NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
PARENTAL INTERFERENCE
Good day Madam Stella
I trust you are doing good?how is family and everyone around you,i must commend that you are doing a wonderful job and you have change the life of so many people through your blog,i must say i am a big fan.
I trust you are doing good?how is family and everyone around you,i must commend that you are doing a wonderful job and you have change the life of so many people through your blog,i must say i am a big fan.
I have a problem i would like you and fellow bv to give me an advice about,i never envisage this but here i am seeing myself in this situation.
I have been in a relationship with a lady for about two years now and everything seems going on well,we got on well,we are so much in love i never doubt anything is going to happen,i engaged her after about a year and she briefly met with my mum in which my mum and her spoke at length,we did every test,blood group and the rest and we are good to go until recently when my parent told me there spirit isn't in sync with my fiancée that they prayed about us and its being negative,i was dazed,i didn't know what to do,they threatened me to leave the girl,i kept asking myself why now?why after this long?
I can tell you for free that i have being selfish about this lady,she practically live her life for me,she trusted me and gave me all her world,we have shared the deepest secrets ever,leaving her isnt an option for me but my parent are on my neck,she is what keep me going vice versa,i cant do a day without her,there are so many things we shared that i might have even forgotten to write but i need a counselling, i am losing it,i feel like eloping with her.
I feel like my parent should wake up one day and tell me you can go on with her but right now its not looking that way,i'm depressed, shattered, lost weight, hate this world,hate the fact that they are taking my happiness from me,ma what should i do before i lose my sanity.
N.B Please i am sorry for my typos,i was crying while typing this and i didnt proof read.
I am too dazed to even think!
OMG. This narrative just spoiled my mood.
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Awwww...I'd advice u go ahead and marry her,im not really a fan of some parent telling their kids bout their spirit not being in sync wv their spouse and bla bla bla...some of them are just so superstitious to a fault...“But” then often times,this our said parents are 80% right when they see some of this stuffs...My dear just thread carefully and pray bout it
DeleteIts not the end of the world.
DeleteHave a chat with your parents, then take them to MFM for deliverance. That revelation they got maybe from a human devil.
How old is this poster? Parents know who they can try it with sha. It looks like they have some control over the poster.
DeleteAll these so called parents and their talk. Wow, this is crap.This story reminds me of my friend, a vivid reader of this blog (I pr ay she doesn't see this) a very decent girl, she recently got dumped again by her boyfriend because his parents said they shouldn't get married because she was born and raised Catholic and he is a pentecostal. When she told me I was so flipping angry, I pitied her because she was so devastated. I told her to move on, but shez stil very bitter. Its sad we have such fake useles parents in this world, taking it upon themselves and judging others like deyr God. Endtime is coming and each of us wuld answer.
DeleteTake heart poster. *hugs*
@Poster..U are still a "shidren"..Na ur parents dey feed u? Grow up and marry d woman of ur choice.
DeleteMy dear, cheer up, they would eventually agree but give them time. When they see u are standing ur ground, and u no longer relate with them like u used to, they will have no choice like they used to. Also give them space, cos Parents try to ride children that depend on them, and keeping acting like kids around them.
DeleteThen u and ur wife should go to see sound Pastors for prayers, just incase, there's something you need to rectify. U can both go to Mountain of Fire (MFM) for deliverance prayers just for spiritual overhaul.
My cousin brought a man home, her father said no, after 7 years of rejecting richer suitors, and she kept dating the man, her father agreed oh. Today they are married with 2 children
Sorry to deviate. The poster that sent the agbero and undergraduate story, is there a way you can get the agbero? Would really love to help him get into school and a menial job he can do. Was really touched by that story
DeleteAll I have to say is....what an elder sees while seated, a child can never see it even if he mounts an iroko tree. No parent would want to be a joy killer for their child, NONE. If reverse were the case she would prolly feel same. However, they say love conquers all things. In your own case I wish, hope, and pray that love prevails.
DeleteIbu nno ewu. Hw old are you sef? Ur waiting for ur parents to give u go ahead to marry. Itozuro eziokwu. Biko Stell dont vex me with this stupid narratives again o. I left my reading to see hw far SDK then this rubbish. First its those girls that have no home training on kcee's page, nw this! Oginidi! Stella biko check urself o.
DeleteDan, I hope this is not you posting this? If U r the one, pls understand that U must not mortgage ur happiness on unfounded theories... Pray to God for U to stand on ur feet as a man, the only reason why they can confidently call the shots is because U're still dependent on them. I wish U all the best as U go to Almighty God in prayers. God will show his supremacy.
DeleteCan confidently tell you that at the end of the day, parents are always right...
DeleteEEEYA PELE
ReplyDeletematters of the heart i can understand...
but this one wey dem say No'' even if you go on or end up marrying her wahala go burst out oo i know what am saying.
pele stop crying *hands u handkerchief*
Why are we xtians? Why do we pray? Why can't you guys get married? Let them tell you the reasons.I hope your parents don't go to all this white garment church? My dear, this is a dicey one but I believe so much in prayers, pray and fast, seek Gods face, God will guide you.
DeleteOur parents are not always right, trust me.
Whirlwind
Op find out why parents feel this way about this lady. i.e their true motive. Nor follow them argue oh just have a heart to heart talk with them. If you have aunty/uncle you respect try to get them to talk to your parents on your behalf. If their reason is flimsy like tribe, profession, educational qualification et just move on with your life - they will get around with time.
DeleteIf its something of a more spiritual nature which they seem convinced about, then please let it go.
What I have come to realise is that at times, some spiritually inclined folks usually have issues with the background their in law to be comes from...not necessarily with the girl herself per say. They may have digged deep into her family background and found her not qualified.
DeleteMy dear, just follow your heart. Simple
ReplyDeletemy advice to you if u truly lv dis chick as u have said is to give d marriage time. don't fink abt ur parents they have lived their lives but den wisdom is key. during dis time pls get rily close to God. fast. pray day and nite u don't nid a pastor to do all dis. God will reveal all to you.
ReplyDeletewhat reason did de give 2 you?oya nw,u sef move,u can visit a pastor urself coupled with prayer and fasting,plz dont cry
DeleteBest advice...Poster please heed this advice
DeleteDear poster, I feel for you. I'm too emosh right now to even advice you, coming from a guy makes ds even harder to brk down. Pray harder hon, if she's truly yours trust me, nothing will stop dat from happening.
DeleteHummmm follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, elope with her!!
ReplyDeleteD excuse z just that theis spirit isn't "in sync"?
I don gerrit?
On a second thought tho, honestly I wouldn't know what do to if I were you.
I just said a prayer for you.
God will make a way for you.
Take it easy.
Follow your hrt. U are d one dat wuld live with her and not them. So long they aren't the ones footing your bills, just follow your hrt.
ReplyDeleteI keep telling people, if u give ur parents too much hand while growing up, they would think they have d right to control every aspect of ur life. My parents know they can't even try to do such with me cos I'm neither a mummy or daddy's boy and they know I have a mind of my own, Poster, pls do whatever makes u happy, as long as u know for sure that u guys are in love. If they don't want to come to ur wedding, fine, let them sit in their house on dat day. They will be d ones to come begging later and be ready to protect that woman from their wahala, as long as they don't accept her, they shouldn't come to ur house, be the one to go to them. Forget that honour thy mother and thy father in d bible cos I'm sure it doesn't apply to every situation or if they ask u to steal, would u cos the bible said we should honour them?
DeletePoster, i really dont know, a friend of mine had same issue. Maybe u should try to convince them or something. Things like this are so deep. wish you the best.
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my dear, prayer is the key. Pray to God and then follow your heart. Not easy at all when parents says no to fiancees. They might see what you are not seeing. Do midnight prayer and let God give you the answer.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteWetin old see wen he siddon on top tree even if u tall 8ft tall or climb d highest stool u can't see,now u r all love n shiii....but jst be wise,,well I think u shud sit n talk to ur parents n if dey insist my dear move on! d future dat matters
ReplyDeleteAbeg,makw I hear word jare!!! Some of these oldies think being old automatically gives them wisdom.In as much as we should try to respect our parents,we should also know when to apply wisdom.Some parents must have something against whoever you choose to marry,they must find something to say.Some just think their son is too good to marry the lady.My dear poster,as long as you're ok with this girl and you both are compartible..abeg carry go!!! Just seek for God's blessings first. Daz all!!
DeleteAnd what if they just said it 4 their own selfish reason???? Some parent like making decisions for their children which is not good at times.
DeleteThis is not good at all, just follow your heart poster. www.alabekee.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteAnyone dat takes my name or my future wife's name to any prophet,may holy ghost fire roast all of dem
ReplyDeleteHahahaaa...seriously can't deal!!! how on earth some peeps would b that gullible...prophet ko
DeleteAmeeeeeeeen!!!
DeleteTaa shut up!
DeleteThese your curses these days, na die!
DeleteYou dey swear for your parents and family members ba? I pity you
DeleteThe story almost made me shed tears.
ReplyDeleteKinda afraid the same might not happen to me, though it’s different.
Imagine my parents saying I must marry a catholic? We’ll segregate inside Christianity again!
God dey. I ready to fight am.
My parents said same to me, i didnt listen and now i dey hear am for my hubby house. Church matter na die.
DeleteIn fact this catholic and pentecostal thing is absurd. Even within the christiandom some families still practice segregation? So what would we say to the Muslim brethren that refuses to marry a girl cos she's a Christian? No wonder we are suffering gross religious discrimination in Nigeria as a country. Little wonder
DeleteMy dear God has a way of doing things, meet with him, talk to him and c his response, the heart of a king (your parents) are in his hand, he can turn it to favour you.
ReplyDeleteThat it easy biko.
What are you babbling on about,did you read the story at all???
DeleteLyn lyn, nelly is only saying she should talk to God abt it!!!
Delete**sideeyes**
Bruv, I have been in your shoes before. Sometimes I wish I could turn back the hands of time and correct all my mistakes.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, even though my life may look like it is golden now, I honestly regret my actions.
Accordingly, I will recommend that If you truly love your partner and you are willing to face the music, stick by her. This MAY BE your only test of faith vis. faithfulness to her/God.
I have discovered that sometimes parents decide to reject a proposed partner when they harbor the fear of losing their child... some parent just want to be in control by by fire by force.
Please check their motive.... seek God's guidance and all will be well.
Lastly, when you make your decision, don't look back.... the grass is never greener on the other side.
Gbam!!!
DeleteGbam....dats my Mother inlaw for u. the woman can lie just to be in control. She does not like me because she has not been able to control me and the light of Christ in me has shone on her son.
Deleteshe has done everything possible physically n spiritually to seperate us but God is always several steps ahead of her.
We have met in the dream world and she knows im untouchable because God's hedge of fire is around me n my family....she has tied down her son's glory, wanting him to be under her control and asking her for money but as long as God of Elijah is on the throne, her disgrace n shame is very near if she does not stop....
Nobody shld abuse me because nobody told me all dis, God himself revealed all these to me and there were confirmations, i loved this woman at the initial stage of my marriage but later discovered she is my frenemy...we are very cordial to each other in the physical but we both know all na wash in the spiritual.
at poster, someone close to me had a bad revelation abt a couple of weeks to their marriage, that the groom was going to die untimely death, a kinda curse from the bride's side. the groom's parents are strong christians, dey didnt cancel the marriage, rather, they sent the couple to MFM for 1 week of deliverance while the bride n groom parents were interceding in prayers with fasting....the curse was broken and they are happily together.
The main reason God gives us revelation is to pray abt it cus He God is ready to do something abt wat He shows to us and He wants us to give Him a legal permission to do it.
Take ur madam to MFM Camp ground, go on sunday evening, get seperate hostels, and register for d deliverance session : monday to friday.....u will do dry fast, from monday to wednesday, u can only break on wednesday afternoon....plus midnite prayers n alll
even without ur parents seeing anything, u n ur madam shld do this to clear any generational curse or jagbanjanti that might be attached to either of u because u are about to start a new life...
I pray d grace of God on u as u take the step to commit ur life into His hands....
MAY GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS COMMENT!!!!. Will send Stella my story in a bit! I have never left comment on here. @Poster.....Precisely 10 Year Ago, I was in your shoes, all was fine...until my parents decided he wan't good enough(as in from a poor family)....Poster, If you have a conviction in your heart that she is the ONE and couldn't find GENUINE REASONS why your parents disagreed....(My advice ) Carry on! Mind you, the journey might be difficult( I was disowned and emotionally blackmailed)! 10 years Down the lane....I am GLAD I DID!!!!!! Omo ti ko niran ojosi.... God has blessed my husband and I beyond our imagination! My parents are practically begging us to "re-do" our wedding! It was HELL going through it. But it's worth it!!!. Speak to few reasonable family members, who could talk to them...and in everything DO NOT LET GO OF GOD!!!
DeleteThis is a tough one.
ReplyDeleteNa waa. O. Pls my dear think hard b4 u take a decision. Our parents don't know as much as they think. Which one is "spirit is not in sync" again kwa. Kai
ReplyDeleteMy dear I understand you fully well but I will. Also remind you of a Yoruba adage that says WAT AN ELDER PERSON SEE WHILE SITTING DOWN CAN NEVER BE SEEN BY A CHILD WHILE STANDING .hmmmmm oro agba bi o ba se lowuro ...,,,,,,,,,,,
ReplyDeleteDats how my ex's family especially his mum destroyed our relationship. According to the sister who was my frnd, they were afraid dat me being a lawyer wud nt enable them 'control' me. Imagine cowards? Smh #thefearofafemalelawyer
ReplyDeleteI don't get this, what spirit???!!!!….What spirit??!!..What are they talking about? Let them know you truly love her, don't fight them.
ReplyDeleteI tell people this, you have been given the power over aLl things. Just go down on your knees and pray to God to show you which way to go.
ReplyDeleteMy bro, don't rush anything, don't even think about eloping with her...what your parents see or might have heard you don't know.
ReplyDeleteIf you guys are meant to be you will definitely end up together.
Talk to your parents...see things from there perspective..educate them about your woman, they might have a change of heart.
Above all pray to God, Let God's will prevail..it is better to have a failed relationship that to have a failed marriage
Its you getting married to her not your parents. If you love her that much,please continue with your wedding. All she needs to do is put on extra efforts to make your parents spirit sync with her. Trust me,if after all this you call it off,it'll hunt you 4ever. So just go ahead,when your parents see how much you guys adore each other,their spirit must sync.
ReplyDeleteCALL THEM OVER TO YOUR PLACE IF YOU DONT LIVE WITH THEM. PACK ALL YOUR BAGS AND PLACE THEM WHERE THEY WILL SEE YOU ARE READY AND SERIOUS TO ELOPE.
ReplyDeleteTELL THEM THAT THEY WONT BE HEARING FROM YOU IN A WHILE AS YOU WILL BE BUSY.
BE VERY SERIOUS, LIKE YOU ARE MOVING TO ANOTHER STATE. TEL THEM YOU HAVE HEARD AND YOU HAVE BROKEN HER HEART AND YOURS IN THE PROCESS OF PLEASING THEM. LET THEM REALISE, YOU CAN UP AND LEAVE ANYTIME, WIFEY OR NOT.
ALSO TELL THEM, YOU MAY DO A REGISTRY MARRIAGE WITH ANYONE YOU SEE, SO THAT NEXT TIME THEY WONT HAVE THE CHANCE TO BLACKMAIL YOU EMOTIONALLY TO CHOOSE BETWEEN YOUR PARENTS AND WIFE TO BE.
IGNORE ALL THREATS TO CURSE IF YOU LEAVE. TELL THEM THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL LISTEN IS IF THEY GIVE YOU A MORE CONCRETE REASON FOR DISLIKING HER ASIDES A SENTIMENTAL HUNCH.
This is very sad. Why do u parents have so much hold on you? U are old enough to make decisions for yourself. I don't kw the reason behind your parents rejection,talk to them if it dosent work and u seriously love this woman. Pls marry her. All the best
ReplyDeleteMamas knows best, just think, think, thin please.
ReplyDeleteIt happend in my family too..my mum stood her ground dat my bro wil NEVA get married 2 his wife.it was war I must Tel u. For years it was a battle field. D whole fam "me"inclusive, I did al I cud 2 frustrate d lady bcus of my mum. Bt @ d end, dey ar hapy nw wit 3 stubborn boiz wit my mum doin d last {omugwuo}
ReplyDeleteAnd u aren't ashamed to say it, foolish girl
DeleteAnd u aren't ashamed to say it, foolish girl
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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My dear, same tin happen to me some months ago....our relationship couldnt stand the test n all even after introduction....my fiance mother kept calling my mum n threatening her aswell....it wasn't easy Sha....still single n sad about the whole episode but am strong....will surely smile someday thinking about it....just be strong n be prayerful....i really can't tell u wat to do...may God c u thru.....May
ReplyDeleteIt's well dear..God has a special package for you..just trust him
DeleteListen to your parents pls.it is well.
ReplyDeleteEvery Parent wants the best for their children but sometimes their judgment might be clouded. I can only speak with regards to my parents.
ReplyDeletesome guy wanted to marry me some few years back and my mother refused, she didn't give me a reason as such she just didn't like him, well that wasn't sufficient enough for me, but after a while she saw I wasn't buying it. My mum went on to investigate his family and the findings wasn't good and she also pointed out a few thing about his character which I started observing too and with prayers God liberated me from him.
Anyway when I met my husband now she ones again didn't approve but her reasons this time around wasn't good enough for me and when I asked her to investigate his family, she got NO negative comment and this time around she saw i wasn't backing down because I prayed so much and did my own research about him and his family. I can tell you now that she says he is her best in law of all my other siblings husbands.
So I advice you to pray about it and ask God to reveal anything that you cannot see, secondly it is always good to ask around, investigate her family and her too.
Goodluck and God Bless
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This is very tricky. It has happened to me. I followed my parents though..... after praying and crying
ReplyDeleteThere are two sides to this kind of story.
1. Your parents are seeing what you cant see and they are warning you before hand.
2. Your parents are just being biased without any tangible reason
It is risky because if you go ahead to marry her, and if any misfortune occurs, they will say "we told you". Apart from that, she may easily have problems with them. Most of the time, whether what they see is genuine or not, their reasons would never make sense to you.
It is a very very very very painful situation.
I cant even advise you on what to do
Anyways, talk with your parents and consult your real guys. They may have a valid input too. At least, it is good you talk to people that are not family too.
Good luck
Damn!!!..your pishure fine die
DeleteNice response though
Hahahahahahahaha Badt pussylicious. Lol @ur picture fine die
DeleteAs you resemble devil so person still marry you? Choi! some women dey suffer o
DeleteDid they tell you what they saw? If you marry her without their consent, there may not be any consequence on your side, but I feel for the girl. If inlaws don't want you, they may do all in their power to frustrate the marriage. Maybe you need to give yourselves sometime to pray about this. Who knows, something may change within the period. May God give your the wisdom to handle this issue. Rose
ReplyDeleteI really don't know what else to say but to advise you on prayers.. Pray that God should show you himself God communicates with everyone then politely ask your parents to tell you the actual reasons..they may be right or wrong but then ask God to guide your decision making
ReplyDeletePls go to ur mom n dad Wit ur girl and kinda tey and explain to them that u two love eafh other....
ReplyDeleteIf they dont come around After den,pls bruv follow ur heart.
Inukwa! All of a sudden dey woke up and realized deir spirit arent in sync wit ur babe...
As in?? Should deir spirit sef be in sync with hers???
ARE dey the ones going to marry d babe?
Póster u sef,u come dey cry.u be mama's Boy o!
On a serious note,pls follow ya heart.
Its not as if dey even have any Reasons whatsoever.Ha....
Wishing u a very happy life wit ur Boo!
*pls go to ur parents in love.no gra-gra,ok?
That's the mistake parents make.. They go about telling their sons who they would be married to like they are going to love with the wife. The man is the person to live with whom ever he chooses. That's why their are many bad marriages and sad tales. Because this same men were forced to give up the love of their lives and later settled for anything available..
DeleteParents back off.
Let your kids make their choice
Let them live with the joy or mistake they brought on themselves
Most of these parents just want someone they can manipulate and control. Once they see that wouldn't come from you,they start forming stories that touch the vagina
I'm 32 yrs old. My bf of 5 months just told me its over because 4 prophets told him if we get married, the marriage won't last. My mind told me its a lie. But I'm tired to even pursue it. Its painful because I don't even know where to start from. So I understand your plight poster. If 5 months feels like this what about 2 yrs with so much love too. I don't know what to say to u but let the will of God be done. I keep asking myself why I had to go through so much pains.
ReplyDeleteBut I know that its well. I wish u d very best poster, God will guide u aright.
Don't worry dear..God never sleeps..
DeleteThe person who wouldn't tell you plenty stories is coming. That one that would love and cherish you is on his way. Just hold on a little
DeleteI really don't know why this life is so hard. What some get so easily, some people suffer to get it. Well, God knows best
ReplyDeleteEveryone is on a different journey, Palominogeh. Hang in there and don't stop believing that God loves u.
DeleteMy dear palomino , life is like that. Me, I even have husband and children but no money, I'm sad, depressed. Looking for jobs endlessly and not finding one, everything is a struggle but I just thank God nevertheless, one day, fortunes will smile on us
DeleteHmmm....my hubby's family disowned him when he wants to marry me,bcos they want him to marry a girl of their choice, some said bcos I know too much. Some went for other people's wedding on the day of our wedding and some didn't attend. But today, they are saying "thank God our son/brother did not listen to us" cos I've proved them wrong. Just follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteMy Dear our parents at times can go extra mile to check our spouse. i mean extra mile i.e juju, spiritual pastor,prophet etc but they wont tell you. Anyway just give the girl belle first. when the belle don germinate they will change their mind
ReplyDeleteWow...there's nothing that can't be revealed to us as God's children. if you can fast and pray to seek God's face. I had a similar issue but from day one I stood behind my fiance. I have never brought anyone to my parents so my dad knew that I must be convinced to introduce him to the family. But of course my parents gave him plenty warning and said hope he wasn't around me to play. Well he proposed a few days later after meeting them. My mom would have wanted me to marry from our tribe but there is something my dad told my fiance that there are only two kinds of people in the world :good people and bad people, that race, religion etc doesn't matter. Somehow my mom accepted him as her son and we are preparing now for our wedding. The fact that we are both catholics helped too.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is take some time to meditate and allow God speak. I hope ur parents don't have one family friend's daughter they have been disturbing you to date though. Parents blessings are necessary for marriage, it would have been nice if you had one parent too. Try to talk to whichever parent you are closer to so as to get the reason for their decision.
Goodluck!
Sorry I meant it would have been nice if you had one parent on ur side at least
DeleteThis is a tough one. Have you prayed about it? If you have not then you need to start asap. Leave visiting any pastor, prophet or wolli & prayerfully seek the face of God yourself & He will reveal the secret things to you.
ReplyDeleteFor your sake I hope their reasons are for sentimental reasons only.
The heart will always want what the heart wants.
You are in my prayers, dry your eyes for at the end of the day, God will make everything beautiful in His time. It is well.
Do not rush into marriage but rather give it some time to study her more and perhaps you might see reasons why your parents are objecting the union, if there are though.
ReplyDeleteI wanna believe that your parents have your best interest in mind and wouldn't want to jeopardise your happiness.
It might be that your parents forsee a future where you may be overly dependent on this your wife that it affects other areas of your life or could it be that they have someone else in mind for you to marry?
Try to discuss it with your pastor and hold fervent prayers so that God can direct you on what to do. It is well
Ur parents are on point.
ReplyDeleteThere must be a reason behind there decision.
My mother checked every suitor that came for my hand in marriage...my hubby passed the test....he was rich,kindhearted,I would outlive him and inherit everything unlike others that had badluck.My mum checked for my sisters and it wasn't good,she told them they refused and went ahead with d marriage and now they are do miserable in their marriages.
Guy,listen to Ur parents and stop belly aching over this ish.
She isn't Ur wife!!
U really need to get ur head checked or better still get a cooling fan for ur ever hot brain.... You alwys try to be funny wen dere r srz issues to discuss or could ur life be dis hillarious??? Abeg park well!!! Have never replied u b4 cos u crack me up but dis is a srz ish and wot you spilled really got to me. Kmt
DeleteHmmmmmm Ezenwanyi igidigi!!!!!
DeleteIbiakwa!
Kai! NO WONDER!
DeleteI pity ur children inlaw.
Aha! Ezenwanyi...
DeleteSometimes I read ur comment and pause to wonder if you are for real.
Lol @ outlive him n inherit everything.
Ezewanyi on point.i love you please marry me.
DeleteLmao @I would outlive him nd inherit everything! ! Hahaha
DeleteEzenwanyi oo chai u won't kill person here...but ur mom toh bad oo....kikikikiki
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DeleteSo those were ur parents' criteria for deciding who would make u a good husband? Smh
DeleteHehehhehehheehe....Ezemwanyii na small winsh before naa.... Una just de know?
DeleteI love Ezenwanyi, see me passing time in the airport and just scrolling through comments and then I started laughing out so loud. These people looking at me like 'this black girl don kolo", not knowing that Ezenwanyi is the causer! Osalobua!!!
DeleteWhy won't this stupid ezewanyi come here and vomit rubbish when idiots here will be hailing her.... Stupid idiot, keep your sick comments to yourself.... Ple have real issues and don't need advice from sick minds who need hospitalisation...
Delete@3;34,what makes U think I was joking???see how ur body just dey pepper u,are U d forbidden bride???
DeleteI checked my daughter's husband as soon he asked for her hand in marriage and he was a perfect match..for as long as he liveth,he will always put her needs before his.
There are some families under curses,early death,madness......U make check and make enquiries to avoid stories that stories that touch and make d eyes misty.
10; 45,what other criteria could be more important???love???keep shaking ur empty head till it falls off inugo.
DeleteI like my brain d way it is biko . It's U who needs to check Urs.
DeleteThis is chewing gum story and not serious at all.Some of U lack deep understanding of d spiritual....let him go ahead and marry...go to mfm oo....ori oke ooo.......he is just wasting his time cos there are some families U just dont enter but U wouldn't understand bcos U breath through Ur anus.
JayeEm my personal person,how U dey??
DeleteBloglord,small ke???no dey downgrade me biko.
DeleteAbum akataka amosu!!
Bwahahahaha......dem still be learners. Bwahahahaha.....
@Viva and Ammy,dont we all wish to outlive them and inherit everything???my mother made sure I married smart oo.....infact I carry calculator enter marriage sef.
DeleteMy mother told me @my young age what I was getting into...marriage is warfare...and that U need ur head and not emotions to win and I ve been winning over d years.
My husband is a billionaire,and once U are married to one,Ur live Ur live for others...Ur husband becomes a god cos of famzers who tell him he can do no wrong...then d woman becomes insecured,always smilling and pleasing everyone so d husband does not send her away or marry another wife..My own case is different,I call d shots,I decide when my husband is happy,sad etc etc....if I ask him to jump,he ask how high.
Mg mother also told me that in marriage,one person works harder to carry d two,in her marriage she did,in mine my husband does and it suits me just fine.
Ammy and Viva sorry for d epistle jare...hope U guys are good???
Ugly and accursed,won fe tie!!!aja to ba sonu on gbo fere ode.
DeleteStay on Ur lane!!!
Bibian,what is fetish???Abosidawapo oshi.
There is nothing wrong in Ezewanyi's comments,I dont know why people come to blogs to form what they are not.
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DeleteI understand you dont elope with her fast and pray about it.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, ur parents don't want her, hmm my sincere advise let her be. Just talk things over with her. This is Africa. If u go ahead and marry her, can ur faith in Jesus carry u? There are some challenges that comes up in marriage that leaves one speechless at times. I know what am saying. Don't want to go further but may had I known never be our portion in Jesus name amen. Good luck.
ReplyDeletecrossroad mehn....
ReplyDeletesometimes parents could be very right, sometimes their own they their body.
poster, chai! you sound like a very good man who values women.
I would advice you to go on a 3-day 6 to 6 fasting. first and foremost ask God to forgive you all your sins and hear your cry and answer you. commune with God and let HIM know the dilemma you are in.
am sure after the 3 days, your mind will be at peace with whatever decision you make because the Holy spirit will guide you.
If truly there is anything about your fiancé, it will be revealed for God works in mysterious ways
Honour your father and mother,that's what the holy book says.
DeleteHonour indeed.... If your parents are manipulating you for their own selfish reasons then u go ahead and honour them abi? If their reason is genuine they will tell you and give u reasons why but u can't just say your spirit is not in sync just like that....
DeleteIt is not quarrel matter please.
DeleteI experienced same thing, their reason was that I came from from a broken home.These are the people that don't even know if their son dey sleep for bush for Abuja. Thank God for my hubby who stuck to his gun. Our trad wedding was councelled. But my hubby no gree o, at some point I started begging him to let me go but he refused o we went ahead and did our court marriage and God has blessed us with a cute baby boy. Now my MIL wey been carry the whole thing for head no fit stay for one week without calling me. So my dear if you truly love her go ahead biko. Later ur parents will accept her. Mind u its not gonna be easy o, but God will give u the strength to withstand the heat. Love conquers all.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,if u truly love her n willing to spend the rest of your life with her,go ahead and marry her..if u pray about it and u are convinced dat she is d one den follow ur heart with time,they will accept ur decision.
ReplyDeleteHave you prayed? Please ask God wsup and he'll put you through....fast and pray, seek for answers in God, only God will give you the best counselling cause he is the perfect one!
ReplyDeletequit crying and being blue...HE sees your misery he'll make you smile
poster it is well, wish you all the best!
This is a tough one. May God make a way for u.
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Poster u av to pray about this oo, cos some parent use d power of am d mother/father that what my anty told his son 2 dump his ex-finacee cos d gal is light in complexion that different pastor told her that she's mermaid and other things sha. That how my anty son come marry another lady .My anty is regretting it now cos her son life is ruin
ReplyDeleteFirst, let your parents explain to you why their spirit didn't sync with the girl so you don't make mistakes. Pray and fast if the marriage is from above, you will surely be together. Good luck and I pray that God assist you with divine wisdom to tackle this.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm, I feel ur pain n desperation. I'll advice u talk to ur mum, let her know how u feel about d girl n why u realy want to marry her. Den talk to ur father in heaven to soften their hearts n make them reason wit u. I pray God grant ur heart desire IJN Amen.
ReplyDeletePlease pray , like u've never done b4. This is an issue of a life time. Ur parents will not b in it with u. Theirs is to pray for u. And if they've bn doing that, if she's not for u, the break up wld come without any coercion . So dear poster pray. God will surely come thru if u seek His face. All d best.
ReplyDeleteSame thing my in laws did to my husband. They had a candidate for him. Instead of saying that to him in plain words they toed the path of posters parents.
ReplyDeleteThey said I was a bad person and was no good for him. Thank God my husband knew me in and out. He insisted that it was either Me or nothing. Then it got to blackmail. He was asked to choose between me and them. My husband chose me over his parents.
When all of the drama was going on my husband carefully shielded me. He changed my phone number so his parents couldn't contact me and he said he was changing my number because of toasters.
On our wedding morning he came to see me and opened up to me. That his parents won't be attending our wedding. I was shocked but we went on with the plan. Today we are married for 13 years now and I can't stop asking him what gave him the mind to do that because even as much as I loved him then I don't think I'd have had the mind to choose him over my parents.
Poster be a man and follow your heart. As long as God is involved nothing will go wrong.
Please pray , like u've never done b4. This is an issue of a life time. Ur parents will not b in it with u. Theirs is to pray for u. And if they've bn doing that, if she's not for u, the break up wld come without any coercion . So dear poster pray. God will surely come thru if u seek His face. All d best.
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Ur parents v lived dia lives so live urs....is ur cross,wateva happens along d way (I pray it doesn't) u kw uv tried ur best....pray hard n if u v a pastor seek fr hlp....hope ur parents r nt fetish so dey won't harm d gal jst to prove a point leta sha...
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parents are imperfect too so it is not all the time that they are right...stop all this "what elders see from the top BS...ask your parents what their problem is and if it is not reasonable, pls marry the babe..KMT...learn to be a man and stand up for yourself..u are not marrying your parents but the woman
ReplyDeleteStop crying and pray Man!! Go to ur master planner and pour out ur heart to him, confide in him and hear from him, ask him for his wisdom and revelation! It is well with u.
ReplyDeleteTry to find out exactly why your parents don't want you to marry her, it's more than that excuse about their spirit not in sync with hers. It could be something more serious. they must have gone to investigate her background and found out some deep truths, could be what she had done or her family history or lineage and they are afraid you will blindly discarding it if they tell you, cos love truly dulls our senses of reasoning. what if she is a danger to u and they just can't tell u. You have to be prayerful and take this serious. It could also be mere dislike, maybe the way she dresses, and such trivial things. Act as if you are open minded and willing to listen to their advice and your parents will open up to you. have friends that had to abandon more than 6yrs faithful and loving relationships because of such issues. Do your part so u take the right decision. Family is so important in every marriage cause they are the once that stand by use in all situations.
ReplyDeleteAm in the same shoe. My bf is the only son and the mum is scared I will take him away. Am not the first woman he took home, her excuses are filmsy, it either she is fat, short or too quiet or might be sturborn. My dear the reason she saw is , the brother married someone from my mum side and didn't give birth and was sturborn so the son cnt marry me. I cry and beg tire, she say noo. I wish my man can fight for our love. He is controlled by his family
ReplyDeleteThen carry belle for ur guy na.. Prove u can give birth.. End of story
DeletePOSTER! Lemme comment..
ReplyDeleteMy grandmother told my mother the first day she saw my mum's bf then o like 36yrs ago that this boy u are following ehn my spirit doesnt go with him...lemme remind u that my grandma isnt even the 'tojubole' or 'pastor-check-for-me-type'..may I reveal to u that my mum didnt enjoy that her marriage cos she was drunk-in-love then o..my dad died a i-cant-say-it-out death...still gives me sleepless nights till now...my mum wished she listened to her mum some 36yrs ago...Poster! LISten to ur parents, after God nah them! bye
Please let her know what is going on so she doesn't feel left out, then the both of you should go for prayers along with your parents maybe that might change their minds.
ReplyDeletePoster pray and fast about it also. Ask your parents what the real reason are? If you marry this lady by fire, by force and have no children after or she turns to be worse than what your parent say, are you ready to live it out? If you don't marry her and you never find someone as good and compatible as her, would you survive?
ReplyDeleteHonour your parents and please listen to them. It will be painful now, but you will thank them later. Same thing happened to my elder sister, thank God she left him. The guy got married to someone else and died less than a year later. Please, be careful o
ReplyDeleteDearie wen trouble sweep u up ur feet,kneel and talk to ur God,for many kneeling will make u stand up right
ReplyDeletePoster, Where did you put your God? Pray Pray Pray about it yourself, ask God to reveal everything to you before taking any decision either marrying with or pleasing your wihes.
ReplyDeleteI will also advice you to ask your parent the core reason why you shouldn't marry the lady, let them table everything to you and also ask your parent that if your their daughter (your sister, if you have one)find herself in the same situation, what would they do as a parents?
Ask your fiancee to also pray very well regarding your union and ask her some deep question regarding your future.
All this crying you're doing needs to be done to God, you'll be surprised of how much he can reveal to you plainly without any interpretation.
I pray that God will give you the wisdom on what to do.
Stay blessed.
Bb
Sometimes parents kw wat they see before they talk especially when it has to with their children's spouses.. tread carefully
ReplyDeleteCalm down.
ReplyDeleteYou need to let them know that you are not going ahead with her.
Push her a bit behind the scene. Then some times down the line, re generate and resell her to them.
Always show au much she cares for you. Tell them how much money you are oweing her and she has never disturbed you. Paint fictitous scenario of how she is a life safer in several instances and pretend as if all that does not get to you.
With time, they will throw in the towel.
Don't marry her into the family when she is still rejected. If you give birth to a son and die tommorow, you will do her more harm than good.
OP, your parents did not see anything. That is the way of groom's parents, always never letting go of their son and never thinking of the girl in question.
ReplyDeleteIt is all up to you. You want to be a daddy/mummy's boy and be all obedient and good-boyish, do that.
But if you are already at a marrying age, then you are man enough to make your own choices.
Meanwhile, I pity for the wife-to-be, she's in trouble if she marries you. Na headache and heartache them go take finish am.
This narrative just hurt my heart because I know all to well what it's like to invest your time, energy and love into someone then it's all torn apart by family or tribalistic stuff.
ReplyDeleteI've been there. My ex and I split up because he could not commit and his family want him to marry from his own tribe.. That's after two and a half years of us dating... We were so happy, well at least I thought we were until he told me how his family feel.
My whole world crumbled but I drew strength from God, family and friends.
Fast forward six months later, I am now with an incredible man who loves me and accepts me exactly how I am.
I don't know how to advice you because your case is a bit different because you're willing and ready to fight for your woman so my advice is to do just that... Do your own praying, consult God and your pastor and if your spirit tells you to go ahead and marry her then do that!
No offence to your parents but I'm pretty sure nobody stood in their way when they wanted to get married so they should give you the same love, respect and consideration.
The bible even tells you that a man should leave his parents house and live peacefully in his house.
Yes we must respect and listen to our parents but we must remember that there is only one God. He is the Alpha and Omega.. HE has the final say so if it is well in your soul.. Do right by her and marry her or let her go find someone else.
My dear brother, if you know you're not ready to fight and go against your family.. Let her go. That's what love is.. Doing what's best for the one you love.
I will put you in my prayers becaus I see myself in your story.
God is in control.... Leave it all unto him.
Love and blessings to you
Xx
Please go ahead with your love, stand with your woman and you guys should be prayerful, its well with you. Wish my fiance stood by me when his mum insisted we couldn't do court wedding because they didn't know me well, meanwhile I was pregnant, called their bullshit and cancelled the whole preparations and thank God I did because it opened my eyes to a lot of things. We are still in the process but am taking my time as she has even given us till year end to decide want we want to do....you can imagine. please go with your heart and ask for God's guidance. Its well with you.
ReplyDeleteI jus wonder y parents won't let d younger generations b.so far there is a God,and we believe in him,y won't dey jus live everything to him?dis same thing happened to me.my ex left even after introduction. Bcos his father who has not bn in his life told him not to marry me dat am an outcast (osu.something that happened some 300-500 yrs ago o)I have not even seen dis his father for once and he has not seen me.his father has even remarried since he left d mother,and d mother had another child for someone else.his father threatened 2 disown him and he gave up on us.I cried,prayed,fasted,lost weight, and I thank God cus I think he is trying to save me from a family dat is broken from d root sef.cus I even lost my baby...although have not recovered from it all cus it happened 4mths ago,and am not in any relationship now,am stronger now.and I know God is settling me soonest with my hrt desires.
ReplyDeleteI will try not to be sentimental with this post,my people says that what an old sitdown and see even if a child climbs an iroko tree he will not see it, this is a girl they once accepted, so why the change of mind now! My dear something is wrong, either spiritually or physically,wake them up as early as 2am,go on knees and ask them to open up to you cause sincerely our parents wants the best for us and they are sometimes they are the angels God uses to order our step, I know you love the girl and you two have shared a lot but let me give u a short story,a cousin of mine brought a guy home she has been dating for like four years,she introduced him,her parents and the guy gisted and he left,later her mum told her she can't marry the guy cause the marriage will be full of pains and regret,her dad talked to her she refused,her siblings talked to her she refused,her family became her enemies,infact she ended up calling her mum a witche and her siblings enemies of progress, people had to intervene,beging her parents to let her be,they had no choice but give her go ahead, ohhhhh they did the wedding everybody chop rice and chop that, my dear just 3month after the wedding trouble started the marriage has bin like poison,the guy is always sick,got to know the guy has a 1% sperm level,no money,no rest of mind,she cries and wished she listened to her parents, now the marriage is 3yrs old and nothing good has come out of it! Most times our parents are right,please try and understand their reasons. What will be will be! And go to God to open ur eyes to the hidden things you need too know about relationship, make sure God gives you a YES...dreaming is deceitful try and hear from God. Wish well bro
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ReplyDeleteEzenwanyi nne igbalulu agbalu. @Poster make enquiry into your fiancee family and pray too. God can do all things
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteTake this little advice of mine..
Some things come in disguise, meaning some good things come in disguise as though they are bad while some bad things in disguise as though they will be best for us.
We have the right to change our destiny with prayers.
Pray fervently about it. You can visit some clerics who will help you pray about it and tell God that you want her to be your life partner.
As for your parents: After you have prayed about it and you are sure she is your life partner you can tell your pastor or cleric to come in and help you talk to them so that you wont hurt them and they wont hurt you.
Lastly if after you have prayed about it and you are also certain that she is not the one for you call her and appeal and make her see reasons why you cant be together in a convenient manner.
Then God will provide the best spouse for both of you.
God bless everyone.
Dear Poster….. Are you a child? Do you require your parents to pick your bride? Are you unable to pray yourself and seek direction from God? If you answered Yes to the three questions, then my advice to you is dump her and marry your mother’s choice.
ReplyDeleteHowever if you are an adult with a mind of his own….. It is better for you to marry for love, it is better for you to marry your best friend, it is better for you to marry whom your heart has chosen. It is clear you heart has chosen your bride, feel no anxiety over your decision. As long as you have seeked God’s guidance, worry not about anything else. Tell your parent they have lived their lives and should allow you live yours. I promise you….. If you marry your mother choice and you have problem’s down the line… you will blame your mother.
i had a similar experience and in my case i listened to them and am grateful to them and God for their foresight.My dad is someone who never sees evil in someone so the minute he told me his spirit didn't accept the man despite his wonderful personality and appearance i had to sit down and have a rethink.trust me i was depressed for 1 year till i found myself again.Parents are right atimes
ReplyDeletepray! you need God's direction. my bf left me after 2yrs saying the aunt went to pray and pastor said we are not compatible. I was gonna kill myself buh here i am today am married to a good man and i av a cute son.
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