Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

Hmmm!!!...Tough decisions!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

SISTER IN LAW DILEMA

Thumbs up Stella! 

 I'm writing on behalf of my sister-in-law who is at a crossroad. I will try to be as precise as possible. She has been separated and not divorced from her legal husband over five years now with three children. 

The husband abandoned them without taking financial responsibility over any of them up till date. She lives with her mother who is my Mother-in-law. That's a story for another day. My husband pays the school bills of one of the children however, and she also struggles on her own to cater to the needs of the remaining two children. She likes me a lot and confides in me, hence, her reason for seeking my advice on this difficult issue I'm about to share. 

She recently met a Nigerian muslim man (we are christians) in his early 50s who just relocated from Kuwait to settle down and start up his own business in Nigeria. According to her, the man has been honest about his past. The man is divorced from his first wife who is in the UK. He has a child from the marriage and the child lives with the mother in the UK. He was with another woman in Kuwait (non-Nigerian) and they also have a child together but the woman refused to come down with him to Nigeria. 

She prefers to stay in Kuwait to raise their child according to him. They have a mutual agreement to live separetely. Now, this man has been financially helpful to my sister-in-law and promises to take care of her and all her needs and also help train one of her three children up on till university level but not without my sister-in-law marrying him legally and having atleast a child for him. 

She doesnt wish for more children, at the same time she doesnt want this opportunity to slide. Note that the man is financially capable and my sister-in-law has a daily business that yields a little profit. 

Please use your red pen Stella, and my dear BVs, also share your thoughts on how to advice her. Thank you.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

BREAKING UP TIPS NEEDED

Hello Stella, I was recently introduced to your blog although I was once addicted to your competitor.

I must say, the difference is clear. Keep up the great work.

Well my story goes like this. I have been dating a girl for about three years now, but from day one I knew she isn't the one for me. 

She's a barrister, loving, generous and an extrovert. Our relationship has always been, one month on, two months break up. I have told her countless of times, that I don't love her and that she should please move on. 

We have broken up on phone, at an eatery like a gentleman would do. But after each break up, na serious cry and I get hurt for what I did. Then we get back again.

 Its been a circus for three years now and I'm fed up, but still in it.

She's 34, two years older than I am. All I hear is marriage, you and I, and I'm not ready for that. I'm still struggling to build an empire not marriage and kids. 

She can be blunt and rude and apologetic after the deed is done. I know I have my flaws as well. But I fear for the greater canopy which is marriage, don't want to go into something with someone I would regret for life.

I just want to be free, without hurting anybody. Please advise... Thanks

Chronicles posting is turn by turn so please be patient and stop complaining I havent posted.It is one or two a day and until i say the folder is empty,please be patient...you hear?
Thank you.