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Sunday, October 06, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

This Chronicle might piss you off.....












STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

ABOUT TO MARRY A TROUBLESOME WOMAN

Good day Stella,
I have a very pressing and urgent matter disturbing my mind and I need your family on the blog to please discuss it.
I live abroad and I have a girl I intend to marry by January next year. We have done both engagement and introduction and she just finished her NYSC program this month. 


I have been responsible for all her expenses throughout school and everything which I love doing because i grew up to learn that from my dad.
Now the issue I have with her is that she is too self centered and it surprises me that a woman can actually be like that. 


I am the first child in my family and I help my younger ones for financial assistance once in awhile and also help my mum by taking care of her but she feels my family members are using me and that it is not right for a man to be doing all these things because I am planning to have a family soon. I have a very strong family bond with my mum and younger ones and I try my best to assist them when they really need it but she feels it’s wrong that they are using me. 


This is a girl I give money to for ALMOST everything. I send her mum money sometimes and she doesn’t object to it. I reminded her that last year, I spent my money to help her brother travel out of the country but it didn’t work out and I lost my money in the process.


She told me that I should be ashamed of myself as a man to even talk about assisting her brother. I am totally confused because my mum actually told me in private last year that I shouldn’t allow any woman come between me and my younger ones because we’ve had this bond from young age and we are close. It’s like my mum saw that spirit in her and it scares me. 


Now I am planning to come to Nigeria this month and I decided to get some things for everyone which I always do in the past. She asked for different things from me to buy for her and I didn’t object. I told her I am getting a bag for my aunt and she got angry that why Should I get a bag for my aunt? That a man is not supposed to be carrying family family matter on his head. 



Then she complained about me being things for my siblings since am coming home soon. This is a girl that almost everything I have shopped for is for her. I shopped for her mum too and she knows that. Please I really need people to have a say on this issue maybe am wrong and she’s right in a way. I just want to know what’s best to do because am getting married to her soon and I can’t afford to regret my life.


 I am actually relocating with her abroad after the marriage. I sent some screenshots of our conversations and please let me post everything for people to read.
I appreciate it so much stella and I want to give out 50k to two people who really needs it...


















Reading this really pissed me off.....
Did you say you are about to Marry this woman?It would be better to remain single than to marry this ticking time bomb...This woman will come into your life and destroy the peace and unity...DO NOT MARRY HER..


PS: THE poster will choose the winner from the comment section and gt back to me ....Poster please choose oh

317 comments:

  1. For your own sake poster, take a walk!marriage will even be more hell!It is ok for him to assist you his girlfriend + ur family but its not when he does same for his family!! She must be madddd!!Shine ur eyes oooo!

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    1. How have you been managing with this woman..?She's toxic
      This lady is everything trouble

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    2. She is obviously a "slay queen" with empty skull, why write "to" as "tu".
      What da hell.
      Poster there re other well behaved women with big ass and boobs.
      Awon "body odour " wannabes.
      On top person money.

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    3. If you marry this girl you will regret your life!

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    4. Better a failed introduction and engagement than a failed marriage. Do not marry that girl,she is the devil itself.

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    5. This babe lacks respect for you and she is really immature with an entitlement mentality.

      Meanwhile, reading her responses was straining. What's with 'tu'. And she is a graduate??? Hmmmmm 'scarifying' is that an English word?

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    6. Haaaaaa! Don’t marry this girl o, i swear you will regret it! It’s a promise, you haven’t even wedded her and she’s already like this, how much more when she becomes madam.. iga atakutakwa ya aja o, she’s a very wicked girl and she can’t write too! How will she teach your kids assignment? Run oooo

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    7. I see a lady that listens to outsiders opinion about her affairs. She must have been discussing you, your immediate family relationship and what you do for them with the wrong people. It's obvious that you love her but I pray she don't ruin you.

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    8. Poster from the way she talks this girl will give you heart attack. I will advice you take a walk. I see you love her. But when she enters you life she will deal with seriously. Someone who should be talking soft about the issue is already controlling you. Bros leave love o. You need peace of mind in .marriage.

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    9. Oh my goodness. I was so angry that i had to stop reading the messages half way. This girl is a witch oh. How can a woman dare try to stop you from taking care of immediate family. Please run away from her. Don't marry oh, even if she comes back begging you and telling you she has changed, don't believe oh. This is too bad. please find someone else that will love your mum and your siblings like her own and keep the bond stronger.

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    10. My goodness!
      I couldn’t even read the chats till the end! Very headache-inducing! Sheesh!!
      I’m ashamed of this woman. Honestly.
      She’s very entitled, manipulative and controlling!
      Moronic too.
      How will this one train her children???

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    11. I didn't finish reading ... poster I don't understand the blind love you have for someone that's makes you overlook the fact that your family means nothing to you... Without your family I bet you won't be where you are today...

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    12. You really should be scared to go into this. Once has a sister -in-law who was that way. She's late now but was married for about 50years. It was 50 years of hell for hubby's family. Her family too did not fare better as her kids were grossly spoilt to the detriment of even her family later on. No one in that marriage won -,not even her eventually! She was just one of women like her. You'll never do enough for this ur witch. Run while you have ur sanity - they're usually insatiable. Duh & she writes like she does? Wasted ur money too cos school didn't pass through her nor broaden her focus! Cut ur losses & run for your dear life with ur family intact!

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    13. Cheiiii! English has died oo.
      poster, first of all Ehn, look at your English and the way you type and then just take a look at hers... you no see say that's the first visible sign say you two una no fit
      Ameaaaaan just look at the way the so called graduate is typing, I could not even continue after the first two screenshot and my eye is already turnioniown

      Anddd if she does not see your worth, she does not deserve you
      when she is old and grey won't she want her own child to take care of her the way you take care of your parents????
      I can't deal pls... You really deserve better poster, you are worth more than gold and it's obvious she does not see that

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  2. I known so many people will support the man bcos of the giveaway. sideeye

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    1. Lmao..... ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ Whose side are you on? *I known

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    2. You think everyone is as backward as you aunty “known” SMH.

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    3. 15.06 may all the males in your family marry her kind

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    4. Not everyone is looking for give-aways. Some of us are genuinely telling him the truth. My personal and bitter experience has taught me some valuable lessons which I am happy and willing to share, so that others can learn and avoid the mistakes I made.
      Avoid a toxic person whether it's a male or female. I don't know the lady but the conversation that was posted speaks volumes about her. She has personal issues she needs to address. Poster, please don't let her guilt trip you into taking her back. Such people will use every means to get you to accept them back when you choose to walk away.
      At the start she might make it seem like she is doing you a favour. When she realises that you are serious about ending the relationship then the blackmail starts. Poster, no matter the method or tricks or promises, please don't take her back. I repeat don't take her back. You deserve way better than what you are receiving. I took a walk and I am in a happier place.

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    5. okwa dat Igbo gal6 October 2019 at 16:07

      I can spot hungry local rats when i see them! You are the only one who thought about the giveaway. Get a life! You are just like the foolish fiancee. Greedy lots

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    6. Poster 16.04 you are very right. That girl is toxic and controlling she will give that guy problems. Do not marry that girl with this kind of attitude. I had a bitter experience too.

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    7. Anon 15:06 you are a fool. Mr poste break up with her fast. Don't waste any time. See her english self and she is a graduate. She needs to go back to school. Wicked girl, i am sure she is from a hungry family and she sees you as her meal tickets. This type of girl can leave you when you are down. They are the ones that maltreat househelp and other people children

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  3. Poster, abort mission. Abort mission. Abort mission. Or you will regret marrying her.

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    1. Lmao @ abort mission

      My own pain is money spent on her education, he could have used that money to establish a business for one of his siblings

      Dang !!!!

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    2. Poster Run๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ

      Run far far.

      I nor mind the giveaway๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

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    3. Gbosa!๐Ÿ‘‹
      Gbosa!!
      Gbosa!!!

      Poster, I just gave you three correct e-slaps.
      The first slap is to clear off the jazz from your eyes, just in case, she used jazz on you to marry her. I mean, how will you even be thinking of marrying her after all you have seen.

      The second slap, is to make sure all the jazz (plus punani sweetness) fall from your eyes.

      The third slap is to reset your brain to start functioning normally. Now, you are rational enough to make a good decision you won't regret. Inukwa!

      #Vikenx-Virus

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    4. What's with the stupid way the girl types sef??? Very nauseating, tu tu everywhere. Ahhh

      Poster dump this girl like a bad habit.

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    5. I follow you lmao off @ abort mission

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  4. This lady is an agent of discord..trying to create a problem where there is none, kindly avoid her

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    1. She’s even disrespectful sef. See how she’s already talking to her life partner! Mehn I fear o

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  5. Poster, if you love you self and want to live a healthy, long and happy life. Please don’t marry this woman. Break off that engagement ASAP.
    This woman will only come to ruin your lives, destroy your family and won’t even care.
    What’s wrong in helping out your own family? When you do same same for her family, she feels it’s her entitlement. Really?
    She is the USER here.
    Know that if she succeeds in tearing your family apart, you will be on your own.
    You haven’t even married her, she’s doing this. When you marry her, she will make sure you don’t reach out to your family anymore. Visiting you will be a huge problem.
    You want to live a life of regrets?
    Don’t MARRY and inconsiderate woman, you ๐Ÿ‘‚๐Ÿฟ
    It’s better to avoid certain things cos fixing later might not work.

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    1. Poster, even if she is the most beautiful woman, the neatest or the best chef in the world or her VJ juice is the sweetest, please for your own good discard her.

      How can one be so selfish like this? Not as if she doesn't have her own care and share of goodies yet making issues when there is none.

      If she is looking for a guy or man without family responsibility then she should look for the Dangotes and marry. As if that is easy? Rubbish quit that relationship for your good.

      The devil is a liar, nobody should destroy other people's family and expect theirs to be intact.

      Bv side chick

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    2. This type, when she comes abroad, she will make sure she divorce u and collect ur house and then a large part of ur income will go for child care. The girl is baaad newx

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  6. Guy, marry this girl at your own peril.. You already know know what you're getting into, she will destroy the relationship with your family, just t have you for herself ajsvher family.
    Drop her off now and don't look back. She's a bad market.

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  7. Come n marry me pls. I'm 27 years old n would appreciate you all you want. I'm serious pls. I will love u plus family

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  8. OMG!!! Maybe you should spend more time with her to really see her true colour.

    I know there are women in Nigeria worse than Tacha. This woman is going to frustrate you after getting married to her and moving to your base with her. This woman will show you pepper in the abroad.

    I will advise you start counting your loss....
    If you want to marry for love and peace, I don't see this happening with the person that had that conversation up there with you.

    It is very wrong to cause confusion in the family that marrying into.

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    1. Tacha fans will come for you ooo lolssss
      This chronicle is what they call dead on arrival

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    2. This woman will provoke you to hitting her in the abroad and you will lose everything you have worked for, run.
      She will gather her family and friends and start begging please dont listen because in Stella's voice she wont get a new attitude overnight.

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  9. This girl is a WITCH! Bros don't MARRY this girl I repeat don't marry her I beg you.,. God will send you your wife this one no be am .

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  10. Kai oga I kneel down dey beg you DO NOT MARRY THIS WITCH. She will destroy your family and if possible destroy you too. For the sake of your mum run away from this bitch before it is too late. Seems she has jazzed you

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  11. Poster pls run for your life. There are many fishes in the ocean. Although I know you might be feeling what of all the time, energy and resources but let it go. A broken relationship is better than broken marriage. Good luck.

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  12. GOD FORBID! DON'T MARRY ANYBODY THAT COMES BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR FAMILY! SHE IS A HORRIBLE PERSON AND YOU WILL DEFINITELY REGRET IT. SHE'S PRACTICALLY MILKING YOU DRY. YOU BETTER RUN!
    I COULDN'T EVEN READ THE CHATS TO THE END. SHE IS UNCULTURED AND I'LL MANNERED.
    YES, I'M SHOUTING!!!

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  13. "Dea dea dea" I don't support men who neglect their wives n care for their family likewise I don't support men who abandon family n care for their wives alone, there should be a balance in everything and you as the provider shouldn't over stress yourself for anything coz if u die today, hunger will not kill anybody, infacr life goes on for the living...don't abandon your mom please for the sake of this selfish girl whom u wanna marry, for your peace of mind, get another girl.

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  14. this is outrightly so sad!! Oga, I know you might still go ahead and marry this lady because you fell committed, but that would be the biggest mistake of your life. am married to a first born son like you, my husband takes care of his parents and younger ones, he tells me how much he spends on them, I have never in my seven years of marriage asked him how much he sends to them, because he also cares for me ,our children and so generous to my people.besides,i,m a professional myself,so stopping him from caring for his is witchcraft. I have brothers and I also pray daily they don't come across women of this type who will bring problem to my family! that lady up there is a ticking time bomb. use your head, I believe marriage should be practiced in truth.

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    1. Thank you. She is heart attack in making. He sounds so in love too. Which will lead him to problems. I can imagine her screaming at him .."you should be ashamed of yourselve" wife to be mbanu.

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  15. Bro, please DO NOT MARRY THIS PERSON. You won't know peace at all! That said, I got a headache trying to understand what she was typing. A graduate is still typing like that?

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  16. Dump that girl as soon as possible.

    Don't ever allow any woman to come between you and your family, Don't ever allow it.

    She can't love you more than your Mom and siblings.

    Why are some women like this?

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  17. Dear poster,please come and marry me. I'm 27 years old n we will live happy always. I'm beautiful n you won't regret. pls I'm very serious.

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  18. Hmm this is a big turn off. She will definitely come between you and your family if you eventually get married to her. Please am interested in the giveaway. Kindly consider me to use it to settle part of my hospital bills, can even be paid directly to hospital account. Thanks in anticipation

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  19. The most stupid thing a man would do is to train a woman through school in anticipation of marrying her.
    Such women are very entitled!

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  20. The most stupid thing a man would do is to train a woman through school in anticipation of marrying her.
    Such women are very entitled!

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  21. This woman will drain you oo Uncle Her spellings sef they tire me to read. What nonsense short hand is that.

    Shey of she born tomorrow and her kids start neglecting each other she will be happy. Mr you are not doing anything wrong, the only thing wrong here is the woman you are about to marry. You sure say you son reach final destination with this one. Imagine if this talk wasn't chatting. She sounds troublesome.

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  22. The lady is obviously not a good person. Doing things for your family shouldn't be a big deal & she doesn't have the right to complain. It's your immediate family you are talking about not someone else. Please keep on doing good things for your family and they are your family for that reason. They come first no matter what. As far you are not doing it in a negative light, please gear on. For a marriage to work, you both should be thinking alike, from what I see your thoughts & hers don't align in any way. Just be careful & don't rush into the remaining part of the marriage to avoid regrets later on.

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  23. Please I beg you, whatever you do, do not marry this lady. What’s wrong with helping your siblings ? She’s evil and a very selfish person. I got angry reading your chats. Even if she begs you that she will change, don’t fall for it! This one will scatter your family oh. Can you imagine ? Is she the one working for your money ? Oshisco

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  24. Dont marry her when u take her abroad she Will disappoint u big time and help her family secretly after destroying yours. God loves you thats why she started this quarrel

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  25. That lady is a disaster waiting to happen. Marry her and you'd trade your peace for a lifetime of constant nagging. Trust me, it would get worse when you wife her. Shine your Eyes mbok.

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  26. Somethinglite lover6 October 2019 at 15:21

    Please run as fast as your legs can carry. You should abandon your family cos you want to get married... Na you first marry? See the way she is typing tu tu tu up and down. It is a great pleasure to be able to help you parents and siblings. She has no rights to tell you how to spend you money. If you go ahead to marry her just remember, you will never be happy cos nothing you do will ever be good enough for her.

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    1. Very poor English nowadays. Some will argue that it’s not our mother tongue or that it’s just for sms purposes.
      As long as it’s our lingua franca, we should speak and write it properly. Using frequent and unnecessary abbreviations or hood slang (aint,watcha, talmabout etc) will become a habit that will adversely affect the quality of language use.

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  27. I think I understand where this lady is coming from but then she is doing it in a wrong way. Sometimes people sacrifice for their family only to be abandoned by them later in life when you need them. But from what I saw in the chats the guy is just doing his basic responsibility and contribution towards his family which is not bad at all. Pls oga you need a supportive wife not a destructive one be wise.

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    1. I also understand the point she's coming from but her approach is wrong and I feel she has taken it to a whole new level.
      Why should your bf not be able to take care of his family because of you??
      Poster,I don't see why you should tell your girlfriend everything you do for your family. Its not about you being secretive but there's no point for her to know. So as I am now,I will tell my husband every time I send money to my parents?? For what! When they were sacrificing and taken Carr of me was he there??
      If you decide to still go ahead and marry her,then you need to draw the boundary NOW. May I not marry who will stop me from taking care of my family

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    2. Two witches up there ๐Ÿ‘†

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    3. Yea, she is trying to make a point actually but in the wrong Manner and with the wrong attitude.it's okay for her to suggest you make investments and curtail spending but not complaining about taking care of your family. There is a way to do these things but speaking like this is just so evil of her. Clearly small pikin is still doing her.

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  28. If you can get out of marrying her YOU BETTER DO IT. She is toxic and will destroy your family harmony.

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  29. Poster I beg you with God the Father, Son and Holy spirit to a walk. If I tell you what my brother is facing in his 5 years of marriage with similar storyline ehen. plssssssssssssss take a walk. you could actually give her a good cash and tell her its over. Family is everything.

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    1. Poster, please don't take this advice. Don't give her any cash. What are you paying her off for? Don't be stupid and make other useless girls start feeling entitled to payoff after messing up. This is beyond you, this is for all the brothers worldwide. Don't complicate things for us, the ones on ground is already too much for us to handle.
      Thank you.


      Dante

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  30. First off Sir, if everything up there is truly how it has played out, please stop rendering financial assistance to her and her family because it will shock you to know that her mind is on someone else whom she perceives to be more loaded and a free giver and might even be living abroad and you are the means to get her to him.

    Secondly, have a serious rethink on getting her to join you over there before you become homeless or penniless or a jailbird because of her.

    Thirdly, have a serious rethink on everything and start detaching yourself from her. Have it at the back of your mind that you just helped someone and let it go. Start afresh with someone new and please stop being Onyeoma Emeka to every lady. Know when to assist and when not to.

    Lastly, have it at the back of your mind that because you assisted them financially doesn’t mean she will end up with you. You are just a meal ticket to each and everyone of them. Open your eyes and have a reality check.
    Finally, Assist your siblings & mum (if they are interested) in moving abroad if you can, first. If you have nothing to do with your money(ies), please save it for your future kids because you and them will definitely need it someday.

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  31. I will always say this men stop bringing your chronicles to SDK,the ladies here won't give you a good advice...you will see them still trying to see how terrible the guy is and how men are scum... They will say you are mummy's boy.. Thats how terrible there advice can go...

    Brother you know what to do unless the babe get big breast and ass wey dey turn your head if not you would know this is a wrong choice...

    Just be careful with the advice you get from here oooo....no one needs to tell you you know what to do.

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  32. Poster, please do not marry this woman.She will surely come between you and your family, her name is trouble!!

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  33. Nawa o,this is deep
    Your wife and kids should be your first priority when you are married but that doesnt mean you shouldnt take care of your extended family,especially if you are capable of doing so.
    Ill advice you to talk to her and let her see things the way you do and if shes still adamant about you not taking care of your extended family,Uncle pls RUN,shes really selfish..
    My husband shoulders almost all d responsibility,its not easy for me but i would never tell him not to take care of his mother,aslong as he isnt depriving me and my daughter of some neccesity..
    This girl is selfish,very selfish..
    Please think about marrying her carefully before you do

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  34. Dont think of marrying her, abort mission

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  35. Dont think of marrying her, abort mission

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  36. Please do not marry this woman! I beg you in the name of God. God to her family and apologize. Go to your mum and explain why you changed your mind. DO NOT TRY IT. This kind of person is not ready for marriage. She can kill you.

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  37. You are about to marry a slay queen who has nothing to bring to the table but a bloated sense of entitlement..worse is, she is also about to destroy your family as well. Go and read the book of Proverbs about marrying a foolish woman.

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  38. A graduate typed these? “tu” “dea”. Hey God! Poster this typing style is enough to even make you call off the wedding. Graduate that cannot communicate properly in written form.

    Seriously speaking now, poster you dey see rainbow flags (this one pass red) and you are still asking a rhetorical question. Marry her and say GOODBYE to your peace and family unity.

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    1. I have been laughing ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
      Lol @typing style...very poor.

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  39. bros marriage is not a child's play oh. I have been there, paid my dues and am out cause of wrong choice. so the earlier you detect any threat to your happiness and anything that will come between you and your family you cut it out. marriage no be beans. OK to the main issue bros I really need that 50k. Stella nwayioma pls take note.

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  40. Poster, for your peace and sanity, please, do not go ahead with the marriage plans. What the heck. Even the girl's chat gives me migraine.

    Na wa for some of us women o.

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  41. Carry her to that abroad and she will kill you

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  42. Poster, please don't marry this lady. She is very greedy and selfish. She should come and see a first born that is being used and she will not have mouth to talk.
    Truth is some families are users just like my in-laws, but this lady is going about her advice the wrong way.
    Most Nigerian first born are the sacrificial lambs of the families and it's so so wrong. You will just work and take care of children that you didn't give birth to and before you know it you are old or life have passed you bye. Please let's try and birth the number of kids we can comfortably take care of to avoid such stories.

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  43. Poster if you marry this girl your life is over. This girl only came to steal,destroy and then kill you. She will not only block you from helping your family members, she will use jazz on you, take your wealth and divorce you. If you reside in a country that favours women then you're completely FINISHED. She's the real Jezebel the bible talked about. I've seen this play out before, right now the man it happened to is cooling off in prison because he killed his wife out of bitterness. Pls poster run run run and don't look back!!!

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  44. You are a man that values family bond. So it will be a bad idea to marry someone without same ideology. But if you are still blindly in love with her maybe she is pretty, remember that beauty fades away. But also know that you are trying to start a family, so you should be wise in spending, don't spend to please anyone. Do the right thing for your mum as a son. That's the only benefits she will get for having you in her life. Good luck in making the right decision.

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  45. Live him, his case will be like that man in the abroad that ran his vehichle into his ex wife apartment. You are holding a,stick that is infested with soldier ants and asking if you should hold onto it or discard it. Be there and don't do the needful until them chook your photo inside bottle throway for atlantic ocean.

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  46. Hahahahaha. The poster is still asking.
    This woman will starve your mother id she manages to visit. She might beat her on top.
    She is from a dysfunctional family, and unfortunately, she is letting it define her

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  47. Poster one word for you: forget that you love this woman and run!!!! She won't give you peace if you marry her.

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  48. Chai God help mothers o. After suffering on their children, one stupid girl will now be saying the hubby should not take care of his mum and siblings. Have you married him and he isn't taking care of you and your kids? Please wifes stop discouraging your husbands from taking care of their loved ones (not a point of affecting their immediate family though) Remember you are going to have daughter in-law some day. Most of this mothers sacrifice alot on their children, some hawk in under sun and rain to send the man you married to school.most of their siblings even share in the suffering. Poster think twice before you marry this person sha

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    1. Funnily enough, this poster will go ahead and marry that woman. I pray God opens his eyes to see clearly.

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  49. Hahahahaha. The poster is still asking.
    This woman will starve your mother id she manages to visit. She might beat her on top.
    She is from a dysfunctional family, and unfortunately, she is letting it define her

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  50. Pls tactfully ease her from your life, i mean it o. Let your mum also be in the know about the leave of absence from the girl's life incase of incascity.

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  51. Pls update us on what happens.

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  52. This is what happens when you are dating someone that types 'tu' instead of to. And which one is 'dea', I legit had brain damage reading her part of the chat, my goodness.
    Please poster do not marry this manipulative dimwit. And what's up with ladies these days having a problem with a son caring for his family. We need to do better.

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  53. Enter your comment...u never get wife.

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  54. Poster that girl is a bad news. drop her like hot metal.

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  55. Big Mama Thornton6 October 2019 at 15:38

    What are you asking us. The writing is on the wall mene mene sekemene..imagine so its ok for you to spend on her family but not yours...i pity your life..she will nagg yourself when it happens dont mention village people here

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    1. Mene mene ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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  56. Do not, I repeat do not try this. Poster, even very loving relationships end in bitterness and especially when such women pretend and are taken abroad, they ruin your life taking away all your sweat and be fucking a new man in your own house. Not to talk of this woman I'm reading her chat here. Don't be surprised she's been shining another dick here while you are there and spending the money you send on another guy. This lady does not appear to love you even with the way she was chatting. She's the user here. Count your losses and block her out of your life. She was not there when you grew under your mother's and family care. How dare she decide you have no business feeding the same mother that bore thee? She's an abomination to motherhood. Leave her abeg. Forget about your emotions.

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  57. One major thing that strikes me in this narrative is her lack of respect for you. Gosh... In my almost 6 years of marriage, I have never used an insulting word on my husband, and her is a lady that hasn't been put into the house raining abuses on her to be head. Na wa oh. Poster... I believe you would do the right thing

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    1. Exactly @anonymous 15:39 .Doesnt have an atom of respect for the man. Nawaoo. I don't think the girl loves him.... See her ranting 'I don't blame'. Nawaoo๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ 

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  58. You are weak to be a man in the home o,,,this lady will show you pepper if you eventually get married to her
    Why are you taking permission from her before doing things for your family with your money o? I am interested in the giveaway nitemi,it will definitely put something on my table. Thank you.

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  59. My goodness. When I was newly married, my husband and I stay abroad. He was under pressure from his father to complete their 3 storey leaking house in the village. They are five boys but only my husband contributed money. Others in Nigeria were pretending they did not have. We lived in one room in a five bedroom house for 10 months just to raise money to complete the house in Nigeria. My father in law died before the house was completed. I thank God I did not stop my husband from spending on his family or building the house in the village. Pls before you marry that kind of lady open your eyes, if you bring her abroad she will MESS UP UR LIFE. Abroad favour women than men. Depression is real.

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  60. There is fire on the mountain .....Run Run Run

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  61. Poster please break it off with this disrespectful,ungrateful person.She will obviously cut you off from your family once you marry her and family is EVERYTHING.With her stupid spellings,mbeke feeling funky.Please for your sanity and safety,cut her off and move on.You know she isn't good for you that is why you sent in this chronicles.It will be well with you in the end,someone that deserves you will come along.Write off all you spent on her and her people,it's not worth it.

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    1. Very disrespectful lady. Just imagine continuously insulting d man.... "I don't blame you, shame on you,0u should be ashamed of yourself for mentioning helping my brother, did my family beg you to help them"Nawaooo. In my 4 yrs of marriage, I have never used abusive languages on my husband and neither has he.

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  62. Dear poster, RUN!!!!!!! And don't look back.

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  63. Oh my God!! Count your losses and run run run! This one is nothing. The real demon will manifest fully after you tie the knot if you dare! God loves you and is showing you snippets of what is to come. The Bible is clear on your responsibilities to your parents my dear, and it's the one commandment with a promise (Exodus20:12). Please do not let any being derail you from the reason God is probably blessing you like He is. The Lord Grant you wisdom and strength to take the right and obvious decision in this matter!

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  64. She sounds like a manipulative witch.
    My goodness don't get me started with her English, did you say she is a graduate? Her spelling gave me a headache!
    Listen from a woman, do not marry her you are a wonderfully nice man she knows.she's taking advantage of your goodness she wants it all to her self if you marry her she will sit on top of your head and makes sure nothing goes to your family.
    3 words
    Selfish, greedy and manipulative!

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  65. I think the girl isn't matured and a selfish as well, take a break from the relationship to set things straight. I'm interested in the giveaway for school fees payment..
    PGS

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  66. All of you telling the poster to leave the girl,dont really understand what she is saying,well Its too early for her to start talking,at least she should have waited till after the wedding and they live together,then she can politely tell her hubby to focus on his present family in a subtle way,she is trying to mark her territory pretty quick,which i feel is not 100% ok.
    That being said,if the siblings are mature like she claims,then i think its best they also fend for themselves and allow Bros grow,Meanwhile Bros should also start investing for the sake of his future.I am presently in a marriage where my hubby's sibling ate all his money he made abroad in the name of sending money back home for them to hold, these said siblings are very unapologetic and still keep demanding more,all his siblings both the sisters in thier husband's house,see hubby's money as thier own,they don't care about the children's future,i just kept quiet and used prayer to chase them,because thier own sibling love na money love,when hubby had issues abroad no body brought a dime or even bothered to ask me how i was coping,instead they just stayed put waiting for thier CBN to come back,now hubby is facing front,they are all saying he is wicked that he changed since he married me.lol
    pls poster,get to know the exact reason behind her attitude before you take the big step,if she is just wicked,bros take a walk.

    Thank you

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  67. Reading the chat between them, I tried to understand if she didn't comprehend what you were saying. You were basically repeating yourself yet she did not understand you (this is minus the abbreviations which gave me a headache).
    Dear poster, if you know you can tolerate her excesses forever, please marry her. This might be the tip of the iceberg because when she meets you at your base and you see her unveiled, you'll have yourself to blame.
    Why Dont you sit down and review your relationship with the guidance of the bible. Forever is a long time. Know what you can take and what you can't. I wish you the best.

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  68. Nigerian men really need to have standards and stop feeding on crap. What in the heavens is “tu”? Marry this one and watch peace disappear from your life.

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  69. All of you telling the poster to leave the girl,dont really understand what she is saying,well Its too early for her to start talking,at least she should have waited till after the wedding and they live together,then she can politely tell her hubby to focus on his present family in a subtle way,she is trying to mark her territory pretty quick,which i feel is not 100% ok.
    That being said,if the siblings are mature like she claims,then i think its best they also fend for themselves and allow Bros grow,Meanwhile Bros should also start investing for the sake of his future.I am presently in a marriage where my hubby's sibling ate all his money he made abroad in the name of sending money back home for them to hold, these said siblings are very unapologetic and still keep demanding more,all his siblings both the sisters in thier husband's house,see hubby's money as thier own,they don't care about the children's future,i just kept quiet and used prayer to chase them,because thier own sibling love na money love,when hubby had issues abroad no body brought a dime or even bothered to ask me how i was coping,instead they just stayed put waiting for thier CBN to come back,now hubby is facing front,they are all saying he is wicked that he changed since he married me.lol
    pls poster,get to know the exact reason behind her attitude before you take the big step,if she is just wicked,bros take a walk.

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  70. Beautiful Anonymous6 October 2019 at 15:49

    The worst part is that you aren't even married. Does she know how you went abroad?? What if your family sacrificed all to send you out?? And there she is demanding you neglect the woman who birthed, nurtured and saw you through to what you are today. Physically, emotionally and spiritually!!! That girl is a demon and a legion!! Do away with her without an iota of regret!

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  71. Let her go. For your sanity, don't marry her!!! Please don't. You won't have a happy marriage. Why would a woman have a problem with you taking care of your family???? She will bring confusion and Divide the family. May God give you a better woman.

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  72. Run o Run o my brother Run o...

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  73. This is the first time I will agree with Stella. Marry this woman at your peril. She will DESTROY your family and your happiness.

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  74. PLEASE DO NOT MARRY THIS GIRL. I was just shouting Jesus Jesus

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  75. This man will call off the wedding plans, aunty will come and beg, he will forego all common sense and take her back, expecting her to keep to her promise of changing her attitude.
    They will marry, go abroad, she’ll destroy his relationship with his family and leave him broken and a shadow of himself.

    I’m tired of giving advice in chronicles abeg.
    If you think something is wrong, it usually is. We need to stop second guessing ourselves.

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    1. Soothsayer I am also tired of giving advise here because it is like they don't read advise to learn and digest.
      Poster is it that she is so beautiful or because of the money you spent on her? You yourself know within you that something is wrong.
      Stella and Bvs are of one mind today and I am not saying any different.
      In short, the ball is in your court poster.
      Pls update us.

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    2. lol!! you are 100% correct soothsayer!! he will try to call it off, families will intervene, she will be told to promise him never to discuss such again, he comes home in Dec, she turns his brain with snake in the monkey shadow style on bed, she will promise to turn a new leaf until after the wedding and goes to live with him and gbam!!!!she unleashes herself!! poster what she has is innate, if you like listen, you guys think with your prick anyway

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  76. Ojuorolari girl. She will come into ur family and sow discord. Pls break it. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

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  77. My dear brother, please just walk away from this toxic relationship. Put an end to it. There is nothing worse than having a spouse who is against you and your family. I had to run for my dear life when it became a matter of life and death. There was no insult the fellow did not pass on my family. It was so toxic and overwhelming that I contemplated committing suicide. Ha, it is not worth it. I was supposed to be spending on my salary on the person's family. However, I dare not mention that my family need any form of help. The sense of entitlement was appalling. Please, take this as a sign from God to deliver you from her. Bros abeg don't go ahead with the marriage. Wait patiently for someone who will love you, love and accept your family as theirs.
    I wish you the best.

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  78. Babe is rude oh!!!
    Off to show oga this exchange, let him appreciate his level headed madam.

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  79. This babe right here is an agent of destruction

    please don't go ahead with the marriage, she will so give you problem

    I love the fact that you Care for your family and it's not like they are demanding too much from you

    Call of the wedding for your sanity and peace of mind
    One love bro, you are a good guy

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  80. She seems disrespectful and entitled from this conversation. How can she be pissed at you for supporting your siblings when you have the means? I don't see a marriage with this lady ending well.

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  81. Poster please do not marry this woman, a woman who does not want you to help your siblings and mum will end up destroying you.
    This is the type of woman that you will take abroad and she will faustrate you to that last, then walk away with all you've laboured for.
    God has given you the sign, the ball is in your court. Think twice my brother.
    May God help you.๐Ÿ™

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  82. She doesn't even know how to write. Must she write "tu" instead of "to"? Please leave this girl alone. Help one of ur siblings out of Nigeria so u won't have to carry all d family burden alone. U self no well o, u wan help ur gf brother out of naija when ur own bros need help....i need d 50k o abeg

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  83. Oga I repeat flee nd never ever marry her. As a wife it's wrong, id never tell my husband not to do anything for his family cos he does for mine too. I will never put my mouth in their family matter. She is not a good person at all. Even as a lady 1 thing I looked out for in husband is this, if u love my family then you have won me over, bcos we r a tight knitted family. So imagine u are the first son nd ur responsibility includes ur siblings, any Lady that loves u must love nd accept them. U never find wife nd if u go ahead ud regret it. She is selfish.

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  84. Poster please don't let any woman come between you and your family. Poster please I need that 50k. I need to start up a little business to assist my self and the kids. Thanks

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  85. I'm exactly like this lady, my husband was advised against marrying me, and he went ahead, 10 years after he still loves me, but I pity him, I can't allow my brother to marry my type, praying to be better but it's getting worse, my husband is serving me and my mother, I don't work and any little thing he do for his family, I will start shouting, I need help

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    1. Congrats anon. Continue u hear? Does your husband abi houseboy not have any siblings? Cant they come and fling ur things across the fence? Ur jazzman dey try for u well well. Rubbish!

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    2. It's good you know that you're at fault...
      Please try to work on your attitude.

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    3. At least you know you have a problem. God can deliver you. Go see a shrink to help you work on deep rooted issues.

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    4. the first step is that you realise you have a problem pls work towards change 'consciously and delibrately' and God will help you

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    5. You are more than evil. May all your sons marry a woman exactly you so they can treat you how you treat your in laws. Your husband is a fool to marry you

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    6. Say the truth you are a witch

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    7. You are a practicing WITCH. May God have mercy on your evil soul and deliver you.

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    8. She inherited it from her mom, d cycle continues. You can imagine this witch as a mother inlaw to an innocent woman.. I'm sure your daughter will take over from you witch practices then you take over from your evil mother when your daughter marry to cage another man ... If I have your kind in my family, I would have eliminated you witch. Wicked woman!

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    9. I think your mother is a witch and she passed it onto you.

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  86. This can go two ways.If this is the only vice she has(all women have one or more) but you love her and you are sure she loves you,marry her and Keep it from her whenever you’re doing things for your family.The second option is to walk away.

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    1. If he marries her, his none disclosure will cause problems because he can't always hide things from her. And her type will find out. There would be issues all the way. Lack of peace.

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    2. Recipe for disaster! You obviously don't know what marriage is all about! Start a marriage on a foundation of lies, deceit and hiding of information? Puhleeze;if that's the foundation, the woman is clearly not his wife. What kind of Doti love? If he cant be himself with her and she can't accept the real him, what rubbish "love" is that? That's why there are so many wrecked marriages, with such messed up advice!

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  87. Stella said it all , i dont do comment buh this....poster PLEASE, RUN.......Dont Marry her!.

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  88. okwa dat Igbo gal6 October 2019 at 16:03

    This bitch is a very bad and greedy wicked woman! DO NOT MARRY HER! She will make your life miserable! Who is she to dictate to you how you spend your money. All these local women that are trying to be tush...fear them! Your mother and siblings are very important, do not neglect them. She hasn't even com in and she's already like this... this is just a harbinger of what is to come in future. She will tear your close knit family apart. I am a woman too and it has never even occured to me to be like this. If youre igbo, take this - Izu ka mma na nne ji!

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  89. Just get ready to be living in bondage once you marry her. Seems like she has low IQ and is very manipulative. Best of luck.

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  90. To slap this poster they hungry me! Has she jazzed u? Better meet ur mum wen u get back and ask her to use her urine to wash ur face so ur eyes will be clear. One more thing, look for a wife, cos this person is not.

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  91. okwa dat Igbo gal6 October 2019 at 16:05

    Even from the way she types, I can tell she is just a village girl youre trying to tush up! Obviously, you're worlds apart, do not marry her, i repeat do not marry her! Especially if this conversation is not forged!

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    1. Nne eh iji okwu! Village girl that he’s trying to help biazi na awaa anya o.. Poster don’t marry her o, else anya ga afu gi iwa

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  92. Chai Nigerians judging from only one side of the story. For a man to put out discussions with her fiancee on social media calls for questioning. The man will be a terrible husband, argue with your keyboard ooo.

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    1. Unknown,
      If my late friend had opened up, she will still be alive today. Abeg, before he jumps into fire, it is best to seek advice.
      By the way, did he post her name? Do you know what measures he has taken before deciding to post it anonymously? I don't know you but remember that someone close to you may need your help.

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    2. Madam, i think we saw the 2 sides in the chat? Apart from the fact that we're advising one person. If she too wants our advice, she should tell us her own "side" and we'll advice her accordingly. QED.

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    3. there are no names or location attached it it so no problem

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    4. It is not one side. He posted their conversation. Can't you read it. It tells her kind of person

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    5. The man is not a terrible person and he won't be a terrible husband!

      He came with proofs which what women like his fiancรฉe deserve.

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  93. hmmmm, oga please don't marry her, my big brother married this type of woman, and he completely neglected us, he stopped everything he's doing for us, I was living with my brother before , this woman frustrated me, I do everything at home, I was the maid, the gardener everything, and if I need as little as 1k , she won't allow him to give me, the plan was for him to pay for my fashion school, but madam said if I start fashion school, who will be taking care of the kids? but the good thing is I was well fed when I was with them, and I appreciate that. she's now a prayer point for my mother, that God should touch her heart so my brother will remember us

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  94. Stella u r right, I am pissed off! Anger no let me finish d screen shots he sent. Wat rubbish!the way she talks/writes. Kai! Her attitude nko? Poster are u sure u dont owe her anything? As in she knows things about you that can send u to jail or something. If not better run as fast as ur legs can carry u

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  95. I can't even read everything but the little I gather, guy man! Abeg abort mission. This lady will not give you rest and would always complaint over every little things you do and the day you marry her your family will be no go area to your house. A word is enough.............

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  96. Bro RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!

    Break that engagement NOW NOW NOW, make sure you tell her family and your family why you are breaking it so that her family will be too ashamed to beg and even if they beg your family will never allow you to marry her and will reset your brain when you want to accept her back.

    If you accept her back don't let me see your choronicle here again just carry your cross in silence.

    If you marry her and take her abroad she will destroy your life. Either call police for you and give you criminal record on top domestic violence.

    Keep praying to God to find a lady in the abroad with papers and marry her jeje.

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  97. Poster please do not marry this lady. She is truly self centred. I am married to a guy from a large family. He has 9 siblings and I always encourage him to assist them in any way he can. That's what it means to have family. She not a good person.

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  98. Why does she keep hammering that they are using you? You have to let know and understand that it is your responsibility to your family. Stop discussing what you do for family with her. Just do whatever gives you peace.
    Btw, SDK please i need the money for my project in school. Thanks

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  99. I got really pissed reading this,
    From your chats, you have not done anything out of the ordinary for your mum and siblings,
    Its not like you have not done stuff for her and her family as well...
    I see a woman who is self centered, and wants your world to revolve around her and hers alone to the detriment of your own family.
    Again, the tone of the conversation reeks of disrespect.
    You are troubled by all of these but the answers you seek are right under your nose.
    It is better to dwell in the corner of a house alone, than to dwell in a wide house with a contentious woman.
    I wish you well.

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  100. Poster, shey you know that in this abroad that we are living in, it is the woman that the system favours. This your story reminds me of someone I know whose wife is dealing with him here. When he had the opportunity to walk away some years back, she begged and promised to change. Oga took her back. Today, his life is in shambles, she made life miserable for him. After ensuring that she had milked him, used him to relocate some of her family members, she filed for divorce. Now a large chunk of his superannuation goes to her, while providing child support as well as paying for the mortgage of the house.
    Bros it is not worth it oooo. By the way I am a woman and I will not advise my brothers to marry the type of lady you have posted above.

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  101. pls I need the money to start my catering business,oven ND d likes....God bless you

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  102. Ndi ntisa! She will make you hate your siblings and when you now need them they will turn against you.. don’t marry her, she’s even supposed to be trying to be impressing you by urging you to take care of your people.. This girl will finish your life! Runnnnnnn

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  103. Bros, you don't need all this stress. When you eventually marry her and take her abroad, she will lead to your downfall. It's not too late for you to dump her. Pls save yourself and your mental health by not bringing this devourer into your home.

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  104. Poster, I think she is toxic and would cause you problems. I also understand her point but for her to vehemently tell you not to do things for your siblings without any tangible reason is an issue. If I have a brother and he chooses to ignore us in time of our need would really hurt me. She ain't married to you yet, so I see no reason for all that drama. From what you said you've done for her up there, the little she can do is to be considerate of your family needs. How can my brother travel abroad and not buy things for my mum because his girlfriend says so.. That girl is wicked o. She should understand that your family is your family and they can't be taken away from you. Family bond and love is very important. I would advise you to leave that girl before she rips your family apart and make you an island. If you still want to stay with her, then don't let her know of your plans concerning your family.
    Also, poster you sound like someone who loves your family. So I would also advise you not to kill yourself trying to help your family and don't ignore them. Always think of yourself first, especially when you get married. If you can assist them, please do. It is better for all the siblings to be financially well off than only one person in the family.

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  105. The only question I have for you is what's the catch with someone who writes in that manner, she sounds and writes like an illiterate,whats with the constant abbreviations? Ha! I am guessing she is a slay queen with obviously nothing upstairs, kai painful to read

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  106. Oga, please do not settle for this!!!!, even if she promises heaven and earth that she has or will change, all nah scam. Run away because the next thing she will do if you object to the marriage is to cry beg and pretend. The moment you marry her, that's your end.

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  107. I can't be bothered to read everything.

    First of all, a mother who says what your mother said has no space in her heart for a daughter-in-law. And that's already a problem. Na her kind we dey go MFM for, so that God will teach her by any means necessary that He was serious when He said, "A man shall leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife." The unfortunate thing about Nigerian mothers (and I find it to be very demonic) is that they expect a man to do for their daughters what they don't want their son to take from his wife. Naija mama wants the family her son-in-law comes from to allow her daughter to marry in peace. But that same mama will describe her son's wife as "that woman that wants to come between my children". Is it not madness?

    Having said that, I get uncomfortable when I hear about a man spending so much money because he's trying to marry someone. Some of you just set yourselves up - you buy Coldstone for her friends, you pay rent, you buy car, you fund all her siblings' ambitions and pipe dreams, you do everything for her mother. You go and be pursuing a wife that will not get home cos you've gone to put head where God didn't send you. And when sex enters the equation, the small brain you had left will disappear totally. Poster, as you are now, can you swear that she has any atom of love for you? You sef, how you wan know when you activated and lubricated the entire relationship with money?

    Yes, care and be generous. But the problems with spending money like this on a woman you're still trying to marry are:
    1) You have no guarantee cos even if you don't run into situation that makes you lose all your money, there will always be a richer man. And he might make advances at her. What will you do when you can't compete?
    2) Even the woman you're trying to marry will not know what's really moving her in your direction. My husband says I showed him nwii before we got married cos I refused to collect a dime from him. He thinks I was just doing so to frustrate him. He doesn't understand I needed to be sure for myself that if I loved him, it would be for the right reason. With previous boyfriends, I hadn't taken money cos I didn't want to be indebted to them. But this one didn't just want to date, he wanted marriage. I knew I didn't want to marry a man I don't love. And being confused wasn't a risk I could afford. So, if I'm not collecting your money or gifts, I'm not sleeping with you, I'm not even seeing you - you will need God to intervene and grant you favour.

    Oga, if I tell you what's in my mind, you will calculate all the money you have spent so far and e go remain small for you to tell me to refund you. You will remember all the rivers and seas you crossed before you reached her place to do intro. And you will ask me how I want you to start again at this "late stage" of your life, as if you're 100 years old.

    So, what I will tell you is that if someone shows you who they are, believe them. Because anything you're seeing now - whether you think is good or bad - will be magnified to the fullest degree after pesin enter house, oh.


    OA

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    1. @ OA your wisdom is from above ..take it from me ..you sound like an older aunt of mine ...

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    2. You didn't read everything but you typed this long essay. What would have become of us if you read it all then?

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    3. 17:05 Seeing as I wasn't writing for your benefit, what is my business with what would become of you? Learn to skip comments that are too long for you to comprehend.


      OA

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  108. I've never comment on this blog before but I always read chronicles. If you marry this girl, God will punish you bcos she is evil. Don't mind all this useless girls saying contrary stuffs! Oloriburuku ni won!

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  109. you're only a kind hearted, hardworking and responsible man who knows what family is. While your fiance appears jealous and insatiable you are not compatible yes you both do not compliment each other considering the misunderstanding and all. Let go of her better now than later

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  110. This lady’s selfishness is annoying I beg, jeez!!!
    Judging from the chat. Dam!! And you never truly know someone until you live with them, imagine you living with this woman, your family won’t be allowed into your home.
    Poster am single and an only child, I would love to have brothers and sisters that I can look after.

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  111. Dear Poster, I am a woman of 57 years and have been married for the past 32 years so I feel I am in a position to render candid advice. I don't know the tribe you come from but generally marriage in most cultures in Nigeria is a union between 2 families. Anything to the contrary is not healthy.

    Human beings by nature are self centered but reading through your chats with your fiancรฉe, I deduce that she is not only self centered, she is grossly disrespectful, wicked, self entitled, arrogant and not ready for marriage. She will bring you nothing else but misery as you will keep fighting with her over every good you do for your family and others. She will create a huge division in your family. As a wife, I remind my husband about meeting his own family's obligations every month . Before my MIL died, I was the sole provider of all her church and meeting wears as well as provisions, Yes, the money came from her son but ai facilitated it. My husband and his siblings respect me a lot because of the love I show them. They even gang up with me against him when he sometimes falls out of line.

    Please this girl is not marriage material. From your chats, you are indeed a caring and responsible son/ brother. Look for someone else and don't bring in a dragon into your family.

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    1. Well said ma. A word is enough for the wise!

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  112. POSTER!!!!! MY PIKIN RUUUUN!!๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ
    "TRUE TU GOD" RUN OO.๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ Hian

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  113. @ unknown u get it..my dear it a two way thing u can't just give us d side of ur own story and we will flow wit it like dat..haba bt whatever d case pls pray abt her bf forging ahead we all have our shortcomings and if it is what can be work on den no prb bt if it is not pls let her go nobody is perfect is just by God grace we are alive

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  114. Has anyone paused to consider that this lady may be coming from a background where someone toiled endlessly for his mum and siblings and was discarded after they used him. The same experience is playing out in her relationship with you poster.

    She may not be doing so out of being selfish but from a place of the harsh realities of her own life's experiences.

    Her actions are not justifiable, but please sit her down and find out what's the cause of her being insecure at the thought of helping your family.

    Find out before you decide the next step to take.

    She is not totally irredeemable.

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  115. Dear poster,I understand you 110% as I have 4 elder brothers being the last born and only girl. To the glory of God I am also married with two kids . Please anyone that makes you lose your self because of love is definitely not worth it. My eldest brother made the mistake of marrying someone you described now he is full of regrets thank God other siblings are doing well now, his wife turned him against us totally he now saw us as a liability while his wife traveled round the world. Unfortunately he lost all he had and the wicked woman left him, we his siblings are all he has now but the once happy family became sad due to his decision.
    Most men had the tendency to forget their parents and siblings pls marry someone that loves your family as much as she loves hers so she can fill in effortlessly when you are busy chasing money.
    Always trust your instincts. Selah.

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  116. Reading this just got me really angry. Like ANGRY ๐Ÿ˜ก


    What kinda woman types "true to God?

    Reading her part of the convo clearly shows she's razz,selfish, ungrateful, and wicked.

    These are super red flags.

    Sir, please for your own and children unborn good, let her go.

    You come across as someone who's well grounded. But if you think you have the time and patience to school her, it's fine.


    This her mentality needs major overhauling.

    Shalom.

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  117. Lol..this one go pass tacha sef. As you wake in the morning she is in happy threaten fire and brimstone . fail to provide anything in the house she will remind you how you sent money to your mum last year. She will remind all the monies you have sent out. You don't need such as a wife. A wife should be supportive.

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  118. The only thing I can say in all these things is ruuuuunnnn.
    My dear poster Biko run,tell her u can't deal plz.


    Stella please I need the 50k for the completion of my house rent plz

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  119. This lady is so selfish, this really pissed me off God

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  120. Poster it is not too late to back out of the relationship. Pls dont make the biggest mistake of your life by marrying her. She is going to come in between you and your family.

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  121. Marry her if you don't want Peace of mind and you don't want to live long.
    From her short hand typing and spellings it's very easy to see that she's a slay Queens bimbo- beautiful and dumb.. that's if she's even beautiful.
    Take this one abroad and watch what happened in "Mrs Dee's Corner" post yesterday become your portion.

    Now, to all those guys planning to train a girl through school cos you want to marry her or doing so because she's your girlfriend.. Stop that stupid act now. How many men have you helped? You people are the one's that make girls believe men don't have sense. How many women have you seen doing such? Rather they'll help themselves.. you see rich women supporting female empowerment but no one complains, rather some stupid men will join them in doing it so women can praise them. Fools., if rich men do such for only boy child, there would be call out, insults and problems everywhere.
    If you want to help,help and expect nothing in return cos na heart break you go get last last. Women don't appreciate these things. And please help the right people.. the people that really need it. Not all this fake ass girls everywhere, using iPhone 8 and still begging you for money.
    I wish I could school you more on female psychology and male psychology, but that will be for another day. We don't view this the same way, that's why even with all your sacrifice for her and her family she can still talk to you in that degrading manner and say you should be ashamed of yourself.
    Anyway, you should really be ashamed of yourself for still calling her the girlfriend you intend getting married to at this point.
    Receive sense in Jesus name, Amen.


    Dante

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  122. Bros, how is your relationship with your fathers side? Hope everyone is in good terms with your mum and does not accuse her of separating the family o.

    Hope this your aunt you are buying something for is your fathers sister and not your mothers own o.

    Mothers these days can turn their first kids to slave for the others not allowing the others work hard for themselves to be somebody in life.


    Since she did not complain of how you send money to them o but now that you are about marrying her she is complaining because she has seen something that does not look right.Shine your eyes

    It is same naija we see that things begin to go down after marriage and people say it is the wife's fault.


    Marriage is in the picture and she does not want it to continue without u being careful!

    If you leave this girl because of this then you are not fair.

    You brought this out in the open knowing fully well that your people might see this. You are not a good person.Leave her if you want to but do not rubbish her name because she told you to be careful simple! No where did I see where she said you should not send money to your mum all she said is you should be wise and not be a mumu for your siblings that have hands and legs to work. SIMPLE.

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  123. I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart
    is a trap and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape
    her, but the sinner she will ensnare.

    Sir, the right thing to do is to please God and probably you're doing that
    and that is why God wants you to have the chance to escape this "woman" who like
    Stella said is a time bomb. She is not just "ticking", she is programmed and has
    already began to set the boundless areas of her destruction. She is a barrel, naphtha
    and atomic bomb all in one. Greed is her bane.
    But let me warn you that most Naija girls have this greedy mentality... especially when it
    comes to "abroad/money". True Nigerian ladies are very few even on this blog; very few.
    And if you have not made Jesus your Lord, you might fall into another one like this.
    And when you say, you have "done introduction/engagement", if you have paid this lady's
    bride price, you have in the sight of God married her...so the issue becomes a divorce.
    But whatever be the case, it is better to live in the desert than with this kind of
    Naija girl...unless she repents. God is merciful.
    I don yarn finish ooo
    ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿคท‍♀️๐Ÿคท‍♀️๐Ÿคท‍♀️๐Ÿคท‍♀️๐Ÿคท‍♀️๐Ÿคท‍♀️๐Ÿคท‍♀️๐Ÿคท‍♀️
    Ecclesiastes 7:26

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    1. The quote in the first paragraph is actually Ecclesiastes 7:26

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  124. 100+ people can’t be wrong but knowing you men how you think with una small penis you’ll still marry her at your peril of course. I pity you men that go home to marry so called home girls. You’re just marrying local prostitutes.that show you wii when they come

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  125. She is showing herself and will not downgrade but will amplify her wickedness to prove or justify herself.

    This is the very first Chronicle am reading that comments are unanimous and on same page.

    Decision is yours, bro. Someone above said depression is real and I add that suicide or murder is real too.
    Better to blank, forgo all you invested in her, start afresh with regrets than marry her, she damages you, divides your family, court abroad sides and her depression sets in and you start thinking funny either to delete her and pay the price or end it all.


    Run, bro. That girl was sent from dark kingdom to deal with you. Neglect the red flags at your peril.

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  126. You have a chance now to save your future and d unity of your family. Do not marry her. Break d engagement. Better a broken engagement than a failed marriage. Thank me later.

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  127. Mr man, not a single soul here supports this "RUNs GIRL"...& if you are not seeing it as who she is... They say that the voice of people is voice of God. Use your tongue and count your teeth.

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  128. U guys should just watch and see !The poster will still marry that girl!Smh

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  129. Hmmm!!!BROS YOU NEED TO LET HER STATE WHAT SHE MEANS BY SACRIFICE!!!!
    Wch of your siblings have you bought a car for?if food is the basic you provide and you PAID FOR HER SCHOOL,then paid for her BROTHER's proposed TRIP,it means u have spent barely 50% of what u spent on her on your FAMILY and she is this angry?asides obeying GOD as a giver,you are doing the right thing by your family...
    Please read what the lady up there who said she is like your fiancee wrote....
    I can't advice marry abi don't marry her,for u to throw it here your hearts of hearts is warning you already,DONOT manage what you can't TAKE for the rest of your life sir o!!

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  130. This lady is toxic, disrespectful and self centered. Please do not marry her. She will divide your family if you marry her. You sound like a good and responsible guy that loves his family, you don't need a woman that will take away your peace.

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  131. First of all, you are paying school fee for this lady who can't even write proper English, i pty you. I am very sure, this lady is pretty and fair, that is the only reason you are with her because i don't even see an intellect here. Second, reading that text, you don't even sound like a man who can control his home and words, you told her to stop talking about your family, she kept going and saying you should be ashamed of yourself which shows she has no iota of respect for you. She is selfish and will never allow you do anything for your family, she is even feeling entitled that it is your duty to care for her family, her brother precisely. You sound like a good person with intellectual capacities, please i beg you, don't be with this woman. You will be miserable and this situation can't be compromised. Love and a pretty face are not enough and never will be, you can let go of your help towards her so called education and other stuff. Don't take this lightly, this here is a ticking bomb and as a woman, i feel disgusted and sad reading this from a fellow woman. I swear, if you are my brother, this lady will never be your wife! You will marry trouble abroad, she has no humility in her and i promise you, whatever you have worked for years abroad, will crumble and you will lose everything especially if you make a child with her. Please, count your loss and move on. You can meet a lot of great ladies, it is never too late to make the right decision. DO NOT MARRY HER!

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  132. Dear Poster,

    I know you know the journey you are about to take with the lady will not favor your Mum and Siblings, what you have not been convince is whether it will favour you as a single individual.
    This intending marriage or impending bomb will bring the following in your live:
    1.STRIVE IN YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY
    2. CONTINOUS STRIVE AND QUARRELING BETWEEN YOU AND WIFE
    3. NO PEACE AND JOY AT HOME
    4. REGRET
    5. NO PROGRESS AS A RESULT OF RESTLESSNESS OF THE MIND
    6. SICKNESS, ILL ENVIRONMENT BREEDS SICKNESS
    7. EVENTUAL GETTING OF SIDE CHICKS FOR JOY AND PLEASURE YOU CAN'T GET FROM WIFE
    8. EVENTUAL TROUBLE WITH AMERICAN AUTHORITY AS WOMEN ARE MORE AT ADVANTAGE OVER THERE
    9. ETC TOO MANY TO MENTION

    Why am I so sure of these, is because two most important thing necessary for a happy marriage are
    1. Respect from the wife for the Husband
    2. Love from the Husband for the wife

    You have love for her but she obviously is not respectful and submissive. You have not even official called her your wife and just look at the level of rudeness and disrespect she has shown you and your family. The Bible says in the Multitude of COUNSEL there is safety.

    Your Mum and your Siblings have not done any evil to you, no one knows tomorrow, as you help them now God is noting it for you and will definitely reward you by/through them or anyone He (the Almighty) chooses. God bless you.

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