STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TWENTY SEVEN SECONDS MAN
Hi Stella and dear BVs,
Please, I need your help ASAP! I have been in a serious dilemma and I have decided to seek advice from knowledgeable BVs.
I am a 28 year old lady and my fiance is 30 years old. We have been engaged since February this year and our wedding has been fixed for December. I am a virgin while he is not, due to some experiences, I didn't reveal my status to him.
At the start of our relationship last year, I only told him that I am celibate and he either respects my celibacy or takes a walk. After much resistance, he agreed and he has been celibate as well.
We were discussing s#x last week, I try to play along so he doesn't catch me in my lie, we have s#xual banter but there has not been even a kiss between us. I strictly do not believe in kissing, petting, smooching and so on before marriage.
We were discussing s#x last week, I try to play along so he doesn't catch me in my lie, we have s#xual banter but there has not been even a kiss between us. I strictly do not believe in kissing, petting, smooching and so on before marriage.
To my surprise, he said he isn't big down there and I told him size doesn't matter, then the next shocker, that he only lasts in bed for approximately 27 seconds. I laughed at first thinking he was just teasing me, but he grew serious and started crying. It's almost a week and my mind has not been at rest. It is easy to say sex is not everything but it is important to me because I have been looking forward to a fulfilling and active s#x life in marriage. I am just confused, I love him and he's everything but...
I have heard stories of women that married as virgins but ended up cheating flagrantly and messing about. I also know of women that were more or less prostitute but have been faithful in marriage because they feel they have done it or seen it all. To be a virgin at this age has taken a lot of discipline because I have had many relationships but they have all been chaste.
I have heard stories of women that married as virgins but ended up cheating flagrantly and messing about. I also know of women that were more or less prostitute but have been faithful in marriage because they feel they have done it or seen it all. To be a virgin at this age has taken a lot of discipline because I have had many relationships but they have all been chaste.
I am not sure if I will be able to cope with this 27 seconds something, I mean it's not even up to two minutes. I don't think I am s#X maniac but having regular and good s#x in marriage is not too much to ask is it?
With my personality, I would absolutely hate myself if I end up cheating as a married woman. My fiance is a strong advocate of testing before marriage but I can't even bring myself to try it to confirm if he's lying or not (I do not think he is). Please, what should I do? Is it possible for a man to last for just 27 seconds? Are there women that have gone through this situation and are copying well in marriage without cheating?
Please keep me anonymous and pardon my disjointed narrative, errors, my head no dey there since last week. Thank you all.
*Chei,the 40 seconds man even has someone he is better than?wow!!!....My Dear,you dont need to check anything....Please have a serious conversation with him to find out if he is serious and if he is..............POSTPONE the wedding and try to clear your head ..
Have a conversation with him to find out why he is the way he is..............
Please use love as tool to handle this situation,so that he does not become depressed.
Or is he acting up and testing you?
Let me read comments xos I am also a virgin. But 27 secs is a no no for me. 27secs????? kuku kee me
ReplyDeleteHey where have you been?
DeleteMaybe he is testing u so u give up and try it because u also said he believes in testing b4 marriage, most of the impotent guy and thoes that do not last long do not like sex or testing because they feel the babe will be disappointed in them
DeleteIs it not better to test Dan regret???
DeleteVergeen 🙄🙄🙄
DeleteHahaha. See our Almighty modella a Virgin. Lie lie
DeleteTo all the men that don't last in bed, let me assist you. If you like take it, if you don't like leave it.
DeleteNow, before you remove your prick out of your boxers to a waiting abuna, drink lots of water like 30 minutes before sex.
After that, wait for sometime and urinate well. The essence of this is to remove any amount of sugar or reduce it to a good portion.
Try first round or whatever will make u run lease first, after that enter the second round.
You may not last 10 minutes, but you will definitely go more than 3 minutes..
See as them de read with all seriousness.
Dear Poster, if your first name starts with a J and your surname starts with an A, then your karma came early, hehehe. But if not....
DeleteI feel he just wants to push her to confirm, at the end of the day, they break their celibacy
DeleteModela virgin? If l hear am again eh.
DeletePoster, listen to me. You cat multiple orgasms with a man who has small penis and 40 seconds. Tell him it's okay as long as he can assure you good foreplay. Let him be able to suck and lick you up well. You will cum and be tired even before he enters you. That way, you wont be bothered how long the sex lasts. As long as he doesn't have low sperm count, do not be bothered about the size of his penis. There are many women who never enjoy sex through penetration. If the foreplay is good, even a 10 seconds man will satisfy you sexually, I assure you. If that isn't enough, he can even finger you to cum. If you love him, consider these options. I am a babe like you and I know what's up. All the best dear.
Delete@Melancholy, I've been around o
Delete@anon 15:57, Yes o... I am still a virgin biko.
Anon ☝️, what makes you think Modella shouldn't be a virgin?
DeleteHe must be up to no good. Those tears mean nothing. Even I can shed tears when I need something, so leave the tears. If you have waited this long, then do not give it up.
DeleteIf you love him like you claim to do, advice him to seek medical help and stand by him through it i.e. if he is telling the truth. Do not give up for virginity to please that man. That could be his only reason for staying this long. Good luck!.
Poster, so you mean you haven’t even seen it? Doesn’t he get aroused around you? Can’t you tell just by looking at it? If he doesn’t get aroused or has never been aroused around you, then there is a problem o. He is either there for the cookie, or he truly has a problem.
DeleteYou don't need to postpone anything. There are ways to remedy the situation.
ReplyDeleteFind out if he has tried to seek help for it, both of you should research on how to rectify it.
You women eh, very confused people. You will cone here and shouting #TeamCloseYourLegs, #TeamMermaid, #TeamNoSexBeforeMarriage, #Team this and #teamThat
DeleteYet you will still be complaining when the #Team's ambition is fulfilled only to get a shocker later.
Wait o, that's not the only problem he has. What about the size??? Poster also said he is small down there. As in, 2inches. His deek is small and he doesn't last long. Double wahahla!! Poster you really have a long way to go in looking for solution. I just hope he is only pulling your leg tho
DeleteHope ke? She should feel it jor
DeleteGuy man wants to confirm his package before delivering.....lwkm....sharp guy.....
ReplyDelete😂 that crossed my mind also.
DeleteI kinda thought same too , lol but who knows , he might be serious ...
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DeleteMy thoughts exactly.
DeleteThe point of sex is for you to have an orgasm too. There are ways to achieve that without prolonged 'thrusting'.
ReplyDeleteSome last 40minutes and the woman doesn't climax, so what's the point?
Lol that’s not the point of sex. The thrusting is fun too abeg
DeleteI for one hate thrusting.
DeleteIf you enjoy thrusting @poster, toys dey, he can also lick plate too.
Problem is that most people see thrusting and releasing as the beginning and the end.
To me it's just an icing
What’s sex without thrusting?
DeleteMy dear, you can’t compare toys and the real deal....that’s an insult.
Lesbians and some others don’t care for thrusting but if that’s what you like, nothing will compare to it either. To each her own
DeleteShrinehill please EPP a brother stretch capacity to 40 seconds na
ReplyDeleteThen after that tutorial those with greater grace show the forward (pun intended)
Incremental progress kenan
Postpone wedding
Aunty packaged him to a highly recommended urologist then patiently support the followup till you get result
Deliverance is in order
To clear spiritual cobwebs, ekpe (curses) of past aggrieved girlfriends/offended mothers etc
Then you can talk about wedding after seeing sustainable progress
Forget all these push and start medicaments, treat the issue from the root
Whenever they accept the no sex thing. It seems there is always something wrong somewhere, Except the guy is a virgin himself. A guy accepted too when I said no sex only for him to tell me he is a one minute man. I was like no wonder 🚶♂️
ReplyDeleteThat’s not true
DeleteMany guys accept and all goes well.
Not true. My husband refused to touch me till marriage, oh. And I can tell you nothing is wrong with him sexually. No, he wasn't a virgin when we got married.
DeleteTell him you both should go see a doctor. You sound very educated and I think you can find s doctor that can either help him or let you know clearly it can’t be helped. This matter must be fixed before marriage sha
ReplyDeleteNo vex, is it 27 seconds of thrusting or 27 seconds from beginning of erection to end? What I mean is - is it that he can’t hold an erection for more than 27 seconds or is it that as soon as he ‘enters’ he cums in 27 seconds?
ReplyDeleteBiko pardon my ajuju. If it’s me, and if it’s that he can’t hold an erection for more than 27seconds, So long as I am aware of this, I will not move forward with the relationship.
If I find this out in marriage, I will research on ways to make sex pleasurable, believe me, there are ways, it’s just that you have to have the love and patience to work with him to achieve results.
So please weigh him, his strengths against this weakness (and other weaknesses) and please take a decision. If you decide to stay, pls work with him. Believe me, there are so many ways to pleasure a woman asides thrusting, your man just has to be patient and humble enough to know them.
I wish you the best.
My dear, fleee i say FLEEEEEEEEEEEEEED
ReplyDeleteSmall blokos and then e no even fit stand do something.....imagine oh for the rest of your LIFE you will be subjected to shitty sex
Ask around men like dt ur fiance often havr high libido and would refuse all types of treatment to improve their performance.........my sister runnnnnnnnnnn
The small blooms issue is different
DeleteMy dear even if you no test am, how far with not looking at it. You should look na
Sylva, your type needs to meet my husband, when no fit feel your legs after 45 mins pounding, na you go run..
DeleteNothing like 5 mins sex and enough smootching. Me self wey like sex I de fear my husband strength.
Oya anon 16.39 drop his deets let me meet him up and see ;-)
DeleteDoes your husband use meds?
DeleteIf you know u can't endure it, take a walk now that's early, don't be like me, I had my kid 5yrs ago, as I'm typing, husband n I haven't had sex till date, he's busy cheating round the city.
ReplyDeleteFind another and divorce him
DeleteAnd you still call him "husband"!? Nne, i di kwa egwu. You will be canonized las las. I nu kwa 5 years without sex as a married woman when it's not that the man is either incarcerated or an invalid? Hian! This kain patience no be virtue oooooo.
DeleteYou need brain reset. Why nit become a nun instead of marrying. Your husband is wicked and your mumu no get rival
DeleteWow! That your husband is a community penis and a very inconsiderate man, God won't be happy with him at all.
DeleteIt's possible he is teasing you to test your love for him inspite of all odds. Nonetheless, do have a one on one talk with him, letting him know how seriously you took the issue and that he confirms your doubts. Also at this point of your marital journey, I expect all necessary medical tests would have been done and that you both are compactable. If he's dead serious about the 27secs stuff, then you guys seek medical help now and see if it can be remedied. Best of luck and happy married life in advance.
ReplyDeleteI've never seen or heard of any man who teases someone with this kind of thing, oh. It's like saying a woman told her fiance that she has no womb, just to tease him and see his reaction.
DeleteIn this life, never say never.
DeleteHmmm I don't think he is joking o.
ReplyDeleteWell if it's me now that has had different dicks I would have argued with you that sex isn't food & is overrated,but you won't understand.
If you can test the kini now I would advice....
I would choose a 10sec man with a tiny dick,with a great plate washing skills & knows the right places to touch a million times over than a huge cassava. Reason being that from my 9years of active sexual escapades with different dick sizes & even the guy that last 50mins(I wan die that day ehh,I beg for mercy) I found I don't cum through dick-vaginal penetration, better head & touching does it for me. the dick is just a little plus...I also found that many ladies fall in this category. So if you are not team test b4 buying you better leave this guy & face your front.
Twale mama de mama 🙌🙌🙌🙌
DeleteOshey dick tester aye.
DeleteSo what if it's only through penetration this poster can cum? Do you still advice her to choose a 27seconds man
DeletePoster is inexperienced so poster won't know.
DeleteAre you sure that it's true or the guy man just want to have sex with u before the wedding to also know what he will get?if you're sure he is telling the truth then u should follow him to a specialist on what can be done.do this before wedding as 27 seconds sex is a serious issue.
ReplyDeleteI jus smell a rat in the whole stuff
DeleteAnything short of a SVD, it’s a NO for me.
ReplyDeleteMy anonymous friend would agree with me.
This is one of many reasons women cheat on their men.
No smooching and kissing before marriage 🥴
If you can’t accept his condition, please let him go.
What's the point in getting married without a mind blowing sex at all time.
DeleteIt's a waste.
I am telling you @don.
DeleteA lot of people don’t even know what it feels like to have great sex.
27 secs?? That's childish.
ReplyDeleteSex is very important in marriage.
Sex is not child's play.
27 secs for life? Damn! 😳😳😳
Did I read childish ? You won’t kill me 😂😂
DeleteAre u sure that guy man is not using tactics to av sex with u before wedding bcos why is he telling just now dt d wedding is approaching?if u're sure he is saying d truth then follow him to a specialist to discuss his options and treatments if need be and do dis before wedding as 27seconds sex is a real issue.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, the first step (of true) is to find out the cause.
ReplyDeleteIs he suffering from an infection? (Dis can cause it).
Does he eat sugary things in excess? I.e sugar, soft drinks, alcoholic drinks, juices, etc. (Dis can cause it too)
What is his lifestyle like?
What does he eat weekly or year in year out?
Try finding our the cause of that. If it's any of the above, it can be cured by chaning lifestyle.
Also, I want to believe it's because of your Christian belief that you are abstaining. If so, why not take it to God in prayers? Is there any impossibility with him? If he gave you the grace to abstain from sex, he can cure your fiancee.
Pray in faith, believe and receive and marry him.
God doesn’t cure, he heals.. There’s a difference
DeleteBut science n technology has made things easy these days naa
ReplyDeleteU guys should seek for help medically.
Another thing to check is whether he’s using this to break up with you
ReplyDeleteSometimes when a guy mentions he doesn’t meet up with something important to you it’s cause he wants out
So follow it up and ask to see it and to see a doctor. If he resists, then take note it’s possible he wants out
I agree, something is off
DeleteIt is wrong for this man to have kept this vital information from you until a marriage date is fixed (meaning other people -both families are involved now?). It is however good that he opened up now
ReplyDeleteinstead of in marriage.
You told us that you are a "virgin" but you did not tell us about your
spiritual identity; are you in Christ?
Why this question? I would have asked about the Lord's involvement in this choice of a life partner.
Because like I've said before, if a believer encounters a problem, challenge, trial, temptation in what
she began with the Lord's consent, then, it is time to seek him in prayers/fasting to know the next move
(solution;healing, seeking medical help ...holding on -yes, with God all things are possible. Matt. 19:26)
When Moses asked him to "send someone else for I am not good in speech...",
he asked Moses, "who gave man his mouth..." Exodus 4:11. Meaning he can
create/re-create/heal
If you are not in Christ (you are advised to receive him...)... if you love this man...seek medical help with him... for the sick needs a physician...Mark 2:17
There was a time my fiance was discovered to have "a medical condition" just before we got married. The medications prescribed has a side effect which included "possible male infertility".
Shuooooorrr, me that has been asking God for a football team?
We both decided that we were not going ahead with that medication until we sought God. We both began to fast/pray for days (DRINKING PLENTY OF WATER). It was very tough especially for him.
After the fast, he was met by the Lord (not too sure if it was a dream or not, he was just exhausted and lay down after a vigil) who touched the ailing part... After that, he was medically found to have been healed.
Yarns finished?
😊😊😊
You mean 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27..and he's done?
ReplyDelete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteAnons haf killed me
DeleteYes and his done 😂😂
DeleteThis guy is serious, better find a solution before tying the knot with him, if you don't want to end up regret.
ReplyDeleteForever is you long to end up with less than one minute man. Either you both find a way out or you tell him to seek medical assistance before anything.
I can't imagine a marriage wkgjout no good sex life.
Good luck.
Why all the typos?
DeleteYou dey fvck??
Anon, no mind me o
DeleteIt's this puffin browser.
Frustrating to use.
Just try and give him a hand job. That will help you determine size and stamina.
ReplyDeleteBut that will defeat the purpose of her chastity.
DeleteOr you think hand job is not fornication? Lol
Can't you see if when you are talking doesn't his kini rise ?I think he is just looking for way of fucking you
ReplyDeleteDO NOT OPEN THOSE LEGS!!! If he truly has a problem, tell him to read up on premature ejaculation and go see a sexual health specialist. As you fiance, do all you can for him to seek help but DO NOT OPEN THOSE LEGS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.
ReplyDeleteI’m a Virgin myself and this is one of my biggest fears. I can’t imagine keeping myself and not straffing all my life only to enter a marriage and cope with wack sex.
ReplyDeleteI’ve told myself that when the man I’ll love to marry finally locates me, I won’t rule out sex before marriage. Las las even if he wants to be celibate, I must give him head or a hand job at least to have an idea of his duration. It’s important for me to know what I’m working with and not enter into marriage blindly. If the intent is for the marriage to last a lifetime( which it is) then all important boxes must be checked and sex is top of the list for me.
I’ll be reading comments...
Ahhhh! Sis, you want to spoil your chastity with hand/blow job? 😭😭
DeleteAnd if after marrying him and "his duration" nosedives to zero?
DeleteSupposing the man is a virgin like you and does not know if he lasts
long or not?
Isn't it better to learn this thing called sex together and continue
to grow in it and seek solutions if any challenges arises?
Will you also remove a baby in your womb to test if she/he can breastfeed well?
Supposing after the sex before marriage, he leaves you? Yes, he might discover that
you are "too wide for his liking" or not good at it?
Congratulations for being a virgin in a decadent world as we live in. But then
knowing Jesus as Lord and savior is what guarantees eternal life as we shouldn't be
thinking only about this life.
My dear anon 16:04 please give him that hand job.
DeleteMake sure your hand touches all areas.
you have kept yourself all these years, don’t go and settle for a weak dodo, your virginity will be in vain 🤥
Lol @ Perxian, I’m not spoiling any chastity dear.
DeleteIf you read my writeup carefully, I said I won’t rule out sex before marriage with the man I’m sure I’ll marry. Hand jobs and B.Js are not exactly bad, i have to at least do something with him even if it’s not sex. I can’t go into a marriage depending on luck or hope, odikwa risky.
Two case scenarios, he’s either testing you or he’s telling you the truth. Men hardly ever admit to things like this before marriage so this is looking very fishy.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, Sit him down and demand that he should be very honest with you as this is not a joking sturvs. You can go ahead to confirm by yourself by seducing him and making out with him or giving him head or a hand job( since y’all don’t want to have premarital sex), that will give you better insight on the situation.
Also, weigh the man. What are his good sides and his bad sides? Can you love him irrespective??
If he really has this situation, All I can say is this: you have the option to either walk away or just marry him and that is left to you to decide. If you go ahead and marry him, get ready to be patient and loving with him. Go on the journey together of finding a possible cure and pls don’t complain or belittle the man because you knew very well what you were getting into.
If you know you can’t deal at all,kindly walk away now that it’s not too late.
Thanks, I appreciate this, God bless. I've been imagining all possible scenarios, I've told myself to think well not the one that we get married and have an argument and I'll be shouting his inadequacies at him.
DeletePoster hope you are praying.
DeleteDo you really trust this man?
Search yourself ooo
I don’t like feeling trapped. Guy man knew this and hid that’s enough to break up and move on. He’s saying now cause he thinks you’ll agree. See a doctor and if nothing comes out of it, move on. And it’s not the same as you not telling him you’re a virgin.
ReplyDeletemaybe he wants to test you to know if you can be with him in thick and thin. if he is really 27 secs...he wont had been eager to gbensh you...the guy is playing a mind game,and you havr to beat him at this game
ReplyDeleteWhere in the chronicle did it say he was eager?
DeleteAfter much resistance coulda been kissing, smooching.. How can he go to base 10 when he hasn't even crossed base 1? 🙄
Perxian where in the chronicle did you read about kissing, smooching when the poster clearly says she doesn’t believe in doing any of that.
DeleteAfter much resistance as in she didn't even allow kissing and smooching.🤦♀️🤦♀️
DeleteComprehension.
Poster, go with him to see an ogbonge sex-therapist. If you are in Lagos, there is a popular lady around Opebi/Allen/Ikeja. She is also a columnist with Punch or so. I go confirm that her name later. Meanwhile, I've heard her teach about "kegel" for treating this PE/ED on TV. You two should read it up on Google.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, he needs to honestly answer these questions:
1. When did he discover he had the 27sec issue? There is nothing he can do about his dick size so, you just want to know if he can pleasure you regardless of the d*ck size he was born with.
2. Was there ever a time he lasted longer than that and why? You want to be sure the 27sec performance sef is not drug-enhanced.
**Ask "Do you think that if you take viagra, energy drinks or herb you could last longer?". If he answers "Yes", RUUUUUUUNNNNN. Issa one-chance sumtin. He had already sought solutions in the past without success.
3. Was it the exes or different past sex-partners that complained to him about the size and poor/short performance? If he answers "Yes", find your square root biko. It means many before you left without a backward glance because the problem bad gaaannn.
If you go ahead with marriage without a feasible solution to this matter and you cheat later, I go follow condemn your act if I read am anywhere o. Forever is too long a time to be sexually-frustrated or miserable. This is why we say "Not everyone is destined for marriage" and the reason some "eligible bachelors" have remained so because dem no wan share their problem. I am never a "Go and marry" advocate because I believe every single person has a cogent reason. Either they've not found the "right one" or they probably do not want to go through certain "ordeals" so to speak.
It must have taken him "a lot" to open up to you and for this, he deserves your respect forever. Imagine if he never mentioned it until after marriage, huh? Your chronicle for tie wrapper na. However, if you cannot handle this (if you find out there is no solution), be wise like those before you who decided to walk away. May God order your steps and give you both GOOD NEWS on this matter when you go out to seek a solution.
what I've observed is that as pathetic as they are,these people don't stay away from soda, and anything that is sweet. some take as much as 2bottles of soda daily.
ReplyDeletemy boss has been trying for a baby for almost a decade, he doesn't eat right, sometimes egg roll and a bottle of soda, drink sweet tea twice a day and 2 cans of energy drink daily.
He needs to discipline himself to attain better height sexually. if he says he can't help stop taking those rubbish like most of then say then you should bounce.
A man that can not eat and live healthy for himself can not help u or the kids live a healthy life...
Thank you o. I know someone like that.
DeleteVirgin, right?!
ReplyDeletehow can one man have small peepee and last only 27 seconds? That is a disaster. How small is it? is it upto a finger battery when its not erected? if no i suggest you run and never look back. if yes i suggest you stay and help him out as some men just need constant gbenshing to increase their time limit.
ReplyDeletebesides sometimes it aint by thrusting ooh. if u get a small peepee man wey be headmaster ehn you will just find ursef speaking in foriegn language without u knowing.
You guys can work this out, buy a vibrator if his thing cant fill up the place. as an acclaimed virgin do u think a big prick is what u need now sef? how bout you focus on how to make him last abit longer than focusing on his size? teach him how to use the vibrator on you. *side eyes at bvs* yes couples do it dont look at me like that jooor.
All i trying to say is dont lose a good man over his inability to last 7 hours. no be for this blog we read when one woman was tired of collecting big prick from her hubby? The same big prick you are looking for is the same one someone is running away from.
E get one guy own wey I see ehnnn..... It was so big that I couldn't fathom the do...... I forgot my runners and fled 🏃🏾 🏃🏾 🏃🏾 🏃🏾
DeleteVivian is that you?
Deletelets assume the story is true from the guy. I am a guy and it seem like all the respondents are ladies and everyone suggesting they seek medical solution. from my own experience as a guy I used to have multiple sex partners and have been there where as I dey enter na so I dey cum, 27 seconds is too long sef and I know how frustrated I used to feel. but then I took close assessment of myself and found that with some partners I went as much as 3hrs (have never done enhancement drugs before NEVER). So I realized that with those partners I was cumming quick I had no deep emotional connection so my problem was a psychological thing... sometimes excess excitement made me cum quick. but when I understood sex is both psychological and emotional, I had to deal with it on my own and that was how I solved that problem. today there is no mountain I cant climb and even give a squirting orgasm. so before we advise people to go spend money on just cos they are having a psychological drama during sex we should advice them to practice and over come that weakness first, especially if both couple are in a sexual relationship which is not the case in this scenario. another reason most men cum quickly, is their women always wanting them to start going faster and harder the moment the man enter abuna, common ladies, he needs time to relax and kill the penile excitement before he can improve his performance. so please poster this is my humble submission, calm down, I dont see much problem with your situation, most people telling you to flee wish to have your man even tho he is dickless ooo
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteYou forgot to include the main reason why some guys cum quick, let's leave that for another day tho. Bless
Dante
Thanks Stella for posting, it felt like forever but I understand other people sent their chronicles in before me. May God continue to bless the work of your hands.
ReplyDeleteDear BVs, thank you. I've read your comment and I'll keep reading. I guess when you are a longstanding bv (I've been since 2014) we all tend to start thinking alike😃😄. My initial reaction was to laugh because I thought he was joking, I mean men brag about their sexual prowess so I don't think it's a joke. Secondly, I thought like most BVs too that he was just trying to test drive but then again I don't think so. Since he told me about this, two weeks ago, we haven't revisited the subject. Stella can testify, I sent that email early on a Sunday morning, I was that agitated. I've been reading on possible solutions, I could write some chapters on the subject now😃
However, what I forgot to add to my chronicle is that, should I confess that I'm a virgin? The lie seems ridiculous to me, I've never seen virginity as a prize , in fact men that I dated in the past became more focused on the virginity than me the virgin hence my decision to use the celibacy line. The thing is my fiance has told me from day 1 that he's not interested in virgins and reiterates it at every opportunity. I just feel if he can reveal such an important thing to me, then I should end my innocent lie as well.
Maybe you should tell him. But what is your gut saying?
DeleteTwo deceiver jam themselves in a relationship. Madam, how is it okay for you to lie to someone you want to get married to about your sexual experience but don't expect such game to be played in return. So now you're bothered about the small peepee and 27 second ish, do you know how bothered he might have been, being that you have told him you have sexual experience but you don't want him to check Wassup.. don't you think he must have been worried that you have bore hole and that's your reason for the whole celibacy ish.. I really don't want to advise you cos I hate liars and dishonest people.
ReplyDeleteThis is just another "Lion and Jewel" story.. and that's all the help I can give you, since you like games, go and find your answer there.
Dante
But even virgins can have naturally wide vaginas and if the peepee is too small, both may not enjoy the do.
DeleteIn your rush to comment and castigate, you didn't see where she said she was a virgin, abi?
DeleteYou sound just like one Dante from NSG, I'm willing to bet it's you sef.
Very very rare cases. The same way it's very rare for a virgin not to bled... or you think this is godfather novel?. you ladies should stop seeing men as fools, that's one of the reasons why many things are changing on you guys in relationship of late, too much sense and manipulations, guys are not fools. If you like accept or not. You may just end up learning the hard way and begin to play the victim card up and down.
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They are telling you bore hole and you are talking of naturally wide. E be like say you never jam toto wey be borehole? U go dey wonder if even the addition of maybe 20 more dicks will make any difference sef.
DeleteThis chronicle sha... *covers face*
ReplyDeleteWetin? Is you a fargin? Even fargins dey open eye these days.
DeleteTiger nut smoothie to the rescue so as for him to last a little longer.Ask him about his head game,if the shit is tight and his sperm can make babies,i see no reason why you should be worried. Calm down and let love lead
ReplyDeleteWho virgin help? Many ladies who married as a virgin are out there banging like dogs because they felt they missed something during the youthful stage of their lives. No be to break hymen? Tampon can do it. What's the big deal?
ReplyDeletePoster your are clearly immature in the subject of sex before marriage. Simply ask him to pull out the penis for inspection. Don’t worry about the 27seconds, it can always be improved to 30mins non-stop action.
ReplyDeleteAbi ooo. Inspection ti take over
DeleteEnter your comment...27 seconds ke....sit and talk about it properly
ReplyDeleteWhat can I say?
ReplyDeleteWatch War Room if at all you can get any copy because it's like all the Nigerian women including Toke makinwa they have been advising have finished the copies.
Watch War Room o!
What can I say?
ReplyDeleteWatch War Room if at all you can get any copy because it's like all the Nigerian women including Toke makinwa they have been advising have finished the copies.
Watch War Room o!
everyone on this blog is a virgin lmao Nigerian girls and pretence are like 5&6
ReplyDeleteI feel I am qualified to give advice on this topic. My husby has a pinkie sized penis @ resting state. He however was always pulling and stretching it, stroking it and it was growing due to constant stimulation. Note, during courtship we dinno check it as per celibate tinz.
ReplyDeleteUpon the 'do', I noticed it was over (kiss to cum) in less than 5 minutes. Shuooo.
I started reading up oh and broached the topic with him. Guy man started drinking Tigernut,dates and watermelon smoothie with lots of water by the side.
That's how stamina was restored. Now I even wish he finishes early as the constant pounding can be tiring.
Despite all these, his libido is like a dog in heat. He never sleeps without grasping his penis. It's rare for me to see it in its resting state.
Poster - Why do you want to marry him? Is it because you love him or is it because of sex? If he's truly your friend, a man you love and who you want to share your life with, shouldn't you be more concerned about helping him seek and find a solution to the problem? Is this a problem with no solution? Research shows that in many cases, erectile dysfunction can be reversed and if not, the right treatment can reduce or eliminate symptoms. Do your research before you start panicking over a problem that has solutions. Though he should have mentioned it earlier, I commend him for revealing this to because it's better late than never. Sex is important in a marriage but from the comments it seems to me that people marry for the most selfish reasons. No wonder the high divorce rate and unhappiness in marriages today. More importantly, as a prayerful woman who has decided to follow God's principles in courtship, did you pray about this relationship before you entered it? Did you ask your Father if this is the man He approves for you? Did you consult the Holy Spirit about this man? Because from what you said about him, he agreed to wait to please you and not to please God. A God sent man will be practising celibacy because his heart's aim is to please God and not you the woman. He will be celibate because he has a relationship with God whom he reveres and honours. Confusion is not of God but I won't say leave him. Get back to your foundation and set things right so you don't end up in regret.
ReplyDeleteNne, let me commend you for choosing the virtue of chastity. Chastity should never be confused with those just keeping their virginity. It's a vow made to God and which God usually honors. My advice is that you should never break your vow to God for any human being. Fix your gaze on the original love of your life and watch Him always come through for you. There are plenty virgins out there but finding chaste ones are rare. Tell your fiance that you have heard him, thank him for coming clean and also come clean to him. Explain your reason for keeping this secret and apologize. Tell him that you guys can start now to seek for solution because even though what he revealed to you scared you but you're willing to join him to seek for solution. Let him know your stand spiritually and tell him where you faith lies. My dear, if this union was meant to be, not will break it. Remember the daughter of whom you are. Shalom
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