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Saturday, May 07, 2016

Married Women Now Compete With Single Ladies In Committing Abortion?

Doctors in the country have decried the high rate at which married women now commit abortions all over the county.




DAILY SUN on Saturday spoke to some women who have found themselves in this situation. One of such women is Mrs. Adaku Udoji who after having five kids, got pregnant again and her husband couldn't cater to their needs due to the present hardship in the economy  "He couldn’t even take care of us well, how can I then bring another child into this world to start suffering like my children and I are doing now?”, she asked Daily Sun reporter.

Mrs. Udoji is not alone in her quest to keep her family small in this cruel economy. Many mar­ried women are regular visitors in hospitals just for the same purpose. Many of them say their husbands refuse to go for fam­ily planning treatments or agree to use condoms to prevent un­planned pregnancies, so they have also resolved to take mat­ters into their own hands by re­sorting to abortions.


Mrs. Dupe Bello, a trader is a serial abortionist. She has aborted four unwanted pregnan­cies without the consent of her husband. She has been pleading with God to stop giving her chil­dren as she has had enough with the four in her home presently. So, she resorts to abortion any time she becomes pregnant.
“I know I have committed sin, but the burden of feeding an extra mouth with the hardship now made me decide to termi­nate my pregnancy. Life is too hard for my family. My husband is a driver who is not making enough to cater for his family.’’


While faced with severe hard­ship with the number of children they have, Mrs. Bello cried out with frustration that she is tired of killing her foetus, but with a husband who doesn’t believe in family planning, she has no choice than to keep evacuating her frequent pregnancies. She stated with resolve that if she gets pregnant again, she will still resort to abortion.


Mrs. Nwamaka Idigo has five children in her ten year old mar­riage. But recently, given the economic situation in the coun­try, she had no choice but to terminate her sixth pregnancy, as she couldn’t cope with the additional mouth to feed in her already large family.
‘’I had to resort to abortion, as I could no longer afford three square meals a day for my chil­dren, nor able to afford their school fees. I don’t want another child. That’s punishment from God and not blessing.’’


But the opposite is the case for Mrs. Osagie whose husband was on her neck to terminate her fourth pregnancy because she had three girls already. He even resorted to beating her when she insisted on keeping the baby.
‘’My husband is the type of man that puts his feet on the ground that what he says must stand. I have no opinion of my own as his wife. To him, it is a must that I adhere to all his in­structions including having an abortion. He always threatens me with either staying in the marriage or leaving with my pregnancy.’’
Having nowhere to go and no one to assist financially in rais­ing her girls, she always gives in to his threat. She always makes the choice of choosing her mar­riage over having another child even if there is a possibility that she could have a son.


Mrs. Adaku Udo, decided to commit abortion because she got pregnant as a result of infi­delity. She said that her husband no longer cares for her and their two children which made her get a boyfriend to help her out financially.
Along the line, she got preg­nant and terminated the preg­nancy immediately. Before her husband discovered the child she was expecting wasn’t his, she had already taken care of it. She feels guilty for doing that, but it’s the only way for her to survive.


A report released at the end of August last year by the Min­istry of Health and the African Population and Health Research Centre revealed that up to three in five married women are hav­ing abortions.


In Nigeria, abortions are legal only when the mother’s life is at risk. However, the country faces low contraceptive prevalence, high rates of unwanted pregnan­cy, and it is estimated that 1 in 10 women had had an abortion.
Previous studies find that abortions are often performed in unsafe conditions, and over 3000 women die each year from abortion complications in Nige­ria. And treating post-abortion complications has high costs for the public health system.


This may have come as a shock to many, because preg­nancy in marriages is supposed to be good news. But these days, it turns out that not all pregnan­cies are received with joy. Some are received with muted shock and tears, kept a secret and ter­minated at the earliest opportu­nity.


The sobering reality is that married women also grapple with unintended and unwanted pregnancies. It is no longer the practice of single unmarried la­dies alone these days. In fact, married women seem to com­pete with single ladies with their many abortion trips to hospitals, both good ones and quack alike.

A medical practitioner, Dr. Gabriel Omonaiye who is one of the medical doctors decrying the rate at which married women now commit abortions  said a num­ber of reasons could be respon­sible for many married women going for abortions these days. He outlined lack of adequate knowledge of family planning methods, not using effective contraception, economic hard­ship, pressure from spouse to get rid of the unwanted preg­nancy as well as failure of some family planning methods, like the safe period counting and withdrawal method as some of the reasons these women resort to abortion.


For others, Omonaiye noted that it may be due to the fact that the last child is still very young and the attendant shame of con­ceiving too soon may drive a married woman to evacuate her unborn baby. Rape resulting in pregnancy may also be another reason for such action by mar­ried women.


But while these women may have legitimate reasons to com­mit abortions, Dr. Omonaiye warns that complications from such actions may be deadly. He said that complications from abortions include exces­sive bleeding, infection, womb perforation, bowel injuries, damage to the bladder, cervical lacerations, retained products of conception where remnants of the foetus and placenta are left in the womb, depression, and extreme guilt for doing away with their unborn children es­pecially if the pregnancy has advanced.


‘’Abortions done by quack doctors remain the highest im­plication for these women. It may lead to death in some instances. Unfortunately, a number of women are either unaware of these implications or they just simply choose to ig­nore them just to get what they want”, he added.
A visit to a popular hospital at Iyana Iba, Lagos revealed that abortions could be carried out with N25,000 but it all depends on the bargaining prowess of the patient involved as well as the age of the patient. Further findings at the hospital reveal, there had been several women who have been through the pro­cess but keep a straight face as if nothing was happening there.


A doctor in one of the popu­lar hospitals in Surulere, Lagos, lamented that the rate at which married women are committing abortions these days is scary. Many of them get pregnant from their illicit affairs and then abort them to avoid raising the suspicions of their unsuspecting husbands.


‘’Some women get pregnant from extra marital affairs and readily abort such unwanted pregnancies for obvious rea­sons. We charge them N30, 000 to get the procedure done here, but they are ever willing to pay and come back again for more.’’
Abortion is illegal in Nigeria except if is necessary to save the woman’s life. Convicted in­dividuals can face jail term of up to 14 years. The restrictive law on abortion in Nigeria has brought about unsafe abortion.

An abortion is considered un­safe when the unwanted preg­nancy is terminated by persons lacking the necessary skills or when done in an environment lacking minimal medical stan­dards or both. The result is the death or permanent disability of many women.

Many unsafe abortions in Ni­geria take the form of women engaging in self induced abor­tions using harmful substances, tools or objects to terminate their pregnancies. Some are forced to patronise quack doc­tors many of whom are semi literate.
In many cases, abortion seek­ing women are turned away from hospitals or clinics by doctors; many of whom due to personal religious convictions or fear of the law refuse to offer these women the services.



It is estimated that 40 percent of abortions in Nigeria are per­formed by physicians in estab­lished health facilities, while the rest are performed by non phy­sician providers. Of all hospitals and clinics that provide abor­tions, 87 percent are privately owned, experts have said.


63 comments:

  1. Fake story.. So they gave out this interview with their name and surname even though most of their husbands don't know about this abortions or infidelity. And no where did it state not real name..

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    1. Abortion 25k at dis same iyana iba dat i stay close to?i know d hospital and we believe d only thing they are good us is abortion and giving birth..abortion no pass 5k-10k for d hospital na..

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  2. this is so sad but very true. reading this just breaks my heart. God please have mercy.

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    1. Yes, so true. Cheated on my husband ones and became pregnant, i aborted it asap. Learnt my lessons and am a faithful wife again. Though hubby travelled for almost a year then. The abortion thing opened my eyes, i never believe it would happened. I've asked God for forgiveness. And that was my last cheat on hubby. Though i later discovered that my hubby too cheat, but God will not forgive me if i cheat again, cos i made a promise to him.

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  3. So with complications like exces­sive bleeding, infection, womb perforation, bowel injuries, damage to the bladder, cervical lacerations, retained products of conception where remnants of the foetus and placenta are left in the womb, depression, and extreme

    How come some people have aborted like 20 times?? Hmm. Lord have mercy..

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  4. Is abortion legal in Nigeria?

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  5. Na wah o!

    What happened to tying their tubes, since they've made up their minds that they're done having children?

    Isn't it better than risking infections, permanent complications, and even death?

    Plus the moral implication?

    Hian!


    #WhiteDiamondOut

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  6. They should close their two legs or use condom naaaaa
    Imagine!

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  7. No now!! This post will break the hearts of women waiting on God for a baby.. Chei!!!

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  8. Some people are there crying for the for child whole some are crying not to have more. Hmmmm

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  9. So they don't know what is called family planning, they rather abort, too bad

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  10. Old news dey hide under d umbrella of I am married.

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  11. These women opened their mouth to tell you this Mr reporter?

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    1. I'm 10 weeks gone now, wn I discovered I was preggy I got confused cos my last baby just stopped breastfeeding d previous month. I even thot of going 4 an abortion cos hubby was not aware nd was out of town. But one Saturday morning my fone rang at 6am.it was my hubby nd d first question he asked.r u pregnant.i was shocked. He said he had a dream I was preggy but someone took away d baby. I told him I was.dat killed every thot of aving an abortion.Although ds pregnancy is very tough I'm grateful I'm aving ds baby. To me my husband's dream is anoda sign dat God hates abortion.camt wait 2 hold my baby.

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  12. Na today, married women do more abortions than single ladies. All they have to do is go to the hospital they normally have babies. It's almost like it's legal for married women. I still see it as spilling blood & something if done at all should be left for single ladies. There is something called family planning. Several abortions is dangerous for a woman and as usual the man goes free.

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  13. Na Buhari cause am with APC chain.

    Married women doing ikwokrikwo and still abusing side chicks

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  14. Chia there's God

    True

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  15. Everyone is now blaming the economy. So 5children is not enough even if the economy is good,is that why you will have a soccer team? How many children does an average family have in the UK and USA?
    Idiot poor people be recreating like ducks.
    Looking for excuses like you don't know where they sell condoms. Open your legs wide and keep fucking poor men. Ndi ara.

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  16. Hmm. Nawa o. When some people are seriously looking for fruit of womb, others are busy aborting theirs. Why won't God share them among those looking for them.

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  17. What happens to family planning?? If you ask me,i had say its ignorance that is the problem here.If your husband says he dosn't want you to do family planning and yet wants to have sex with you,then jejely go and do your thing without telling him.Why will some women want to kill themselves? Must you tell your husband?? If you die doing abortion,the man will marry another woman.Women once you are done with the number of kids you want,pls go for a family planning.

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    1. @ Ada exactly my thoughts. Women should learn to be responsible for themselves. In the hospital they give lectures on the various family planning methods the likes of the pills,the implant,the Intrauterine device(IUD). Ignorance is not an excuse. If the woman dies in the process the husband won't even mourn her for upto six months he will get another woman with the excuse I can't take care of the children alone. Please women be wise your life is precious learn to be responsible for your well being and don't depend on anyone for your happiness cos it's comes from u and u alone.

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  18. All these excuses are lies. Married women have been aborting nor be today E start.

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  19. Illiteracy is indeed a very bad disease, go for family planingggggggggggggggg!

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  20. Daily Sun? Nah!
    I don't believe this

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  21. 25-30k for abortion? When IUD contraceptive is just 15k n free in govt hospitals. Na wa o. Pls need awareness on family planning methods

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    1. I paid N500 for IUCD in a private hospital.

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  22. Long read Biko...na today?

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  23. Some are crying God bless my womb. While some are throwing it away just like that. Hmmmmm Life!

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  24. She will be screaming: " pls don't release inside" so I struggle to withdraw and ejaculate on the rug or bed. It's not easy but after two children am done. Economy no funny.

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  25. I had not had sex in two months when she came visiting. I pounced on her at the door she resisted and said she was on her period. Omo I did not care I did it like that even gave her a head. But am scared she might get pregnant cos I did not use condom.

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  26. Married sluts7 May 2016 at 22:59

    Because the pregnancies are for their lovers.

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  27. Hmmmm,marital unfaithfulness leads to unwanted pregnancy and will birth another sin, killing of innocent children. For those women saying their husband did not agree to family planning should continue to risk their life as soon as they peme he will marry another woman. Women be wise.

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  28. There is a married very pretty lady in my office but she's married. I want her badly am willing to use charm to have her. She has no child I approached her for her number she gave me. I sent her romantic text messages but one day she told me her husband saw the text and shouted. She told me jokingly but I got scared. Even though am married I must have her and impregnate her by any means available she's gorgeous

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  29. In FCT, no hospital does abortion, only in lagos

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    1. Lies .. I know 4 that does codedly all in gwarinpa.

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    2. I can abort your brain, just pay 2k because you are not smart.

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  30. Hahahahahahahahahahaha!
    This is serious,
    Married women in the house, what do you have to say to this?

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    1. Hahahaha...this is laughable. Married women,over to u!

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  31. Such nonsense excuse annoy me. Like, Seriously? ? "Your husband doesn't like family planning" mtchewwwwwwwwwwwwwww. Are you for real? He doesn't like condoms too and yet he can't do the "Withdrawal" method?? Hain! And you the woman/lady can't walk to a hospital to do F.P too.
    You blaming the country.
    But the hardship doesn't stop you from having sex. (Pardon my language )
    Who bears the pain and trauma of a D&C?

    Your excuses no make am. Mtchewwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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    1. There's no trauma or pains when u already v ur own kids except for those who are ttc and had an abortion before.

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    2. Withdrawal method is d worst form of family planning. I did it and I currently pregnant upon how careful my hubby is. If I drop dis 1 I am goin to get a suitable family planning method for myself. I almost aborted this 1 if not dt d 1st dr we approached discouraged me. We then found anoda 1 who said we wld do an evacuation. I fear dt 1 abeg cos d pregnancy was like 6 weeks then. Out of confusion I called my mum and told her I was confused. She immediately warned me not to try it or she wld never forgive me if I do it. I fear my mama well well cos if u offend her like dat e no dey commot for her mind. Na so I take keep dis belle and I am so grateful to my mum.

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  32. Lord I'm still in ur waiting room. Please bless me with a child.

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    1. He will bless you. Don't worry. Just trust Him.

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  33. Stella , this is not new, married women commit abortion way more than their single counterpart.For Nine months I attended pre natal , I can count the number of abortion I have witnessed by married women.they just rush in few mins do the deed and rush out to go pick their kids from school. I no judge anybody, don't know how it feels as I'm yet to have the number of kids I wanted. But I'm sure most of them are consumed by guilt.

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  34. Na today hmmmm,married women & babybabas na do abortion pass....

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  35. Hmmmm
    Speechless .
    Family planning would have been a better way to prevent d unwanted pregnancies
    Men should also be encouraged to get a vasectomy. No be only women sabi suffer. 😡😡

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  36. Why not pool the money for the abortions and tie your tubes at once?

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    1. Did u say tie tubes? R u am agent of darkness? Wat if smtn happn to d kids whr will u start frm? Can't ur husband tie his own tubes.

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    2. Did u say tie tubes? R u am agent of darkness? Wat if smtn happn to d kids whr will u start frm? Can't ur husband tie his own tubes.

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  37. So the man cannot use condom or the married woman cannot afford contraceptive but can afford 30k abortion. And some people will not let us rest. They will be shouting my husband my husband up and down.

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    1. How can one pay 30k for abortion,I was almost four months gone when I found out I was pregnant and I paid 18k for it. Right now I think am pregnant again and I dont want to have an abortion again,God please help me. My boyfriend is trying every means to get me pregnant so we can get married immediately but the man is too stingy sef

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    2. I paid 250k for mine. May GOD forgive me.

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  38. For the women who are cheating and fall pregnant, same way you got pregnant same way you could get HIV. Why would you let a man you are not married to ejaculate in you? This is so risky, no amount of good sex is worth your life, or even exposing your hubby to something deadly. If you must cheat then you must use condoms, along with spermicide.

    Nothing shocking here. Married women have always had abortions. The money world we live in is a tough one. The iud last five years, contraceptive pills are dirt cheap as well as condoms. Couples should discuss family planning during their engagement period, decide on the number of children they will have, and decide on the contraception they will use. Couples should be planning all aspects of their lives together.

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  39. Well I have another view.I feel this post is sponsored by all this foreign donor agencies as part if pressure to legalise abortion in Nigeria. What do I know sef? USAID and co. can like to throw about statistics I'm developing countries.

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