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Sunday, May 31, 2015

Chronicle Of HOPE. - 19

Finally HOPE....and some lectures for those who need to close their eyes and receive sense!



Hi Stella
Firstly I just wanna say well done on your blog, I just started visiting it late last year and I am sooooo hooked..
Like not a day goes by without me reading your blog .... God bless you
Well how do I put this.....
Lol
Reading the chronicles section Is one of my favorite sections Cos I get to read what people go through in there marriages and if I wasn't married by now
I would have been scared to death to go into it BUT ALAS......

I bring hope.

I bless God because I got married last year,expecting my first child any moment from now and so far it has been wonderful.
I can't say its been a complete bed of roses because we have had our ups and downs even a week after our wedding but  what has kept us going is just the understanding of "we have to push forward" that keeps us going
Its either we agree on the same issue or we don't and carry faces for 3 minutes and the next thing we are moving on with whats next forgetting about the argument Or we agree to disagree,after all the argument no go bring money...


When we are arguing and am sure am right 70% of the time I don't drag on, I just make my point and leave it and prepare for the aftermath effect if I can handle it (na im body go tell am) and when it blows I don't rub it in his face
But the 30% when i am sure i can't handle the after effect I speak and speak and speak it out until he listens but hey,he is right most of the time.


If hubby is mad and yelling even when he is wrong I don't yell back but approach him when he is calm (....you know men and ego na) , and because of that he loves me more,
We talk heart to heart  while cuddling very early in the morning for like 3 minutes or an hour depending on what the time is or how sleepy we are and those are the precious moments because we remind ourselves of our love for each other before we say our prayers and get up.

Or  in the middle of the nights when I wake up for a pee/snack or water break (preggy ish) which he ALWAYS assists me with because he understands that it is still part of marriage .


Hubby is sweet,kind,patient,So patient with me this period whenever he is around
He baths me
Feeds me
Cuddles me
Cooks for me some Saturdays and Practically does everything for me..

Allows me to pinch and squeeze him to the wall on our bed (lol) and comforts me whenever i am crying for no reason .....(dont blame me, preggy hormones)
And he dosnt complain because he understands that its not easy and has to be there for me....

On the other hand,when I can,i don't joke with our sex (BJ and other plays,)
I don't joke with his meals and I give him space with his friends when they come over...
And the days he comes home with anger I quickly serve his meal and allow him to be done and when i am sure he is in a better mood  I try to make him completely forget about his bad day...

Just a lil tip on how we do And it keeps us going, makes us even closer than friends (Mind you we only dated 3 months before we got married, our friendship started and keeps growing because of this)
So you don't need to date for 12 years or 3years before waiting for your man/woman to decide if he wants to get hitched with you or not
Its all about
- Being mentally ready for the roses and thorns
- Financially ready or having good prospectives
- Understanding
- Respect
- Patience and the most important
- Having the fear of God.
And not, "I like you, you like me ...lets marry" or
"I love you talk your own"
Y'all need to shine your eyes and know if your partner is ready for the good and especially the bad part because the ability to overcome the bad and smile is what makes the love grow And don't deceive yourselves or else your walking into a marriage that would make you wish you didn't in the first place.
PS ... Maturity is not be by age.


You have to acquire or experience it
Don't think am old o because I was born 1992 and the age gap of approximately 8years BTW hubby and I ...
Buy marriage books, go to seminars etc
Or like Stella will say "close your eyes and receive sense"....
                 FINITO
...sorry for the long epistle
Kisses
        
 Mrs K


Wow you are so full of wisdom.Thank God for giving you a man who compliments you.








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84 comments:

  1. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:00

    Better I hate chronicles.

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    1. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:32

      Hiaan....how is this one chronicle of hope bikonu????I am still looking for the hope this gave me...

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    2. 80 shades of tizzy31 May 2015 at 21:10

      Lmao Ada riches yu are funny af

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  2. I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF)31 May 2015 at 15:05

    Awwww...

    I think I will send mine but you people here will think am bragging...

    11 years and counting!!!!...
    Uto!!..

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    1. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:50

      I will send my Chronicle of hope soon, still enjoying dis delicious stew and rice hubby prepared. I am blessed to have him as my hubby. BVs pls come and join me.

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    2. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 17:03

      11 years if lesbinism go to snm

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    3. Unknown31 May 2015 at 20:57

      Lol...pls send. I'd really want to know how you've been doing it.

      Thanks poster but I don't think this is a chronicle of hope. Why? Its just a year. You've not had any kids, not much stress or issues to cause discord yet. At least 2 kids, married for five years and above can send in chronicles of hope.

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    4. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 22:47

      Anonymous 17:03, I've been married 2years and counting....hubby still cooks, feeds and washes for me if need be. Not all marriages are sorrowful. I will marry my hubby in another life time. So if u are in a miserable marriage, try and fix it and don't wish others bad experiences in their marriages

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  3. Money makes you fuck lots of women without stress31 May 2015 at 15:05

    1992? Blood of........


    Men, una get sense oh. At least, u know your role. You are indeed the good wife.



    But hope you will be skilled enough to apply this intelligent role-playing when the ladies come around to obtain their pound of flesh.

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  4. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:06

    They've been married for 15 months and dated for 3 months. My dear come back with chronicles later. Like after 2 more years.

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    1. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:35

      HahahahahahahahHa. Chai! U pple on dis blog don't have chill @all. Make una fear God kwanu. U really cracked my ribs.

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    2. mizz qay31 May 2015 at 15:41

      Shut up n biko close ur eyes and receive sense...ur bitterness de smell

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    3. TheSugabelle Port harcourt - Elegant and creative cakes for all occassions31 May 2015 at 15:48

      Don't be a kill joy, there are still beautiful marriages.

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    4. BLOGLORD (MVBM)31 May 2015 at 16:16

      This is the problem with people.
      Why don't you just pray for the poster that these 15months of bliss will materialise to forever and a day marital sucess wrapped in love, joy and togetherness.

      Na wa for some of una o!

      So you are wishing or hopingg that after 2years her marriage would have crumbled or what?
      #the heart of man is desperately wicked.

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    5. Lady pisces31 May 2015 at 16:31

      Thank you anonymous i was going to say exactly the same. Now you are still in the honeymoon stage of your marriage. Wait till after 5yrs when you have like 2kids then come back and tell your story. Speaking from experience. Marriage is both sweet and bitter at the same time.

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    6. Kiks31 May 2015 at 16:38

      When I read where she talked about how long they hv been together, I just knew a comment like this was coming.
      Forget that. Marriages last a day, one week, 2, a month etc. Poster keep it up. I hope ur hubby keeps it up too. N u r right it's not how long u've dated it's d understanding that counts.

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    7. Iphie dearie31 May 2015 at 17:01

      What if I told you two miserable anonymous that it even gets better with time?????

      Bwahaahahahahahahahaha!!!!
      This one said wait till after 2years,nke ozo si wait till after 5years.
      I am absolutely sure that if someone comes with a rosy tale after 10years.. you all will say waait till you die!

      You weep for chronicles of hope and when you get it...you start stuttering up and down!!
      Abeg shift!

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    8. bitchplis (BentOuttaShape)31 May 2015 at 17:39

      I've given up on ppl on dis blog....when a guy dates a lady for a short while n he's talking about marriage,dey say he's a gold digger dats why he's trying to rush d lady into marriage....wen he dates a lady for a year or more n taking his time to know d lady more dey say he's a time waster. What exactly do u ppl want?

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  5. NUVI HONEY31 May 2015 at 15:08

    I like this. It's more like an advice though.
    You made your points well. And I pray the love you share now won't wan
    I was going to say a year in marriage is still young, you then added your age. Lol
    But like you said Age isn't maturity.

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    1. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 16:05

      It is indeed too early to be giving advice, don't jinx yaself! God will continue to prosper you

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  6. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:08

    May God bless and preserve ur marriage

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  7. Millicent31 May 2015 at 15:08

    Your marriage is still new, barely 1 year but I pray your home continue to be like this till eternity.. Continue to use those advices to keep your marriage intact and I pray your husband never changes in the future cause with men you can never tell what will happen in the future.

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  8. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:09

    Whez the hope? You're just there for like 12 months and you think you know it all!!!! Ok, come bck after 2/3/4 years like the rest of married ppl here then tell me this pinch pinch cuddle honeymoon you're talkin abt...

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    1. TheSugabelle Port harcourt - Elegant and creative cakes for all occassions31 May 2015 at 15:55

      There's hope o. Just change ur mindset and see it. Every marriage faces it's share of turbulent times, but not all marriages are bad. It's a pity that for fear of being termed a liar or a braggart, ppl don't send in their stories of beautiful marriages so, we think the norm is dv, cheating and the likes.

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    2. Iphie dearie31 May 2015 at 17:04

      Lmao!! You ran to come and see that she was pummelled for 10years and he stopped after she prayed and fasted?

      If you will,don't take some points from her narrative.

      It would have been hope if she started suffering from her wedding night? Ndi uru!

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    3. Unknown31 May 2015 at 17:57

      Iphie bekee u made my day...... I can't stop laffing @ndi uru.

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    4. Iphie dearie31 May 2015 at 18:20

      *if you like

      @Olori darl... how are you?
      Lolzzz... fa bu ndi uru true ooh

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  9. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:09

    Lovely writeup. May your marriage continue to flourish. Wish you safe delivery.

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  10. Money makes you fuck lots of women without stress31 May 2015 at 15:10

    I am soooo impressed sha


    Tell me how on earth can a man hit this kind of woman? You not competing with him or threatening his position, even if you are right.


    You are the Proverbs 31 woman.


    But I hope he plays his part sha. Because when it comes to cheating, a man does not do so as a result of how good or how bad his wife is. Personal values come into play here.


    I wish you the best

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    1. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 17:07

      Stella dis boy don dey get Sense! Wetin you do am ? You send am personal memo..e remain to shangggge the blog ID!

      Money peace be unto you!

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    2. Unknown31 May 2015 at 17:13

      The only comment u v made on this blog that I like. Even though I can't get around ur ID.

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    3. Teacher31 May 2015 at 17:58

      Amen, Hallelujah somebody!
      Holy Spirit complete the good work you have started, in JESUS NAME, AMEN

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    4. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 20:42

      You people will not kee me on this blog lwkm oooooo
      Pahahahahahhahaah

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    5. Freshberrytgs1 June 2015 at 00:06

      Money actually makes some sensible comments but his name is a put off, we read his cover as d book itself

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  11. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:10

    good to hear. No hating but come back in 7 years. Or 10 years. Then we can hear word.

    I have been happily married for 8 years, gone through financial turbulence, sickness, all sorts and nothing but God and prayers held us together... that said,I am still learning. it is all by God's grace.

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  12. nnukwunwanyi31 May 2015 at 15:11

    Kudos Mrs k,u dished it out hot,sisters receive sense.

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  13. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:12

    Interesting

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  14. Dembuk31 May 2015 at 15:13

    Hmmmm.....
    There are so many of us dat enjoy same and even more!!!!
    Like Ronalda mentioned yesterday, i hugged my soulmate so tight dat he became afraid!!!
    I know some bad belles will say you should wait til so so so yrs and den com back with dis kind of chronicles .......
    Your testimony wil b 4eva ijn

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  15. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:14

    So happy for u,almighty God will keep nd preserve ur family for good. Baba God please fix my life nd forgive my sins,u are all i look unto

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  16. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:18

    Wen I listen to chronicles lik this I v hope n bliv mine wil b a success.God bless n keep your home

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  17. Ice Queen31 May 2015 at 15:20

    Heard

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  18. mimi j31 May 2015 at 15:21

    I receive sense to believe marriage can b swit

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  19. Olivia Silk 31 May 2015 at 15:21

    You married a good man.
    Not all ladies are that lucky.

    You are wise, not all ladies are that lucky too.

    You are mature for your age, some married women on this Blog don't have half your brain.
    Lemme not even start with the silly single ones who astonish me everyday with their comments.


    God bless your home.

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    1. Iphie dearie31 May 2015 at 17:17

      Ollie olia?

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    2. Olivia Silk 31 May 2015 at 18:13

      Iphie baby. Arim mma oooo.
      Ole kpi iri?

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    3. Belle S31 May 2015 at 21:45

      Ari mi mma. Nwanne ifu-ala? Ashim maa atuzaputa n'ihu gi hehe

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  20. Divinity31 May 2015 at 15:23

    Nice write up, U re very gifted, n wise.#luckyhubby#

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  21. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:24

    Finally HOPE is here, I think alot of us needed that, 95% problems 5%hope... 3months dating & it works 4u, good. I wldnt advice anyone to do the same...

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  22. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:28

    By the time ure 10yrs in marriage I hop u'll stil say all these,those drama hapn 3yrs or more afta marriage.
    Best wishes

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    1. Freshberrytgs1 June 2015 at 00:15

      I dont know y everyone seems to believe marriage will get hard even when it looks ok. Everyone has been lamenting about the depressing chronicles, and this one comes with a different story; yet u look for loop holes. I am looking forward to sending in my one year testimony to Sdk as I promised. Thanks for the encouragement poster and may God keep and protect ur marriage from all negativities.

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  23. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:30

    THE BEST!!!! @SHB

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  24. Unknown31 May 2015 at 15:31

    My God bless your home!!! Nice1. I like were you said he baths you.

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  25. Rich girl31 May 2015 at 15:36

    Happy for you, but please stock up on wisdom and prayers coz unfortunately, the honeymoon never lasts forever.
    I really wish you all the best in your marriage.

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  26. ****Bbjac****31 May 2015 at 15:40

    God bless your home dearie,it shall last long,keep being that good wife.

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  27. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 15:41

    *yawns* marriage is like lucky dip . Go figure .

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  28. BLOGLORD (MVBM)31 May 2015 at 15:57

    Dear Poster,
    All I am sending your way is......
    Kisses and more kisses!
    Godbless your home darling.
    Many more years of joy and bliss.

    Once women can learn to be a "sensible mumu", they will know nothing but peace and love in their home.

    Don't argue with your husband uneecessarily else you totally push him away(Na small small dem de lick hot soup, else ypur tongue and mouth gets burnt)

    Be diplomatic, be sensible, be wise, be tactful, be respectful, be loving and see how you would enjoy marital bliss.

    God bless the sacrament of Matrimony!

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    1. Iphie dearie31 May 2015 at 17:19

      Bloggie my sweerie..
      What's up?

      I have been key pad-happy today ooh
      Perching on comments..lmao!

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    2. BLOGLORD (MVBM)31 May 2015 at 17:19

      Of course be prayerful too.

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    3. BLOGLORD (MVBM)31 May 2015 at 21:42

      Hahhhahhahaa.
      U perched well my love.
      Hope my tweenies are kicking?
      Tell them Aunty Bloggie sends a million and more kisses.

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    4. Iphie dearie31 May 2015 at 22:58

      Bloggie you too@twins?
      Lolzzz..
      Maybe next time..or can one hide under the other?
      Where is Lady Buchi sef? She started this twin business,like she knows I love em!

      I have sent your kisses ooh... to "them" lol

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  29. TheSugabelle Port harcourt - Elegant and creative cakes for all occassions31 May 2015 at 16:01

    My dear, what Jehovah has started in your life will be permanent in Jesus name. Do not let naysayers and bitter ppl on this blog make you doubt your reality. Continue to put God first in your marriage and he'll make your paths straight.

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  30. Chidinma Grace31 May 2015 at 16:34

    I wish u more happiness in ur marriage n more wisdom to carry on wen d time comes. Happy married life!

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  31. better pikin31 May 2015 at 16:38

    May your testimony be permanent. Don't let anybody scare you or tell you that things would change. Continue to be prayerful n God would cont to give you success. Bcos some people's problem started from 1st yr.

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  32. doltina31 May 2015 at 16:40

    I like this,You made your points well,Marrying the right and understanding man is by luck. Not everylady is lucky. May you grow old together in happiness.

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  33. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 16:45

    My dear too early for this ur so called chronicle of hope,come back in 5yrs time,then I can comment

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  34. radiant D31 May 2015 at 16:47

    Thanks for sharing. More grace

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  35. Apples ( SDKBlog Shrink)31 May 2015 at 16:51

    Good, you got a good one.....

    There are monsters out there nd also angels, so the truth is we all pray to get the angels but we also have to be an angel!

    Though your marriage is young it will last, you know why Cuz u both get each other and u seem to have a good foundation. Goodluck!

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  36. Nwa ndu loves IreneB31 May 2015 at 16:51

    Eyaaa

    I wish you a long and prosperous marriage! !!!

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  37. RICHBEE31 May 2015 at 17:08

    Tnx 4 d hope

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  38. Miss Ess31 May 2015 at 17:14

    When God decides to keep a marriage it does not the age the couple are. May God continually bless and keep your own

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  39. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 17:52

    Nne, you married on time sha. You are more like advising us lol. Well, been compatible in marriage is not about how long you dated. But, some couple that dated long was cos of financial issue or indecision. It goes well for some within 3months(as you said) or one week, they get married. No marriage are the same; we just have to ask God for wisdom to tackle any challenges that comes with marriage. I dated my hubby for twelve years and we are like brother and sister at times friends not because we're enjoying dating but cos of finance. That reminds me I had chronicle of Hope to share.(Patience is a virtue) Chi Austin

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  40. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 17:53

    Nne, you married on time sha. You are more like advising us lol. Well, been compatible in marriage is not about how long you dated. But, some couple that dated long was cos of financial issue or indecision. It goes well for some within 3months(as you said) or one week, they get married. No marriage are the same; we just have to ask God for wisdom to tackle any challenges that comes with marriage. I dated my hubby for twelve years and we are like brother and sister at times friends not because we're enjoying dating but cos of finance. That reminds me I had chronicle of Hope to share.(Patience is a virtue) Chi Austin

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  41. Nemerem31 May 2015 at 19:27

    May your home continue to be blissful. Like I always say, if you two are on the same pedestal (positive), marriage is not such a chore; you won't struggle, you will find yourselves aligned. And so long as you're happy and unified, there is no challenge you won't overcome.
    Keep it up darling, you're young yet so wise.

    N.B. You don't have be donkey years in marriage for it to be a testament of hope, it should be from day one, 'cos that's the way it was designed.

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  42. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 21:09

    Some of those woman out there who always wanted there husband to give them answer
    when ever he return home with an angers face or in bad mood without waiting for him to relax first
    are the cheating wife and those wife who is doing evils at husband back,they think he have find out

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  43. slyvikim31 May 2015 at 21:17

    Oooh I like hearing love stories..God will continue to bless your marriage,keep been patients and pray always.

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  44. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 21:54

    Lovely story of hope Mrs K.... Wow... I thank God 4 d success of ur lovely marriage so far. The God that has kept u guys thus far will b faith 2 keep u guys going 4 many more beautiful years. Reminds me of my very young marriage also. I pray 2 God 2 keep keeping us in love also. Pls ppl, she's trying to encourage fellow BVs here, so I dnt think there's any reason 2 b so negative as 2 say things like: " d marriage's still too young 2 be giving testimonies... Bla bla bla"..... Yea, she married early n tins r workin well 4 her. There's no need 2 beef or 2 b negative. Rather, b happy 4 her n pray 2 hav a blessed marriage also.. Again, Thanks Mrs K 4 sharing such an amazing experience so far. Kisses...

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  45. Mr X31 May 2015 at 22:19

    Honey moon phase or not, dis is a woman full of wisdom..Too many negative people on this blog and with dis kind of attitude,it will be hard to learn ....Come on people, it chronicles of Hope, why cant you tap from her story or be happy for her? are you guys not sick and tired of the regular Chronicles full of sad stories?.
    Dnt forget she mentioned that are marriage is not rosy. she was only trying to give us useful tips on how to make a marriage work. Pls if u dnt have anything useful to say pls keep quiet, it's not by force to leave a comment on every post.This Chronicle of Hope is for everyone, either you have being married for 1, 2 or 10 years.it's a reminder and a useful tip on how to make your marriage work.Some people need to remove bitterness from their lives Thank you so much for sharing your story,may God continue to bring Happiness in your marriage.

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  46. mrs diamond31 May 2015 at 22:26

    May God continue to bless ur marriage, many more sweeter years. For those saying its jst one Year, remember that some marriages park up after few weeks or few months...

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  47. Anonymous31 May 2015 at 22:45

    Hope is a feeling of expectation and a desire for something to happen. I sincerely wish you the best poster, but 15 months of marriage experience can never be like 15 years experience, your words of advise is still beclouded with the honey moon mist. Please, I am not hating. Our mothers' marriages, are the true chronicles of hope. Women, that have withstood the storm and challenges in their lives and came out victoriously.

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  48. Mao Akuh (Oriflame)1 June 2015 at 12:39

    May God keep you both to continue enjoying the good side of marriage.
    Will send mine one day but will come in 2 parts. Marriage is sweet when you marry your true friend.

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  49. favoured1 June 2015 at 23:56

    Wow! I am shocked. I can't believe this many people on this blog hate beautiful stories. I have been married for 5 years with beautiful kids and my marriage as been sweet. In fact I always say if I come back again to this world, I must marry my husband again. My older sis has been married for 21 years, and she boldly says you do not have to go through turbulent times of cheating and suffering. Marriage is bliss. Please let's happily tap into good things.

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  50. Anonymous3 June 2015 at 12:57

    This post was a bit up-lifting. I am feeling depressed right now because I thought I pretty much had the same kind of marriage this poster described. mainly peaceful and chaos free. I did my part, cared for my husband, cooked for him, was available to satisfy his sexual needs 24/7, prayed for him, kept my body in tiptop shape even after 2 babies via c/s, everyone around me testifies to that both men and women.

    In the wee hours of sunday morning, I was playing around with his phone cause i couldn't sleep. I realised he had WHATSAPP and BBM apps, it was surprising cause I had tried to get him to download them repeatedly but he refused. He said he wasn't interested in them, so I deleted mine. Like every curious cat, I wanted to see what he was up to on it since he didn't tell me that he had finally downloaded it. I saw that he had been flirting with almost 10 different girls, had met up with some, given money to a lot of them (even though our finances have not been in tiptop shape, but i've been persevering cause I know it is temporary - I have a great job offer with a N200k salary post-nysc but they are not ready for me to resume work yet, so I have no income for now). Before I digress too much, the chat that hurt me the most was a girl who asked my husband to be sending her N30k a month or week, i'm not sure again (my eyes were blurred with tears), and then whenever he needs her, he should just tell her which hotel to check into. Funny enough, they all know he is married with kids, they even ask him about his baby in the course of their chat. Another one that broke my heart was a girl he asked to arrange 15 girls for a political event being hosted by his older politician friend and the girls should be ready to provide TLC for them afterwards. From the messages, it was clear that he slept with this particular girl after that event because she reminded him that the money she received is not a replacement for the one he is supposed to give her (i'm guessing after a previous sexcapade). I am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do. I feel like I gave my marriage my all, I followed all the rules of a good wife, I read books, i don't know what I could have done differently. My husband told me everyday how much he was in love with me for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage (we've been married 2 years and 6 months). I saw no trait of promiscuity in him. I trusted him 100% so I never policed him concerning his whereabouts (it's not really in my nature to be like that). I never saw this betrayal coming so it has been very difficult for me to deal with this. I had an emotional breakdown on sunday night when he went for a meeting with the new governor of our state (he is related to him). He came home at midnight to see me unconscious. I woke up in a hospital, apparently I had overdosed on pills. At that time, I wanted to die to get away from my life, but now I didn't die, i'm happy he came home in time to rescue me. I mean he could have easily stayed out all night because it was a special day (post-inauguration celebration). I don't know how I could have thought of leaving my two little kids less that 2 years old. This man has made me CRAZY. If my family hears about this suicidal attempt, they will make me leave him immediately. My fear is what happens to my little kids, I don't want another woman to come and maltreat them. We were legally married but not in Nigeria. I don't know if Nigerian courts would recognise our marriage certificate. I don't want to lose my kids.

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  51. Anonymous3 June 2015 at 12:58

    I feel like God has allowed a trial too great for me to handle to come my way. I feel like he over-rated my strength. I am just 27. Isn't it too soon for me to face this kind of life challenge? God knows I married this man out of love, not for money, my parents tried their best for me. They sent me abroad, that's where I met my husband, I didn't even know his family in Nigeria was relatively well-to-do. Some people say if your husband cheats on you, it's nemesis for what you did to other women's husbands. God knows I am innocent. I have tried to find out why my husband who says he loves me, will go out of his way to flirt with girls and sleep with them, (it's not like it's all of them that are coming on to him, he is actually doing most of the chasing). He cannot give me a reason for it, he is just begging me to let it go. I have tried but I'm still hurting, i'm still obsessing about it. How can I heal? I don't want to die and leave my children. How can I stop this pain that is eating me up.

    I have read all the articles I can find online about how to get past a cheating husband, it doesn't seem to help. I asked my husband if he used a condom and if I need to go and check for STDs. He is not able to answer me directly but says we can both go and get checked out. I feel like God has forsaken me and I don't deserve it. I have tried to be a good girl all my life. I need this pain in my heart to stop. I need to be sane again. Dear poster, sorry for hijacking your post. I only intended to say two lines but somehow, I got caught up in the moment.

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