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Sunday, January 13, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.....
ADVICE NEEDED URGENTLY

Good day Stella and BVs
I am a 28 years old lady and i work in one of the old generation bank as a sales and service associate. Its a contract job so the pay isn't that much. I have been unable to save much cash,although i have gotten three professional certification from chartered institute of customer relationship management from my salary. January will make it two years in the banking sector and i am itching for a change.


My first degree is an agricultural course but i have interest in customer relationship,HR,Coach e.t.c.

I do small chops,catering services occasionally when my work permits.

I need to make a change in 2019 hence my dilemma. I have been able to get my international passport but i don't have the means to travel. I have families abroad but they feel i should be thinking more of getting married.


Dear Bvs,i need advice and guide on career path and also relocation abroad either through schooling or via job. I would love input from career women,entrepreneurs,savings plan guide and also country to relocate to.

I earn less than 80k and occasional commission depending on my target being met. I am also open to mentorship from anyone.
Thank You.

62 comments:

  1. Once u marry in Nigeria, it would be difficult to relocate abroad because abroad waka is for single people, most especially if it’s a first time nd u don’t have a spouse there filing in for u. As it is u don’t have enough money to school abroad else I would have said opt for that option, I would be back to advice u later

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    1. I am married but hoping to use the school route to relocate. Me I don tire for Nigeria. I need help and advice on how to relocate.

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    2. Do you have any idea how many married people with kids leave MMA for Canada, Middle East egg everyday? Don't generalize your response without facts.

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    3. If u are using the school route u can go withbur kids nd being your husband, that’s is allowed in d uk sha. So u go to school nd work per time

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    4. You are 28. A good age to relocate alone cos the money you would need to show would be less since you’re single.. Study for a high IELtS score. You’ll need at least 3 years work experience to apply for Canada and you would get cos you are still young enough to get a high point.

      I wouldn’t advice school unless you have sponsor. Start by getting your school transcript evaluated but wES. All these take time. Just do it by the side while continuing your work by the end of the year, things will fall into place

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  2. Download glassdoor and get vacancies regularly. I am so happy with this career focused narrative not the man drama everyday

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    1. I love your last sentence.

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    2. Where career come focus here?
      Una think say, once una reach abroad, career go just dey wait collect una?

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  3. Madam ur age bracket leaves you at risk of time wasting hustlers on the abroad. That age bracket are VERY avoided amongst 9ja guys abroad should you successfully relocate.
    I suggest you prioritise your goals and ambitions, see where marriage and family life fits in then work with that.

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    1. That's not true at all at all. 28 is perfect to relocate. Naija guys are looking for any she to marry and in fact, marry another race if u see one that likes yiu

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  4. Nigerians and relocating abroad. Abroad is not easy like people see it. Have other options. Trust me, nothing like having a business home or a good job. The lord is your strength though, and may he grant you all your heart desires.

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  5. Research Canadian visa. You may have to go back to sch to get a degree Canada wants but at least check it out

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  6. Everything will fall into pleasant places. Apply for dubia visa, it will favour you.

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    1. Ndi advise! Wat will she do if she gets to Dubai? It's not a must to give advice. If you are confused yourself, listen to others. Mtcheeeeeewwww!

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    2. Don’t do this! Dubai doesn’t give work visa easily unless it’s a well known reputable company that’s transferring you there. And Dubai visitor visa is 2weeks max! You will hear wiinnnm when you’re stranded, no work or housemaid work for Arabs while you’re being exploited by agents

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    3. Lol that’s a lie ! You can get 3 months visa ..
      If you’re looking for job , you should apply for 3 month visa (you can always extend or do a visa run when your visa expires )
      There are every possibility that you’ll get a good job if you put your mind into it ..
      I move to dubai 5 months ago , I applied for jobs and got a good offer .at the moment I am earning 18,500 Aed ,I’ll be getting salary increment two months from now (six month probation )
      The poster might get more than what I’m earning or less , it’s all depends on a lot of factors.
      My advice if you decide to opt for dubai , whatever you do make sure you don’t earn below 5000 ,10,000 Aed you’ll hate yourself if you do .
      You’ll most likely earn more in the Emirates as oppose to the other countries you mentioned above ..plus it’s tax free no income tax
      And please avoid certain Nigerians good luck

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  7. My dear,I travelled abroad at that your age,came to study and I got a good job,I earn almost 800k every month,by the time I am done with bills,I am left with 400euros,it takes me 1-2yrs planning to come to 9ja for holls.please don't come,me I don't know how to come back if not I would have escape.Pls don't come..

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    1. You no sabi how to come back?
      Plane don finish?
      Ok, make you trek cross atlantic you hear?

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    2. What did u study? You are not making 800k every month . Do u mean 800 euros. If 800 euros, u probably don't have a very lucrative career

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    3. Come back na,it isn't that difficult. Sell your properties over there,enter a plane and come back to your family house. It's no Biggie na.

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    4. It can't be 800 euros if she's still left with 400euros. She's earning more than that.. Remember house rent, light bill, gas bill, internet connection etc...

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    5. 800k is 2000 euros. I have same type of job, I save upto 1200 euros just because I am a male, don't use a car yet and share a rented apartment. If I should get a car and rent an apartment alone, I will be left with something like 400 euros a month. if I dare get a spouse who is not earning and she depends on me, then it will go down to 150-200 euro. If I have a child, then i should have like 50 left and if I have a second child, then I have to borrow to survive or my spouse gets a work.

      It is not easy here ooo.

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    6. Finally, an honest comment. Everybody is shouting abroad. Come n see as e b. Not all that glitters is gold .if u have a good job in naija, better remain there

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    7. 18:57 u have to go back to school and pick something lucrative. You can earn more. Look into IT certification

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    8. Someone should not come, you go
      Back nah.. no way. My friend, take advantage of Canadian surge in immigration and relocate to where it will pay you better. Europe is not a great option for most students cos no pathway to residency afterwards.

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  8. Aha, na "normal' show for Naija ladies
    Next thing, na to attempt to carry two stones kill one elephant
    Eheee, like hunt person wey dey abroad and marry, snatch or clean and jerk
    Make una take am easy ooo. No be as una see am e dey.

    As you no talk about any relationship, na im be say ya eyes no dey here at all at all.
    Abi husbands no dey come, or you just dey reject them with insult say them no dey abroad?

    ADVICE: make you pursue one; marriage or abroad. But be ready say you fit lose one and if e come
    be marriage you lose, make you bear am so inugo.
    If you no dey carefulu, the two of them go turn begin pursue you. Eheee
    That time sef, age and meno-cease fit join them begin pursue you and na shout you go dey shout sooo
    I no fit shout o!

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    1. No one read this Bs you vomited here

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    2. Anno 15:51, you think a woman's life start and end with marriage.
      You are just so irritating

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  9. my dear just invest in business,I think that's the best you need to do,please forget about travelling abroad.

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  10. Your money no reach. Would have said apply to the USA for a nursing program. That's guaranteed job

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    1. Please how do I apply for the US nursing program. I am not the poster but I am interested

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    2. Pick a state you like and just Google the nursing programs there. Augusta Georgia has one but it's about $30k per year for international students .

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    3. 16:13 you can also try a masters in the IT fields. Do you have a first degree yet?

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  11. Will come back to read more comments. I believe I can learn one or two things.

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  12. How does one get to do certification courses?

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  13. Try relocating to Canada as an immigrant. Go to Naira Land. Read up on the Canadian immigration trend there. Once you immigrate to Canada as a Permanent Residence schooling will be cheap for as your school fees will be equivalent to that of a Canadian citizen.

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  14. Hello. This is a personal decision to make. However, if your choice is to travel abroad, it shouldn’t be tied to marriage; you decide your progress. You have to do your homework first if you decide to travel. If you want to travel abroad, make a list of the countries and streamline it to few. Make inquiries on different means for entry to each country selected. Subsequently, you can decide/chose what means and seek further guidance.
    Your request is ambiguous and you have to simplify it in order to get proper directions. All the best

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  15. You can achieve both marriage and relocation. Nothing is impossible. Join an online Nigerian dating site. Connect with only people in the country you want to relocate to, stay woke and mingle. I married a university professor and practicing my career as a doctor this way. Wishing you all the best.

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  16. Here’s my two cent advise: What’s your relationship status? Single or in a serious relationship that’ll lead to marriage any time soon? Is marriage part of your plan for the next two years? Or career/making money is your focus at this point?
    If you’re in a serious relationship or dating, sit down with him and discuss your plans. I live in the states and one thing I notice, America seem to favor folks who have a family or should I say grant visa. Reason why? That’s a strong tie to your country (if it’s just you traveling). As a single woman, you better have a serious strong tie to your country else it’ll be harder to grant visa. I think it works similarly with other countries such as Canada or UK but not too sure.
    If you plan on relocating, you need funds; as in serious funds in your account and to also process your visa, plane ticket, etc. Canada is a good choice for single folks looking to further their education. And also if you’re single and want a naija man to marry, naija folks are there. It’s all about finding the right match for you (along with prayers).
    It is not easy settling down in abroad if you don’t have work authorization. You’ll have to work under the table job (that’s if you find one as soon as possible). It is hard work. If you find someone to marry for paper, you’ll have to be married for a while before you divorce him. Reason why? So immigration won’t come after you for false marriage. By the time you divorce, you’ll be in your 30’s. Unless you find a real man to marry you both for papers and love. (That’s the best option).
    If I were in your shoes, I’ll say stay put for now in naija, save as much as you can, build a side business, settle down, get married, have your kids (hopefully you’ll find a man who’s on the same page as you and who’s willing to support your future career/ambitions). Don’t marry a closed minded man or someone who wants you to be a housewife. This is the time to figure out what you really want in a marriage. After marriage/kids, with your husband support and enough money saved, I’ll say go after your dreams! You’re still very young even at 35 years! Even at 40 self. It’s not easy building a legit wealth. It takes time. I’ll say give yourself 1-5years for serious planning(settling down/saving up). If you leave now and rush to abroad, it might take you longer time to settle down. It is not easy here without papers. I live here and I know what’s up (my American/abroad folks can speak on this as well) This is my advise. Good luck!
    Ps: Stella we need more chronicles like this please. I’m super tired of marriage/breakup/relationship type of chronicles. But then again I don’t blame you. Most folks in naija have nothing else going on besides marriage talk! Na wa o.

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    1. If you're single, it's easier to relocate and find man abroad .marriage honestly limits your options and that's fact

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    2. Marriage limits your options. A single lady can easily do the contract marriage thing and even chill and stay if it happens to turn real later ( as some are wont to)
      If you have a man already and want to relocate together
      Esp to Canada, go to registry so you guys can fill husband and wife in your ITA

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  17. If you desire marriage, you stand a better chance at getting a husband in Nig than abroad so stay home.
    If you want growth, exposure and life experience, relocate. For the west, try Canada. Within Africa, try Mauritius.
    Or you can relocate to a different city within Nigeria.

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    1. God bless you for your plain truth.

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  18. Truth is you do not have the financial capability to relocate abroad legally on your own, where you won’t be running around trying to get papers.
    If you had a financial sponsor I would have advised trying canadaian express entry since you’re young, and you have the required minimum work experience.

    What I think you should probably do is, stop trying to over pack certificates that won’t exactly help you now, and consider getting a side hustle and save up.
    Marriage will come at the right time, and the truth is, it’s not an achievement, use the married people that beg here daily as an example.

    You need to build yourself up, earning less than 80k at 28 is quite low. Get a side hustle that involves also acquiring a skill, that way your sales experience will come in handy in selling your new hustle.
    Make sure it is a skill that lets you work with your hands, that way Incase you leave your banking job tomorrow, you’ll still have something to fall back on.

    Trust me you can do all these, you just need to be disciplined. Wish you the best.

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    1. Thank u so much.
      I do small chops,general catering services.I also know how to do organic soap and cream for toning and lightening. Bank job is tedious although i still get to do some cooking jobs occasionally.
      I have families abroad but they prefer i get married ,said my dreams are too big.I have a stable relationship and he supports my dreams and aspiration.He assist when i have a catering job too.
      You know its not advisable to focus on one source of income hence the chronicle.

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    2. That’s a polite way of saying the can’t help you.

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    3. Remove your family from your plan of people who would help. Tutu is right- that’s just a polite way of them saying focus on what you can do in Nigeria. But I say, do not let anyone tel you that your dreams are too big. You and boyfie plan for Canadian express entry relocation together. Start saving for it. You’ll need money to spend at your school for transcript, pay for sha for the transcript, pay for evaluation of the transcript at WES or whatever body you choose, pay for English exams.. once that’s pay, you put in your application and then hope God works it out. If boyfriend isn’t on board or wants to serial you, you do it alone! You will never regret it. You will be opening the way for prosperity for yourself and your siblings. Forget extended family oh, dem no de help

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  19. I am the poster,i am not saying i want to relocate via marriage,i only said my families in abroad refuse to help,stating that my dreams are too big.i should focus on getting married not career or relocation.

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    1. If your family abroad won’t help you achieve your dream, then help yourself.

      They don’t owe you anything, neither can they quench the fire you have towards achieving your goals if you’re serious about it.

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    2. We understand you poster but are you financially ready to relocate???? And why are you depending on their help when you’re the one achieving to move out of the country. If you’re old enough to make decisions like this then you shd be old enough to take on financial responsibilities. You don’t have the means yet you want to travel. Save up or stay put where you are until you’re ready!

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    3. We know u are not relocating via marriage but if to say person de abroad wey wan marry u to relocate ,then it would have been better but withbthe way u sound, u still don’t have the money to school abroad either, so it’s best u make do with what u have now

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    4. If they help u, what about your boyfriend. It's hard to help two people sometimes. I think u should apply to schools first. If you get in, that's when you'll know if your family will help or not. For now, it's all too abstract. Another good option might be to come up with a very viable business plan and ask for help from them. Marry in naija and do the business .your problem now is no country is actually looking for the skills you have do you cancant just apply for a job. Your skills are not marketable. You either go back to school in naija and get a marketable degree for abroad markets or marry and ask for money to do a good business. If you do their wish, they may be willing to support you very well in that naija.

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    5. I will say on the school matter. Do not go the school route u less you really have money or sponsor. Or unless you do not meet the express entry requirements. Express entry gives you landed PR with all the rights and benefits. Students hmmmm, those of us that did student route.. hmm. Anyways, if you have the money to spend for student, sha still choose a Canadian school because Canada has the pathway for their student to easily get PR after school.

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  20. Dear poster, I relocated 2 years ago via study with the help of www.ico-immigration-edu.com engaged to my prince charming who is a medical doctor here and our wedding is thus June. So dear, dream big and believe in yourself.

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  21. Poster drop your email here I will send all I know about moving to Canada as a permanent resident which is good for everyone plus you will get grant and loan for your education. The lowest pay in Canada is 11dollars per hour and you will work for 40 hours a week as full time. Since you're not married with kids yet you will not get child benefits which is helpful honestly (Canada is a very generous country). Try Canada you will not regret it.

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    1. Thank you so much@ ANONY 23:17
      Please contact stella for my email.
      I appreciate.

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    2. Pls I don't mind getting the Infos too.

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    3. Poster can you please drop the names of the certifications you did in CRM? I am so interested in gathering some professional qualifications. thank you.

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    4. Chartered institute of customer relationship management.you will be given 3 certificate,supply chain,diploma in customer relationship and one other

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