The picture says it all and i am sure you understand?
Now i have just one question that i need you to answer blogvisitor............Is it okay to cheat on someone you know is cheating on you?would you call it an eye for an eye or just leave them to their conscience?
Are you presently cheating on your lover because they are cheating on you,or just cheating on them because it is in your nature to be unfaithful?
That was more than one question?lol..yeah i know.
Stella,no b if person get spouse e go cheat? Dis question is nt meant for dose of us wey na one man mopol.
ReplyDeleteI dey tell u! Ur comment jus remind me sai I no get bf....stella d's ur kweshun nor be wee getam!
Deletelol, was actually thinking of an answer and read ur comment. Then i realised i am single too, we plenty for this category .
DeleteIf a man cheats on me, trust me i sure will cheat on him too.. Make God judge the two of us. I no send i beg! What make's him think he can do it and i can't? That is why i don't joke with my sport.
ReplyDelete*MAKES* not *MAKE'S*
DeleteUnfortunately it is a no no for our culture. Although cheating is not allowed from both sex but men sees it as a norm to cheat. In that case, if a man can cheat, a woman can do better than him. Shikena
ReplyDelete* Men SEE it* not * Men SEES it*
DeleteYes....I just started doing it.
ReplyDeleteTwo can play the game *wink*...I have never felt so happy since the last 5yrs.
An eye for eye is not a good idea, but sometimes it's good to show your partner how it feels if you do what they are doing...
ReplyDeleteCheating can be relative and it can happen in different ways. For example, a guy kissed me and I kissed back. It ended on kissing tho, and I see that as cheating bcos i shouldn't have kissed back. It just happened at a time when I need so much affection. Now, the kissing goes on daily and I can't stop it bcos I don't see anything bad in what I am doing.
U can as well fuck d guy as der is no big deal in fuckin him.ode oshi,kiss on until u go get caposi sakoma.
DeleteHahahahahaha! Kaposi sacroma.
DeleteStella I God bless u 4 dis question.Am in a relatnship and evryday I wish I ws cheatin on my guy.He doesn't trust me and feels so insecure cos God elevated me frm my poor status 2 sumthin better which am so grateful 4.Ve proved 2 him tyms without number dat he is d only one bt stil he doesn't believe me.I wish I ws cheatin so whn he accuses me I wnt feel bad.I cnt count men who approach me on a daily basics bt I keep turnin them down.I feel so hurt and bittered.I pray God helps me.Kindly snub all errors.
ReplyDelete*On a daily BASIS* not *On a daily BASICS*
DeleteThere's nothing like "Correcter", its "Corrector". You must have failed English in primary school. Bloody olodo!!!
Delete@ Anon 9:29 PM, I am sorry but the name remains BUSYBODY CORRECTER.
DeleteONE LOVE
Two wrongs cannot make a right
ReplyDeleteWomen can cheat on their spouse if they discover they're being cheated upon, but I don't think men do that...I may be wrong o, abeg make una no cuss me. I dnt hav metallic skin like SDK.
ReplyDeleteI mean, personally I would be crushed if I discovered that my spouse was cheating on me. But I wouldn't go and look for any girl as a rebound. I can't imagine myself doing that. Women who have suffered this insincerity by their men sometimes cheat to get even. Do men do the same? I wouldn't do it, some of my friends have not/cannot do it.
Take that poll again, this time not friends.
DeleteAt the moment im cheating on my partner. Before i always cry whenever i see his lovers text msgs but now im dating 3 men at the same time, though im not sexually active with them but it makes me to feel wanted and sexy once again.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 1.19pm shareful giver .
DeleteMy husband is deffinately cheating am seriously thinking of cheating too I knw it won't change anything but what d hell I might as well!
ReplyDelete* DEFINITELY* not *DEFFINATELY*
DeleteYes....not good to cheat ohh...buh I dey do am.....like now ma first boyfriend can nack ehn...dat ur legs will start shaking after sex....u go squirt tire but he doesn't give head....d oda one can gives head for africa....omgosh...biting and shi.... buh can't hit it like d first guy....so u see....who no like better thing
ReplyDeleteSick, between d 2 of them u go soon catch arun kogboogun
Delete* can GIVE* not *Can GIVES*
DeleteNa u go catch am....back to the sender *amen*
Deleteuna go kill person for this blog oh! lwkmd
DeleteLmao
DeleteAGuy u bad o,which 1 b arun kagboogun?shey na cancer of toto?
DeleteYeah I did it once. He cheated, I found out and started mine. Things got very messy. I'll never do it again tho cuz it took me a long time 2 4give myself for it! 2 wrongs can never make it right. Sucks!!!
ReplyDeleteIf a man should cheat on me, me sef go do my own back tyms 2. No dulling. What a man can do a woman can do better even best.
ReplyDeleteIt is actually bad to revenge. That was what led me to abortion coz I cheated on my fiance who's always cheating and got preg. It is better to remain clean and let God be d judge. I confessed to him that I cheated when I found Christ but cldnt tell him abt d abortion. I will neva do it again coz I know Christ better. I now wait d day we'll get married and pray God gives me kids. Cheating can never be justified plus I've neva heard of 2 wrongs making a right. The best is to forgive as many times as possible and pray God to take charge.
ReplyDeleteYes, it usually ends up that you who cheated for revenge, end up with the messier case.
DeletePray it ends in marriage,bcos men can easily b irritated,if u did 1ce,u can do it again,it a man's world bliv it weda u lyk it or nt.kip prayin dear!
DeleteIf the motherfucker thinks he can cheat on me then ama cheat on him too n still punish him in another way for cheating. I don't care what anyone thinks.
ReplyDeleteMadea's daughter
Cutting off head is surely not an antidote for headache. Cheating on your partner coz he/she cheats on u doesn't make u a better partner nor makes d act morally right. I hv a loving and faithful partner but I'm currently cheating on him. It breaks my heart that I'm doing that though! I feel guilty always but it seems I'm stucked in d unholy affair. Will soon end it anyway,so help me Lord.
ReplyDeleteMehn, unholy affair naa de ni. God help u.
Delete* It seems I'm STUCK* not * It seems I'm STUCKED*
DeleteMy dear ur case na genetic,u cnt stop even if u born again bcos na evrytym dat place go dey scratch u.
DeleteMy dear ur case na genetic,u cnt stop even if u born again bcos na evrytym dat place go dey scratch u.
DeleteWell how does it help our relatnshp if i cheat cos my spouse cheated on me? i feel it depends on d sort of relatnshp we r into. I dnt see it as wise paying bck my spouse wif cheating if i intend settling wif dat person. My take is if it gets to a point i cant handle or talk sense into her, i better pull out cos ders no mutual respect. Lets our conscience guide our actions here
ReplyDelete*LET our conscience guide...* not *LETS our conscience guide.........*
DeleteIt's *CORRECTOR* not *CORRECTER*. And to think u made it ur headline makes you worse than them..... Lol
DeleteLol @ Olamide Morgan, BUSYBODY CORRECTER is a name, MY name and it remains so.
DeleteONE LOVE dearie.
Lol @ Olamide Morgan, BUSYBODY CORRECTER is a name, MY name and it remains so.
DeleteONE LOVE dearie.
SDK,my hubby went on transfer n I slept with a guy I met years bk. The gist be say:the guy was his former client oo(I didnt tell d guy my real name tho;)
ReplyDeleteNo worry e go soon boomerang.
DeletePayback usually is sweet,it can make one feel gud!
ReplyDeleteBut the chances of getting entangled emotionally esp for the woman,is what makes it more complicated!
Well for me,d day I sleep with another,is the day I divorce my hubby and marry dat person,cos sex is love for me.
Cheating is not good. If you cheat on your man just because he cheated on you and he caught you in the act. Believe me, you have destroyed your relationship/marriage. And things will never be the same again.
ReplyDeleteLol....only fool gets caught. Mehn, there's nothing like cheating on a cheater. Safest place for a married woman to cheats is in her own house because going to an hotel it's far more dangerous, the bar man might be ur neigbour.
DeleteMen and women are wired differently. I will speak for my Gender. Most women don't plan to cheat on their partners.Even when we "rake"that we are going to do so cos he's doing it,we never have the strength of mind pull it off. Ironically,women who are pathological cheaters,ve committed spouses. My excuse for them is that there is a void they need to fill. It could be Sexual or Financial.The scariest scenario,is when love comes into the picture.Its a bad place to be I tell you! You meet someone and get that tug in your heart.Stolen moments go on for years and years.With time,the guilt fades off.At that point,if the outside party wants a permanent deal,you are in! That's how some men loose their wives or girlfriends to other men.Most relationships we admire,began on a "cheating note".Someone's pain, enabled another's gain.Deceiving the deceiver is hardly the reason some women compromise. "Cheating" can find you when you weren't looking for it in the first place. Signed:wide eyed!
ReplyDeleteI have never liked your comments but I'll make an exception 4 this.
DeleteI have never liked your comments but I'll make an exception 4 this.
DeleteGbam wide eyed u've said it all am in dat scary place right now
DeleteO! Cousin wide!
DeleteStella! Here you come again with your 'Sexy Saturday's. Guuuurl, You NASTY! To answer your question, remember that saying, an eye for an eye? In this case, it would be a Cock for a Dick meaning if he puts out his Cock for another, let the woman receive her own Dick from someone else too! It's a 2 way street. Stab my back, I stab yours.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm!!!!! I always believe in "every mallam to him kettle o" me I no fit would rather end the relationship o . In marriage if it gets unbearable and we can't resolve it abeg I go divorce am o.
ReplyDeleteWell depends on how you see it though. I have a loving partner but I cheat once in a while with my gov bf who supports me financially. I won't say I'm doing any wrong.
ReplyDeleteNa south south gov be that? Hook a sister up jo.
DeleteThese days marries women have also gone haywire. Some do it for revenge. While others do it to make extra money...
ReplyDeleteMARRIES women?
DeleteEven bbc is stunned.....lol
DeleteMeanwhile, where have u been bbc?
Bbc or wareva u call urself, typo error no de ur dictionary abi....when the letter s is next to d wat do u expect....kpachara anya gi oo
DeleteBbc don't tell me you're that dumb to know it was a typo??
DeleteHahahahahahahahahaha @...Kpachara anya gi o, whatever that means.
DeleteONE LOVE!
@ Miss d, ONE LOVE!
DeleteMy big friend, a married woman said she's looking for a man with a higher status than that of her hubby that she can mess around with because her husband has rubbed mud on her face with his philandering ways. =|
ReplyDeleteWhat is good for the gander is also good for the geese right? Not in most cases. 2 wrongs cannot make a right. But,as long as there is no ring on the female finger yet-------------------------------------------------
ReplyDeleteIs any crime or sin justified?
ReplyDeleteHusband has an affair, wife has her own affair to get back at him .... how does that help wife?
First off, your partner's affair breaks your heart, tramples on your pride, shakes your faith in him, abuses your trust, torments your mind and hinders your spirituality.
You having an affair degrades you, dishonours you, cheapens you, haunts you, depresses you and destroys your spirituality.
My bottomline? Vengeance in this case hurts no one but you. You only worsen an already bad situation.
Your husband has an affair? - Girl, consider taking 'care' of the 'little man' viciously after of course you've taken the 'the other woman' to the highest court of justice. Believe HE delivers vengeance for the weeping wife.
Finito.
As a single lady I cheated on my bf, he had a babe and I was in for the fun, I also had a bobo but didn't tell him. When he became serious I stopped cheating and I never mentioned it to him. Fastforward 18yrs later, we've been married for 15yrs. I can't say he hs never cheated on me but I can never ever cheat on him. It is against my culture.
ReplyDeleteAn eye for an eye leaves everyone blind... Wanna know how you can get that fresh and glowing skin you always wanted? Click to know.
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ReplyDeletei have never cheated on any guy before and i wont do it just because he's cheating on me. two wrongs can never make a right
ReplyDeleteTwo wrongs don't make a right but I dont blame the women either too. It's jst so sad that men cheat and think they can always get away with it but I always feel there is a better way to handle a cheating man.. A mature way.
ReplyDelete1.. Don't act up, you jst need to start, and refocus the attention on urself & ur children. Especially if you are very independent (have ur own job, biz or money)
2.. Do all things that makes you happy but don't cheat. Keep ur dignity..
3. Do your hair, buy ur favorite clothes, gym, do ur nails, do ur beauty spa, eat right, keep in shape etc.. Always look good and beautiful.
4. Then call this ur cheating husband and talk sense into his head.. Tell him you knw he is cheating on you with evidence.. Ask him a simple question, tell him how would he feel if you start cheating on him with another man/different men on ur matrimony bed while he is at work everyday..
Am sure he will froze because he now sees
you looking good and beautiful without his attention or money and there is a possibility that a man is eyeing you somewhere..
Pls women keep ur dignity.. You cheat with another man and who says the man you cheating with isn't sleeping with somebody else's wife jst like you.. A man who sleep with another man's wife can never be trusted, he is a dog jst like a cheating husband..
A lady seeks revenge... But A REAL woman moves on and let karma do her dirty work.
Women do all the above and if it doesnt work.. Remember Karma works.
For a single woman, why don't you leave ur cheating boyfrnd.. You dnt need to cheat on him to prove a point.. What is the point? Two wrongs?
Karma will always catch up with a cheating husband. Let God do his work at his own appointed time.
Ur comment just touched my soul, my husband has been cheating on me for years I keep fighting him but it just gets worse, I travelled n returned to find lab test results with him and another woman who wrote our surname as hers meaning they went there together as husband and wife.ive been so broken and resolved to cheat on him too as I have several men hitting on me all the time but I always make it clear I'm a married woman. But what u wrote just brought me back to my senses. I'm gonna let karma deal with him.
DeleteThe question is does it now make you feel good after you pay him back by sleeping with another man/various men? what of the man you cheating on him with? What makes you think he would not sleep with another/other woman/women besides you.. So now how do you correct that? What about the good feeling about keeping ur dignity? Or the good feeling whenever ur cheating husband sees you (his conscience would prick him) and karma would also eventually catch up with him for whenever wrong he is done to you..
ReplyDeleteI don't know why most woman have this vengence in born in them? It doesn't change anything, he wld still go on cheating and where do you stand, hurt, used and cheap.. Never let a/any man cheapen you women, you are worth more than that... No man is even worthy to lose ur dignity for ever..
Some of these answers just show a total low moral decadence in our youths! Do u knw wat it means to have sex with someone? The bible says its sleeping with all the persons the person has slept with. Sex is more spiritual than you think. So cheating on ur cheater spouse will never be an option.. Never.
ReplyDelete*whatever wrong*
ReplyDelete*whatever wrong*
ReplyDelete*most women*
SMH! We have so lost our value system that we feel doing wrong corrects a right. What makes it right? However, there is absolutely no guarantee that if you cheat with another man, you are going to be happy, a possibility? for a while yes but eventually No bcos the man u cheating with has no value or respect for an institution (marriage) created by God. Or you think he is going to be faithful to you ever & always... You got to be kidding.. With time, he will sleep with another/other women.. Who says getting even (wired in most women D.N:A) won't back fire on you?
ReplyDeleteSo my advice is women/men keep ur value & dignity. Don't let it be tarnished by an act of vengence. Let KARMA do that. Be patient it (karma) does anyways. And yes am a woman.
SMH! We have so lost our value system that we feel doing wrong corrects a right. What makes it right? However, there is absolutely no guarantee that if you cheat with another man, you are going to be happy, a possibility? for a while yes but eventually No bcos the man u cheating with has no value or respect for an institution (marriage) created by God. Or you think he is going to be faithful to you ever & always... You got to be kidding.. With time, he will sleep with another/other women.. Who says getting even (wired in most women D.N:A) won't back fire on you?
ReplyDeleteSo my advice is women/men keep ur value & dignity. Don't let it be tarnished by an act of vengence. Let KARMA do that. Be patient it (karma) does anyways. And yes am a woman.
Hmm...i knw its wrong bt i did it,nt cus of revenge bt cus it felt gud 2 mean sumtin 2 sumwan again..its sumtin i never thot i wud do in ma lyf-tym
ReplyDeletethe problem is that corner corner things dey too sweet ohh once person don start am.. It's like u stealing kisses wit a colleague at work or sneak go toilet to fuck during office hours.. So when someone starts cheating it's so so difficult to stop until you are eventually caught in d act.. But the bottom line is that Cheating on a good man/woman is like throwing away diamonds and picking up rhinestones..
ReplyDeleteStella, here is my personal cheating story:PT 1-
ReplyDeleteI have been married 15 yrs with 3 kids.
My husband is a great dad and good provider but the problem is that he is a serial philanderer. We dated almost 5yrs and in that time, I caught him multiple times. I should have known this would continue in our marriage. Without sounding vain, I know I am an attractive woman and have always had guys hit on me so I would always threaten him with reciprocating but he knew it was just an idle threat.
Four years ago, I attended an event and met a guy there who came on to me. He was an older guy, well spoken, intelligent and funny.I flirted with him but refused to give him my number. He gave me his card and it felt good to be chatted up.I forgot the card in my evening purse and that was the end of that.
Several weeks after,hubby did it again. I found condoms in his glove compartment. He blamed the driver,I screamed and yelled. I was so mad at him. I didn't talk to him for days. Worst part was that he didn't even beg like he used to. He just caarried on like normal.
PT 2-
ReplyDeleteI was so angry.I remembered the guy from the dinner party and fished out the card.I called him and even though it was over 2 months since the event, he knew exactly who I was b4 I even said my name. He said he had been hoping I would call. We ended up talking for almost 2hrs. He made me laugh, made me feel smart, desirable and special, just by us talking. We continued talking every day for another few weeks by which time I was getting hooked. I was no longer getting worked up when hubby didn't pick up his phone or returned late from work or answered calls in a suspicious manner. There was peace in my house and in my heart. This guy would be the first person to call me in the morning to say "good morning, have a nice day" and would always call to say goodnight and ask how my day was, how work was etc. He was upfront about being attracted to me but was never vulgar or pressured me into anything.
When my eldest child was going to boarding school abroad, her student visa took forever to come out and I was getting agitated, he spoke with someone @the embassy and presto! It was sorted. We were able to make the orientation deadline. That's the sort of person he was, always willing to help.
PT. 3-
ReplyDeleteAnyway, while I was away on the trip, we kept talking as usual.sometimes up to 5hrs all together during the day. He jokingly said it would be cheaper flying out to talk to me in person than paying his phone bill.I don't know what came over me...I said, "why don't you?".
That was how it started. Like joke, like joke o, he was on the next flight and we met up for drinks. Drinks led to staying up all night talking and when he dropped me off at my hotel, he kissed me goodnight. I felt like 1000 volts of electricity passed through me.I had not kissed another man aside my hubby in over 20yrs.I ran upstairs,feeling guilty but feeling good, I can't lie. To cut a long story short,that was how the physical part of the affair started.
Pt 4-
ReplyDeleteThe sex was awkward at first but ok. It wasn't mind blowing or anything but for me it wasn't about that.Sometimes we would just talk all night, not even do anything but cuddle. The feelings of guilt began to disappear.Even when I got back to Naija, we would meet up and hang out in the most obscure places so we wouldn't be seen. Well, more for me cos he's a divorcee.
Before I knew it, 3 yrs had gone by. Just like that. It hit me when my 2nd child was also going away to school. I had become a stone hearted adulteress.ifelt no guilt, no shame. I had become an expert at lying to husband, my family and friends. I tell you, no one would ever believe I was involved in an affair.
We are still together, it's almost 4yrs now and I've never been happier. My relationship with hubby is so much better.I'm never angry with him, I'm almost always aloof sef and maybe that's why he's much more attentive and acts like a love sick puppy around me. He keeps trying hard to please me and I just smile to myself...a little too much too late,I think.
My oga on the side has saved my marriage, I think.I will never leave my husband but I will have my cake and eat it.
My dear, enjoy yourself. I'm cheating on my 'serial philanderer' husband too.... Never been happier
ReplyDeleteWow its like u r telling my story.I hv bn with some1 for some mths now nd hv peace in my home.no more angr 2wrd my husband nd now he is begging me to let things be back 2 normal. Normal my ass.when I was crying n pleading with him to stop cheating he treated me like dirt.
ReplyDeleteOgheneeeeee! See married womens story o! Onwekwa nu otu o di o!
ReplyDeleteJulit....je n'olu ani joor!
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