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Saturday, August 24, 2019

Saturday In House -Women And Managing House Chores

A woman is the one responsible for making sure her home is clean and comfortable to live in but sometimes it is not always so easy.....






Sometimes I have little house chores that drive me crazy and then i wonder about those who have no help ..how do they manage?Especially the working woman who has to clean,wash,mop,arrange and all sorts on the weekend or everyday after work.


I am assuming the era of washing clothes with hands is over in Nigeria right?For those who don't have ashing Machines,OMG how do you cope?


How do you manage the cooking,especially with spouses who want to eat freshly cooked food everyday and not the one frozen ...How do you cope` with the kids?their food,their clothes.....


Are you one of the lucky wife's that has help from her spouse?or are you one of the unlucky ones at war with their spouse because he does not help out with the shores but even contributes to giving you more work?


In my house,i involve everyone, my kids are not allowed to mess up anywhere otherwise they will be responsible for cleaning up,that has helped curb how untidy boys can be...same thing applies to hubby..lol



Wait....Or are you a man and without a job right now and its your duty to keep whth house tidy whilst your wife works?Does this arrangement work for you?

Lets gist!!!

85 comments:

  1. My husband has OCD, he does it all willingly... im blessed. Love you T.T

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    1. My brother has OCD his wife is benefitting from it πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    2. You both are abusing the term OCD
      It’s nothing to be proud of
      It’s a mental problem

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    3. Do you know what Obsessive Compulsion entails??
      I believe you both just mean your relatives are very immaculate in cleanliness
      Get it right next time pls

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  2. Freshly cooked food everyday, like you cook soup every day u wanna eat swallow...u cook stew every time u wanna eat rice, lol...my dad will say u have a penchant for stress.

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    1. My husband and i do our chores ourselves o. I got a 19yrs maid when i gave birth to my second baby, she spent 3wks travelled to the village for a festival came back with a lot of fetish thingss with bump short, i gave her 2month salary and ask her to go then i got another woman that is btw 35 to 40 to come twice a week, anything she beg me for i will give her even when i know she lies not until i discover she has been stealing from me.

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    2. Anon l had to laugh at your house help matter

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  3. Stella. It's real difficult for me to do chores. My husband is already complaining because everywhere is always untidy and unkempt. My kitchen is smelling at the moment, I've not washed plates for days. I don't know what or how to go about it. Please help me. I can't afford a help right now.

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    1. A man wrote this to get women bashed in reply column.

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    2. Can u get someone to come in n do it for a day? U agree howmuch to pay her...

      Say, hey pls help me wash plates n clean d kitchen... U give her 2k, depending on d size of d kitchen.

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    3. U can actually take it at a time. For example if and hubby just ate, do the dishes immediately. If u cook clean up the kitchen immediately. It does help.

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    4. You are not just lazy but also dirty.
      Your kitchen is supposed to be the neatest place in that house.
      Do you even wash your undies?

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    5. Madam are u sick or handicapped? Wat do u mean by u haven't washed plates for days????

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    6. Madam u are very dirty, i can imagine how ur house would be smelling... Who leaves plates in the kitchen for days? U cant afford a help and u are asking us to help, how shld we help? We should coman help u wash the plates or what

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    7. Madam you are very dirty. When you eat don't you wash your hands? As you wash your hands, wash your dishes. Me i have someone that comes twice a week to clean wash and iron. Now thats holiday, my kids are hime so they clean and tidy up the other days. One of them is assigned my room and bathroom everyday.

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    8. You that does nothing yourself is calling someone dirty

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  4. married people come and give us gist. We are just passing.

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    1. Single mum. Was always up at 4am cleaning until my pains intensified, went to hospital a size 12(small). Dr asked me to take things easy , eat well and NAP to ease stress.
      Now am no more finicky as b4, anytime I manage wake, I do d most , blown to size14 big with no more PAINS. It’s very difficult but neatness matters to me

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  5. Stella, I am still using my hands to wash clothes and I tell you, it can be so stressful, after each washing, you'll think I applied powder in between my fingers; effects of detergent.

    How I bless God for my hubby. He is hardly home, but the days he is, he helps me a lot. From buying the monthly groceries to washing the piled up plates in the kitchen, picking up broom to sweep the house when it's dirty and untidy. Sometimes, when I am tired, he helps me prepare the dish, my only duty is to serve the food.

    I do not see any of his help as my right, I ensure I say "thank you" to show him how much I appreciate the help.

    As for my four year old babies, who try out up to six clothes before the end of the day, I make sure they remove the clothes and repack all the ones they've scattered. Once they finish eating, everyone, even the two year olds must take their plates to the kitchen sink. My duty is to wash up and tidy the house.

    Some days, I wake up with severe headaches even after sleeping, other days are less stressful.

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    1. Get a dishwasher and wader dryer
      You’ll be happily pleased

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    2. If u can’t afford Washing machine, pls separate colors and soak over 9t, dat way washing is very very very easy.
      Scrub with hypo and scrubbing foreign liquid, the floor will remain clean for more than 3/4days.
      At 6yrs one shd wash while d other rinse. Buy 2 big bowl and keep on d floor put rag under because of spilling
      Pls like I wrote πŸ‘†, I was severely stressed without knowing, was always talking like parrot , never knew it was d effect of stress( blowing off via tsk tsk tsk).
      Rest well , u sound like a stay at home Mum , once Dey r off pls Power Nap, reduce medication, do a lot of herbal,/water and co. God strength ma

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  6. I guess this is for the married one's. Be it as it may, I have already made up my mind to get chefs when I finally get married to help with the cooking. Gardeners and cleaners to take care of chores. My wife is going to be prepared. Though as a single guy I take care of everything for I don't eat out. So cooking isn't a novelty to me. I can always cook with my wife when our helpers are disposed and it won't be a big deal.

    I think doing stuffs together brings you closer as well. Before you met your woman ou did all these things so what's changed now that she has come around. I sorted myself out before we met, so why burden her with two people's workloads. Women are meant to be prepared and no one is a slave to anyone. I see most people's wife look older than them after marriage and these same men complain despite that they don't really do much at home.

    Yes! You take care of your home pay the bills and all, but it should be something pleasurable to you. I strongly believe Your wife should look more beautiful than you met her and if you have the wherewithal, then the fact that you pay the bills shouldn't be an excuse not to carry out household duties around the home.

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    1. Correct man!

      Please do well to stick to this line of reasoning. It's sane.

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    2. *My wife will be pampered

      P.s: I didn't proofread, sorry guys.

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    3. Are you my husband's twin? I was concerned about the cost of a chef cos it sounded like a lot to me. He asked me if I truly think he expects me to come back from work (or a journey) to start cooking. Meanwhile, all the babes he dated before we married, spent all their time cooking and cleaning to prove their wife materialness.

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    4. Akiko, i sure will screenshot this your long epistle as a proof of your lies when your further wife will send in her chronicle about how unhelpful you are as a husband.

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    5. GATES , YOU ARE A REAL MAN!. may God bless you and increase you. May he bless you with he bone of your bone that will aprreciate the man you are. I wish you could marry my younger sis😍😍😚

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    6. Teejay!!! Welcome oh. The only guy that uses "for" when he means to write "because" .
      Oh how that thing irks me. 😩😩

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    7. Anon 14.38 You come dey feel like winner of the other girls na

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    8. You don't eat out? Is it true that men like who don't eat out do not cheat on their wives?

      Stella it's Nigerian mentality that make people believe that women are the ones to always take care of the house ooo. Don't mind them. Some men even without helping have the guys to scatter their clothes everywhere in the house. Will eat and won't return the plate to the kitchen. Mothers should start with their sons so that when they marry they won't stress someone's else daughter. No wonder Jenifer Lopez sang that song"I AM NOT YOUR MAMA". They marry with the intention to have not just a wife but a maid.

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    9. Pls come marry me. I go give u beautiful children

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    10. Anon 14:38 Those ladies did it cause they didn't see it as anything but something they could do and not to prove any wife material like you think. If your husband had such mentality then he would have also told them so but they did it cause they enjoy it so stop feeling fly

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    11. Gate chop kiss πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹
      God bless you and your future wife , I pray you marry a good woman as well, lol I like when men have plans of helping around in the house either by doing it or paying someone to get it done.

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    12. Very impressive @gates πŸ‘πŸΏ πŸ‘πŸΏ πŸ‘πŸΏ

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    13. @anon14:28 πŸ˜‚
      Hope sey nor be fiction, lols
      You guys make my day

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  7. The woman ministry Issa wonderful one.

    All I can say is can't stop thanking God enough for the technology of washing and spin drying machine.

    All the rest chores na chocolate πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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    1. We arent married yet but soon ,
      When it comes to chores he is so amazing , first I've a health condition that doesn't allow me stress myself and there are some chores I cannot do as a result of this , but he's always so helpful in doing the dishes , laying the bed and just tidying up everywhere most people think its just for the time being , but he has a very very good man .

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  8. Everyone is involved in the house chores oo, even my 3 year old son (picking up and arranging his toys, arranging our shoes 🀣🀣 and he has started folding his blankets I was was actually shocked)...

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    1. Beevee am behind u. My 1yr 8 is learning fast

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    2. This is how it should be I'm already grooming my nephews especially, cos a lot of young boys believe they especially kitchen duties is for women, but no it's for everyone.

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    3. This is how it should be I'm already grooming my nephews especially, cos a lot of young boys believe they especially kitchen duties is for women, but no it's for everyone.

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  9. This is my story right now.
    My househelp left without notice and finding another one hasn't been easy.
    Long and short of it, I'm on painkillers now as d workload is too much for me to carry...😫😫😫😭😭😭

    Worst of all, hubby is like a 3rd child, he joins d kids to scatter d house.

    I so much miss my single days abeg.

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    1. Tell your husband the workload is too much. Let him help out together with the kids. Stop hurting yourself.

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  10. I am a woman, I have help, my husband is domesticated too. I don't do any house chores...I cook once a day in the morning. I work from home, I get over 1m monthly from my business, I relax most times. Life is good. Women, please don't stress yourself, get a help and get you a good man. I pay bills too, me and hubby invest in businesses together and smile to the bank together. I have never worked for angoan..I manage the businesses from home and just go to the office to supervise because it's a farm. The lord is good bikonu.

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    1. 14;25. Lucky u ma

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    2. The Lord has equally been good to me but I have trust issues. I can afford different helps but my hubby and I only make use of gate man. I feel uncomfortable when other people bathe our kids. I prefer to cook our food and pack the kids food in their lunch packs. I make use of washing machine, the gate man spread the clothes.A lady comes in to clean weekly when I am overwhelmed.

      When I made use of maids, they just made me talk and talk and at the end of the day, I do the work myself because I was not satisfied. Also maids are a handful. It's like training someone else plus paying them for training them.

      My husband is supportive. I am currently pregnant and I keep wondering where to put my kids when it's time to deliver. My husband has to be with me in the hospital. I don't like the idea of them being taken care of by someone else.

      A positive thing that came out of all this is that my cooking has tremendously improved and I am more fit than when I had a maid.

      If you are in to Omugwo services pls comment with your location.

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    3. Cheers to the good life πŸ₯‚πŸ»πŸ₯‚πŸ»

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    4. Cheers to the good life πŸ₯‚πŸ»πŸ₯‚πŸ»

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    5. Nice one....

      Please, can you teach me how to make money from home????

      I will really appreciate this...

      Thanks and God bless

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  11. When it was just me and DH, he helped out. Now with teenagers, they cook what they eat. I cook what DH eat even when I had a help after first two deliveries.
    Washing machine or not, I taught all my kids to do hand washing. None should wear dirty clothes because one is in a. Place without power or washing machine. Yarns finished 😊😊😊😊

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    1. I had a groundnut n Irish potato farm in d north, but they kept cheating me till i pulled out...I tot I could run it from my state..

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    2. You need to be close to the farm.

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    3. @Blackey

      This one you come under my comment to farm groundnut and irish potatoes
      mmmmhhhhhh, I confuse o
      😊😊😊

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    4. 😁😁 reply meant for another comment .

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    5. @Blackey
      What are you doing... or rather what is "doing" you?
      Kpachakwara anya o
      πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  12. I don't stress myself out with house chores again. My hubby and I got someone who comes daily to clean and run errands. Abeg I never wan die now.

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  13. Hmmm. I got myself involved with a spoilt man who at 38 his mum does everything for. Initially I was forming good wife doing everything for this man until I put to bed and depression set in. He wanted his mum to cont serving him and me but I refused as I wasn't used to sitting down while your elders work. I requested for maid this guy turned my offer down that was how I cut down on what I was doing as I was working mon-sat plus a baby, I didn't die that period was the Grace of God. I started taking pills behind him to avoid another pregnancy this guy saw the pills and wanted to bring heaven down cos of it. That I want to be the man of the house and dictate for him how to bear his children. Naive me stop ooooo na so another belle take enter, my pple I cried and cried. I tried everything to force my period to come out e no gree I had to involve my bestie who encourage me to keep my baby as I don't know God's plan for me despite all the evil this so called husband of mine was doing. Thank God I listened to her. I kept this pregnancy still this man was harden to see I needed his full help. Behind him I started looking for help as I can't come nd die for him immediately I got help and informed the bastard wahala started again but this time around I was so prepared for anything. Na my money I go take bring the maid ooooo na me go still feed, cloth and do the needful for the maid still the bastard no gree, reason best known to him. It resulted to big fight families were involved he still no gree despite everybody making him see reasons why I needed a maid. Fight continued I hands off all house chores and face only my child, myself and pregnancy whether he exist wasn't my business. Guess what the fool did he packed out of the house and serve me divorce letter. Meself no mind as I was fed up with this guy telling me every now nd der how he was no longer interested in the marriage. I agreed to his divorce, got restriction order from the police in him coming to our house although he has come behind me to move some utilities away which I sharpely replaced thank God part of the the house rent I paid for. I just put my trust in God to see me thru this pregnancy all I need to do is double my hustle to take care of these precious gift God gave to me. As for marriage I'm done with it I don't think I will ever consider marriage again with this things my eyes saw for 2years. Marriage is overrated nd my next world I no ever try enter it. As for the bastard I leave him for God to judge I pray he settles with a woman who is the opposite of me.my advice to every wife is to get something doing as lots of guys 're full of bullshit. Imagine if I was not working and saving my own for don finish. I know where is he is now he is full of regret but me no sends I already I have a daughter nd by God Grace a son is coming wetin I dey find again. Single mother no easy but by God Grace I will succeed. I rather be single nd alive for my kids than die for a good for nothing man.

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    1. Haaaaaa..... Just 2years, this is really sad
      Parents need to do better with male kids
      His mentality is so sick
      Please stay strong please, you will carry to full term. I pray God gives you the strength to push through. Kisses and hugs.

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    2. You're a strong woman!
      God will come through for you!!!

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    3. He is wicked and definitely full of regret as he acted unreasonably towards you. Sis he will come back begging write it down

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    4. That was his a male friend then in school who was interested in me told me he can never do house chores then I told him that his wife will get house help then. For him to say when he impregnated her nobody should dare complain because he never supported it. That was when I realised that his case was out of this world and I avoided him. Parent should let their wards know that the kitchen is also their place and stop feeling entitled to a woman's cooking all the time. See what things like these leads to. They don't want to cook but na dem dey eat pass. They can't cook, they run away from it but they expect someone else to embrace till she gets old and still help out with bills. Not all men though😁

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    5. Thank you my fellow people, as for the maid I got myself a 15 yrs old immediately who has been so helpful I never knew waking up in the morning and seeing everything has been done is so sweet. I'm living my best life now all this while I have been in bondage I didn't know. ThanK God for my siblings who has been supportive also. I say amen to your prayers and I believe my redeemer Liveth Amen.

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    6. Anon 14:44 you will be just fine sotay pass sef. You sound like a strong woman. You will raise those 2 precious jewel of yours just fine and right. If he contributes to their up bringing, all good. Some men are full of bulls*t, or is it the ignorance that even with so many people advising , they're still stuck in that archaic mindset.

      Like you said, and I hv tried in my own way to explain on thus blog, that girls empower yourselves. Don't just sit there and be wishing for some guy w money to come marry you. What are you bring on the bargaining table? Good looks, birth children does not make the cut. This empowerment is for you to have something to fall back on to when wahala burst.

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    7. Really marriage is overrated. My husband was so supportive with my first child but now he expects a thank you for thr little things he does. Guy are you okay? The floor you swept is it mine? The child you fed or carried na my own? The food you made was for all of us na. Have i ever requested for a thank you since i have resumed duty as your wife? Now i sleep 12am trying to put things order and you are telling me crap. I think i have played the strongwoman role too much.

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    8. So sorry abt your experience. Would he have minded if you got someone who comes in daily and goes home afterwards? Although it seems you have made up your mind and your family members have been involved and words may have been exchanged, I'm just pained when couples divorce, especially where kids are involved. If his only major shortcoming is chores, I wonder if getting someone to come in to do the cleaning, buying soups to store in the freezer or getting someone to come to the house to do bulk cooking, getting someone to do your shopping for you, etc would have helped reduce some of your stress.

      I won't lie and say I've been in your shoes, so I'm definitely not qualified to advise u. I used to live in Lagos and I had a very demanding job; my husband was working out of Lagos and was visiting the kids and I once or twice monthly. I definitely didn't wanna waste whatever time we had together on chores, but those tips up there were what kept me going. Wish u the best

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  14. marriage entails respect, companionship and love for one another, as such house chores should also mirror that. I have a help and a guy who clears the building and washes the car, have two kids so I also try to engage them, my 4yr old son is learning to arrange his bed. set the table for food with water and always take plates to the kitchen. in essence I try not to do it alone(a baby girl for life). my hubby and I are both professionals,but hubby tries by making sure machines are working, washing machines ,cars and all! he might not be cosmetically inclined ,he makes sure he pays all the helps and he,s a very nice boss to them. I cannot kill my self is my motto to house chores, if my helps are unavailable, we share the work or go on holiday,lol.

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  15. I'm not married yet but presently staying with my sis, my sister is a neat freak but the husband cant strike a match stick, he can't even put small thing like tea, if no one is around, he rather eat out or stay like that... initially when my sis begged me to stay with her i was scared cos the babe can mop and sweep, and they wanted to pack into a duplex, so you all can imagine the job

    The husband hired 3 helps for her, pay 2 and put one through school, he did that knowing she won't be able. There was a period my sis nearly killed herself with house chores that she lost a baby, waking up by 3pm and sleeping by 11pm.

    That when i knew house chores can kill a woman, my sis was so dark, lean and looking old, now there money and she has 3 helps, she does nothing now except cooking, and she cook and stock in fridge and it picks her for 2weeks, she bought washing machine

    People don't recognize my sis no more, cos she looking trim, with skin popping and looking so happy. And i realize i can't come and kill myself when I'm married

    Men pls if you cant atleast help, pls provide an help pls, Some women are dying, the strength God gave us ehhhh, women are too hardworking.. i left an ex when he couldn't even wash his clothes, or mop a house, always telling me that why he carries women, cos it was long distance, so that they will do it for him.. During our courtship, the sister told me i should be ready to work hard oh, cos the brother can't even carry water to go bath that i must be ready to drop it for him if the tap is not running, i carried my two legs and walk away, before i will come and die

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  16. Hmmm! My people where do I start from? I have a husband who helps out occasionally. When he wants to help out ehn, he will turn the whole house upside down and clean it. The whole place will just be glittering but when he doesn't want to help out, it's a nightmare! I have a little boy of 1yr and 7months who is a HANDFUL. He keeps me on my toes from the time he wakes up till he falls asleep. I work but each day I'm the last person to sleep (@2am) and first to wake up (@4:30 - 5am). It's so tiring. We have a washing machine but still, I find myself being overworked with other chores. I recently got a house keeper to help out (part time on weekdays and full time on Saturdays) but she left after 3days and said the work was too much for the money we agreed on. Okay na, I asked her to come back and agreed to increase the pay, yet she didn't show up. Maybe the work was overwhelming for her. Certainly I know we didn't wrong her in anyway as we were really nice to her during the short time she worked with us. Now I'm still looking for a house keeper. Someone said she knew of a person who could do the job but confided in me that the lady is a talker. I declined having her work for me as I'm a very quiet and private person and wouldn't want a talker for a housekeeper who would put my business out there... Let me stop here and continue my work.

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    1. I really thank God cos of the way my brothers were brought up. They cook and clean in our family house just as me and my sisters do; and guess what, I think they are even better cooks than we are. Now my eldest bro is married and still does same in his home. He even cooks most of the time and tidy up everywhere. He baths and feeds the kids, changes diapers...like basically most housechores yet he's the sole breadwinner of his family.

      I believe all these has to do with the kind of family one grew up in. Some parents make their girls work out their asses doing household chores while the boys go about playing and waiting for their foods to be served to them. So why won't they grow up thinking that their wives are their maid.
      Train a king and watch him treat his wife like a queen but train a bossy-man and watch him treat his wife as a maid. It all started with our generation. Let's do the right thing.
      Most of the ladies that complain about their husband not helping at all would still overpamper their sons while their daughters are in the kitchen.
      Ladies and gentlemen, let's start with us.
      Peace✌

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  17. To be honest, it's no joke at all. Waking up so early to cook, clean, bath our cutie, head to the creche and then to the office and back to continue the work is just not funny.

    We had to get a washing machine to make things easier and thank God hubby helps out too. I always appreciate his efforts cos, not all men can do such. The good thing is I enjoy doing them but it can so drain one's energy sometimes.

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  18. When we were in primary & secondary school we shared house chore,normal thing,i cannot remember seeing my mom cleaning,she has always had maid when we were much younger.
    How will you say the era of washing cloths with hand is over in Nigeria? Is there another Nigeria,abi no be this poverty stricken naija.
    Anyway it was in May last year my mom bought a big auto washing machine,I was the only one among my sibling still living with them, & I washed their cloths, did house chores with my cousin,as big as the house is(6bedroom duplex with two large sitting rooms) we usually lock up rooms not in use, clean places used frequently. although sometimes my parents ask the gateman to wash some cloths.
    I must say that washing machine has really helped.
    My sisters that are married usually have young girl/lady that help them come around to clean the house & furniture's twice a week, this is easy to get in a place like abuja where you have the aboki them..but you have to pay well & give them food else they will always not come back to work for you.
    Mehnnnn this life is too hard for a mother working class or stay at home not to have a help o, except you have a small apartment or you just cannot afford it.
    Make person no go old die before im time.

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  19. To the women doing all chores alone without help ehugs because it is not easy at all.. My husband is very helpful especially when it comes to handling the kids.. He doesn't like to be reminded on what to do but with the little he has been doing, i appreciate because house chores are unending

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  20. God bless my hubby for helping out the little ways he can. He goes grocery and market shopping for us because he knows I detest going to the market. He helps me with our toddler when I need to get things done. I dont have a maid so I do all my chores myself. I wash dishes immediately we are done eating, clean up the kitchen once I am done cooking. I sweep the house everyday but only mop 2-3times a week.
    I still handwash my clothes and my daughters but I dont keep them to pile up. I wash our clothes everyday because I cant wash plenty clothes at a time. I wash what we wore for the day before taking my shower at night. I cook 2soups and stew over the weekend so its easy for me during the week. My DH does his laundry himself.

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  21. My husband can eat a two week old refrigerated food. He doesn't care and he hates wasting food. He helps around the house. In fact I'm lazy when it comes to house chores, and I thank God for my husband. He makes the bed, hover the house, tidy up everywhere. I do these when I feel like, he does them most days. He likes seeing everything in its place and he dies that himself. I cook food on weekends and put then in the freezer and fridge and na to eat them till they finish. He looks sometimes too. When he notices I'm tired and can't get out of the day. He will go to the kitchen and cook. He will still come to the bed and massage my legs (I love leg message)

    He's a hardworking medical doctor too. I thank God for giving me a husband and a helper. I can't kill myself.

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  22. The Lord has equally been good to me but I have trust issues. I can afford different helps but my hubby and I only make use of gate man. I feel uncomfortable when other people bathe our kids. I prefer to cook our food and pack the kids food in their lunch packs. I make use of washing machine, the gate man spread the clothes.A lady comes in to clean weekly when I am overwhelmed.

    When I made use of maids, they just made me talk and talk and at the end of the day, I do the work myself because I was not satisfied. Also maids are a handful. It's like training someone else plus paying them for training them.

    My husband is supportive. I am currently pregnant and I keep wondering where to put my kids when it's time to deliver. My husband has to be with me in the hospital. I don't like the idea of them being taken care of by someone else.

    A positive thing that came out of all this is that my cooking has tremendously improved and I am more fit than when I used to have a maid.

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  23. I have a washing machine,my working class sister helps out,I work too but seriously,house chores have made my waist bone to start shaking.Looking for a time I will be less busy at work so that I can go to the hospital.
    I seriously wish I could get a help.

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  24. My own will leave the house dirty and dishes when I am sick.with the children even if I want to die.he will come back and ask for food.now I am sick.i cooked and did not give him

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  25. When i was dating my hubby, I never cooked for him and he knew i disliked house chores. Ever since we got married I have had various hous helps. Once one leaves, we replace them. We are both professionls and with four kids. I have a driver also cos I have a phobia for driving. We pay our current housekeeper 45k cos she has been with us for over 2 years and she has been wonderful. My driver is paid 45k too cos he sometimes work on Sunday and I close very late from work during the week. Hubby understands that stress is not good for his baby and he makes provision for most of our needs while we share some responsibilities.

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  26. Thank u Stella for bringing up this topic, my hubby is annoyingly lazy, even carrying a baby is difficult for him. I can't type due to tireness frm house chores. God bless women

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  27. Feel so sorry for those who are shouting “hubby pays for help” when una relocate abroad, you go hear am! Pls speak up early in the relationship, BEFORE marriage, don’t wait till years later IN marriage! That’s how you will end up in yankee or Canada and realize there is NO help and no one will be coming to be your slave even if you pay $25/hour!

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    1. House chores can be really stressful especially when your hubby is not ready to help. I told hubby I need to take leave,just recovery from the stress.

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