STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED WIFE
Hi Stella and my fellow bvs,
I just got married less than a month ago.Now I met my dh beginning of last year from a mutual friend,within three months of our meeting he proposed marriage.
Hi Stella and my fellow bvs,
I just got married less than a month ago.Now I met my dh beginning of last year from a mutual friend,within three months of our meeting he proposed marriage.
Yes I was so happy that God had finally answered my prayers after so many Heartbreak.
He's a nice gentle man and was very spiritual prior to our meeting.I noticed after a while he's spirituality dwindled.He stopped attending church and would keep giving excuses about going to Church,this got me worried but i kept it to myself.
During our courting,we agreed on no sex but we would kiss and smooch.One day i decided to give him a bj to be sure he's john thomas worked but within a second he had ejaculated.He said its because its been years since he was with a woman.
I ignored that since he's always said he's been celibate after his last relationship crashed.
Some other time again i repeated the bj,it was the same outcome.I decided to wait a bit before getting married to him,in other to know him better.
He's been a great guy with the usual fights but some weeks before our wedding most of the things that make us fight just seized.Almost like he became matured.
He's been a great guy with the usual fights but some weeks before our wedding most of the things that make us fight just seized.Almost like he became matured.
We had our wedding and i danced like crazy,everyone was happy until we got back home,after taking my shower and wanted to sleep,dh wanted some action.I pleaded with him that i was weak but he wont hear of it until i gave in.He was good with the foreplay,almost like i forgot my tired state.He was so hard that he entered into me and just after a thrust he ejaculated.
I was shocked and he requested second round.Told dh i was tired and cant wait up for his john thomas to wake up back so we went to bed.The second day he started with the usual fore play when it was time for action,his john thomas made a bow,i couldn't understand what was happening.He said i should be patient and that it would still come back up but i slept off cause i was pissed .
Third day,the same outcome until now.He's not even a two mins indomie man,he's a one seconds man.
How do I cope with this for the rest of my life.He's saying this has never happened to him before,could be stress,please what kind of stress is that.I am giving him time to get his act together.
He's just 40years.
What could be the problem.
I know he had a spine correction some years back but i dont think thats the issue.I am miserable for saying no sex b4 marriage but it was Gods word to us.Not to fornicate.What options do I have here?please i need your advice,i am just 25,how can i deal with this for the rest of my life?please suggestions on how to help him.
OMG...this is so sad...Please blog visitors prefer or tell if there is a solution or not and if not,please console yourself with the slogan ''sex is not food''
Hian! Sorry, counselling will do and a doctor is needed
ReplyDeleteKayan mata(they have for men too)is the answer.
DeleteDid your mind tell you it's only having sex that is fornication? You kissed and smooched, even did bj.
Poster there is a solution,a bv who had that with erectile dysfunction tru the herbs i bought fr him.leave details with sdk,can help ur hubby.
DeleteMeanwhile you too@la fresh, dey into this kayan mata?hhmmm
DeleteSex is food for married people o. Find a solution and do it fast before you start cheating.
DeleteSex is food for married people o. Find a solution and do it fast before you start cheating.
DeleteHe probably doesn't know how to control his kini before ejaculating. He needs to see a sex therapist and a doctor. Also pray for him.
Delete15 Yrs age difference is all i see. I give you beyonce hands ma
DeleteWell get a vibrator if sex is food for you. I and my girlfriend use one
ReplyDelete*dat messed up silly girl*
One 'second' man, not one seconds
DeleteHospital and prayers. What do you want again or i should suggest dildo for you?.
ReplyDeleteGo and give him burantashi so that the thing can be strong and you enjoy it.
Anyway God is still on the throne for you
Before anyone takes Buruntashi or any other libido enhancing drugs, let them be sure they don't have a heart condition o. Na so men de die untop woman because them take drugs.
DeleteScientifically, how does 'burantashi' works?
DeleteAbi work
DeleteStella sex is food ooooooo. Not sure I can stay 2weeks without it
ReplyDeleteWhen married
Then marry an twenty years old man.
DeleteA twenty
DeleteHahahhahahaha Ntoooor, that's how you people will be deceiving yourselves, no sex before marriage my ass, divorce him or get a toy boy to service your Congo from time to time, this should serve as a lesson to others, Stella will be deceiving u people to tie your legs and pretend to be a mermaid, oya this is the result, endure of walk away.
ReplyDeleteWhere have u been?!!!!
DeleteWelcome o
Hahahha...am telling u
DeleteBuuuuhahahahahahahahahaha...imagine SDK the mermaid advocate doesn't have any advise for poster....buuuuuuhahahahahahababahahababahahahahahaha...how can u marry without test running??? These are the kinda things u ll cope wt for the rest of ur life...mind u sugar boy or fuck boy or sex toy is adultery and thou shall not commit adultery
DeletePray that the semen that comes out in the one second encounter is ok to fertilise ur egg.
Lmaoooo.. So true 😹😂😂😂
DeleteKikikiki. Welcome o
DeleteGod's word din stop you from dishing out bjs
ReplyDeleteAs in ehn
DeleteDem dey follow God's word and dem still dey do premarital bj
Don't mind them, same thg i said down there...
DeleteIts okay for a dick to enter their mouth & cum inside,then u use that same mouth to sing praise & worship songs & pray, but its a taboo to near their pussy, mouth and pussy sef which one clean pass?? Mtcheeeeew.
👌👌👌👌👌👌
DeleteA million kisses. Irks me to my ovaries when people see sexual act as just d act of 'shooking'
DeleteHow people easily blame their misfortune and frustrations on God,but my joy is that you know that deep down your heart,you know you are lying.
DeleteGod's word!! But you engaged in sex accessories and that is not part of disobedience.
Marriage is honourable,bed undefiled. Leave God out of your misfortune, if you had wanted to obey God,you would not have even kissed,that way,your spirit will be pure,and God will not have to take His eyes away from you. Yeah!! Sin makes God take His eyes away. And I am sure the holyspirit would have helped your avert problems.
Anyway,since it has happened,sit your hubby down in the night and talk to him about this issue.ask him questions about what he done and even when all this started. Scold him a little for not trusting you enough to tell you before marriage.
Don't make him feel less of a man,discuss on the way out. Medically?spiritually??,whichever way,put yourself in his shoes,treat him as you would want him to treat you if you were to be the one that has problem.
Hold hands together in love and commit the problem to God,worry less,make some sacrifices for him now,it's going to be all right.
You have a family,responsibility now,so create time for God to help you carry on with your responsibility.
Finally,sex is not food. Enjoy when it is available and control yourself when it is not.
Ana emgheri, no sex before marriage, but you can do the other 'dos' smh
DeleteRight on point👍
DeleteThe two of you should go to a hospital and get a doctor to recommend some pills that will make him last longer or get erect when he needs too.
ReplyDeleteIt may also be the pressure he feels whenever the two of you are about to have sex. It's like he is afraid to disappoint because he can sense you're getting worried and upset about his situation. There may truly be nothing to be worried about.
Relax, pray and get him checked.
With herbal treatments, your husband will be fine... Consult me, I can help you!
DeleteSee how you put just in front of 40years like he is a spring chicken.
ReplyDeleteSee its okay to be celibate or a Virgin before marriage but women please endeavour to size up his kini and be sure it can stand before marriage.
I also think with the way cases like these are becoming rampant it's only fair for churches to insist for soon to be married couple's especially men to do some test to check if the gun is working and not just producing bullets.
Anyway, in your case I think his stuff stands but you need him to Last longer. I have heard cases of men whose penis can't stand at all.
Try burantashi maybe lol just kidding.
Go and see a doctor please and you should be more loving and kind towards him though I feel he knew his condition before he married you reason he rushed the wedding. He probably has an infection, so seeing a doctor is top on the list of what to do. He should also look at his diet and exercise. I don't know jare
Then shut up if u don't know, u mustnt comment on every chronicle. How can a gun produce bullets if its not working? Contradicting urself upandown.
DeleteWhere is the kayan mata/maza seller? You are needed o customer Don come. Poster go to hospital or order for kayan maza from the north.
DeleteAnon 16:20 stop being a faceless hater.
Deletedis one jst b talking off point forming adviser.wat xactly are u even saying?
DeleteDearest anon, a gun can produce a bullet without working properly o. One minute man can impregnate a babe o
DeleteMe and my man are practising no penetration (i am not deceiving myself calling it abstainance) but we spoon.
ReplyDeleteHe is a virgin while I am celibate, i brought the spooning idea because I wanted to know how long he would last, first day, first round of spooning, he came fast...
In my mind, i say "this one is on his way outta my life". 2nd round of spooning, omo mehn....Na me tire o.
At least now I know the size and that he can last.
Who my epistle epp?
Woman, make sure you climax during foreplay, go find a way to do that. Dildo, fingering...
He's 40 already....there is little or no hope.
So you're having sex or what? I dnt understand coz spooning no get penetration, so which one is he 1st and 2nd round again?...
DeleteAbeg.. Wetin be spooning? How is it done?
DeleteHe's 40 Nd u'r 25, babe y?,, d guy don enjoy he youth he nor want u 2 enjoy ur own....
DeleteConvince him to go 4 treatment ..dou, kpele, sorry ehn?,, Na 2 manage ahm sure pass...d Lord is ur strenght...
Please which wan is spooning again Hian! So sleeping back to front can make a man ejaculate?
DeleteAccording to the chronicle and to my understanding, She was in a hurry to marry having been through several heartbreaks, the reason she couldn't stand her ground and tell the man to go check himself out before saying 'I do'
DeleteSpooning is like kissing cuddling, holding each other tightly, rough handling yourselves by licking sucking and touching. Usually with underwear still strapped on even if touch points are hanging out of ghe underwear. Kikiki. Happy spooning! 😁
DeleteWhat you are suggesting is not spooning. You guys are dry humping and probably doing other stuff like necking and kissing and fondling and what not, not merely spooning.
DeleteSpooning is 69
DeleteAnon 20:53 thank you o. .... spooning I know na cuddling that year o.
DeleteChai!...
ReplyDeleteAny man of woman that insist on no sex before marriage has a cockroach in his /her cupboard!...
Poster,I can't advise you to leave your marriage,NO!!!...
I hate divorce with a passion except on domestic violence!...
Help him find a solution!...
Be managing his foreplay for now untill he finds solution to his one second ejaculation!...
I won't advise you to get a side bobo cos you are still a young couple!...
Side bobo is allowed from 5 years up in marriage when you must have birth all the kids you want!...
*or....
DeleteThis one gel. lol. Funny Chief.
DeletePoster, please go to the hospital with him and see a doctor for a solution and also pray dear. Prayer can do the unthinkable.
Gbam!!!!!! Pretentious men, once their lose erection they suddenly become born again Christians and celebate.
DeleteOh God!! Please help me deliver Linda.
DeleteHehehehehehehe. Queen 🙆
DeleteChristian men sef you will see them holding back sexual aggression. Not saying celibacy. They will beg you to just leave them befofe they pounce on you.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 queen Ure too funny...u said side hobo from 5years🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHahahahaha...
DeleteWho stole your handle? Phew!¡!!!! Never say never!
DeleteMadam you are funny o what was the point of the testing you did before marriage then.
ReplyDeletePeople (both men and women alike)with issues now tend to use the no sex before marriage excuse to trap people.
Why won't your husband man be honest so you can both find a solution to his problem see how he left the whole work for you as if you are the one with the problem.
I wish you luck in finding a solution
Lol @console yourself with the slogan ''sex is not food''
ReplyDelete@poster All this are your fault.you re miserable for saying no sex before marriage that it was was God's word for you and husband but wasn't the word against the blow job you were giving husband before marriage? Sin is sin,which God even reviewed to you that he is only a one min man but you turned blind eyes to it. If you want to chop a frog to know how sweet it is, no need of licking the oil around it alone,my dear go see a doctor with your husband,this is a medical situation,pls seek the help of a doctor,it can still be corrected, nothing spoil.
Stella savage!! Sex is not food, Lol. On a more serious note poster, there's not much you can do except you want to start cheating. Does your husband stay in Ajah cause I nearly entered the trap. Maybe you should buy a sex toy or continue praying.
ReplyDeleteLmao😂
DeleteNa wa for the nawawa ooo. The same God that asked you to wait before marriage cannot sha support you leaving him. So you just have to find other ways (within marriage) to satisfy yourself. But what i know is that this is definetely not new to him. He just dey use church as camouflage.
ReplyDeleteYes, God told us "No sex before marriage",
ReplyDeleteDid he also tell you to "blowjob before marriage?"
You don't have to do anything .
ReplyDeleteYou should go to a hospital that deals on mens sexual health.
Premature ejaculation is treatable .please stop panicking.
One second man
ReplyDeleteI just died
The best thing a man can ever give a woman is laughter and good sex
And he's even lying that it has never happened to him before
My question to your hubby is, why you lying bro?
You've always been like that so no need for the lies
Quick ejaculation has some kind of cure so you guys should go to a hospital or go for herbs.
And why do people keep saying no sex before marriage yet they do Fellatio and cunninlingus? Who you trying to fool?
Pls epp me ask them oo
DeleteChi-baby you've spoken well. No sex before marriage yet they did fellatio and cunninlingus. Hahaahahaahaahah big English for big sin. Sebi God even said you've commited adultery or fornication as soon as you think about it in your heart or have sexual urge for the opposite sex.
Delete😂😂😂 @big English for big sin.
DeletePoster, go to the hospital, get him to start exercising preferably running and lifting. He should cut off sugar as well. You will be fine.
People are just deceiving themselves,
ReplyDeleteYou "gave him a blowjob" and you are talking about "no sex before marriage"
Was it trumpet you blew, was it not PENIS?
Girl, repent first of your lewdness and see how God will help you from here
Lol@ trumpet
DeleteTrumpet of the lord..hahaahah
You should figure a way to get your husband to see a doctor instead of dragging him here to be ridiculed by the ill-mannered crowd here. Madam, you didn't do your husband any good by dragging him here to be humiliated . You're his number one enemy. People like you should be avoided. I just imagined if I had this issue and I quietly opened this blog and saw this post. I doubt if we would both pass the night in the same house again.
ReplyDeleteRelax bro, we're all anonymous
DeleteWhy so sensitive? It's not like she mentioned his name
DeleteExcept me@Atheist...I'm not anonymous...
DeleteTeamTestYourProductBeforeBuying#
ReplyDeleteIts a forever deal,ain't taking no chances
Yes oooo....
DeleteMine was #TestedandTrusted #ItEvenHaveVeinsOntop #CurvySomethingLikeThat #IhopeSayStellaNoGoPursueMeCommotForThisBlogLastlast #PrayForMe
DeleteHahahahaahaahahah.. you sef sofrey-sofrey dey do am nah. Dont be thrusting with all your power. Let half be inside and half be outside #IhopeStellaNoGoPursueMeCommotFromThisBlogLastlast
DeleteChsmelom you is crazy😂😂😂😂😂😂
Delete"Blowjob"?
ReplyDeleteChristian?
Why, why why why?
Help me ask oh
DeleteBlowjob - yes
DeleteChristian - yes
Why? Err... because body dey scratch. 😁
Have i answered your questions?
Hi BVs and BVNs. How are you? I dey una s/o oh. Sorry my head is too full. This week na final 400m race, senior girls. My head full plus this kinky bob wey i do on Saturday not helping matters.
Poster please go to the hospital. I cant relate 😂 just bundle your husband to the hospital biko. As in.... bundle
A real d**k should be arrogant and proud. Not bowing down to anyone or anything at the face of entry point. Mbanu!!
DeleteOne of the major reason is maturbation; all these men forming celibate nd masturbating kontinu.. google is ur friend,God is ur father may the odds be in your favour, dats all I can say.
ReplyDeleteActually a chronic masturbator often has the opposite problem, dem no fit cum unless them comot use hand finish.
DeleteThe oral sex u had, it's that not fornication? Sigh. U pple like to call God all the time and start deceiving urslf.
ReplyDeleteIf u want to fuck, then fuck in peace, if u dnt want to then don't. Stop all these God said, bible said, yet u r doing oral sex. Sigh.
I dnt ave any advice for ur present situation.
please tell him to see a doctor and after the treatment he can go for herbs... trust me it works wonders... don't give up just yet,another thing you can try is making out differently.
ReplyDeleteLol,Hahahahahahahahahahaha....
ReplyDeleteConsult a fertility doctor.
ReplyDeleteIf u can't deal, pack out.
ReplyDeleteAll these are minor issues to me...so far pepper rested! Duuh!
If u keep making him feel less of a man, that erection will disappear, u'll be shocked to know he can last 30mins on a side hen.
Hahahahahaha. See why I love your comment. Once the pepper is there, console yourself with it
DeleteOh wow! I'll be back to read comments. #strolls outta post
ReplyDeleteThis world!Mine is complaining of to much longer trusting and head while somebody somewhere is complaining of her man been a I second man!Madam poster if your hubby can impregnate you please hold him so firm.or you can go seek for medical checkup in a hospital.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaahaahahah.. you sef sofrey-sofrey dey do am nah. Dont be thrusting with all your power. Let half be inside and half be outside #IhopeStellaNoGoPursueMeCommotForThisBlogLastlast
DeleteNo be you again wey we see the pix, you are here claiming strong d**k, I know say you are comforting yourself, that thing must be as small as hell.
DeleteI must taste before I marry period!!!!!
ReplyDelete.....But but but (stammers), the good lord u serve is totally against that na! Why disobey him? Trust him.
DeleteI hope what you say doesn't come back to bite you. Jesus knew about the weakness of the flesh. That was why he came as a babe and passed all through those process and then died as a man. He was poor, he was insulted, he identified with different people including atheist. paul said who can save me from this bondage of sin and then he remembers that his victory is through christ Jesus. My Jesus is not holding a sledge hammer waiting for you to make a mistake and then he will strike, instead he waits and longs like the father of the prodigal son for the day YOU will return to him. That said, please stop mocking our God. Everyone here has come to accept and respect the decision you made so respect ours by not making derogatory statements. I know it's your life and opinion but just know that it hurts. Don't sway people rather allow them make their decision just like you made. #shalom#
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ReplyDeleteAbeg make una no de recommended tramadol to people. The drug is highly addictive with a lot of side effects.
Delete*recommend
DeleteHahahahaha, poster sex is not Food! But u were fornicating when u were giving him bj. Give him burantashi.
ReplyDeleteStella ohhhh, sex is not food ke, hahahahaha that one made me laugh hard, in a marriage its a legal and very required food to be consumed as often as possible. Pls try alternative drugs like herb(Ruzu bitters I hear is good) but I feel oga knew and wasn't totally honest with u about his situation. U can also buy dildos to help your self and you did say oga foreplay is on point, so no shaking, after forplay u use d dildo. To conceive u can try ivf or keep praying as lots of peeps here will advise you, all that matters is love and yes even after this tale I still believe in sex after marriage.#iremaincelibate
ReplyDeleteI shall taste before I marry and I'll continue to do so after I marry.
ReplyDelete.....But but but (stammers), the good lord u serve is totally against that na! Why disobey him? Trust him.
DeleteAnother sexually starved wife @ 25.
ReplyDeleteYou christians would always amaze me, So wait oh, God condones kissing, blowjob, & smooching, but if it gets to the point of the dick penetrating, its a sin?? You'all should jst keep deceiving urselves, why'do u bother sniffing & licking a carrot, without chewing it, you'd hv to chew it up to get the real taste my dear.
Anyway, i'm tempted to say "Go ask God what to do, since u followed his commandments & ended up being starved"... But i'm on a mission to reduce/eradicate the number of cheating wives, id gv my little opinion, tell DH to practice lots of kegel exercise, intake of lots of honey & ginger wld required for months, and during bj put ur 3 fingers (index, middle & ring finger) on his perineum & press down gently (the area between the anus and the scrotum or vulva), u can also help him massage it from time to time, not jst during sexual acts, it helps lots of sexually frustrated men.
Ehe, b4 i 4get, stop worrying him if he chooses to remain at home on sundays, he's getting wiser, lol.
You're really well spoken. I do feel they should visit a doctor, sounds like he has erectile dysfunction. Maybe after examining him the doctor will prescrive some drugs.
DeleteOn another note, I have to ask how do your people (assuming you're a Nigerian that lives in Nigeria) take your atheist belief?
God said abstain. No tasting or penetration till marriage. We are the ones changing the rule. This poster got what she deserve abeg
DeleteSome men r like that. Try to cut more during foreplay n remove ur mind from penetration. That's the solution oh. But sister d age difference no be here o. You try ghan
ReplyDeleteI'm not saying it's bad to wait or it's not what the Bible preaches... But I can't marry a man I've not gbenshed... Abeg I want to know his capabilities B4 someone will go and start cheating or get frustrated cos of lack of good sex. Some of u might curse me and ask is sex food. Medically and Mentally, lack of good sex makes someone cranky
ReplyDeleteHe should try Vig power. Na she go tire sef
ReplyDeleteHian Stella...@25? and a newbie in marriage? Abeg SEX IS FOOD ooooo. When she gets to 40 like me, then money can replace sex. I had lots n load of sex when I got newly married in my 20's. But now that there are kids n responsibilities na to make money with hubby concern us pass now. But girl @ur age sex. Is food n u guys have a see a good specialist to see to it that ur hubby's dick is resurrected. This is impotence @it peak. Pele dear, una go de alright.
ReplyDeleteI was typing n my phone just went off.
ReplyDeleteIt has come on but I cannot start typing again
One second ke?? Let him go see a gynecologist mbok as fast as possible... shuo
ReplyDeleteHian!!! Man? Gynecologist?.. Please, let him go and see an Andrologist.
DeleteUrologist
DeleteIt can really be disappointing i can imagine. But u guys didn't actually "wait" till the wedding. So you knew he was that way after giving him felatio twice.
ReplyDeleteThe first thing is to seek medical help off course and know where to begin from. Research on things that can help him perform better. Dont get tired yet. Be supportive and try and get through this together.
Stella stoppit good sperm and gbensh is food!poster ur man should admit he has a problem then u both can then see a doctor I am sure there will b a solution to your problem,take it easy with him cause deep down your man I am sure isn't happy about his cum per second.I know how frustrating it leaves a woman when all she wants is to feel a dick gbanging her,it is well.
ReplyDeleteLolzzz Dear Poster but you have already fornicated..Go check the meaning Of sex, its not when it is the penetrative sex, that you had sex o..Ok thats by the way..
ReplyDeleteMy dear welcome to your reality, you are married so got to communicate with him and do this when he is in a happy mood, you just pour out your mind to him and say it in a polite, courteous and loving manner to him..If you talk anyhow, you will bruise his ego and all cause he is already aware of his problem.
You have to accompany him to the hospital so he can get the necessary help he needs. he will be fine and even at that, he can still get you pregnant I believe..He just needs to learn how to delay his ejaculation by not being too excited when he want to have sex...But still what matter is that he has a good heart, he loves you, provides your needs and always there for you...Happy married Life
Just pray for him and seek medical help. Don't pressure yourself about it. Else the devil will use Ur state of mind(anger) to creep into your family and make things worse. If he has been celibate for long , give it time he ll come around. And i hear second round lasts longer so once he comes quickly that first time, give him time to become hard again and see the outcome. In all don't put pressure on him coz this too can affect his state of mind and therefore his performance. Lastly once again go to the lord in prayers. And remember if U could do without sex for so long, U can do it now too. But just try Ur best💯💯💯 and put the Rest in Gods hands
ReplyDeleteOur "Rxst" is dt all u have to say?
DeleteMadam you have nothing to worry about, the problem is coming from you and not him, stop mounting pressure on him, make him feel comfortable and relaxed, his problem is fear, he really wants to satisfy you but he is scared of disappointing you. I will recommend one medicine for him that if he use it, it will be you coming back to give us another chronicle of bruise vaginal. Just tell him to buy original Samsu oil. He should rub a little of the oil around is dick cap and wait one hour before sex. You can thank me later.
ReplyDeleteSo you are a one minute man? Lol
DeleteSo you are a one minute man? Lol
DeleteHe doesn't even need any oil. It happens to my hubby. His dick misbehaves whenever I'm ttc. He confessed its pressure not to disappoint.
DeleteYour husband enjoys masturbating,period!
ReplyDeleteIts not food biko....if he's good in other things just console yoself with that.
ReplyDeleteStella sex is food o, is there anybody that doesn't like sex? Poster tryout herbs, its very effective and also natural, there is nothing wrong with ur husband, Stella pls don't chew my cooment
ReplyDeleteQueen Ekong
YOu need to stand by him, pray for Him not to lose faith and encourage him to go see a Doc
ReplyDeletemadam please calm down.
ReplyDeleteActually your husband is suffering from what's called PE (premature ejaculation) and it sometimes come with weak erection and low libido.
This is very correctable. The only hudle you have is convincing him to see a doctor.
More importantly stop every sugar additive or sugary/fried foods you give to him.
Please support him and let him just see a doctor. it is very very correctable.
Yes oh. Sugar kills men down there
DeleteYou guys should visit a doctor there are also good drugs to boost his P**is action...
ReplyDeleteYou guys should go see a doctor and pray for him. He needs your encouragement now.
ReplyDeleteUp there 👆 did Stella say sex is not food!!! Oya oooooo kukuma cum and kill me oooooo. If sex isn't food pls what then is food?
ReplyDeleteDid poster say her husband ejaculates after one second!! I-done-die. One second wey person never feel anything. One second wey d thing never enter reach ground. One second why vjayjay never contrast or process the information of what's about to happen. One second wey I never know say anything enter me.
Babe pls try burantashi if it doesn't work try tramadol, if tramadol didn't work try Baby Oku, if e no work try sepe mixed with peppersoup (not the normal peppersoup o, tell those yoruba alagbo people to mix it up for you). If all of the above don't work just remove all your cloth in the presence of hubby, sit on the floor and cry cry cry cryooooo.... if hubby is consoling you tell him not to worry, tell him to rub your running tears on his pipi and be praying to God in the process,your tears on his pipi will serve as a point of contact for God to hear your prayers.
Chai!!! One second.... 😢😢😢😢😢
Na wah o! See comments!!
ReplyDeleteFor me, here is the thing:
He either knew about it before marriage or he doesn't.
If he did, then you guys need to seek help.
If he didn't then you guys still need to seek help.
So, the short version of my advice is - seek help!
The long version:
At a point in my marriage, I was frequently away from my wife for a month or two at a time over a period of a year and a half. During this period, we never spent more than two or three days together. I suddenly turned into a 2 minutes man o! First I thought it was the excitement (there was no side chop while apart to keep me in shape). Then I started to worry about it because if I was a noodle man on day one, I didn't expect to be a noodle man on day 2 or three. In all this, my wife was patient and never once made me feel awkward (I did that all on my own). Even when I expressed concern about my lack of performance to her, she only asked me to relax. Believe me, the expectation placed on men to perform alone can make anxiety kill some men's mojo especially if they themselves suddenly discover they can't!
Anyway, got to settle back home and within 2 weeks of steady action, I got my mojo back.
So, a question for the poster: How have you tried to help? Perhaps you could try getting him active like daily for a week plus and see if the lack of use of his tool was affecting him? Think of this as physiotherapy for jonny and companions. If you want to try this, then you should warm up to him and forget about yourself for a while, if he senses disappointment, might affect him in other ways. Please don't be tempted to just constantly give him BJ just because you are avoiding the feeling of disappointment. Let him make you cum in othee ways, to minimize your frustration. BJ may make him lazy about the actual "do" and might make the actual "do" sometimes seem like work! BJ should be like desert and not the actual meal o!
After about two weeks of therapy, if no changes at all, then, by all means, seek medical help.
Hahahaha, sorry i had to laugh cos this brings lots of memory.
ReplyDeleteBy the way at 25 were you pressurized to get married? cos the way you state the just 40 is as if he's your mate but i like that fact though not letting age creep in.
No sex before marriage but things are like are stuffs that should be avoided. I had somoene i was dating back then 41 now. Omoh he's everything a woman wants but sex is horrible, there was a day i visited cos i just wanted to get down, i was all in the mood immediately he climbed and inserted na so G pour, i went gaga in my head, sat up and was looking at him na so the guy waka enter bathroom to go clean up.
Next time it happened he was the one who wanted it and it was a rainy morning, weather for 2, immediately he went in again i heard him crying and that was it.
Guy later asked me to marry him and make his world sweet, "wait oo na your world good to sweet what about my own"?
My dear, your case is different cos you're married so you'll have to see a doctor or buy him some kayamata for men to help him.
Let him maintain normal blood pressure and eat food that will help in that regard. A good sexual life is basically a function of blood circulation.
ReplyDeleteNo sex before marriage indeed.... with the smuching and sucking, you are married to him already... you just have to join him to search for help
ReplyDeleteDear poster, it is quite unfortunate to face this in your early marriage. I believe there are solutions to it. You and your husband need to see a gynaecologist, and he needs to reduce his sugar intake I get healthy supplements that will boost his sexual performance. Apart from this: the following food should be introduced to him:
ReplyDeleteBanana
Blueberries( go to shoprite)
Asparagus
Spinach and kale vegetables
Watermelon
Avocado
Green tea
Garlic
Oyster
Plantain
Scent leaf.
Try these foods it works. Thank me later.
Dear poster, it is quite unfortunate to face this in your early marriage. I believe there are solutions to it. You and your husband need to see a gynaecologist, and he needs to reduce his sugar intake I get healthy supplements that will boost his sexual performance. Apart from this: the following food should be introduced to him:
ReplyDeleteBanana
Blueberries( go to shoprite)
Asparagus
Spinach and kale vegetables
Watermelon
Avocado
Green tea
Garlic
Oyster
Plantain
Scent leaf.
Try these foods it works. Thank me later.
But how can you marry an old man and expect otherwise. Carry your cross madam. Next time look for your agemate
ReplyDelete40 an old man? Must you comment?
DeleteGod's word? And u are smotching, kissing and giving blow job. Keep deceiving yourselves u think God is a man. Please drag your hubby to the hospital as this place is not one.
ReplyDeleteLmaoooo sorry to laugh buh dat part lets wait for it to come up killed me..
ReplyDeletePoster he has an STD, he should just go treat himself nd he will be fyn.. He might not know cos most times d symptoms don't show, so it's possible he doesn't even know wats wrong with him..he should go nd treat himself after d treatment he will be alright
Slow down. You are putting too much pressure on him. Let him continue popping but you work it back up and second time third time in a row will get better
ReplyDeleteMadam thank ur stars he can ejaculate. At least der is hope for babies. Am in ur situation but am very happy cos dh respects de ground i walk on, hv my own car and he pampers me like am a baby. I dont have any side chick wahala. Our foreplay is on point and am even able to hv orgasm. Sex is no food my dear n i must say its even overated. If he treats u right n u lo e him dis shdnt be a problem.
ReplyDeleteSex is food in marriage o
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ReplyDeleteAdvise him to see a doctor. But do it with wisdom.
It could also be spiritual so please support him
It can be corrected. Buy him a carton of Rain soul. Let him take it religiously. Also moringa is known to help with that..
ReplyDeleteLet me just give you a few tips and I hope it helps. You are lucky he has erection it's the period it last that's is the issue. What about his size? If that's okay too then another plus. Now it could be anxiety, stress and bad eating habits. Too much sugar. Before you start talking about hospital and counselling which might affect him negatively you need to help him. He could be shy and feel uncomfortable discussing it and may not want to co operate and it may further affect him psychologically. Does he drink and what does he take. He might need to stay off sugar. Take bitter drinks to flush away the sugar in his system. What does he do? And what time do you have sex? Try and touch him in the early hours of the morning like 5 - 6 am after a well deserved sleep and just see how hard and for how long he can hold an erection. If he can take just a bottle of Guinness stout in the evening just before going to bed and take lots of water the next day. And in the evening of the following day try him and see if there is an improvement. If there is then he might just need to watch what he eats and give him a lot of fresh vegetables. If there is an improvement come back and ask for a follow-up. I hope it helps cause it will save him the embarrassment. All the best ...
ReplyDeleteAnd my girl friend always complain that I last too long...chai..uwa wu pawpaw mehn....
ReplyDeleteAsk your hubby well..he abused himself while young,,,too much porn and masturbation..
ReplyDeleteHa! Ayam not understanding all this kinda trending stories I see this days. I'm a fan of celibacy until after marriage but this now is discouraging somebody. Look Poster I strongly advice u see the doctor immediately alsa there could be something that can be done medically. Aside this, pray and remind God of his words. I'm sure everything will be fine soon...ndo oo
ReplyDeleteAdvise him to visit a doctor n dnt put much pressure on him. Try n take it easy on urself n dnt forget to pray about it.
ReplyDeleteYour man has erectile problem and he knew, I don't know why men lie like this. He should have come out clean.
ReplyDeletePoster you too wasted your time for nothing doing no jangolova before marriage, yet you didn't take action. You deceived yourself, made mockery of God...you are not smart at all.
Please take that guy to the hospital and ensure good treatment or you enjoy your suffering and smiling situation.
You are an educated fool? Or just a stark ilitetate here? Don't u know that after the age of 35 to 40yrs the aging process sets in. In other words its a biological clock. Most nigerian men past 40 yrs have sexual dusfunction issues such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low sperm count, etc. Both men & women by those have declined sexual performance and activity levels.
ReplyDeleteSorry deal with it!
Go buy a vibrator.
Adopt a child or find a good sperm donor arrangement if you intend on making family or insist on keeping this man as your husband.
Otherwise smartly do away (divorce) him & claim any thing from sexual inadequacies to irreconcilable differences.
Ok.
Goodluck!
When I hear that some men are "indomie men " I just get upset, pls guy come in here !!! For the ladies that their men are also experiencing "network failure" come in here too.
ReplyDelete- tell ur man to stop drinking bear
- he should stop taking sugar completely and other drinks that contain sugar like Coca Cola, fanta sprit, etc. If he must drink let him drink only water.
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- let him take fruits regularly
- let him stop thinking much, rather he should channel time and energy into more productive things.
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- after 2 weeks na u go dey run.
- but he must learn patiently how to use his instrument very effectively and efficiently, by knowing how to stop trusting in/out when his about to come and continue when it subsides. Note: I can go 2 to 3 hours non stop.
Guys pls upgrade!!!
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Anxiety does that to a man.Its the alomst the same age gap between me and hubby.my hubby was.like that our first few meetings. He was anxious to perform and didn't want to disappoint but he ended up disappointing and kept apologizing the whole time.his dick will nit stay up after it got hard. I was scared too . Like yours he will tell me he was not normally like that. It got better and in fact best cos it started staying up and lasting long enough to make me scream with pleasure. But the performance anxiety do come back whenever we are trying for a baby. He will start fumbling again and i will work tirelessly to keep it up cos i dont want to waste my ovulation cycle. Immediately my cycle is past or I'm not tcc,the stupid thing will start standing like rock and can go fourth round non stop. But we are blessed cos i keep getting pregnant immediately despite the all that.
ReplyDeleteTell him to stop masturbating.. And watching porn.. He is suffering from porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction
ReplyDeleteTell him to stop masturbating.. And watching porn.. He is suffering from porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction
ReplyDeleteGet him to start swimming, it increase stamina for sex..
ReplyDeleteEh ya, sorry aunty.. I wish say I fit borrow u my husband. Na me dy beg am make e come.. No b small thing I dy see oo.. It is well with you
ReplyDeleteWe mock ourselves when we claim to be virgin or celibate,and yet have oral sex! Biblical definition of purity is different from dictionary definition!
ReplyDeleteA 40 year old man proposed to you three months after meeting and you were happy he agreed to no sex? How many times,has it been said here that it is a red flag?
You have entered one chance, make the best use of it and get viagra for him.The world is so deceitful that,churches should start testing the virility of men as they test the women for pregnancy!
Please don't tell me, sex is no food! That is the most enjoyable thing in marriage after money!
Wait... I hate it when people don't do the right thing and then turn around and give celibacy a bad name. First of all, you said you're giving him time to sort himself out? Aren't you supposed to help him find a solution to this problem as his wife and helper? You sound selfish. Where is your love woman? You tested his organ during dating and noticed a problem and yet did nothing. Rather than book a doctor's appointment for him, you waited till wedding night and now you're complaining and sending Chronicle barely months into the marriage. Is this how you plan on making it into years? Go with your husband to see a urologist there's a solution to your problems and quit whining.
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