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Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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Dear Anti mi Stella.


I am a lady of 27 years. With a 7 years old daughter who is as a sickle cell disease. I grew up with my mom and step dad .my mom has two children for my own dad .Me and my younger Sister . things fell apart between two of them and the suffering was much for her because my dad abandoned me and my kid sister for her to take care of while he was enjoying his life with different women.



Three of us lived in a one room apartment where by we always pray that rain shouldn't fall because we know the implication of the damages the rain would cause .The suffering was so much that my mum would push us to go to our neighbour's house and pretend as if we're watching Tv so that we can just have our lunch and dinner their .We are always doing that just to feed my self and sister while my mum will go on hunger strike for days.The tactics later failed bcos it became obvious that my neighbour's started chasing us out of their houses.


So we started roaming around the kitchen looking for someone who had left over garri or anything we can feed on .. All these times ,my mum will always be indoor crying and praying .The suffering was so much that my grandma just angrily came to bring us to her own house bcos my mum was even unable to pay house rent b4 that the landlord had to remove our own roof. That's the reason why will always pray rain should not fall. Lol .


We started leaving In my grandmother's house.Then one day,my dad came and said that he would like me to go to boarding school ,my mum was happy that at least my own responsibilities we not be their again. And reason why my dad said so was bcos all his friends her doing well as well as him,and their children are going to that particular school.So he wants to show off too.Even when he dont know how we've been living our lives since. Me I  go boarding school ooo ,So it's only my mum and sister left. But the problem their is that my dad only pays school fees and nothing more. So it's my mum that would buy me provisions anytime I'm going to school and visit me on open days..



when I got to jss 3 my dad said he couldn't afford to pay for my school fees anymore .That my mum should take over from there. πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ Someone that can't afford to feed herself b4 .my mum just sat me down and said that "it's not by force to go to school " that thank God I understood English now,so what I should do it that I should go and learn work .I want pleased with that idea but I can't blame her too for her suggestions. So i told her that i will complete my my education even if it's to sell pure water.


Since I have completed my Junior school sections.so the little holidays we had then,I used it to do different types of work by selling different things just to gather money together. I did sales girl and hawk orisirisi. So after that,I enrolled myself into a public secondary school when the money was enough.During that time, my mum have seen my step dad and they're living together already.


 My step dad was so manipulative and he poisoned my mums mind towards us. So my mum now complained about almost everything we do ,it got worse to the extend that my mum will be comparing us with my step dad children children that he has with his first wife. 


Any little things she will beat and send me out at night .I will have to look for nearby mosque to sleep.then the next day I will go to my grandmother's house. 


The suffering continues like that till I graduated from secondary school. Na their the real wahala start. Lol


My mum called and told me that I am now 18years and that I should go and marry. I said no problem.And when she sees that I am not considering her request she started frustrating me.And then I was working in one factory at Apapa warf then. Which they are paying me 13k as salary. The problem was much that I was just looking for escape means.


There is this guy in my neighbourhood then,he is doing OK but he's very loud and womaniser a lot.He is into black market of fuel( They call them omo elepo) People in the neighbourhood always go to him for help and he do help but loves woman a lot.I went to meet him that told him what I was experiencing with my mum and he asked me if he could get me a small apartment to be living? I said a big Yes because I know I will be free from every day crying due to the harsh words my mums uses to put me to sleep.


The guy gave me 70k to rent an apartment,but the problem started when he will come and visit me there and end up sleeping with me. Which I dare not say I'm not doing becos he might send me back to square 1.


During all these times with him, I already have a better work am doing which I was earning 30k then.So we looked for a better apartment he gave me the money he have and I completed it with my money to look for the apartment. ..I furnish the place to my taste and all .I was working with my pregnancy and also planning to further my education which my husband was against. I had my daughter at 20 years and I was happy that I am finally a mother not knowing that I'm facing another life problems.


My supposed husband was sleeping around and gives me countless infections to the extent that I had tuberculosis through him. I was coming in and out of hospital as a regular customer that I am.


The real problems started when my daughter was ill and I had to rush her to the hospital, I was surprised when I was told that she needs to do blood transfusion. I was like ,why blood transfusion? And I was told she's Sickle cell .my life stumble immediately but I couldn't believe the result but I let them go do the blood transfusion. When I got home I search for the Genotype test I did for her at 1years which shows that she's AA. And I started goggling online so know if there can be changes in ones genotype.


 That was when I know something is definitely wrong. I requested for my husband's genotype result again bcos he told me then that he is AA and I know that I'm AS.He said he couldn't find the result and was verbally aggressive over it.i suggested that he should please rerun the test that I will pay which I did .That was when I know he lied about his status before.my guy is also AS!!! 


He called his doctor who is based in Ibadan and that one told me not to believe m those Lagos doctors that they can lie and all .And since my husband so much believe in his doctor he said I should take my take to Ibadan and when we got their the man was just condemning the Lagos doctors and all saying that SS child can not be looking this healthy and all .he gave my daughter his own treatment all I was scared all through because it was obvious that my daughter was in pain. 


Since then I have been coming in and out of hospitals and swollen face from lots of cries and all.my husband was not there for us instead his with his friends clubbing and carrying woman upndan...



So when the girl was three year I try conceive another one at least to have a second hope but I was shock that the pregnancy isn't coming and I went to hospital where I was told that I have severe injections which I treated.i was suggested to that I shld do HSG which I did and its shows that I have block tubes due to several infections I have contacted in the past .I try my best my doing hydrotubation and clear it like three times and I did HSG twice. I also went herbal but nothing is happening instead I will end up treating another infection. 


I forgot to mention that during these time my husband had labelled me as someone who cant be pregnant again and said my womb has been removed from multiple termination that I did.so he impregnated another lady when my daughter was 3 and he shuttles our house. And anytime he comes back drunk and I refused him of s#x, he will beat me mercilessly and have his way that I will end up covering my face from bruises. 


I stop trying to conceive when my daughter clocked 6 years and instead focus on my daughters life and mine too.i was not happy bcos I was unable to gather money since I have been working bcos he will have is way of collecting money from me with the disguise of " borrow me" and he wont return .




Hmmm at a point I went to source for international passport for myself and daughter just to run away but I don't know any body in obodo oyinbo and my savings is not up to the required amount. 

I face a lot of challenges in his house now that he goes as far as disgracing me in neighbourhood and time their is any misunderstanding.

my plan is that I want to leave and get a better life for myself and my child, but since my money is not enough to get me an apartment which I am still saving endlessly to get. This guy frustrate my life now and then and I'm scared for my life lately seriously.i forgot to say that he once put thunder bolt on the floor for me once.


Please advice me .and u pray you read this.





*Thunder bolt?May God bless you and may no harm befall you...Amen
 

63 comments:

  1. Poster I hurt reading ur story. U have to get away from that man first. Go to the Police that hes a threat to ur life. Its safety first

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    1. Poster did u marry him or just becos u both ve a child n u became his live in lover thats why ure calling him "my husband"? Anyway poster my advice na 4 u to continue to save secretly and seriously too and while at it seek d face of God cos u sure need his divine intervention in ur life as u embark on this "run away " journey. U MUST LEAVE THAT YOUR "HUSBAND". Keep this as a ringtune in ur head as a motivation ull need. Lastly pray against d spirit of meeting, fucking and marrying WICKED men from ur life as well as that of ur sister. Ur mum had 2, now uve one. It is well.

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    1. Instead of going to Europe, use that money to travel to African countries like Mozambique, senegal or CΓ΄te d'ivoire as far as you have a good skill you will make it there. Number 2, stop the pity party and understand that you are living based on the choices you made

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    2. Hian! Senegal, Mozambique ke?! What kinda advice is this? Is it not even beter to advice her to go to a village and start farming than thos countries you mentioned.
      Nigerians. Sure u belive Nigeria is the worst country ever bah? The grass always looking greener no be for Mozambique biko.

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    3. Greener ke? Mozambique no get grass talk more d one wey green.

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    4. Kenya is better than Nigeria oh. She can even go to Ghana ther is peace of mind. Nigeria is only good for rich people. At least poor people have better quality of life in other african countries

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    1. It is what yoruba calls "magun" once she crosses it, and have sex with another man asides her husband, they would be stuck together like you read on the news till some Kain incantations is done by an herbalist before they can be separated after much disgrace..imagine a p*nis and vagina stuck like glue, that man is wicked! She should run farrrr

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    2. Ehen but anon, the man is not her husband na. He didn't pay bride price. he was just collecting free sex. He is just a baby daddy abi sperm donor with a very cruel heart and evil spirit. he took advantage of her situation and made her life miserable. I'm surprised she still calls him husband. husband ke. @Poster, can't you put thunder bolt for him too? Or is it that it only affects women?

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  4. What a chronicle! In all, I blame your mum for everything. Well, it's too late to cry when the head is off. But there is still hope for you poster. just don't give up. Leave that man asap and don't ever refer to him as tour husband. You are too weak poster it's time for you to step up your game and act smart. Wipe your tears and move on with your daughter. That's all I have to say.

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    1. poster that man is not ur huaband, he is a demon. get away from him now before he kills u.

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    2. The mum is a very terrible woman

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    3. Yes poster don’t ever refer to him as your husband because he didn’t ask for your hand in marriage which isn’t your fault but your parents fault,how can your parents be so irresponsible

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    4. Goback yo your grNdparents house madam

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    5. Her mum is also a victim trying to survive. We could also say that the poster should have learnt from her experience.

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  5. Hmmm. People are suffering in o. Some mothers are so useless.
    For any young teenager that might be in this poster's early (before she got pregnant) ,the best option is not always to meet some guys that you feel will help you with money!
    Make una dey get small sense, I understand you are still young & often confused, but it's way better to continue suffering in your parents or guardian's house, keep doing whatever sales, houses girls, or shop girl work you can to save money, no matter how little. Men shouldn't always e the next option.
    This girls story would have been much better if she hadn't fell into the hands of her womanizer baby daddy/husband.
    It is well with everyone going Tru hard times, may God see you Tru, may we not make mistakes that won't have easy remedy, may we not make any mistake at all. May God send a helper to you poster.

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  6. what did i just read? thunder bolt? you need to stay away from that man.

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  7. Hmm. It is well with you poster.
    I pray for Gods wisdom for you to tackle this issue.
    If he really used thunder bolt on you and you aren’t sleeping around, you’d have been dead by now. I’m sure hed have been bluffing if he’d told you he used it on you.

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  8. All of this is much for one person. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to suffer this way for most of your life. You do not have to remain with this man. Report your situation to the lagos state welfare organization that deals with women and children. Also search ‘Olu Bunmi’ on Facebook and tell your story, she might be able to help you with your plan to leave if you are serious about it.
    Please take your daughter to the sickle cell foundation so she can be on medication and you can know how best to reduce her stress levels. I know people with SS who are in their 30sand don’t fall sick often.
    You need to leave for your life and your daughter’s life

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  9. So sad, pls forget about that sperm donor and focus on your daughter

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  10. This is a clear case of not learning from your mother's misfortune. So after having a sick child & no money to take care of her, the solution is s to have another? I'm ashamed. Your mum did a very poor job.
    So you have a sick baby in your hands, blocked tubes, no money, no job.
    What exactly you want to do??
    Where's your younger sister now?

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    1. Thr cycle keeps going. You have stated all the obvious. Poster will carry another belle for there...

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  11. Poster you need strength,courage and believe in your self that you can do it,you can walk out of that pit hole,pick every pieces of your shattered self,have an excape plan and God will mold u into a beautiful version of his image..
    First thank God for everything you've been through,he knows everything in your life,the destiny changer,miracle worker.pray and tell him where you want him to take you to with your heart.
    Secondly search around your working area for a room apartment which u can afford with ur salary and still have some amount from your upkeep.park your belongings and take ur child along...
    Your husband no kuku get usefulness na only his community dick e dey use destroy your life.

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  12. N you wanted to get pregnant for this same man for the second time. Women !!

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  13. I'm just crying from this.
    i am so sorry dear
    i don't know what to say but is gonna be alright. God will make a way.

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    1. You're crying? You're either a liar or suffering from emotional imbalance.

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  14. Hmmm you really went through a lot. Your dad didn't try for your mom you and your sister. And your Mom shouldn't have listened to what your step dad was saying against you considering where you guys are coming from. You on the other hand was naive and needed help that was why you ended up with the scumbag of a husband. Well things are already complicated and you have seen a lot at your young age. I pray God opens a way for you to be able to put things together and sort out your life

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  15. Thunder bolt?
    With all these suffering? You are living with the devil. I pray help locate you fast so you can leave him and move far away from him. Maybe somewhere like Benin City, life is cheap there, at least in most areas.
    What about your younger sister?

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  16. I cried reading your story ...This is exactly how my husband came into my life as an helper then slowly he change when he find out I have nobody
    my dear your mum and dad will not go unpunish for this ...how about your younger sister? Please don't let her make same mistakes as you ..try and get far away from that man first ,may God send you an helper .....

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    1. What Yoruba call MAGUN
      It's a very tiny rope abi Na broom placed at the entrance of a room for a woman to walk over. If she walks over it, the implication is that if she sleeps with another man, the man will somersault violently several times and die or they both stick together

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    2. Magun... when a woman crosses it, if she sleeps with anyone other man asides her husband, the man will die.

      That’s how I understand it o from one very interesting Yoruba movie we watched in secondary school years back named thunder bolt, I have forgotten the Yoruba name of the movie

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    3. The title of the film is THUNDER BOLT by Tunde Kelani

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    4. MAGUN is the Yoruba name of the movie

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    5. So this poster cant b with another man? It works even wen they're not properly married? She sure need Jesus.

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  18. Hnmmm this is sad. It is well.

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  19. This chronicle feels eerily familiar, a remixed version of an old chronicle.

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  20. Y not relocate to another state first. Then plan your life from there. May God be with you.

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  21. What is thunder bolt?

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  22. Fear omo elepo..
    Very bad juju people...
    Wish I can help you...

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  23. Your mum is a lazy woman. You want to follow her path. Wake up girl. Its never too late. I did not read where u said he married you officially. If l were u. I will relocate. Lagos is too big. U can even be in the same Lagos without him knowing where you are. Don't tell anyone your intention to run away. Even your closest friend or mother. Behave as if everything is OK. Don't quarrel him
    Give him food. Don't give him any reason to suspect you. Plan your exit. One of the days he goes to sleep outside. Pack your child's cloths and leave. Don't go with any of his things. Forget property. Change yiur number. Destroy your old number. Start life afresh. Heaven will smile at you. Life is for the living. No amount is too small to start life afresh

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    1. Please follow Zaram’s advise if you can,may God make way for you

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  24. poster, I won't say any harsh words to you because I might never understand what you really went through. you are a fighter... please leave that man you call husband.

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  25. Please what's thunderbolt?

    Poster you're just repeating the mistakes of your mother. If nothing, your sufferings with her should have opened your eyes to useless men. Anyway, you're in it already so try and save as much as you can so you can move out with your child and please quit trying to have another child for that person you're living with. Don't you learn?

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  26. CELLGEVITY Lagos ...081800688866 April 2019 at 16:20

    So sad reading your story poster, you have gone through alot. I pray God will lead you. Your husband is a wicked man to use thunderbolt on you.
    Your parents didn't try at all.
    Be closer to God and I believe he will intervene in your situation.

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  27. Pls what does thunder bolt do? How do u know someone put it for u?sorry but you need help

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  28. Well,I don't no wat to say.I remembered Daniel still book I read some years ago' full circle'.what happened to your mother is indirectly happening to you too.
    I will be sincere with you, for this not to happen to ur daughter, you need to
    1.leave that man ,and don't be afraid how you will survive
    2.stay away from men bcos of money
    3. Leave that environment that define u.
    4.look for a small room your money can afford. open an account in abank but don't collect atm now and do not activate SMS.so the guy will not no.
    5. You need to work n work for u n ur daughter to survived. But remember there is no short cutin life.
    6.do you no that you r a very strong woman.
    Remembered this is just a face or stages in life ,it will always pass away n for its to pass to good depend on you.
    Spend the with God
    Ciao

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  29. Well, I don't no wat to say.I remembered Daniel still book I read some years ago'full circle'.wat happened to your mother is indirectly happening to you too. I will be sincere with you. You need to
    1.leave that man and don't be afraid how you will survive.
    2.leave that environment that define u go n start in other environment.
    3.stays away from men bcos of money.
    4.try n look for a small room u can afford.
    5.open an account, don't collect ATM and don't activate the SMS ,so the guy will not no .

    You need to Work hard, so what happened to you Will not happen to ur daughter too.
    Do you no that you are a strong woman.
    Remember there is no short cut in life, being determine and remember. What you r going through is a face or stages in life.It will always pass and for it to pass to good depend on you.
    Get close to God.

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  30. I stopped reading when I got to the part you said you were trying to have another child.
    I just can’t abeg.

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  31. Well, I don't no wat to say.I remembered Daniel still book I read some years ago'full circle'.wat happened to your mother is indirectly happening to you too. I will be sincere with you. You need to
    1.leave that man and don't be afraid how you will survive.
    2.leave that environment that define u go n start in other environment.
    3.stays away from men bcos of money.
    4.try n look for a small room u can afford.
    5.open an account, don't collect ATM and don't activate the SMS ,so the guy will not no .

    You need to Work hard, so what happened to you Will not happen to ur daughter too.
    Do you no that you are a strong woman.
    Remember there is no short cut in life, being determine and remember. What you r going through is a face or stages in life.It will always pass and for it to pass to good depend on you.
    Get close to God.

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  32. I still believe that there are so many people you are better off in this country. Please look for a job you will get. You were doing well till you brought that pig you called a husband into your life. Relocate, find a small job or go back to hussling. Believe in God leave men for now and take care of your child

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  33. Poster, if I may ask,was your bride price?

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  34. Useless and lazy mother... Inukwa locking herself inside the house house crying and praying Guess for maner to fall from heaven. .. Poster herself also inherited that stupidity from her mother.... Imagine going to oga fuel seller for help... When I tell all these teenagers that jumping into marriage or relationship isn't the solution to poverty dem no dey hear... Imagine if the poster stayed put at her granny's house, hustled hard and saw herself through school,we wouldn't be reading this lousy and poorly written chronicle. Nonsense and ingredient. Mtcheww

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  35. I thank God on your behalf that you did not succeed in getting baby number 2 for this your horseband. What were you even thinking?

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  36. Please pardon me,but I have feeling this story is fabricated. The writer is far more learned than he/she tried to let on. Please go and read it again. You'll find that she/he tried very hard to write bad English but at some points the sentence construction is so good you'd wonder if it's the same person.

    Some literary minds will get the point. Read the peice again.

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    1. U get your point. Doesn't mean the story is false tho.

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  37. I was actually feeling sorry for you till I got to the part where you said you’re trying for baby number 2.

    When you’ve had enough, you’ll leave.

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  38. I'm so sorry you had to go through all that.i mean what a terrible upbringing you had.Your mum is lazy n not a good person ,she caused all that befell you.why birth innocent children to make them suffer what they know nothing about.Very soon shell want to reap the fruit of her labour..please leave that useless man you call husband

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  39. One more thing poster,while you sort out your life,endeavor to look out for your younger sister and always put her thru so that she won’t fall into the same trap

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  40. I weak!!!!,that man can also go diabolical on her.God will see you through,and bestow wisdom on you.

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  41. Your Dad and Mum caused all these problems for you. Your mother is more useless,see wetin fuck and preeq do to her. get away from that man abeg since he didnt pay brideprice. Be well grounded financially before you settle down pls.

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