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JEALOUS FRIENDS OR NOT?
Is my boyfriend caring or not...?
Ever since he travel to UK for 2yrs now he placed me on monthly allowance of 20k and sends me stuff twice a year ..
He just sent me iphone 7plus as my birthday gift which just passed and ever since he has been there we never missed a day without talking ..morning, afternoon, night.
We are planning to get married once he comes back..he's 36 and am 26 a graduate and we are both working and both of us are graduates..
My problem is my friends are telling that he's not trying at all compared to what other guys do for their girlfriends being that he is abroad for that matter.. They say that i should forget about him and not think of him marrying me becos he's not doing enough ..
This a guy i never spent one kobo on,he's always the one doing things for me ... is it that my friends are jealous or what ?.. please i need you all advice.. thanks in advance.
*Dont mind them oooooooooooh...Jealousy!!....
They ar runs babes and always want to suck a man like Orange.
Do you know it is living abroad?it is not easy for some at all..I am very sure the iphone he sent you was bought with credit card and he will be paying monthly cos it is an expensive phone and some cannot afford it.
Cut off those friend who are advising you to leave a good man please..They will not waste time to try to snatch him if they can,please shield his contact and dont let them have it...you hear?
Stella your advice na pakam
ReplyDeleteThose your friends are side ostriches, waiting to pounce on that man. Nonsense and ingredients. Give them small chance and they will pounce on him n dig their vampire claws in him. Bloodsucking idiots.
DeleteDon't mind them. They're jealous.
Meanwhile, this ya booboo, hmm. Let me tell u a story. It happened to a friend's friend. They were dating. Guy left to UK for masters. Babe stayed back waiting for him. Guy would send her expensive gifts from time to time. Money nkor? She dey kampe. They had dated for about 11 years. ELEVEN O, EHEN! One day, babe dey house, person carry gist come say guy done marry for UK. See gobe! On top wetin? Then say maybe na papers. Chai. This babe would eat her heart out n drink tears for breakfast, lunch n dinner. They were still dating for God's sake n bobo even got back at some times n gbenshed her left, right n centre. Hmm. Today, bobo is happily married to a Ugandan/British who had a child before. They have 2 more together. It's well. Babe is still acting like an angry motherhen. E reach to cry . me sef, cry small.
Just saying o , didn't insinuate anything . hian
Those your friends are side ostriches, waiting to pounce on that man. Nonsense and ingredients. Give them small chance and they will pounce on him n dig their vampire claws in him. Bloodsucking idiots.
DeleteDon't mind them. They're jealous.
Meanwhile, this ya booboo, hmm. Let me tell u a story. It happened to a friend's friend. They were dating. Guy left to UK for masters. Babe stayed back waiting for him. Guy would send her expensive gifts from time to time. Money nkor? She dey kampe. They had dated for about 11 years. ELEVEN O, EHEN! One day, babe dey house, person carry gist come say guy done marry for UK. See gobe! On top wetin? Then say maybe na papers. Chai. This babe would eat her heart out n drink tears for breakfast, lunch n dinner. They were still dating for God's sake n bobo even got back at some times n gbenshed her left, right n centre. Hmm. Today, bobo is happily married to a Ugandan/British who had a child before. They have 2 more together. It's well. Babe is still acting like an angry motherhen. E reach to cry . me sef, cry small.
Just saying o , didn't insinuate anything . hian
Why do i think theres a twist to this story? The guy is OE & Chi... OE is a foolish bastard that's married in uk
DeleteDear poster, before you send chronicles, hope you are also a good friend? And I also hope your advises to your friends are top notch. But wait o wetin concern your bf with your friends sef? Birds of a feather.......
DeleteAhhhhhh, anon 15:24 na so most of them be o but it's unfortunate that they will give the good ones bad name. My partner and I dated for 2 years before I joined him, his family members advised him to just marry someone here but he refused.
DeleteSo your friend’s want your boyfriend to sell his kidney, build you a house and do more than what he is currently doing because there are men who do more right?
ReplyDeleteIf you don’t already know this then know that you need new friends and next time they bring it up let them know you are satisfied. Also, be content because this man is not obligated to send you money monthly or buy you a phone. He is doing it without your asking for someone who is far away. You better stay away from friends that would corrupt your mind. Living abroad doesn’t mean he is having it all rosy, not all relationships must lead to marriage just ensure you’re fair to your partner just as much as you want them to be with you. If it leads to marriage then fine and if doesn’t it’s not the end of the world. Enjoy your relationship and leave poke nosers alone, stop lettting then in on what is going on.
You can't buy yourself an iphone and someone buys for u and u ask if he's doing enough? Did he buy for his own mum or himself. Learn to be happy with what u have.if u want more, then work for it. FYI I'm a 24 old lady
DeleteTwale!! Doppel with the advice 🙌
DeletePoster, you don't have friends but enemies. Keep listening to them and let them lead you into a ditch. Must you tell them everything about your life? Be wise and control the way you reveal things about yourself to others.
ReplyDeleteYour friends are the most envious set of human beings i know, what else is he supposed to do? They want to put you in trouble. These are not friends so you better stop gisting them about him, if they ask just say he is okay, don’t even tell them when you are engaged cus these ones have plan
DeleteBetter hold on to your man...
ReplyDeleteAhahahhahaa! Girl I promise you that ones you leave that guy or start seeing other guys, your friends will get with him or snitch on you to him. He is sending you money and buying you new phone? Let me tell you this now I live in the UK and no guy in this UK will be buying and doing all these for you. Things are hard here o try and come first you will understand. Anyway listen to your friends and cry later x
DeleteYoung lady, stay far away from those friends. They don't like you, I repeat stay far from them and shield your boyfriend's number as Stella said.
ReplyDeletePlease cut them off. I can never tell my friends about my Bae. Well except Ada Lagos 😉😉😉😉
ReplyDeleteThey are not happy for you. Even if he didn't buy the phone, he checks up on you and makes you happy.
Send me an invite via mail for your wedding jare
Yes my baby ..i can't give you any advice.
DeleteBabe, you better run far from those your friends oh! Because you’ll be surprised that one or more of them is making moves on your man. If you ever try to double date, they will tell him so that they can replace you. Make sure they don’t have access to his phone number or anything that has to do with him. Stay with your man oh if you love him because he is trying
ReplyDelete@ Poster receive sense.
ReplyDeleteStay away from friends enemy..
Be wise👌
This is a typical example of bad belle. Run away from such friends before they corrupt you and then go at your back to snatch him. Stop telling them things concerning your guy too. If they dont know anything, they wont bother you.
ReplyDeletePoster, take Chidinma's advice. Those people you call your friends are enemies in disguise. Be wise.
DeletePoster shine your eyes on, stay woke as some people used to say. These are not friends but vultures aka frenemies!
ReplyDeleteStop hanging with such friends, they hate you & won't waste time to snack your man or even frame you up. U better be sharp now so you don't cry had I known. #jealousfriends
You see why we advise our men not to invest on a naija based girl...See entitlement
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm!!!!
DeleteThis poster has succeeded in annoying me this afternoon! What else do you want him to do? Shed his blood for you? Aren't you working too? If you weren't working, then I would have said 20k won't be enough for 1 month, but no, you have your own salary. What have you done for him in all the years of dating him?Keep on listening to your friends o, until a smart babe collects your man. Mtchewww.
ReplyDeleteWait o....so your friends know the exact amount your guys sends to you? Wonders! Must you tell them everything?
Even if she is not working, this 20K is a gift from someone else, it's not a salary that she worked for. The best for her to do is to appreciate the guy, that's all. They think we pluck money from trees in this abroad,do they know the bills we have to pay monthly? Some of those people that do better than your bf might be on illegal businesses, so u better leave those enemies alone coz that's what they are..THEY'RE NOT YOUR FRIENDS
DeleteEven if the guy gives her N10k every month, its in order and should appreciate every gifts. Its like small girl still dey your head at poster, pls channnge youuur way, and try use your common sense. Wise up pls.
Delete"Abroad" and marriage, mmmmmmhhhh, toxic mixture for Naija babes. Them go snatch, them go tie, them go lie, them go confuse just to get their fangs at him.
ReplyDeleteBeware ooo!
You forgot to add them go fuck.
DeleteIs there any chronicle that "abroad" is not an issue these days?
ReplyDeleteMbanu, if these chicks no do kwo kwo, how will they roam?
Stella Don talk am finish, if you have ears, listen now
ReplyDeleteYou need to start keeping your relationship matters from them... all they should know is youre both fine & strongly in love, finish! Youve given them room to plant evil seeds in your head, it must not germinate!
ReplyDeleteA wise Filipino friend i used to have saw my DP once & said " If your best friend is not jealous of your other friends or your display pics with other people, are you sure theyre your best friend?".... he was right! Theres always this molecule amount of jealousy with friends, but sabotaging a healthy relationship is below the waist line.
Don't mind your friend. They're just bitter you got yourself someone caring and ready to settle down soon In fact avoid them like plague.
ReplyDeleteYour bobo no good,your bobo no good. I'm very sure the next thing on their agenda is how to snatch that your bobo like that other chronicle poster that snatched her best friend abroad based boyfriend.
Abeeg borrow sense,sogbo.
Stop telling your friends about your fiance. Hear words.
ReplyDeleteA lot are not happy. They want suffering friends like them.
Keep yourself to yourself
Lol, leave him and watch one of them get married to him, ndịuchu
ReplyDeleteIt may be those ur friends boyfriend can't even afford what ur current boo is lavishing on u. Poster be wise!
ReplyDeleteThank you stella..Finally my message got to you....i will be reading comments
ReplyDeleteStop telling your friends anything about your relationship, they are jealous nd stop telling them what he sends Toby ,except u want to pepper them gang, be wise from today nd guise your relationship, as far as I am concerned , your man is even trying to send u 20k a month nd he is not even yet a citizen in that country,as u said he has being there for 2 yrs. his mate don’t send money every month, be wise my dear, you are a younger lady, so I am old e Pugh to advice u! Don’t tell your friends about him again, if they ask. Say he is fine nd that’s all
DeleteShine your eyes poster..
DeleteThey want to deceive you.
Stop telling them about your bf.
Keep your mouth shut
Stop discussing nd with your friends enemies..
Be wise..
For the fact that you even sent this chronicle means that you believe these your friends, you sef u be longer throat. If u like dump him and see if you'll get a better man.....nonsense. make those your friends grab him with all four hands..
DeletePoster, let me give you my advice as one who dated a good guy like yours for two years before joining him.
DeleteStay far away from those friends, if you are fond of letting them talk to him when he calls, stop it.
Also, make sure you don't double date, do your best in the relationship, if it works that's good for you, if it doesn't move on.
It's not easy living in the abroad, 20k per month is over 50pounds, your bobo is sacrificing a lot for you. Some of my in laws don't send their mum that money monthly.
Guard what you have now with all your might before you let entitlement destroy you.
For u to even think of it n decided to send it in as a chronicle for people to advise u on such a glaringly easy matter shows you are not mentally ready to settle down.
ReplyDeleteBlackBerry I didn't see your comment before I commented above there. Seriously this poster is a longer throat, I think all of them (her friends including her) are runs babes.
DeleteI just tire. So this one too na chronicle? Poster, Continue the show off o. Since you cannot advise yourself by yourself
DeleteWhy discuss this type of issues with your friends?This is same with married women who discuss the amount given to them for housekeeping by their husbands .Eku gisting ati advice
ReplyDeleteI tire oh!
Delete'My friends' 'my friends'
If she leaves the guy now and one of those girls take it, ahe would join team "one man army, I dont keep friends, girls are evil". When you wont apply sense and assess your situation. What happened to us having a mind of our own?
Poster do not not tell them anything again about you and your boo, from now on tell them you both are not together, hide your relationship from them, refuse to let them know, they are jealous and angry that your boo is spending on you, if you want the best inn life just stay far from your friends, avoid them from well, the guy is trying Isa not easy, how many bfs in Nigeria can been giving you money like your boo is doing, give your boo time and pray for him soon he will come around. Some friends are evil
ReplyDeleteRead the Shakespearean play, Othello. If you do not understand Shakespeare then go to a site that will explain to you, or watch the movie. Be very careful of the whisperings of friends when you have a good relationship. Always remember that misery loves company. Othello is better at showing you what can happen in instances like yours.
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ReplyDeleteThat is how someone I know lost a 10year relationship due to friends influence. He proposed she accepted and was planning introduction and said she's not doing again a week to the intro.
ReplyDeleteShe was much older than me so I couldnt even advice. The guy got married a year later someone in his office scooped him up. While she's still single till now.
Her excuses then he wasn't doing enough and he wasn't exciting. The guy was doing very well but he was the one paying his brothers school fees abroad and different family responsibilities.
Very soft spoken responsible guy,but just okay look wise.
She thought she could do better as a babe that she is. I do pray she finds her own Prince soon as she turned 40 this year but I know at the bottom of her heart she regrets it. I can remember her mother crying on the phone to my mother. This woman had bought stuff they will use to entertain the in-laws.
You are 26 poster and not wise. Dont let friends get you in trouble. Don't discuss your relationship with them. You must have an older sister, aunty or even your mother to confide in.
Do you think living abroad is easy. He may still even be making monthly payments for that iPhone7 he got you. He has rent,bills, and still manages to give you small upkeep money. That is a good man,keep him.
You are also working and don't want to touch your salary. I don't even understand the minds of many girls nowadays. Until you meet a Yahoo boy that will buy you a venza, trips to dubai and steal your destiny in the process. Things if you save,you can do yourself.
Greed keeps keeping lots of girls single...
DeleteGrass is greener mentality till they clock 45yrs.
Im a fine babe, i deserve better! Oya wait for ur own prince of england na.
You are wrong. You don't know everyone's story. Not all unmarried ladies at that age remained so because of shakara. Sometimes life happens, sometimes some get jilted. Some of you are unnecessarily judgemental.
DeleteMy dear poster..it's like friends never show you pepper! Why should they even Have details of your relationship? Your boyfriend is your boyfriend and not theirs.please my dear..cut them off from your private life. If I tell you what friends did to me ,you would cry here.please listen
ReplyDeleteWhy are you even telling your friends what goes down between you? Na women like you dey open mouth dey tell how much your husband dey give you for housekeeping. Long hiss. Girls wey no get any training. Can't you keep confidence between you and your spouse to be? Mtchweeew
ReplyDeletemadam poster what you have is friendenemies, 20k in a year is 240k how much did the guy give to his mother & siblings that made you &your runs Beb friendenemies think that he is not doing enough, if you try any funny move 1 of your bebs go collect the guy from you sharply
ReplyDeleteSome frds are enemy of progress,confide in ur mum,dnt tell ur frds abt ur boyfrd again,untill u wnt to gt married.
ReplyDeleteThe very reason, I love Stella. She will not mince words when the truth has to be said.
ReplyDeleteHmmm 20k is $56/month. Sorry but it's not a lot unless the guy just doesn't have papers and no steady job. The real question here is when is he coming to marry you.dont wait forever . All na risk Sha.
ReplyDeleteStop talking nonsense, what if he has papers and steady job? Doesn't he has responsibilities at home and abroad.wont he take care of himself? Didn't you hear the the babe say she works.when I was Nigeria waiting for my husband, I was okay and comfortable with what he was giving me but still friends won't let me drink water keep cup.not like I tell them what what he was giving me.I have listened to friends in the past and lost good relationship, so I plugged my ear with cotton wool. My husband earns about $6000 a month. Some will think that is money but that not really.take put mortgage and living expenses and calculate the remaining one for him to meet up his responsibilities at home and abroad. Meanwhile those friends are still very much single and I'm a mother of 3 beauties.people always coming with their unsolicited advice.
Delete18:47 you are not the only one in the abroad. $56 per month is nothing to send to your wife. Tell the truth. If you make $6000 and can only find $56 for your wife, there is something wrong with you. If you marry him, you will still tell stories of how he doesn't help you .some people think marriage is the end. There is life after
DeleteY are u foolish? D guy has been there for 2 yrs and u still expect much from him
DeleteFor u to be sending this in as a chronicle means you are actually considering what ur friends are saying.
ReplyDeleteMy God!, u are 26 not 16. Its like u want you and your friends to use your hands to destroy something not bad.
You better stop telling those friends about ur boo. Them speaking bad about him shows jealousy. You better take all the advice given up there
Shut up....how does being confused about this equate thinking about it? You and blackberry are so bloody judgemental...mofos
DeleteAll these foolish friends please run from them ASAP
ReplyDeleteBe wise dear I smell jealousy
ReplyDeleteNo ooo, he isn't trying, he has to buy you a car, buy your parents cars, build a house for your parents and train your younger ones in school b4 you will know his trying. See your mouth like his in the UK o, you thibk they pick money on the street. Don't play smart and stop telling your friends about you and your man. Until you see his wedding pictures, then u will come back with another chronicle. 'my friends, my friends'
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why do u even go about discussing your man, like you are jobless. my dear na wetin you bring come table your friend go follow you chop no blem them.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, even when you don't discuss people give unsolicited advice. They expect you to be wearing designers, big cars and stupid stuff. I was there, I know what the poster is saying.me that I'm here and working, how many designers have I bought for myself even the ones I can afford. I would rather save my money and do other things that give me joy. Not everyone derive joy from material stuff. I bought a much smaller car as a second than the one my husband gifted me when I was Nigeria even though I could afford more.Sense no wan green me spend money. Man must save.and my husband want to kill himself with laughter.
DeleteHis trying. Stay away from those friends , their bad company.
ReplyDeleteAside your friends, you are really mad. What? choii. I want to be a girl oo.
ReplyDeleteWicked friends, better stay away from them.
ReplyDeleteStop telling your friends about your boyfriend and try to stay away from those friends of yours.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I will definitely teach my daughters is never to depend on any man to pay their bills or to tax their bfs. Dear that guy is doing more than enough , you don't even know how he is surviving, money doesn't grow on trees there, most of them work so hard for their money and for him to still remember you and send you stuff that shows that he really care about you. We ladies know how to make others believe our relationship is a bed of roses whereas reverse is the case. maybe those your friends don't even get anything from their guys not even chewing gum but they are lying to you. Better hold unto your man with two hands.
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all. Pls be careful, once they get his contact,they will start painting you black. Why must you let then know what the guy does for you? Shine your eyes
ReplyDeleteAh some babes are lucky sha. Here i am looking for someone to help my small hustle and you're there considering your friends advise. Abeg receive sense.
ReplyDeleteBeware of those friends of yours. Your man is caring. Please try to hide his phone number from your friends
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Una head dey there.. Most advice are on point
ReplyDeleteYeye and Ungrateful friends that's what you have poster.
ReplyDeleteThey are nothing but spoilers, tread carefully with them