STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SERIAL BABY MAMA
My post is lengthy so I beg y'all to read till the end:::::
My post is lengthy so I beg y'all to read till the end:::::
I was raped as a teenager, and that rape incident begot a son, he is 13yrs old now, I had him 2005, I have 2 men in my life and I will call them Mr AA, and Mr BB, in 2008 I got married to a man I thought loved me, Mr BB , but before then I was in a relationship with a guy whom I really loved, Mr AA:::
we dated from 2006 till end of 2007, and then I found out he was about leaving the country, he begged me to wait, I refused, so he left and then I got married to my ex-husband Mr BB , the marriage was hell on earth, I was pregnant with my daughter then, he will beat me, stab me, humiliate me, I waited till I had my girl, so my late Mom came and took me back home...
when my daughter was 1yr old, he came and took her from me, and that was the last time I saw her till date, in 2013 Mr AA was deported from abroad, he came back with nothing, frustrated and was seriously trying to pick the pieces of his life, he knew about my failed marriage, he sympathized with me and we all moved on, the truth is that 6months after my engagement to Mr BB, his family were on my neck to get pregnant and pregnancy wasn't coming.
I thought it was from me, at a time his Mom came and sent me out of the house cos we were living together, I left and went back to my late parents, I felt like I was free and could live out, I started hanging out with guys, clubbing and sleeping around (I am not proud of it), I had slept with about 3guys all in the name of trying to cure my broken heart, then 2wks after Mr BB came, begged and took me back home, we had a reconciliation s#x and 3wks after, I found out I was pregnant with my little girl, I believed it was him.
fast forward to after my marriage and delivery of our daughter , he was sick and we went to the hospital for treatment, I found out he has low sperm count, My World was shattered, now I have two babies whom I don't know who their father is, I didn't tell Mr BB about my findings and till date, he lives with her and she's all he's got in life, I don't want to spoil that, Now to the reason why I am writing to you, it's been 8yrs since my marriage failed, I gave my life to Christ Jesus earlier this year, and in May 2018, Mr AA, came back through a friend and confessed his undying love for me, and then I still loved him too, so we started a relationship......
In August 2018 I relocated to Lagos State to enable me get closer to him, he engaged me on August 29th and then early November we started having s#x, it was so much fun, we were happy together, he has nothing, like he is so poor but I was happy with him, I currently live with my elder brother and his family, I suddenly noticed some change in his character towards me, and then we broke up, I cried my eyes out, and on that 13th we had s#x, I took two tablets of poster tablet (postinor 1), fast forward to on the 1st of December, I missed my period, I tested it and it was positive...
I called him, told him about it, he on the 2nd of December, and told me that he was done with me, and that I can have the baby, not under his roof, he will never stay with me but that I am free to call him whenever I need his help at anything, I died thrice, my siblings hate me already, none of them is ready to help me, I was doing a cleaner job, I stopped last month cos the company dropped some few workers, I haven't been able to find a new job, if my brother ever finds out that I am pregnant at 32 with all that awful story, he will throw me out, without apologies....
I don't know what to do, and I definitely don't want to abort this baby, this is the 1st time I am knowing who my baby daddy is, it's so shameful but I feel like keeping this one, ...... please I need candid and friendly suggestions as I am really suicidal at the moment, God bless you all, I will be reading comments from here...
*May God direct you on what to do.....BUT ONE ADVICE:::close your legs and open your eyes!!!!
It's up to you but I would about. 3 different kids, 3 different fathers. Too much abeg
ReplyDeletePoster, have you ever in your life done HIV test?
DeleteUna no de fear disease oh
Poster you need a detox from men. Gosh,hope it's not a curse. Why Can't you stay without a man. I don't get,you don't heal from a relationship and having a child. You just jump to the next available bed.
DeleteI ain't no saint but I havnt had sex for 2yrs. It's not because I'm holy and want to be celebate o. But I made a promise to myself when my last relationship packed up two years ago. I told myself until I meet the man I want to marry im not going to sleep with anyone. Men have been coming,none have been husband material. But I recently met someone and we are getting to know eachother,just going on dates,no sex. Until I know he is the one my legs are steadily closed.
Poster you don't have discipline or self control at all. You need to heal, take care of yourself and your kids before you even think of man. Something is wrong somewhere.
For someone who has been through a lot you are too foolish, (sorry to say). Did you go to school? What do you have going for yourself? Because you tend to put a lot into men, all your time, your energy and your love, do you even love your kids this much, so much time on men that aren’t even worth it. For someone that was deported what did you even think of him.
DeleteI can’t advice you o, just take heart, this too shall pass
God will help her
DeleteLisa says,
DeletePoster you are very very immature, insecure and irresponsible. As Stella said, close your wide legs.
Do you have any aspirations at all? Or are you one of the many hopeless women whose focus is on men?!
Mydear, i really donot know what to say to you, except that if you decide to keep this child, do something to better yourself. You didn’t state your level of education, but whatever it is, donot bring that child into this world to suffer please. Ensure you do all you can to give him/her the best. Whatever your siblings do to you after hearing this news, you have to forgive them, because anyone would do same. Get focused please, and let all you’ve been through, be the driving force you need to be better, for yourself and for your children. Take care.
DeleteUhmmmmm.. Mehnnnnn...
ReplyDelete3 babies..!!
Chai
Poster biko do not think about suicide
Deletema just read comments,ur case sounds complicated... BT suicide is never an option I advice u don't kill urself
ReplyDeleteShift for me, lets read together, na prick n toto matter.
DeleteVery complicated..
Delete@ Poster you and prick are 5 and 6...
You like prick too much and that is your problem
If u know u can take care of this child without stress, keep it, as for the other ones, don't disrupt their lives with any confession, let them enjoy abeg n close ur damn legs, Haba, na u d thing sweet pass?
ReplyDeleteAre u sure u were raped as a teenager? The way you like fuck eh, na you fit rape person sef, you give any interested person broke ass or stranger.
DeleteYou dont their fathers.
You dont know ur ovulation date.
You dont know ur hiv status.
You dont have a job.
You dont want to abort.
You dont know what to now... me too dont know what to tell you oh, #Johnsnow.
this is why i love you Blackberry. Advice on point poster. I can never advice any human to abort as i'm believing God for my own child one day.
DeleteBB she doesn't have a job and she is living with her uncle. What does dat tell you?
DeleteThis one dey one kain o! But since you are saved I suggest you have quiet times with God.let him lead you.pele
ReplyDeleteShe is not saved o, how does finding Christ and giving your life to him translate to having unprotected sex again? Most times all the after sex drugs don't work, close your legs, close your legs, I don't think that is a hard thing to do.
DeleteKeep the baby, and don't go killing yourself, because I don't think God will forgive you for killing yourself.
Leave saved topic jare, had a friend who got pregnant for a guy, the guy rejected it, this babe lives with her sister.
DeleteTold her to better count her teeth with her tongue and don't bring a child to this world to suffer.
That was how she embarked on two weeks of seeking God's face, lol. My people it's good to seek God's face but did you remember to seek him when you were hanging those legs? Anu
After the two weeks she went to sleep with another guy and was about to offload the pregnancy on his head because they had unprotected sex.
When she told me I told her not to let thunder strike her from my village for even thinking such.
She later had an abortion and has finally closed her legs. Inu kwa mu nonsense and ingredients.
Keep fucking around, were you suicidal when you were fucking? Ewu
Saved? Poster is chatting shit. This is a great time to be a woman. Focus on your self, your dreams!!!!!
DeleteHmmm. It is well with u poster. I am gonna judge u but pls close ur legs and as for that baby, do not abort...
ReplyDeleteWow it won't really be easy but God Got you. Forget about men for now and give your life fully to Christ. Get a job
ReplyDeleteSorry about your rape ordeal, rapists belong in jail.
ReplyDeleteYou have two kids and expecting one or two
You don’t have a job
You’re squatting
You don’t know the father of your two kids
Your case is really a serious one and first off you need to understand that marriage or a relationship can not heal your aches. You’re seeking for love where they don’t exist. You have decided to keep the baby (I am pro choice) which is also a good choice but you’ve already said your brother is not happy with you and rightly so. No good or sensible person would be happy that at 32 you haven’t gotten even one thing right. You’ve lost your cleaning job with a company, perhaps try to do “any work” within the neighborhood. A lot of people need someone who can run errands both in and outside the house for a fee. Please start talking to people and let them know your condition (that you’re pregnant) who knows maybe God would look kindly on you with someone to help.
Lastly, forget about rekindling any romance with those men. You need to earn something for yourself. Also, tell your siblings about the pregnancy unless you have other accommodation options because you can’t hide a protruding tummy for too long and they’d react harshly if and when they find out on their own. Let them hear it from you.
@Doppel,go staright to the pointm
DeleteNot everyone is in a mood to read epistle.
poster,pick your self worth.
Take break from relationship now to figure yourself out.
use super glue to close that place for now,incase your legs refuse to close.
Leave doppleganger...you don't have to read every comment��
DeleteThe annoying Part of this is your last baby dady is so broke. Chai
ReplyDeleteShe doesnt care as long as the fuck de.
DeleteAnimashaun
ReplyDeleteHmm pregnancy and child birth is not easy with loving husband and family/friends how much more this your narrative..may God send a helper your way. Also try and be a good nau haba
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahajahahahahahahahahaha, Stella ooo, ur red pen got me laughing while holding my stomach, I don't know why.😂😂😂😂😂.
ReplyDeletePoster God is ur strength, make mistake abeg, life didn't come with a manual besides u only live once.
Keep d child,didn't u finish schl?? get a job or do a business but don't stay idle and pls leave men and love alone, men are actually terrible people.
I gat to run back to my hole now,I miss commenting jor, I just had a good laugh
Please stop opening your legs like shoprite door. Haba!pity yourself for once, and what happened to condoms??
ReplyDeleteBe sensitive, this is not a joking matter o.
DeleteWetin be my own sef?
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DeleteI think whatever you went through as a teen is affecting you, biko stay away from unreasonable men... In the mean time seek the face of God
DeleteClose your legs woman! You dont know the father of your kids? What nonsense are you doing like this?
ReplyDeleteFirst was rape, second one ....eh.....
Deletethird one she knows.
So pls explain. How were sleeping with him when you said you had given your life to Christ? And no am not judging. It happened more than once.
ReplyDeleteSee God can re write your story. Call out to Him so that you dont commit suicide. With God there is always a way out. He knows how to put broken pieces together.
Suicide is not an option. Your kids need you so do all you can to give them a better life than you had/have.
ReplyDeleteAfter giving your life to Jesus, you still went back to fornication. You shouldn't have done that. God is a merciful God. Go back to him and ask for forgiveness. Don't terminate that pregnancy. You will be fine.
ReplyDeleteNa you know sha, fuck de sweet una. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteI just develop headache after reading this..i cant comment abeg..but wait oh, babes dey try sha.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahah
DeleteIt is well poster, u need to pick the pieces of life and dust yourself up. Look for a job,anything save up for a vocational course. You need one now and you need to take responsibility for your actions and mistakes.
ReplyDeleteMeet with your siblings,they are your family.explan your predicament to them, I believe they will understand you but don't expect compassion from them you've got to earn it.
Lastly, Abeg when next use a condom. It is not because of unwanted pregnancy but other deadly diseases roaming about.
Nobody should abuse this woman.
ReplyDeleteThis isn't ordinary. Like she doesn't even know what she's doing. No direction,nothing! JESUS!!
Poster needs intense prayers,you have a faulty foundation. This is more spiritual.
Same thoughts I have. Poster I won't judge you. Please draw closer to GOD, only HIM can change your story for good.
DeleteSeconded
DeleteAbeg leave that thing, village people hand clean this time around, you know her before? Some people are this careless.
DeleteOnly God Almighty can come through for you at this point of your life. It's more spiritual than physical. Get close to HIM through HIS word, you will find comfort and all you need to move on.
DeleteClose your legs PLEASE
Exactly what am thinking.
DeleteI don't think that her issue is spiritual. She is just a wayward person, one who believes in using sex to feed and she is very careless.
DeletePoster, I am sorry if I am being hard on you but the truth has to be said. You have taken a good decision in wanting to keep the pregnancy though a tough one. I know that your present condition is complicated but you need to let your brothers know about your condition and take to their advise. Another way is to look for a church that can accommodate you while you do menial jobs.
Please, saying that your issue is spiritual is just like indulging you but pray for God's mercy. Best of luck.
wisdom is profitable to direct in all thy gettings get wisdom not PREEQ. GOD will surely make a way for u help will locate u. forget abortion..leave men nd close your legs. strive harder never let ur trauma weigh u down.
ReplyDeletePoster so u want to bring a child to dis world to suffer? Abeg do mankind a favour n abort dat kid. Wen u r stable financially u can have all d babies with all the men in d world just pity dat kid n abort it.
ReplyDeleteNa wah o only u 3 different kids with different father the last man who is suppose to be your consolation doesn't want you and is poor u don't have a job and is leaving with your brother. sister only u thank God you found Christ please pray about your situation to him ur daughter wit ur ex leave her o cuz u can't feed her for now when you r very OK money wise tell them d truth ND try look for a job or do small business like selling food start small like doing indomie and fried eggs or boiled there's money in it u need to take care of the child inside u everybody deserves a birthday abortion is a no no for me ND Pls call ur brother talk to him beg him if need be dat u r pregnant you owe him respect cuz u live with him
ReplyDeleteI wish you all the best my sister
Na wah o only u 3 different kids with different father the last man who is suppose to be your consolation doesn't want you and is poor u don't have a job and is leaving with your brother. sister only u thank God you found Christ please pray about your situation to him ur daughter wit ur ex leave her o cuz u can't feed her for now when you r very OK money wise tell them d truth ND try look for a job or do small business like selling food start small like doing indomie and fried eggs or boiled there's money in it u need to take care of the child inside u everybody deserves a birthday abortion is a no no for me ND Pls call ur brother talk to him beg him if need be dat u r pregnant you owe him respect cuz u live with him
ReplyDeleteI wish you all the best my sister
You gave your life to Christ earlier this tear, reconciled with your broke/poor ex and started having sex which you described to be fun. My dear you need to repent.
ReplyDeleteMaybe if the chronicle came in before pregnancy, BVs would have given a 'get sense advice'.
ReplyDeleteBut as it stands now, your brother should know what's going on or are you here for flushing advice?
The truth is that your attitude towards gbenshing and knocking out is 👎. Your AA came back frustrated and used you to release part of it.
May God give us all wisdom to avoid certain mistakes that are way too costly.
Postinor 2 in Nigeria is a scam. rather than prevent conception, it might even dash you multiple births. don't know if it's fake or whatever but something is definitely wrong with Postinor 2 especially the new green circular one. met a pregnant girl the other day, she was a novice thinking Postinor was shii, well she took to sachets of four tablets within 24 hours and still ended up with twins! babe wants to die. family has kicked her out, nothing I could do for her except encouraging words. sadly the church won't come to her rescue cos in this part of the world we condemn the sinner and the sin and they sieze to be humans.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster. how do you plan to raise the child?
😂😂😂... if so that drug should be really expensive, if it has the ability to multiply, lots of ppl want twins
DeleteLike most Nigerian women she didn't read the label and took it wrongly. It is most effective within the first twelve hours, take one pill then second pill after 12 hours not two pills together
DeleteYou "gave your life to Christ . . . and started having sex?" I got confused at this point. They just do not mix. You do not profess
ReplyDeleteChrist only to return to fornication. The first way to "close your legs" is to discipline your flesh through fasting and meditating on
God's word. Beautiful resolve not to commit a graver sin; i.e abortion. If he does not want the baby, please keep him/her. But get closer to God in fasting/prayer and the word. Better you tell your brother that you are pregnant and that you know the father etc. Ask the Lord for help. And if your baby's daddy mean to contribute to the life of the child, allow him but no more sex please.
If you have woken up to the reality of walking in the right way, you are good to go. "For in all things, God works for the good of they that love him and are called according to his purpose; google it".
I feel for u,I understand u perfectly,I know life is so on bearable but pls hang on there is just a matter of time,for Christ sake u are 32 years old who are u scared of?family or friends,u owe no one an explanation for ur life or mistake,it is high time u take charge of ur life.have dis baby and do something meaningful wit ur life.people must talk allow them just b forcused.I repeat have dat baby or u will b filled wit guilt for d rest of ur life.
ReplyDeleteThe last guy is such a disappointment. I was hoping he was finally the one
ReplyDelete"The one" to do what?
DeleteWhen a lady begins to give men vagina, they don't marry them.
They only f8k
2 babies with 2 different fathers, and you think a man in his right senses will allow himself be "the one"? That jazz no go work
DeleteI don't like commenting but this one got me hanging since this is my field.
ReplyDeletemadam i see you as a victim of poor parenting. you got raped because you were allowed to hang around men at a tender age.
even when you got a child through rape you needed to properly managed against depression, trauma and sexual dysfunction.
every mistake you made was rooted In your childhood.
all you need now is to go and test yourself against HIV and you need to visit a counsellor.
you don't have a will of your own and strength of character that's why you allow your emotions direction at every breaking point.
please tell your brother let him see that you are Really sorry and need psychological help.
finally go and enrol for apprenticeship I recommend tailoring. when you are done you will have a life
you need a life ...
Poster comman read this advice.
DeleteEverything the poster passed through was in her quest to find a life and she took
DeleteEverything the poster passed through was in her quest to find a life and she took the wrong step to attain that.
DeleteIt is well
ReplyDelete..even inside well
DeleteI don't want to believe that you are a nymphomaniac... stayed focused, get busy and run closer to God.
ReplyDeleteFlee from men and concentrate on your business and train your kids.
Seriously,am not in any position to judge but how can you say you give your life to Christ and then you have sex outside marriage,i don't get?But nevertheless,the deed has been done,pls do not abort that innocent child,he or she is not to be blamed for your act. May the good Lord give you direction and also empower you.Please focus more on yourself and get closer to GOD.......
ReplyDeleteWhen nigerians say theyve given their life to Christ, you think it involves no sex? That side wasnt given to christ. Big time hypos
DeletePoster, I read your chronicle with a heavy heart. Genuinely give your life to Christ, start worshiping in a bible believing church, trust me your healing is the word. Enroll in a skill of your choice or start a business and keep praying to God to send help your way. I know God is able to fix your life and put a smile on your face. I wont advice you to abort the baby cos you will be adding sin to sin.
ReplyDeleteMadam you kicked yourself out of the ring. nobody can help you except you.
ReplyDeletemost ladies run into marriage without a life. when the spouse begin to misbehave they also take the wrong path . many of them are on this blog . that's why you see cases of ladies proudly cheating.
so Madam no be only you dey this case una plenty here. all you need is give your life back to Christ because the first one you gave you did not do proper hand over
submit yourself to a pastors wife for mentorship. I don't judge you cos I get some of my own wahala too
Absofuckinglutely rubbish. Submit to which pastor's wife as if say she is perfect. Pastor's wife is an appendage. And poster don't mind this comment. Dudt yourself up and let no ine take advantage of you again. Pastors and wives inclusive. Rely on God
DeleteYou need to find a closure with God.Besides i won't advice u to abort ur pregnancy bcus children are gift from God.Stop fornication.Ladies shud always learn to close their legs if u wan chop frog,chop the one wey get egg.How can u be pregnant for a jobless fellow
ReplyDeleteDidn’t bother reading comments.......on this one am with Stella. See poster, you even made me break my no comment jinx.....
ReplyDeleteI think you should heed to your own advice.You are responsible for your body, birth control inclusive.
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry I am not moved by your tears as I am and have many friends who are sexually active and yet we haven’t gotten pregnant-1,2,3..
It’s the normal human tendency to blame others for our woes but change only come when we take the responsibility.
Poster you are looking for love in the wrong places learn to love yourself . pls focus on making your self better. It is well with you
ReplyDeleteWhat has happened has happened. The question is how do we move forward now. BLAMES don't solve the problem.
ReplyDelete@Poster
Sincerely i dont support abortion. But this your situation is a tough one.
1. You don't have a Job
2. You Stay with your brother
3. You already have two bastard children
4. The latest man in your life got you pregnant and abandoned (another bastard child)
Following all these just ABORT. Ask God for forgiveness. No need to bring the child into the world to suffer. No home, No father, No money e.t.c.
ABORT now before its too late... AND REPENT.
Most importantly KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED.
Close your legs and pretend to be a mermaid from now on.
ReplyDeleteCan you think of a business and try to get a loan from this Trader Moni so that in the mean time you can be productive and earn an income no matter how little. Or look for a job that can be convenient for you even if it's to sweep people's compound with a long broom that way, you don't need to bend down. Finding compounds to sweep or apartments to clean will depend on your location in Lagos.
Poster come close, my hand wants to tell your face something.
ReplyDeleteWhat is done is done. U are pregnant already and you can't vomit the foetus. You have to look for something to do. I see slot of sense in what dopple said. Move out. Let people know u need a job. Go to this highbrow areas where you might get better paid. Don't do the live in worker thing. Resume in the morning and close and night and l hope for your sake your pregnancy isn't difficult. Appraise them of your condition sha o. See if u can raise enough to get an accommodation. Dats very important. And after every let men be for now. Stop seeking validation in them. As u can see its not favoring u
ReplyDeleteits a pity, it was all wrong at the beginning. may you find happiness. be close to God, join the work force of a bible believing church, use protecton from now onwards. learn a trade like hair making to support yoursef,
ReplyDeleteI would be very blunt with my response.
ReplyDeleteGet an abortion. You are 32 with 2 kids, no job, you are even squatting. That alone should make your brain function. Get your shot together and stop fucking around, you are not a baby. Get an abortion and go get a job, find anything at all. Stay completely away from them, you need to appreciate and love yourself. If you don't no man would that's the bitter truth. Right now what they see is an insecure lady looking for love, a very easy prey. Get an abortion!!!