move on. So many ladies do not think of dis before jumping into marriage. the truth is dat the initial spark would die down and wat would kip it going is companionship, friendship and understanding each other..
ReplyDeleteVery well said.. You are a true woman of wisdom.. That's men/women shld look at too.. Does this woman/man give me inner peace, joy, and most especially understands me.
DeleteMarriage is nt easy,it takes grace of God .
ReplyDeleteThere's a say that "families who pray 2gether stays 2gether" many families hardly pray this days, that's y d devil fines it easy 2 penetrate. I so much believe in prayers. Have you take your time 2 pray for ur wife/husband even ur children.Marriage is a skool dat we can't graduate & we keep learning,y b/cos dere re 2 diff peep with diff characters. I believe with love, Understanding, communication, patient & prayers they will get 2 d next level....
ReplyDeleteNow am gerrin scared. I suck during stress/crisis...I easily give up. Am 22, bin finkin abt marriage n t scares d shit outta me. I cnt jst cope wf d misunderstndings. It doznt tk me evn up2 a min 2 dislike sm1. Plenty men want 2 hv a future wf me buh am scared 2 evn let a soul in. Myt b all over u now,...wht abt 2mao?
ReplyDeleteWell, I don't think anybody has really done justice to the question. What is wrong with marriages these days is that strangers are marrying themselves and this stems from the fact that people are getting married for all the wrong reasons.
ReplyDeleteA certain "ngozi" was raised by her struggling parents in the village, fast forward to some 20 something years ngozi has crossed the rubicon of poverty and is now a lagos big chick and unfortunately for the ngozi she's the ada and probably the only child and ngozi's parents days are getting number. Now the onus and pressure is on ngozi to get married to everything and anything that proposes to her in a bid to satisfy her parents dying wish to grant them a grand-child all in a bid to show gratitude for the suffering they endured in raising her.
Or scenarios 2 "ngozi" had was just barely able to go through university education and now she has 8 other siblings and the responsibility of their welfare and that of her now aged parents automatically falls on to her. Now when acertain "tunde" somewhere with an oversized pocket comes her way, she's expected to be "responsible and do the right thing"
Scenario 3 a certain "funmi" was the cynosure of all eyes during her teen days and early youth and a well groomed "mama's girl" not to add the seasoned academic background. Fast forward the story some 10-15 years, all funmi's peers are married even the termed "slut" during their school days and funmi is still single. Now pressure is on her from society, family and friends to settle for anything or the next best thing that comes their way.
The sole purpose of marriage is "COMPANIONSHIP" every other thing is secondary...YES!!! Secondary (even child rearing) so until you precise he's your life companion, ladies please don't rush in to it.
Respect women like genevieve, rita and a host of others who have decided to take a stand since they know their self worth.
SO to all my female friends still seriously searching my you timely find you Mr. Right - concerned brother
So why did u use anonymous when u still gonna spill ur name
ReplyDeleteyoruba nd bad marriages.smtcheew!!!.....yinkus
ReplyDeleteshe could have married just to get the pressure off her back and now that it hasn't worked she has jettisoned it and she is now free; nobody can put pressure on her anymore. Face your career girl you're forever hot.
ReplyDeleteAh Yinkus are you changing for the better?
ReplyDeleteThe basic thing in marriage is not abt having a wealthy husband or beautiful wife like most pple look for nowadays.. It is character & understanding even love is not enough sometimes when it comes to marriage. It's more about looking well before you take a leap.. Compatibility is key.. Are the couples core traits the same? Do they have a common vision on hw they want their lifes/future to be togeda? Communication is also very important... Do they compliment each other and can you handle the flaws of each other(tolerance & patience) for a lifetime? Cos No one is perfect.. Then do couples mutually respect & honour each other.. Marriage/relationship is give & take, sacrifices, services to be made by d parties involved .. Do you give each other an inner peace & joy when you are together? Then all in all ask & pray for God's guidance before embarking on this lifetym journey... Two people can only leave peacefully only and only when they agree to be together always and all the tym no matter the obstacles they stumble upon... May God help us all..
ReplyDeletewell said...
ReplyDeletegbam... u said it all.
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