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Hi Stella, am a regular reader of your blog, I really commend you for the good job you are doing. I have a problem that I will like to share with your blog visitor, because I really need all the advice I can get at this very moment.
I am a young girl of 25, a lawyer by profession. Am dating this very nice guy who lives in USA, he did his university and served here before travelling to America, we have done our
introduction couple of months back and we are planning for our wedding come december this year. Stella am confused because this guy is very caring and loving and I love him too but the big problem is that he doesn't know much about what is happening around the world , we will speak for hours on the phone but he can never discuss anything educative, ask him a simple question that a secondary school student will know and be shocked at his answer. I don't learn anything from him because he seems not to know anything, how do I cope in a marriage with such a person?!!!!
I am a lawyer and I know that from time to time in marriage you will need some intelligent discussions with your spouse. All he knows is business this, business that. What really got me very mad was when I asked him who the vice president of Nigeria was and he couldn't answer the question because he didn't know.
Secondly I have a very good job in Nigeria here and wouldn't want to leave it for anything because he has been telling me that once we get married I will relocate to USA with him leaving my job, I pleaded with him to set up a business in Nigeria, that will enable him come back regularly but he refused. Stella how will I cope with a long distance marriage??
Stella I don't know what to do again, I really need you to post this because am really confused and I need advice before I go crazy, marriage is a life time business and I don't want to make any mistake. Please guys don't curse me out I just need some advice. Thank you very much
*If I hear!
Na wa ooooooooo. Dis one pass me abeg. Tony Ihekire where are u? Pls help out.
ReplyDelete1st of all dis story looks dodgy! Buh sincerely speaking, i will urge you not 2 use dis irrelevant reason 2 complicate ur supposed marriage, cx i av seen worse'where a nigerian based in england couldnt even mention 3states in nigeria'.. Marry him and teach him,if needs be....#my opinion dou..
DeleteI met this nna bros who wanted to marry me, I just knew it wasn't going to work. So I didn't even start dating him talk less of doing introduction with him. So my question is, how did you get to this point with him? Abi you guys didn't date?
DeleteThis lady is just stupid......wat has that got to do with your relationship?....vice president of9ja?....see,because people are bringing ish to this blog doesn't make you bring stupid issue here...lawyer so fuck what?..pray he doesn't get to read this...really,its not making sense.....ODE...
DeleteAramide
My exact thots oh Aramide.. she doesn't have a problem. Just dey use hand find unnecessary trouble. Hissss
DeleteLike seriously, who's the Vice President of Nigeria? We all knew Atiku cus he was quite astute. As far as I'm concerned, the Vice President of Nigeria is Dame Patience Goodluck Jonathan.
DeleteMy dear, you never ready to marry o. Soon. You will marry your LLB, your BL and your legal practice cum job.
See what flimsy excuses you got? You say he lives you and cares about you and all he knows us business business business. What's wrong with that? Can't you discuss business and romance? Shior. Love dey, care dey, i sure say d guy go sabi fuck yet u dey complain.
My advice to you is to leave him. Don't marry him cus you will eventually use your ITK to frustrate him. Don't worry, you will meet the man of your dreams soon who will know the name of the deputy husband of the wife of the Vice President of Afghanistan. I wish you luck o. But hope you know sha say dem go rush that your husband sharp sharp as soon as you leave him?
See the way she even said it sef " I am a Lawyer". Lawyer con be wetin na? When were you called to the bar? What kinda job do you do? See mega pride o. Do you know how many Lawyers are on this Blog? I really pity that man because before he go talk One, you don talk Ten beginning with " I know my Rights". Bla bla bla. Nausabi.com
DeleteODE!!!!
DeleteHe might be acting dumb cos Ʊ r acting so inteligent.
You don't know guys....call off d marriage na..
Secondly, stay back na and suffer ur marriage....or better still stay single, when Ʊ r 40, another option will cum.
Yawns
Kip lookn for d smartest hubby at 70 u ll find.....nd bsides dint u date him bfore doin trad wedding..u are so full of urself..kol d wedding off...and stay single...foolish lawyer
DeleteWell, don't blame him too much. Be angry a little. Me I only know the names of 4 current governors in Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteAlso, let me tell u, my fiance has so much money but is a semi illiterate while I'm a public figure.
@ poster...1st of al, U̶̲̥̅̊ aint no young gurl @ 25!!! 2ndly, frm ur write-up, U̶̲̥̅̊ didn't J̲̥̅̊u̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊t̲̥̅̊ know he's an olodo! Well, illeterate or nt, a gud man is alwys n wil remain a gud man!
DeleteWoooow, this is a difficult one dear lawyer, I must say. I understand how u feel a little, but I read that you love him, lover covers a multitude of sin, teach him my dear, correct him in love, sometimes in life we have to make difficult sacrifice and compromise, ur happiness is paramount, ask ur self will u be happy if you relocate to the states to be with him? If u won't discuss with him. I wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteOh please poster, give me a break. As much as I encourage career women etc, I will not condone a spiteful comment against one's partner. I also didn't know a lot of the govt officials in Nigeria until I moved back. And I guarantee u that it is same with some who live abroad, and who aren't so much into current affairs. If someone asked me to cite the names of the govs in Nigeria today, and even some ministers, am sorry I will fail the test. Blame the system that is always changing their officials. I am not an olodo o, and I am a lawyer too darling. Even Ask some secondary school students today, some will also fail. So on this one am not with u. If u wan marry, better marry and stop being overly ambitious. Not every man likes this sort of mental challenge and the belittling of their intelligence. If u don't like it, leave the man alone and go and marry a nerd. That's all.
DeleteAnd besides, I also tend to forget that Nnamadi Sambo is in existence. The man is a figure head VP if u asked me. Does he ever speak on issues at all?
Na craze dey worry ur head, lawyer ko, solicitor ni, na the man I blame wey wan marry mgbeke feeling funky. Do u that is staying in nigeria knw the name of the minister of agriculture?? Ehn, madam I too know lawyer! See yarns oh, must he knw everything happening arnd the world? Is he a journalist by profession? Don't relocate na, poverty stricken girl. Wat kinda job are u working as a lawyer here in nigeria? Tell me lemme hear, cause am also a lawyer and am also 25yrs old! But no, I don't have a chicken brain like urs. Stella pls post this comment let this oluku girl learn
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her...ppl are out there crying for husbands and God has given you the one that loves you and you aint grateful
DeleteAbeg pass him along to some1 else since knowing the VP is all you need
Gini ka onye nkea na ako,u want to marry bill gate okpo,u no go go marry who God manage give.ok mrs know all can u tell me at what did obama finish sucking her mama breast.answer oo or I break ur head ewu
DeleteThank you jare.....imagine her yarning dust...irritating post!
DeleteAramide
The problem is that u are an intellectual and he isnt,so u teach him to read more,associate with mentally sound pple so he will learn.
DeleteU don't really have a problem dat should stop ur marriage!
But if the problem is deep down in the genes(unto being naturally dull),be prepared to have one or two dull pikins'*says and turns away*.
She is not even an interllect, coz if she was she will not be writting this rubbish. Stay there wait till you are 50yrs another lawyer will come from america and marry you. He will know the president's unborn children and the ancestors of the vice president. .yeye lawyer.
DeleteNot everybody has a high IQ na, that vice president questions shouldn't a thing to judge him with, he prolly hates Politics like I do, and I have to think for like 5secs to remember our so called VP's name, the man is just there like he's not there.
ReplyDeleteNonsence....marriage neva hungry you...even me sef no know the vice president of nigeria...sky no fall for my head.
ReplyDeleteOh Very simple my dear. Let me introduce u to a Lawyer and a supposed intellect, FFK. A seasonal jobless lawyer without an iota of integrity or money in the bank. However, he'll service u the mumbo jumbo discourse u are in dire need for..ok! And he not only knows who Nig VP is, he'll take u round the globe with just his mouth, and he'll tell u all the who is who in any country. As dat na wetin dey hungry u. Shall I continue with the citation of a credible husband u wish for? Stupid girl. Ur man is a biz man and he's not lazy..he has it going for him, yet u are hungry for talk talk that won't put dinner on ur damn table ko? Don't get me wrong, I love intellectual brewers, but we can't all be the same ok? Duh!
DeleteSeriously? U want to marry? And u don't want to join ur husband where he lives. Babe move on abeg plus if u think he's not as inteligent as u'll expect ur man to be why wast our time? A broken introduction is better dan a broken marriage. Half a word is enuf for the wise
ReplyDeleteFunny post u have got dere!so it took u,till after introduction,and wedding sum weeks off,to realise dis faulty!to my own point of view, I believe u aren't jst ready for this marriage,cos a woman duty entails to be @ her husband side always,not u complaining of distant!didn't u think abt all dis @ the earlier start! Or is reality jst dawning on u or wat!
ReplyDeleteLol. This anonymous u need coffee. Very hot coffee laced with knorr cube. Wetin b this?
DeleteMy thoughts exactly! Lmao
DeleteWhat is dis.....lord hv mercy
DeleteThis anon 11.23AM na @ Galore relation o. They write alike. Hahahahahahahahahaha
DeleteNa eze ndi igbo u wan marry so. Kwakwakwakwakwa.
ReplyDeleteBia nne! You can teach him. Buy him 60leaves exercise book, current affairs books- those N100 type -ehen. Buy him 2B pencil, HB pencil and Eleganza biro.
What's the big deal? Not everyone is intelligent. You must have seen something else that you love about the dude. Abeg go lick stew. You no even get problem. Except he gets offended and violent when you try to teach him.
Make I ask you. Who is the chairman of oredo local government area?
You don't know. How you are!!!!.
Julie love, hahahaha
DeleteI just can't help it but afuru m gi na anya!, too much
Ur comments make me wet
N am a gal #nohomo
Just to show u hw I like ur comments
Jisi ike ada nne.
Julittttttttttt ooooooo, Obara Jisox, lwkmdfh dont mind that rubbish babe.because she see Yankee boy she gree sharp sharp.
DeleteHmmmm think twice cos it's ur cross
ReplyDeleteOpposite attracts, teach him book e go teach u how 2 make better money.
ReplyDeleteI Don't think You love him enough to marry him coz if you do,you wount be complainin of moving over to stay with him and him being unintelligent.true love dosent care if you are illiterate or not.like me for instance,I droped out of the university in my first year But my hubby studied engineering and he has a very good job.he love me the way I am not minding that I didn't finish school. What am trying to say is that you shouldn't marry him coz you don't love him enough for marriage.
ReplyDeleteThis girl u be real fool. Are u aware that this is the unknown and anonymous world of the virtual reality. The other day ur hubby mouth smells; today u dropped out of uni. U have a leaking faucet for mouth and u re very immature.
DeleteMay I also tell u that some men prefer their wives as illiterates cos it means all the shine remains on the man and u re the doormat; suitable fr fucking; cooking; bearing children but unsuitable for intelligent discourse.
Shuo! Y u no finish school na? You be fool o. U are now trying to compare yourself to a whole learned babe like our poster. Bikonu, stop dat breakdance.
DeleteLinda Eze,pls go back to school,inugo?. Even if u hv kids try get ur 1st Degree if u never get am now. BTW,Engrs are good fucks. Lucky girl.
DeleteAnon 2;16pm how can u say such hurtful words 2 som1??? Plz let's b mindful of our utterances!!
DeleteEnof of d gist abt her hubby's breath alredi...its borin
Anon 2;16pm how can u say such hurtful words 2 som1??? Plz let's b mindful of our utterances!!
DeleteEnof of d gist abt her hubby's breath alredi...its borin
Lmao. Anon 2:16, y did u take it so personal na? Linda Eze I love u. U know y? Bcos u r too real. Som ppl may find ur comments annoyin but I love dem cos u r jst being urslf. And u always refer to ur real lyf situation witout hiding under annonymous to comment. Not evry1 can do dat. Inshort even me sef e go hard to post Certain things using my profile. One L♥√ع-stay blessed.
Delete....And now, to d matter on ground, dat girl is Jst an idiot. Wat a flimsy reason. Break up wit him and let soom1 else who appreciates him marry him. See ehn, som ppl don't jst hav interest in such tings and am one of such so shift abeg. Yeye
Dear lawyer. Did you even have a relationship with this guy because if you did you would have known of his flaws before deciding to do an introduction. Also the issue of lication should have been trashed out before talking a step further towards the altar.
ReplyDeleteA lawyer marrying an olodo,dolo,itiboribo? Wat a combo dat'l be
ReplyDeleteMadam.. Wat wre u doin wyl u guys wre dating? Y re u jst noticing dem now dat ur weddng ceremony is jst by d'corner..
ReplyDeleteSISI KOKO
But is that all the problem you have with him?
ReplyDeleteI am a Lawyer too and i can certainly relate to your situation stemming from the fact that Lawyers,generally,love to engage in intellectual dialogue.
The fact that your husband does not share this trait with you is not enough for you to end your marriage to him.
Adapt.
Adjust..
And learn to leave with it.You can always have such discussions with your colleagues at work.
Secondly..when getting married to a man based in the US of A. It may have occurred to you at some point that your husband would expect you to relocate to the states with him...it should even have occurred to you,the inevitability of this fact.
Be less selfish and learn to accept his differences.I cannot however say you should leave your job.You know your priorities so that decison lies with you.
But is that all the problem you have with him?
ReplyDeleteI am a Lawyer too and i can certainly relate to your situation stemming from the fact that Lawyers,generally,love to engage in intellectual dialogue.
The fact that your husband does not share this trait with you is not enough for you to end your marriage to him.
Adapt.
Adjust..
And learn to leave with it.You can always have such discussions with your colleagues at work.
Secondly..when getting married to a man based in the US of A. It may have occurred to you at some point that your husband would expect you to relocate to the states with him...it should even have occurred to you,the inevitability of this fact.
Be less selfish and learn to accept his differences.I cannot however say you should leave your job.You know your priorities so that decison lies with you.
He went to school! Graduated! Works in the USA! Good and buoyant enough for you to tell him to open a business in Nigeria! And you say he doesn't know anything??? Na wa o, only you wan put sand inside Garri when milk, bournvita and groundnut dey?? Abi u have found someone else and you are looking for excuse?? Me just can't pick.the fault you're trying to Find! Okay you when dey 9ja who is the governor of New York state?? I know say you nor know! That's exactly how knowing 9ja isn't his problem! Pls pls pls! Say something else abeg. This mail just got me pissed. In short na you know.
ReplyDeleteOmere mi, chop kiss. No mind the babe, she never ready.
DeleteBut if it was nollywood actress now, every including will ask her to go build her home saying home b4 carrier now it is u soo u dont wanna live ur job to go build ur home. Well for me I can't com online and start forming, if ask me now am off to Google to ask dsame question dat u ask ur husband... Meaning not only ur husband d victim here.lolz
ReplyDeleteBut if it was nollywood actress now, every body including u will ask her to go build her home saying home b4 carrier now it is u soo u dont wanna live ur job to go build ur home. Well for me I can't com online and start forming, if u ask me now am off to Google to ask dsame question dat u ask ur husband... Meaning not only ur husband d victim here.lolz.
ReplyDeleteYour man is an "OLODO". Now the question is, do you want Olodo children? His olodo genes would definitely rub off on them. Is that a chance you are willing to take? :D
ReplyDeleteHavard pikin. Which kind shallow comment be this?
DeleteYou are a very bad person for saying such a thing...all thru ur secondary or even primary school days how many times did u come 1st?and if u are a graduate what did u come out with?
DeletePoint of correction. He's nt an olodo. Someone with a successful biz can't be called an olodo.
DeleteJust because he no know who Sambo be. You call am Olodo. How many people know? You are the real Olodo, i swear down
DeleteLmaooo... Don't I just love it when them toothless dogs be barking at at shadows.. :D I'm still struggling with primary 6 o. Who dash me graduate.
DeleteThanks for the correction my darlin anon, the successful business is a fluke :D not a lot of people get that lucky though. So thumbs of to him for that.
Madam poster, you really don't want to be with someone that you cannot discuss intellectual issues with. I sure don't want to be with a man that watches only Africa Magic o, and thinks CNN is the name of an electronic store in Alaba. My question is why are you just noticing this flaws ?
Lmaooo... Don't I just love it when them toothless dogs be barking at at shadows.. :D I'm still struggling with primary 6 o. Who dash me graduate.
DeleteThanks for the correction my darlin anon, the successful business is a fluke :D not a lot of people get that lucky though. So thumbs of to him for that.
Madam poster, you really don't want to be with someone that you cannot discuss intellectual issues with. I sure don't want to be with a man that watches only Africa Magic o, and thinks CNN is the name of an electronic store in Alaba. My question is why are you just noticing this flaws ?
Very simple.fashi the guy.but kindly send me his details via Stella.am more than prepared to join him over there.intact this is the miracle I ve hoped for in ages.you can remain in Naija the blow grammar,one widowed prof. Wil locate you.shebi NA intellectual you want?
ReplyDeleteLmaoo. Funny comment. I Love
DeleteVery funny comment. Can't stop laughing
Deleteso now becouse u come on blogs to read about thinz n gossip u r more knowledgeable than him ehn? well no worry introduce him also to blogs so he'll be more knowledgeable n informed cos as i can see is blogging hoppn thats makn u knowledgeable.
ReplyDeleteSmh! Person wey get head no get Cap, and the one wey get cap no Get Head...Shikena!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't blame him! Even my sef waz asked for d governor of my state nd VP of nigeria in a bank interview once nd i did not know but i still got the job. I don't belief not knowing the VP of nigeria is a yardstick to see him as Olodo
ReplyDeleteThank you jare. I have friend whose a lawyer and I generally avoid jesting too much with him cos hour comes off as a know-it-all.
DeleteSh**! I just realised I don't know who the VP of Nigeria is. Dear poster, pls set ur priorities right.
DeleteI would deal with this by splitting the issues:
ReplyDelete1. Longdistance marriage
2. Unwitting Spouse
Firstly, about the long distance marriage, its not really advisable. You might eventually have to relocate if you want your marriage to work. Except u don't mind the distance and what comes with it. If u trust your man and yourslf 100, then it might work for sometime. It depends on you two really. But I tell u eventually, someone would hav to bend. In the meantime, just understand and communicate.
As for him not knowing the president/governor, he might just not be interested. Like me, I don't pay attention to current affairs, hated it since college. I am well educated (both home and broad) and very pleased to have attained my current level of educational achievement, but I don't know who the vice president is either - doesn't mean I'm dumb. I don't think that should be an issue. He is educated and there would def be other things he knows a great deal about but u know little/nothing about.
Business this business that u said, atleast e is hardworking. My dear wat u should be bothered about is the distance thing not his knowledge about current affairs.
On a deeper note, if at this stage u r still avn sleepless nights over issues..r u really ready? Think deeply and decide wisely.
Hehe so u read my epistle. Smh.
Hahahahaha! You no well. Me too follow read to the end. Chai!
DeleteSoon, SDK go begin cure crase for dis blog because if dem no hold dis anonymous epistle writer, e go soon tear cloth enter market
Delete#smh 4 myself cos I read it.... :(
DeleteThe man is busy making money to make you all comfortable, you de talk president of Nigeria name. The name de change dollars?
ReplyDelete..and it took you how many years of knowing him before getting to marriage stage to know this and decide?
Seriously, you never know where de pain you.
Even u bloglord?
DeletePls, cld we do away with selective reasoning? Why are u guys picking on the Vice president's line and missing the message? Of course, that was just an example the poster used.
I said this in a recent post! CLASS DIFFERENCE! In this case, its not age, but taste. Dear poster, pray hard, re-examine urslf and if u think u can't cope, pls take a walk. Its still morning.
Its not all about Lawyer gra gra or intelligence, but like minds. Couples shld share some similar views/opinions about some issues. Ur hubby wld definitely hv complex issues wt u. Except ur are ready to be extra tolerant, it won't work but only reduce ur self esteem.
What's the fun if couples can't gossip together or discuss happenings. It must be politics. To the ladies on this blogs tell me truthfully HOW MANY OF U DEVELOPPED INTEREST IN FOOTBALL COS OF HUBBY! Yes, u may not watch football matches, but u know one or two clubs or share jessy wt ur hubby. That's what this poster wants. Just a passing or feigned interest from her boo in things she likes.
U know what wld happen 2moro, poster may want to attend a conference that she may feel its good for her career and boo wldnt see the importance and say no! Let's be more sensitive abeg
@anon 4:46 In fact I cannot express the joy I got from reading your comment.
DeleteLike I do not get why they just chose to pick out that vice president's line.
Well I noticed a common trend on blogs, the first set of comments that comes up on a topic is usually what majority would want to follow, most people do not have a mind of their own.
I say God bless you for this comment, I have been thinking of how to compose something similar but I keep loosing my cool.
The thing is from the poster's write up her hubby is not even willing to learn.
I used to have zero interest in politics and current affairs, but when I met my hubby, Phd holder from University of wisconsin this guy is actually the smartest man I have ever come across and you can imagine the kind of friends he had.
When we are together with his friends and they start discussing current affairs I feel very very awkward cos I had no idea what they were talking about, hubby did not mind though even though he encouraged me to pay attention to happenings around me and the world. My dear nobody tell me oo, I buckled up sharply, now I can hold long debates about things happening anywhere in the world.
I'm not saying I know the names of all the ministers and presidents around but at least I no longer feel out of place when intelligent discourse are been held.
BTW hubby knows names of all the presidents,ministers and governors lmaooo
Gbamest
DeleteWell said, example of peeps on the follow follow issh: 1. Bloglord 2. Bloglord 3. Bloglord. The rest i can understand are quite dumb example Galore n co. Truth is, I don't expect much from her but when someone who sounds intelligent at times suddenly follows d trend cos she's too scared to say her mind, then e get as e be...EEE!!!
DeleteBLOGLORD has been cowered. Chai! The babe now follows the trend. A babe who stood our for having a mind of her own. See what little undergraduate blog visitors have done to this pretty soul? Anyways, if you can't beat them join them. Get well soon BLOGLORD darling. The Lord is your muscle. Hahahahahahahahahaha
DeleteOh pls cry us a dam,but u knew all of dis whyl u guys where dating.Am sure u hav gotten a side runs thatz screwing ur brains out nd u now want an out.Don't know my govnors name,so bite me.If u want an out u don't hav to look for silly excuses,y dnt u try nd know about his buznes too so u guys can discus it insted?It musnt be all about you,so u didn't know he was living in d US?Abeggi shut up,do ur marriage(that is if u really wanna marry hm)nd move ur butt over to join him.Pampered brat.
ReplyDeleteEhen?..she na him be d first ni? some no sabi president name sef...
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Madam u de Nija o. U r to move in with ur husband not d oda way round. And about him not knowin the vice president of nigeria, drz no big deal in that and I'm sure u know this simply bekz u reside in nigeria. He z not a school dropout, u said he graduated 4rm d university, watelse do u want? Na professor u wan marry?
ReplyDeleteU never ready to marry ooo. Madam 25yrs old I-too- know lawyer. Stay there U hear. U go dry-kpes for there.
ReplyDeleteDon't marry him,just run away and change your number
ReplyDeleteMadam "intelligent" lawyer, why not look for an "intelligent" lawyer like yourself and marry and leave this guy alone? I say so because i don't know how not knowing the name of Nigeria's vice president is such a big deal! And did i hear you say you love him??? Nah wao! And you complain of little things like that. Mtcheew.
ReplyDeleteU strike me like u gonna be a foolish wife. I pity u. Wait for a man who knows all current affairs till u r 40.
ReplyDeleteTo be honest...I see where you are coming from. I dated a hot guy, 6ft, handsome - cutest smile ever! He was educated up till Masters level. But all he was interested in was business...
ReplyDeleteHmmm...it wasn't easy o. We couldn't hold an intellectual conversation. I didn't see what we would be talking about few months down the line. So I had to end it.
About relocating, it's hard o. But if he's not ready to come back, you should be ready to move. It comes with the marriage package.
How you've kept it going till post-introduction, I no know o. But you gats decide whether you fit live with am till death do you part.
Wetin you dey look before during courtship? Abi you just see say naa Yankee man and you jump and accept his proposal..
ReplyDeleteMy advice is ask yourself if intellectual engagement/intelligent discussions with ur partner/spouse is paramount to you, if yes, then you might have to reconsider and if no, then you can make the sacrifice and accept him for what he is..
Then abt relocation, didn't think you were going to join him at some point in ur Married life or not..
I don't think you even know what distance does to Marriage this days, even if he sets up a biz in Nigeria..
If he is in the US and lonely, you dnt think he will start cheating or even you will crave for affection of a man when he is not always with you..
My advice, you can only create a bonding at beginning of marriage when it's really fresh not when it's old.. Poster are you really really ready for Marriage at 25yrs? It is a lifetym journey and if you rush in, you rush out early. So look well before you leap..
My dear, I don't think you are matured enough to marry. You need to go for marriage counselling.you have to learn about compromise and tolerance in marriage. You can't get everything you want in one man. You have to set your priorities. Even you might not be everything your man wants but he's ready to compromise so....make a decision fast
ReplyDeleteYou guys should stop insulting the lady. Diff tales for diff folks. My dear, I have been in your shoe b4 so I know what u are talking about. I'm a lawyer too and once dated a lawyer. When we broke up, I met this business guy who really loved me but I had same issue with him. He wasn't so intelligent except for business things. But the moment line is, it seem u don't really love this guy, if u really do, u will look beyound all his flaws and look for ways to tune him to your thirst as long as he's willing to learn. I will advice you try and be patient with him, learn to love him, and correct him. The best thin that can happen to a lady is to find a man who truly loves her. Also think of your happiness, if u can search within, and u know that if you give this guy the chance, you can be happy with him, then stay with him. Not so many good men out there, so if u find a good one, stay. Don't be distracted with the young lawyers that might be flocking round you now. Pray about him also. What should be paramount to you is a man that you guys will grow old together in happiness. Lastly be ready to leave ur job and relocate. Who knows, u might find a better place when u get to the states.
ReplyDeleteI can relate with you a 100percent.I dated this guy for 4years,God I loved him,I really did.Not to blow my trumpet but I have a very high IQ,very intelligent.I graduated with a first class.I love to read and know about everything.I love intelligent convo's like crazy.As fate had it,this guy wasn't like me and I was ready to live with that.We could only flow on three topics-sex,family and gossip about our mutual friends.We never really had intelligent convo's and it frustrated me but still I overlooked hs flaws because of love.Eventually,he proposed and that's when I knew love just wasn't enough.Don't be decieved,love is not the most important ingredient in marriage anymore,respect is.Respect transforms into love.I had no regard whatsoever of hs opinions,they weren't just intelligent to me and I saw no reason to adopt or abide by them and so disrepect started to set in.I was shy to hang out with him around friends and family cuz he just couldn't flow enough in convo's and every convo with my family ended up with them giving themselves side glances which embrsd the shit outta me.Lord will bear me witness,I tried to teach him,I bought journals to make him read,I was patient,I persisted,I encouraged,I prayed but no show.So I took a stroll and now,I have no regret whatsoever.Try teaching your man and make sure hs willing to learn.If my ex was just a little willing to learn,I wld have stayed.Its very hard marrying an unintelligent man as a young knowledgeable woman,u start to disregard hs opinions or advise,then comes disrespect,resentment sets in,then hatred.Don't hurt yourself but don't back out without a fight. As for relocating to be with your man,marriage is about making sacrifices and sacrifices have to be felt.I know it'll be hard,but if your as intelligent as u say you are,finding another job in yankee won't be hard.Just make sure your man has a stable source of income and that it is enough to take care of you two till you find your footing......SHALOM
ReplyDeleteYou've made so much sense...really, so much.
DeleteYou are not serious one bit! Why were u so kin on changing him? Since u loved him you should ignored his flaws and ask God to help u you live and accept the things you can't change! People can be selfish, always wanting their partners to change rather than themselves! #shalom nkegi kwa#
DeleteMG.............
You have high IQ and u never manufacture pencil for nigeria,while oyibo de use there own produce thing,una de use una own brain discriminate others,ndi uburu okpo
DeleteNne Shalom to you too, may peace never be far from you. I can't even add to this comment of yours jare.
DeleteKisses :* no mind all this people that do not mind dating the starkest of illiterates so long he has money, they will now claim love covers all flaws. Mschewwwww .. Osiso
I don't think you love him, if you do this won't be an issue.
ReplyDeleteEveryone has that one thing they like in their partner, for u its intelligence which ur present guy lacks, no matter how hard u try u guys won't just work cos d most important thin to u is lacking in him.
And again do u even know if a better job awaits u in d US? That's a place that 80% of Nigerians are dreaming to migrate to. Dey there make pant dey wear you.
When I was abroad,i didn't even knw who d vice president was cos I wasn't jst interested in Nija politics until I came back home n startd hearing d name. Did I mention I'm very learned with proper educational background.
Dear poster, u don't love this man. To prevent future disaster, I'd advice u to kindly walk out of his life. Thanks
*that_Edo_babe
Pls help me beg her to drop his number b4 she walks out. Thank u.
DeleteYeye dey smell. Madam i-too-know, leave d man n look for professor. Oniiranu, send his number to me let me do justice to him.
ReplyDeletei dont even know d name of my governor, im not sure of d name of d vp but i think its sambo something and i have a bsc in economics and an msc in finance. so madam u do not have a problem!
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ReplyDeleteI do not think you love this man, if u do this won't be an issue.
Everyone has that attribute which his/her partner must posses. For u its intelligence which is obviously lacking in ur man and I categorically say to u that not matter how hard u try,its not gonna work.
Do u even know if a better job awaits u in the US? That's a place where 70% of Nigerians wld give anything to live in.Dey dere make pant dey wear u.
As for not knowing d VP's name, I was also guilty until I returned Naija, simply because I wasn't interested in our politics. Did I mention that I'm very intellectual with solid educational background.
To avert the disaster ahead awaiting you miss Lawyer, kindly walk of of this innocent man's Life. Thanks!
*that_Edo_babe!
ReplyDeleteI do not think you love this man, if u do this won't be an issue.
Everyone has that attribute which his/her partner must posses. For u its intelligence which is obviously lacking in ur man and I categorically say to u that not matter how hard u try,its not gonna work.
Do u even know if a better job awaits u in the US? That's a place where 70% of Nigerians wld give anything to live in.Dey dere make pant dey wear u.
As for not knowing d VP's name, I was also guilty until I returned Naija, simply because I wasn't interested in our politics. Did I mention that I'm very intellectual with solid educational background.
To avert the disaster ahead awaiting you miss Lawyer, kindly walk of of this innocent man's Life. Thanks!
*that_Edo_babe!
Did you guys not talk about where you will leave when you were getting serious?
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ReplyDeleteI do not think you love this man, if u do this won't be an issue.
Everyone has that attribute which his/her partner must posses. For u its intelligence which is obviously lacking in ur man and I categorically say to u that not matter how hard u try,its not gonna work.
Do u even know if a better job awaits u in the US? That's a place where 70% of Nigerians wld give anything to live in.Dey dere make pant dey wear u.
As for not knowing d VP's name, I was also guilty until I returned Naija, simply because I wasn't interested in our politics. Did I mention that I'm very intellectual with solid educational background.
To avert the disaster ahead awaiting you miss Lawyer, kindly walk of of this innocent man's Life. Thanks!
*that_Edo_babe!
Him not knowin simple tins doesn't mean he's dumb or stupid. He doesn't knw cos he has no interest in dem. Jst ask urself y u love him; is he living a lie? I was born nd bred in a state in naija, sch til uni, nysc in d same state, I don't knw who d vice gorvernor is. I don't knw d speaker or senate president of naija either. Its all abt his interests whc u shld knw by now.
ReplyDeleteDon't dump him cos he doesn't knw irrelevant tins cos knwin who d VP is doesn't change his or ur life
I can relate totally to this post. Don't mind all these shallow minded beings insulting your opinion here. See, I used to know this guy, he dropped out of school but is doing very well in business. We never had sex, infact, we just were friends. Could you believe that if I make any useful suggestion about this guy's business, he will go like 'oh, so because I'm an illiterate, you want to be telling what to do'?. My dear, that was when I knew that this one is a no-go area. I love my unborn children, money or no money, I would want them to be intelligent and smart.
ReplyDeleteBottom line, the guy proposed and I politely turned him down.
My problem with you is that you have led this ur man on for so long. Please to avoid stories that touch, a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.
Ps: Love Is Not Enough In Marriage
Mine has a high IQ but emotions/feelings = almost invisible. Will u like to trade places with me? Cos I wil trade without blinking.
ReplyDeleteHit me up if interested.
-babe
My dear a lot of divorced people married people they once loved.
ReplyDeleteLove is not enough. You must have a lot in common with your spouse and be able to accommodate the his flaws before the issue of sacrifice comes into play. Every one is diff. One persons pet peave is another's delight. The things that are a no no to u will continue to be even after marriage. Some pple can have an empty marriage as long as there is money, they are ok. Some will value a very tight and close relationship with their spouses over financial comfort. Diff strokes.
What type of business is he doing in America. Some so called biz men in the US are jack of all trades and master of nada. I hope he's not a guy man forming biz man for u. A lot of Naija men claiming biz men in America, all na wash. Does he have a verifiable source of income?
Make sure of all that if not my dear that will be a double whammy for u. If possible take a LOA from ur job when u go to America so that if it's not going well u go back to ur job and ur life in Naija.
Happened to my cousin, 4 yrs and 2 kids later, she realised she had no biz being girlfriend to her hubby let alone wife. If ur gut tell u no my dear then it's a big NO regardless of how anyone tries to rationalize it for you. If u r having sleepless nites and no peace within you then check it well. Or better still postpone the date till u r sure. Better not to go in at all and go in and come out. A lot of ladies ( guys) too get soo carried away with the idea of living in America. After u get to the America na then what? Please pray seriously ooo. Marriage is difficult, anyone that tells u otherwise is deceiving u. Good luck.
Excuse my typos mbok.
Rubbish post. For your information, Prince Charles of England doesn't listen to any news or read newspapers. What does that make him, madam lawyer?
ReplyDeleteYou don't love the dude my dear, just move on. Cos if u really do, all these won't matter.
ReplyDeleteHmmm. The part abt not being able to talk to him I feel is not insurmountable. Hubby is an engr & wen he tries to talk to be able what he does, it goes over my head. I have stopped pretending I understand what d hell he's talking abt, & he skates over d details wen he's telling me abt work. I am in public health & policy, neither field he understands. So yeah, I tell me only d minimal things so as not to confuse him. I like to talk abt sexism, racism, & homosexuality (am an advocate of all 3). While he recognises d issues, he is not passionate abt these & often feels I take things too serious. So, we don't talk abt these much either. However, we still manage to find a common ground - our family, groaning abt Nigeria, money, ambitions, etc. what am saying is, look for things u both have interest in & talk abt those. Itz romantic to think ur partner is d person u talk abt everything with but itz not realistic. U guys r not clones, so there is nothing d exact same things catch ur attention. As for a relocation business, am sorry but I don't hve good news. No matter what u chose to do - relocate or stay - this is going to be a torn on u guy's flesh for a long time. Or maybe am just speaking for my own marriage. A man can compile a woman to move to be with him, but he can't make her like living there with him. I had have lived in Lagos for 4 years, I still hate it with all my being. Now, whenever I think abt going back to live in Lagos, I wish I had never concided to hubby's decision for me to live my original base & relocate to be with him.
ReplyDeleteepistle writer, my new favourite. u definitely understand ur calling
ReplyDeleteAll this foolish talk about being a lawyer! Every man MUST be king in his home. If he doesn't know and u can't correct him without sounding like a sabi-sabi then don't. Inshort sef if he. Isn't aggressive about correction and u don't do it with superiority complex then maybe you won't have an issue. Truth is being submissive covers a whole lot my dear. I'm not married sha so over to married peeps mbok
ReplyDeleteA woman blowing trumpet will sing baritone. 95% of female judges I know are divorced, babe am sure u won't listen to all this feminine comments bcos being a lawyer don enter ur head. Gentleman of the bar. I can't even remember when last I heard about vp Sambo in the news
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I'm also battling relocation like you. I just keep praying and believing God but I Know my husband -to-be is American so he can't relocate. E no easy to leave my family in naija, I will miss them. Please teach ur man, introduce him to business magazines depending on his line of business and maybe wider searches of information on the Internet. Think hard, he may be ur soul mate...if he listens and loves you. Go for it!
ReplyDeleteBattling ke? Babe make we exchange since ure still battling. Go and be with ur hubby in America. Your mother left her family and married ur dad...see, look on the brighter side. Dad and mom would have access to the best health care and get to stay with you when they come around, no hotel bills! And ur kids, a sound educational system....Be wise and move. SDK sef dey Germany. lol
DeleteLol @sdk sef dey Germany...This blog na number 1. chai
DeleteWho is the Vice President? I live in France and I haven't the vaguest idea. Didn't even know we have one.
ReplyDeletePlease guys, enough with the insults on the poster. We all have what tickle our fancy; hers is intelligent conversation.
ReplyDeleteBabe, please don't feel there's something wrong with your predilection; the only thing I'll say is why are you paying attention to this after introduction had been done?
I thought courtship was meant to sort this out?
Pls can I have his contact? I want to help you educate him properly.
ReplyDeleteSince the days of my grandfather men have been marrying much more dull women who take pride in no knowing the embarrassment they cause their husbands. You are even lucky he knows how to calculate his money and business things. Because you are just a common Lawyer in this unfortunate country called Nigeria who is even lucky to have found a man wanting marriage, the name of the Vice-President is now your problem. Better ask ministers of God what forms more of the prayer requests from their members-'God please give me a man I can call my own'. Better be grateful for what you have.
ReplyDeleteYour Husband to be is illiterate and dont want you to know until you relocate to the USA abd see that "water and Gogoro has the same colour, but does different work", so be careful, if u are ready to marry him for who he is, go ahead, but if u want to marry an educated man, now is the day to take your decision.
ReplyDeleteFoolish Linda eze loves Billie Jean.....no wonder I always knew you were a half baked illiterate......with all your mumu post......
ReplyDeleteAre u stupid?? I live in the US too and i dont know who the VP is either, and i'm a doctor! U are a dunce. And if u're so pressed about not moving to be with ur hubby, then stay ur ass in Naija and get married to someone there. Finish. Simple minded somebody.
ReplyDeleteI mow know some of you people who come to this blog are just plain stupid, uncouth and don't consult their brains before talking......so you people do not know that when two people cannot communicates the same intellectual level it's a problem? And some of you idiots are here insulting her as if marriage and moving abroad is the ultimate in life.....if u have nothing usefull to say to someone then shut your smelly mouths cos what is a problem to you might not be a problem to the other person,,,,,enough of all this agberoish kind of responses we see daily on this blog......if you have nothing meaningful to say then shut your freaking mouths...
ReplyDeleteJust see yourself!!!!! Writing rubbish ! You dey here dey curse people. I will unleash nnenna on you for some cool calm bashing. My own na gra gra. Nnenna's own will change your stinking attitude. Onuku broadway.
DeleteAbeg this nnenna? Na the name of animal place or thing? The thing carry fire for head?
DeleteMy friend shut the fuck up and sit yo dumb ass down. Abeg leave this anon call your nnenna 'god' for me, you go know say where nnenna crase end na there some people own start.
Nnenna ko, so make we hide?
Mscheww Association of idiots!!!
People been cursing the poster out, you did not see the need to correct them just because their opinion tallies with yours abi? Asswipe!!!
Voltron. Don't call Julit names ok?
DeleteSisi lawyer u no reali knw ursef if u do u no go write this letter gv Stella. Pple dey pray for husband u c the one wen wan marry u na VP cme be the issue. I repeat..u no knw ursef @ all
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I truly undastand hw u feel. Intelligence matters a lot to me. I was dated dis guy dat wasn't as intelligent as I am, his command of english ÈŠ̝̊̅Úª nt even sound. My dear, I alwaz try to avoid us hangin out wit my friends cos I no he'l definitly embarass me. I did try to help him change by alwaz correctin him in a lovin way bt he just didn't want to learn/change. I even bot some books but to no avail. I sat myself down n askd myself if I'll b able to leave wit such person all d rest of my life. Today we r no more. I'm happily married to my kind of man and suffice u to say dat I luv my hubby to bits. Nancy
ReplyDeleteBut Nancy, you must appreciate the irony. If you speak the way you write, how could he take your corrections to heart? Oyinbo ti je palasa iya sha. Odiegwu.
DeleteLmao...nancy ur typos are like dat of a persin who never saw d four wall of secondary school,talk more of uni...lolz...*hands her BRIGHTER GRAMMER*
DeleteYou typed this shit and complained about "his command of english"?
DeleteNancy I swear you need to be arrested for murder.
DeleteMy dear sister, don't mind all this people ranting here, its not that their relationship too is perfect, their problem is not urs so u understands how it feels!
ReplyDeleteAm a man, am a very social, current and intelligent person dat loves talking and chatting politics + football, my ex gf was very caring, rich, kind hearted and nice but don't know all those, it became frustrating that we hardly discuss, wenever I want to enjoy talk I go to ladies who are like minds!
To cut it short, I broke up with her coz if we marry, it won't last!
D lady am currently dating now has all the qualities the ex has + dose that I need and we'r getting married soonest!
Look, u knw wat u want, there are many guys who'll has the qualities he has + urs so its ur choice to decide weather to stay with him or leave him!
Look out for the most important features u saw in him dat made u accept him in d first place if they are still there u can go ahead, but don't expect he'll change later
But if u think u don't like his way leave him now b4 its too late, forget abt him staying abroad or rich, there's a huge diff btw wealth and happiness, u can actually do what he can do 4 u for urself if u work hard!
And d other one, if u'll agree to go ahead with the marriage, u'l have to go stay with him except u have hidden agenda to stay back
I no even sabi the president of Nigeria name. Na today sef I come ask.
ReplyDeleteCome on people.. we all have our standards.. what we can live with and what we cant leave with... i know where shez coming from.. you cant go to a gathering with your friends and their boyfriends and be comfy, simply because you are scared of what your husband will say since he's virtually clueless about most things..
ReplyDeleteWhy did you have to wait this long before u noticed all dese... have you been givin him benefit of doubt all along?
Well, left to me.. nothing is ever late.. its not too late to change your destiny ma'am
If you have to go out to have convos that are supposed to be with your spouse, then there'll def be a problem later on.
He might be a good guy and myt have done soo many things for u.. buh if u dnt imagine urself spending evryday of ur life wiv a clueless man.. take a bow and walk away before its eventually tooo late
Best comment sooo far......once dated a guy whose english was poor but stayed becos he was a nice guy n had money...wen he proposed...omo I turned him down ooo...my friends cldnt understand why...truth be told, I cldnt see him hangin out with all my sister's hubbys or my friend's hubbys without dem laffin @ me...chei
DeleteHahahhah stella ooooo.......this ur blog will cure I high bp....I swear.....she neva won marry,see charge and bail lawyer 4 naija oo,how do u earn here madam sabi sabi? Idiot,u re ungrateful to God...pls send me His address abeg.and wait for chris okotie or wole soyinka to come marry u!
ReplyDeleteU guys shld leave dis girl alone jor...after all guys do it to us ladies all d time...I know men who won't marry a woman becos she is still job hunting/ jobless ....I know men who won't marry woman becos of 3rd class results.......most men won't marry a woman if her education level isn't high....so y shld there be a problem....my dear, if u want an intelligent man, n dis present one isn't, den move one.......if u want smone 2 challenge u mentally n physically and u just realized dis one isn't meetin up...move on now...Gbam
ReplyDeleteGbamest!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteJulit u don talk am finish
ReplyDeletePoster u need to b rushed to a psychiatric home cos u ar insane.What concerns dat man with d name of Nigerians' VP, may be he's just apolitical. Most important thing is for him to have fear of God, that's d ephemeral thing in marriage. If u ar saying he doesn't know his creator then it's a different case and what STUPID panel ar u planning to set up in d man's house dat 'll lead to discussing of issues as u said, just b careful cos pple liku u are d architect of their own failures.BE WISE...u said u ar a lawyer u need to work wit wisdom.
ReplyDeleteAbeg, abeg all those wey dey yarn trash 4 Linda Eze head e don do. Shuu? @Anon 2:16pm, truth b told everybody must not go 2 school and she dropped not bcos she wantz 2 but her parentz cannot afford. She 4 don go prostitue abi commit suicide? Tell me Bill Gate, Genny, Mercy Johnson dem na graduate? Most of our graduatez where dem dey? Labour Market! And Linda no be full time house wive if u remember her commentz weller u 4 remember say she dey do business. So abeggy #InMercyJohnsonzVoice# E do! E do! 2 d poster, y did u take him along all dyz yl or are u just noticing this? If u know u dont luv him enuf 2 marry him again then quit. Dat should not b an excuse. All d very best dearie! *Ify Ndukaife*
ReplyDeleteBlame it on Sambo. The man is too dull, even me no know his name.
ReplyDeleteOnce you know Atiku......Ayefele, 1856.
I'm sure he's just not interested in such, that does not make him a dumb person, moreover what has the VP of Nigeria done for Nigerians ever since he assumed that position to warrant knowing him self? if u had asked him who d president of America is and he's blabbing now, i for say na wetin
ReplyDeletemoreover d man can even think they have changed naijas VP and thats why u r asking, wharraboutdat?
better hold ur man and teach him right or let go and another lawyer like you wl grab him!
HYBunny
@ anon 6:38 PM,you that is educated,where has it taken you???? @ anon 2:16PM,sorry to disappoint you but am not a house wife.btw, We are recruiting new staffs,don't mind employing you guys
ReplyDeleteLinda abeg Mk I send my cv. U never know where will come from
DeleteAbeg madam eze when is the recruition starting?lemme tenter my cv,me I need job like this very second.@least to carry pay skool fees for my younger once
DeleteWhy are you there then?
ReplyDeleteWhy are you guys failing to read properly? She said he doesnt know much about things happening around him and then went ahead to give an example..n the example is just a part of his numerous cluelessness.. stop holding onto it like that's her only problem... the moment you cant read and interprete a simple write-up properly, you'll have issues giving productive advices.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless and increase your IQ.
ReplyDeleteLinda abeg Mk I send u my cv, I never know where help will come from
ReplyDeleteI have a brilliant lawyer younger sister who married a guy who was way below her intellectually. They dated for 7 years before marrying. We all warned her throughout her dating. Much older than her, we saw all the danger signals. But she would not listen. Love, she felt, would conquer all. They moved to the U.K. He was a misfit. Here's our family- professors and doctors as siblings and in laws. Her own husband- couldn't hold a single decent intellectual conversation in a family setting. All he knew was buying and selling-business,business. we all tried to accommodate him, tried to be nice. But on the home front, she started disrespecting him. The marriage broke up after 8 years. Two kids. Scars, bitterness, regrets. We who were older saw it all coming. She remarried. But the scars will forever be. She's got 2 husbands counting. And a whole load of other issues. You need to examine why you want to get married. its as if you just want to marry- but your instinct tells you its not quite right. Its not just about his not knowing the VP of Nigeria, its a fundamental intellectual disconnect that you both have. Why would you feel comfortable with him being in the U.S and you staying on in Nigeria and yet you are married?? You've got a red alert for sure. Follow your God given instinct. Push the wedding further and give yourself more time to consider. I'm advising you as I would my daughter. I have been married for 27 years. But if you ask me, it doesn't look too good.Good luck.
ReplyDeleteGurl, i know wat you mean. My ex boyfriend could not hold an intelligent conversation. The straw that broke d camels's back was the fact that he didn't know wat a volcano is. Really? In 2013. We live in the states. Imagine that, i took a walk
ReplyDeleteThis girl is very stupid. He doesn't know anything and he graduated and serve? "Am a lawyer, intellectual discusss and all d shit...If I was the guy and I get to read this even on the wedding eve I'd definately call off the wedding. Seriously you don't deserv him. What dirty law job are you doing self? This ego with lawyers really pixx me off. Imagine! Pls let the guy be and look for who you desrve (a charge and bail lawyer who jumps fromone okada to the other and KNOWS EVERYTHING. Whould have love to see what you look like. Ashiere, omo ale jatijati. Kunle
ReplyDeletePoster pls leave that guy ASAP! Stop second guessing. You seriously don't need a guy who can barely communicate. Been there and i understand. Mine was kind enough to say 'eternity is too short' lol...when i queried, he challenged me saying "are you saying the guy who sang the song wrong?" apparently my dear boo was churning out lyrics of his fav songs to me. I sha escaped 440 after i realized he wasn't willing to learn...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteLike seriously ow can dis be a criteria for u not wanting to marry a man u say loves n cares bout U??? Dats a dumb excuse I must say. N if u nor wan marry, Abeg rest. Career woman my foot!
ReplyDeleteMadam lawyer do u the know the name of washington DC gov
ReplyDeletei like your reply girl,
ReplyDeletei like your reply girl,
ReplyDeleteToo many bitter and disgruntled commenters. Rather dan bashing her to bits, kindly school her were she needs to learn. Thats correcting in luv. As for the poster, rembr you dont burn a soiled garment, u wash it. Trust me, a too smart man in ur life will be ur biggest unmaking. All u nid is a man to complement ur strength nd weaknesses. If u hv 90% of an attribute, all u nid is jst 10% from ur spouse to make u perfect. Anytin more will be detrimental. Besides, if he wz dat much of a coward, he wuldnt be a successful int'l bizman. Love isnt void of differences; but u must be ready to overlook ur numerous weaknesses and focus on dat little strength u have in common to make it work. gdluck
ReplyDeleteBusiness this and business that. 95% 419ner. Give yourself brain. he NEEDS you to come to America to feed him, and clothe him with your legitimate job prospects. Please ask more questions about this guy and go and visit for yourself. I see the danger signs. I dey live america oooo.
ReplyDelete. You cant practice in the U.S. and you cant get a job as a lawyer. You will have to go to school over again. Is your husband to be willing to foot the bill?.Or hes just asking you to come over so that you can join in the menial jobs to keep the home running. You need to visit him in the U.S and see how it will all work out for you. Push that wedding away first and give yourself time to examine issues. You need it.
ReplyDeleteThe point is that she sounds hella petty! I don't think its a matter of people only choosing to see the vice-president part, but the way she made it the biggest deal and said it like it was the guy's biggest intellectual flaw. Me i don't know the VP or governors of Nigeria either and i'm a medical student in the US. That part stuck out cos it's just too silly of her to use that as a yardstick to discredit the guy. He may be unintelligent, but her example was stupid. Does she know who the mayor of New Jersey is?? Governor nko? Abeg bring up better, and worthy flaws to analyze biko.
ReplyDeleteBTW with the way she's tooting her own "brainy" horns....i am a bit surprised with her write-up.
Nekwanu ndi "intelligent". "I was dated....". Chei! U people won't kill me on this blog. U and madam charge and bail lawyer forming highly intellectual looking for nerds. O di kwa well with u people.
ReplyDeleteOsi na gini?? Lawyer ko !!
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