This picture may look ordinary to you but this moment is priceless.
It is 'just a pic' of Peter Okoye carrying his little daughter,so whats the big deal?
Here is the reason i am making a big deal out of this picture!
Most men do not even know what their children smell like or feel like or even look like!.....yes!
Most men go out in the morning when their kids are asleep and come back when they have gone to bed.
The little time they have to spend with family,they spend it hanging out with friends or even stay at home watching TV with the kids sent off to their rooms because they are loud and noisy.
Some men have no time made out to see their kids and from the hospital where wifey birthed that child the next time they see that child,she/he is already saying ''daddy welcome home''.
Men,no matter how busy you are,please make out time to know your kids..I am sure Peter knows how to wear his daughter her diapers..do you?
Have you ever taken out time to sit down with your child and watch them eat?or feed them?teach them how to hold their cutlery?
Abeg the list is endless but the most important thing is that if this post pinches you,then please find time to grow with your child,do not leave it to the wife alone because if i have to tell you the truth,i would say that missing out on bringing up your child is the worst thing you can ever do to yourself....its like using your own money to buy a Dane gun and using it to shoot off your toes and fingers!
Man know your child.....you will be their best Friend when they need someone to talk to later!
The bonding is priceless!
The bond between a father and a child is precious!
ReplyDeleteWhere ve u been Mr Asemota. I ve missed u. Welcum back. My regards 2 ur new baby. #hugs.
DeleteI give it 2 most young dads dese day they r extremely hands on wit deir kids. Am sure upbringing has a role in this n d changing society. But sum r still wot Hausa's call "dutsa" exactly Stella's description n its a pity.
DeleteIs it really? good to know.
DeleteMost men do bond with their kids...including mine.
DeleteI have a Christian blog, click on my name please.
Hmmm Stella. A staff of ours just lost his 6year old son in the most heart drenching manner yet.
Delete......He was watching TV with his father and soon after, his mom decided to go to the salon. Then the boy wanted to go with her but she asked him to stay home with daddy instead.
.......This happened at about 6pm. At 6:15 someone rushed in to alert his poor dad that his son had fallen into a freshly dug pit by their house. It was meant to be a dry pit but for rain, water had stored up in the well.
.... He rushed out and found that someone had already dived in to bring d boy out, CPR was done but it was too late...the boy died Stella.
....They found his slippers by the well, which indicated that perhaps d boy consciously fell in it. I think the person in charge of that pit should have concealed it to avoid accidents like this.
...His distraught father carried him, then he handed him over to one of the clerics who had prayed and prayed over the child for revival.. and his dad said ' go and bury him' oh am so sad.
... @6;00pm he was still talking to his son, 15minutes after he carried his DEAD body!! Gosh. I am pained because this is his second child that will die. They have a 2yr old with a hole in his heart..then this one died, and the eldest son..now leaving them 2sons.
This man is a very strong believer of God...our most loyal staff of nearly 18years. but we can't question God. I was shocked when this man turned up for work today...we asked him why, he said he couldn't handle the crowd coming to sympathise with him. that he would rather leave the house to take a breather. He wept and wept profusely. Kaiii
Am sorry this post is not relative. But seeing the above pics made me sad for this man. It is painful to lose a child. I dont wish it on my enemy. May non of u lose your child to death IJN. Sorry for my long story.
That man is a careless father and must ve been carried away by his TV. When a 6 year old boy leaves ur sight for more than 5mins u shld check on them already.
DeleteDid the boy walk in2 the pit consciously? Cos i read they Found his slippers by the pit! Did he commit suicide?? Nawa ooo. May God give his parent the heart 2 bear this lose.
DeleteMy husband bonds well with ma kids! Sometimes me sef de jealous.*side-eyes* He has his "me-and-my-kids-time."
ReplyDeleteI applaud him, no be say.....e de try!
Cute pic! See as the diapers let the baby yansh big. Kikiki
Lol@ diapers
DeleteIts so true that most men don't, I guess that's why I love my dad(rip) to tiniest bits. He knows my every mood swing, he knows what I want to say before I say it and he totally understands lots of things my mum doesn't.......even as a teenager, d 1st day I mensurated, I told him when he got back before he told my mum....we were so close as far as I can remember.
Lol@ diapers
DeleteIts so true that most men don't, I guess that's why I love my dad(rip) to tiniest bits. He knows my every mood swing, he knows what I want to say before I say it and he totally understands lots of things my mum doesn't.......even as a teenager, d 1st day I mensurated, I told him when he got back before he told my mum....we were so close as far as I can remember.
Just had my baby 4days ago and changed her diapers just once. Hubby has been on full daddy duties while I get my energy back. Bonding with your child/children is priceless. @ Mrs D, how body :)
Delete@MJ, I'm fine o, can't wait to have my own
DeleteHws ur new bundle of joy? Don't start looking sexy quick o b4 u go "born again" lol
@MJ, I'm fine o, can't wait to have my own
DeleteHws ur new bundle of joy? Don't start looking sexy quick o b4 u go "born again" lol
Stella u r simply d best
ReplyDeleteI agree! Some men don't relate with their kids at all. They just leave everything to the wife because they feel their sole job is to provide and that is it. Some men have never changed their child's diaper or even bathed their kids. Some find it hard to even carry their babies. Those are the ones i'll never understand! My hubby has never changed any of our kids diapers or bathed any of them, but he feeds them, helps with their homework and plays with them to distract them sometimes. He also takes them out for some 'daddy-time', and when he is in town, he always takes our son to the barbers when his hair is due for trimming. At least he dey try sha, but i wish He'll bathe one of them one day. I'll make him bathe the new baby when she's born. Loolz!
ReplyDeleteAwwwwww....I love this....Igbo men don't joke with their family....Lola is so lucky!
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DeleteTrue talk ada nne
Ihe I kwuru be eziokwu
@Linda E. Yeah your right.. Igbo men don't joke with their family. So caring...
DeleteAnd this so so true. An igbo man can be anything but he never jokes with his kids.......
DeleteAnd this so so true. An igbo man can be anything but he never jokes with his kids.......
Delete@Linda,so so True,My Dad does not joke with any of us.
DeleteThe day I fainted,I woke up to see the man crying oo.
Even with me being married and preggy now,he calls everytime to know how am doing,sotey dear husband sef dey jealous.
God bless him for me and other FATHERS out there!
Rubbish! I am igbo and our father abandoned us to marry a prostitute.
DeleteSo true, umu Nwoke IGbo na agbali Biko, u need to see where my hubby is carrying our 2months old baby, singing for her and d way she sleeps off in his arms, my mum don laff tire, my mum said she has not seen dis type of fathers love for his child before.
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DeleteTrue talk SDK. My hussy get A 1 in taking care of his kids....
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Hmmm well said stella. I dont tink my dad changed my diapers but myself and my silbings had quality with my dad while growing up. Even now that am all grown I still have quality time with my dad. The bond btw us is too strong.
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Hahahahaha! SDK you are OBVIOUSLY making a big deal out of it. You can say "Some men don't..." and not "Most men don't...". All these accusations are probably based on what you've observed and heard, but sorry, you're wrong about "Most men". You make it sound like over 70% of men are heartless and uncaring beings. That's where you're wrong. Increase the perimeter of your research next time. Be Blessed.
ReplyDeleteThis is example of a good daddy and note this the children always love them as they grow,they bond well with the daddy.
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ReplyDeleteAunty SDK of Life............................Don't worry Reuben Abati's Position is awaiting you come 2015.
Lolz.
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ReplyDeleteSom men are even scared of carrying babies.
I av dis friend wu wld say he is scared,
Dat d baby is too small n tender
If his neibo ask him to watch after her baby, e wld say plz just place d baby on the bed.
And wen d baby crys, e wld pat d baby's tummy to comfort d baby! #SMH
Tao omo ole!
Hahahahahaha Pink shell am also guilty,but i know if i have mine i will learn,i love kids so much, talkless of mine.
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ReplyDeletewhich would you prefer.............................choose wisely, remember you will know your CHILD.
True talk SDK. My hubby is the best when it comes to bonding with our baby.
ReplyDeleteYes oh, very correct stella
ReplyDeleteGreat topic. I just got back from the Gym and my husband watched our 4month baby d whole time. Got me thinking about my dad . Wish nigerian men would stay more at home n spend time with their kids .
ReplyDeleteYou're very right Stella, a lot of men especially nigerian men don't know their children. From the child's favorite food, to likes and dislikes and even the class they r in school; some men have absolutely no idea. They believe it all starts and ends with bringing home the bacon. During the absence of their wives is when their shortcomings really show; let's hope they take a que from this.
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Very ture Stella. This is the most cause of the moral decadence in our society today. Our children are being trained by our television sets and house helps.
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Yes o. Nothing like bonding with ones child. It's priceless!
ReplyDeleteI'm greatful to God my hubby does all you mentioned and many more...
To the extent that when my small baby gets too restless, I just call daddy on phone and he soothes her by singing for her over the phone and she calms down immidiately...it works like magic, you need to see my baby giggling and trying to sing along with her daddy. It's always a wonderful moment, #priceless
SDK, this Peter's pix is small compared to the ones I have capturing hubby and our baby sharing different moments together, I always snap them, some whithout him knowing. I have one of him innocently backing the baby...and I no sabi back baby o,LOL
Fathers please spend quality time with your kids o, it helps to reduce high blood pressure.
Aww, my heart is jumping with love and I can't wait to have mine and snap away "my baby n husband"......
DeleteGod bless ur family
Awwww, I feel so bad right now.
DeleteI will try to be a better dad and husband.
See how a guy like me is being so responsible to the extent his wife is gushing out about him on a blog like this. Genny baby your husband has inspired me. I promise to change, so help me God, Amen.
Jeeeez! I'm humbled. I'm not a bad dad just that I'm always impatient with kids. I love my kids mind you.
DeleteI feel so horrible after reading your comment. I'm so changing my ways from today onwards. God bless your hubby.
Lucky you dear. I tap in2 ur blessing.
DeleteThanks Dear Mrs D, God bless your family too. I wish us safe delivery in Jesus name, Amen.
Delete*Lovestruck** Awwww_infact I tap into this ur blessing! @Genny
DeleteTrue talk am so guilty of that
ReplyDeleteHhmmmmm food for thought Stella..
ReplyDeletestella i just called my wife to tell her to wait up for me with the kids...i want to put them to bed........this post really made me feel bad and touched me so bad...i always hang out with my guys after work and i get home when everyone has slept and leave again before they wake up...hmmmmm
ReplyDeleteAwwww, this brought a tear to my eye. Carry go and please keep it up daddy. :)
DeleteAww..I just smiled when I read ur comment:-)
Deleteplease change.
DeleteUp sdk! D only blogger dat turns her blof into school. Am guilty as well but from today I don change.and my wife is singing praises about ur blog cause she is the one tat sent me the link.
DeleteThis moment is indeed priceless....I hope my husband to be reads this...you must bond well with our kids ooo
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When he is married to such a sensible cool headed wife? Thats expected.
ReplyDeleteUr wifes behavior shouldn't affect ur relationship wit ur kid(s), infact it will mek her behave better. She's all stressed out,cukin for u,cleanin d house,nd she hasn't done d kids homework. And u can't help out? Nd u expect her not to 'uncool-headed'? Am just givin instances. Just b a betta dad nd c d magic dat wuld happen. This is to all dads wit ur mindset,not necessarily u!
DeleteUr wifes behavior shouldn't affect ur relationship wit ur kid(s), infact it will mek her behave better. She's all stressed out,cukin for u,cleanin d house,nd she hasn't done d kids homework. And u can't help out? Nd u expect her not to 'uncool-headed'? Am just givin instances. Just b a betta dad nd c d magic dat wuld happen. This is to all dads wit ur mindset,not necessarily u!
DeletePeter is handsome , sexy and a great dad! I love this!!!
ReplyDeleteNow, everyone's husbands bond with their kids? Who then are those who have turned clubs into their homes? Who then are those who beat their wives everyday? Make una dey deceive una selves.
ReplyDeleteRead up and see people confessin of not bin so good! I bow for u o.
DeleteBad belle! See painment. Those women who are blessed with good husbands are praising their husbands instead of you to be happy for them you are there typing trash. I'm sure you would have been happier to read that their husbands are bad. Change your ways! Be positive!
DeleteTheir comments has given me hope that there are still good men out there.
Awwwww, this is so cute. Peter, the good daddy.
ReplyDeleteI wish my husband will try harder, when ever I tell him he needs to spend quality time wit his child he sits up n trys For like a day or two n den back to where we started. N it hurts a lot bcause I know how much me n my Dad are so close we watch movies, read books together infact now dat am married he still buys me stuff n wenever his eating sometin he knows I will like, he will ask dem to save some for me so I can come d next day n get it.n I just wish my daugter can xperience dis same kind of bond.
ReplyDeleteSweetie, don't force it, okay.
DeleteGirls have a natural tendency to bend towards their fathers, so yours won't be difference. Just stand in for both of u.
My daddy gave us baths every morning and evenin when I was a kid. Every Sunday, he'd take us out to many new places and teach us d Geography of d area(till today I love knowing facts about places). We felt his impact more then cos mum hardly had time for us as a civil servant. So many years has passed but I still share this special bond with my dad. Although we have our 'mad moments' sometimes but bond is always there.
ReplyDeleteI pray for this for my kids too, closeness to your dad is very essential
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing like the special bond a father and daughter share. Fathers, treat your daughters like princesses, be the example of what a good man is so when they grow up they know the difference between a user and a nurturer. When they start to mature, take them out, talk to them, let them know that they are beautiful, tell them you love them so they are not starved of love and fall into the arms of the first man that smiles at them - mistaking lust for love. It is so so so important.
ReplyDeleteReading this hurts.had my baby 5months ago via surgery.just been my baby and I.the sleepless nights,pains from surgical wound.father hasn't even visited to see his son.sends money and claims he is busy making money so he can send.agony of a single mom.anyhoo,I have decided to love my baby enough for the both of us.
ReplyDeleteVery well said Stella - unfortunately, some men don't know what they children look like (so sad but true). Awwww, what a beautiful photo of father and daughter (feeling broody now)
ReplyDeleteMy son just turned 6months, my husband gave him his very 1st food aside breastmilk because he was exclusively breastfed for 6months. Infact he almost knows his mood now better than i do and i have carried him since he was born until we joined his daddy when he was 5months. From that moment, it was 'me and my son' from my husband all the time. If you see him rocking dis boy to sleep and singing for him even laying him. Am super blessed oh! Whats my own i have time to relax wella and even read SDK blog...lol
ReplyDeleteWhen I entered the Uni,my dad will always come to visit every Tuesday. I became embarrassed cos my roomies were calling my daddy's pet n I was 17years(big girl tinz). He changed it to once in two weeks n I accepted. He has gone to be with God but I still remember his lafta,his funny stories,his deep love for my mum,his selflessness,his conks(he doesn't flog,he conks),the grey hair on his head as he laid to be viewed for the last time) and above all,HIS LOVE FOR ME N MY SIBLINGS.
ReplyDeleteMen,bond with your kids.
Men tend to bond more with their daughters. For me, it will be with all pleasure to sacrifice my life for my daughter, Tracy.
ReplyDeleteI really love this post in fact I must give it to Stella, I have been a reader but this past weeks with thought provoking topics I post and I learn a lot also pls continue it makes it feel like Home.
ReplyDeleteI bonded with my dad even as a 5year old we will drive (bcos he will place me in btw himself n d steering) n sang and laughed n bonded...fast forward even after he travelled out of the country coming home sometime a year sometimes 2yrs for 13 years when I talk about him tgere is this twinkle in my eyes.Through my adolescent life he wasn't there but the bond that was created lasted till we united, I respect him so much.so I think it is definitely a must for fathers to bond with their children, God bless all our fathers n parents generally.
The picture tells the story. Priceless and also wordless. Good one Mr. Okoye.
ReplyDeleteThis post and d comments brought tears to my eyes..
ReplyDeleteDaddy is late now but d memories linger..
One of my earliest nicknames was "iyawo daddy eh"....Saturdays was always a time to look forward to Bcos it means we r going out with daddy.
even when I became a. juvenile delinquent,He beats me well n says sorry the next day,and he will buy something for me....
and as I grew older,I always have my way or get whatever I want before anyone else..
I keep praying that I don't mess up my wedding look with tears bcos the thought of him not being there to hand over his first child and only daughter to her husband,breaks me every time...every freaking time!
I really wish He lived long enough to meet my child..sadly....He's gone.....Forever..