Poster I will advise you to sit your girl down and explain to her that she is getting it all wrong. Family is everything and you are not going to throw your family away because of her. Of she fails to understand you can then decide on what to do next. But for how to take a deep breath and calm down. Good luck and cheers

Mr poster better don't MARRY this fool of a girl ooo..she will ruin you and the relationship with your family. see how a graduate writes..smh

@ Soothsayer, it's not only the family bond she will destroy. She will frustrate life out of this man, push him out of their matrimonial home, claim the children and his wealth.
If they eventually gets married, forget your joy, peace and your family because it will be gone.
She's greed and selfish. Marry her at your own doom.

Please do not marry, she's really toxic. If you do, she would go any length to cause enemity between you and your family. Pray to God and he will direct you.

Concerning the give away, I would like to show my interest because I intend to use the said money to start up a popcorn business, to enable sort bills in school, my field work and analysis fees and upcoming school fees. Also, it would help me take care of some personal needs and to help others as well. Thank you very much.

Poster I wish you will listen to these comments and run for your life
1: she has no respect for you
2: she is a witch
3: you love her more than she loves you, Don't be surprised you are a side dude.

This girl here will kill you before to your time. Your mother's prayers has been answered by the most High, that's why he directed you to bring this issue here. Please do not marry this girl.
But come to think of it, what attracted her to you, she is not intelligent, she is not smart. This one is a real owerri slay queen

Anon 16:53 Thank you.


OA

Dear Stella
Life is difficult to understand, good people dont meet good ones. I have had such encounter too with toxic men who don't think a woman who earns should take care of her family. I had to run before i made the greatest mistake in marriages.
I work up this morning feeling depressed and worried as to when i would meet a good man.
It is well

Poster i can't stop you from marrying,but if you are living in america and yours plans is to bring her to america.welcome to america you know what i am saying.

Hmmm...poster, this lady ehhh might do you nwiii! I had to read and read and read again. I don't know why my previous comment is not yet visible but my brother, please run. For you to even post the chats shows she's been on this for a while. Please, when people show you who they really are, do not make excuses for them. I na-anu?

I am also the first child of my parents and I share a bond with my nuclear family. I make it known to intending guys that this is how it is. Of course, I know when to draw boundaries but he should know that she's not just marrying me alone. I'm also marrying his family.

Recently, I spent my savings and salary sending my brother abroad and I do not regret it. I will do it again and again. I take care of my siblings and my parents. even though the chips are down now, but I will rise. Please, anyone getting married especially in this African context should understand that they're not just marrying you alone. However, what is her famil history? Did anyone disappoint her father or her or anyone she's loved? Except she's a witch, there should be something pushing her to think this way.

I will advise you talk it over with her and cut her loose. Sometimes, you gotta lose to win.S might be better for the next guy but not you inugo?

And for the giveaway, please send to my younger sister. She is in her final year in the University and she needs to complete her project. We are expecting a First Class from her, yes she is that brilliant! I don't live in Nigeria at the moment but I can provide her account number if this catches your attention. I can be contacted on
memiorsoffate@gmail.com
I use the email address for my professional writings
-Oma

This is the wicked girl. We don catch you TU-day. Useless Olodo tu-tu-ing up and down. "DEA" is nothing upstairs at all, only on how to order the stupid mumu boy to shop for you from abroad so you can do shakara. Just reading your comment I can tell how shallow you her.. your boyfriend, I mean, now ex boyfriend really have LOW standard and taste.


Dante

I swear.... My eyes hurt just reading the rubbish she typed down... 'tu', 'cum', 'dea'... Come on man!! I think you can do better.

Poster, honestly I don’t trust any girl that spells “come” as “cum”. That’s nasty af.
It’s a man like you I’m searching for. That knows the value of family. This girl is capable of going diabolical. I won’t advice you to go ahead with marrying her guys like you are rare and it would be a shame to see you end up with a serious case like her. Please keep searching. There are still good girls out there.

As in what a waste of school fee.

This is extremely sad. Dear poster, if you ain't new on this blog, from the united response of almost everyone saying "Don't marry her", I guess that's the ONLY" option.


I repeat, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! Hian, hian and hian again!

Dear poster if you don't want that BOND between you and your younger one's DONT MARRY THIS GIRL. I REPEAT DONT MARRY THIS GIRL. Jazz, charm and juju will be her next option to use to scatter you and your family. Call off everything about the marriage be in state of grace and prayer God will send you your really missing rib who will take and love your family as her own.

I don't understand why good guys always fall for nonentities like this. This is d type of woman that will get u arrested at any slightest provocation. This lady is a bad energy. Bad bad energy!

Well said. She is indeed a disaster waiting to happen.

She is free to bring her own side of the story. I doubt this outing will remain a secret for long.

Even at that, her attitude smells. Very disrespectful. Also if she is ready set in her ways it will be hard for her to change. And she comes across like she is set in her ways and won't listen. I could be wrong sha.

This lady's attitude is not strange and common with most of our Nigerian married ladies. I'm shocked that her story is now used by even the guilty parties to form Saint. So who are those people who ask their husbands not to give their in-laws money or accommodate them? Are they now from planet Mars?

The only thing I see here is her way of presentation. She was rude, uncouth and doesn't have regard for you -her supposed fiance. Which means she must have some behavioural issues but I won't even ask you not to marry her. We all ain't saints. We lack in many ways, this might be one of hers.

Let her know that giving your mum and family when they are in need is non negotiable and if she's not comfortable with it, you would like to call it quits. After all a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. See her reactions, that will tell you a lot. People talk about these things before marriage. Come to a reasonable conclusion with her to avoid stories tomorrow.

On this issue please call her you can deduce her stand from the tone of her voice -not chat as we sometimes read meanings different from the intended meaning. If you've done all these and she's still insistent on her stand and you want to take a walk, then take a walk for your sanity sake.

Run Run Run.......I hope you listen ooooooo.. ..

Poster poster poster !!!!!! Wawu. No worries. Na only you know wetin you want las Las you go dey alright

I agree with you Twins Squared. She is not a demon or a witch as most have condemned her to be. It's obvious they were raised differently and while he sees helping grown family members as no problem, she does prolly because of her upbringing and life experiences. That said, two can't walk together unless they agree and I agree with most BVs to seriously evaluate the future of this relationship. I say this mostly due to her lack of respect in the manner she addresses you, poor communication and comprehension skills.

PLEASE DO NOT MARRY THIS GIRL!
Yes, I am shouting ot in Capital letters.

Poster, I wish you also mentioned some of her good sides so our advice can have balance. I'm sure she has her good sides, which you saw and which made you want to marry her. That said, her total lack of respect for you and the fact that both of you disagree on money issues/finances and how to spend it is a MAJOR problem that will go on to cause even BIGGER problems in the marriage. You know that research that says money is the number 1 cause of conflicts in marriages right? Here is yours playing out in full glare even before you've said 'I do'. If you choose to proceed, make sure you declare to her FIRMLY that helping your family is part of the deal, and she is free to either accept it or leave the relationship. Make sure you both come to that understanding. Also make her understand that you will not tolerate abusive language from her online or in person. State all these clearly, lay the ground rules now and give it some time; observe her to see if there is any change in her behaviour. You know what to do if there isn't.

You will regret marrying and bringing her abroad. It's her type that calls the cop on their husbands,we have so many of them here.

Dear poster, that girl doesn't want to marry you. You have been the paymaster and side boo all the while; she wants you to call off the wedding hence the uncouth attitude. It's sad but it's the truth, she doesn't love you. Count your losses and move on. She has someone else; it's sad but hey, life goes on.

Sending you lot of ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Maybe she's pretty and a slay queen and you don't wanna loose her,there are more prettier girls if you take your time and search.

I was shocked at how many times she used the phrase "you should be ashamed of yourself"!!!
A man who os about to wife you and also provides for you to the best of his ability???
Wow!!!

If you've read through
You would see that no one is really supporting the woman .
Only a wicked person would want this man to end up with this type of a woman.

First of all the English gave me headache ahah. From tu, dea, scarifying... My advice is that be careful with your plans with this lady and stop telling her everything you do for your people. I'm a first born too and it might not necessarily be a duty but it's an obligation as a responsible elder. This is the kind of wife that won't allow your siblings to visit when you guys get married

Run bro.

Lmao 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
She was speaking French, pidgin and engrish

I really don't know what this girl's problem is. If you have siblings struggling, hustling or in school, siblings who are focused and hardworking nothing wrong with helping them.

What you do for your mum should not be a topic of discussion for crying out loud. You can give your mom allowance and anything and everything she needs.

What I hate is helping useless, entitled and lazy siblings or family. Siblings who think they should be fed and who are not ready to do something meaningful with their lives.

I have a brother in law in his forties, the eldest, refused to marry, thinks his younger ones owe him their salary and life and he demands it.

We shipped stuffed to Nigeria for our project, Acs, curtains, electronics etc, this mofo took them. He was even bold enough to say he gave our curtains to the pastor in his church.

My father in law was dying and was with us abroad, this guy never called to ask after him. The only time he calls is when he needs money. He doesn't have any responsibilities, has never given his parents or siblings a dime.

My husband sold his car to invite him over. He joined him and next thing he wanted to put my husband in trouble and started mingling with questionable characters.

His sisters put over a million in his account to seal his chances of getting a visa and he never repaid that girl her money.He squandered it.

Another thing he does is he uses their mom to blackmail his siblings.

Truth is if you have useless and lazy siblings, they will wreck you. My daddy is also an example. He sent everybody to school and today he doesn't have anything except what we send him. None of these people even remember him.If not for his children, he will be living from hand to mouth.

@ poster, this lady seems trouble though, free her.

Lmao came to steal, destroy and kill you 😂😂😂

Slutty I feel the same way too

Bro...first off save the link to this your chronicle, so you can read the comments and cry when you remember that you were warned if you go ahead with the deadly decision to marry this woman. She isnt just bad she is dangerous. She has a locally(village) induced entitlement mentality and unashamed greed. And thise are tge dangerous ones, all she wants is what she can get, everything belongs to her. And u am sure that is why she is with you, and in most cases like this she has a student boydriend around the xorner(could be wrong).

You might be hung on the fact the fact that you spend so much training her through school and other expenses, i get that, but non of that in 10 folds is worth the hell this woman is preparing to bring into not just your life, but that of your larger family. And this mentality is most likely limited to her alone, her family especially her mum would have it to. From what i was able to gather after (very painfully) reading your screen shots is that you are 2 people of opposing mindsets and values, your level of exposure is light years ahead of hers, she is the type that would destroy a N1billion thing to get the 100k she looking fot. And ofcourse she can cause blindness and early grave with her typing, oh my Lord!!! (Another place where you lost your money asides her brother"s travel)

Bro walk away!!!. I cringe at the taught of the alternative.

As regards the give away (cant believe i am doing this) i need it oooh (Buhari see where you have brought me to) i have been looking for 100k for over a month now to fix my car to drive on taxify/Uber as the economy has totally shut down my source of income and searching for job hasnt yielded results. 50k would go a looooooooooooong way.

Again bro...walk away.

Dear Poster,

I am not going to touch on the issue of her sense of entitlement and resentment of your family. I am not even going to type a long story. You need to rethink if you want to spend the rest of your life with such a toxic person. From the exchange between you two it is very obvious she does not RESPECT you or hold you in high regard. This only gets worse with time and deciding to marry someone that does not respect you is the worst mistake you can ever make. Even if she is perfect in all other aspect and just lacks respect for you, RUN. Everything you do will irritate her and she in return will make your life a living hell. if she has even a bit of respect for you, you will not have this current issue and if she meets someone she loves and respect, she will not talk to him the way she does to you. SHE IS NOT FOR YOU AND IT WILL NOT GET BETTER IN TIME. Do not make a mistake that will cost you a big chunk of your life.

Bro...first off save the link to this your chronicle, so you can read the comments and cry when you remember that you were warned if you go ahead with the deadly decision to marry this woman. She isnt just bad she is dangerous. She has a locally(village) induced entitlement mentality and unashamed greed. And thise are tge dangerous ones, all she wants is what she can get, everything belongs to her. And u am sure that is why she is with you, and in most cases like this she has a student boydriend around the xorner(could be wrong).

You might be hung on the fact the fact that you spend so much training her through school and other expenses, i get that, but non of that in 10 folds is worth the hell this woman is preparing to bring into not just your life, but that of your larger family. And this mentality is most likely limited to her alone, her family especially her mum would have it to. From what i was able to gather after (very painfully) reading your screen shots is that you are 2 people of opposing mindsets and values, your level of exposure is light years ahead of hers, she is the type that would destroy a N1billion thing to get the 100k she looking fot. And ofcourse she can cause blindness and early grave with her typing, oh my Lord!!! (Another place where you lost your money asides her brother"s travel)

Bro walk away!!!. I cringe at the taught of the alternative.

As regards the give away (cant believe i am doing this) i need it oooh (Buhari see where you have brought me to) i have been looking for 100k for over a month now to fix my car to drive on taxify/Uber as the economy has totally shut down my source of income and searching for job hasnt yielded results. 50k would go a looooooooooooong way.

Again bro...walk away

Another pepper dem.season on him

How do you know he lives in America?

Poster don't even try it. You'll regret it. Both of you haven't even stayed in the same vicinity for a long time. You're relationship has been long distance and she's like this. Try and make it short distance, you'll just make your life a living. And you want to take her abroad. You can't carry this type abroad o. She'll ruin you

POSTER,WHERE ON EARTH DID YOU FIND THIS TYPE OF WOMAN?.THE TRUTH IS THAT SHE DOESN'T LOVE NOR RESPECT YOU.PLS,FORGET ABOUT WHATEVER YOU SPENT ON HER AND MOVE ON.TAKE THE EXPENSES AS CHARITY WORK .DO NOT MAKE THE TERRIBLE MISTAKE OF MARRYING THIS UNGRATEFUL WITCH.A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.I BECAME VERY ANGRY AFTER READING YOUR STORY,LET ME TAKE A GLASS OF CHILLED WINE TO COOL MY TEMPER.

Poster please for your own sanity and peace of mind, don't marry this lady. What you're seeing now is only 1% of what you'll go through when you get married. This lady will destroy your family and nag you till you go crazy. I assure you. How can a lady not want her man to take care of his own mother and siblings? Wow! That's a new level of selfish. May God hide my brother from this type of lady. Please a broken engagement is way better than a broken marriage. God has opened your eyes and has given you the spirit of doubt. Save yourself now. This is not normal.

Slay queen alert!!! I am sure this is not her only fault. This just happens to be the one that hit home for now. She is wicked and bitchy...yes but she lacks basic decorum to even pretend till after marriage. Na God save you.

Meanwhile, I 'll advice you get yourself a level headed, more mature, successful, kind woman. A woman who have something to bring to the table. Who is a builder. This little brat has never built anything in her life. She is just a taker.

You deserve way better.

I'm just 22 but I will still tell you this don't marry her Abeg... If not for anything... Just for you to have peace of mind.

Dear Poster,
Check tomorrow's spontaneous post for Caesar's advice.

LMAO

Provoking her to brake off the relationship shouldn't be hard. Just come back to Nija and tell her you forgot the luggage you packed stuff meant for her in. Let her watch you hand over gifts meant for others and I promise you she will flip and brake it of as vain as she is. Don't give her opportunity for a come back eve though I doubt her pride will let her do a timely turn around till it's too late.

Dear Poster, look at these comments like up yo a 120 People are gathered in a hall for their opinions.
145 says "abort Mission". While the other five are neither here nor there.
Tthe ball is now in your court.
Please make the right decision for your sanity and peace of mind.
A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.
SDK Beevees are always there for you.....with very reasonable comments.👍👍

Poster has clear stated times without no that he has only sent money for feeding which he has only sent once since this year.
The lady is a home wrecker and a destroyer.
How can she advise that poster ignore his family even called him shameless when he brought up the issue of how he helped her brother.
This one no be jazz or love because you dey see and hear wetin the woman dey talk
Brother,take a long walk from her while you still can for sanity and peace of mind for yourself and family

Eya, see many comments, and still counting. Stop wasting energy people, he has gotten the message, he will forward them to her and then expect her to be of impeccable behavior henceforth! Once they are married and in US, he will be fried chicken to her whims, unfortunately! Good luck Mr Man!!

Poster, please, end every form of relationship that you have with this girl, she is not just bad, she is evil. She is in your life to steal, destroy then kill. If you marry her , she would drain you, financially, emotionally, physically, psychologically and spiritually.
Forget about her, please, for your sanity. Love yourself enough to let go, please. Take your investments on her as a form of sacrifice for longer life , good health and prosperity in life. God will provide a good wife for you. Forget about this one please, she is EVIL. May God come through for you,
Best of luck.

We all know poster will still go ahead and marry her. Marry her and chronicle will be your daily meal. The girl will kill you and break up your loving family.
I'm a married woman and sends money to my mother in law monthly and help out sort out my husband's siblings out once in a while because my isn't financially stable now. He's still sorting out his medical licence abroad. Poster I beg you in the name of God, leave this girl now. Love alone doesn't sustain marriage oooooo. This woman will kill you. Tell your mum and siblings about what she does and let your parents go get the dowry back. Do not allow this girl to trip you into marrying her. Her weapon will be but you saw all these and you still went ahead and married me. And she will be right. One small cry now, you will run and go and marry her. I beg you, run now!

Poster do you really need us to advise you? Use your tongue to count your teeth.

256 COMMENTS and everyone of them carry the same message:DON'T MARRY THIS WOMAN. I have never seen such UNITY among SDK commenters! Everyone has spoken in 1 voice. Please Poster, kindly have a rethink. This woman isn't the RIGHT woman for you. May God give you the wisdom to make the right decisions.

DEMON ON RAMPAGE! What a nasty piece of human specie!!

Poster this woman will be your DOOM if you dare marry her.
She's so uncultured, disrespectful, unintelligent and evil.
Her written English is appalling besides the silly abbreviations.

You sounded apologetic to her in your chats trying to convince her you only provide food for your mum and have not spent a dime on your siblings.
Did she make the money for you?!
Why train her through school? Are you her parents?
This selfish thing wants you not to care for your mum and siblings who were there for you all your life before you met her.

It's high time these new generation Nigerian girls started bringing in 30%-40% to table towards the finances in a marriage.
This should stop that sense of entitlement and laziness some women have.

They should go read Proverbs 31 about the virtuous woman.

I am a woman and practice what I preach much more that the the percentage I suggested.

LOL wow. Am sure this is an igbo man. Everyone including Stella has criticized the woman badly, and honestly her manner of approach is imperfect and seems problematic, but am here to tell you THE UNDILUTED TRUTH. Lets take a few critical steps back, poster you keep saying you provide for food, food food and more food, ofcourse its a good thing to help your family, but what next then? Is this going to be the life story? if u want to help them empower them so they can also fend for themselves and their family. Its only your mom that can relax and be pampered. If you keep doing this, when they have their own family it will be the same dependency cycle. What has your help achieved in the longrun? WHY NOT EMPOWER THEM? that is the most important. if everyone is depending on you, how will you ever have a quality life with your own family, because the demand will be more . My uncle did the same thing, and its beautiful and noble, but now its hard to give his last kids the quality of education he wants to because once money comes in he has to share his income but every other person focuses selfishly on their family. poster i repeat, EMPOWER THEM SO THEY CAN BECOME SOMETHING FOR THEMSELVES AS WELL, it doesent affect your relationship, thats the best kind of help....all of you will then take care of your dear mom. Your gf speaks facts, only in the very wrong approach. TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT.

Her lack of commitment and disregard for the things the man is doing for his family only reveals she’s sleeping with someone else..

A failed engagement is better than a marriage. That woman will make your life miserable if you finally marry her. All the best.

If you really love her please try and talk to her to change and accept your family like her own family.

Poster your life will know no peace if you marry her. You will leave a lonely life Yle u have people. A good woman will even send to your family from the one you give to her and even b a medium through which you send to your family. She is greedy and this type of greed, might affect your children on the long run

Hmmmm! I couldn't even finish the conversation between you 2 and I'm so pissed kai what a woman? My dear brother I am a woman, just the way you provide for your family, this is what I do. I can't even imagine a man telling not to provide for my family my mum especially some women are reall selfi! Please and please do not marry that lady she doesn't deserve you. If marry that woman you will never be happy and fulfilled in life. And as for the 50k please I really need it to register my younger sister for fashion and designing thanks in advance and God bless you

Very disrespectful oohh....sometimes I wonder if girls behave like this,how their mother or Aunty that raised them behave🤔🤔🤔women let's raise our girls right through the power of the Holy Spirit

Reading this made me scared, poster I love the way you replied her very matured,so you should not care for your mother and siblings, poster please ignore her cos if she had her own kids, will she advise them not to help one another, I am sorry to say this, this kind of Lady can go diabolic, if you tell her you are not interested in her again, where did you get this kind of woman, and you are still talking about marriage, please run for your life, and do it with caution and prayers before she goes diabolic on you. continue to care for your mum, cos that is the least you can do.

Dear poster, for you to ask this question means you don't have peace of mind. You are already having a warning from your intuition not to go ahead. It is better you obey that intuition to avoid regrets. Forever is too long to have this kind of woman (you are even not on the same page) as a wife. For your sanity and peace, obey your intuition and take a Walk.

Don't marry her. Na one chance. Women are nice before marriage. If this is her nice, imagine her bad. No think am. Or else, many more chronicles. She might apoligise later but na act. One chance.

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Do not marry a lady that will turn your back to everyone else. This lady is a selfish person. Think about it well

Poster I live abroad, spent more of my life abroad than in Nigeria and I am a married woman.
This isn’t even about living for your fam, she is just very selfish! Plus she writes like a child, can’t even write well, so hard to read! Biggest mistake he will make!
Bring her to yankee and she will def go for half and destroy you!! Horrible to read!! Don’t marry her please!!!!

The key to long life is peace of mind,u see this babe u call fiance will kill u before ur time.the Bible says he who finds a wife,finds a good thing(the right woman that is).my brother this woman is not the right woman.it might not be easy to get over her because you love her but with time u will be alright.

Mtscheeeew.
I have no pity for the poster.
It's your type that would call loving, family-oriented, low maintenance babes boring.
Continue to tension yourself into the marriage, okay?
Take her abroad too.
Then when she finishes you completely there, you'd come and start ranting 'abroad dey spoil woman' like Ms Dee, forgetting your girl was already showing signs of witchcraft before you married her.
Shior.

Do you see ladies being partial here. I'm a woman but I'm thanking God I don't have a brother that will meet this kind of woman. This one is from hell. Poster just arrange your funeral before you finally marry this girl. I'm single but if I will have this kind of mindset, I better stay on my lane o.

I live abroad and my friend who is a guy will always say "let the people in nigeria marry themselves " I dont know how long you have lived abroad poster but you should know that your mentality changes after some years here. Please surround yourself with people on the same mission with you.
You have no business with someone like that.

Thank you @18:01 I am wondering why a man who writes so educated will date a girl who writes like a street rat. Do you have confidence issues? Is this the best you can do??! Look at how the person you want to marry is typing words and tenses. God forbid!!

I’m dam surprised at what you just put down there. She never curtailed him while spending on her and hers but quick to point out the excess of the guy. It’s natural in her wickedness and bitter hatred for the guys family m. Simple

No nees to end your speech with thank you!
That girl is rude, selfish and manipulative... plus she doesn't really love the guy.
Did you sense any politeness in her chats?
Brother Poster, please RUN for your life.

She must be fair with big ass and boobs. Very dumb thing! Tufia.

Anyway, its posters like this that will see chikitos writeup and say we talk to much. So he went for a dumb witchcraft induced one. Did I not say it here that men need to pray before getting married? I pity some of you

Anonymous 18:01😂 You took the words from my mouth! What the hell is “dea” and “tu”? Such a waste of education! Extremely annoying I must say!

Poster, she must be super gorgeous and all you ever dreamt of, to still have the patience to send in a chronicle seeking for answers! Or perhaps you never ever thought you’d meet someone like her? 🙄 That lady will deal with you and your entire family, if you go through with that marriage. She is obviously from a disjointed family, hence the reason she doesn’t understand why you do what you do for your siblings, and she never will. This kind of woman will shut your heavens of blessings because she isn’t a giver. Run away from such people. My hubby and I courted briefly, and one of the things I saw in him, was how close and how well he took care of his family, being the only son with five sisters. I knew right there, that a man who was this way for his, would find no fault in doing anything for mine if it came to that or if I had to do same for mine and most importantly that he’d take good care of me and our home.
Apart from her selfishness, she neither loves love nor respect you. Her responses show no sign of respect at all. So rude! She seems like she is merely tolerating you for some reason, maybe for what she gets from you or the fact that she’d be relocating to wherever you are, which could mean a better life for her and hers. Her responses sounded so impatient like one who’d say “just type and let me go to bed”.

You sound enlightened and you seem to have a good heart. Be patient, look for a good woman, and you’d definitely find one. This one is an accident waiting to happen.

Do not marry this lady. Goodluck.

Well said
Oga poster Stella’s blog is always opened for more chronicles from you if as a man you don’t know or can’t differentiate between toxic and kind.
Having had that chat with her should have told you exactly what you’re about to face in the near future.
Your mum as you started by her statement never to allow any woman to come between you and your siblings. That’s a typical one and be ready to bid them farewell from you once you finally make her MRS.........
Best you wear the shoes so you know where it itches you most Cose at the end of the day our advice to you may fall on a deaf ears all in the name of I love.
Do have a Lovely thinking and making a decision that will sort you well in future.
Yours humble friend
Mr nonsense.

Runaway from her, as in very far away. Marrying her is simply digging an early grave for yourself.

Run, run for your dear life. This one is a heart attack waiting to happen. You wasted enough money on her education; she can't even write decent English sentences. Please break up with her before you waste your life pleasing her. Cut your losses and run.

It's obvious that this poster wants to marry a slay queen and he'll do anything to hold on to her. Just look at the way she types.

bros run o and no look back at all

Na this type dey use heads back together! Her entitlement mentality no be here! Make man no remember his people because he marry? It is well with you o poster...

Bros, I'm sorry but I will suggest you walk away now. Better now than later. You do same for her family is fine but when it comes to yours it is a problem. I'm sorry again, can't your losses now. She ain't the one.

Poster, please listen to all we've been saying. Break off that relationship. God has been blessing you as you are honouring your mum.

I will also love the giveaway.
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So he did not need to do investment when he was spending money to sponsor her brother abroad... or paying her school fees or sending money to her mom. She’s just selfish. That’s all. And she doesn’t want the mans family to gain from him. Stay away from this girl...

Her tone, her words, she has no regard for you at all. There is no love in her for you. I’m sure another man has her heart but you’re abroad so she’s going along with you. She sounds like she barely tolerates you. I shuddered reading it.

This babe na no go area, poster if your brother is about to marry such lady, will you are with him to marry such person?

If you both don’t share same values and priorities, what then makes you compatible for a lifetime relationship?

Hmmm, see how bad character want to distroy this girl's life now. God, help me train my kids to know good values and live a righteous life. Poster I believe by now you know what u want

Run poster run......
If she had said it was your friends you should help less, I would understand.


You can't break up on this issue....

You have to lie and say you got someone pregnant.

We owe our siblings and parents a lot.

God give us the grace to be able to help out .

Please do not marry that girl...you would die before your time.

Oga poster, this one is a ticking time bomb. She has a very strong mentality that 'your own is ours and my own is mine'.

If you want to continue with her, then when you travel, sit her down and make it clear to her that she shouldn't come between you and your family. You guys should have a talk 'face to face', get to understand her and make her understand you too. Then if it doesn't work, my dear poster please pick a race. You will definitely find your better half. I wish you the best.

I didn’t even read all your chats with her because I got pissed off midway. I would have said take a walk immediately but before you do so, talk to her again probably when you come home( staring into her eyeballs). You will be surprised that it is her family that is pushing her. If they are the ones, pls be careful too. They will make sure you don’t remember your family once you get married to her. Then poster , must you tell her when you want to send money home? Buy gifts for your people? Since she will kick against it. ( not supporting you hiding things from her) but this is your family, your life, your money. Think of the future, it’s not all about the attraction now, can you cope? It is better to be broken now than in the future. If you can not agree now, you can not in future. Pray, study her and decide.use your head bro. If need be for you to take a walk , don’t hesitate to do so. ( Eni Lori, o ni fila)All the best

@Poster i couldn't finish reading it because i was so pissed off. A good wife is family oriented and will want you to look out for your family. I don't know want men want honestly because this lady is totally off

Dear Poster,do not go into this marriage. For the sake of your sanity do not. Marriage is a long Ship u cant afford to go into with regrets. All this people from poor homes with their entitlement attitudes.

DO NOT MARRY HER. AND YES I AM SHOUTING.

Brother, if you know whats good for you, DUMP her before she destroys your family. and bext time dont tell a girlfriend what you do for your family. its not her business.

Some women are lucky yet most of them mess up their opportunity...Someone else who is good and kind hearted may not meet this kind if a man yet this woman here with her evil mind stil got him...sometimes its as if good things happen to bad people..poster pls do nor marry her .She is no good Atal.Wish u a better woman like me...Smiles.
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The problem is you not her. If you leave her, even if the next girl is not against you spending for your family, she will still manipulate you in other ways. Work on your self esteem. Stop taking shit from her. And remember, in marriage, you will truly have to leave all else and cleave to your wife. It takes wisdom to maintain this balance.

Its glaring Sir that God loves you so much... your labour of love on your family is appreciated by the Almighty, likewise your mums prayers are not in vain over you..i can tell you are truly loved by God and that's why he made you to see all the negativity in your fiancee so that you won't take the wrong step. Any marriage that deludes you of your peace of mind is suicidal and not worth taking the risk for. Remain faithful and loving to your family, the good Lord will provide you with a loving woman that will appreciate you and your efforts on your family and hers. May God keep blessing you for your good heart.

This woman hate your mother & siblings with passion that's why she is hell bent on taking food off their mouth, am sure she is a virgin or a timid smallie when you met her hence your insistence on concedring her for marriage despite all the "RED FLAG" she is showing, my der poster I was married to a man like that, he made sure I didn't give a dim to my siblings that he went diabolical with it to the extent it starts affecting my business, guess what this man is 17yrs older than me, but I run the affairs of the house bending when things turn around for him including school fees but if my siblings come around to eat ordinary food he will fight them without shame, while his mum,his cousin & late younger bros stays with us & feed via Me & he gat no issues with that, the day I broke off the marriage is the beginning of my peace of mind, cos marriage with selfish spouse is hell on earth cos they will do everything possible to prove their point & destroy you so you won't have any to Feed with let alone giving to people, am sure Na ibu onye igbo, pls you have settle that girl by training her in school discharge her stylishly by showing your siblings & mum that chat cos they will be the force to reset your brain if you want to reconsider your stand of not marrying her, tell her you can't go on with the marriag cos of her hatred for your family cos a woman that hates your family hates you too, they don't stop cos once she is done diving you with your family,she will start with your friends, then dividing you against your kids & when you are gone she will plant discord amongst her own children when the children are old enough to be married she will plant discord in their homes, people like that are made that way they don't & won't change overnight & they are called NDI ORU OJO they don't stay where there's peace,from the look of things you love her so much, but love is not enough to sustain marriage cos alot is involved apart from love when it comes to marriage.DO NOT MARRY THIS WOMAN cos she will bring only suffering, pain, misery to you & be rest assured to be poorer when you marry her cos she has bad energy. PLS DON'T MARRY OUT OF PITY & SENTIMENTS cos it always backfires with regret & pain
But if you eventually decide to marry her for whatever reason you like, don't ever tell her anything you do for your family, pretend that they don't matter to you again, keep that part secret for her, I wish you luck with your decisions Las las

Hmm... Why does she sound this disrespectful? 🙄 That's a sign bro, I won't tell you not to marry her, it's apparent you love her. But what I'd advise you is to show your mom these screenshots and see what she thinks about her.

But mehn, this is all shades of wrong.

BTW, today is my birthday, I think I need this money.

from the look of things she didnt go to school to learn her english is too bad ,she is the type that will use your money to train her family and scatter your own.please let her be and pray to God for a partner who loves you not for the money but for been you.

Wen we see truth we hav to speak! Its not all abt giveaway, its abt helping anoda human being.

My God this gal is something else. I'm a girl n I always support the women folk but this one here jesus! Shes devilish!

Poster if u marry this gal, mehnn I think u will suffer alot. I couldn't even finish reading cos this is really annoying.

Don't marry this gal if u want ur peace of mind n d peace that exist in ur family.
May my sons not see this kind of woman amen.

Ring n dnt try to take her back even if she says she will change!

Poster i normally dont comment but please dont marry this woman. my ex mother in law would not even go to her son to ask for something, she would come to me because she knew that she would get what she needs from her son faster through me, i was that kind of wife i could also not divorce her son until mama died. i repeat DONT MARRY THIS GIRL YOU WOULD REGRET IT.

Dear poster, its better late than never.. just leave her or take your time with her.. meanwhile,I'm single!!

Hi Poster I have never commented on SDK until now. Please for the love of God do not Marry this girl! She will lead you to a early grave especially with the kind of bond you have with your family. Consider every investment you made in her as a sacrifice because God is liberating you from what will cause you and your entire family sadness. Sometimes I wish I could play cupid to well deserving people there are girls from good family out there with a good heart looking for the right man and here she has someone who is family oriented and trying to come between them. Please break it up she can never change never! I am a woman and I live abroad, I know how women who come here with motives like hers treat their partners. God will grant you wisdom to handle everything and I really do wish you all the best you deserve better.

The lady in question does not love you not for a bit but loves your money and is so certain he wants to destroy your family then move on with her life with her lover boy cos she does have aomeone she loves and you re his money bringer. For an advice as young that i am,she will kill you before your time and make you turn your back to your family so pls leave the girl,the right one will come in no time.she's not right for you and she wilp definently regret it in no time.

Anyone one that will say trash or come in between I and my family especially my mum cos that woman sacrificed alot for us, will go through the exit door. poster I won't tell you what to do but The hand writing is on the wall for you to see, this babe no go give you rest of mind at all, if possible when she gain ground she'll dump and frustrate you over there.... God when I ask for a good relationship may you order my steps to the right man and help me not to be an hindrance to his happiness. Cheers

Poster. I will advise you to suspend your traveling for now. You need time to heal up. If you want a happy life you need to delete the relationship fast. Avoid any emotional blackmail. Good luck.

You want to marry and take this chic abroad? Remember that women are king abroad! Don't worry, she will twist your mouth.
Besides, this kind of discussion about whether or not to help your family should be a very loud red light to you!
Run brother, RUN!
Her last statement on the screenshot are actually not coming from her heart.
And please what's with "to" being "tu"???