Oh God please help!
If anyone reads this and knows this lady,please reach out to her physically.please
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My name is Lade. I'm a 26 year old graduate. I have had 4 serious relationships over the years. They all leave me heart broken.
I was so shattered by my ex and I almost died from the trauma. I actually told myself after that, that I was never going to be involved in any relationship where the guy wasn't very comfortable cos I was tired of spending my money on guys.
I met my present boyfriend 15months ago and we have been dating steadily since then.
He broke up with his girlfriend 2months before we met but she was always still calling him.
My problem now is that she hasn't left our lives since then. My bf doesn't have much financially, but he has prospects. This girl and my bf's family has been a constant pain in my life.
My mum isn't making things easier cos she feels I'm even supposed to be dating a better guy. I don't write anybody off financially cos the poor can be rich and the rich can become poor.
My main reason for being suicidal is this: I'm from a broken home, my mum doesn't do anything and I have younger brothers I take care of. I don't have a job, though I could have had cos my dad is highly connected but my mum has told him lies which can't make me go to him for the job.
I don't have friends. The 3 friends I have live on the fast lane and I can't keep up with them.
I'm naturally an indoor person but my life is really boring. Depression has taken over. Nothing seems to be working and my mum acts like she has a mirror with which she sees the future. She was right about my 3 previous heartbreaks but I understand that nothing good comes easy.
I am soooooo depressed, I haven't slept in 4 days. Its by the grace of God I'm typing this. Nothing seems to work and it seems the world is revolting from me.
I am a very good girl. Very faithful (my bf's ex set me up with a guy but I thank God I didn't fall), not demanding. But the luggage I'm carrying is about to kill me. I'm caving in!!!
Contact me via my email Stelakuko@hotmail.com if you want her bbpin to talk to her or help her in anyway.thank you
my dear please go and see a shrink fast. you need to talk to someone. suicide is never the way. we are all gonna die someday anyway, why hasten yours and risk eternal damnation whilst at it? go get medical attention fast!!!
ReplyDeleteHi hon,from ur post,u see u hv good prospects. Takin ur life is d wrong step now. Why not mention d state u re in n let's see SDKers arnd dat wld lik to hang out wt u? U need a break n really need to ease ur mind of all ds load. Bless u dear.
DeleteGod be with you dear. You must overcome
DeleteIf ur dad is highly connected pls its time to speak wt him, start frm an sms or make a call.
DeletePoint is u nid new peeps around u..
You are a graduate, u are young u ve a lot of years ahead of u, y sit at home al day n get urself depressed?
No! Go out dre. If u are lucky to get connected via ur dad and get a gud job,it wl do u a whole lot of good. U wl meet wt new peeps and that wl booast up ur social life.
Hi Stella dearie, PLEASE I beg you in God's name, don't post any HATEFUL and spiteful comments from anyone.
ReplyDeleteNo one knows what this young lady is going through. Insults may just worsen her case.
Dear poster, please I beg you in God's name, pls don't take your life, you have no right to do so, coz ure most likely to spend your eternity in hell. Pls read Mark 11:22-25. Talk to God, make him a friend, he's the ONLY friend you NEED. Go and meet ur father, and you will be amazed at what he will do for you. Tell God to make your helper (s) locate you.
Remember, suicide is NEVER an option.
We shall OVERCOME.
I think you need a break and a change but death's not the answer. You'll just be a coward if you take your life 'cos in all honesty, you don't have problems. You are just carrying too much baggage... simply free some. It's not by force to be in a r/ship if it's not working...take a break. I'm also an indoor person and i know depression sets in faster for introverts than extroverts and that's because we have plenty time on our hands to think..so go out, start taking your self out, make sure you're always busy. And please...free that guy, free your mother, free those friends that make you depressed. Be YOU and do YOU. What do you like to do, what makes you happy...do those things. Do you want to meet your father, go and meet him. Do you want to travel, travel. Live for yourself, not for anybody else. Your mother is not in charge of your destiny...God is. So pray and please live.....
ReplyDeleteThanks for this reply....
DeleteI am an introvert myself and I fall in and out of depression regularly... It is so scary.
My dear, search everyone and everything around u and u will find a reason to keep going on.that is my own secret.
There is always light at the end of every tunnel... Stay off men for now... Sometimes they actually add to our problems.. Develop urself, get a job no matter how little it pays.
Life is full of ups and downs... Do not give up... Keep telling urself u are gonna make it.
Love urself... Things would work out well in the end.
I don't know who u believe in, But I believe in the Almighty God, he's the healer of all illness and diseases. He mends broken hearts, and he gives Hope to the hopeless. Dear Lovely girl please do not give up, Turn to God, He's the only one who can help u. Study the word of God and pray like ur life depends on it. U'll see things turn around for Good. Pls do not attempt suicide, remember the bible says "thou shall not kill" if you take ur own life u'll be heading straight to helll and there won't be any stopping. Wish u d best
ReplyDeleteAnon 9:49 u ve said it all. May God be with u.
DeleteThere's nothing wrong in helping ur man in times of need,but the male folks are now taking it for granted. Don't kill urslf cos of a man,with time you will get over it. Try and move around,make friends and apply for a job,you will get one soon. Men will always be men. Just be happy ok
ReplyDeleteNO MAN IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU TO KILL YOUR SELF .I AM PRAYING FOR YOU ,YOU DONT HAVE TO KILL OUR SELF COS UR BUYING YOURSELF A ONE WAY TICKET TO HELL.WHERE EVER YOU ARE JUST POUR YOUR HEART TO JESUS ....HE IS LISTENINING .INCASE YOU WNT A FRIEND I WILL BE YOUR FRIEND ,I WILL SEND MY CONTACT TO STELLA ,SHEE CAN FORWARD IT TO YOU....GIRL I HAVE SEEN HELL TOO,BUT BY THE LOVE OF JESUS I AM STANDING EVEN THOUGH I FALL ,I RISE AGAIN BECOS I KNOW I HAVE HIM THERE.SO HOLD ON OK....GOD LOVES YOU AND I WILL LOVE YOU TOO AND HELP YOU AS LONG AS YOU LET ME.
ReplyDeleteOMG!!! Ow do we reach lade?
ReplyDeleteSTELLA I DOT HAVE YOUR EMAIL ,PLS CAN YOU PUBLISH IT SO I CAN SEND MY CONTACT TO THIS LADY.PLSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
ReplyDeleteStellakuko@hotmail.com.
DeleteSum1 should please help dis gal out cos as 4 me am Speechless. She really needs help very fast.
ReplyDeleteleave your mum to raise your younger ones. dont kill yourself. some people have been through worse and God has opened better doors for them. No one has a right to take his or her own life. If you commit suicide, even after reading a bible or praying, you will enter hell fire. And the torture there is a lot worse than what u are currently going through. You will even regret committing suicide
ReplyDeleteHi doll, do not kill yourself, i'm sure you already know that is an automatic gateway to hell. God forbid, you be depressed for eternity! My advice is for you to forget men for now and heal yourself, go out more often if not for nothing, but to appreciate those who have nothing yet are happy. Also, go meet your dad for a job you need it to distract you. Plus, always stay positive you are closer to success than you think... Cheers!!!
ReplyDeletepls reach me on tonionlineweb@gmail.com.... your life has just began
ReplyDeletePlease do contact your dad to help you out. Your destiny is in your hand. All the best.
ReplyDeletei feel ur pain but i think your mom knows you more than anyone in ds world there is nothing wrong with you sticking with a man who is nt financially ok bt being constantly attracted to does kind of men thats where the problem lies.first ill advice you to re arrange your priorities like getting a job first so u can take careof ur mom and sibling and as for your boyfrnd dont be all over him let him decide what he want. as for your depression try and go out take a stroll in the evening just go out nt necessary with friends.zeze
ReplyDeletePlease we all have had our fair share of bad relationships. None is worth we taking our life. We have sacrificed, we have all loved the wrong people, life beats you down a million times, you have to fight and stand on your feet. You have to tell your I'm strong. Please look at your younger ones and think of life without you? Hold upto hope of meeting dat man in d future dat ll wipe away all bad memories. There is a lot 2 live for. Please leave the house, get a job no matter how small its pays, its ll boost your self confidence. To go church, talk 2ur maker, he hears us loud and clear, for every tears, he ll wipe it away and give u joy for ur sorrows. Please no man or circumstances of life is worth we ending it all.
ReplyDeleteThis is a nice comment,I've been depressed for the past two months,but last week I decided to shake it off and forget about all my failures,this life is for u,dnt live it for any other person,anything that makes u depressed discard it immidiatly. I really want to help,ill ask stella for ur pin.
DeleteOh dear, what a situation. I don't know you in person would have loved to meet with you and have a chat. But dear isn't this world a crazy place? People we trust let us down leaving us confused, scared and d whole ugly spiral down. Good news is this; you aint alone my dear and if you hear some peoples story u'll get down on ur knees n appreciate the 'life u have'. I have had my own fair share of sadness, pain and depression so also many people I have known but what keeps me going is the fact that I know there is light after the tunnel! Am sure you've had better days in the past. Just look back @ those beautiful moments, remember how u overcame obstacles in d past and then encourage yourself. Life is crazy but we are fighters honey. Let hope and faith be your weapon! don't lose d will to live honey, your creator isn't sleeping. He has deposited strength in you...remember that always...
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oooh lord pls help dis girl. I ave been in dis situation b4 , police ask me not to work for a year, myboyfriend whom am still dating now broke myheart den, I loose my house d only friend I had then snubbed me off but d friend I met few days b4 my problem was d one dat move me into her apartment but she was not always at home cos she works 9hours daily Stella I pass thru help dat was how I bcame so addicted with d internet. I cry for myheartbreak for my lost job for my mum cus I was d bread winner of d family... I enjoy crying den even on Xmas and new year Myfrnd still work but she provided everything For me but my boyfriend refuse to call me thruout Xmas and new year change his line . Stella depression is a decease I almost killed myself but each time I tried to I remember my friend Blessing osifo whom I really wanted to pay her back with good not with tears, her thought is d only thing dat kips me alive. But today am happy cos am over it now I gat my job back, myboyfriend and I are jacking stronger, Myfrnd blessing is d love of mylife. So dear please I know depression is bad but know it ur life is more precious God is arranging everything u taught is not working well now for u....u see d way my story turns out to b? So please b inspired even my boyfriend is jealous cos I sing praises with blessing name I even told him oneday dat if blessing ask me to dump him dat I wont look left or right to do so lol.... Try dis like I did I opened a group den added all Myfrnd to it I accept almost all friend request, chat with friend share something on ur wall dat will draw people attention to comment NOTE seeing comments on ur post gives joy too and also visit blogs read comments and also comment ooooo always recheck if someone has reply ur comment jst like I will do later mydear b4 u know sleep go catch u and gradually ur problem will be off.....
ReplyDeleteLade!!!!! YOU DO NOT WANT TO DO THIS. By this time last year i lost someone else to the same fate.
ReplyDeleteI could put my name and email up but for some reasons i wont.
You need a job? YOU CAN GET ONE Fast
what are your qualifications? Lets start talking! Promise to send Stella your telephone number and your curriculum vitae.
Haba girl! You have a fabulous life ahead of you, don't end it because of momentary pain.
I am the friend of someone who has taken the very same step and things turned out a lot better or his entire family after he took this step.
Lade DO NOT DO THIS! There is hope.
I never doupt tonto dikeh suicide story cos I ave b there and I believe 89% of us roaming around blogs and posting hate comments surfers depression...
ReplyDeleteHunnie! Av been there and I can only Say one thing, Gods mercy kept me. Rite now, am loving my life and am so happy cos I know because He lives, I can face tomorrw. Pls just lean on Jesus, He will carry u through, He has tots of peace towards u! I want u to pray and seek d face of God, He is our ever present help in times of trouble. U have something big to achieve in life, dats y d devil wants u to end it all BUT refuse and reject his advice! God is so in love wit u! Don't end yr life boo. Allow God take charge and watch Him make yr life beautiful! I celebrate u boo and I celebrate Gods greatness in u! See u at d Top my love. Hugs and kisses
ReplyDeleteSwthrt sucide is not an option, look up to jesus he is d bread of life talk to to him as a friend,a brother,and a father and u will be surprise the way tins we turn out 4 ur good. Read more of the bible it will give u strength and wisdom to face challenges, my dear no man is worth ur life.
ReplyDeleteU ar not alone in ds, Pls don't commit suicide, I heard it takes one straight to hell, dat is d only reason am still holding on to life too- bcos am afraid of HELL FIRE, am also an introvert always indoor and always depressed lady, i don't even have a single friend, cos all my mates have all gone ahead of me. At times I do wish I was never born. But it is well. #sobbing#
ReplyDeleteHmmm, my dear. Iwas really touched by your comment. Don't worry, everybody with his/her time. Ur time will come IJN. And those ur friends you think are better than u, will wish they were u. Just believe in Jesus and he will suprise u.
DeleteI dnt think u've gone tru half of wat I've gone tru in life,suicide is NOT the way out I must tell u.forget relationship for now and focus on ur future,if u have any handjob,think of wat u can do with it,not everybody who is a graduate will wear a white collar.wake up in the morning ,look urself in the mirror and say I'll make it,smile like u dnt have problems.it worked for me and I'm sure it will work for u if u have faith.bless u. Miss B
ReplyDeletePlease dear do not commit suicide, u won't believe the baggage we all carry but remain strong. Problems are part of life, God never forsakes his own, it will all pass. It's the devil telling u its all over, but he is a liar. Sweetheart please don't do it.I beg of u. If u hear my own problems u'll be surprised and then u would realise that ur in paradise. Forget men, build urself,at the right time the right man will come. SDK I wish we had a means of getting across to her like an email or something. Be strong dear,the Lord never forsakes his own.
ReplyDeleteContact ur Dad n break up wit ur bf, since d relationship gives u no peace. Attack from his ex n problem from his family. Give ursef a break from rtnship 4 now. Stop dating men, that depends on u, most men like hat livs when they make it or a beta person comes along.
ReplyDeleteAs of suicide it solves nothing, but heartache n pains to ur family. Go out spoil ursef a little n be happy. Ur mum shld rally around n take care of ur siblings, u r to support, its not ur responsibility. U shld all go n meet ur dad to help out. May d Lord be wit u.
pls reach out to dianeshyler1979@gmail.com.....your life is better than most
ReplyDeleteDearie,wen U̶̲̥̅̊ fink of 5 things 2 die 4 I bet U̶̲̥̅̊ av millions of reasons 2 live 4. We al av our takes bout dedicated broken rlatnshps bt @ d end of evry always bliv dat God av a reason 4 evryfin even though we dnt knw. Move closer 2 God n he will giv U̶̲̥̅̊ rest dear. Suicide is 4 cowards n selfish ppl. Ur life is nt urs alone,even though I dnt knw U̶̲̥̅̊ bt if anyfin shld apn 2 U̶̲̥̅̊,I'll b hrt broken cos our path have crossed tru SDK, aw much more ur close relatives. Pls get a hug ryt away,it will ease U̶̲̥̅̊ a lil. Love u
ReplyDeleteWhat is her full name plz
ReplyDeleteMy dear I was once at the verge of committing suicide too coz I keep a lot of things to myself buh I didn't hv enough courage to do it. Then I heard about the book THE LADY, HER LOVER AND HER LORD by TD JAKES on tv, it caught my interest and I bought it n started reading it, that book changed my life for good. I'd advice u read the book and also talk to someone u trust about what u are going through coz talking helps a lot. Lastly God loves u so much and someone out there is dying to meet someone like u. Stay strong darling one day it will all be a thing of the past
ReplyDeleteIf you can,please send your number to jummiey2k6@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteGod will make a way for you my dear, no matter how hard it seems now. Please DO NOT kill your self, things will get better you will see and you'll be thankful you listened to all these encouragements here.
ReplyDeleteLade Hod loves you , you have to believe. That , pls try and talk to someone don't kill yourself cos hell is real! Pls stay in this life for the sake of Christ that died on the cross for your sins and mine to take away our shame and pain , pls read the word at this most trying time and talk to someone even if it's Stella , pls we care , Your siblings need you .stay and don't let this situation get the better of you darling !
ReplyDeleteI've been there and back, trust me it's not a good place to be! But you know what? God didn't fail me then and he wouldn't fail you now! I can't tell you to forget about everything cos I know it's not easy. But think about this : it's possible that your mother has been lying to you too and your dad is eager and waiting to meet you but he doesn't know how to reach you! Your brothers are not your responsibility although you can help out if you want to, but for now let your mother carry her own responsibility. Look into a mirror and imagine if you were disfigured, or had a life threatening disease, what would you do? Thank God you didn't marry any of your exes cos they could have been the END of your life! God has something wonderful in store for you, so don't check out before you achieve them . And remember GOD LOVES YOU. Have a blessed time contacting your dad. He can't wait to see you! One love#
ReplyDeleteOk darl, first and fore most, the day breaks just after the darkest hour, that means u r just around ur break tro, secondly, u said ur mum told u lies about ur dad, am happy u know she lied so it means u can go to him, thirdly, suicide is not an option, my father used to say to me, (wahala baya Kashe mutum ) it means suffering does not kill, my sister my father died when I was 19 yrs, I am the first child, today I am 40 yrs and a bank manager and I put all my 6 siblings tro school, bliv me, indeed it can only get better, u gain notin by taking ur life. My father was comfortable but after he died, hmnnn, my younger ones wore tattered uniforms to sch, I wud take a look at them and weep! But I knew where I was headed, u already hav a degree, just hold on, I tell u God will make a way. My sister if u live in Abuja pls find ur way to RCCG central parish on wednesday at 11.30-12pm.
ReplyDeleteIf u kill ur self I will be upset wit u.
Stay alive and God bless u,
Lots of hugs and kisses.
Mrs A
My dear, people go thru worst things. Don't let ur mum or relationships define your future for you. U are 26, if at 26 you don't succeed, dust yourself up and try again. U need a true friend, someone you can talk to freely, but in the absence of none for now, I am certain u can make Stella ur friend for now. Suicide is not the way, by doing that, you become a looser, and I know you are a winner. Life is full of challenges, even me here, I am abt to face deportation. Lol! I have a family o, my naija landlord is abt to throw my tins out but guess what? I will keep trying till I succeed. I won't give up because I know it's just a phase in my life. U will not always be like this, things will change for the better. Think of the good things you have had in life and let that be a guide to your promising future. God is faithful, he will make you smile again. Stay blessed.
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Ohh my ϑε̲ãr, don't loose faith! We all have our problems. Personally mine is heavy too but rather than being negative, I'm positive. I just pour my complains to God and i feel better. And try and go out and get a fresh air. Talk to a good friend or go to your friends house, jist and have a good time. Staying alone can make u depressed too. Loneliness is a disease my ϑε̲ãr. Once in a while go out or just stroll out to nowhere and get home tired. Make friends pls just try and be happy. Suicide is NEVER d answer! D pains in hell is a trillion times bigger that your current problem. Don't call GOD a fool cuz he kept u alive! Ï…̲̣̥r̲̅ a testimony my ϑε̲ãr. And u'll shine like a diamond. Just alittle more patience. ☺ķªª¥!
ReplyDelete26 is still too early an age for you to kill urself over a man. The issues u stated above are nothing compared to what so many are going through, yet still holding on and believing that life could/would be better. You have no right to lay ur hand on ur life cos u do not know what it cost God to sustain u for this long. If u think u have issues, go to any Infectious Diseases Hospital around you and see how people (both young and old) are fighting what seems to be a death sentence, that is because they still have hope that life could be better. Come on Lade, get up from where u r, brush off the "supposed" dust on you and MOVE ON with ur life. Life is truly beautiful and I'm sure u can make it.
ReplyDeleteThere is nuffin as traumatic and depressing than coming from a broken home where lies, hate and utter rejection is the order of the day.. It will affect every other thing u do. Ur whole being will be wired to a specific kinda lifestyle . Same goes with ur relation..
ReplyDeleteThank God for blogs like this where so many aspects of life situations are discussed(God bless u stella)
U have taken the ist step of deliverance by voicing out ur troubles. So my appeal to u now is for u to listen to what people has to tell u and u need to be strong and ready to go thru with the healing process cos its gon be hard(very hard) along d way.. May God help ya
Suicide shouldn't be an option, brace up yourself n shut everyone making u feel miserable out of your life at least until u heal. You are not alone, God's just right by you so be strong, you'll be fine in no time!...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteDear poster. I understand EXACTLY what you're going through. I've been in your shoes like 20 times. You place your hand in any direction and don't have the slightest convincing results. I've even, because of my numerous depressions, blasphemed a lot. I've told GOD that I didn't want anything to do with HIS *useless* promises of everlasting Rest, or HIS *foolish* threat of Hell Fire. I said those things, and worse, right in HIS Face.
ReplyDeleteI asked for death when suicide scared me, but woke up annoyed that I saw a brand new day. "For what stupid purpose", I asked. I tried to annoy GOD so HE'll get so angry that HE'll end my life. Nothing. I stopped going to church, stopped being nice to people...though I didn't hurt anyone directly 'cos I reasoned ignorantly that GOD was the sole cause of my problems, and not humans.
All these I faced with a smile veiling my true feelings. NOBODY KNEW WHAT I WAS GOING THROUGH. And that is dangerous. As of this time, two years ago, Memphis would have been food for the worms, no thanks to suicide.
Let me tell you the root secret to coming out of that depression: Be THANKFUL to GOD. HE is SOOOOOOO Merciful, SOOOOOOO Gracious, SOOOOO caring, SOOOOOO patient...and I can go on and on. HE understood my ignorance and never got angry with all my blasphemous words towards HIM. He led me straight to church and I learned that being THANKFUL is partly for HIS GLORY, and partly for ones personal healing and improvement. There are so many people who would give anything to live the kind of life you live....a life of opportunities. Please, suicidal thoughts are from the evil bastard known as satan. The idiot never sleeps, increases your depression, and paints GOD as a static failure in your life. But guess what? He's a liar, and the father of lies. Don't cave in to your depression, that's what he desires, because he'll be the one to have the last laugh. Shame him by showing gratitude to GOD for your life. Being grateful is the beginning. You'll be amazed at the change, because GOD is ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC. HE'll NEVER abandon you, NEVER! Turn to HIM, open up completely to HIM, show HIM gratitude. Please, my dear, don't think suicide. That's the devil working. Block him now. You have my prayers. Be blessed. #bearhug#
I'm not the poster but I sure needed this. I'm a 26 and sooooo weighed down that I'm loosing faith. The weirdest thought have a way of sneaking into my head. I can only hope it gets better. Stella thanks for this post, I'm inspired to believe.
DeleteDear one,you just kick started your healing process by reaching out. Thank God for that. Child of God,depression is not just a mood.its much more complicated.Good news is that you can get over it faster than you think.you need someone experienced in these matters to assist you. I know there are NGO's out there that do much for ladies with issues that overwhelm them.None comes to mind now,but I ll find out.Pls anyone with an NGO 'contact' for this problem should speak up. You will be ok. God keep you.
ReplyDeleteNne, biko dont kill yourself. Life has never be fair to anyone....dont mind the fake smiles in our faces some of us are in deeper pains than you.....we only manage not to let it tear us down. If everyone could tell you what he/she has been through you will definitely be grateful to your chi. Inugo oga adi mma!
ReplyDeleteJust asked some colleagues of mine and so far,this is the lead I got.If you live in lagos,go to Rev sam Adeyemi's Daystar church. Ask about the 'Mental health foundation'; to which he is a board member. They offer free services by experts.Its well with you.
ReplyDeleteDear is only God that will save u, run to Him today, He will never forsake u. It is better to trust in God than to put confidence in man, because God is always faithful to as many that are faithful to Him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear !pls try n take thinz eazi.everythin will b fine as soon as u get a job.yeah I knw cuz I experience similar thin last year.I gt a job n nw everythin is history.stil I dnt a rship now cuz of my bad experience buh hey m a happy woman.jst try n look 4 somthin 2 do.itl give u a self worthmn hold on e God 2..pray a lot cuz he sure answers prayer.I wish u d best n pls stop thinkin of suicide
ReplyDeleteYou need to focus on YOU!!! It may seem selfish and you may want to not do that cos of guilt, but my dear that's the best thing you can do for yourself now. I am a serious introvert, have NO friends and have a husband who does not treat me like a friend, just as a mother to his kids. Life can get soo depressing and to end it all seems a good thought. Look for things to do and please don't think of anybody or factor in any body's reaction into it; learn a new trade, join a book club, things that will generally place you where people are. Don't necessarily look for close friends, just people that will engage you in talks and things like that. Since I started doing things for myself that I absolutely enjoy, I've noticed a happier me. You have to be selfish (i.e do things for only you) to break out of this cycle of depression. Don't go into any relationships, contact your dad yourself and see if he can help you with his connections. Whatever problems btw your parents is none of your business, they should sort it out themselves. And pls assert yourself to your mum. They mean well but they can sometimes hold you back with their opinions and suggestions. Also get a therapist, talking to a neutral person about your feelings help a LOT!!! My dear good luck and may God be with you. My prayers are with you always.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, never ever kill urself cos that is d greatest height of wickedness. I don't know how spiritual u are but take it to God in prayer. I am passing through a lot more than u are doing but I don't see it as a problem bcos I know God can never abandon his own. Pls I beg of u, don't take ur life if not for anything for d sake of ur younger ones, am sure they care about u and think of the stigma u place on them if u commit sucide. Go to ur Dad, no matter what, he is still ur father, let him help u get a job cos if u were busy, guys will be d least of ur problems, I know we ladies cannot do without men but don't let guys define u. Pls and pls and pls dear, don't think of sucide, I will put u in my prayers always. Drop ur number or email with Stella, I will personally come look for u if u are in Lagos. Pls don't think of suicide, God created and left u alive for a purpose, don't take ur life. These issues don't worth ur life, there are people going through worst things. I Love u.
ReplyDeleteMy dear lade......I know exactly how u r feeling,but my dear,have seen worst.....if I begin to tell u my story u will weep for me.......my dear.....d best is yet to come for u.....hold on my dear n watch how the God of prophet TB JOSHUA will turn your tears of sorrow into tears of joy.....I love u
ReplyDeleteNne nathng is worth takin ur life for, evn d bible said "d darker d nyt,d sooner d morning" belive me u neva knw wen ur breakthrough is near, probably, d enemy has seen dat ur breakthrough is arund d corner nd he strtd puttin suicide tots in ur head. Dearie b strong in God, Join a living church nd nd make friends dat will edify u. Remember committing suicide will entail u suffering here on earth and also continuing ur suffering in hell...nd also, b4 u delve into any relationship, inquire of d lord cuz his planz is to give us expected end not heartbreaks. JESUS LOVES YOU
ReplyDeleteI have been through depression and I it's not easy, I was on that same self pity talk that you doing to yourself which is the most dangerous thing. What you tell yourself you begin to believe of yourself...
ReplyDeleteStart by breathing in out and decide to change and transform your life. Put on jogging shoes and take a long walk to clear your mind and reevaluate your life for the better.
Start by taking small steps toward a better you and cut out all negativity from your life till when you learn to block negativity from affecting you.
All will be well but only you can make it well by deciding to change for the better.
Wish you well
Kenyan babe
am once like u ore, call me pls let talk 07032253118, stella pls publish my comment i beg u, haliya
ReplyDeleteLade, pls remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It may look bleak today, it's certainly not going to remain so. Those who ditched you did so because they were never meant to be part of your life, so in point of fact, you have not lost anything, my dear. Brace up, pick yourself up, and choose to be happy. Your soul mate will soon locate you, but am sure he wouldn't want to see you looking dejected.
ReplyDeleteHi stella/blog visitors.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot for putting up my mail and the responses. You have no idea how happy it has made me. I haven't received so much love in a while.
I have a degree in business administration. ( Second class lower). Pls if anybody has any job for me, kindly let me know. I know its only if my mind is pre-occupied that I'll be fine.
At least I'll have something me taking me out of the house and I can pay my bills.
My heart would be lighter that way. i have mailed stella my contact info.
Thank you to everyone and God bless you all for showing me such love.they are mere words but they mean a lot and has helped my frame of mind.
I have a job for u but we need to know where you are based.if ou are in Abuja reply me pls
DeleteGod bless u mama tee,I culd shelter her if she decides to take ur job a d doesn't reside here....sucide isn't an option dearie,d devil is jst envious of ur over bright future...kisses
DeleteThe Bible says, to him that is joined to the living, there is hope! its only those who have life that can hope, my darlyn ending your life is not the solution, you will just end up in hell where you will be tormented for all eternity which is a worse fate than what you are going through right.
ReplyDeletemy darlyn Lade, God's plans for us are big, VERY BiG, we just need to trust Him, He NEVER disappoints, He may seem "late"by our human timing, but He is never late.
stay alive girl, you will be shocked the turn your life will take. we will pray for you too. God bless hun, *hugs*
@lade.....u r stronger than I tot....am proud of u girl.......God bless u
ReplyDeleteYou know the sweet thing about all of this? Very soon you would look back and agree that it truly does not rain forever.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could meet you. I don't want to write much as I can already see so many words of encouragement here. Just continue to pray to God he never fails.
Dear Lade,
ReplyDeleteI just got relieved seeing your comment. It is well with you my dear!
Never contemplate suicide. It doesn't solve anything...what you just did, ( reaching out) actually does.
Don't forget that some people are in the hospital dying of one terrible disease or the other begging God to spare their lives.
People are fighting for their lives, never attempt to give up yours.
I believe God's light have started shinning on you. Help is on the way for you. It is well dear.
#hugs
I really feel overwhelmed by all the love and support shown here today. It shows it's not only about gossip but reaching out to people in need. Stella, keep it up, babes!
ReplyDeleteLade, my fellow SDKers have said it all. Be brave n strong because this phase will pass. God didn't say we won't go through tough times but He has promised NEVER leave us or forsake us and His Word is true. I've been battling a chronic medical condition for years and there have been so many times l felt like giving up but for God. He has consistently given me a reason to be glad l'm alive. He will never give up on you too. Just remember, there are times when you are lonely but you are never ALONE. God bless you, girl
Lade please get a job no matter how small. Boredom is making you blow things out of proportion. And stop being attached to a man you know his family dont want you. Why any woman will want to enter such a situation is still beyond me. There is nothing like me and my husband alone. Soon that husband will get tired of all the divisions you are causing in his life. No matter what, his family will always be his family.
ReplyDeleteMadam lade I no understand ur letter as to ur reasons 4 being suicidal. First of all dat ex is still his gf else she wouldn't still b on his case. He must be giving her hope or some sort of greenlight 4 her to still b der. Depression is bad anyway. But its not too late. U've only dated 4 15 months so moving on is quite easy. Wish u d best.
ReplyDeleteKill urself, u go to hell fire. Charcoal don de burn since the days of d bible de wait for anybody wey kill himself. So d choice is urs. U can keep being depressed n suicidal or get up dust ur cv n hustle. Every other thing will come in due time. Let go n let God. God has an appointed time n not ur time. Don't rush him.
ReplyDeleteOh dear, how i need friends too. I'm in Lagos and bored to my bones. I have a job but, my life is basically, my job and my house. Any body here? Just someone to always hang out with every once in a while. Do not hesitate to contact me
ReplyDeleteWhat's your email address?
DeletePls, Pls don't do this. Jer 29;11 -13 says For I know the thoughts that I have toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
ReplyDeleteJer 30:17 For I will restore health to you and heal you of your wounds, says the Lord, Because they called you an outcast saying This is zion; No one seeks her.
My dear! Your courage to have sent your mail on this platform is a sign that your "deliverance" has come!
ReplyDeleteRejoice darlyn..... The Lord's mercy has visited you! Hugs and kisses...
Love you dearie!
Firstly I know you are in a bad place, I know you think there is no way out but suicide, I know you think no one else understands because they are not in your shoes. But I think you have a desire to live as you have extended a hand for help. Please read some of the comments so far, then take some quiet time to talk to God/or whoever you believe in. Not necessarily in your home or bf's home. You can do it while you take a long walk or light jog or even swim. These activities will release what is colloquially termed as Happy Hormones and help you make proper decisions.
ReplyDeleteEverybody has very bad/dark days, Someone is asking his/herself why she entered that plane, she/he would not be in the hospital by now with burns. Someone else is asking his or herself why did she /he have to travel for that wedding (bestfriend or not) she/he would not have been in a coma and still battling to walk years after the bestie was happily married. But they acknowledge that it could have been much worse and that God is in control and that they have people who love them and care for them.What you feel is a mental anomaly (to do with mental health), we can get out of that mental state with the right people helping us out.
Sorry about my long comment its because that I feel your pain. Please be strong for yourself and others who may benefit from you overcoming this period. Big Hugs
A prayer for you:
ReplyDeleteDear Lord....comfort this ''writer'' on every sides
Remove depression from her life
GOD visit her and show her the way
Let her have every reasons not to end her life.....
Suicide is not an option @ all
##Bless you##
Sometimes love isn't enough in our relationships. Its one thing to love, its another for the recipient to return the favour. I've been through this journey and I know this feeling. Just take a break dear. Some think hanging out and being busy will cure the pain but it will only do so temporarily. I can't tell you how to go about it now cause I'm still battling mine but I want you to think about that one person that you don't wanna see hurt by your demise. Stay alive darling. Life's short and beautiful. You'll still die but not now, not this way. We all care. #Bless. manniechuka@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteBeautiful, and really encouraging comments from ya'll. Lade I'm certain u hv a reason to live. God loves u so much. Please lean on Him. U will live to fulfill His purpose IJN. Amen
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