Veteran Nigerian comedian Ali Baba in this enlightening piece he posted on Instagram' awhile ago tried using his friend's relationship to caution people on toxic relationships. ....
Scenarios like this probably play out into Domestic Violence if the couple eventually marry.
Abi ohh.
ReplyDeleteThis man talks too much!
DeleteIs he using your mouth? Agadi Nwanyi.
DeleteThe Empress.
*rme* Relationship!! Sex!! Marriage!!! Man n Woman!!! That's all d Internet revolves around, when will articles lyk "how to becom a millionaire", how to be d richest woman in Africa" etc dominate d internet. Abegi!
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ReplyDeletePls let me digress a little
My boo and I just started dating, for understandable reasons we've decided to keep cool n get married in 3 years.
Reading this I'm scared. Should I continue? We are both crazily I love n I'll be meeting with his parents soon n him Mine too.
He isn't based in my country of base but that isn't a problem as we often communicate and trust is 99.9%
Should I keep believing till 3 years?
He is financially balanced same as me.
Our parents are also very okay financially??
I have seen relationship like urs work,it totally depends on both of u,if u are really going to give it all it takes .Finances shouldnt be a point here,its should be about how compatible u are Spiritually,physically,mentally etc. And if truly ur relationship can stand d test of time.
DeleteHow old are y'all? That's an important factor.
Delete@ Anonymous 14:42 pls can I have ur contact since u are financially okay and ur parents are also VERY FINANCIALLY OKAY .... I'm a female and I love making friends with financially okay pole....lol
DeleteEvidently, the finance is the fulcrum of anything you stand for since that's what you've highlighted here. So if he wasn't financially ok, or his parents are just average, there's nothing else that would have attracted him to you. Babe... Find a more tangible foundation of attraction, before going further. I view you to be in your early 20s
DeleteAnger and words...
ReplyDeleteYhh, guys really do store things in their memory n haunt u with them. Me no likey jor. Boo, be warned.
ReplyDeleteYhh, guys really do store things in their memory n haunt u with them. Me no likey jor. Boo, be warned.
ReplyDeleteThis is a toxic relationship. That line..." By the time I finishes dealing with you "...from a wife to be? Haba mana.
ReplyDeleteThese two have been fighting na, let them say the truth. Now this guy is scared stiff he wants to run and NO its not about breaking things. He is beginning to see other things.
If im fiercely angered i shake a lot and take glasses to the wall. Or i pull out the icetray and munch away on ice cubes. I toucheth no one.
Let him run Alibaba. Let him run.
But her attitude made him change his mind naa...Abegi.
ReplyDeleteEnd time toxic relationship
ReplyDeleteSome ladies have no chill...
ReplyDeleteDoesn't give a man the right to hit a woman tho...but how would you say mean things to someone you claim to love all because you are angry?!
Words that can never be retracted. I don't think anyone of us that would want our brothers to marry a woman who can't bridle her tongue!
yoruba men? forgerrit.
ReplyDeleteDid he mention Yoruba in his post?
DeleteSo ??? What as dat got to do with this issue,are all igbo men saints......
DeleteAnger issue is not really a good thing. Some can't control anger so they tend to speak everything that comes into their mind out. I don't talk while angry because words are like eggs
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Ok...so u knew u cudnt deal with that part of her and u still remained in the relationship,stringing her along till u found someone 'better' before finally jumping ships and yes u'll certainly have a million and one excuses as to y she's not 'd one'
ReplyDeleteI agree with your friend Ali Baba. Some ladies will just open their mouth and just talk anyhow. So bad. I always tell people to be caution of how they talk because once it's said, it can not be taken back.
ReplyDeleteWhen somebody is heartless and wicked if course you have to remind them. Some men are EXTREMELY wicked. Meanwhile, I don't support breaking of properties and striking your partner when you are angry.
ReplyDeleteI hate this thing called on\off relationships,I mean how do you take a break from someone you supposedly love then get back only to leave again,it is like a senior brother of silent treatment,to me the relationship is already heading for the rocks sef.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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ReplyDeleteSome people can talk anyhow when dey are angry sha!i remember once I told Lee boo to go to the hottest part of hell and roast,hmmmmm,he made sure he showed dat message I sent him to all my relatives dead or alive infact he showed it to my generation..after dat day,i learnt how to talk..women we talk about abuse but d way some of us abuse our spouses eeh,its terrible.some will even insult his d**k but will be on der knee sucking it deep throat at night
ReplyDeleteWith all due respect, I see nothing "enlightening" in this piece. Its a typical everyday palava of people making demands while having nothing to offer. You want me to keep my promise to do so & so, but you don't make yourself invaluable to me??
ReplyDeleteSadly, a large number of women these days are just like this. I want to marry, ultimate search starts, but they forget millions of other ladies are contesting too, & each has to make herself stand out, in her own lovely but unique way. Looks, kindness, compassion, figure, whatever you possess, these are all tools. If you don't have a mixture, let that one good thing you have, let it BECOME YOU. Let it be said that Kemi, haa, that girl is crazy kind o! Kemi might have a moustache or bowleg, but I bet you, there are men who all they want in a wife is kindness! Or passion! Or whatever.
How did I even get into this yarn. Lunch hunt starts biko.
Your friends confided in you an you brought their matter online. Just like some pastors, go to them for counselling, the next Sunday na ur gist them go use preach. 've you ever wondered what the guy did to the babe to warrant this outburst? Some guys can frustrate you to the extent that you will exhibit characters you never knew existed within you. Just like my ex who kept breaking up and making up, running off after sex like that was all i could offer. The last time I got really angry and cursed him. Prior to this time i never imagined that I would ever say any negative thing to any human beign on earth. That being said, don't judge any1 except you 've walked in their shoes.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame the man one bit.
ReplyDeleteI know say I dey craze, but e never reach like this.
Haba!
You get in a relationship, and take your partner for granted and even use hateful words.
Where's the respect?
This kinda woman will send people to beat her husband up, whenever they have problems.
And later, it will seem as if it's only guys that hit their partners.
I don't blame the guy at all abeg, though I know he has his own problems .
He's trying to avoid untimely death.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Happy New Month to you too, Nwa Amaka darling.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you plenty.
#WhiteDiamondOut
None of his friend confided in him oo,he form the story up just to have something to write about on social media.shiooor
ReplyDeleteWe all get angry but threatening someone in a relationshp means u aint tolerant...my advice to dat brother is to find his own wife
ReplyDeleteAli Baba just went out of his way to make the girl look bad. What did he do to warrant such text messages. Sometimes, men do things that bring out the worst in women.
ReplyDeleteHe does it every time. The woman is always the villain in every story he tells. I actually believe he has twisted the story to favour the man. Ali Baba you were not a good husband to your previous wives and vise versa. You all were at fault. Blame yourself for once biko and let women rest. Jeez!
DeleteThey confided in you Ali baba and you brought their story on social media huh.but the thing is this this story sound one sided,it's bad the girl breaks things when she gets angry but what is it that the guy do to her all the time that made her get so mad to the extent of breaking things and saying things to him in anger,the guy should check his attitude too.
ReplyDeleteWhat if the guy was being wicked and heartless to her? It is wrong to call him out on his behaviour? What happened to telling the truth to your significant other? He's acting wicked & heartless, the woman should not talk? Alibaba should sit abeg. That's how she will keep quiet and stay frustrated. Please voice out your opinions o, albeit not in a "fighting" manner, but let your voice be heard o. Dont accept nonsense unto say you wan marry.
ReplyDeleteMen should understand that women talk but don't mean anything. We are not like men that keeps things inside . Bitterness breeds cancer.
ReplyDeleteA loyal woman will get angry if you keep breaking promises you made to her but its good for women to bridle their tongues and hands too.
XOXO MYSTERY
Don't judge anyone!!! It could be accumulated anger. What did the guy for her to react this way....trust me most men are evil and they come out claiming victim. I know these because i have been in this kind of situation before. No sane woman that loves her boyfriend will curse him except he has really pushed her.
ReplyDeleteNobody male or female deserves to be in a relationship where violence and anger is not controlled. Men use blows more, women use their tongues more. Both inflict physical and deep emotional scars. Some men deliberately close late or hang out more than necessary just to avoid their wives' tongues and attitudes. Man, if that is what you see ahead.RUN! and keep running. Till you meet a real woman.
ReplyDeleteBut make sure you're a real man yourself.
Some relationships would leave u wondering if love exists.
ReplyDeleteThere's always 2 sides to a story. about live in a world where the word "love" has been so misused and things are valued while people are now being used.
ReplyDeleteThat is exactly the the problem with people like us who have a temper and sharp mouth. Even when the other person is in the wrong, you are the one they will call a troublemaker. This lady in question is obviously bitter and angry about something the guy has done or is doing to her. She cray yeah but I don't underestimate the selfishness of men.
ReplyDeleteBesides what's there in telling someone by the time I'm done with you...
Is that what should give someone sleepless nights? Abeg.
Everyone is now a relationship expert
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