Hmmmm should a younger sister marry before her older sister?
OH YES!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
POPPING THE QUESTION THE RIGHT WAY.
Hi Dearest Stella
After reading Iyeomon's epic proposal HERE , I felt moved to share my story and hope some people will not turn here into a cussing out zone *side eyes*
Bae and I have been dating for over a year now (long distance relationship). He comes around to see me once in a while though there have been ups and downs buh God has kept us together.
Fast foreward to early this month while chatting on social media over some decisions I have made.....then gbam!!!...he popped the question via chat...
Altho i YES but my question is,was it right for him to propose during chatting?
though we still keep in touch on phone and social media (we haven't seen after the iproposal)he has not raised the issue about marriage again.
If he hasnt brought it up again,why dont you bring it up?he probably doesnt even remember.LOL
Remove your eyes from how other people conduct their affairs and face your own.If you continue like this into marraige,it will cause you lots of problems.
Iyeomon was lucky to have her man go down on his knees.
yours might not be a kneeling man.
It doesnt matter how a man proposes as long as he means it
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHO SHOULD/MUST MARRY FIRST BETWEEN YOUNGER AND OLDER SIBLINGS
Hi Stella and Bvs, Hope I Need Peoples Opinion Urgently.My Younger Sister Has Been In A Relationship For Three Years.(she's Still In the University)The Guy Now Wants Pay Her Bride Price Next Month and Traditional/weddiing By
Easter.
The Problem Now Is My Oldest Sister (28 yrs)Is Not Married Yet.She's In A Serious Relationship and We're Hoping That They'll Get
Married Soonest But the Dude Has Not Told My Parents When Exactly.
Now My Parents Said The Younger One Will Wait Until The First One Gets
Married Before She'll Do Her Own.I Also Told My Younger Sister To Wait
Till December But She's Very Angry and mad About It.I've Not Spoken With
My Oldest Sister Yet To Hear What She'll Say. But One Thing I Know Is
That If She Tells My Parents That She's Will Be Fine If My Younger
Sister Marries before Her,my Parents Will Agree To My Younger Sister's
Marriage Next Month.
Please Bvs Whats your Advise On These.My Older Sister Reads SDK Blog.Shes A Graduate and Working.I Love both of them so much.
*blowing a kiss to older sister that reads SDK blog*
Hmm this is serious and your parents should be careful before they pitch their daughters against each other.
They should let the one that is ready to marry do so and thank God that she found a husband.
Why must the younger one wait?where does it say so in the bible?what kind of backward tradition is that?why must they even take permission from the older sister?Everybodys race aint the same keh....or am i not in tune with how this works?
my younger sister got married before the one who was before her,this kinda issue didnt even crop up at all.Nobody even discussed it sef.
make i drink small hot tea....
Abeg anybody wey find husband first make e marry
ReplyDeleteSalvation is a personal race.
Exactly, am d last born of my family I got married first, BTW, I have 3 sisters and 4 brothers,I have a baby now sef,name my race o,no be anybody's own
DeleteI dont understand sef...as d elder sis fiancee refuse 2 propose nkan. Whose fault nw. Dey shld allow d innocent girl 2 go jor..
DeletePoster 2. Me that got married b4 my aunty who took care of me as a baby far, my aunty for run Mad
DeleteOne of my cousins married before her elder sister. She hasn't given birth till now 3 years after wedding. The elder sister married august 2013. She gave birth last year.
ReplyDeleteThe race is not to the swift nor to the strong but it's God that showeth mercy.
Abeg make i go chop party jollof wey my caterer neighbor give us this morning.
How is this story relevant????
DeleteIt clearly shows how everyone's case is different
DeleteP.2 talk to ur older sister and ur parent. Tell them to allow your younger sister get hooked o. Oko woo lode.
ReplyDeleteOoo... Stella pour me a glass of Jack Daniels please...
DeletePoster one:let your guy be..he will pop the question well at the right time
Poster 2: what village are u from??your parents should let the girl marry..y should she wait?..what If the older one does not get married soon?all of u will keep waiting eh??..till the husband becomes impatient and goes eh..the una go begin the dance the shout for husband during shiloh
Lol... Let comments roll in
ReplyDeletejust passing *side eyes*
ReplyDeletePoster 2, there is nothing wrong if your younger sister gets married before the elder one. My dear, this is jet age not ancient times when most traditions forbids stuffs like this. What if your elder sister's guy isn't financially buoyant now for the marriage? Does that mean she will have to wait for ages before he is ready to carry on with the marriage? Abeg free your sister jare let her get wedded.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, your case isn't really an issue. Just ask him about it again. Then will you know your stand.
God might be using ur younger sister's marriage to open doors 4 y'all, let the girl biko.
ReplyDeleteWhoever marries*drinks away* first poster-propose via chat hmmmmmm wil b bac soon
ReplyDeleteposter 1-different ways to love ,different kind of men ,some men have different ways of showing love .
ReplyDelete1-words of affirmation
2-Quality time
3-recieving gifts.
4-acts of services
5-physical touch .
so your man might be one of this.
poster numero 2
No where is it stated that senior must be married before junior .
Bootylicious... you actually saved me from typing up a storm..thank you.
DeletePoster one,everyone differs..Most men. Might not be that romantic but they are willing to lay their lives for you..
Which do you prefer?? Life long commitment and faithfulness or a flamboyant,glamorous proposal..
Granted,some girls get both the elaborate proposal and the ever faithful man..but if you didn't get such,my dear,worry not your pretty head..you have the rest of your lives to be wowed...or maybe he has something cooking...*In Ginuwine's voice,you never know....lol
Babes,u still managed to type up a storm o,lol.*tongue out*. But as usual, u made sense as usual.
DeleteSherry's Daughter
Lol, I see someone has read the "5 Love Languages".
DeleteI see no reason why one sister has to wait for the older one to get married before she can, but some parents are like that. poor girl is mad say? she must feel like she is being held back for no good reason. *sigh*
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So far the youngest girl is ready for marriage, I see no reason why she should be stopped.
ReplyDeleteOur destinies can never be the same.
I understand the parents might feel it will put pressure on the elder sis but hello, what is meant to be is meant to be.
28 years old lady is not that old na. At the right time her man will pop the question but I advice she doesn't hold on to a clueless man just because they've been together for long.
Some people wudnt agree d younger one marries b4 d olda one, but it's sumfin dat is now happening. Dis shudnt cause a rift Btw dem. Let d younger one marry as she's seen som1 redy dt she wants pls. Poster 1, ur boo prolly was just bein sweet wen he askd uu to marry hiim nd I don't fink he tot it tru. Well all d best nd I hope dd I-proposal becomes real! Amen
ReplyDeleteLol
ReplyDeleteTell your younger sis to hear the words of wisdom and wait cos if she rushes in,same way she would rush out.
First poster...I don't understand ur story lai lai...
All I hope to read on this blog is stories that touch not disorganised gist
She's not rushing. She's simply ready and has made her decision.
DeleteLmao, I agree with m-amie on her second part.. Poster one.. Are you expecting us to tell you what to do? Or are you gisting us about how bae proposed? I refuse to be confused my dear..
DeleteNarr 2,I see nothing wrong with your younger sister getting married before your oldest sister.its not even right for your parents or elder sis to ask the younger one to wait.wait for what bikonu?don't they know everyone's destiny aint same?okay let's say your younger sis decides to wait,what happens if your older sister doesn't get married till say 35?will the younger sis wait that long?and let's say the younger sis is willing to wait,what happens if her fiance doesn't want to wait?
ReplyDeleteWhat happens then?pls talk to your parents and let them know its okay for one to get married before the other.this shouldn't be an issue..talk to your elder sis too,she should be happy her sis is getting married.my cousin got married in sept last year @ 20yrs,her two older sis are btwn the ages of 22-24.no eyebrow was even raised.
The heart wants what the heart wants,can't get in the way of love..
Poster 1 pls remind ur dude again or let him know true chatin that you would prefair face to face proposer!you have to be open to him when chatin Poster2 your junior sister should be glad she saw hubby that is ready to marry her pls your family should go ahead and do the needful and it's not in the bible senior most marry before the junior!old sch tradition my foot
ReplyDeleteshuo wetin de dere?my yonger sister is even gettin married in april too and av nt Found yet so i wil now tell her to wait 4 me?4 wot nw?Life goes on o,no time to waste again abeg,allow her marry o,u cant use ur raggae to spoil her blues,am even helpin my sister to plan sef am so happy 4 her,am patiently waitin to apply 4 free makeover 4rm bvs 4 her,lolz
ReplyDeleteI know someone who's younger sibling got married last year and hers was this year.
DeleteWhat about cases where the younger not immediate junior is a male nko?
As it is said here every mallam to his kettle, every body is a unique different race o!
The prayer LORD help me not to miss my time, season & YOUR prompting. The purpose for which I was created must come to pass.Joy and peace always.
@poster one all proposal must not be staged and romantic, a staged proposal doesn't guarantee a happy marriage, if you can bring up the subject again please do, so you know his reaction and know what next to do, since he has already popped the question.
ReplyDelete@poster 2 it doesn't really matters who marries first, its just that we Nigerians take things too superficious, the younger one might be the one to bring luck and open doors for the orders to follow suit, marriage can be in a descending order, anyone that is ready should go ahead. That's how my friends mum gave her a tough time just because she is the last born and the other 4 girls ahead of her are not married yet, the mum kept putting things on hold hopping the 1st daughter at least marries first, but God took charge and she got married last year, like a miracle her elder sis got married after her, another is preparing again. So it doesnt really matter who marries first.
Big events
DeleteAsk Seal and his ex wife how elaborate their vow renewals were?
Or liza minelli how elaborate her wedding was to David guest?
Or Kim k was to that humprey boy? Ring size and all?
More importantly is how WELL not how far!
Ewu! Poster one, me I dey find the babe wey go propose to me sef because I no get money for any fancy wahala. Dear future wife abeg dey prepare.
ReplyDeletePoster two, nothing dey. So if God forbid your senior sister relationship scatter the junior one go wait? Abeg make who don see husband marry abeg. Ewu! Ewu! Ewu!
Ewu. So u're a guy afteral. Mtchweew. You must have plenty of time on your hands.
DeleteOh oh..Miss Gemini...how are you dear...long time,no read,lol...take care dear
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteI don't see anything wrong with the way your man proposed to you...
My husband didn't even propose,we just bought a ring and that is it....he is the best thing that has ever happend to me....
Poster 2,
Don't go and get married...be there waiting for your elder sister....
When the bobo leave you and grab another babe that is ready,you will start screaming "men are wicked"....
Remember men are scarce....hmmmmm..I don talk my own...
Men are not scarce
Delete2 ur parent are realy backword they should let d girl marry jor 1 keep praying he will ask agian
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Stylishly remind your boo of his proposal and the wedding preps that ought to follow a proposal. I hope you didn't cajole him into proposing sha??
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Make who don ready marry I beg. Everybody's destiny is different. Make the innocent girl no go dey fast and pray dey find husband later. Cos the guy may not be patient enough to wait.
Poster 2.... Is no big deal oooo... I don't see it as anything oooo besides everyone and her luck... Abeg, elder sis, allow her to marry, maybe she go bring better luck for you all.... Sending you Hug and kisses.... God bless you sis...
ReplyDeletePoster 1, as Stella said, raise the issue up again to hear what he has to say....
Stellastica, I thought we agreed on chronicles of hope on Saturday and Sunday..
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Poster 1:
ReplyDeleteProposal is proposal.
Whether via carrier pigeon or catapult.
Don't expect every man to go on bended knees and put up a show!
He has not brought it up probably because he has nothing further to say on the matter.
You on the other hand, I trust, have a lot to say regarding when, where and how.
So? Bring it up.
Be free with the man you are marrying.
Talk and Skype more to strengthen the relationship. Chats alone are not necessarily goo good for a budding relationship.
Poster 2:
Improve your communication skills with people you claim you love.
How come you've not spoken to your older sister and you are here sharing?
Talk to her and the 2 of you can go to your parents together, imploring them to let you girls marry according to readiness, not age.
The idea of marrying according to age is so archaic and has been dumped.
I think I understand Poster1's plight. It's not about her, but about the guy and what he asked her.
DeleteI don't think he proposed to her yet, she knows it was an awkward and a very blank "marry me" gesture chat. As with most men, some just joke around by asking if you'll be their wife, while some will start to call u their wife without any formalty..
I think your man was joking but u took the proposal serious, and the problem now is u are too scared to discuss it with him to confirm the truth. U are scared of a reversal gesture, and u haven't asked because u don't want to embarrass yourself, or remove what uv already mesmerised in ur subconscious.
I think that the peculiarity with ur confused state is that...u know that a genuine marriage proposal isn't what u were asked. It can be very misleading and annoying. Lol
I suggest that u do not speak about it until he reaffirms his marriage gestures. He should be the excited one who should be talking along that line. And if he has dis- countenanced it then he's definitely not ready. Don't hurt yourself by being over expectant...just chill and watch things for now.
Sisi Eko you said what was exactly on mind. I was just scrolling down the comments and shaking my head at the replies p1 was getting... I think your reply is the best.
DeleteI thought I was reading Ronalda's comment and had to scroll back up lol...sOund advice Sisieko
DeleteThank you so much Sisi. No more or less. Concise situation of the poster.
DeleteBy the way thanks for the shout out. My time hasn't been mine recently...*hugs*
Uh.. Poster 2, what do you mean by starting every word with a capital letter? Please, I know that you know better so kindly do better. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteAbout your narrative, this is the 21st century, I see no reason why it should matter if the younger marries before the older or whatever. Biko, let it not cause animosity between your sisters o, if your younger sister's husband is ready, then by all means let them get on with it.
It might even motivate your elder sister's guy to do the needful as soon as he can. Talk to your parents and get them to see reason with you.
Poster 1, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't fancy a proposal via chat. It just seems a little unserious to me. I think you should just allow him bring it up again, do like say you too you no kuku remember.. Lol.
Have a great weekend, SDKers!
Exactly. @Poster 1
DeleteWhy can't a younger one get married before the older? My elder brother got married before my eldest brother. It's not a big deal na.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, not all men will get down on their knees to propose, but then your man should be serious with his proposal na.
Poster 1 Deres nfin wrong in ur boo proposing over social media my husband mailed me a picture of an engagement ring he got n asked me 2 marry him in d same mail. Wen I got back 2 nigeria he did d physical proposal under a week n 2day we r happily married, nah jet age we dey!
DeleteReally, I don't think there's anything wrong with the younger sibling marrying 1st cos people have different destinies.
DeleteHowever I can understand why the parents want the older one to go 1st.
I guess for some people it can be awkward when their younger ones marry b4 them. Poster I think you should advise both your parents and your older sister not to stand in the way of the younger one of she's sure that's what she wants to so, to avoid creating unnecessary enmity b/w them.
Who knows, hearing about your younger sibling's impending marriage might be the impetus needed by ur elder sister's fiance to get a move on!
Poster 1: I feel as if he ask you via chat becos he felt as if you won't say yes, so he was trying his LUCK, my thought though.
DeletePoster 2: I feel as if you parents would make your sisters hate one another... Marriage is not a matter of who enter 1st. Your Elder sister bf hasn't pop the question yet and u don't even know when he would propose, so would your younger sister wait till when he proposes or would she pressure ur sisters bf???? PARENTS don't know what they would do to offend their children.
My younger sister is getting married this March n I don't hv any problem wit that. Ask her n u will see her reaction.
ReplyDeleteWait for who?
ReplyDeleteDid u tell her BF to delay theirs?
Mbok allow d young girl marry
Hopefully d elder sis BF will step up.
Proposal over chat? Some pple wit tradition,abeg let her marry ohhh
ReplyDelete*********LONG LIVE SDK &SDKERS**********
Only a backward, and primitive person will think there is a problem for a younger sister to marry before an older sister. What utter rubbish. Everyone has their race and path in life. So what if a younger sis marries first. Every individual with their own destiny.
ReplyDeletePoster1,why are u talking like you are desperate for marriage?for God's sake someone said something in passing probably in excitement during a chat and u just conclude that he proposed? Chai!smh.pls Stop it!the guy is not yet ready to propose and dats it!btw I hope dis ur Bae is not someone that plays emotional games,?using of tricks to manipulate ur emotions esp when he wants something?pls watch him oo cos these boys of nowadays ain't loyal!
ReplyDelete@poster2,there is nothing wrong in marrying before ur elder one cos pple have different destinies!and pls ur parents should not put a hold on d younger's wedding cos of d elder,it will only put the elder sis under more pressure for a husband,which might lead her into wrong hands.
No dear,some men actually propose that way ooh..
DeleteSome ladies never even got proposals..or never got to answer the "Will you marry me" question.
I don't think poster should wave it aside..
Queen Bee, my thoughts exactly. I don't think homeboy proposed yet jare.
DeleteI think your parents should allow the younger sis marry because the senior sis is not ready.thank you
ReplyDeletePoster 1. He hasn't proposed o. That was an e-proposal. E no follow....
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Personally I wouldn't wanna get married before my elder sis but generally, there is nothing wrong with it. Your parents should talk to your eldest sis,as she is educated, I believe she wouldn't have a problem with it. Besides she is just 28.
then for the proposal on my dear me don't think that boy is serious o my opinion though
ReplyDeletewell GOD help you all
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Start planning your wedding with him. Then you will know if the proposal is real or not.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 some traditions says the older sis must marry b4 the younger. Me I don't see anything wrong with the younger one getting married first.
Na who find husband they marry.
Poster1 you can remind Bae about his iproposal or you go visit nd discuss it with him. Not everybody can get kneeling down proposal biko. I pray to get one soon dis year sha.
ReplyDeletePoster2 if one marries it opens the door for the rest, younger sis can open door for older sis. So pls discuss wif your older sister, seek her comment first, that will aid ur parents to change their mind. Though most parents will want their first daughter to marry before the younger ones.
If that guy was serious abt d proposal,he would have been the one to talk abt it wen they finally met again.
DeleteThe boy don even forget sef say he say something like that.lol!poster bring up d topic at ur own risk!
pls dey shld let d younger sister marry o. wht kinda wait is dt one?
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Poster1 you can remind Bae about his iproposal or you go visit nd discuss it with him. Not everybody can get kneeling down proposal biko. I pray to get one soon dis year sha.
ReplyDeletePoster2 if one marries it opens the door for the rest, younger sis can open door for older sis. So pls discuss wif your older sister, seek her comment first, that will aid ur parents to change their mind. Though most parents will want their first daughter to marry before the younger ones.
Poster 1: you even lucky you got any proposal. My own no pro-nothing! We just kinda flowed into it till the "let's meet your parents". I still joke about it today that he owes me a proposal. Not all men are alike and ma fi ago alago sise (don't work with another person's time).
ReplyDeletePoster 2: in this day and age? Na wa o!
Make I siddon dey look
ReplyDeleteNarrator : It doesn't matter where and how the proposal takes place, the most important thing is the intention behind it and the love that exists between the two people. I hope to share my proposal story on chronicles of hope soonest.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 2: I see no reason why the younger one should wait for the older one before marriage. It's just a bush mentality. Your parents shouldn't create enmity where there is none. Keep us posted as it goes....
2. There isn't anything wrong in the younger sis getting married before the older one. They both have different destinies and may not get married the same time. Your parents should allow the younger one get married. I feel the elder one should talk to your parents about it and all will be fine.
ReplyDeleteYour parents should be careful and not start war and enmity between both sisters. The younger one marrying before the elders sister makes no difference and affects no one. There's absolutely nothing wrong in it. Everyone's destiny is different from the other. Elder sister please let your younger sister get married. Make her happy and God will continue to make you happy. Pls. Poster 1. Maybe you should revisit the issue. Am not sure. I think I will read comments on this one.
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DeleteHian so if older sis no marry till 50 younger sis go wait? My dear talk to ur parents. Its olden days way of thinking abeg.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1, style of proposal is not important what is important is if the guy loves you and really want to spend the rest of his life with you. am a bit concerned with the fact that he has not talked about it again, make sure he really meant it and didn't say it as a result of the sweet mood he was during the chat.
ReplyDeleteposter 2, my advice is that, she tell your older sis of her plans and hear what she has to say, if she is ready to get married she will either tell her to go ahead of give her time. there is no point for her to get mad. the reason why parent don't always accept is that suitors might feel the older one is not good enough that's why the younger one is getting married before her. I got married before my older sis, and I told her even before telling my parents. let peace reign
I second ur thoughts Stella.
Delete@P1. The method of proposal does not matter .so long as the love is real. @P2. Your parents should allow her to marry Jor. Its not compulsary it must be the eldest that marries first. Everybody have different stars
Delete@Poster 2 :I don't see why this should be an issue at all to your parents. I got married before my own senior sister. She didn't mind one bit. In fact she played a great role in making my wedding a huge success. I will always be grateful to her. She got married six years after me. I think if your senior sister backs you up it will make it all the more easier for you. Parents usually cannot resist siblings when they "team" up over an issue. Have a heart to heart talk with your senior sister. Join up together and talk to your parents. Life has gone way beyond all those archaic rules!
ReplyDelete@Poster 1: Proposal during a chat does not indicate much seriousness. Get busy with your life and don't place too much premium on getting a marriage proposal. Honestly society puts too much pressure on young girls. That's why we have so many sob marriage stories. I tire sef.
I just dey look your parents that's how all of u would get old in the family ....they better allow the girl to get married that's her time everybody time dey difrnt my sister except u guys are jealous that..your junior is getting married ist else this is not even an issue to be worried about
ReplyDeleteIt means nothing. Anyone can marry at any time
ReplyDeleteWelcome to bayelsa really got me hahahahahahahaah......lol
ReplyDeleteStella what have I done wrong? You are not posting my story. Is there anything I should do for it to be posted that I didn't know? I will email you again. Thanks
ReplyDeleteHope you didn't apprevate your words I think that's the only reason she deletes.
DeleteN1, maybe when he sees you he would so the official proposal and if he doesn't screen munch the proposal thing save it start wedding plans lol. N2, I bet you guys are ibo! Mbok i need to sleep its been a busy week for me.
ReplyDelete#1. Sweetie, it's more about the content than the delivery. Of course a fairytale romantic proposal is desirable but it's not quite a gauge to measure a guy's love for you or the seriousness of his commitment. Honestly, the question whether or not the mode of his proposal was proper became moot when I read the concluding part of your story. Most guys are not as meticulous with romantic gestures as we are but the staidness and eagerness to start making plans for the wedding makes up for what we may term "botched" romantic proposal. Darling, I'm more concerned that he hasn't brought up any marriage preparation gist especially as you guys communicate regularly, moreso taking the duration of your courtship into consideration.
ReplyDeleteI may be wrong but when a man is serious about marrying you, he needs no further prompting. A lady may pressure a guy to pop the question (which I find inappropriate) but when he buckles under the pressure, he starts making plans. Unless he just agreed to propose to get his peace, but when he pops the question voluntarily and shows no interest thereafter, in spite of your acceptance...errrrm...that's not a very good sign. Darling, this is purely my opinion, I may be wrong. Well, you did mention that he proposed early this month, so let's assume 3 weeks post- proposal fall within the reasonable period of "silence" as per wedding prep, no? A face to face meeting is not a cogent excuse since you guys communicate regularly, but let's see how things play out. Perhaps he is planning a mindblowing dramatic proposal, the element of surprise is key.
As for you reminding him, I would advise against that. It may be perceived as desperation which no single lady wears well. He should be the one eager to make you his woman, officially. Over-familiarity is one of the down sides of long courtship, the candle of excitement usually burns out before the wedding night. Honey, please, try not to bring it up unless it comes from him. You have nothing to lose, really. It's either he is planning a pleasant surprise or he wasn't serious about the proposal. Whichever the case may be, your dignity will be intact.
#e-bearhugs.
See this lady...God bless you. Which dirty go and talk to him. Na so una dey do am. Ronalda thank you. No woman shd chase a man to start marriage plans. If he is serious he will ssy something. Till then you are still available.
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DeleteI loved your first paragraph so much@Ronalda
DeleteBut I still think that guy might be serious..Must men begin to give promises in the heat of passion which is not the case here..
In as much as I agree she should not bring it up again,i don't think is wise for her to make light of it or joke about it.
He may be planning something major for when they see eye ball to eye ball. *wink@poster*
Poster 1. We need update on this biko! Don't leave us hanging..
@ Anonymous 15:41, I appreciate your comments, honey, thank you.
Delete@Iphie D, touche, my adorable darling. That's another way of looking at it. I honestly hope she gets an amazing surprise. We need more romantic stories to inspire hope.
#e-bearhugs.
Yimu. I follow u anon 16:10 yawnnnnnnnn!!!!!! Ronalda u too boring jawe!!
DeleteLafs@the second poster,I can totally relate to that.my elder sister was like that before she married,she will stylishly tell me that I can never marry before her oh,me I will just laf over it cos I sincerely don't see it as a big deal,you people should let ur younger sis marry please,its not a big deal.
ReplyDeleteur elder sis no b beter person
DeletePls women are miss
ReplyDeletePoster 2, talk to your parents to let your younger sis get married.
ReplyDeleteWho knows, it might ginger ur elder sister's man to sit up.
It true that ur elder sis might feel bad that she is yet to walk down the aisle, while her younger sis is about doing so, but she shouldn't feel so bad. Cos God is still the Commander-in-Chief.
She should please give her blessings, so that ur younger sis can settle down, before the serious man will leave her for someone else whose parents are not still wrapped in some sorta tradition, and then she'll begin to be approached by unserious elements (Olorun maje ).
Please talk to your parents.
God be with you all.
It all depends on the girls in question and the type of family. In some families it is crucial that the senior ones get married first, in others, it isn't. It also depends on the girls. But all in all sha, it wouldn't be fair for the younger one not to get married because the older ones aren't.
ReplyDelete@poster 2, the younger sister shudnt be made to wait until the eldest sister gets married jare. Wat if the elder sis' guy isn't ready for marriage yet. Just try talk to ur parents and also ur elder sis
ReplyDelete@poster 2, the younger sister shudnt be made to wait until the eldest sister gets married jare. Wat if the elder sis' guy isn't ready for marriage yet. Just try talk to ur parents and also ur elder sis
ReplyDeletePls women keep missing the point. The important thing isn't the mode of proposal its the actual marriage. Men are different. When you are above a certain age and in a serious relationship, won't you expect marriage? So wether he informs you, shocks you, sends you a letter a text or pretends to shock you, the important thing is the "forever after". After all there are some chicks that were astounded and are still "Lord of the rings".
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha @ some chicks that were astounded and are still Lord of the rings...LMAO.....
DeleteMy Alobam howdy darling?
And our Bun?
Today is my birthday.bvs say a prayer for me please!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday .send them recharge cards they would give u loads of it.may God grant your heart desires.
DeleteHAPPY BIRTHDAY JOYCE! God bless you!
DeleteHappy birthday dear
DeleteHappy birthday Joyce..God bless you
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DeleteHappy birthday, sweetheart, many happy returns.
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DeleteThere is nothing wrong in marrying first b4 ur elder sis, our last girl got married b4 every other person in my house and it's no big deal...
ReplyDeleteStory 1: If he proposed over they phone nd doesn't talk about it again, that doesn't mean he's not interested in marrying you. He proposed cos he wants to secure he's chances of keeping u waiting till finance come handy. Guys that propose to ladies n take forever to walk d alter, have financial issues.. If pocket rest marriage go sweet..
ReplyDeleteStory 2: Biblically I can't say, but there's a bible story that talked about issue like dis.. Where d man had to serve his father in-law for another seven years to marry his choice for bride cos the older had to Wed first...nd by tradition older daughters leave d house before the younger ones.
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That was in the old testament jesus came and gave us a new life new beginning we don't leave in the past. So your tradition is as anon as your I'd. (Unrecognized)
DeleteP2: I'm the last born and I have 4 siblings na me first comot for house at 23. But I was done with schl n was working. Whoever is ready should go abeg.
ReplyDeleteIf she is ready to marry they should support and and forget this backward tradition. Husband no dey market like that again. For we that is still hoping God do fast answer us.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Talk to him about it. He might not remember.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: There's no big deal in the younger sister getting married before the older one. My younger sister got married before her immediate elder sister and they are both happily married today. Talk to her and know what she has to say about it (your older sister).
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ReplyDelete#2. Oh no! Not a very pleasant situation, I'll imagine. My view is, it shouldn't matter if your younger sister marries before your older sister. It's a different scenario if both men have made their intentions known to your parents and tentative dates selected. Out of respect for your older sister, it will be proper for her marriage to come 1st, but this isn't the case. I will hate for your older sis' guy to feel ambushed and rush into a marriage he isn't ready for, just to save face.
ReplyDeleteDarling, can you arrange for a sit out with both your sisters and discuss this amongst yourselves before meeting your parents to inform them about your decisions? This should tackled with extreme caution because lesser misunderstandings have been known to tear families apart. I hate to see sisters resent each other because of an honourable occasion like marriage. I think it's only fair to allow your younger sister proceed with her marriage.
If your big sis is reading this, I know she must feel awkward and may even regard it as an insult but she should play the big sis' role of protecting her baby sis' interests by giving her permission for the marriage to proceed. I just hope this doesn't cause a rift between big sis and big sis' Boo. I wish you guys the best.
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Delete#2. Oh no! Not a very pleasant situation, I'll imagine. My view is, it shouldn't matter if your younger sister marries before your older sister. It's a different scenario if both men have made their intentions known to your parents and tentative dates selected. Out of respect for your older sister, it will be proper for her marriage to come 1st, but this isn't the case. I will hate for your older sis' guy to feel ambushed and rush into a marriage he isn't ready for, just to save face.
ReplyDeleteDarling, can you arrange for a sit out with both your sisters and discuss this amongst yourselves before meeting your parents to inform them about your decisions? This should tackled with extreme caution because lesser misunderstandings have been known to tear families apart. I hate to see sisters resent each other because of an honourable occasion like marriage. I think it's only fair to allow your younger sister proceed with her marriage.
If your big sis is reading this, I know she must feel awkward and may even regard it as an insult but she should play the big sis' role of protecting her baby sis' interests by giving her permission for the marriage to proceed. I just hope this doesn't cause a rift between big sis and big sis' Boo. I wish you guys the best.
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DeleteBuahahah @anony 16:15. Y nah?
DeleteIs this lady the next victim on this blog? This is very discouraging and distasteful.
DeleteI am so tired...
ReplyDeleteI will just sit nd read comments today *yawns* lol
Stella, some people c it as a bad omen for d younger sis to get married b4 d elder one. Una go sort am out jor. Poster one, bring up the issue again to know if he is serious
ReplyDeleteAny1 can marry 1st. my aunt got married b4 her two elder sisters. so it doesnt matter.
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I don't see anything wrong in allowing the younger sister to get married first. My younger sister got married and had kids before me. Also we have a very good relationship. You people should allow her to get married abeg.
ReplyDeleteIron it out with ur big sis....
ReplyDeletetime waits no one and if d nigga changes his mind...lols
ronalda nailed it.happy birthday Joyce A.llnp
ReplyDeleteThem no dey wait for person ooo
ReplyDeleteThem no dey wait for person ooo
ReplyDeleteThem no dey wait for person ooo
ReplyDeleteMaybe I am different o but if a guy proposes to me,he will talk about it. Keep quiet if he does not say anything. Dude might have been joking. Or jokingly said kai will you marry me when you two were gisting and the thing sweet im bele. Have small pride, let him bring it up. Dont go and chop ela for nothing.
ReplyDeletePoster one: d fact dat he proposed is Wat matas....not how he did it ohhhhhh.....dont look at d way odas do dere tinz cus u mite not no wat is happening behind.....so b tankful dat he proposed and maybe while chatting since he has not talked about it u can just tactfully ask him wat his plans are...all d same sucess
ReplyDeletePoster two: plz dey Shud let d younger one marry ohhh....it looks nice if d older ones get married b4 d younger ones...but if d younger one sees Hubi to marry ist...dere is no big deal...definitely all of dem will still get married...plz ur parents Shud let her get married or beta still ur elder sis Shud talk to dem
speaking from experience, it's really depressing to be single and have your younger sister marry before you. The older on will tell you that nothing is there but SOMETHING IS THERE.
ReplyDeletePeople will even be pitying you and they will be like "enya, don't worry, your own will come and we will dance and dance, etc"
By the time they finish yarning, tears go fill your eyes. some will come and be like "is it the older one that is marrying? No?"
shame go catch the older one that day. Let the time come and she will see. She will be depressed but she won't let you know. I hope her boo proposes
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ReplyDeleteLol @ e-proposal. Poster bring it up n ask him if he meant it..
There's nothing wrong with a younger sister getting married before the older sister, but I understand that the parents care about the older sister's feelings. Some people r really sensitive about these kinda things.
And yes Stella, it's in the bible. Read genesis 29: 3-27. Jacob wanted to marry Rachel, but Laban ended up given him rhe older sis after he served Laban for 7yrs for Rachel bcs Rachel couldn't get married before her older sister... The story is too long to type here, find a bible n read up.
Pls @ poster 2. Me for example. Am the first daughter of my parent, all my four sisters got married b4 me and I was very happy for them bcs I can't stop their destiny. It was a big fun for me and my family when I was getting married cos they were all around me wt happiness not by fighting. Their husbands carried my weeding for head sef. Who ever that is ready should go first joo.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1- you can ask how far since according to sdk he might have forgotten. Ok let me tell you guys have different ways of proposing ooooo.i heard one proposed when he was eating beans. The babe just enter I'm house because she don pressure am tire so now him decide to kukuma propose make him rest. So e go buy ring, as she come the house that weekend now him sit down for bed dey chop beans and d ring de behind am for bed so e use one hand grab the thing from him back, he now gave it to her and said will you marry me? Hahahhahahahahha abeg proposal depends on the individual wey you won marry oooooo.different strokes for different folks
ReplyDelete1,I have nothing for you,no be everything una go run come dey ask advice from SDK BVs,to whom brain is given,sense is expected!!
ReplyDelete2.I know families that do it,infact if I had a younger sister,I know my mom wouldn't let her get married before me,which I think is ridiculous really.She even went ahead to say none of my brothers would get married before me.Anyway,I really don't think it's a big deal.Infact,as I type this,one of my friends's trad is going on and her immediate elder sister isn't yet married.they don't even need to seek the elder sister's consent.Everybody's time will come.
That being said,I missed the Singles Mingles again.Abeg,when is the third season coming up,tired of being single.
I will better buy a ring put it into a fish belle fall the fish into a river and ask my lady to jump and catch the fish,then while cooking it my lady will find the ring inside the fish belle and wear it,cos marriage na big work for every real woman than for me to knee down on her,must of the knee down marriages are not working good today,remove long fake finger nails ladies off marriage,they can not cook,,wash or clean,there hobby is to answer mrs
ReplyDeletePlease tell your parent to allow d younger one marry, my younger sister got married before me n they are doing good till date.
ReplyDeleteThere's no law that says that marriage should be in that order. Parents should learn to support and bless any of their dotas who found love as long as she's of age. my second sister married before my first sister and I have an uncle who has six girls, it was the last girl that got married before any of the elder sisters and guess what, they all supported her and made her wedding very colorful.
ReplyDeletelol at all, funny chronicle.
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In my own family we are 5children and me as the 4th child got married before my elder once....with d eldest a guy which is 35, 32, 30 etc and our parents didn't even say any talkless of my elder once.....so what are we saying? ......
ReplyDeleteDear BVs i am missing o lol. TGW aka my blog sister how you dey dear?
ReplyDeleteGreetings every one. SDK how you dey?
ReplyDeleteGreetings darlyn..have you finally settled in? How was your trip?
DeleteMy dear people are different! The men doing all this "over the moon * proposals may not even be good husband materials, i beg forget that thing!
ReplyDeleteN1: with these idea of comparison in you i doubt you will do well. better change o. he must knee to propose. what is important is the true iron and not a key holder.
ReplyDeleteN2 : See ur familys reasoning in these era. probably your parents should tell the youngest sister not to work after graduation untill when the eldest has gotten a job. nonsense. allow the young girl to marry. everyones name must not start with A.
I don read comments tire...hmmmm...poster 1, pls remind him, its possible he's even xpecting u to bring it up in your discussions..Poster 2, this isn't an issue at all, person when bring husband shld marry, weda younger or elder sister.
ReplyDeleteAbeg they should leave the girl joor my younger sister married 4years before I got married and am even 5 years older than her nobody will puse her life because of you the most important thing is to make the right choice in whom you marry I married my best friend and I am happy. Ada Agulu said so.
ReplyDelete@ poster1:is like all these romantic proposals that Stella has been posting don dey enter your head.pls snap our of it now .if your man propose when he dey for toilet dey shit; a beg accept sharp sharp.everybody must not be romantic. kneeling with flower in their hands inugo.ngwanu ka odi
ReplyDelete@ poster 2: pls later give your parents one after the other your phone so that they will read our comments.
Sir and Ma; pls una never hear say husband dey scarce. somebody don come your house to help you reduce load; una no wan agree.OK oh.allow her to go as she is ready now. when the elder one is ready; she will follow her for back.na beg I dey beg una.if she loose that man; she no go forgive una oh.make una leave am now oh before it is too late.
My kids sis got married 3yrs ago while am stil single believeg God..ur parents should allow her to run her own race,,,it is not how far but how wel..
ReplyDeleteStory story, I graduated before my elder sis and got married before her even though she refused to attend my wedding life continues and she still till date says rubbish about me to all who cares to hear and she is still single till date. I dey pray for her. Kabiyesi dey with me.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm,God kwz best
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@ poster 2: my siblings got married before me and I supported them with my all, so there's nothing wrong in allowing your younger sister marry before you all.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, I dont see anything wrong in the younger sister getting married. Two of my younger sisters are married, and I was even the chief organiser of both weddings,making sure everything went smoothly. It was never depressing for me organising my younger sisters weddings. I see it as thing of joy and happiness and when my time comes, we will all be happy.
ReplyDeleteHmmm I need help oh am in love with a close frnds ex.am I doing something wrong
DeleteYes you are really doing something wrong end it.
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