FWBR is a flirtationship,its more than a friendship,less than a relationship situation -It is telling you that you are good enough to gbensh but not good enough to invest feelings in.....
In other words, people involved in a friends with benefits relationship clearly enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but their relationship isn’t romantic and has no strings attached.
Some people have (or have had) friends with benefit..
'Friends with Benefit' refers to people who step beyond the friendship boundary to taste the forbidden fruit without strings attached..
Have you ever had friends with benefit?How did you manage it? How did it affect both parties? (Positive or Negatively)
Did emotions set in at some point? Did you both end up dating properly? Did you both later find love in each other?Did you marry?or stopping the Intimacy and continued as just friends?
Some people have (or have had) friends with benefit..
'Friends with Benefit' refers to people who step beyond the friendship boundary to taste the forbidden fruit without strings attached..
Have you ever had friends with benefit?How did you manage it? How did it affect both parties? (Positive or Negatively)
Did emotions set in at some point? Did you both end up dating properly? Did you both later find love in each other?Did you marry?or stopping the Intimacy and continued as just friends?
let us gist!
Never been involved in this “friends with benefit” thing.
ReplyDeleteMy pussy can’t be exchanged for material gains.
My friends remain in that zone, you can’t go further than that. If you won’t let me be, I rnd the friendship.
I and my ex did that after we broke up and I was single for like 2years and as body no be fire wood, I 'd rather keep hit with him than another random guy. My body was able to revive the sexual chemistry but my head and heart could never recall the affection or care. I closed the chapter after I met and started courting my husband.
DeleteLooool!!
DeleteIt's not always about material gains!!
@cookie, there’s a world of difference between a lover and a friend. The line should be properly drawn.
DeleteI don’t get into such mucky waters where that line is blurred.
Yes for the past 6years I've been in a FWB with my friend.... We’ve dated other persons. I developed feelings initially but it’s no more. It all started the day I got a call from him, he got my number from my then love, we became friends.then I broke up with my Then love, I had a rebound with him he’s super endowed, thought me all I know about sex... I’m even in a serious relationship right now but we still straff. He comes all the way to my city. God help me I don’t love him at all... I’ve introduced him to my lover and he has as well.. Once either of us get married we would stop..
DeleteSlutty chick. Once u r a side chick u r friends with benefits because he is married!👍
DeleteI have been in one before. The thing with FWBRs is that it's all fun and games until one person catches feelings and the other person doesn't. It goes down hill from there..
DeleteYou lie! Once you get married you will kini? What you can't stop while in a committed relationship. Continue lying to yourself.
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DeleteThank you
Happy anonymous mode to everyone 😂
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DeleteYou know 😂😂😂
DeleteLet me just read comments . My comment is been monitored, before I go receive telephone call . 😂
ReplyDeleteHehehehehe' monitored by who?
DeleteDon you're very stupid and an idiot. Shameless jobless boy still under his parents coming to blogs to insult his elders.
DeleteEhn ehn Don so your babe dey here?
DeleteI'm the Queen's mother. I don't do friends with benefit package. If it's not total package which includes DPA,loving me till eternity then count me out. I can't give you my body mind And soul if you're not committed to loving me forever. Kolewerk. My body is too sacred to do that sh** t with.
ReplyDeleteBD ducking married men is the same thing. Stop d lies pls 🛑
DeleteI can't be a friend with benefits cus I have a very proud punani, if you mistakenly kiss me and not call me the next day I will think you have taken me for granted 🤣
DeleteI don't trust people easily, and is always scared of my gist going around.
Black diamond if your pussy was that sacred you won't allow just mere boyfriends in there,you will keep it for only your husband
DeleteYes o... No feelings... No explanation... No questions. Just gbensh and go. When you get tired you just ghost. My pussy can be choosy sometimes. So i cant date or stay faithful. My pussy has a life of her own...
ReplyDeleteOne honest comment!! Keep them coming guys!!
Delete😂😂 For the sake of being honest. Yes I tried it at some point as afresh graduate. Uncle said he liked me but he has real life issues to deal with... blah... blah... blah. He will support me whenever he can
DeleteWe started o. And I had just gotten my first job. Uncle will call me. I will appear and take several lash. We won’t communicate till maybe one month or so he will reach out. Sometimes 2 wks. Yes there were cash benefits. But zero commitment and communication. We went on like that for months abi a year. Then one day after the several lashes in different positions. Uncle got emotional and professed love. I was shocked. He started laying edges for a decent relationship, calling me, checking in on me, showing care and concern. But then I felt indifferent. Because I had fallen I love with the initial pattern. He then accused me of using him. Sadly we parted ways.
I love you @unknown
Deletetrust u girl,,u no be like awon pretenders
DeleteUnknown same here. Been there, done that and very rewarding at that time.
DeleteZ u just explained “Runs” with one of ur numerous consistent customers but Na same category e fall with married man 2👌
DeleteYes o @ Unknown, no feelings, no explanations, no complications of relationship, just gbensh and go. Just bliss.
DeleteHad one I was enjoying. Guy knew how to fuck me silly and not shy to experiment new positions, till he spoilt it by catching feelings.
I'm now in a relationship and can't even just go on ordinary hang out without getting a long face and epistles. Relationships are complicated mehn.
Waiting for comments..
ReplyDeleteJust passing and reading comments.
ReplyDeleteYou are a friend with benefits until he marries you,...unless you are doing osho free...then you are friend without benefits, until you are married, you remain a FWB...argue with your heart.
ReplyDeleteAnother angle😂😂😂😂
DeleteI totally agree!
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DeleteLmao @ Argue with your heart
DeleteLmao you and my cousin have same opinion !!!😭😭
See analogy!
Deletegood point from that angle dear,,i salute ur knowledge
Delete✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅👌👌👌👌👍👍👍👍👍spot on. Side 🐥s. Runs girls with 1 constant dick that keeps calling
DeleteBlackberry, I second your comment!
DeleteYeah, worked out great. We are now married.
ReplyDeleteCongrats
DeleteWe celebrate you 🙌🏾
to each other or what dear,,be specific
DeleteHad a friend with benefit but I started getting addicted to the guys dick, he knows just how to fuck me right and give me multiple orgasm. Unfortunately had to call of everything after tying the knot but still can't get over the fucking , my hubby doesn't even know what he is doing and I'm tired of teaching him at the same time don't want to cheat on him. Please how do one get over a fuck buddy ?
ReplyDeleteRepercussions of FWB
DeleteMost relationship in Nigeria falls under this category unknown to both parties.
ReplyDeleteI have been in such before and when she found more money we moved on.
sure bro,,,what is 6 to you is 9 to another
DeleteLet me just let this out,its been bothering me since 2015.So there is this correct dude i met through his elder brother,we got talking and became friends,he invited me to his house and from play we F**KED,it went on,anytime he travels he shops for me and cook for him,he didn't define the friendship and i too didn't bother,until he told his BRO that he just liked me and no strings,me i heard and i didn't feel anything too and i jejely moved on and stopped giving him pussy,then my hubby came along,so i dropped communcation with the bobo to focus on DH,eventually when he found out i was getting married he hasn't let me rest till today,i sha blocked him,and he keeps looking for ways to get in touch,telling everyone he made amistake,AKUKO...Meanwhile,while we were chopping ooo,he had a serious GF,even his family knew about and they were talking marriage,since 2016,BoBo never gree marry..HAHAHAHA
ReplyDeleteOdiegwu really. Bobo Issa big time waster.
DeleteStarted friends with benefit with my now lover and he started catching feelings. Me too I now fell. We can fuck for Africa. He visited me for 1 week. We just fuck, eat and sleep. All styles of sex. He’s naughty for Africa. He even shaved me sef, bath and fucked me silly one time. Tommy I love you
Deletedont mind him.
Deletehe found ur pussy so interesting snd ur cunt is so chinchin thats why guy man no gree leave u
Mrs Tommy loading soon. Best of luck🙏
DeleteWatch everyone say 'I don't do FWB, my pride is my joy, yen,yen,yen,yen'😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I don't do FWB, my pride is my joy.... To Jesus be my glory😁😁😁😁😁😁
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DeleteYes o my sister 😂
DeleteWatch everyone with ID go down that road 😂
Me I can’t do it,my body is my pride 😏
u finally did at d end
DeleteI've been in such situations plenty of times. Like we hook up any time both parties flee like doing it. And when we have had enough of each other that chapter is closed. To me it's better than being in a relationship and cheat on your partner. I remember a time we did a three some. Friends with benefits is the bomb
ReplyDeleteAnother honest person ♥️
DeleteWe love you sister/brother 🙌🏾
pls,,come back and explain,,how do u guys go about three some?
Deleteis it a form of matrix
Threesome is very very nice. I've done it with my girlfriend and my boyfriend. Now I want two guys and me but my boyfriend no gree o. Said he can't stand seeing another guy's dick. Chai. I sha want to try it before tying the knot.
Delete17:10
DeleteYou are in a knot already
You just don't know it yet
Sex without the weird experimentation will seem too ordinary and boring to you
Since you got involved with deeper levels of rubbish you shouldn't have got involved in
20.55 👌👌
DeleteFound myself in this situation with one stupid guy that was asking me out. I didn't really like the guy. He just wasn't my type but, he kept pestering me. I wanted us to tag along as friends but some guys are gifted. Just a touch and I'm all wet. Believe me, his fingers are magical. Even my husband no get such. Irrespective of where he touches, it sends shivers down my spine and I loose control. Then after the do, he tries to assume we are dating, then I fight the idea. Put him in his place. He feels bad, comes begging... talking all his rubbish plans and then the magical touch. This guy will clean my house, remove his shirt to scrub my floors on a Saturday. He was a colleague at work but too soft.
ReplyDeleteHe's married now and says we should hook up as friends to just chat. For where.... I don't even respond to his Facebook Messages.
Then there was this cool guy too at my place work. He was the dream of every babe. We spent weekends galvanting the whole of Lagos. Very classy and Romantic. His trips were not the usual everyday norm. He had money,class et all.
Sex with him was painful. His thing was too long. But the fact that I was the envy of every babe to have gotten that close to him, made me feel stupidly special. We really never defined the situationship and also never discussed anything related. Actually, the guy na Bastard.He sure knew how to treat a woman. His public display of affection was top knot check. Every one knew us as special friends off course his friends will know that it was with benefits. I didn't have female friends so, I couldn't be bothered. After a while, I was catching feelings and to avoid getting hurt, I just created space. I can't be begging a guy to date me.
I thank God for the salvation of my soul. He indeed saved me. From my background /upbringing, Sex is not a measure of one's morality.
But now I thank God. I was messed up from childhood. I kept my virginity till I was 23 and got married at 27.However,between those 4years,i slept with over 100 men. It meant nothing to me. I'm not saying I enjoyed all. I just can't explain it.
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DeleteIt's fun while it lasts, it ends when one party wants something deeper.
DeleteWawu
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DeleteWithin 4 years, you had over a hundred dicks 😱😱
Have mercy on your pussy dear, may it receive total healing.
Speechless is how your comment made me feel..
Deletethank God for ur life.
Delete4yrs 100 bc just off me
DeleteWe are waiting for Kiki the sweet girl to share her experience.
ReplyDeletelet me go anonymous on this one, Ahhhh I had one before, I was in Warri, Delta State and he lives in PortHarcourt, infact his then real girlfriend was always using my house as her camp home whenever she visits mercy land in Warri, she never knew I was shagging her boo, she thought we were just friends, I loved doing it with that guy, he has this big dick (my spec), and he knows how to use it, sometimes we can go on and on from morning till night, we no de tire, as that guy no turn me to a sex maniac, I thank Oluwa ooo, because I know how much I spend just to bring him from Port Harcourt to Warri, I do all the spendings and all he does was cook, shagg me, suck my pussy, eat the pussy and sleep... it was so much fun, I never had any feelings for him aside the feeling for sex, his girlfriend later found out about us and broke up with him, even a night before his wedding, I fucked him.... maybe na all that plenty sin, na em make God de punish me sef... hufffff... Elvis I miss you shaa
ReplyDeleteCookie and slutty chic come and carry your person 😂
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Delete1558 I know EVI. Hahhahahahhahahahhahahhahhahha such a small world. Hahahahahaahha. Nice dick, dark in complexion, good head game, cool dude but the wife dey show am SHEGE now! Timi by name a fashion designer, she had a daughter and changed d game for him. U b badttt girl we gisted about u a lot.
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DeleteYou're great dear!!! Clap for yourself!!
@IBK, I'll be back and when I come back, you'll see my team😂😂😂
I am proud of you o, you were transporting dick from one state to the other... Two hands in the air my dear.
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Delete@push up I double Twale o🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 mama ooooo. I hail I swear you are the real MVP....
DeleteOh wow! Stella thanks alot for the topic.
ReplyDeleteCurrently in one after being out of a relationship for five years.
It's really not the best I'd ask for but sometimes I feel like I'm getting emotionally involved.
Of late I'm really craving for more. I wish he could see me beyond that.
But I still have to respect myself and the basis of the *relationship*.
We're keeping cool and mature though.
Never eat food from a garbage heap because you are hungry for you stoop to levels you shouldn't ever be found on
DeleteIf hungry cry to God and wait for His supernatural manna
He still answers prayers
Yes severally until I got married.
ReplyDeleteIt's beeter than having a heart attack say u dey think about a cheating bobo
We celebrate you sister girl♥️
DeleteDone it Well well. In fact there was one guy I was doing FWB with. His doing was too sweet but I didn’t talk to him in public. I had to ghost him when he started complaining of being ignored by me
ReplyDeleteMost times I'd say I dont need a boyfriend to have sex as I'm yet to be married neither I'm I in a relationship but sexually active.
ReplyDeleteTo me fornication is fornication. Whether with a boyfriend or another man - my school of thought.
Out of our hypocritical nature as human, we tend to classify sin (in the context of religion)
I don't see a reason why people justify sexual act between people who are a thing but not married.
For as long as morals/biblical principles are concern, sin is sin.
So before you bash anyone involved in FWB, ask yourself if the person you are sexually involved with is your spouse?
Thank for this interesting topic stella.
Stella are you aware that one silly instagram blog lifted the story from Friday gistscafe and posted it as theirs? Even using an anons comment word for word claiming it was the message sent to their dm? Na wa for world people o, why can’t they give credit to you.
ReplyDeleteI had a potential FWB, my God! just talking to him and I'm dripping. He always used to tell me how attracted he was to me and trust me, the feeling was mutual. Unfortunately or fortunately, I just couldn't do it, my good girl persona didn't let me. We did all but actual f**king. I just knew I was going to catch feelings and he would be fine. He kept telling me he was not ready for a serious relationship. I had to cut him off to save myself the potential heartbreak.I still think about him, especially when I'm ovulating and seeing that I'm still single.
ReplyDeleteYep. Similar situation. Thank God no actual sex yet. Just sucking. I keep trying to ghost him but he keeps coming back. I think best thing is to have my options open so I don't fall in trap
Deleteim in this watsapp group, done every but no actual penetration, guilt will kill me if i do, but hubby no dey gree satisfy me unto his own FWB so im managing dis one sha
DeleteIt was just once and I coundnt do it again....
ReplyDeleteYes, I have done it before. It was just the sex that I wanted from him as we're in the same age bracket but I prefer older men when it comes to love and marriage.
ReplyDeleteThen, whenever he tells me he loved me I told him back just for the sake of the sex as well as wanting to explore my sexual fantasies. He was also sleeping with about 3 other ladies then but I don't even mind. At a time, I had to tell him that it was just the sex and nothing more, I can't even remember what his response was then cos I don't really care. Nonso, sorry if you felt I lied to you all those while, you're a good guy but I really didn't develop an atom of feeling for you.
I have stopped it tho for about a year or 2 now.
3 other ladies...wow, not scared of STDs or AIDS?
DeleteI'm in one right now but no penetrative sex to avoid catching unnecessary feelings . He licks my kpekus And I suck his you know what. Ive always thought he was cute n sexy so why not. Just a reliable person to keep me company when I need it. but I'm Not really looking for anything serious now because I wasted 2 yrs of my life in a relationship that ended in disappointment instead of down the aisle. Not really trying to rush into anything n risk getting hurt again. Just keeping my options open until i get a good fit. I never initiate contact, he does all that. I don't want to risk getting ghosted. I'd say it's a pretty sweet arrangement
ReplyDeleteNothing sweeter than fucking someone who really wants to be fucked too without emotions and feeling. without that money drive or consciousness. Damn! i miss her like air. in My case the benefit to her was the good sex. when she puts her hands on a her head in upright doggy position , then you know you are hitting it right. #memories
ReplyDeleteThis is me right here!!!
DeleteFinding such as a guy is rare these days.
DeleteI have done it before,the guy knows and I'm older than him...we only meet to have sex,he comes to my house though.I enjoyed it while it lasted.
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteYes, we were friends with benefits from 2015 till 2018 he proposed to me. We're married with a daughter.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very normal thing these days. People just take sex where ever it’s available and if it promises to be good. If it’s really good, the hitting continues till it all goes south.
ReplyDeleteI’m not at exception. I know all the dangers and pitfalls but that doesn’t stop me.
I have experienced the good and bad and even terrible sides of it but it’s all part of life experiences to me.
Till I find that special somebody who will make me give it all up for one.
One thing that fucks up fwb situations is lack of honesty from the onset. Spell it out so everybody maintains his or her lane and if things start changing then another sit down is required.
Married now (not to her), but had one in 2007. About 8 or 9 months earlier I had broken it off with my second girlfriend, whom I thought was the one I would marry (another story). I was your good boy, persona type, the one mummy and daddy will be happy to welcome home. I was still recovering from my heart break and was staying away from women.
DeleteI was working in Abuja and my cousin had called to ask if her friend could stay with me a while before getting her own place - she was coming to Abuja for her Industrial Training. I consented, it wasn't an issue for me. I had an apartment on the outskirts of Abuja CBD but was provided a room in Area 11 by my company so I can be close to the site for work. I was just going to put the girl in my apartment till she sorts herself out, since I didn't go there except on some weekends.
The girls arrived Abuja and I went to pick her from the bus park. She turned out to be this petit goddess that had this amazing figure, glowing skin, a beautiful welcoming face, eyes to melt in, lips to desire and a gapped tooth smile and laugh that could make a man drop his guard. I was in lust faster that I thought was possible, but I was supposed to be big brother. Playing big brother was easy because of my persona - I am the very calm type.
She arrived in the eveing, so I showed her around Abuja a bit, we got something to eat and got to know each other. To my surprise though, she didn't want to stay in my apartment but opted to stay with me in the one room in town.
I was already feeling the tension, so when we eventually got to the room, after shower and all, I pulled her close and that was the beggining of a few months of bliss. The next day, we defined the relationship, I didn't want a commitment because of my recent heart break. She didn't want one either because she was in a committed relationship.
There was no strings attached, I liked her company and enjoyed the time we spent together, but there was no expectations beyond that at first. She'd talk at lenght with the boyfriend and it never bothered me.
I started to feel uneasy when I'd catch her staring at me with this eye filled with passion and fire. She showed me so much attention and I enjoyed it without the stress that comes sometimes with commitments. Then she told my cousin about how I was blowing her mind in bed (there goes my good boy persona in front of my cuz).
But you see I am a sucker for being appreciated in bed, and the girl almost worshipped me for my performance, and that made me float on air and motivated me to do more. The thing that started to pull me in was when she would let it drop that she loved me during gbenshing and right after. I was going to pull away, then though I didn't want to hurt her and perhaps we can make a swing for it, after all I actually liked having her around she had become like a real good friend that brings no stress but plenty benefits.
So, I started to change my disposition a bit and drop ideas of changing our relationship status. I guess she just could not hanndle the fact that she wasn't touching my heart and decided to see if she could get it. Cause once I started to indicate an interest to change the rules of the game, she broke it off based on what I consider a very flimsy excuse - she started getting freaky while I was driving and I stopped her for safety reasons, and that was it.
I was kinda disappointed when it ended but my heart wasn't hurt from the relationship. I was however left confused for a while. I must admit, it still ranks as perhaps the most enjoyable relationships I ever had - we never even quarelled once and I had total peace of mind!
Gather here for a selfie if you're not involved in FWB or sexually active.
ReplyDeleteInteresting comments.....just here to read
ReplyDeleteI think i am in one at the moment... the thing is we haven't defined what we are doing yet but he doesn't act like he is ready to commit.... I caught feelings, asked what we were but he didn't say anything reasonable, so I trashed em feelings.... He is catching feelings now, after he is done catching em, he will un catch em.... I only see him as a prick/dick shikenan
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