Sunday, September 08, 2013
Why Men Stray....Pillow Talk By Marion Amanambu
A totally unscripted, unrehearsed, spur of the moment, straight from the heart discussion of social issues that we can all relate to. Marion Amanambu taps into her diverse life experiences to give her opinion on a wide range of topics....Pillow talk will soon become a regular here....well as soon as she loads it anywhere,i lift it.lol
Marion used to be a Journalist before she relocated to America where she has been for over a decade,
I love Marion but please if you dont like or agree with what she says,please say so!
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While what she's saying are the plain reality, but OMG why does it have to be the woman putting in all the effort to hold a relationship? That is giving the men too much power. When a woman marries, have kids, she automatically has responsibilities, taking care of the house, kids, cooking and work if she has a career. You cannot expect that she will be like she was when they were dating, when she had none of these responsibilities save for work maybe, so to say she has changed and is too tired and lets go, thus those being excuses for cheating is just plain cruel! Men will always validate there excuses for cheating all the time. Though there are cases where it seems the wife actually is a catalyst for the cheating from d husband, but cases like what she pointed out like when the wife is hardworking, takes care of the home, her husband, the kids and also has a fantastic shape and outlook, and the man still cheats, what do you call that. Of course the man will look for a silly excuse to justify what he's doing. And we live in a crazy world that overlooks a cheating man. No matter what you do as a woman, a cheating man will always cheat, even if they claim to love their wives. And ma, a one round man will still go for another outside if he's a cheating man, don't get it twisted. And in all your lecture, I did not hear what a man can do to curb his cheating tendencies, as if we have automatically validated cheating as an uncontrollable disease #rollingeyes
ReplyDeleteShe was expressing things from a woman's point of view.
DeleteA question for ladies. R u really ready for marriage? My mom wld alwasys say marriage for a woman is hard hard hard work, if ur lazy den its Not for u.
DeleteLook who's talking!msewwwww!was she scratching her butt?orisirisi.
ReplyDeleteLmao...I only watched it cos of ur comment!!! So U̶̲̥̅̊ must wear pant on screen 2 kip a man abi? Mtschewwwwwwww
DeleteU this eze of a person they better call off strike before you turn into a complete nuisance. ..... I tire o
DeleteYes, what she said is true. Bt kom to think of it, do u think its easy to do everything she said coupled with responsibilities of a woman. A woman wakes up very early in d morning stressed out frm lukin after d baby in d middle of d 9t, wakes up d oda kids and prepare dem 4 sch, prepare fud for her husband who will probably be snoring on d bed and she also has to prepare for work and do house chores. Do u think its easy? She will nt even av tym to go 2 d saloon to do her hair or fix nails and eye lashes cos when she gets back frm work, she will pick d kids frm sch, run home to prepare fud 4 d husband and d kids and by d end of d day, she is exhausted to even take care of herself in d bid of lukin after others. And d same routine continues. Y can't d men just understand dt d reason y she was doin all dose tins b4 was bcos she had no responsibilities and she he had a lot of free tym to herself. Men who cheat are Selfish and Ingrate. Dey should stop givin flimsy excuses and admit dat dey are DOGS.
ReplyDeleteEven if a woman has d body of beyonce and d face of d most beautiful gal in d world and she is a perfect cuk and d best when it koms to sex, dt doesn't guarantee dt d husband won't cheat on her. If d husband wants to cheat he will do it and give flimsy excuses at d end of d day.
ReplyDeleteThis is the reason i wont marry for love, dat crap doesnt exist, if u marry a man for his money, whether he cheats or not, na him sabi, u ll be spending his money at least. Not dat u ll marry one idiot and be managing with him n he ll still be cheating.
DeleteI like this pesn walahi #marry for money
DeleteI saw one wretched fowl yesterday with a babe and na e wife dey bring money. Hot shit! Na e d man go chop if na my husband. This is the reason I always say I cannot "train" anybody o. Come correct in to the marriage dianyi. A broke man should be humble and submissive....hahaha. abeg make una no curse me die.
DeleteKai,Stella its not easy watching video from ur blog o,it keeps streaming like forever had to be patient cos I was interested,else would have given it up.fix it pls.
ReplyDelete@the woman talking she said it all o,only that she forgot to add her sitting posture too can make a man stray!just sat down anyhow yakata' like dame Patience dats y Jona is straying with Diezianny lol!
Back to the men,some must just cheat no matter what u do,if u like look like mammy water,sex them like a nympho,cook and clean like ur last breathe depends on it,they must stray cos to them its about variety not that u are the problem!
So madam leave matter o,nigerian men esp are just wayward!
Dats y I don't want to judge women with 'the do me I do u back policy',its not funny at all.
Well, i agree with her, i personally don't joke with my exercise. Their is one thing i always say, and that is, that a born cheater will always find an excuse to cheat, their is nothing a woman can do about men like that. Men should also understand that women carry human beans ( their children ) for 9 months and their is no way the woman's body will remain a 100% the same. She said something about some men liking the breasts or the bum , take for instance a woman that have given birth to let's say 3 children and breast fed them, do you the husband still expect the breasts to remain the same? Nop! This same men will say breast feed my baby and once the breasts become's weak they will say, oh i cheated because my wife breasts don fall abi? You can't eat your cake and have it! Women can not do it alone! Once a cheater always a cheater!
ReplyDeleteBeans ko rice ni,pls Anty/uncle human *being* not beans,cheater na animal?*cheat* ...put d thank u in d bank for me...to d matter at hand,MEN with cheating spirit will always cheat no mata wat..ur body,hard work,energy etc isn't d p,variety dey say is d spice of life....MG speaking
DeleteHer forced Americana is distracting. My friend you sound silly haven't you heard people like Joke Silva & Bimbo Manuel, they enunciate & speak clearly in Nigerian accents not putting hot yam in their mouths to sound foreign.
ReplyDeleteAlso Marion are you married? Has your partner always been faithful? If not (and it's a not) abeg shut up.
Men cheat for the same reason women do, because they can. Not because a woman at 40 doesn't look 25 or sex isn't like a porn set. If you like stay slim & sexy and lose sleep because you're doing all night sex fests if he wants to sleep around he will, just like she will.
Yes! Yes! Omo u get sense jare. Women do it more and you will never catch them. Men who cheat i lol @ u cos that wife or gf is doing it better n more codedly
DeleteTo Marion and all other ladies, it is a 2 way street. My two cents is that everyone should utilise whatever they see as positive from this lady's message. Just remember, no matter how hard you try, a cheat will always cheat. Having said that, every woman in Nigeria should pick three days of the month to be A Sex starved Ashawo for their husbands. Buy three different wigs of different styles, a very revealing dress with your breasts packed high like Mt kilimanjaro and Skyscraper shoes and a nasty little thong that eats up your arse cheeks and some nice perfume. Once you get these accessories, make sure the children are away at the granny's and once your man has filled his tank with good food, both of you should chill out with either expensive wine or Ogogoro mixed with Coke to set the mood. Make sure there is soft music playing in the background while you are chilling and once you get him in the mood, remember you have no time to waste, make an excuse to go into the bedroom to go and Chang out of your A tire and become that slutty whore that he craves. Wear your slutty wear outfit and wig, spray on your perfume just do a quick makeup retouch and reemerge. Your husband will be shocked and might even say who is this? If your name is Bose, Tell him Darling tonight I am Iyabo. By now his head is spinning at your new look. Tease him with all your assets, you know what I mean and even do a Wasiu Ayinde dirty dance on him with your thong still in between your cakes and your high shoes and wig on.Before you know it, something will be harder than the rock of Gibraltar. Ok, for those still following, figure out what you want to do with that Gibraltar Rock cos I am trying not to get too graphic. Anyway, once you've reached the point of no return, go in real hard on the carpet, in the living room. Make sure you have pulled the curtains,lol neighbours,and lock the door. Once you are riding the machine, be as nasty as he'll telling him how good his HOT Sugar is. Work him like a worker man. By the time you are done with him, he will think he had been with five different women in one Go. Did I say do not just lay there like a log of wood? Try all the positions. Hold the TV, Do it under the dining table, use every corner in your place. Unless he is slightly paradise down there, things will go just fine. Try this three times a month and things shouldn't get too boring. Now let me go and down some Belvedere.
ReplyDeleteNa today, e don tey jare!
DeletePorn star director! Your toto will seize to bring forth any action after this session. Wetin???? Na food! If u like do eagle in the tortoise shadow style nne, a cheating man will still cheat and his excuse on this will be that his wife is too aggressive and wants to break and dismantle his penis. He wi go and fine wan sweeee geh that will give him sweee ses.
DeleteHuman rice nko?
ReplyDeleteIt's not by exercise o. I know men whose wives look sweet sixteen with flat stomach and pert butts, great mothers and homemakers, who give them sex at home at least 4 times a week, but I also know many of their long term mistresses who are at least two times the size of his wife and can't cook or keep a home. Following this ?Marian's advice, the wife still can't keep her man from straying jare
@Anonymous 10...... Well said ooooooo! You really try with your lecture.Just that for people like us,whose house is a family house with a bunch of hubby's relatives living with us,no privacy except our bedroom ooo!
ReplyDeleteCan be damn frustrating cos it really limits the opportunity to explore and loosen up .
We will keep trying all u taught us sha.
Eh yah sorry o! Those relatives will help him usher wifey no2 in if your not careful. You better lock ya door and do the dance
DeleteYou can still turn that bedroom into a red light district for your man and ride the cap out of him on d floor with the door locked. It doesn't have to be in d bed all the time. Let him entertain u by pretending to be a Chippendale while you say, baba Dami, you are soo sexy.and proceed from there within your private room. Spice things up is all I am trynna say but don't out stress youself.
DeleteWith all his proverbs,the wisest and richest man who walked this earth,kept to himself,one thousand women.His record remains unbeatable! You think the first one hundred didn't do their darndest to stop nine hundred more from coming into the bloated Harem? Be dolled up 24/7,Ve sex like a porn star,keep home like martha stewart,a man who wants to stray can't be stopped! Why else would he want to ve sex with the dirty maid when you smell better? Testosterone na winch o. Maybe cos the male sexual apparatuses re located outside and therefore extra sensitive to stimuli.When breeze blow, anyone available can be propositioned. If most of our male relatives stray in our presence, we can safely conclude (by half)that our men can do same.Do your best to be an exemplary woman.for your well being above all else. Make person nor come loose e life because of blokos! Signed:wide eyed!
ReplyDeleteMen cheat because of the availability of willing women, remove that from the equation infidelity by men will be reduced by at least 90%.....but we all know that will not happen
ReplyDeleteNext!
ReplyDeleteThanks to everyone for watching and leaving your comments...abeg no kill the "Messenger" bearing the news from the Men to the Women and trying my best to fit all their advice in a 10 minute talk show, LOL.
ReplyDeleteI promise you next week, the men will get to see another video of "What Women Want" and why they stray (message to the Men from the Women I spoke with, before recording the video)....trying to balance the equation...and I hope you get a chance to see it.
As for the "forced" Americana accent, are you expecting an apology for me trying to sound as Nigerian as I possibly can without offending people like you? Take it for what it is, I've lived in the US for over 13 years, so I no need to force anything....I no be Britico and no need to enunciate my English nor try to speak like anyone else and come to think of it, I didn't know there was a "Nigerian" accent, LMAO....but thanks for your 2cents though (na your opinion and I respect it).
We all know that Men cheat regardless, it's in their biology....take the message for what it's worth and make the best of your particular situation.
As for your question, if am married or not, how is that even a topic of discussion or relevant in this conversation? Do I need to be married or single to send the message across to the women? kai, una too much o - don't shoot the messenger, biko.
Anyway, thanks for stopping by - I appreciate y'all (Marion Amanambu aka FAB - www.nigeriancelebritynetwork.com)
But nne,how can u wear pant to address a titled chief like me infact double chief?hian!anoda topic next week,oh chimo oooo! wetin u wan talk sef?I ve been married 4 20yrs and I can confidently tell u that u are on a long thing.
DeleteWide eyed I just love u! Stella do make u begin dey give award to SDKers o,"widey"(my pet name for u) must win o. Straight from the Dark goddess.
ReplyDeleteWide eyed I just love u! Stella do make u begin dey give award to SDKers o,"widey"(my pet name for u) must win o. Straight from the Dark goddess.
ReplyDelete@wide eyed,Ooooooooooooshe! Younhave said it all.One's well being should be the number one priority o,with these Naija men.If u die on top man matter,d same man will replace you immediately.Is it the person that is already sleeping about while you are alive that will not quickly find a replacement? My paramount concern is my children who can never have two mothers,not some human beingt that will still stray if he chooses to,even if I stand on my head,for him to bang,all in the name of style.
ReplyDeleteSome of them would have wasted the little energy they have outside before coming home sef.So how do you now practise styles,role playing and all on a worn out dude with a flaccid member?May we not come across a serial cheat oooo! Their cheating is in levels.Some are A listers,some D listers.May God help women sha.
ReplyDeleteSighs and looks for a Bottle of Paraga to jazz up my spirit on a Sunday afternoon.
On point!most of them are as useless as a boiled spagetti.
DeleteWide eyed I just love u! Stella do make u begin dey give award to SDKers o,"widey"(my pet name for u) must win o. Straight from the Dark goddess.
ReplyDeleteWide eyed I just love u! Stella do make u begin dey give award to SDKers o,"widey"(my pet name for u) must win o. Straight from the Dark goddess.
ReplyDeleteThanks! #Smooches you wella# Signed:wide eyed!
DeleteI have personally realised that fidelity,trust and commitment are innate values people endeavour to entrench in themselves ,through personal ,dedicated effort.Their is simply no calculation to work the magic.A cheat will be unfaithful,once he is determined to do so,irrespective of the efforts of the partner to keep him from straying.I will not cheat but honestly,if a woman decides to cheat on her man out of vengeance,I won't blame the woman,It is good at times for the other party to know how it feels to be at the receiving end.Our men ain't saints too,but despite that,an average woman will not just decide to start the cheating game simply because of a slight imperfection on the man's part.
ReplyDeleteMy Mantra is,Do your Bit,be yourself and maintain your sanity.
True!!!! Look for a principled person ready to imbibe these virtues.
DeleteUgh...why did she pronounce her name like that like she's akata furu uzo?? Yo azz still has a naija accent, so stop forming.
ReplyDeleteGood points tho....but speaking of being in shape and working up to keep yo man boo boo, why aint u??
She keeps emphasizing on eating healthy and keeping fit but she doesnt look fit herself. What makes u think that looking fit and being perfect all round will keep a man who wanna cheat from cheating? Some men are just too damn greedy and ironically, their mistresses are usually far less attractive than their wives. Look at the countless celebs that their hubbies/wives/bfs/gfs have cheated on them, and compare their SO to the person they cheated with. Story for tortoise abeg.
ReplyDeleteAnd pls pls pls, be ur self woman. U look too mature in age to be forming americana. It was so distracting and honestly turned me off immediately, esp the fact that u pronounced ur Igbo last name like an epileptic. Quite childish. If u're gonna be a regular on this blog pls, be relatable and keep it real and fresh. We're all adults here, and alot of us live abroad too, so u're not impressing n e one with that forced accent.
@ Anonymous 30,while your point is noted on d need to make concerted efforts to spice up ones's sex life and all, a man's,relatives will usher in even wife no 5,whether they live with you or not ,whether your hubby bangs you from morning till nite,if they desire to.
ReplyDeleteBottom line is just try your best and leave the rest.No be by calculation o!
Abeg oooo,I need a Principled Person oooooo!Please help me find one oooo!
ReplyDeleteMost men lack self control while some are jinxed from their village with Toto matter.That is why dey cheat.Seriously,most men cheat cos once they start,they cannot stop.It takes the grace of God for a man to stop once he commences on that path to destruction. Besides,ladies are available in droves too,infant,supply exceeds demand.
ReplyDeleteIt is after Karma bangs their heads with her big stick that they learn the hard way.For some however,they unfortunately even pay with their lives.
Most of what she said are pretty correct, one can make a few additions to get a perfect recipe.
ReplyDeleteIt is expected that women carries the responsibility to keep the man in an African setting. It will be so for a long while, or until there is a solution to polygamy.
Having wrote that, it is important to note that not all men cheat because of bad sex at home or because the wife is fatter years after marriage. Some women are just too problematic that even an "ugly" but peaceful girl outside would be a preferred alternative.
Some of us find it extremely hard to even nurse the idea of cheating, but some get to this dangerous point of looking for some "peace" elsewhere. I have friends that dreads going home after work and you can tell even when they don't tell you anything. Some wives have chased all the husband's friends just to keep their husbands "safe".
A very close friend is in the midst of some confusion right now, not even sure I long I can continue to calm him down not to run away from home. Have known the guy in the university since early 90s so we have come a long way together.
He said the wife accused him of infidelity..I know he is not, because he wont hide it from me and for some other reasons. I felt the wife feels threatened for some strange reasons. His wife is lazy as far as I know, does not work and does not look like she wants to.
To worsen an already bad situation, he called me, crying on the phone, that wife said she knows he is planning to kill her so he can marry another wife! I don't even have an advice for him on this yet but just encouraging him to bear the pain and keep carrying the cross.
This is just a summary of the guy's story, just to show that if he strays now, it definitely wont be because the wife is fat or not interested in sex.
Marriage is pretty complex! I love my wife but definitely wont be married if I knew what I know now.
That your friend is an ass!
Deleteanonymous 6.38am......ass detector...dooo!
ReplyDeleteI could tell him he is an ass but I would be an ass not to tell him why he is an ass.
ReplyDeleteOr maybe you are an ass too!
Abeg who be she
ReplyDelete