Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

*Deep sigh*

this one pass me abeg!.....WTF!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE. ANOTHER ONE 'BITES THE DUST'.....ADVICE NEEDED

Dear Stella,

Pls post my story because I've sent you countless emails and I'm so disturbed about my husband I need few thoughts on this issue,please. 

We've been married 3 years now but no kids yet because we know we are not ready yet.  My husband has been carefree since we g‎ot married. He constantly smells,and when he's home from work it is like he is constantly making an effort to mess our home. 

The toilets are a mess,our bedroom is also a mess,our living room etc and I'm tired of having to put the home together every single hour of the day,(we don't have a help) i work too and it is very exhausting for me. It's so bad that if the house is not cleaned in a week,its dusty and very unsightful. 

This question is for men: please how do you still find your wife attractive if all she is doing is working,cleaning the house and cooking your food. Please learn to help out at your various homes. You go out and look at young girls that have time to bleach,don't cook,wash or clean,while your wife is struggling and sweating to keep you home together without any help from you her husband. Please change. 

Sex is another issue,before we got married we were on a roller coaster of sex but now I don't even know what sex is anymore. He likes to receive head but he does not give.  All I do is fantasize about having sex with other men like my favorite celebrity. Last time we had sex which was in january,i had an infection in my throat & tongue so I never pushed it anymore because I'm not looking forward to another infection. 

You may say "why don't you talk with him?" I have, communicating with him is pointless because it always ends in a shouting match. He always takes offence to correction. Trust me I love him so much and so dearly but I am seriously considering leaving this country to start a new life with the hope of meeting someone else because this is not who I married. 

I don't blame when celebrities like uche ogbodo left her marriage while pregnant because to be honest,it is not easy to stay with a man that lies and is not all what he says he is let alone build a life with him. I want thoughts on this issue. 

*let me tie my two legs together and pretend to be a mermaid on this one.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
A CRY FOR HELP

Hello Stella,

My name is Ngozi, I am a regular visitor to your blog and must commend the excellent work you do. Especially in the area of Domestic Abuse which is an important topic in Nigeria and indeed the world at large. Keep up the good work Stella!!.
My story is very lengthy so I would summarize it to the best of my ability, please bear with me;
Nineteen years ago I married the love of my life at a very young age, managed to complete high school, attended university amidst child bearing. Blessed with the most amazing children (4) one can ask for, I thank God for mercy....before my wedding I was abused (verbally, emotionally  and physically ) many times and at a point was hospitalized because my head was broken with a bottle by the man I loved.
I stayed back hoping and praying that things will get better but instead they got worse as my husband became richer and became untouchable, he isolated me from friends and family.
Fast forward to 2010; we relocated to Canada because he insisted and promised to turn a new leaf so I believed him not understanding the dynamics of  Domestic violence. He continued in his controlling ways and even got worse as he would spit, push or throw his drinks at me in his anger in the presence of our children.
Unknowing to me he had plans, so in 2011 he returned to Nigeria and forged my signature to remove my name from all the family businesses. He carried on like nothing happened, he visits Canada and goes back to Nigeria to run our business ,on one of those visits he assaulted me badly and reported to the police that I assaulted him but the table turned on him he was arrested instead and I knew at that point that I had to leave him before he kills me so I filed for a divorce.
Now we are still in court as he claims to have lost everything we owned(properties, businesses and vehicles) because in his words" she came with nothing and she will leave with nothing". I am seeking for any organization or NGO that can assist me in anyway to prove my case, he has refused to support our children's welfare and he is in Nigeria going about his business as usual where he knows no one can touch him. 
Thank you for your time Stella, and please don't hesitate to ask me any question for further clarification and reference . Again keep up your good work...

*DEEP SIGH