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Friday, December 21, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

DEALING WITH THE CONSEQUENCES OF MARRYING
A MUMMYS BOY...


Stella I am tired, ever since I got married my husband cares less about me and my son, he is only answerable to his mother, anything she says stands, even when he should sleep with me and how much he should be bringing into the home, the woman doesn't like me and therefore she makes the house unbearable for me by always putting stupid ideas into my husbands head.



 I am tired of this thing called marriage because right from the day we said our I do's it has has always been about his mother, she makes decisions for my home, I have discussed dis particular issue with my husband countless times but each time we do we always end up quarrelling seriously and he will leave the house and go stay with his mother and not talk to me for days, the mother on her own won't even call me to ask why, she will then go about spreading nasty rumours about me to anybody that cares to listen.


I don't even want to go into details of how his sisters treats me, everybody in my husbands side of the family now hates me and thinks am a bad person because of the despicable things my mother_ in_law has said about me to them, I really do not know what I ever did to that woman, the last straw for me was what happened last week Friday, my car broke down and it was at the mechanics, that morning I asked hubby to help me take our child to school while I prepare for work but he refused saying he had somewhere very important to go to and left, that day my child went to school very late because I had a lot of things to handle all by myself, that same day after the close of school I rushed to school to pick up my child and on my way going there my husband called me and was sounding all romantic, something he hasn't done in like two years except the first few months of our marriage.

 he asked me not take uber that he was on his to pick us so we can spend some time together as a family, Stella do you believe that I waited for that man for more than five hours I kept on calling and anytime I call he will tell me to relax that he was close by but he never showed up, he kept saying that till I got angry and left, he came back midnight and was telling me his mother's car broke down and he took her to go his brothers wife that had an accident (that one her fourth son).

 Stella he wasn't even remorseful for keeping I and his son waiting for that long, my baby needed to rest but he couldn't because we were standing outside under the sun waiting for his father to come, it got to the point where my baby said that when he grows up he doesn't want to be like his father, I cry so much that my five year old baby is now my comforter, all dis is caused by his mother a woman that I don't know how I offended her, I have threatened to walk away from the marriage but each time I threaten to leave he will make sure he begs me with all his friends because his family cares less about me..


I spoke to my friends about it and they all advice that I get rid of my mother in law but I don't want to kill anyone. what do I do, please help me, dis is becoming too much, to the married women on the blog is this how your mother in laws are??? Please help a sister.....




*The only thing i will advise you is to get rid of your friends FAST...God forbid i ever have such friends!!!

And you,I don't believe your mother in law is as horrible as you describe and you are Innocent.............Manage the relationship and Let her to be your friend,it cannot be that hard,most women don't let go of their sons easily and if you dot understand that then wahala dey...just like you are having now...
Bear whatever it is for peace sake and make her your friend,buy her gifts and pet her and before you know it she will be licking from your hands.....Be smart.

84 comments:

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    1. 2 bleesed 2 curse21 December 2018 at 17:12

      The way you people are quick to advice people to leave their marriage makes me lol.

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    2. Why are all the cars "breaking down" ?

      It could be your MIL spoiling them o.

      Lols

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  2. Nne if you have the kind of friends that will advice you to kill someone then I fear who no fear you. I think your in-laws has seen through you.

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    1. If truly your friends suggested you kill your mother in law, then truly, I don't need to hear from your husband or inlaws, you, poster are evil and dangerous and that man should divorce you asap!!!

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    2. Stella o...for her to keep such wicked friends, they can only instigate her to be horrible to the poor MIL. Imagine! You should get rid of her as if its a rat they are talking about.

      Poster you cant be a good, respectful and kind daughter inlaw! You are dark hearted to have friends that can suggest such. Birds of the same feather flock together.

      Terrible olosho daughter inlaw with friends from the pit of hell.

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    3. 2 bleesed 2 curse21 December 2018 at 17:15

      Bad bad company i must say..

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    4. Fan I follow you dey shout
      POSTER YOU ARE EVIL!!!

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    5. Seems to me you don't have sense. Your hubby stood u up for up to 5hours and you waited? How far is the school from home that you can't take a cab. Let's say school closes by 1or2, meaning u we're waiting till 6or7?
      Adonbilivit.

      She already poisoned the mind of a little boy ....... "Saying if he grows up, he doesn't want to be like his father"

      No weapon fashioned against MIL shall prosper. She will live with you guys for many more years to come in good health.

      Go and reconcile with her and you all will be alright.

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    6. Wow, those friends are evil. Do away with them.
      Stop crying in front of your child please. He’s a child, let him be a child. Cry in isolation if you must.
      You don’t have to be friends with your mil, but treat her well and ignore some things.
      You married a mommy’s boy so you have to suck it up and ignore him sometimes. Don’t tell him anything that you don’t want his mom to hear.
      Eventually he will change when he sees you are not antagonizing his mom

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  3. "Get rid of your mil", that statement is has landed people In Hot soup. However harmless it sounds, its a heavy sentence with hidden meanings.

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    1. That her last paragraph spoilt the whole chronicle. God forbid bad people

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    2. And she has a son and will be a future mother in-law.
      That is how some women pray to marry a man whose mother has died. Will you be happy in the future if your son's girlfriend wishes you death and short life span just for her to enjoy her marriage.
      Wicked people everywhere. I can't even wish someone's dog death.

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  4. End time mother in-law! That's what you get when you marry a mummy's boy. The only time you'll have your husband all to yourself is only when she is gone. But I won't advise you to get rid of her just like your friends advised cos you have a aon too and you're gonna be a mil someday too. So just get used to it and relax. Your hubby is the one at fault here not your mil. But in all, this issa one sided story. You may be the toxic one here. You still have to check yourself too

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    1. Yes o. Poster, imagine your future daughter in-law treat you the way u are treating ur mother inlaw. Remember you have a son that we marry someday. What of if the girl do not like you and have plan of killing you too? We you be happy. You have to be carefill of friends o

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    2. The ish lies at your horseband's shoes. Yes, he is not man enough to stand up to his family. Not only that, he is quite uncaring of you and your son. I suspect he is the one feeding your mil with lies to justify his unseriousness. I also suspect that that useless story he told you about why he didn't pick you, was him trying to cover up an affair. Poster your friends will put you into trouble if you are not careful. Are you sure you are not like them (in which case y'all deserve each other)? Anyway, it is better you divorce your husband than kill anybody. I am not sure your husband will change anytime soon since he appears to see nothing wrong in his behaviour,short of a miracle. So try to take Stella's advice, maybe it will help. But as things are going, you guys may end up becoming like strangers living together. Try prayers with faith.

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  5. Some mother in laws are evil

    Just try to get close to her, be her friend so you can enjoy your husband

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  6. Kia your friends are the worst set of friends that any human should have. But wait oh after advising you such, you still calling them your friends? Friends that can comfortably tell you to kill? Keeping such friends around kind of show me the kind of person you're I might be wrong tho. Cos none of my friends can be so comfortable saying that to me, in short it a taboo to even say that even as form of joke. Sorry for not having anything to advise you with, Just that line got me.

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  7. Yeah, either you do as Stella says or you totally ignore. Choose one

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  8. Lol,Stella ehn.this is not obodo Germany o.this is Nigeria!this kain mother in law may be diabolic.left for me,she shld separate from the man,for a while.ur last option should be divorce after you have explored all other options.it is well with you.i also think you should stop discussing it with your husband and treat him like he doesn't exist.no matter what,do not do anything to that woman,also make sure your hands are clean as you have portrayed,then take the case to God,let him fight for you,afterall she no fit marry her son.she really wants to frustrate you so that you will pack ur load and go,your head must be very strong o,she for don kill you,apply wisdom,and pray unceasingly.i pray for Gods leading for you.

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    1. 2 bleesed 2 curse21 December 2018 at 17:17

      She also needs to change friends
      Terrible frieds she has.

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  9. For you to have friends that would boldy tell you to get rid of your mother in law.... come on it's says a lot about you and your kind of person than it does about the woman. To think i was feeling bad for you until i got to that part. I fear who no fear you🙄.

    You mentioned all her flaws but you are blameless abi, no single flaw?.

    How about you stop discussing your marital palava with friends who am sure are probably single or don't have MILs since they have killed them all.

    Tell your mum instead or your sisters they have your interest at heart and would give you the best advice.

    The woman who tamed the lion, remember that story?, apply it in your marriage in reference to your relationship with his mother,since your husband is tied to his mum's apron. Only then can you enjoy your marriage ooo, get close to her before your husband report you, report him to her. When you fight before he goes there, be the first to appear in her house. Peace

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    1. You are answering her?. That's why i don't believe most of these ladies who jump on the bangwagon of "mil is a bad person, mil doesnt like me, bla bla,bla". Meanwhile most of this mils are justifies in their dislike for you. She obviously doesnt like you because you are not good for her son which you just made obvious with your calibre of friends. If you don't stop spreading bad rumours about her instead of changing your ways which you didn't state but i can sense with that statement your hand is not pure.
      They will kill her on your behalf and her blood will be on your head since you won't stop irritating their earlobes with incessant nagging about your private woes. Some Mils have suffered sha in these life, like you all wont be one someday. Mtshewewwewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

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  10. I was reading and trying to understand where you are coming from till I got to the point where your friends asked you to get rid of your MIL. My mouth stayed open. I think your problem are your friends. You are talking to the wrong people.

    He stood you up, got back and explained to you how he took his mom to the hospital after an accident happened. My dear I think you and hubby should learn to communicate more. My mama told me the last thing a man needs after a longg probably hectic running around day is a nagging, inconsiderate woman waiting for him at home. Issues can be resolved after everyone is relaxed nd calm through talking.

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    1. Was it too difficult to call her and let her know so she would find her way when he realised he needed to take his mother somewhere instead of leaving them to wait believing he was almost there. That your husband na wa.

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  11. One day, this evil friends of yours will get to you n you will react by killing this woman. Then all the blogs will carry your story bc you will be a star. After that you will be beaten blue black by the police n sent to jail. The prison gaurds will turn u into a sex object. Find out why women In prison always get pregnant. You will so suffer that the man you killed his mother for will not even border. You can't keep yourself busy. Your mother inlaw is not the problem. Your husband is. N i don't think you are doing yourself any good by blaming this woman. But since you have evil advisers, kwantinue. Don't forget the devil is out to kill, steal n destroy. Shalom

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  12. Please don't try anything funny that will end the life of your mother in law. As much as you can, ignore her and if you can, ignore your husband too. Don't let him know his actions is getting to you. Pour your love and attention on your son. Don't let a man comman drain you out.

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  13. Just be yourself now,forget your husband and your mil,take good care of your son as if you're a single mum.

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  14. You would have asked your friends to explain to you if it is killing or what.

    You saw a mummy boy you shook head. I must marry by force by fire.

    Sorry what you are going through. Don't kill yourself for anyone to please.

    Stop talking to your husband about his mum.

    Just blank all of them. Behave they don't exist because you worry too much about what they think about you

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  15. Wisdom, Poster, wisdom. You need to be cautious and apply wisdom. Put it out of your mind that your Mother-in-law is not making you enjoy your husband. Do not frustrate yourself, just relax and take things easy and please avoid being petty. Stop discussing your Mother-in-law with your husband, instead if you have any grievances, talk to God. You need to be careful about the way you relate with your husband's family, show them true and undiluted love. Remember that you also have a Son, you will be a Mother-in-law to someone, someday. This is a simple matter that can be handled spiritually. Be wise.

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  16. My dear the best thing is to ignore and over look some certain things.
    He may be his mother's favourite that the bound is still strong.
    just overlook to enjoy your marriage.

    Do all you can to be friend with his family even though some people are hard to please.
    stay away from bad friends

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  17. Stella, this matter get as e be.Some MIL are very difficult to please just as they're also difficult to handle.True, there is a always two side of the coin.Poster should find peace within herself,befriend her,treat as you would treat your mother and let mother and son enjoy their bond.Don't kill her else you'll also be killed by your DIL.She has always been there but you never noticed\knew how much impart she has on her son.Try and manage your husband,don't jeopardize your marriage for her sake.and please,stay very far away from your bad advisers of friends.else you end up doing things you'll live to regret for the rest of your life.

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  18. My dear poster we have the same type of MIL, very wicked and unforgiven human being that I have ever seen, am her son's second wife that she had made her son send away, she controls her children and even tells her son the type of clothes to buy for me. whenever she sees me wearing any clothes that does not meet her approval she calls my hubby and start scolding him, immediately he comes back he will tell me to throw the clothes away. I finally left the toxic environment cus there was no child to endure it with. I will advice you to stay and manage them since you have a son, the woman will not live forever, just increase your prayer life and let God judge them

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  19. Please unfriend those your evil friends asap. What kind of advise is that??? How can they suggest you kill your mother in law. Remember you will also become a mother in law one day o.
    No relationship is perfect. And I am sure you are not as innocent as you are painting here. Learn to embrace and love your mother in-law . If she had not given birth to your hubby, you wouldn't have married him. Pls don't look for unnecessary trouble anywhere. Love your mother in law

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  20. Your husband is probably cheating n is using his mum as an excuse so you will never find out. What stop him from saying pls go home. I am taking mom to the hospital. Madam snoop now n get your facts

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    1. A different angle that may be true.

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    2. His obviously not a good person to keep her waiting but for her to say she waited for hours is unbelievable because she could have taken a taxi after waiting for up to an hour. I don't live with you so I can't judge but I know some men are really childish and some mother inlaws are also very terrible based on what I've seen and heard, so my advice is that you nag less and make yourself a better and happier person.

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    3. It has happened to me, that is why I believe her. I kept calling and he kept assuring me he was almost there. I was standing there for hours waiting, imagine if I was with a child. I learnt my hot lesson that day. My legs ached ehhn! I still can't believe I was that foolish. Never again! He kept assuring me he was almost there. Of course he came back with a sob story, he wasn't remorseful nor did he feel what I passed through standing like that for so long. Men ooo! Hmmmm

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    4. I believe her too. I've waited for a friend for more than three hours. She was almsot there is what she kept saying . Some people are inconsiderate

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    5. There is a possibility that your husband is cheating and he is using his mum as an excuse. A situation where a woman isn’t close to the mother in law would make d man be cheating and using her as an excuse because he knows u might not ask her or follow him to her house. Just be very careful cos with the way you are going , u night do harm to your husband or mother in law.. forgivevtgen or get a divorce cos your husband won’t change, don’t put yourself in trouble because of them nd pls discard those evil friends of yours

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  21. Be friends with your MIL, act like a child where she is to restore peace in your home. Always remember to pray. Stop seeking advice from friends, their advice will scatter your head.

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  22. Shebi you dey work why bothering yaself, over Look what ya mother-in-law And Horseband Are Doing rather treating You.. Do like mumu dey Follow them Seems ya Mummy's Boy goes to his Mother's place any time there's Misunderstanding between you both My Dear Mind what you say to him..Save Enough Money As you Can oooo,Do What you can Do And leave the rest.. May God protect you and Your son and heal your Marriage...

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  23. Dear poster worry not, if you eventually find out your mother Inlaw is diabolical don’t be surprised.......the best thing you can do at this point is not to give in to her wiles, she prolly wants you to leave her son, if you leave him now, she automatically wins...
    My dear be submissive as in capital SUBMISSION o, and give him good and great sex, even if he doesn’t want it instigate it, be quick to say sorry and just do your best to maintain friendship with him....... Above all, look for and buy Efo-Tete cook with a lot of 🦐 (ede-pupa) and dry fish......Most importantly pray about your family, what you want God to do and what you want him to do for you as your husband, prayerfully claim your right as his wife, like we know a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cling to his wife😉😉
    PS: cook your efo riro normally and you can serve with any thing and please don’t add nothing else except the prayers o......all the best

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  24. "My mother in law decide everything even when we have sex..." poster please stop been dramatic, we know you are jealous of your mother in law, right now but that comment is a little over the top. like your hubby call your MIL each night to seek permission before having sex?.
    your MIL should be your friend from the beginning, but I guess you join all this association of SDK girls that believe a man solely belong to them after marriage, hence the reason for your suffering. your child made a promise to you that HE will always protect you when he is all grown up , the same way this young man might have promised his mom sometime ago, how will you feel if the son you have gone through this struggle for, one woman comes in and try to push you out completely!? The whole family none is even your friend, that tells a lot about, madam please change your MIL is not your enemy , but your possessive and jealous spirit is. Good luck in your home.

    Stella post my comment I don't know why you like holding on to my comment these days.

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    1. kikikikikik, is this @just Bella, of yesterday? Anonymous orubebe's besty? when did you turn to epstle gang? ikwakwakwakwa.

      I love your comment, keep it up. Especially this " association of SDK" ikwakwakwakwa, follow those girls advice at your own peril, ikwakwakwakwa see the way they have put this girl in trouble in her home.

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    2. Just bella that this isn't your case doesn't mean it's not true cause some Mil's are like that,don't blame a woman that you haven't walked in her shoes before. Isn't it here we read stories about some Mils

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    3. Anonymous 16:18 .. you are so funny.

      Anonymous 17:31... The fact that you hear stories about MILs here does not make it true 60 percent of chronicle posters here are lairs who paint other people bad , just to look all good and shining . please stay woke!

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    4. There are really bad mils out there and until you experience it you probably won't believe. Some actually want to remain the woman of the house in their son's home.

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  25. Madam poster, I know how painful and frustrating it is but dont listen to u our friends advise. Ignore your mother in law and your hubby. Let your job and your son occupy your mind. Your hubby will come to his senses with time.
    I was once in your shoe.

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  26. Please never kill o. Just give yourself brain. Face your work and your son. If u have money change your car to a new car. Respect your mother in law, even if she chooses not to like you. Life is not difficult. Allow your husband be. For me, self love is important. Enjoy your life, it’s not your husband that can make u happy, choose to be happy and your husband will be wondering what has come over you. Flee from your circle of friends. They will get you into trouble

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  27. What manner of friends have you?

    A good person should stay away from such people who give this sort of advice

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  28. For you to keep those "friends", you must be a terribly nagging, vindictive woman. Your MIL isn't your enemy; is she? Your friends are your enemy. You probably are treating your husband the way they advised you and that is wrong.
    Do your best to rid you child's mind of that poison against his dad and love your mother in law.

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  29. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”[d] says the Lord. 20 On the contrary:

    “If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
    if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
    In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”[e]

    21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12

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  30. One thing I learnt early in my marriage was not to compete for my husband's attention with his family. The truth is most of these men their family will always come first. Accept them the way they are and ignore any negative utterance from them. My husband is the first son and he is his mum's heart infact that's what his tribal name means. When she came when I had my daughter we were not on good terms cos she felt I was competing with her. The next time she came she discovered her son was in good terms cos her son inlaw treated her like shit. So poster stop struggling for attention. Keep being you. Remember you have a son so you are a potential mother in law. Pele it is well!!!

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  31. God forbid that kind of mother in law

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  32. alot of people be judging her already because her friends told her to kill her "MIL" but you guys didnt see where she wrote all she has been going through in the hands of her MIL but doesn't want to kill her. yen yen yen!!! most of you advising her here might not be able to go through half of it. But aunty stella, 5years of marriage and she doesn't want to let go of her son....nawa to her oo!!
    Dear Poster, just dont be in a hurry, think your options through, be calculative about your moves but please, don't let murder be an option, thank you

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  33. Poster have killed before I suspect...

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  34. This is egzakly what my friend may do in the near future. His mum can call him 4 times in day and it is a constant. He discuss EVERYTHING IN THIS WORLD with his mum.
    That is one of the consequences of refusing to remarry after a spouse's demise.
    He still behaves like 18 years old boy up till now. No relationship ever work despite him earning over 250k monthly and God fearing. The mother won't just let him grow up. He too argues, competes and nagging naturally like a small boy.
    I really pity the woman he will marry, the woman must be ready to marry him and his mum. Sad sigh!!

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    1. So because a mother calls her son everyday is a problem huh?, continue.....he discusses everything with his mum and so?, like we ladies don't discuss everything with our mums,SMH... and are we not all married?. Oh that's why he nags like a small boy and argues, okay i hear you. Most ladies be acting like a man is their property always wanting to cut him off from his mum the moment they marry him.

      This is the exact reason I stopped liking that bolanke olukanni girl. She complained about a mother calling her son everyday and gisting for just one hour ooo. To crown it all she said its causing issue in her friend's marriage I just laugh. Out of all The issues in marriages,a mother talking to her son for just one hour is what is giving you a migraine. Hmmm people can flatter themselves. Chaiii.
      The other host A lady like her, told her it's no big deal since her friend has the remaining 23 hours to herself but mbanu she just dey vex on her friend behalf.

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    2. I wasn't going to comment, but your comment got me Anon 17:01, One hr call from MIL everyday is much for me. Do you know ehat onr hr is? What could they bepossibly talking about? Ehen do this calls happen? After a busy work day? During lunch break, In the morning before work? Do they happen at a stretch or intermediary?

      If and when I have a son, I will learn to back off before he gets married sef. I won't even call a 16yr old one hr everyday.

      What time will he now have to spend with his partner? Why do Nigerian MIL not respect "A man shall leave his parents and cleave to his wife"?

      Was God wrong with this?

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    3. But you have the remaining 23 hours to your self nau. Haba!!!! My brother complained about this same thing, that his wife's mum and sisters calls her every single day on a stretch till midnight.
      I thought he was exaggerating till i visited. Her phone rang non-stop till i left and guess who it was, her sisters and her mum. She hates keeping friends she doesn't have a single friend so I knew it was them. I told him they are her family and they can talk with her as long as it doesn't interfere with their activities. She is the last born and she hasn't adjusted but i know no matter how adjusted she gets a day still won't pass that the mum won't say hello to her.

      I Am sure the man's mother must have been that way with him till he grew up and she probably reduced it till an hour because he is married. What are They discussing you say?, They can discuss whatever they want.

      Cleaving doesn't mean no interaction with his parents. Stella no vex biko.... Look at the way stella interacts with her sons, the intimacy between mum and sons I just left her Instagram page, see deep friendship, lovely bickering and all that... imagine one wife suddenly appearing from someone now expecting her to cut all communications like that,fiam without mercy, God forbid. you people fear God nau. The fact that a man is your husband doesn't automatically make him a stranger to his mum or dad. Most women just wants to take overall ownership without leaving room nor space for the extended family this same man grew up with and it's not fair.
      My husband talks with his mum always and honestly I don't care for i do the same so whatever.

      If your mum talk to you always, would you tell her not to call you that it's getting too much. So i ask, how does an hour call between mother and son affect the marriage?.

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    4. *what
      *one
      *be possibly
      *When

      Forgive my typos, I was in traffic when I typed this.

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    5. It seems a mummy's boy is yarning, yada yada yada...

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    6. It is ridiculous to say I have the remaining 23 hrs to myself. Won't I go to work and he take care of other activities? I am not a phone person, I can't stay for 20minutes sef. I have never dated a man that stays so long on the phone. I am yet to see a man that loves his parents as much as my dad does. Sure he calls them but trust me he does not stay on the phone for an hour! He travels so often to the village to see his parents. In short, they gave him a chieftaincy title that signifies "the child that takes care of his parents".

      My dear, one hour is much and seems like excess attachment. I don't think I can condole it.

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  35. Talk to your MIL and stop venting - Except you are mad or you are married to the son of a mad woman, everything can be resolved, but talk to her and gain clarity.

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    1. Mad people dey our Naija ooo. I mean Kolo mental people wey dey look normal for day time. Na when dey come dey manifest you go see tory live!

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  36. You people are so focused on killing MIL part. Ok understood, that’s a no no. But what about the main issue here??? Y’all just followed stella’s comment without proper reasoning. Poster you rely too much emotionally on this man. Start detaching little by little to avoid this emotional torture. After 5 years and things are this way, are you willing to go on forever like this? Focus more on yourself and your son, start doing things on your own so he sees you don’t really need him anymore. Respect yourself more so he can respect you. Start ignoring what his family are saying about you. You’ll drive yourself completely crazy. Do not discuss with your friends about your marital life! Find a mentor or someone older or a therapist to discuss issues. If it gets overbearing, leave the environment for a while and get a room with your son or go to your parents house to get your mind right. This is not healthy at all! You’ll drive yourself into depression and you have son to take care of. Focus more on yourself and save as much as you can. It’s ok to separate for a while. Marriage should be enjoyable and this is not an enjoyable marriage, especially you’re raising a son and he’s not pleased with his dad at all. That’s a bad upbringing already. Let your husband be. He’s seen your weaknesses and he needs to know that with or without him, you’ll be fine! Let him prove his love by actions and not words and stop being so available for him every time! Learn to say no on some certain things and stand your ground. Some naija women are too docile, which brings disrespect. Just do your own thing for once and be your own woman! Stay strong, Good luck.

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    1. BEST ADVICE.
      Poster follow this pls.

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    2. Poster take the advice of anonymous 17:05. Goodluck

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  37. if ur in-laws see u as a bad and wicked person,den start acting like one,iron sharpens Iron,don't show weakness give dem back in there very coin,make every where uncomfortable fr him and his mom...if he touch u arrange boys make dem beat small. my neighbour dy always act tough outside with people,BT he doesn't do that at home bcos the wife gives him Fire fr fire. d man now respect and fear d wife..
    madam give dem fire fr fire or u leave the marriage for good

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    1. Lol, I don't know why this reminds me of Lilian Esoro's give them hot hot

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  38. Eyah everyone is coming for the poster because of her friends.
    Anyways, poster ignore anything bad your husband/MIL says or does and try to focus more on your job and baby.
    Don't force your in laws to like you... Be respectful if you get to meet them and move on...
    PS: Some MIL are just naturally WICKED!

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    1. It is good they came for her, so that if the idea is germinating somewhere in her head, it will be terminated sharp sharp. Crimes usually start with suggestions, then thoughts, then obsession, then planning then viola! Or it comes out through crimes of passion or anger. So yeah, Stella and BVs did well.

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  39. Madam, "but I don't want to kill anyone"...meaning you can, but don't want to. I expected u to write, but I told them God forbid. Your story is a sad one, but you are also a time bomb tick tock ticking...

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    1. True. Pent up anger and frustration makes anyone a time bomb. I have read from the posters and I am happy they don't have those types of MIL. Until you walk in her shoes or knows someone who does you can never understand.

      How is it ok to leave his wife stranded for hours cos he took his mum somewhere? He fights with her and goes to stay with his mum and she never session back. That is a bad mother. I know 1 of such Mils and when tou hear some things she does, you will never believe it. The only thing you can want for such MIL is death so you can have some peace. Only not by your hands.

      I am not surprised at his siblings. Children raised by such women are hardly independent so that they can be easily manipulated as tools to perpetuate her wickedness.

      The poster needs to be prayerful. Learn to stand up for yourself instead of waiting for your husband to do it for you. Your emancipation is in your hand!!

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    2. The wifey must have exaggerated while making an emphasis on 1 hr by making her grievances known. One hr my left cute bum.

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    3. My dear e dey happen. Nuff said biko.

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  40. Poster, I tink u are even wicked to urself and ur kid. A man kips u for 5hours and u still wait bcos u love suffering, it shows u are a wicked fool,u didn't even consider ur kid,u stand instead of taking a simple taxi. Also see how u are twisting ur son's mind against his own father. Am divorced or shall I say abandoned yet I never utter an evil word against my ex or his family to my kid. Ur mil have known from onset that u will one day tink of harming her hence the attitude. Better sit up and start showing respect and love to ur mil else ur son will be like his father. That's how u women train idiots and push to poor girls. Go and be nice to ur mil, as for those olosho u call friends,they will put u in trouble and replace u.

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    1. Don't you know the guy would have started another fight if they left? May God not let you see evil

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  41. My dear my mom suffered worse.there is something bimdinb them nor be ordinary.for my mil my hubby does not allow her come in between.she has never called my line just to greet me.i do the calling.i stopped this year.hubby doesn't call so much.its so hurtful.my dear go and see a pastor

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  42. Hmnnnnnnnm madam poster don't be discouraged by people's comment, you are the one that knows where the shoe hurts, this is my advice NEVER YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT ANYONE YOU HAVENT EXTENSIVELY PRAYED FOR put your husband and in-laws in prayers, pray that God gives you the grace to submit and be a wife, then grace for your husband to love you and your kid as Christ love the church and grace to lead at home, pray for Grace to love and be loved by your in-laws let's see how it goes

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  43. Your husband is a mama 's boy, no doubt. A simple phone call telling you the situation of things instead of leaving you to wait under the sun with a child would have been better. Just remove your mind from him and his family, don't let their attitude or words bother you anymore, do your own thing. Start Stop asking questions about him, how his day was or anything. Only communicate with him on things that have to do with the house or kids. Stop asking him for help. Completely ignore him now, become cold towards him, if he asks what wrong tell him nothing. Serve him his meals, if you guys eat together stop eating with him, if you eat on the dining, avoid discussions with him trust me, this works it's a psychological game and it works everytime. While you are doing all this, try to be busy more than before, it helps to get your mind off things. Watch lots of comedy skits and funny movies and do things you love. Stop complaining to people about your problems, talk to only a few matured mind you trust. Biko change your friends, they don't have your best interest at heart. Believe me when all this comes together you would feel like a total different person, you would be a lot happier and your husband would see it. And then come around. When he does state your demands. That he needs to put you and the kids first before his mom, you need to see the change in his attitude.

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  44. Your husband is a mama 's boy, no doubt. A simple phone call telling you the situation of things instead of leaving you to wait under the sun with a child would have been better. Just remove your mind from him and his family, don't let their attitude or words bother you anymore, do your own thing. Start Stop asking questions about him, how his day was or anything. Only communicate with him on things that have to do with the house or kids. Stop asking him for help. Completely ignore him now, become cold towards him, if he asks what wrong tell him nothing. Serve him his meals, if you guys eat together stop eating with him, if you eat on the dining, avoid discussions with him trust me, this works it's a psychological game and it works everytime. While you are doing all this, try to be busy more than before, it helps to get your mind off things. Watch lots of comedy skits and funny movies and do things you love. Stop complaining to people about your problems, talk to only a few matured mind you trust. Biko change your friends, they don't have your best interest at heart. Believe me when all this comes together you would feel like a total different person, you would be a lot happier and your husband would see it. And then come around. When he does state your demands. That he needs to put you and the kids first before his mom, you need to see the change in his attitude.

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