Some dropped this severally as an anonymous and i couldn't ignore.The person mght probably come back to read or is reading now...please minister life to this person if you can.
These words have drained me emotionally,i am in shock.....suicide as a way out?hell no!!!
THE COMMENT READS
''......And people wonder why suicide is rampant these days, friends will say,how come she still joked with me yesterday and we laughed, families will say she was a happy child, we don't know what might have happened..
Everyday is one insult or curse from my father, I want to get out of this house, where is the job to sustain me, where is the man that will marry me off and take me out of this hell called house?
This torture has been on for as long as have none myself, does it mean am the worst person on this earth, do I not even have any good in me. My father comes back and everyone is sad, we are praying he doesn't come for the weekend, what is happening Lord?
Oh God you might as well hasten things up and provide me a good job, If not am ending it all this year ''
OMG!.....you want to kill yourself because you are jobless?...oh dear,is it that bad?
*whoever dropped this comment should contact me on my email please....Stelakuko@hotmail.com
Everyday is one insult or curse from my father, I want to get out of this house, where is the job to sustain me, where is the man that will marry me off and take me out of this hell called house?
This torture has been on for as long as have none myself, does it mean am the worst person on this earth, do I not even have any good in me. My father comes back and everyone is sad, we are praying he doesn't come for the weekend, what is happening Lord?
Oh God you might as well hasten things up and provide me a good job, If not am ending it all this year ''
OMG!.....you want to kill yourself because you are jobless?...oh dear,is it that bad?
*whoever dropped this comment should contact me on my email please....Stelakuko@hotmail.com
The solution is prayers.
ReplyDeleteMay God grant you your heart desires..life is worth living.
DeleteSuicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems. I've been in same shoe with you over 30times. Trust me, I'm talking to you not as just this person who thinks 'suicide is a crazy thing to do', I'm talking to you as someone who was like 98% close to suicide because I didn't see no reason to continue with life so I know exactly how you feel at this point. It's annoying when things don't go the way we planned! Why does the world have to close in on us? Why does friends have to despise us this much? Why does father have to treat us this bad? Why does mother and my siblings hate us so bad? What's the need to continue when everyone, even the ones we naturally should call home has turned into nightmares! Why do we have to continue?
DeleteAgain,
why does almost everyone seem to unanimously hate me? Is there some things I'm not doing right? Is there this particular attitude of mine that ticks people off even before they get to know me well? I'm I hasty to conclude? I'm I hasty to make comments I think are hilarious but in turn ticks everyone off?
You Think! I Think!
Most of our depressions are caused by our attitude to life. Life is 10% how you live it and 90% how you take it. If you take your obstacles in life as things which have come to make you stronger, you come out of it stronger, but if you take it as things which have come to break you, you get weaker with each obstacle that comes and you might hardly have enough strength to carry on after life has dealt you a hat trick obstacle. No one expects life to be rosy and obstacle-free. It wasn't that way for Steve Jobs. It wasn't that way for Oprah Winfrey. It wasn't that way for Joyce Meyer-her dad sexually molested her countless times. It wasn't that way for Ben Carson. And life is not about to break it's protocol of presenting everyone with obstacles just because you came up. Oprah, Steve, Ben, Joyce all said "NO" to the obstacle that came to break them and today look at them, look at where they are, what if they had let go? What if they took their life? Who would have known their names? I understand you don't wanna die, you just wanna stop the pains but believe me, suicide not only takes away your life, it also takes away the chances of things ever getting better - it takes away your chances of putting everyone who said you'll never make it to shame. Be strong my sister. You are strong. You are stronger than you know. You can pull through this if you can convince yourself that there's more to live for than die for.
Everybody hurts sister. Hold on sister. Hold on! ***Long hug***
Contact me if you need a shoulder, I'll always be there 07084199586
My dear just calm dwn abeg,life is too short to commit suicide,be prayerful too God wud mke a way,,in d mean time just engage urself in somtin small to kip u busy nd away from ur pops too
DeleteStella, I can't help but laff , Just bcos of joblessness u want to end it dis year ,People in worst situations nko, There is a lot to Live for abeg
DeleteI'm sorry Poster but I'm sure ur case isn't the worst on earth
DeleteEverything will be alright in God's time just take ur problems to him
God would be so mad at u if u ever take ur own life
Please stay strong
Its well
Pls my dear don't try it cos God has better plans for u. Stella our God will bless u and ur family for making odas smile
DeleteSquada, I just luv the way you talk. U re very much civilized.if only every1 on SDK will learn to reply 2 issues like u do n not trow judgments at ppl
DeleteWell said Squada well said. God bless u 4 dat comment. If poster reads dat, she will reconsider. Stay positive people,Stay strong.It's not over until it's over. One love!!!
DeleteU are not alone on this one. Parents are often the ones pushing there children into suicide. Can remember how my dad was always abusing me when i finished NYSC and didnt get married immediately. That even made me relocate to. Portharcourt were i met my present husband. Because of the pressure from my father and not wanting to go back home without a job or a husband, i decided to get married to him without even investigating to know him well. Thank God everything turned out well, my husband is a very good man. Evrything will be alright my darling, God will always make a way were none exist.
Delete@Squada..OMG,u just talked abt me now...It only here on SDK that I feel loved, Y, I have this feelings people doesnt lik me, I have close to 103 contact on BB, bt nobody ever says Hi if I dont..Sumtimes, I feel so depressed that I feel like ending it but I thought about my MUM, my Brothers, My Guy and mayb my Dad, how will they feel, am I not been selfish if I take my life, I feel so unloved,useless but deep down am a good person, can do anything for my friends,but now I have learnt to love myself and cherish few people that appreciate it. No more suicidal thought,anytime am feeling depressed, I open SDK and laugh my hrt out....So my dear learn to love yourself, My dad did worst..but just love yourself
DeleteAnd see me thinking I was alone in this issue. So there are other people who experience difficulty with their parents? Infact, my own relationship with my parents has degenerated so bad to the extent that I can count the number of words my father and I speak to each other and my mother acts like I'm some child from some stepmother. I'm not a bad child...I used to think I was until people will meet my parents outside and start telling them what a good child they have, how respectful, nice, Godly and decent I am even to my own amazement.
DeleteUnfortunately, my own parents are either blind to this or have failed to acknowledge it. I have been so depressed before and 90% of the time I suffered depression, my parents caused it because they said something to me or treated me like a maid sqauting in their house. I had even contemplented living the house so one day they come back and never see me. I had comtemplated falling terribly sick so I'll leave home and justs stay in the hospital.
I have never contemplated suicide because as a born again Christian, I know that'll be an automatic journey to Hell fire....I didn't give my life to Christ and endure certain sacrifices to end u in Hell...lai lai.
So poster, you are not alone o darling. My advice to you is to get someone to talk to or pray to God to bring you a friend who would be your everything, who will stand by you through the pain and make you happy in the most difficult situations. That's what God did for me, if my fiancee never came along, I probably would have purposely walked into a robbery incident just to ensure a robber shoots me and I escape committing suicide and then go straight to heaven....lol
It is well with you. Wait on the Lord, again I say wait. May the good lord in his infinite mercy grant you peace. May his exceeding grace catapult you into outstanding signs n wonders.
ReplyDeleteHmmm my dear. If u killed yourself, the market women will still operate their sales that very minute. Your neighbours will still eat their 3 Sq meals. Fashola will not resign as the state governor. GEJ will still contest come 2015... your parents and siblings will perhaps mourn u for a few days, maybe weeks...but they will still celebrate, come next xmas....without u if cos.
DeleteNone of ur relatives will kill themselves to be with u...not even ur mother who birthed u.
What am I saying? That if u commit suicide, you'll still be alone in ur untimely grave...dead with ur offspring, buried with ur vision and aspiration. You will be forgotten without any tangible traces. The job that would have been made urs would be given to another person who has been more resilient than u. My dear, u may think am sounding brash, but should u kill yourself, God will still be God, life will continue without u. You would have lost out completely, the sacrifices u made to complete ur education would have been in vain. More painful would be what God will have to say to I when u reach Him.
The Devil is playing tricks on u because your breakthrough is round the corner. He has seen it and he wants u to miss it. Can ur situation be as bad as Job's in the bible? Of even Jabez who was born and named a cursed child? When God returns to u the years which d locust has eaten, u will be like they that dream.
This is ur midnight hour experience... endure it dear. Why waste time to cry at night when God has promised you joy in the morning?
Pls ask God to forgive your wavering faith in Him. His promise is that His thoughts towards u are of good and NOT evil, but to lead u to a much glorious expected end. Wait for ur time. Godspeed
Shame on GEJ and the misery he's caused on Nigerians.
DeleteShame on all the looting politicians both present and past.
I pray they too have reasons to commit suicide.
Thanks
I really understand where tge poster is coming from. Some parents are very ery terrible. They believe their relationship with you ends once you graduate and if you cant get a job soon after NYSC, they start seeing you as a failure. If you are living with them, i tell you it gonna be hell because they won't stop singing about how their friends child bought this or that for their parents.
DeleteI know a woman who is always saying that a 25yrs old adult does not have any business being in his or her parents home. Now imagine a 28yrs old jobless graduate living in such a home.
Poster, what i will say is that you should try and acquire a skill or learn a trade. If your parents won't give you the money, meet Uncles/Aunties. There is nothing wrong in asking for help provided its for a genuine purpose.
Goodluck.
Are there no Private Schools near you?. pick a job there. Are there no small companies around you? Pick a job there. The pay may be terribly inadequate but the job keeps u busy. And the lil pay takes care of some needs of urs. Again,ur CV will be richer. My bro in 2001 was a company driver and he had B.Sc,M.Sc n MBA ooo. His comportment,good grammar n intelligent discussions caught the attention of the oyibo couple he worked for. When the guy knew he had all these certs,he waS amazed. He wrote a one line msg at d back of his complimentary card n gave my bro to give a guy in one multinational company. THAT WAS iT. Now my bro iis a suPer big guy in tht oil coy. To make a long story longer,move out,be happy n pray that God brings to u your DIVINE HELPER
Delete@Irene, I connect to your brother's testimony. God send me my helper in due time. Amen
Delete@anon 12:42,u can only connect if u are humble enuf to do what he did!many youths now can never go dat low' to start small,rather they all want to buy house and ride range rover within one year,and with the wash_wash pastors telling them every minute; u must make it dis year'!!there confusion remains permanent cos our God is a God of time!
Delete@anon dat wants to kill herself,pls get a small job dat can keep u busy even if u are not being paid so u cccan get to go out and mix up with pple,even d depression will go away!and also pls be grateful to God o,cos from ur post,u did not complain of hunger and homelessness,so what abt pple dat have no home,no money,no food,no parents and no job finally and are still striving?pls keep hope alive,everything will be alrite.
Pls sucide is never an option. Hold on help is on the way. I went tru worse from my parents. My father abondoned us and my mother who stuck around never failed to remind us how we are failures like our dad. Her words can kill, infact one day that I was close to killing myself she cheered me on to do so saying afterall I ws dead to her. I graduated from the university at 20 and never got a good job till 25. But however I did so many menial jobs. As a graduate I served food at a fast food and took the insults that came with it. I taught in several schools and the pay was within 15k to 25k. It never exceeded that. And I survived, I don't knw hw I did it. While I was working in the fast food I was squating with a colleague who had no mattrass so after a 12hrs hard day's job I get to sleep on the hard floor. The period was truly trying. Coupled with all the insults I got from my mum and how no man will marry me. Prestenly I won't say I have arrived but I know I am on the right track and killing myself wouldn't have changed anything. I will be 26 by april and i am not married yet infact not even in a relationship, my pay is not up to 100k but I am not where I used to be. It will get dere and even superseed. Pick up some thing and keep urself busy. There are always lil tins to do around plus it will build u up for the main job and equally add up to your CV. Leaving d house every morning and returning in the evening will keep u sane and give u less time to spend with ur dad. Above all learn to be grateful for other blessings, its the cure to depression. Once again hold on help is one the way.
DeleteHow can u think of sucide just because of ur father's insult? Oh my, are there no other alternative? Ur case is not worst than several other cases out there and yet u want to take ur life, did u give ur self that life in the first place? Don't you think ur about to test ur creator? If its too much for u, leave the house! I guess u have relatives somewhere u could stay with haba! This sucide thing is turning into something else.
ReplyDeleteThere was a time i used to pray my father would die so we would ve peace but time has healed and changed a lot. Anon pls dnt take hasty decisions, d future holds a lot and time changes everything.
DeleteDear poster ignore such thoughts. God still reigns and performs miracles especially on those who believe without doubting. Trust God be fervent in your prayers.Weeping may endure for the night but nothing will stop your joy when it comes in the morning. Life is sweet and beautiful when you have God in it. Take a look at disabled beggars on the roads. No shelter,no arms,no legs yet they still find a reason to live. No matter the situation you are now consider yourself blessed. God bless you and keep you.#bighug#
DeletePoster, Pls don't commit suicide.... nothing, no matter how bad that is irredeemable... We care
ReplyDeletePoster plss do not do it, it may seem like the easiest way out but its pains are hurtful and enternal, then what would you have proved...that when we get knocked down we should give up? NO
DeleteRefuse to listen to the devil, shame every1 who you think hates you by surviving, by being successful, start somewhere, anywhere and God would see you through...Amen
Now say these words with me, "serene I fold my hands nd wait no care for wind or tide or sea, rave no more against times and fate...in the end my own will come to me"
Poster,don't you have friends??....leave the house for a weekend and visit them....or better still,come lemme adopt you...some parents sha,
ReplyDeleteLinda pls adopt me eeee
DeleteSpot on Linda. Some parents can make life bitter for their children. Hian!
DeleteBabe take it easy...you are not bad. Jst pray nd mingle with peeps. Plus send your Cv to Stella. Let's see what we cn do. Cheeers!
ReplyDeleteU did 10g? I'm an 11g certified! Pls where are u located? I want to be ur firnd
Deleteyou ve to pray bt pls I fink d rate of joblessness in our society is getting out of hand, I'm even among, been home for 3yrs n no job, our society is suffering alot, I've tot of suicide too bt thank God I didn't, I found d church, I learnt to pray n hence found comfort, it's sad dt young ones go thru this, bt pls love,tking ur life isn't all, I'm still jobless bt wenever I feel sad I go to Jesus nd so far He's been awesome,, I have not let him go for a day,i hope n pray same happens for u,while we're still trusting him for some sort of happy ending. And pls pray for ur dad too, God still answers. I hope u be fine. God loves u
ReplyDeleteBabe take it easy...you are not bad. Jst pray nd mingle with peeps. Plus send your Cv to Stella. Let's see what we cn do. Cheeers!
ReplyDeleteMschewwwww! No shit given. No damn given. Wtf! Seriously? Stop being a coward and standup for yourself. Be strong. Your father isn't your creator, he can't frustrate you out of this life. Look! Make a difference. Don't always wait for a job. Do something. It's never easy. NEVER! Not everyone has it easy. In fact more people find it tough, more people than u think. Look for God! In God there's peace. Why are you allowing suicidal thoughts get the best of you? Channel your energy into more positive things and watch your life change.
ReplyDeleteNa wah o. If you search your inner self, the truth is always there. Abeg I dey go sleep for my hut.
#makeachoice #takeastand
Okay let me try to understand this;
ReplyDeleteShe wants to commit suicide bekz her dad insults her? What happend to moving in with a friend?
And also because she has no job? Ehm.. U are nt d 1st neither are u goin to b d last to b unemployed, d earlier u stop complaining nd find somfin decent to do (anytin @all) d better for u.
And ending ur life? We both know dtz not d best sloution, kz d devil will welcome ur belovd soul with a big grin.
So get up, dust ur arse and tell d devil dt he has lost this battle.
Remember dt as long as drz life drz alwaiz hope.
If u loose hope in d day of trouble; ur strength is small.
Yimu!
DeleteHer strenght is small!
Na wetin u take measure am 'derika' abi 'basin'? Hehehe
Blog diva dis ur last 2 lines no make sense biko!
D tin 1 sound lik Wale Adenuga mumu proverbs e.g
1. If u baff in shallow water ur back will show(b4 nko? #Mshweeetch)
2.If a bird perches on a wire,it must dance wit d wire(Hian...WAP african proverbs cnt be dis shallow biko)
3. The disease of d buttocks its only d wrapper dat knows it. #Faints
4. We are nothing but hammer(somtims e uses pencil too) in d hands of d creator(My mama go say she rejects being a hammer)
Wu eva dis poster is, I avoid posts lik dis cos dey ar quite sensitive,I hope dis cheers u up abit. I don't no u, but I send u hugs(my hugs ar quite expensive)
Bia blog diva, did ur just learn the letter 'Z' u sim to be fascinated wit it! abi u r tryin to sound funky?
Stella, God will favour you and your family. Just like you cannot stand tears in people's eyes, God will never allow you to see pains.
ReplyDeletePoster , please take it easy and put your trust in God. God will surely intervene in your matter. Also, ensure that you write Stella , something good may happen. Rose
I'm sorry, but your father is an apology. He should carry his frustrations and go somewhere else. Tomorrow if you make it in life, he will be claiming 'that's my daughter'. I don't blame him, but the useless system where person go finish and not be gainfully employed. Suicide is not a solution my dear sister. I wish I was in a position to offer you a job, but alas I don't. At least having ajob will take your mind off husband matter small. Abeg blog visitors in the position to even offer her something to be doing, please make una help out abeg.
ReplyDeleteSome parents sha!...na wa oo...who shld have ur back if not our parents...my Mum is just d best in dis world, she ll do anything to see us make good success, her prayers never fail us and I know God answers....My dear, don't end it all and give devil a cause to rejoice over ur life, don't listen to wateva negative words coming towards u..brace urselve up and embrace Christ, He ll surely fix u...I have u in my prayers.XX
ReplyDeleteAnd you had to brag about your mum first? How very insensitive. Go and learn how to cheer people up. Give them examples of your bad situation and then say something comforting not my momma this my momma that. Dumb fuck
DeleteDo it. The world is overpopulated as it is
ReplyDeleteThat's an insensitive thing to say.
DeleteOluyomi Odukoya
Psychotic bitch.. Idiot
Delete...and her blood will be on your head. Faceles,clueless and insensitive anonymous. Stella pls screen out these kind of comments.
Delete...and her blood will be on your head. Faceles,clueless and insensitive anonymous. Stella pls screen out these kind of comments.
Delete12:16 am....wait till it hits close to home, I hope you'll smile then and type again with flourish!
DeletePls move to a friend's place for now dear, killing yourself isn't an option. What state do u reside I can accomodate u if u don't mind.
ReplyDeleteWhere do u know her from? This is how people accommodate witches without knowing!
DeleteMs Poster, don't do it. You think marriage is the solution to your probs but it is not. If you fall into the wrong hands, he ll make u wish u ll go bac to ur father's house.
ReplyDeleteGod has better plans for you. What did you study? Where are you based? I can talk to some friends of mine to help you out.
La bebe, pls can u hlp me too? Im not the poster but im in a similar situation pls.
DeleteDear poster you haven't said the main reason why you want to commit suicide. Being jobless shouldn't make you suicidal. There are people in worst situations than you are.
ReplyDeleteYou just have to be grateful and hopeful for better things to come. As for your dad, you need to develop a tough skin around him.
CeeCee
Weeping may endure for a moment but joy comes in the morning.If u end it all(God forbids)it means u are limiting God.He specializes in hopeless situations.Please trust him.He is more than able to take u out of this test n give u testimonies.They that know their God shall be strong n shall do exploits...pls hold on!Your season of joy is around the corner....My prayer for you today is that God will give you beauty for ashes....Get a copy of Our daily manna(ODM) devotional...it will lift u up daily.God bless you!
ReplyDeleteI think ur dad and my dad r cousins..... but suicide is not an option, I've a job, d last in my family and d richest, u not Hvin a job is nt d problem, infact anytym I settle any of d bills @home it becomes a problem, I hear my dad mkin jealous comments, he even told me once he'll place a curse on me,I'm serzly planning on building a hse but I'm scared cos he's jealous of my success(yes my dad) jus be prayerful, I've a place I run to wen d pressure is too much, look 4 frnd or relation to move in wit, pls dnt kill ursef cos of dad, ur suppose to bury him nt d other way round
ReplyDeleteI have been through your situation and I wanted to die.
ReplyDeleteHold on and believe in God. I have a job in happy with
Pls have faith and trust in The Lord.........it will definitely get better *bighugs*
ReplyDeleteBe strong..... Sucide is not the answer. Just have faith and trust in The Lord
ReplyDelete*bighugs*
The joblessness is not why the person wants to kill them self, it's the constant humiliation they receive. It's the looks that nobody think they see, the contempt in their eyes, the snarky tone in the voice, the insults being hurled left and right, the mockery that is doled out. These are the things that kills the spirits and when a spirit is dead the body becomes an empty vessel, hopelessness sets in, and suicide appears to be the only possible solution out to the misery. That wonderful book of wisdom, The Bible, tells us that life and death are in the tongue. You can use words to breathe life into someone just as how you can use words to kill their spirit.
ReplyDelete@ Poster please find positive people you can associate with. If you leave the house daily and find someplace to go, go there. Find someone you can talk to, someone with compassion who will really feed you words of upliftment. Take any job you can no matter how menial, if it is even to break stones or sell small items, Do it! It will focus your mind on something and open up locked channels. Things seem to happen when you are doing something, so don't scoff at how menial a job may be, work it and save what you can. Please hold on to faith, no matter how bare the thread of your faith is right now, just hold on from one day to the next. I promise you it will get better!!!!
Hi poster, u wanna kill urself cos of ur father? I don't care how abusive your father is he will still be a learner compared to my dad... My father is the most foolish man ever liveth(God forgive me), he even says his children will die b4 him... he thinks he's more intelligent that everybody he even mocks d dead...if I send my story to Stella and u read ehn, u will run home and hug ur dad Allah, but U know why I'll never contemplate suicide? Cos I'm hoping on God to make me a very successful person and praying for my father's health and life so he'll live to regret everything and accept that God almighty reigns supreme! Who is your father? You want to kill yourself and cause pains for your siblings and mom? My sister brace yourself and ignore its just a matter of time... Inugo? *hugs*
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, do you know the amount of Grace needed by a human being at the point of death? Do you know that GOD'S Judgment is devoid of Mercy because HIS Judgment is Infallible? GRACE abounds when we're still alive, and GRACE is most needed at the point of ones death, because it brings forth the necessary amount of Mercy we'll obviously need then to clear our wrongs in order for us to withstand the next phase of our lives; JUDGMENT DAY. A person who commits suicide NEVER acquires this special GRACE at the point of death. Why?? Because he has, at the very last deed, committed murder; a pure evil, and didn't have the chance to acquire the GRACE before he finds himself before The THRONE. That's catastrophic!!
ReplyDeleteThe way you're going about this suicide is laughable. I too have also been suicidal..twice, so don't think I don't know what I'm talking about. You're talking about it as if..."well, if GOD asks me why I did it I'll just blame him for abandoning me.." My dear, you jam heavy rock. First suicide is not as easy as you think...you feel completely evil at that moment when you're about to carry out the nefarious act. You damn Heavenly consequences and welcome openly the pits of hell, all at that moment. It's scary. Go through your Bible or Quran and you'll see that NOBODY who committed suicide is eulogized. The only known eulogy given to a suicide victim was that given to King Saul and that's because David had a false account of how he died.
When I tried suicide and didn't go through it because I lost my nerves at the last moment, I began to blaspheme at every given opportunity, hoping (this is now making me laugh) that HE would get sufficiently angry and end my life. For where? Instead the masquerade dance ended when HE, in HIS wonderful Mercy, led me to understand HIS Word in Church. So you see, GOD'S Mercy abounds to a level we do not comprehend, and HE'S ALWAYS there for us. I was suicidal because of poverty, but today, I lack nothing I need.
Start by being humble towards GOD, admit your sins, submit wholeheartedly to HIM, give HIM praise even at your most difficult time, and you won't comprehend the level of blessings that follow in quick succession. Suicide threat is only directed at your MAKER. It's an insult to HIM, and it's exactly what satan wants. Don't give in. Be Blessed.
Memphis, marry me! Just come in your boxers on that day and I will take care of everyother thing. Just say YES! Lol
DeleteOmg lol @ come in boxers!
DeleteLol we are in the same shoes, just that am still in school. My dad is loving and caring no doubt but his other side has ruined his good aspect.
ReplyDeletewhen my dad is angry wit anyone, all he does is to curse out and insult whoever. Recently he got me really angry and we fought. He cursed me out real bad and even wished death upon me(its not my portion by God's grace). I was devastated though it not new. Since I got to the u.s whenever we fight, he even beats me real bad and there was a time he was beating me and was angry at my lil brother for not joining him in beating me..I always wish he doesn't come home too, infact I detest seeing his face most times but that's not the solution. Just forgive him.
so my dear, I have thought bot taking my life but trust me that's not the solution. Just put everything in God's hand, he will make a way out for u. That phase will pass very soon, its only preparing u for what lies ahead and all he does will only make u stronger. Dont let this situation defeat u. U are greater than u think my dear, its only a matter of time.
Your dad beats you, omg!
DeleteMy father NEVER laid hands on me or any of my siblings, tho he gets upset when we step outta line. My mumsy that used to be harsh be4 is as cold as ice sef.
"Every test that you have experienced is the kind that normally comes to people. But God keeps his promise, and he will not allow you to be tested beyond your power to remain firm; at the time you are put to the test, he will give you the strength to endure it, and so provide you with a way out."1corinthians 10:13
ReplyDeleteThose were the words that met my eyes as I opened my bible to read be4 I sleep.To think I wept all through my drive home.I have some serious issues that have been disturbing my sanity and all I do is cry and talk to God, so, when I read this passage, it seems it was God talking to me, like when you need an assurance.
It is well my sister and I believe like those words above,He will give you the strength to endure mean while providing you a better option but you have to hold on to him, it is well!
Dear poster, pls don't end it all, life can be very tough sometimes but there's always light at the end of the tunnel. Just this past week, i was crying and begging God to just take my life because i just couldn't go on. I I've been through hell and back, a single mum of three kids, had to take my kids and run abroad for my life when my ex became a monster. Juggling work, kids, school runs, activity runs and being the sole provider for the family on a meagre income became too much, but in the middle of all this i sighted my 2nd child a 10 yr old crying and praying, and he said we should all join hands and pray together saying that God should forgive his mommy and give her peace of mind. I felt so ashamed of myself and begged God for forgiveness. God forbid anything happens to me, who'll look after my children cos i'm the only one they've got. Friends have deserted me even family. God pls forgive me, i am sorry.
ReplyDeleteAwwww d lord will be ur strength ok...it's well, u have to be strong for ur kids...
DeleteAnon 2:27, hv u in my prayers,
DeleteGod ll see u thru' sis
A permanent decision lyk sucide is nt a solution for a temporary problem. Wat happens afta committing sucide u discover ur future ws destined to be great. There's no lyf outside Christ. I ws in d same situation u r in nw which made me marry a man I Dnt even love. Believe me stayin in my parent's house nw nd findin my true worth wud ve been beta lookin bck
ReplyDeleteMy friend said she was going to commit suicide by throwing herself in a lake for no apparent reason her family drove her to the lake and told her to go ahead she started crying and begging to go back home. People who want to commit suicide rarely cry out for help their suicidal actions are the warning signs we should look for. This poster is not serious she is just crying for attention this one does not have the guts to take her own life judging by the numerous comments she has left on posts otherwise she would have done it by now. I agree though that she needs help both physically aka getting a job and out of her father's house and spiritual help to stop her having such thoughts
ReplyDeleteI don't blame dis poster @ all some parents can be really frutrating @23 my mum wil curse us everyday to get married any lil tin yu do dahts d nxt tin she wil say to yu daht yu shud hurry n leave her house 4her worse is she has turned my dad against us its daht bad! But I wil never rush into any mans house out of despiration Never am waiting to go 4 service n she will never see me again! She wil look 4 us no matter waht sucide is never an option to me. I hv God
ReplyDeleteSuicide an option cos ur pops is disturbing u 2go get a job. Mschewww!!! Why wnt he wen ure always at home eatin his food and his money. He's also frustrated. Aftr sendin u 2sch, he expects 2get a return 4rm his investment, bt his not bcos ure jobless. Like I always tell my students, securin a degree doesn't mean a white collar job. It means u hv d opportunity to make it wrk wherever u find ursef. Didn't u do entrepreneurship in sch? If d job is nt comin, go learn a trade. Go to Fashola sch, na free and be skilled. Wt d trade learnt u make ur little fund and live home everyday. If den ur pops complain, den d bros na witch!
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ReplyDeleteHow can you think of suicide? How do people even think of that? Like seriously,why would that be an option for anyone? I do not just understand this kind of thought at all.. There are people going through so much difficulties in life but that thought never crept into there heart.. What the hell can your father say to you that would warrant that thought? The worst he cab say is" I sent you to school and spent money on you and all is a waste cos you are still jobless and not helping out",that's all he cab say...
ReplyDeleteYou need to stop waiting for things to happen for you and start making things happen to you.. Yeah... If a job isn't coming forth,get something else doing... Move in with a friend if you think your dad is frustrating alot... If you don't have friends stay back at home nd stomach it all. Nothing is permanent.. One day,your dad would use that same mouth to sing praises of you. If you are not getting the job you want go out and get another kinda job that would take you out of the house while you still keep waiting for the job you desire or learn a trade... Many people are now doing that,become bosses and even employ people. Most jobs today in Nigeria were started by one person a longtime ago and today they are employers of graduates and all
in conclusion,please take that thought far from you. it is not worth it. Seek God and leave every other thing to him.. He is called Alpha and Omega for a reason.
Mshteeew, talking like a 5year old. You are not the only one wt such problem so, chill out. The money u used in buying that smart phone u are using, wud have been used to start sth. Everymonth, u subsribe for internet service, misplaced priority. Before I got a job in one of the banks, I used to go to Balogun mkt on d island with 20k, buy clothes and shoes and sell to ppl. This little biz kept growing, till I joined Event mgt from there I gt a bank job and now, I'm smiling. A serious man who comes along ur way now wud want to know wat u do 4 a living, no matter hw small it is, it will encourage him. So, if suicide is your option, knock yourself out. Aint nobody gat time for this Stella!
ReplyDeleteBesides, person wey want kill herself no shout am. Sometimes, petting ppl only makes them act silly, sorry if I was harsh tho.
Pls don't do it. Such thoughts had been on my mind from my teenage days. Imagine having parents who fell apart and decided to have nothing with the kids from the union thereby dropping you and your siblings off with a relative. We grew up without the basic pleasures of childhood.A lot of things went wrong and in my search for love and validation,I fell into the 'wrongest' of hands(story for another day).I thank God for making me shelve the idea at the last minute.I realised the truth in the saying ; you are responsible for your hapiness. I deduced from your post that you have siblings so it means he doesn't pick on you alone. Get busy with things of God my dear and surround yourself with positive people. It's always darkest before dawn. God bless you dear.
ReplyDeletePoster trust me, am passing thru worse. I'm soooo lonely here, no family to talk 2, I have some lovely friends but can't get myself 2 just in 2 friends like dat cos 2 me family is all. Most times I breakdown and cry my eyes out cos of all I have passed thru in dis life and what i'm still going thru cos I knw sumtin is wrong somewhere, i'm not meant 2 be where i'm now. I can't even cry b4 my friends cos hey!!! 2morrow dey will gossip about it and can't cry 2 my mum's hearing cos she is milessssssssss away from me and right now am here strength cos she feeds of my enegry. One thing I knw is that God isn't a man dat fails in his promises, he sets even the lawful captive free I will keep holdin on 2 him like Jacob did till my blessings are established. Poster Try God I knw he won't fail u.
ReplyDelete@Poster,I sincerely don't know where to start encouraging you from. But hear me & hear me well. Those who kneel before God stand before great men. Use the word of God(Holy bible)daily as your standard. In HIM there's PEACE & FULLNESS OF JOY. I don't know where you are right now but hear this, Make your way to calvary ..cos At the foot of the cross is where you can trade your ashes for beauty...and drop your heavy burden for everlasting joy and peace. When God is involved TIME is closed up. May God fill you with the SPIRIT OF FAITH
ReplyDeleteSome people are feeling like supermen and superwomen. Making the poster feel like she hasn't tried to get out of this situation. sorry this post isn't about u or a place for u to come and clap for urself. Dear poster I know exactly how u feel cos I have been there.. but when the Lord turns the captivity of Zion we were like them that dream and our mouths were filled with laughter. Poster locate a church fast, I attend winners chapel. U cannot fight this battle with human strength uld fail woefully. U need God's grace. Pls use ur last strength that u have to go to the presence of God. In His presence there is Liberty. When u start to wholly embrace God and His word uld wonder where all ur suicidal thoughts went. God will turn it around, if only uld believe. The devil would do everything now to keep u away from God so that u can be depressed and oppressed.. fight ur feelings and embrace the healing Christ has to offer u. After this every other thing shall be added. Please give God a chance in ur life. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteSuicide does not solve anything dear poster. Live to work and enjoy the good things the Lord has made available, and that you will eventually attain if you do not kill yourself. One Love
ReplyDeleteMy dad is the most annoying person on earth,after he sent my mum away & we has to stay with him in our family house dearies everyday was hell,beatings & slap @ any slight provocation like it was me that told my mum to leave,no friends,@ 13 I looked 9 cos beatings won't let my breast grow,I won't go to sch for 2months in a term yet I get a good position...he beats my sister with broom & wen you see her face then you would think she is from ogbomosho for me I grew from cane to belt to coboko to wire to knocks to blows & when he bursted my eardrum I took my sister and jeje ran away from home...now we stay with my aunt & when he comes there he would talk & talk & insult my mum & her family members...did I tell you if my dad sends you 100 airtime you have to use all the airtime to say thankyou & when he is talking you must stand attention...am 24 now he has never given us upto 30k for feeding in a year apart from my sisters school fees who is now 17...I don't talk to him anymore cos I asked him for my tertiary fees & he told me he has one life to live(he works with lagos state govt),this is a man who insults me that I do useless jobs b4 I got admission...did I tell you he once caused sibling rivalry btw my sis & I but my sis is now understanding...when I listen to micheal bolton's butterfly kisses I just wish he had been a better dad
ReplyDeleteMy dad is the most annoying person on earth,after he sent my mum away & we has to stay with him in our family house dearies everyday was hell,beatings & slap @ any slight provocation like it was me that told my mum to leave,no friends,@ 13 I looked 9 cos beatings won't let my breast grow,I won't go to sch for 2months in a term yet I get a good position...he beats my sister with broom & wen you see her face then you would think she is from ogbomosho for me I grew from cane to belt to coboko to wire to knocks to blows & when he bursted my eardrum I took my sister and jeje ran away from home...now we stay with my aunt & when he comes there he would talk & talk & insult my mum & her family members...did I tell you if my dad sends you 100 airtime you have to use all the airtime to say thankyou & when he is talking you must stand attention...am 24 now he has never given us upto 30k for feeding in a year apart from my sisters school fees who is now 17...I don't talk to him anymore cos I asked him for my tertiary fees & he told me he has one life to live(he works with lagos state govt),this is a man who insults me that I do useless jobs b4 I got admission...did I tell you he once caused sibling rivalry btw my sis & I but my sis is now understanding...when I listen to micheal bolton's butterfly kisses I just wish he had been a better dad
ReplyDeleteMy own dad is a topic for another day....sweetie don't let him get to you aiite...it is well
ReplyDeleteMy dear @poster, suicide should never be an option to whatever you're going through.. That is the voice from the Devil.. Pls I will advice you reject and pray aganist it. @poster, trust me I was in your situation manyyyyy years agoooo that prompted me to come to abj in year 2005. Imagine a young girl leaving her parents house at the age I was . I will advise you go to God in prayer first. Talk to him and tell him your plans (not suicide plans oh pls), then meditate on them. I guess you need to change your location.. town/city. I had experience more than what you re going tru, and I say one thing, IF NOT GOD!. When I look back I keep wondering, how did I go this far? I daily thank God for his love and mercies. @poster, If you need help, feel free to contact me.
ReplyDeletestella you are just a nice and caring person..... not all blog owners will do what u just did, those little things that matters.... u just saved a life..God Bless You
ReplyDeleteMy dear I can't tell u I know wat u re going thru becos u re d one wearing d shoes, but plz don't despair yet for God has a reason for everything. I know u will testify of abundant blessings in ur life very soon, just be prayerful and continue to trust in God. Shalom!!!
ReplyDeleteNa wa o! See stories,u think urs is worse until u hear another!God dey.
ReplyDeleteWow! Can't stop shedding tears from dis post and d comments I am reading here about what people are going through, may God visit y'all and wipe ur tears, pls let us be our brothers keepers, let us in any little way we can put smile on each others faces cos people are going thru hell...
ReplyDeleteIf I tell my own story,y'll will weep for me,my dad rily dealt with me but I ve always known suicide is not an option,hang on and prove him wrong.I suffered to see myself thru the university,I did appendis and was in the hospital for 9 days and my dad didn't allow my mum to come see me.now the story av changed,I ve a small job,gettin married soon,since my introduction my dad has bin famzin me.but that hatred I feel for him jus cnt go away.every day I pray for God to take this hate away from me.poster,be prayerful n hold on to God for the stone which the builder refused always become the headstone of the corner.
ReplyDeletehello dear poster,u think ur case is worse abi.wat sbout who was hiv positive and jobless.and i still thank God for the gift of live everyday i wake up.i used was hiv positive cos i believed am healed,so sucide should be the last thing on ur mind.think positively.nothing will ever make me think of that.LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL
ReplyDeleteSuicide is not the solution. Trust, believe and have faith in God.
ReplyDeleteJust hang in there, when the going gets tough, only the tough gets going. Suicide is for the weak.
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, good day...hello blog visitors
ReplyDeleteAm so sorry I dropped that kinda comment, I was crying sad emotionally nd psychologically unstable then, I had just finished receiving 3hrs of insult,curses,history from my father. After dropping the comment I felt somehow better and called my mentor, he encouraged me and prayed for me and I feel so much more better though still fragile. The insult and curses neva end stella, it will still continue tomorow.
I came back and saw u made it a post and I felt so ashamed am so sorry once again.
My mentor said if u harm yourself now, how do u want to prove ur father wrong, the best revenge is success. I will never commit suicide in jesus name. But people fail to try and find out what is behind all the make up and fake smile.
I don't even have a dime to myself, but when u ask people for favor, dey be like ahan u, iwo omo baba olowo, like damn do dey always av to say dat. I am hating my father so much I dnt want to do anyfin stupid.
He parents are seprated and everytime he will fail to curse my mother to.
I just want to get a good job, take care of my mother and my siblings. Those little kids have no motherly love and their father is a tiger.
Aunty lemme stop here and no bore u with my life history. Just want u to know am better and I will never comtit suicide, I will fight this battle, succeed and remind my father of all ds in future.
Thank you SDK, u are a rare gem. forgive typos pls
Is well with you. Never you give up in life many face smiliar situation like yours but in different forms. Always be grateful you have good health and life other things will fall in place, remain blessed.
Delete@Poster, thank God you have reversed that decision, so shall every negative thing/situation in your life be put in reverse in Jesus name.
DeleteGod is ur strenght Poster...Watever happns in life
Deletenever ever contemplate suicide. Life's full of struggle,
Getting married or job ll not stop d struggle . Troubles, hardtime,
sleepness nights et al prepare us to a higher level.
Watever rock (trouble)ur father or anyone throws, just use
as a stepping STONE.
It is well!
Thank God you're ok. With prayer and hardwork, you will surely succeed. No matter how small the job is, you can start from somewhere.... Be optimistic. God bless
DeleteThat's the spirit gurl! Go get your groove back.
DeleteMy Dearest One as I read ur post u reminded me of me some years ago and yes I had such tots too and was going through something similar to what you just stated in your post. I garduated form Uni 2007 so and take with NYSC I finish every every 2009. I got a job with IGI (una know how dis insurance jobs dey be na) so after some months I left and that was in 2009 o, so from that time till OCTOBER 2012 naim I come get one work wey dey pay me 20k ( and I don get PGD o, and even one professional degree join plus my B.A) anyways sha sha make I use that one dey commot from house naim make I take am. Den I left by january 2013 to get another degree, in d midst of the program I dey dey apply steady just as I have always been doing since 2009, d bar wey I don spend for cyber cafe and post office tins nor be here o ( and in d midst of all dis degree acquistion, I nor peace for my heart kobo kobo, infact I was loosing weight drastically ontop say I dey stay house steady o, dey sleepy like mumu except wen I get interview) Now in 2014 God Almighty, the all merciful and gracious GOD has looked down on me with mercy and has smiled on me, I just got a job where my pay Is mindblowing, I nor know the owners of the company I just got a link from a friend to submit my cv which I did, went for the interview and vuala! I'm in the office now as I write dis. My dearest one, I empathis with u but sucide aint gonna solve it, try and be strong,look up to God continously,wen u pray be specific about what u want but don't sound rude and greedy cos God nor be ur mate o. Even if uve to fast and pray pls do it cos I have since january and I'm singing a new song " I never knew that will answer me this way, that u will answer me this way, thank u JESUS" God will smile on this year concerning every area of ur life in the name of JESUS CHRIST AMEN. Be strong.
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