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RELIGIOUS ISH
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Ij met her boyfriend, Kay 5 years ago as a virgin. Ij was a University student then whilst Kay was working and earning well. Ij was naive when she met K as she’s never been in any relationship. Kay was Ij’s first and treated her so well. He’s always been there both financially and otherwise throughout the relationship.
It was a smooth ride.
When Ij graduated from University at 24, Kay couldn’t wait to settle down with her. Both parents were aware of their relationship. But the problem was they both came from different religious backgrounds. Ij is a Christian and K a Muslim. Kay had always assured Ij that he had no problem converting to Christianity.
Kay’s dad kicked against his son converting to Christianity as he was of the thought it should be the lady, Ij changing her religion as she’s the one being married into the family. Ij’s family were not in support of her converting to Islam.
These two lovers adore each other so much. They’ve been in a loving relationship for over 4 years. Ij is lost on what to do now. No family is willing to compromise.
What do people honestly think about this? Should Ij go against the parents wishes and get married to Kay? Can they both coexist in a marriage with different religious backgrounds? NB: Both families are not in support of this arrangement. It’s either Kay converts to Christianity as Ij’s parents wishes or Ij converts to Islam as Kay’s parents wishes. No party is wiling to compromise.
Ij is so heartbroken. I feel sorry for her as I don’t have experience to give her the right advice. But I Know she’s hurting so much. They’ve been separated for over a year now but none is able to move on yet.
Thanks everyone in anticipation of your responses.
When Ij graduated from University at 24, Kay couldn’t wait to settle down with her. Both parents were aware of their relationship. But the problem was they both came from different religious backgrounds. Ij is a Christian and K a Muslim. Kay had always assured Ij that he had no problem converting to Christianity.
Kay’s dad kicked against his son converting to Christianity as he was of the thought it should be the lady, Ij changing her religion as she’s the one being married into the family. Ij’s family were not in support of her converting to Islam.
These two lovers adore each other so much. They’ve been in a loving relationship for over 4 years. Ij is lost on what to do now. No family is willing to compromise.
What do people honestly think about this? Should Ij go against the parents wishes and get married to Kay? Can they both coexist in a marriage with different religious backgrounds? NB: Both families are not in support of this arrangement. It’s either Kay converts to Christianity as Ij’s parents wishes or Ij converts to Islam as Kay’s parents wishes. No party is wiling to compromise.
Ij is so heartbroken. I feel sorry for her as I don’t have experience to give her the right advice. But I Know she’s hurting so much. They’ve been separated for over a year now but none is able to move on yet.
Thanks everyone in anticipation of your responses.
*Issues like this never go away and eventually ends up breaking the Marriage....even the love will die when the drama begins...
If they have been apart for a year and neither of them has died from heart break,then they will be fine apart
70 comments:
It's not easy to move on. But they should move already π
All relationships must not lead to marriage. Even if the guy converts to Christianity there's no guarantee that he will not change his mind after marriage.
I wonder why she agreed to date a Muslim in the first place
They couldn't have started a relationship at the first place. Ij should be the one to convert. my opinion shaa
Heartbreak never kills, and it wont kill either of them, it's better broken now than later, because, it will be difficult when children comes into the picture.
IJ God will bless you with another good man just move on.
Ij if she truely loves this man should forget about her family and go ahead and convert to Islam.
It so sad that religion has been a major obstacle to love. I'm so not into such mentality. I swear, I don't mind religion and culture. I just want Someone with a kind and true heart.
They should just move on and pray for a better partners or get married and practice their diff religion. All is based on understanding.
This is what ive tried explaining to available listening ears, you cant bank on love, not even with a diamond, i mean look at what happened to Diamond Bank recently, its all the Accessable, very annoying, & yet teens fall short of the foresight of a stable marriage, instead their "cornea" fixed on the marriage to the unstable physical love object theyve come to know & emotionally entangle their fragile hearts to! Religious differences is a major deal breaker in long term unions, particularly if ure inlove with ur spouse, if nonchalant exhibition is the root & stem holding ur union, then funny enough it just might stand the test of time, cus little fucks are given or taken, even whr the toddlers get indoctrinated... if its one year of seperation, why are they still entangled in that web? They must be keeping the flame on the down low. What do i even know when its matters of the heart
They should go to court and marry get pregnant and family will be just fine. No one should convrrt
Before you love,look well.dont love someone you know you can never marry because the repercussion no be here o.you are a christian,why fall un love with a muslim in the first place when you know there is a huge difference b/w the both.
MOVE ON LIFE GOES ON!!!
Exactly! Why date a Muslim? Hian!...That marriage will never work. You two should go your separate ways
True that...but what about there future kids?.. Will they practice Dad's or Mum's religion?...Its very sad how religion breaks us apart
That's the scenario that played out in the case of my family friend, then they decided to get pregnant thinking that would change the mind of both parents, it was the worse decision they could have made, it only angered both parents more, they finally split up, and to make things worse there's now a child involved, funny enough both parents wanted custody of the child, which led to further wahala again, it was a terrible battle. Plz don't smell what you know you can't eat.
see my dear u just spoke my mind, why start something you know will give you problems? I tire ooooooo
Didnt they know they practised different religion before they started the relationship. its the kids from the union pity.
we don talk tire una no dey hear word.
abeg let them do what gives them joy biko
I don't really understand this your narrative oooo. Can you translate in simple english
A year has gone by and they are both alive and going about their businesses.
They should move on with their lives and pray for a better partner
My twin married into a, Muslim/christian family. Papa Muslim Mama Christian. Today the Muslim guy is a pastor. All the Muslim names the father gave to the children. Sister husband changed it to Christian names.
We never objected. The families were in agreement l.
So my dear leave if no one supports you. It is well
He told her he would convert and its no big deal
Na the genesis of their suffer be that.
I will be 60 years by March.
When I was young , I had two men coming for me.the ondo a Christian and ijebu a Muslim .I love the ondo guy well but my sister pray about it and said the ijebu the Muslim is my husband.
I married the Muslim, while am a good Christian..
Today I have three daughters, all married and and doing greatly well.
The Muslim guy is still a good Muslim and am still a good Christian.
We were both determine to make it work n it's works.
Today ,we have bn to many countries in the world together.
Well, at 59+, am still young
Smiling.
They can get married without either of them converting. As long as neither of them imposes their religion n the other.
Some Muslims come with this allure & enchamtment, you'd be amazed to wake up one morning & your heart has made a conscious decision to connect & hardwire to theirs, & your opinion was even valid cus you were asleep at the time, i cant say i blame her entirely, but theyve managed to grow a rose from concrete, but it'd never turn to a tree & bear fruits.
They should move on already. It is always difficult when two individuals from different religion get married. I don't even advise it.
I meant, its all from the days of Eve using an iphone to deceive Adam to do her bidding, silly him fell, you'd think what more could she have to offer when shes already nude infront of him with no rival abi? Just as this poster, theyre both in same realm but bound in different spirits, yet the spirits cant be seen but trumps even the physical, what a world full of mystery, mysterious enough to have a a rising tide or an ejaculated liquid forming flesh & bones 9months later... Godforbid!! Things are really happening & the human eye cant comprehend, so NASA & scientists work tirelessly to unearth the worlds secret, including the one the Egyptian pyramids being the centre of the earth & how it was mysteriously built to align the horizons of the stars, orion.... this life sha.
Wow ,interesting!
Enchantment*
Wasnt*
One in every 100 have such success story. My Aunty and her husband married as Christians, the man later converted to Muslim. For many years the children were OK with it because it lead to separation. Along the line these grown ups kids,forced their mum to convert after series of family meetings she had to convert for peace to reign. I do not support Muslim/christian relationship because We have different beliefs. It's sad none of them tot about this whole brohaha for 5yrs.if you date a Muslim or otherwise do it for fun. She has to move on.
As a Christian once I notice a Muslim having interest in me, I stay clear because of issues like this. We all have our beliefs and I do appreciate theirs. But please the war in this world is caused by religion. Nigeria is a case study
Duchess person say him be yaba left escapee, u wan understand him narrative, lmao
Wetin even concern bank..
Better a broken relationship...
Cry if you must, but never consider marrying a muslim.
Why must he convert for her or she convert for him? Why cant he remain Moslem and she remain Christian? This religion thing eh! When the kids come they should take their father’s religion till their old enough to decide for themselves
Its not that big a deal
Why not also ask IJ to renounce her ibo tribe or ask Kay to renounce his yoruba roots? Why only religion?
Its cos they are both young.
If kay was in his early 40s and IJ was in her late 30s already romancing 40 trust me we wont even be reading this chronicle as none of these things such as religion would matter.
I sorry you.
When you enter marriage you'd know those stones you put aside are the cornerstones of a marriage, kind & true heart isnt enough to keep marriage afloat.
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It's really sad because both of them have come a long way. But sometimes marriages like this stay for long, whilst some don't.
You think its as easy as you typed abi
No one is even talking about the Muslim man marrying more wives in future.
Are you for real?
So true Yori.
My younger brother married a muslim and they are both practising their different religions. His kids follow him to church, he said that is the way it will be till they are matured enough to decide which religion they want to practice and they have been married for 6 years and happy
He told her he would convert but he is now too cowardly to danm his parents abi? She should face forward...Islam is not a religion of peace at all cos their actions do not say so and I don’t even mean book haram things....except if the guy is Yoruba then he might allow her practice her religion if her parents allow her marry him at all. If they have kids can she stand her kids not going to church? As for me I can never marry a Muslim cos I think my christian values are way to valuable to my life
Good christian how? Are you born again? If you had a personal relationship with Christ you will never marry a Muslim madam. You know the truth about your Christianity and it’s not just going to church on Sunday...be honest with yourself, you are not a born again christian...
That’s not a basic issue yet sef cos not all Muslims marry more than one wife
I once liked a Muslim lady from Kano. We spoke about the religion issue and frankly, when she told me I must convert, the love clear for my eyes!( i don't have a problem with her if she wants to pratice her religion) Sometimes, love is not enough... Especially if the both families are vehemently against the union cause of religion.
This comment get as e be. I won't bother trying to comprehend it
If they truly love each other and can't do without each other, they can do court wedding and both practice their religion
The biggest problem I see in this marriage is that the parents have too much influence on th e children and even if they all come to an agreement and get married, the marriage won’t last because their parents make all decisions for them.
π I guess those who marry more than one wife write it on their face.
Na real yaba left escape!
By the time Kay Katy 3 wives join her.
She will know
Anon who are you to judge if some is a born again Christian or not cos she married a Muslim....shut up and mind your business..
My dad is a Muslim and he married only my mum. Don’t say wat you don’t know.
Let them go their separate ways if their parents won’t allow them. My friend and his ex gf dated for 6years but broke up because of religion. They moved on though it wasn’t easy. Now the guy is happily married to a Muslim lady and his ex is in a serious relationship.
After reading the first comment I was really confused. I read d second one, DAT one bad pass. Na real Yabaleft
Let me just say this.. love may be all there is, but it is never enough
It’s never enough because there are various situations that comes up in marriage that just use up all the love left, if you go ahead and marry someone without your parents concent, that’s risky let alone a man of a different religion, what happens when he decides to get another wife? Or let his family take control? I can never marry a Muslim for any reason in the world
Forget about family that she has known all her life for someone she met five years ago, wasn’t she happy before she met him? Is he the air she breathes? Don’t worry when you have your child go and dash her to aboki cus she wants a successful marriage
Mummy, that’s because they allowed you practice your religion, in this case they are telling her to convert
Lmao! Chai! Na real yaba left...
Your last line said it all 15:36
Their families nko?
This Yaba left individual is a nut case.
Hello Lilly not all Muslims married more than one wives Epele.
Why date someone of a different religion in the first place?
Well, it has been scientifically proven that you can literally die from a broken heart
Couples have successfully lived and raised kids with each maintaining their religion. Fashola and wife are an example but it sure takes maturity on the couple's part to withstand the pressure from family and friends.
Enter your reply...mothers care for young kids, so d kids should follow her to church. anyway it shouldn't get to that stage. pls poster, tell ur friend to stop having sex/making love with d Kay guy, that's d first step to loose d cord that binds them. my sister was in this situation by this time last year, but today she is happily married to a Christian. my advice, look ahead girl, ur type will come, don't force it
My first boyfriend was a Muslim and he was d best,did get married to him because of same issue,I wish we lived in a country where this things don't matter
Hmm...however your rose from a tree being barren is not entirely true, its sometimes part of God's mystery, seen a blossom tree full of leaves,flowers and fruit that grew out of rocks,bricks, concrete and woods from dilapidated buildings etc standing tall and firmly rooted.
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πππ Now this is a funny thread.
YLE I feel you're a lady from your post and a funny one at that too, might be wrong but that's just what I perceived...
Hmm Ann15:22 isn't love supposed to be natural? I mean the heart wants just what it want...just sayingπ
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Well dear poster, there are few conditions where this kinda arrangement could work but I must say the chances are very slim with low %, who knows, she might just be part of the few lucky ones that it worked for.
The ride will sure be a rollercoaster and they must be sure they know what they're gunning for... bitter truth is the heart longs and yearns for what it wants and won't accept sub most times. They can dive in if they're both willing and won't be weary along the love journey otherwise they should apply caution.
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