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Saturday, February 23, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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MARRYING A DIVORCED MAN COMES WITH BROUHAHA?




Good day Stella,

 Please help me and post my story as I need your red pen and advice from my fellow bvs. Please forgive the errors as I typed this with my phone.

met this man lets call him Mr X mid last year, though we started chatting on Facebook around May of 2018. On his profile was written single, so I assumed he was single after going through his profile, timeline and photos. 


He lives in the same state with my family, so when I came home to visit them in August, we met. He was so excited and so all over me. I had been single for 7 months prior to my meeting him, so when he started pestering me to date him I accepted. We went out and took pictures, only for me to wake up the next morning and our pictures were on his timeline with a lovely caption.


2 days later, my very close friend called me early in the morning asking me if I know so and so person, I told her no. She then told me the lady sent her a message on Facebook telling her to warn me to leave her husband alone, I was so confused and told her I'm not following a married man oh, she then advised me to be very careful that the woman sounded dangerous. I was so worried. 



Few hours later, another very close friend of mine called if I was home that she has a very important issue to discuss with me. I then logged onto my Facebook and went through my messages only to find this message from this woman warning me to stay away from her sister's husband that the game I'm playing will not end well. I was so angry and called Mr X, he told me he is not married but divorced that he is coming to my house now. I then warned the woman not to contact me again that her sister should face her ex husband and leave me out of their problem.



My friend arrived almost immediately, showed me messages she received from this lady with pictures of their wedding and a little girl that looks exactly like this man. I was very angry, devastated and heartbroken. Few minutes later, Mr X arrived and started begging me. He told me he was divorced and brought the court documents to show me. When I asked for his divorce certificate, he said the case has been in court and almost finalized, but he has obtained a traditional divorce. That he did not tell me because he was scared of loosing me (I'm someone who will never date a married man nor a divorcΓ©e). That having spent time chatting with me for months he knows I'm a no nonsense person and was afraid of loosing me. 


Here is his story:
He and Mrs X were dating for a while, but they were always having issues because they were not compatible. So he broke up with her but when his family found out, they insisted he goes back to her that he must marry her.( both of them are from the same village and their family house is close to each other) they told him city girls are not submissive and do not make good wives. That he should marry this one they know, that none of them will follow him to marry another girl. He then broke up with the lady he was dating then and married Mrs X. 



 They got married in DEC 2014 and by Jan 2015 they started having issues. Ending 2015, she gave birth to a daughter. 2016 was a tough year for them, filled with lots of quarrels and family meetings. That in one of those family meetings, she was asked to apologized to him but swore she won't not even if her dead father wakes from his grave. He got a job in another LG and asked her to move with him, she refused citing her job as a reason. So he was always going home for weekend. Anyway, their marriage became so toxic that in 2016 he spent the Xmas with his best friend. 



They kept having issues and she was accusing him of cheating (he swore to me he never cheated on her while the marriage lasted. I can't vouch for him sha cus i was not there). But the final straw that ended everything was when he came back home in May 2017 and met an empty house. When he asked his neighbours, they told him Mrs X came with 3 pick up vans and packed his properties that he asked her to bring them. He was shocked and drove to her parents house only to find all his properties outside covered with tapolin.



 He then called his people and they asked him not to touch the property that it is an abomination and if he takes them back he will die ( he is from this tribe that have a very terrible tradition). That he was depression for over 3 months after the whole issue and in Dec 2017 he went to see a lawyer to file a divorce for him. 


I then asked if Mrs X bought the properties, he said no, that his house was fully furnished before he married her. I asked him to go and appease the gods in their village and get back to his wife. He said he can never do that, that even if I refuse to marry him, she can not step her feet in his house again. 


The whole of that day I kept getting calls from friends ex classmates and cousins that they received a threatening message from Mrs X. That was when I realized she sent the message to all my friends on Facebook. I was so mad! This woman didn't even contact me before doing this. Now everybody (including my suitors) thinks I broke her home and snatched her husband. Well, since she has spoilt my reputation before everyone, I decided to stick with the man as I have nothing to lose again.


Now Mr X wants to marry me but I have 2 issues:

1. It's my faith - I feel marriage is still death and God hates divorce ; 1 cor 7 vs 10 -11and 27; Mathew 5 vs 32, 19 vs 9; Luke 16 vs 18; Malachi 2 vs 13 - 16.

2. My family said the woman will harm me if I marry him.

NB the divorce has now been formalized.
Encl: madam Stella, please find enclosed screenshots of my first chat with him documents showing the date she responded to the divorce petition.




*Have you not heard of people who never let go?...Why dont you find out what happened from her side?I know everyone deserves a second chance at love but if this man didnt tell you he was married before you found out,he could be hiding more that will shock you and he will claim he didnt want to lose you and that was why he didnt tell you........Do your homework WELL before you attempt to walk into Marriage!!!!

128 comments:

  1. poster, sorry! this must be tough. Again, this still boils down to Nigerian parents forcing their children to marry who me they don't love. All these would have been prevented if this man was allowed to marry the woman he truly loved!

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    1. Is this the only man in the world. Already sounds to me like unnessary baggage which can be avoided now. Dear poster, let this man sort his issue out , look elsewhere

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    2. Point of correction, the man wasn't a child and was not forced. He wasn't just man enough to marry whom he loved.

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    3. Poster I will advise you to leave that man .From your write up that woman can kill you. Please runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. @Blessed Princess

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    4. Too much baggage and drama from inception. So messy, please take a walk, the drama is too much.

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    5. His wife sounds like an obsessive, sick and dangerous woman. She will most likely HARM you if you marry him...

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    6. I don't really believe the posters version. The woman forwarded the message to all the men yet she decided to stick with the man? You knew he was married

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    7. Poster, all I wee tell you be sey me I dey try avoid wahala now.

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    8. An Ex that refused to be an Ex

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    9. Poster, if you truly love the man stay with him. She won't expect the man to remain single all his life. She packed on her own because she done with the man, probably she is regretting her actions but that's not no fault of yours. Enjoy your man.

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    10. Poster, I beg you with everything you hold dear; Let thi Man go... You will regret staying if you don't leave.

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    11. MY own is since the ex-wife came on here to say there are some lies in the story. This is your opportunity to say your side in a civilized manner. Pls either reply to this chronicle or send in a chronicles update

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  2. Poster I don't trust this ya account ooo..
    Now you want to stick with a man that is not fully divorced? A married man?? Anya adiro gi nma chacha !

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    1. You obviously have issues with reading and comprehending. Did you skip the part where poster says 'divorce has now been formalislzed'?

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    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ like they say, when Fan sees “married” in a chronicle, every other thing is babash. Her antenna is raised to power 1000%. 🀣🀣🀣

      Fan nwanne, biko calm down and try to understand make them no Dey abuse you na πŸ˜„πŸ˜.

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    3. Lol... Asa nwannem I have calmed down na

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    4. Fan is right. How can she say she chose to stay because of what the woman did? Choosing to abandon your principle because of revenge?

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    5. Anony you were not in her shoes, I would do worse if it was me. The ex wife went too far jor imagine!

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  3. My dear first do not carry a cross u can not bear.have u heard of hell has no further like a woman's scorn?
    u want to use ur eyes to enter hell??
    That woman will make sure u die or leave .do u want a situation u will loose yourself?
    NoNo tangib reasons for their quarrels.
    NO TANGIBLE reason.he quickly posted ur pics on social media on ur first date to gain ur pity incase u heard.he played a fast one.
    He was quick to put ur pics up and not quick to tell he was a divorcee.my dear my advice is for u to walk away....

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    1. Thanks for your advice Tenth, the truth is he actually gave me the details and reasons for their quarrels but I didn't include it because I felt it would make the story unnecessarily long.
      According to him, he wanted me to see him for who he is and not judge him based on his divorced status.

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    2. Poster stop talking like a fool. This is how many ladies carry baggages that are not theirs. Trust that if you go ahead with that marriage na wahala through out. Do you want to start running from pillar to post all because of marriage. Una no dey hear word.

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  4. Poster you get mind ooo, hmmm! This woman will go to any lenght to make sure you don't enjoy that marriage if you marry him.You get strength for babalawo things abi?

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    1. I don't do fetish and I don't have strength for fetish things oh!

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    2. Yet you want to marry into a family who believes in god's, and backwards traditions. Better not run

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    3. Poster don't be scared you will be fine. She can't do more than what she has done to intimidate you. Let your man report her to her people and also to the police, let them make her sign undertaking she will calm down .

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  5. Hmmmm my dear i will advice you take a walk. This kind woman fit pour you acid so please forget him.

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  6. Whatever you do, have a sit down chat with that woman.
    Play the fool and be mellow so she will agree to meet you and tell everything.
    If she refuses, get your fruend to meet her sis.

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    1. If she meets with her, she might bathe her with acid... She sent threatening mails to all her friends on Facebook, the woman will hurt her if presented any opportunity...

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    2. Thanks for your advice, I will go that far only if I finally decide to marry him. I don't want that woman to embarrass me for nothing biko.

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    3. some women don't want to let go. if you want to marry him do. but i will advise to move to another location. Who knows what can happen it might be rosy

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    4. Poster, I feel for you. But please don't marry that man. You don't know what you want to get yourself into. I bet you have no idea what you are signing up for. I just pray you will leave, for your sanity

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  7. This is serious, don't know what to say

    Just follow Stella's advice

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  8. So divorce don turn wetin dem dey hide now? Liar Liar pants on fire

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  9. Ask yourself sincerely: is he was worth the past, present and future drama?
    If he is, then go ahead.

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  10. Long story short; he should have informed you of his marital status.
    If possible, get to meet with the woman and have a discussion with her in an open place.

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    1. I would have advised she had a heart to heart with the wife to find out her own version of how the marriage ended or the reality of his marital status. However, her antics on facebook indicate that such a meeting may end in violence.

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    2. I am actually scared of meeting the woman at this stage, maybe later. Nicole is marital status is confirmed. I asked my mum to help me find out about him and they said he is divorced. When she asked, most people did not know the details but someone told her his wife accused him of cheating on her.

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  11. Lady T/worth more than a thousand dollars23 February 2019 at 15:34

    You quoted Bible verses up there. Why not pray and ask God if this is who he wants for you. Without sentiment. Marriage is suppose to last a life time. You already have drama going on. I ask you. Is it worth it?
    If she can call all your friends and tell them to warn you off, are you ready for the battles?
    Cos you have already entered a battle field. Do you want to always sleep with one eye open?

    If you settle that is with this man, it will take time to have peace.

    You deserve better.

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    1. Thanks dear, I'm actually thinking twice that's why I came here for advice.

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    2. Think very well poster and understand your decision will not only affect you but also your children. I am very sure that woman will not only come for you. Think oooo

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  12. Please marry the man if you both are truly in love.

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  13. Is he worth the trouble? Anyway, one thing i always tell people marrying adivorced man especially is, the real reason for the divorce will soon manifest.

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  14. Madam Poster, pls go with SDK's advice....the man could be hiding more from you....nne use your tongue to count your teeth oo!

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  15. My dear, open your eyes and check well. When marriages don't pan out well, women are always demonized. There are 3 sides to every story, check well to make sure he has told you the truth then you can carry on.

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  16. My dear, open your eyes and check well. When marriages don't pan out well, women are always demonized. There are 3 sides to every story, check well to make sure he has told you the truth then you can carry on.

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  17. You mean the woman sent messages of threat to all your contacts on Facebook?! Cyberbullying is a criminal offence. Get a lawyer, report to the police and charge that crazy woman to court. When she is done with the criminal charge, sue her in torts for millions of naira. People sometimes must be taught to behave with civility.

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    1. Like seriously! There are more civilised ways of addressing such issues.

      Why is the wife acting like a lunatic over a man that is no longer interested in her? Even if the divorce story was false, what's the point in forcing a man who has clearly moved on back into a marriage he no longer wants to be involved in?

      Does the wife enjoy being with a man who doesn't love her? Is marriage a do or die affair?

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    2. Lmaooo, over what naa, a man? Who's probably not saying the whole truth?

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    3. I actually thought thought of suing her but you know how slow the justice system is, and I didn't want the negative publicity such will generate.

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  18. Marry hi. He's a good man that met a bad woman . Marry him. Nothing will happen .she has done her worst but their marriage is over. The Bible does not say a divorced man can't remarry. The woman packed up the marriage.

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    1. Pls the Bible says except in death is the person allowed to remarry.
      if the person is not born again you can divorce him/hee.
      if one party is not born again and you divorce him or her .you should not never re marry until the person is dead.get ur facts right.ok

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    2. BV Tenth is right, the Bible does not support remarriage unless one of the parties died.

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    3. Poster, I will advice you to not marry him because it is clear the divorce was/is not amicable and the wife is really ready for hell simple! Please do not find a good person and say you will not marry cos of the laws in the bible. Esther married a divorced king Xerxes, king David that stole Bathsheba and killed her husband Uriah, was the only person God addressed as my beloved, the prostitute that helped the Israelites to fall the wall of Jericho got married to one of the Israelites. On a normal day the 3 unmarried sisters that asked for their father's land after his death would not have seen anything due to the laws of the Israelites but God directed Moses to give the land to the ladies as them no get anything after their father died and lastly read 1 cor 7-16. It is allowed for christains to marry unbelievers (but most nigerians will disagree) and one day the unbeliever can wake up and go. With that, the believer is allowed to remarry. Although no one knows between the man you met or his wife, which of them is the believer and the unbeliever. Such a thing is hard to tell cos I hope you also know it is not by going to church. To conclude, there are rules in the bible quite alright but apply them with God's wisdom.

      Ada.

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  19. Please in your best interest just leave this man alone. There are many drama free men everywhere that you can marry.
    Trust mΓ© marriage is not what you think it is. Marriage is very complex.Do not take this woman's threats lightly.Move Γ³n immediately.

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  20. Poster there is nothing bad marrying a divorced
    Person. Where I have issues is this one the woman is still threatening you, I will advise you stay clear for now and find out why she left. Tell mr X that till mrsX stop threatening you that you are not ready to date him.
    That woman still want that man, don’t fall a victim of her evil intentions, if the divorce has been finalized let the man go back to court and tell them what the woman is doing. So that the court can handle her properly, I hate rubbish, don’t use your hand to bring death upon yourself. If what she says about you is driving all your suitors, close that Facebook account open a new one, Change your location and see that after six months no one will remember that shit anymore. I will not advise you to marry a man his ex wife is still fighting over him, women are dangerous.

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    1. Thanks dear, you really made point here.

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  22. Do ur home work well, if it happens that the man is telling you the truth marry him. That his X is too stubborn. Why can't she talk to you first before she started broadcasting it. Am sure if they are still the man will never have the mind of posting the pics on a public domain.

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    1. His story checked out, but my fears are my faith and that his ex wife.

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    2. Please drop this my faith my faith ish lets know where to start advising you from. If you were really concerned about your fate, you wouldn't have brought this story here because you won't not even be considering getting involved.

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    3. Chai! I like how poster is all over this post giving us feedback.

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  23. 'he knows I don't take nonsense'is more reason why he should have told you the whole truth. building a relationship on lies? sorry.. he only hid the truth. how are you sure he isn't hiding more.

    This woman na craze woman oooo, she can go diabolical on you. Even if you hear from her, she doesn't sound like one who will let go. Avoid her totally

    Truth be told, I doubt I can marry without my family's blessings. If your family say NO, reason with them. Hear them out

    There's nothing too hard for God. Talk to him, let his will be done

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    1. Thanks dear, my family actually liked the man, but their problem is his divorced status and they feel the ex wife will attack me if I choose to marry him.

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  24. If this woman really packed out of her husband house why is she disturbn u people affair, d story is not adding up but I will quit if I happen to b in ur shoe except u are strong diabolically and otherwise bcoz dis lady ur talking about can go extra mile to harm u.

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    1. She did pack out but came back begging, however they said what she did is an abomination, that a wife does not pack her husband's properties unless he is dead. She cannot step her feet in his house again and neither can he touch those properties unless they do cleansing. He refused to do the cleansing because if it's not properly done and he takes her back, he will die.

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    2. I just dey yinmu for you poster. Ahhhhh, na man you dey believe so.

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    3. Anonymous 18:20 that's true..tradition dey o. But if she realised and come begging then I think the man should consider her but its not easy to forgive. Men ego could be crazy.

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    4. poster apart from exwife issues i can never marry into a family or tribe with all these kinda traditions..cleansing rubbish...marry him and start facing taboos and all kind of rubbish...think well

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  25. you better stop this stupidity of yours because you have so much to loose oh. This woman will not stop until she finishes you poster. Your life and your reputation are at stake here and the earlier you stop this foolishness the longer you live oh. That man will not be able to protect you oh

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  26. Anty Stella, i am the woman this blog visitor is talking about and i assure you i have evidences of the lies and wrong presentation of the facts for your perusal.

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    1. Please if you are really the ex wife, kindly send your story to him. I would love to know your own part of the story.

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    2. Yei! Hmmm. We wan peruse ooo

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  27. Is this man worth all this drama,headache,can he stand by you in times of trouble too,the way u choose to stand by him now,think well and pray too,make them no good kill you cos of man o.

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    1. You are right oh, the more I read comments the more scared I get. If I die this man go marry next year oh.

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  28. You have a lot to lose o, that woman will go any length to make sure you don't marry him but if your head strong and your prayerful, then go ahead. I remember an ex-wife that used to fight her husband and pouring him hot water and all sort going to meet a lady he went to pay her bride price to back off, the lady did and the man is still single till date. I pity for him most times bcos he refused to marry again. So its a two way thing, run or stay and fight for him.

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    1. That's really pathetic. I don't have strength oh. Poor man, Mr X also told me his ex did what she did not because she loves him, that she just wanted to ruin his relationship.

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    2. And MX knows that because he works inside Mrs X's brains...Na wa

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  29. A man who believes in god's, and stupid tradition. Forget his ex, leave based on what I wrote first.

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    1. Some of this traditions actually work oh! Especially those that have to do with adultery from the wife.
      No advice, I will be reading comments.

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  30. Poster, you can not totally avoid her, they have a child together, that is some kind of connection to this man. So run away from the man, I have a feeling he was not truthful about the problem(s) that led to the divorce.

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    1. He was actually truthful in that aspect because I read both his divorce petition and her response to the petition and the divorce settlement reached by the court.

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    2. Do what you want naaa. Running around taking anyhow

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  31. This kind scorned woman will go to any length to harm you

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  32. Don't rush into marriage with that man, still take your time to find out what really happened with the ex-wife

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  33. Madam poster, this is not a game o biko. What are you trying to proof? With your life and your eyes wide open you wan enter fire. Husband never finish for Nija.....look for another one. Relocate sef if possible and breath fresh air. This situation is too toxic.... Walk away pls. Marriage is forever for me except death separate them. Let him remain unmarried if he cannot settle with his wife. Don't involve yourself in their mess.....think of the child involved

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    1. I actually do wished they can reconcile and have told him so more than once. I know it's not a game, neither am I trying to prove anything that why I came here for advice.

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  34. The man's ex is very selfish. She doesn't want the man and she doesn't want someone else to marry him. She wants to eat her cake and have it. I don't know why some women are very wicked. @ Poster, close your Facebook account and if possible relocate to another town but please don't go ahead with the marriage until the divorce is finalized. Give him a break for now and if she tries any shit, sue her ass. She is a bitch and she will die alone..
    All the best!

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    1. The whole situation is really stressful, the man is a good man but his baggage is heavy. I told him to give me time to think and pray about it.

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  35. A man whose family can tell him.."you must marry her", and he does. Madam, run. Weak man, who believes in god's..This is enough reason for you to leave. They are backwards folks.

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    1. Well, he had just finished service and was working. So they cajoled him to marry so he would be focused in life. Now he doesn't listen to them anymore because he feels they caused this problem and stigma on him.

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    2. Smh@poster. See the way you believe a man..Chai, defender of the year. A man who lied he was married? Big big red flag. Trust me you don't know that man at all. Wish you all the best though.

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    3. Poster this is coming from a woman with a similar issue like u, these men lie ooo, don’t believe everything he tells u cos he would tell u the only thing he wants u to hear.if u snoop and read his message u would see things u won’t believe.. the idiot I am with also told me stories till I read his text and discovered things he never told me.. be wise but I would advise u leave this man

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  36. I had this similar experience with someone but in this case the woman contacted me direct, she cursed and called me all sort of names e.g. husband snatcher, prostitute . Meanwhile the guy in question told me he is a divorcee and his wife and daughter are base in the UK. After that encounter with his wife I ran away for my life. That's how people see drama and enter with eyes open. My advice for you, run now that's it's early, you'll definitely find someone else.let him sort out his issues with the wife. I have a good man now with zero drama,please walk away poster.

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    1. Hmmmm, thank you dear, you people are actually right. Though I would have loved to hear the ex side of the story if she was a bit civilized.

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    2. Shady shade. Accused woman let us peruse ooo, cos I can't tell the shade of the colour you have been painted.

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    3. You don't need her side of story for anything. Never vouch for liars. This man wasn't man enough to tell you he was married. If you lied about something like that do you think he would still be talking marriage?

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  37. Thank God you have other suitors. Don't start marriage with problems as marriage itself is a lot of work. See how worried you are already when you have not married the man. How long will you continue like this.

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    1. I'm actually very worried, I would have felt better if the ex wife had remarried. Thanks for the advice dear.

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  38. Poster it must really hard. For all of you asking her to leave, do you have a man for her somewhere. Abi divorcee no deserve 2nd chance. I hate bitter vindictive bullies. Ahn Ahn... contacting all the poster's contacts including other prospective suitors

    Poster my advice- pedal down with marriage plans, observe things and decide if the man is genuinely worth youreading commitment as a wife and decide. You guys can move to a new city altogether and ignore her sorry arse.

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  39. Your story reminds me of one divorced Nigerian father of two that was interested in me , his story checked out, I saw messages of all the issues he had with his ex. His friends were capping for him. I was sceptical. I gave it time while observing. With time, I realised that man is a senior devil. He is all shades of bad. His ex needs an award for tolerating him.

    That hormone that makes you think you are in love will clear in five years maximum after you have married him. If you say pim, he will use his ex-wife to dangle like a carrot as an option whenever you have an issue.

    I know you think he loves you, respect you as you are a no nonsense person but that is what you tell yourself. That man has you in his palm and at this point, you will marry him.

    Understand that most Nigerian women will rather die in a bad marriage and will do anything for their marriage to work. If you see a divorced Nigerian man, chances are he messed up the marriage. Only few didn't. If she said he cheated, you better believe her.

    You will know the full story five years after marrying him and you have kids for him. When you are stuck like a glue.

    As for now, enjoy the butterflies in your stomach.

    People deserve a second chance

    But before you give a divorced Nigerian man a chance, wash your eyes well. You know why? Because our society has conditioned our women to over please men in marriage. The women do everything to make their marriage work but the men relaxes because if the marriage breaks, there are women like you to welcome them and their lies with outstretched arms.

    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    2. Wise words here poster. Marriage that has blessings of fathers, mothers Bishops etc is hard enough. Not to talk of the one that has the scenario you have described above. You will not have a day of peace. Is this really what you want for your life? Don't be a fool for love that has not been tested by the ups and downs of life. Kill those butterflies in your stpmach. Trust the God you have faith in. That He will bring the man that is His perfect will for your life not permissive will.You sound like a smart lady. Use your head

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    3. God bless you XOXO Mystery, I also have come to the conclusion that if a Nigerian woman asked for her marriage to end, just run from her ex-husband, no questions. Just run. The average Nigerian woman would rather die than walk away so if she chooses to walk, trust me, she must have been in a life and death situation... I'm not talking about actresses and Slay Queens o, hmm hmmmmnn

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  40. Xoxo mystery I think that was a bit harsh as you don't even know me, neither do you know my state of mind. You don't jump to conclusions like that. However, I can see you passed through a similar experience which wasn't pleasant.
    Thanks for your advice though.

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    1. Poster stop wasting our time. It looks like you have made up your mind about this man. Go ahead and marry him. I give it 2 years and your eyes will clear. Just don't disturb us again with another chronicle.

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    2. This poster is so desperate, and annoying. Xoxo's is so on point. That man cheated oh his wife, better believe that, and I believe the ex bought all those properties she took..

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    3. Err, she wasn’t harsh at all.

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    4. She wasn't harsh, she was just speaking FACTS and it is too bitter for you to swallow. Seems you have made up your mind. Goodluck

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    5. Just look at oh, so those words of wisdom to you are harsh? E be like say you no know wetin harsh mean. You've already decided what to do, yet you sent chronicle to waste our time. No wahala, shey u can write?
      Kwantinue.

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    6. Haba!
      I don't know your definition of the word harsh.
      But Xoxo Mystery wasn't harsh at all. I actually love her advice.

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  41. Thank you all for advice, it was really insightful and opened my eyes to other areas I didn't think of.
    Thank you Madame Stella for your advice and for posting my story on this platform. I heart you😘

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    1. My dear there is more to this, u do be surprise that this guy has not told u the whole truth, he will never tell u d evil he did, that’s human for u, I was in your shoes before i snooped nd found out how useless he is but when he is talking u would think he is saying the truth

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  42. Is his name Lawrence from Cross river Just asking cos I know a couple with similar story but they had no children and if that's him nigga is a liar.

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  43. Do not marry that man. Too much baggage plus everyone is forgetting that there is an innocent child in all this. Are you ready to be a step mum at your young age? If the man truly loves you he will not want you to go through any stress. His ex is HIS cross. Let him carry it. Also NEVER compromise your faith and relationship with God for a man. You need to have the courage to stand by your convictions. Let him go and watch God honour you with someone better.

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  44. Hmmm my advice is that don't start what you can not finish.

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  45. pray very well before you enter this marriage, I smell trouble!

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  46. Poster is this man's name Ifeanyi ? I dated a guy Ifeanyi back in mid 2014,we connected instantly. he proposed marriage, I accepted and then suddenly his crazy ex started blowing up my phones with threatening calls and texts to leave her boyfriend alone . He begged me to ignore her that he has broken up with her and will NEVER marry her but the threats persisted o. Me I couldn't deal biko, I jejely broke up with him. I later heard he still got married to her around December that same year. Are we talking same person? Anyways I advice you let him go. I doubt if he's worth the stress and your peace of mind. Besides that his ex seems like a real psychopath. You'd meet your own man God made for you .

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  47. Poster you have already made up your mind and you are every where defending the man, I see no need of you seeking for advice or sending in chronicle .
    P.s I was in your situation once, I felt how you are feeling now, cos how can I leave this handsome man, with good job and so caring because he's got kids. Beside he loves me with hiis life.
    Years down the lane, I'd realized he was interested in my body
    He much later showed me how much he valued his kids. Gbam I suffered emotional, I cried my heart out for whereeeeeeh.
    I became jealous and was turning to a beast
    I never cared about myself, it was more competition on looking good always, as in on fleek to pepper madam.
    I wanted to leave the man but then I felt I will never meet a nice man like him again.
    I was suffering and smiling like will I live this luxury life to start from where......
    Two years later I couldn't cope and I told myself I can't because my mates are getting married then I'll kill my self on top man matter. That's how I left, was bae less for a year and God now brought me this Prince Charming when I least expected , at a point I thought God never exist but God proved me wrong by giving me the best cheerful giver and cutest man in my life. Am happy and I have forgotten the past. Learn from my past and I tell you, I refuse to listen to advice from people and kept defending him.
    I suffered it.
    Poster think wisely please.

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  48. I would.do anything for love. Forget the 5 yrs maximum for butterflies to die, life in itself is a risk, i am willing to take for love. What are the chances she will find love that is reciprocal in the future. Poster listem, tell your fiancee to go now and appease his ex wife, tell him to beg her to leave u alone and that he will be a good father to his daughter and set custody plans with her. Tell the ex wife to stop threatening you or else police will be involved. Let him go the extra mile to tell d ex-wife to back off. After all this, court him for a while, dont rush to wed him yet, but I won't run away at all, as long as his allegiance is with you. All this talk of leave him, for wetin na. Abeggi

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