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FOUR SUITORS
1- thinks he's doing me a favor by coming close to me because I am a divorcee. He's way richer than I am. More educated, about 52 years old. He sees or calls me may be once or twice in two months.
2- he's so full of himself, gets angry easily. Not so rich but doing something, we attend same church. He's about 36 years old
3- has a good job , divorced with two kids. He tells anyone that cares to know more about my job than my personality and he talks about it all the time. I'm scared. He loves my job and not me. He's 36
4- A widower with two kids. Doesn't have a steady job but does contracts from time to time. I really feel this man loves me very much. His crime is not being rich. He's 40.
Please advice me. I don't want to make a mistake again.
Hmmmmm...All this one no be once chance so?Four suitors?ha!!!
Did they all propose?you didnt indicate.
From this list the number looks like he loves you according to you so choose that or none.
Sorry oo but I don't think you've reach your bus stop yet. Keep moving.
ReplyDeleteNone. Men toasting u doesn’t translate to suitors , take note.
DeleteThats how single women above 30 think, just say hello to them on the road, they'd just weigh you if ure husband material or not.....
DeleteI tell you.
DeleteIf you can only face your child and work be friends with all of them, not sexually because you have not reach your bus stop
My dear you don't have suitors. Pls keep it moving.......
DeleteYes! Keep moving madam..non of the above pls..
Deleteso all these chaff characteristics of men are what u call suitors?? issorite.
Delete"His crime is not being rich"
ReplyDeleteNo wonder you are where you are. Continue making long term decisions based on short term conditions.
Hmmm serious matter!
ReplyDeleteI hope #4's love is pure sha, not just because U re well to do...
Nne ask God to direct U biko...
Since you're looking for riches Suitor A is preferable.
ReplyDeleteCos from all you've written up there Riches is of uttermost importance to you .
Cos I cannot see any goodly attribute you stated you'd love an intending partner to have.
Yes... it shud be important... Everyone has their levels...
Delete15.04 I tell you.
DeleteBabe, calm down and wait for a man that when you meet him you won’t have doubts you’d just know he is the one.
ReplyDeleteThe 4th one may seem like the right one but how are you sure he isn’t humble because he doesn’t have money? You just got out of a marriage, I think you should focus on yourself and your child. When you meet someone whose views align with yours, you won’t think twice. Also, stop making it seem like your options are limited to men with kids just because you’re divorced and have a child. You’ve experienced marriage before so one would expect you to be more choosy and careful before going into another one but here you’re. If it’s companionship you want then get one with sense and enjoy each other without brining “suitor” or “marriage” into it.
Stop giving people immoral advice here. She should get one and enjoy each other...That means she should start fornicating.
DeletePoster, focus on God. He alone will send you the right man. Also pray and fast to ask God for his will. If God doesn't give you any answers, you suspend all plans for now. This is assuming you're not having sex with them already. Btw, how can someone who calls you once or twice in a month be considered as a suitor? You sound desperate.
I totally agree with you
Delete@15:35,you just mirrowed my thoughts.Please,"suitor" 1 shouldnt have made the list,he is no suitor dear.He calls once in two months?Hian! My sister,I see you entering another one chance marriage with all you listed oh.Be wise !
DeleteYou think it is that easy to get another husband. Just go back to your former husband
DeleteSo the only way people enjoy each other is by having sex? Wonda!!!
DeleteCome back and tell us if four of them proposed or you are looking for the one to steadily gbensh.
ReplyDeleteNone oh.....the poor guy loves u because he has no money.....keep it moving
ReplyDeletenone of them gbadun but if u feel number is ok then go for it but ve it at d back of ur mind dat u married him for love and not for money make u no come dey cry tommorow dat he is not rich enough
ReplyDeleteChoose number 4 ok ,peace of mind over money is better than anger
ReplyDeletenone of them gbadun but if u feel number4 is ok then go for it but ve it at d back of ur mind dat u married him for love and not for money make u no come dey cry tommorow dat he is not rich enough
ReplyDeletePray and ask the Holy Spirit for direction.
ReplyDeleteNumber 4 is BROKE, ain't he? Don't trust him that much too for you. Broke men can love pass ROMEO. Humility is their second name. The true test of a man's character is when he is rich. Pick number 5 darl. May he appear and be the the 1 🧚♀️
ReplyDeleteYea... U kw dem...
DeleteAjuju😳
ReplyDeleteMadam, stop deceiving yourself. You only have one suitor. This shows you are not ready for another marriage. If you were you would have recognised that tthree men on your list are not worth considering for marriage.
ReplyDeleteSis I am 32yo single mum and I can tell you the list above never reach o. They are all one chance. Be patient please and take your time. I have met similar guys above and they come and go; right now i have 5 guys talking to me on whatsap and my DM is LIT lol. Yes I am HOT, NOT a slay mama but I slayyyy, good career and job too so i am a catch but i cannot enter one chance o.
ReplyDeletePlease be specific, four suitors or four toasters?...there are different things.
ReplyDeleteThe description above is four toasters not suitors. Poster please take note.
Deletetake your time, don't just rush into another marriage and then get divorced again
ReplyDeleteDidn't you learn anything from your last marriage ,this woman? No. 1,2& 3 are a no-no! one doesn't care about you,the second feels he is doing you a favour and the third loves your job and money and you are here asking us question? Give no. 4 a chance and see where it goes. must you be in a hurry to marry again? you have a child and a good job at 33,why not chill and wait for Mr. right to come along instead of giving itself headache over totally unsuitable men( especially nos. 1,2,3).
ReplyDeletepls never marry a man U are richer dan... Except U av known each other before U became rich....
DeleteKeep moving...🏃♀️🏃♀️
ReplyDeleteWait for the fifth one, since you're so confused.
ReplyDeleteI didn’t see option 1 or 2.
ReplyDeleteHas number 3 ever asked you for money? Has he given an indication that he is the kind that can be a freeloader? If no, consider that maybe he is just proud of you, nothing more. You didn’t speak about other qualities he may have, does he love God? Does he love you?
Number 4 gives me some bad vibes, simply because if you get married to him, what ever you have will be shared with him and his kids. If he doesn’t have a steady source of income, then your responsibility increases. In my view, someone who is coming into a marriage with 2 children should have a steady means of ensuring they are catered for, irrespective of the spouse’s income. So since you are sure he loves you, study him more, especially how he manages his finances, to ensure that you don’t put yourself in a sticky situation.
It’s not selfishness, you reserve the right to pick your battles. You both are not coming into the marriage alone, but with 3 children, as such, finances should be considered when taking a decision.
Good luck dear.
(I don’t know if the earlier post went through)
Keep moving n use the first one hold body, make him feel you are doing him a favour too...
ReplyDeleteSo this Pharisee Blackey is telling this woman to steal fork?
DeleteOr wetin you mean by "hold body?"
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My own is how do you manage four men?
ReplyDeleteWhen you are with A and B calls how do you communicate?do you have sex with four of them? Madam is this not too much for you to be confuse? And you think they have zero idea of your double dating and cheating on them.
Now tell me ,if you table this before God for help how do you want him to get involve in this crusade you call relationship?why complicate your love like this?
Oh Shut it my friend! Is it her fault that she has 4 suitors? So long as she's not sleeping with them, God will get involved, carry your judgmental self out of this post make better people see road comment, abeg!
DeleteDid you pay attention my question marks? I am sure you didn't else you wont be quick to insult your entire existance...busybody
Delete16.36 how exactly was she judgemental? What's biting you?
DeleteJudgina a pretty woman can have 5 to 10 toasters at a time....Im a single mum too and my WhatsApp and Facebook is always on lit....Guys begging to take me out on a date...I'm too tired self
DeleteBegging you out on WhatsApp and Facebook you say? Why is your number so littered around and why are you so accessible on Facebook, you must be delusional if you think it’s because you are hot that you are getting the attention.
DeleteMost of you single woman are just so confuse you kinda brag like you’ve got low self esteem.
18.43 who are you trying to prove things to. Yourself or the world? Tired indeed
DeleteSee association of confused single mothers bragging about their stupidity.
DeleteNone of the above ma'am. The fourth man may be lovey dovey because you're richer than him.
ReplyDeleteYou have not found your husband yet. Look for a Boaz not a Bozo.
ReplyDeleteLadies have this problem when they:
ReplyDelete1. Don't have a personal relationship with Jesus such that he can make a
good and perfect choice for them; he knows tomorrow
2. They are greedy, their values in life are warped and senseless.
You did not tell us what caused your previous divorce but you seem to
have fallen into the above two categories in one swoop!
When did "not being rich a crime?"
You were accusing the number 1-3 of "not loving you but your job,
not doing you a favor, bloated ego etc." but you are GUILTY OF
DESPISING A MAN BECAUSE HE "IS NOT RICH", guilty of greed, guilty of
excessive love for money etc."
If you do not love number 4 as he is, leave him alone. I mentioned number
4, because that is the only one to even consider in the whole lot.
And the "rich one", you did not tell us what he does.
This is the tragedy of a lot of Naija girls -LOVE OF MONEY, and absolute disregard
for God and godliness.
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ANG it's always safer for women to either date or marry up biko! There's nothing like GREED there...
DeleteWe all can agree that women suffer the most in life, society & marriage...
Besides the holy book supports this, as the Men re to assume the head in the family, spiritually, mentally & financially!
Is it because times re changing now & women re becoming financially independent too? Men still should remain providers of their homes irrespective of that...
16.48 the problem becomes when RICH is the key requirement ahead of what truly matters. I am with ANG on this one.
DeleteWas it not on the other post an ungrateful lady was calling her husband an idiot simply because he fell on hard times. He was rich at the point of marrying her. Riches are not guaranteed to last forever.
@16:48
DeleteYou are in error not knowing the scriptures nor the power of God (google it)
The woman was created to be a help mate for the man (google it)
Many craving for riches have pierced themselves with many griefs (google it)
None of them is right for you. you need to really think this through. Once you are divorced, every man out there looks like a potential, but my dear, once you start giving a chance, you will notice you are only wasting your time. Be very careful and intentional with the kind of men you want in your life. After all, you have been there so nothing should move you. You are 33, even at 40 men will still come. Be very careful and remember, you have a kid.
ReplyDeleteAll I see is one chance
ReplyDeleteSMH. If you marry any of them, people will start counting divorces for you cos you'll be divorced a second time. What is your relationship with God like? I'm not talking about going to church even three times a week, updating "Good morning, Holy Spirit" on Facebook or hash-tagging #ChildOfGrace on Instagram. There are things that can't happen if you truly follow Jesus. It's highly improbable that a woman who has a personal relationship with God will be in a position where four different men can be confusing her at the same time with marriage talk.
ReplyDeleteWord. So true.
DeleteWalk away from all of them. Oriegwu.
ReplyDeleteSo why are you even considering numbers 1,2, and 3 when it's obvious they are disasters waiting to happen? Must you marry any of these men?
ReplyDeleteCarefully go through the list again and ask yourself if this is what you want for yourself. 1 - 3 doesn't seem like something good will come out of them. Be careful in your decisions and don't be in a haste.
ReplyDeleteOne question.DIS THEY PROPOSE OR YOU WILL SAY U HAVE FOUR BOYFRIEND'S
ReplyDeletemshewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...
ReplyDeleteO di ka i n'azu ndi ara. Check yourself well. It's not normal to be attracting such men in their numbers. One would think you have learned your lesson but alas!
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DeleteNumber 5 might be the best option but don't rush it, even 6 fit be the one.
ReplyDeleteNone.
ReplyDeletePoster you said you think no 4 loves you so much. Choose him na. No 1 is not a suitor while no 2 will definitely make you sad. Do not look at the money oo.
ReplyDeleteThis life is a pot of beans. She has 4 suitors and i don't even have 1.
ReplyDeleteAre these the type of "suitors" you want? Apply wisdom before speaking, you don't know which angel is passing by.
DeleteDo you want four toasters that are not serious? Your time will come, you will meet a good man.
DeleteYou mean toasters....
ReplyDelete1. Why are you still calling him a suitor, someone who calls one or twice in 2 months, is that one a suitor?biko he's a 'loner' not even a friend, he calls when he's bored if I must say that.
2. The angry part should get you running for your dear life. Fulk of himself? Who isn't? The fact that he's an 'Angry bird' is enough to stay away.
3. He has good job?ok, does he make more money than you?if yes, the he might just be proud of you, lol, but don't know best way to Express it. If NO, oh mehn! Then he's feeling lucky to catch a big fish who will surrender her salary to him *winks* or like you said, don't care about you but worships what comes into your pocket(big salary). If later is the case, enyia, choo your way, that one no be suitor.
4. Like my fellow sdkers will always say, he's loyal oops!loves you because he's not as rich as you are+2 kids. Wait until he hits it big, then we go know em true color.
Summary, you have no suitor or whatever ☝️.
You as a person are money conscious, so I need to keep searching until you find your 'dangote' who is not doing you a favor, not easily angered, doesn't talk about you job or how rich you are to people who cares to listen, and finally bloody rich.
Goodluck.
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The first 3toasters is a no go area.
ReplyDeleteThe fourth man is humble? Well, what do u expect from a broke guy. He might be good, I'm not disputing that, but men's attitude and character can be deceiving when they are still poor.
Why not calm down and look for a more reliable man so as not to get bitten twice.
Pls, don't leave the place of prayer.. Let God be deeply involved.
Shalom!
Poster be patient with yourself, you also need more time to understand what you truly want in a man. If you still compare A,B,C,D then you still need to search more. You alone knows the one that wakes up all the butterfly in your tummy.
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ReplyDeletePoster as you typed this, I think id became plain to you that all these men are not for you. It's good to want to be in a loving relationship but be willing to wait for it.
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