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Wednesday, January 24, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIAGE ABOUT TO END BECAUSE OF CARPET.

Na me again o!


I sent you my WNB and SYB. Well that was over a year ago. At the moment I am scared my marriage is about to pack up all because of a carpet.
Shortly after marriage, recession hit and hubby and I who were working in the same hospital lost our jobs.


 I went back to school before the wedding and was shuttling between states. Because of my project I am fully based in a southwestern university, while hubby had to move back to his dad's house to save on house rent while we both searched for jobs. He applied for several NGO jobs but was never invited for an interview, he even tried to join the armed forces but was never selected, even as a recruit! Lol! 


Our contacts promised him a job if he passed primaries so Most of our savings was spent on writing his exams so he can start his residency, he didn't pass any but we kept hope alive. I fasted and prayed, encouraged him when he was down and I never denied him sex whenever I was around though I felt uncomfortable doing it under his dad's roof.


Last year, we got a Christmas gift in form of a job with the state government hospital management board. He resumed work last week and rented an apartment. No money to furnish it yet but he asked for a carpet I bought in 2016 to be sent to him from where I stay. I told him I gave it to a male colleague who helps me from time to time with assignments and notes and even tests. Mind you I told him I was going to give it out o. 


He got angry and started accusing me of having an affair with my colleague hence my generosity. I calmly explained that the cost of transporting it to him compared with the cost of buy‎ing a new one was almost the same. Marco polo luxury buses which would have been cheaper are not available from my end to his station. He has refused to pick my calls and instead resorted to calling me names via whatsapp. He said I want to disgrace him by having affairs and he's tired of the marriage. 


I am hurting badly and it's affecting my psyche, I have a test which I'm unable to prepare for once I think of the things he's saying. I don't have any affair with anyone here, or elsewhere. He said I don't appreciate his struggles to make my life better, I replied that whatever he's doing is to make his future brighter. I am still searching for a job. ‎Please Stella I'm losing it, what do I do? Please hide my identity.



*CARPET?COMMON CARPET???.....Stop replying his messages and ignore his rants....he is probably depressed from failing his exams and all the stress of not getting another job easily and then moving home....let him cool off,I am sure he will apologise to you..let us know how this ends please...I dont know what else to say.

60 comments:

  1. Hahahaha...men just don't know how to deal with stress. Am sure hes just missing u and doesn't know how to deal with. Don't worry una 2 go dey alright

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    1. The girl is irresponsible. "Someone" writes tests and assignments for you and you call yourself a professional?
      You pay with carpet, what else did you pay with; in kind?
      Please you need to apologize to this man and explain even if you are not paying in the kind of "kind?" he insinuates. You are the one writing chronicles and in distress at the moment. You are the one that will still write chronicles and be depressed if this marriage scatters. The man will move on while you suck.

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    2. The way you so personalised your comment...sounds like you know the poster..

      Or are the said husband???

      If you're the hubby..ain't you ashamed that you're crying over a carpet 'she bought'????

      Send you carpet ko..she for send you her apartment nii. Abeg park well.

      Poster...if you go gree hear...just forget this man and focus on your schooling...

      If he no make any efforts to contact you..forget am.

      Osi'onwu hubby...not that he's even rich sef.

      Your future is bright with or without him.

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  2. Poster,did your settle your marine friends and your spiritual marine husband after or before the marriage?...
    If no,the problem is from there if you don't know...
    Go and do it and watch things turn around for you guys both financially,love etc...

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    1. Lmao... I knew your comment was going to have spiritual husband or marine spirit

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    2. Queen tell us today. How do we settle marine friends and wives; where is it done? What does it require?

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    3. Girls that have marine friends are people that are initiated into the marine world!,.
      The girl will get married to a man in the marine world and that one is called a spiritual husband...

      You will be swimming,having fun with some group of girls,eating all sorts and having sex all in your dream!...
      They get angry whenever one of their own want to get married!...
      They would start attacking you and your husband making him to loose his job,business infact they will put hatred on his mind so any mistake you make at home is a serious war!...
      They would also make him to start cheating on you with different women and rubbing it on your face!...
      They would make sure they frustrate you out of the marriage so you could come back to them!..
      To even get pregnant and born a baby na serious problem!...
      If you get pregnant at all,na serious miscarriage!...
      Some even die during child birth!,,,

      I advise people to settle there's before tying the knot to avoid stories that touch...

      How to settle them
      Meet your pastor or your babalawo

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    4. Queen Chukwu nyelu gi aka. Smh

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    5. Queen of queens aka karashika 1 🙌....but I thought some of these marine girls make their husbands rich?
      Abeg if it's true, tell me how I will know them, make i find one marry.

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    6. This queen of boss of sdk is so dumb!!! Sometimes I don't know whether to start laughing at her comments or look for herdsmen to teach her a lesson but not kill her

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  3. Na wa. It is well with both of you Amen.

    Try and do your exams and dont let any carpet put you and your horseband asunder.

    It will not be well for people that spoilt this country. See how young families are suffering because of CHANGE they voted or.

    Abeg make i dey go for my meetings jare.

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  4. This bitch is fucking her co-worker.

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    1. Anon 15:10, all the women in your house and lineage are bitches. What is with the name calling? Do you know her story or why the conclusion? You're just an idiot for calling HER names.

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  5. Imagine d man-woman. No atom of shame whatsoever..Ignore him to vex plenty till he beleful biko.

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    1. Hmmmmmm, Pele Pele o
      Small small.

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  6. He's blowing steam, probably angry, let him calm down, I wonder why he didn't pass his primaries first sitting, to me failure is not an option in medicine.

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  7. Your husband is a loser anyhow, see how he acting like big baby over a stupid smelly carpet. He's accusing you of having an affair because he is likely having one.

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  8. Poster, how much is carpet? Buy and send it to him. Let peace reign. That man is not happy and any little misconduct from you will spark anger. Stop replying his text messages. Once, you are done with your exam, travel and see him. Above all, pray.

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  9. Is this one a husband? Zero maturity,ewo women don suffer. He can't get a grip on his emotions hence pouring his frustration on you. He is crazy,& he might have seen some babes out there & started comparing & regreting ,unfortunately for him he is committed as in tied he can't just run away. Hahahaha!
    Abeg ,don't just ignore him,pray about your marriage b4 Satan does overnight job o.

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  10. Poster, how much is carpet sold in the market? Please buy and send it to him. Let peace reign. Stop replying his messages. Once your through with the exams, travel and see him. Be prayerful

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  11. Mschewwww pls ignore him, did he give you the money for the carpet. What rubbish, untop carpet that you used your money to buy.
    I cant even stand men that are demanding. That is the thing with broke men, they are always angry and sensitive. Every little thing e.g carpet, sets them off because of their frustration. So he wants to end a marriage because of 2nd hand carpet. ignore him.
    I once dated a broke-ass like that, fool like me was thinking let me be patient, he will get a better job. He was always broke, always angry, always demanding things from me. And when I don't conform, all hell will break loose. I dumped his sorry ass when I cldnt take it again. Found a guy that treats me like gold. This guy gives me a monthly allowance, from the 1st day he met me, he told me my life will never be the same, and it hasn't.
    I almost forgot what it felt like to be treated like a queen. useless men everywhere.

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  12. Lady just be patient with him,if you can afford a carpet buy him the carpet send it and just keep your cool.

    It might be very expensive but your marriage is worth more, so if you can buy and send it.

    Like stella said ignore him and he will cool off and try concentrating on your school work.

    LEP😛

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  13. He is struggling to make your life better indeed,at that you should vomit the carpet??? He heard a man, all his veins stood up. Lol... You are now cheating.

    Just face your exam for now.Try to ignore his rant and reply only when necessary.... He will still say what is eating him up.Is not just the carpet, say some annoying things to him but not insults, try to make him talk. If you can do this, you will find out more and work with the info you gathered....



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    1. Hahahahahaha @all h veins stood up.

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  14. I keep telling people not to marry Doctors they won't agree. They are poor set of people with big complex.
    They want you to worship them because they are with you while u r d one taking care of urself and him. They are womanizers and also very stingy.
    Poster don't mind him, one of the complexes that worries doctors is disturbing him and he is venting it on you. Pele!

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    1. Womanizers? I disagree. But most of them (yeah, consider it empirical) have an exaggerated sense of self esp in relation to non doctors. I am married to one, did PG schooling with them and also have friends married to them, so I know.

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    2. This is a.big lie. It is all about about who you marry. I'm married to a doctor, a consultant for that matter and he is t best thing that ever happened to me.

      Romantic, caring, giving, best dad husband ever. His money is our money and he is very open in everything. My best decision ever!!

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  15. Just buy a new carpet and sent it to him.

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  16. I dont understand, work no dey for medical doctors for this country too?

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    1. Someone who cannot pass his primaries, God forbid this kain olodo doctor gets to treat u or ur family. Quack doctor

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  17. I'm sure it's frustration of failing exams,especially if his colleagues or friends have been passing.If you have money,buy the carpet and send to him.Bohh of you should be very prayerful about his next exams cos it's Gods favor that he needs to pass.My husband wrote his before we got married and failed twice(1 mark)he was so frustrated cos sincerely he is very very intelligent.I fasted for three days and read all book of psalms and he passed both west Africa & National.Madam,pray cos part 1 & 2 is prayers too oh.

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  18. Poster just face your studies and ingnore him. Am sure he's going through mid life crisis coupled with frustration of failing his primaries. Most Drs that are unable to pass their primaries are usually not fulfilled drs and they can easily transfer aggression to their partners or anybody living with them. Continue to pray for him and tolerate him ,believe me its a phase that will soon fade away.

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  19. Really, someone who helps you in writing your assignment and test. Naija education, I salute.....
    I stopped reading when I got here....


    chim-oma a.k.a Miss Kapusu

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  20. Poster, don't worry it is going to be fine with hubby, just stop replying is messages and concentrate on your exams(goodluck), it's sometimes like that he might be going through some issues, I don't think carpet is his proble

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  21. Poster You know your husband better than any of us.
    My advise. Reply his rants with love texts, write that test quick quick and go give him attention that he needs.What he is saying codely is I Miss you and wish am not left alone to furnish the place.

    God help you.
    Da unique 1

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    1. Lol, its not easy o buy it works. This days when my husband expects me to be angry I always dissapoint him and just carry-on normally. You will notice the shock on his face. Uv told myself nobody's child will make me loose my sleep this 2018 abeg. But its hard o,sometimes I just want to scream the roof down.

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    2. Rubbish is he a child? I hate mollycoddled men. This is the problem with being in a relationship with over grown children he should goan write his exam instead of transferring aggression

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  22. The importance of marrying a mature man, a truly mature man can not be overemphasized. YOU BETTER FACE YOUR STUDIES and try to become something as this one you are tied to is a case, hopefully he grows up soon. When he is ready, he should apologize. Also, you now know how to give him info so he does not start insulting you. Buy a carpet if you can and have someone near him hand it to him, he is so silly. Single women, biko be marrying men with sense and maturity. Life's pressures NEVER end, a mature adult should know when to draw the line with lashing out and just being silly.

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  23. It is not about carpet at all. This is frustration. please stop replying his insults. Just be calm and let him be for now. He needs to cool off steam. probably he will realize himself and apologise. And dont buy any new carpet. It is not about the carpet really. Infact it is not about a new carpet. It is that old one he wants to see. If you buy a new one and send, trust me he will accuse you of collecting money from your 'lover(s)' to replace the carpet you gave to your supposed lover. Just let him be for now. When he is calm, you talk to him about the things he said to you and have him apologise for it. Una go dey alright last last. Marriage troubles.

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  24. How can you tell your husband you dashed out something to a MALE friend? Are you a learner? Regardless of the stress or frustration or anything don’t you know his ears will stand when he hears you’re keeping male friends especially as he’s not there? That was a wrong move. If you had told him a female friend he won’t be this upset. He probably started imagining all types of scenarios in his head about you cheating on him with this your colleague. Please next time use a little wisdom. This is marriage, not relationship.

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    1. Best advices @above 2 posters (precious and anon). Lemme add that your initial response also added fuel to the fire. Stop replying. APOLOGIZE for the carpet sale and let him cool off. Marriage requires wisdom. Ignore the internet and relationship warriors on here.
      It'll be well

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    2. Anon.16:57 best advise so far. Please poster follow that advise and ignore those that are calling your husband a baby. Even you as a woman would be jealous if the table were to be turned. Pls find a way to reconcile with your husband and do not ever gist him about a male friend. Haba

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    3. Best advise so far! So many people are going through menopause in the comment section obviously. People that don’t know how to reason by themselves. If Stella says put your hand in fire, be sure they will do it or agree with that train of thought. Puppets! Reminds me why I stopped visiting this blog. Irritates the crap out of me.

      Poster, Abeg, your husband is depressed over the fact that he’s been unable to act like a husband and provider, failing his exams inclusive. Be easy on him, assure him, beg him again. Men are like babies Biko, sometimes you should know when to treat them like your baby and when to be tough. You know your husband better. Sha beg him again, buy a new one if you have to.. though I have my reservations about you and that your colleague, but it’s none of my business. Al the best ma!

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  25. His just depressed..
    Just follow Stella advice

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  26. My ex I sacrificed my living standards for, to write his part one and the rest. Today he is a consultant and we are no more together because of his stupid ego & pride. At d expense of this family. Don’t suffer for anyone’s sake. Live your life and be happy. In d end he will do what’s best for himself.

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  27. I agree with Stella on this one. He probably will calm down...but men though why all the curses? That's so uncalled for, he probably has insecurity issues especially as you guys are apart, i hope he gets over it and I hope he isn't the one cheating though.

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  28. This manifestation of depression....hian

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  29. Just imagine if it was ur hubby that hv a lady that is helping him with assignments, tests etc, & he now gift her some of his things....... I'm sure u will think they r also exchanging body fluids.
    Just be humble, don't exchange words with him and profusely tell him u r sorry & assure him that d guy never see ur paent

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  30. Settling of of spiritual husband is real ooo I have settled mine last week my wedding in two months time

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    1. How did u go about settling it? How did u even know you are suffering from spiritual husband. Share your story!

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  31. Queen come and carry ur disciple.

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  32. Queen come and carry ur disciple.

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  33. Queen come and carry ur disciple.

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  34. What rubbish are you saying? So because it is marriage I should lie I gave something to a female friend instead of male? If in marriage you cannot tell the truth to your partner and be free of accusations then you married the wrong person....he is just a frustrated guy and a loser....sadly poster you are in for more bullshit from this horseband of yours...if u can't trust your spouse that one na marriage. . Ignore him for now and don’t buy any carpet. If he believes you fine, if not let him continue....don’t let any man treat you like trash all in the name of marriage...

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    1. Your frustration will kill you there. Do you even understand the situation? Her husband isn’t a bad man, he’s just stressed to the max and that makes him highly suspicious. Not to mention there’s distance between them. You can’t trust anyone 100%, not even yourself. I’m sure you’re not married that’s why your reasoning is an eye for an eye. Better repent of this bitterness cos if you carry it into marriage you’ll do 1 year divorce-versary in your father’s house in the Village. Your frustration will kill you there.

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  35. Diogo you must be stewpid. That’s how u men do rubbish and expect wives to tolerate all the bullshit you shit.....apologize profusely for doing a favor to someone who helps her....the guy is being totally childish and she should not kill herself over that

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  36. Wow.. I can remember when my hubby was also writing his primaries.. The money they collect for the fees is out of this world and whenever he fails the frustration and stress that comes with it.. Just make him understand you are not cheating and just face your exams. Is well dear

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