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Saturday, November 02, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THERE IS ALWAYS A REASON A MAN WILL NOT DO



Hello Stella,


Thank you for all you do.....I have been a blog visitor for so long but I hardly comment.


I decided to send my chronicles today and to also correct the impression that all men who dont find s#xual satisfaction with their wives are closetly Gay as widely believed by your readers and people at large......As you do for others, please hide my identity.


Straight to the point. I have been married to my beautiful and lovely wife for 15years and we live in the "abroad" though business brings me to Africa about 3 times a year.


Not so proud of my past, but before marriage and living in Nigeria, I had my fair share of women. I dated and undated a couple of women to the extent that from a woman's shape of lips or kisses, I know how s#x with her will be/feel...lol


Then, I relocated abroad in 2001 and dated oyibos too. However, because of my/African values, I knew marriage to oyibo was out of it. (I am old sch like that. For example, why should a woman smoke cigarettes). I kept searching for a Nigerian/African woman to marry. Then I met her....on one of my trips home.


She was so beautiful, respectful, nice and tender. Looking at her, all you want to do is to love and protect her.
I put on my best behaviour and romantic side to woo her. Because of her, I suspended my high libido exploits and concentrated on making her my own. I succeeded!

Because of the love and good intentions I had for her, s#x wasn't a priority.


However, From kissing her, I suspected I have entered one chance but I prayed (yes, even in my sinfulness, I do pray) that God should help and my gut feelings will be wrong when we eventually do the do.


We dated for months before we did "the do" it sucked. Every other thing was near perfect.

I consoled my self that it was her "good girlness" and took up the job of a "do" educator but subsequent "doing" suggested it cannot get better.
Now, it wasnt the acrobatics or the frequency, it was just the feeling down there.


To better understand what I mean, ask anyone who have had multiple partners, imagine you are blindfolded, and each of your, say 3 partners sleep with you, without talking or any sort of body fragrance, the feel will make you know who did what round. Lol. Some of us are that very sensitive down there.


This became so traumatizing for me. From my years in the world, I know how and what good s#x can do to/for a man (woman) but I also know women like her who bring nothing but happiness are very rare to find. Furthermore, I had made promises and commitments to not just her but our families.


My predicament (To continue with the relationship or Not) continued until I got back to my base after a 3 months working holiday in Nigeria. 2 weeks later, she called to say she missed her period. Ordinarily, this shouldnt be a problem as we were already engaged but with this predicament, decision became tough.


I am not one to shy away from commitments and responsibilities and she doesnt deserve to be ridiculed after years of closing her legs like a mermaid before she met me...

To make matters even more complicated, the scan showed she was having a set of twins. A boy and A girl child..... We got married.

I consoled myself that with faithfulness in marriage, when congea hold me, I will find "doing" with her fulfilling.


8 months after marriage in Nigeria and when the twins were 3months old, I brought my family over.

It's been 15years now and 1 more child but I have not enjoyed s#x. We can count how many times we have had s#x in those 15 years. I dont enjoy or initiate it.....not because I dont want to or stopped loving her....not because she is not attractive (she is a beauty goddess). The few times, we did the do, I hardly come and end up masturbating which leaves her in tears.

We live in a country with all manner of counsellors and psychologists and have visited most of them, did all the things they asked us to do, yet, to no avail.


Like the famed Nigerian comedian-Okey Bakasi- will say, a man has 2 brains, 1 on the head and one with the D. The D has a mind of it's own.

I belive you and the readers will not understand this just like my beautiful wife never did initially, until you feel it .


BUT I use one analogy to try to explain: just imagine there is a very bad cook, whom you have eaten their food a couple of times and found tasteless/bad, you wont long for food from this cook (even if they are the nicest person arround) and even when you are extremely hungry, you will rather eat something else....(BTW, my wife is a wonderful cook when it has to do with the kitchen)


In my case, the "something else to eat" is masturbation when I cannot help it anymore since I dont believe in cheating.
Cheating? Only once in 15years, 5years ago and of course with a woman......just to find out If I was still a Man since my joystick had not been in use at the time for 3 years.


In conclusion, Everything other thing is fine with us, Finances, investments, our own houses. The kids school. I love my wife, my kids and will not trade them for anything in this world and have come to accept my fate with regards to "do" BUT I am not gay and will never be.


PS: madam refuses the use of vibrator and will rather we suffer together. Lol


*WOW!!!....I understand!!!

130 comments:

  1. This is why God said to flee from fornication. Oga you have tasted every every that one woman is now not enough and you start to compare her with others. Hmmm๐Ÿšถ‍♂️

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    1. I'm abwiman so normally I'll insult you but NOT TODAY. Today, I want to learn...So guys, is this true...do different p...sies taste different coz I've always thought it's same taste but different rythm/acrobatics for everyone. Stella kindly do a post on this so we ladies will for once understand this thing about men and different p...sies please.

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    2. Plus oga, I sympathise with you, but I no believe say na just once u don cheat on madam...

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    3. He has truly tasted every women he came across. Just imagine him saying by looking at the lips he would know how good in bed a woman would be. Fear just catch me for that statement. So creepy. Over experienced guy like him going for a virgin with no experience. You that you have phd in sexmatology.
      You never deserved her. Men like you will leave women like you because according to you there aren't good enough beyond sex and marry Mary amaka. All the women who opened up for you weren't good enough to marry?

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    4. Go look for your brain.

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    5. Plus oga, go for deliverance.

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    6. Exactly my thought while reading.
      When you know your level of experience, why go for a neophyte?
      Obey God’s command, no. You were forming baddest guy ever liveth, collecting soul ties that have ended up stealing your joy even whilst living in paradise.
      Enjoy your sexless marriage Oga.

      Meanwhile, I really still don’t understand why you’re not enjoying the sex, I didn’t get the analogy used. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝ‍♀️

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    7. Anon 15:37 why insult the poster because he brought his matter here. Biko receive sense๐Ÿ–

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    8. I understand. Kpele. But I just want bvs to know that being a 'mermaid' before marriage doesn't mean that you will make a horrible wife sexually.

      I married a virgin. My hubby used to be the typical ladies man - Tall, dark, handsome, swag, sweet mouth, money and very generous. He was the high school jock, prom king kind of guy that got every girl he wanted. Typical sweet boy, play boy. He later changed and gave his life to Christ. We met and married.

      Today, he thanks me whenever we make love. He says I'm the best he ever had especially 'head-wise' *sideeyes* and in initiating new activities.

      How did I learn? From him, google and inspiration. Plus, I had a desire to learn. We've been five years in marriage.

      So, dear virgin, you too will have an amazing married sex life!

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    9. Sorry poster but you might be a gay man trying to further deceive your wife... ๐Ÿค” No Woman's body is that unappealing. You love her, she's beautiful yet you don't desire her. Be honest with yourself sir...

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    10. Story for the gods๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜This sounds like a guy I used to know. You prefer to masturbate than have sex with a red-blooded female, your wife for that matter. Stop deceiving yourself, you are gay!!!

      You live abroad, you have some extra cash... if the issue is physical from Mrs end(which I doubt), get her surgery. Or get yourself psychological help.

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    11. This guy fucks Trans women reason he CAN never b attracted to wife. Dude u gay!!! Fucking ur fellow men with makeup is also gay

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    12. There is no sexual attraction!!!! This is a real thing. He doesn’t find her sexually attracted. His dick won’t stand even if she twerks in his face but it will stand for other woman because (psychologically) from the start his mind had group her with the good girls, the ones to love and protect not f**k.

      His mind is compartmentalized - good girls on the one side (to be married, shown off, protected) and then bad girl to f**k, bang, have fun with. He can not reconcile both.. and it is making him feel unworthy.

      Oga, you need to let go of the shame of your Past. There is a deep seated guilt that you’re acting from, couples with the fact you had already put her in a hole so to speak before you even had sex the first time based on what you think is real(what you think you know or hold to be fact).
      You need to re-parent yourself to see things differently.

      It is hard work. It is genuine work that nobody can do for you and turning to masturbation is a cop out from your relationship and about marriage and unfair to not just your wife but to you too..

      Again, this is really hard work and I don’t know who you said you saw and how many sessions and what work you’ve done but you’ve not scratched the surface and you need to start looking till you find sometime with the understanding to do the work with you.
      Unfortunately I am swarmed with some family issues right now and cannot type more or able to help more but do not believe the lie that there’s nothing that can be done

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    13. I totally agree with you. God bless you.

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  2. That is your karma

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    1. Karma or no karma, bros you are trying, I hate bad sex with a passion. Well since every other thing is great, just keep managing

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    2. Nigga, you GAY. QED.

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  3. Kai ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฒ serious punishment.
    I can’t believe what I just read.
    This is what sacrifice is all about. I commend you oga, but......
    Na wa ๐Ÿคฅ

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    1. Well...is it that it's loose? Virinoplasty to the rescue. It's just not sweet down there? Ajumbaise and kayanmata to the rescue.

      Try get her drunk and high and see her drive you like a demon possessed her.

      You guys can also loosen up and get experimental. Try 3some if she is game or try fix to watch another man drill the fire out of her and see yourself go bonkers.

      Oga, don't stop trying new things till you find what works. Life without sex is...like healthy saltiness food. She can get piercing on her clit for all I care.

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    2. Sapphire your third paragraph๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜ฒ.๐Ÿƒ‍♂️

      Debra.

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  4. Oga karma has visited you. What about all the Steffy Stufy that was hanging legs on the walls for you? Oh you left them to marry an original African woman that will not smoke Cigarettes? Do you know if it was the cigarettes that was doing the magic? Ngwanu continue carrying your cross cos you cannot have it all. Even Jesus buru obe so you sef buru obe nke gi.

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    1. Lol @steffy stuffy ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
      But what’s so bad in a woman smoking cigarettes ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฟ‍♀️
      Doing it once in a while isn’t bad.
      Life long punishment na e the poster dey so. Can’t deal .

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    2. @Fan Thank you. Don't mind him Mshewwwww

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    3. Naim good for the man.
      He should bear his cross.
      Nonsense and Africanist Nackson.

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  5. AGN is typing...

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    1. Lmao
      Exactly what I muttered when I was reading ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    2. Lmao
      Exactly what I muttered when I was reading ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    3. Ang wont type. Ang doesn't insult or castigate men.

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    4. AGN: Attorney General of Nigeria?
      Ajuju n'ese okwu oo ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    5. 15:27
      Make we dey look

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    6. 15.24 you know it.
      ANG will never condemn a man for bad behaviour.
      If this was a woman’s chronicle, ‘it’ would be all over the place, spewing obscenities.

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    7. @P.S.
      And when she "condemns" a woman, she sentences her to how many years in jail?
      Okwa ajuju ooo
      What you call "condemn" is that I quote Scriptures okwa ya?

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    8. P.S, is that how you hate another human being so much to call her "it"? Come on let's be civil; I don't like her attack on people here but calling her it, is below the belt. Let's learn to respect others even if we don't agree with them.

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    9. We call that person "it" not out of hate but because we don't know the gender.

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    10. @21:08
      say "I call" not "we call that person"

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    11. Two people called her it up there. So it's supposed to be "we" not "I". Ordinary English is an issue

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  6. You brought this on your sef.the side effect of ashewoism. You have tasted all the women you came across and the best you could do was settle for a virgin. Why didn't you marry a pro like yourself? You can't tell us out of all the women you had none was good enough to be wifed except the virgin you married. Angry naija girl is coming for you except "it" doesn't castigate men but only women. So you may be excused.

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    1. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚lmao @ ashewoism
      They wont hear !!!

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  7. You need deliverance oga. All the demons from your past life have perverted your life. Maybe you even have spirit wife.

    And madam sef, why she so uptight? Have you tried all those Korean vagina remedies? Good luck!

    Hi all ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿผ

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    1. Chikito please don't mind him there is nothing wrong with the wife. What is doing him is withdrawal symptoms from years of fikifakafakafiki. Hi body is used to that. Besides he already programmed his mind to believe he wouldn't enjoy the sex just having the knowledge that she was a virgin alone put him off psychologically and kill the sexual desires before it even started. He is the problem. I just feel sorry for the wife who had to suffer for his promiscuous past.

      Poster see a psychologist. Their isn't any difference between your wife's down below and other women out there. You have just configured your mind to believe so. Your body is experiencing withdrawal symptoms it misses your former tryst.

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    2. I just feel the guy has not isolated the problem. Is she loose down there? You can begin to find possible remedies to tighten it. Is it that she doesn’t get wet? Cos lubrication is key for both the guy and lady. So what exactly is it? Find out first if the issue is physical, before concluding its psychological.

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    3. Hello Chikito
      Happy weekend ๐Ÿ’‹❤๐Ÿ’‹

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  8. Can't comprehend the reason for not be able to perform since she is beautiful, great cook etc. You can make up the bedmatic aspect with paid tutorial.

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  9. I don't understand. What can't you teach her? Is she rigid or unresponsive or the structural integrity of her cat house is failing? What exactly is the problem? Are you certain she can't improve?

    Who was actually able to pin point the problem from what she wrote? Please a little help here.

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    1. I didn’t understand it either.
      I’m chalking it down to Karma. Men who want a ‘good’ girl to marry after ‘spoiling’ other girls in their hey days usually end up like this, dissatisfied even in the midst of plenty.
      Oga, no sympathy for you. It’s even your wife I feel sorry for.
      Better go and break all the soul ties you made with your ashewo behaviour.

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    2. Thanks, I thought I was the only confused one. I don't understand the head and tail of this narrative.

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    3. Some women are cold in bed and no matter what you do, na lie. Oga you should have married one of your fuck babes.

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    4. I dont understand too. Is like his not enjoying sex after marrying virgin ๐Ÿค”.

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  10. As long as you are not getting it out there. I have met a man married for 30years and he said he never cheated on his wife even though sex wasn't her thing. I guess your wife hasn't explored her body well.

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  11. She is not adventurous in bed. Dats all

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  12. You cheated on her once? ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿค”
    Anyways I believe sexual xp with different partner will differ just like if person a cook jollof rice the taste will differ from how person b to person z good will feel on the taste bud. Even the plating and garnishing of the food wont be the same. If your wife decides to cheat as well, trust me she would also have some not so nice things to say about you in bed. That's why some Virgins may get disflowered by their boyfriend and end up cheating or dumping that boyfriend for some other dude who performs well.

    Try and get the spark and sexual hunger back with your wife since you brought the story here. You said at one point you didn't have sex for three years? You better Try harder else you push her out and she realises your bed game was wack all along compared to other men out there. Because if care isn't taken reverse may be the case in the end.

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    1. Kisses to you. I was just thinking he might not be all that but he's confident he's God's greatest gift to women. Mscheew. Abeg take several seats.

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  13. You never really said what was wrong poster. Is it her technique, size of her vagina, wetness? I don't really get where the problem lies. Maybe she is your karma. Sex therapists and psychologists in the house, this is for you.

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    1. Poster I think your wife finds you boring the way you find her boring sexually.

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    2. Thanks 16:05 but he thinks he is a pro because he has gone "far and wide" pun intended.

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  14. The pitiful thing about all these your story is that you know so much about your body and sex but you know nothing about God and eternal life!
    You know absolutely nothing about your spiritual body; Quite a pity!
    Everything is fine --name them... but all in this life?
    This is my ajuju oo
    if you leave this life (which can happen anytime without notice), what becomes of the "everything is fine?"

    Cheated once in marriage is cheating, it is adultery. When God said
    he will judge adulterers Heb. 13:4, he did not specify how many time the sin must be committed, did he? If this your "beauty goddess" of a wife cheats "once in 15 years" will you overlook it? And you still chant that you "love her?"
    How about having "everything fine" and having eternal life?

    I have a cousin that stays in the States who loved his wife so much but did not find sex with her enjoyable.
    They've been married for 20 years and both were people in the world.
    It was in the 13th year of their marriage that this guy got saved by Christ. The wife didn't get saved till last year.
    He learnt to fast, shed weight, stopped alcohol/smoking, became a more disciplined guy. All these things were effortlessly. Because of how close we are, he could tell me about their intimacy -let me write it in his own words..."I thought I did not find sex with my wife enjoyable...it was my stupidity, cheating, flippancy and utter disregard for Christ that robbed me
    of my sexual bliss..."
    I think I have written the main things he said.
    Think about your life guy...➕➕

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    1. She is here
      ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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    2. Where are those that said ANG does not rebuke a man
      She has disappointed all of you. And her comment came in before yours.

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    3. Oh please let's hear word 17:43. If it was a woman who sent in this Chronicles you think 'it' would have been this lenient. Did you see "it chanting fuck fuck" all over this man post. Where did you see the rebuke please show me because compared to how ANG shouts everywhere when it'sa woman, this is nothing. This is an advice not a blatant rebuke like the one ANG always gives "it's" naija girl.
      Misogynist๐Ÿ™„

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    4. If you call this one he wrote up there a rebuke compared to what he dishes out to women then you must be new here or you are ang himself.

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    5. Wawu
      See anonyghosts ranting under my post o
      Una carry water for mouth?
      Na ajuju I ask una o
      Make una rebuke dude na?
      Me I like my Naija girls and that is why I advice them
      using my Bible. That dude up there is a adulterer and I
      no mince word to yarn am.
      How many dudes they write chronicles? I no dey write to impress anybody.
      I write the truth and haters of the truth/haters of God will always find esemokwu -quarrels.
      ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

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    6. You are the anon ghosts yourself, you angry bird or whatever you call yourself. Haters of God? You are talking about yourself because I can see comprehension is your problem. Who told you not to preach but make sure you use the same energy you use for a woman for a man too. Simple!

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    7. @21:14
      Why don't you preach to men with all your energies? Your conscience is awake once you are
      reminded that it is God that you hate.

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    8. 21:14 Aunty or uncle, you are the one who hate your creator. Your question, why don't I use my energy? Because you have taken it upon yourself on this blog to focus on women you could also shift your focus a little bit on men too and while at it, you might as well do a good job at being impartial. If you are still curious I do that both on and offline, so Happy now?

      You think everyone who tells you the truth about your skewed way of preaching is a fornicator. Your preaching doesn't apply to me in anyway, you don't know me or where I stand with God. So preach all you want, after all it's a good thing and I commend you but see through your biases and be partial when preaching to both sexes.

      But from your replies it's obvious your ministry is mainly fixated on single naija girls for personal reason best known to you, so do you, but stop acting dumb like you are clueless of your ways and quit trying to base this discussion on me hating God. God forgive you for even uttering that. You think you are the only one who adores and live for God as vast as this universe is, then think again. Bye.

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    9. @22:32
      You are the one creating this World war 3 between dudes and sisis in your head.
      This blog is more than 95% women commenters and is it fair to tell me I am focusing on
      women?
      Ajuju oo
      How many dudes write chronicles? Ajuju oo
      In a whole 3 months we may just read one.
      Biko have peace in your soul inugo? ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน

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    10. I am the one because I am the only one who always made reference to that? It's something you have been called out on so many times. Two other people even called you out.

      It is well with me and my soul.someone who don't have peace wont even have the time nor energy to reply someone like you.

      May you receive succour in your burdened heart on top this matter of your naija girl. ๐Ÿ™

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  15. Wow different strokes. I have high sex drive and I looooove sex. I love giving head and my imagination is wild. The best porn my hubby and myself watch is from me. I even have a video of me and ex f##king. It is hot and my man has been begging to watch it but I use it to tease him. He knows he's the best I have and can ever have. And my love for sex went nuclear with him. Wow I'm getting wet now typing this.

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    1. Osheyy baddest!!
      Enjoy your hyping...

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  16. Na wahoo, I don't get,is it that ,d hole is deep or tasteless. Chiaaaaa.

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  17. The both of you were not compatible! So unfortunate. You shouldn't have gone ahead with the marriage even if she was pregnant. You both are more or less brother and sister. I don't think I can survive in such a union. Oga, life is short! You are punishing yourself. Why don't you file for divorce and move on amicably? I hope you do not regret this sexual starvation martyr later. Or better still, how about an open marriage? That might suffice. You are not Jesus, NOBODY is going to give you award for suffering yourself and masturbating and nobody is going give your wife award for sexual starvation. Wait till your last kid goes off to college and talk about the future of your marriage! How long can you go on like this? Another 15 years? 20 maybe? Or 30? Is this how you envision your middle ages. Sir you need to really think about this. The same way, that woman was advised to leave that union, I would advise the same to you.

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    1. He should remain there and think of how to make it work. Has he prayed and fasted? After all there is no domestic violence involved.

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    2. He should divorce her? Where is he running off to because of sex? Any little challenge in marriage you men start looking for the next available exit.

      Most of you only have physical strength but no mental or emotional strength, no tolerance at all to make a marriage work. After all she doesn't hit him or nag him. Neither does she cheat on him or is she rude to his family? What else does he want? That is his cross he should carry it.

      Everyone I am sure have one or two things they are covering with cloth in their marriages and they are still there holding on. If everyone divorces because of their challenges, who will remain? Lots of women are in sexless marriages just like this poster and nobody died. He should focus on his kids and his job and get sex toys to ease his urge, after all, for every problem there is always an alternate solution asides the extreme one's(cheating) He should stay in the marriage just like his wife and stop complaining. No perfect marriage anywhere. If he leaves because of sex and marries another, who knows he might leave that new woman too because of poor hygiene or lack of peace of mind.
      What make you think the other woman he will meet will be better than his wife in all areas where she is good and good in all areas his wife is lacking?

      You can't have it all in life poster, you have money good wife, beautiful children, nice houses and fulfilled jobs, peace of mind and other beautiful things but you are advised to throw it all away because of the demons of your past whom have all come back to haunt you.

      UNCLE GET A DAMN TOY!!

      Debra.

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  18. You see why God asks us to avoid premarital sex?

    You have tasted all shapes and sizes of women and the enemy had so distorted your mind that you cannot even enjoy sex with your God-given partner., You thought you were enjoying when you were moving from girl to girl and enjoying and dumping, not knowing you were digging your own grave.

    This is a spiritual issue. Go on your knees and ask for forgiveness for your past sins and deliverance from whatever spirits you are carrying that you don't know of.

    Masturbation is a sin and no different from fornication/adultery. It will not help you.

    Go to God. Run to God.

    "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body." 1 Corinthians 6 13.

    This chronicle here is a perfect description of what that verse means.

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  19. It can be fixed but it sounds like neither of you are honest or interested enough to approach the conversation with your partner and get a more fulfilling sex life. How playful or intimate can you be with someone you barely connect with sexually? Sounds like sufferhead to me.

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  20. Another proof that all the commandments in the Bible are ultimately for our own good. Poster, if you didn't have multiple sex partners, you wouldn't have had a bench mark to compare with. In other words, when you've only eaten from a cook all your life, you wouldn't know that there are better cooks out there. Pls carry your cross or you go back to God in repentance and beg him to remove all those demons doing 'aluta continua' inside you and restore you.

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  21. There's nothing like sexual attraction and compatibility between partners, especially if you're gonna sign the dotted lines with the person. Oga you sha entered one chance with your eyes wide open. Oh well, you can't have it all now can you?

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  22. Hahahahaha, that's your karma for whoring around, I'm in d same boat, my husband hasn't touched me for 8yrs now, I just removed my mind n faced my kids, let him continue reliving himself outside, I can't wait for him to be posted to Nigeria so I can start my groove, I can't afford to groove if he's still with us, too much at stake ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

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    1. Correct!!!
      But 8yrs is such a long time oo

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  23. You a man bro, involve yourself. Fuck outside,pay and go. No emotional attachment. You can do this once in 3 months and feel better or better still involve a woman for menage de trois .Life is short men. Live your life.

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    1. "You are a man", is that another term for " you are a destined ashewo","you are meant to be a sex to slave", "you should be cheap and place no value on yourself", oh, or it means be a dog"?. You are a man you are a man, that's how must of you commit adultery till you die and still expect the kingdom of heaven to be open for you because you are a man. Mtshewww.
      You think God cares about your gender when it comes to sin. Better receive sense poster.

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  24. I pray your love continue to foster...I was that naive in the other room then, In fact all I know was to lay down n hubby on Top lobatan but my hubby took it upon himself to teach me theoretically n practically,he'll even ask for review,at first I was so shy but he made me understand sex is one of the backbone of marital happiness and we might never enjoy sex if either of us is shy to talk to the other about the experience in the other room n gradually the shyness flew outta the window,now we can't keep our hands off each other anywhere in the house so far the kids are out of sight....Alhamdulilah for my spouse he's everything n more to me,I LOVE YOU Dr.K

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    1. Poster don tire to dey teach him wife.

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    2. He shouldn't worry they will help him teach her outside since he is tired. The poster is a bad teacher dazall. This is another proof that year's of sexual exploits doesn't lead to experience. He isn't good in bed but doesn't know it.

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  25. This one I haven't seen ANG's comment.

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  26. I can relate with poster, I am a woman married to the most handsome and caring man but i don't feel sexually attracted to this man, i don't even allow him to kiss me and i don't understand it.
    I and my 3kids just joined him in his base inside the cold weather am still resisting him.
    Oh God help me, i love him so much and i don't want divorce.

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    1. Your spiritual husband is really strong!๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿคจ
      You think your husband doesn't know?
      When he gets tired of tolerating your fake ass,you will be the one to beg but I hope it doesn't become too late by then.
      You better try harder o,if not......hmmm!

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  27. This is more of connection on a s3xual level, and it has absolutely nothing to do with being adventurous or demonic possession. Your s3xual energies are not in sync.


    It takes a sensitive/intuitive person to understand that they feel s3xually dissociated from a partner.

    This dissociation, you can't just explain it. Even if the person hangs leg on the fan, it doesn't and wouldn't seem right.

    My piece of advice, See a s3x therapist that incorporates and fires s3xual energies, not those Instagram vendors.

    I wish you all the best

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    1. I sync is the right word. Am in sync with my hubby. Am fired up same time with him. We cum together he only has to look at me and I get slimy wet.11yrs

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    2. You are blessed, that's just it, it has nothing to do with his level of experience. They werr never attracted to each other sexually.
      Do something before you become brother and sister in that house.
      Sex is important o.

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  28. I totally understand how you feel.
    When I read Chronicles about women who complain about their husbands not touching them, I blame their husbands,not knowing that they could be the reason!
    This is what you get when you marry someone who lacks sexual experience and who is not willing to learn or improve in bedmatics!
    I know the only reason why you haven't cheated on her again is because you are in the abroad....๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜
    You wont be writing this Chronicle if you were in Nigeria because of cheap side chicks.lol

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    1. He never said she wasn't willing to learn and improve in bedmatics. Also there are many previously inexperienced people that get to enjoy sex in marriage.

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  29. Ok a lot a guys say pussy is different. Some sweet m some not sweet at all now i understand. Oga carry your cross

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    1. Same with pen*s. Some are bitter, some are tasteless while some gives destructive feelings. May God help us all๐Ÿšถ‍♂️

      Debra.

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  30. Poster, I used to be like your Wife. After childbirth I completely lost interest in sex, I can go months without it and it really doesn’t bother me, it sometimes feels like chores to me or some kind of punishment. Once I caught my husband cheating despite how much he tried to hide it from me even though I was disappointed, angry, insulted him he begged, cried and all honestly deep inside me I can’t really blamed him cause the way I flared up when he demands for sex it can only take a gentle man not to hit me and I must say he’s a complete gentle man. He sat me down one day to explain how we can’t continue like that and devised we find a solution. We invested in safe sex enhancement supplements from expert, tried to spend more time with each other and you know lots of fun play before the do and I must say he’s an expert in that aspect. So Poster try and work on yourselves and see things turn around! BTW I have been married for 15 years too and the past 3 years has been the best so far!!

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    1. Please what supplement did you use? Help a sister. After birth and I do it have the urge at all... and we use to give each other hot hot before oh., doing it everywhere. I cannot believe this is me.

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  31. All of you saying its karma, if Una see karma Una go recognize am? Even if he was a virgin before he married her, if they aren't sexually compatible they just aren't. Meanwhile those saying she was a virgin: She wasn't. She was just doing the mermaid thing when they met. Umu nwanyi, if it was a woman that wrote this chronicle, Una for dey console her. As na man now see as Una dey castigate am. I believe in supporting womenfolk. I no gree partial. Oga, as u have decided its your cross carry now. The lord is your muscle. U for check am well first sha. As u like to lash. Ask God for the gift of endurance. And those saying he should coach her: Even if she turns pro it he doesn't come with her, aw den go do? Pele jare. Take solace in every other aspect of the marriage that works

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    1. God bless you for this comment.Best comment ever

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  32. This is the story of my life. I got married as a virgin to a man that has done alot of stuffs with women,in my own case I was psychologically emotionally and verbally abused just because i find it hard to get wet and each time i feel like it he will start making comparison with all his ex and flings, even tell me secondary school girls re not has naive as me or tell me outrightly that your sex no they sweet.we are divorced now but he can’t seem to move on.....even told everyone who cares to listen that I was zero in the other room.....he wasn’t even patient.....it is well

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  33. I don’t understand what the poster thinks the problem is.
    All I know is that communication is the key. I might not know technicalities and all of that but I was once naive and shy too. When I got married, I was so stiff and dint like sex (still don’t ) but I learnt how to please my husband. I did a lot of research, read books, posts and articles on sexual satisfaction. My husband also taught me. After 6 years, I think I’m better and I now even enjoy sex but I still do more research. COMMUNICATION helped us. We talked to each other about it.
    Please give it another try and don’t give up on sex with your wife. Believe it or not, going back to the one who created it can help you too. Good luck.

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  34. I still do not understand what the problem is. I cannot tell if the problem is physiological or just her atmosphere in the bedroom. I do agree that sexual incompatibility exist, but I feel that there is something about the type of sex that you like that you are not opening up to her about. Perhaps your image of her as genteel and a delicate flower caused you to contain and trap your passion, and you never ever let go in bed with her. This is exhausting and emotionally depleting. You never gave her a real chance because you were being dishonest. In a marriage a man should be free to be himself and express what he likes without fear of shame or judgment. Perhaps you are afraid of being judged for liking some things that may be seen as too out there, too extreme and perverted. You are a very sexual person so I know you are likely quite experimental. I think you should really show your wife who you are sexually, all of you, even the parts that you are afraid to be judged on. You have not allowed yourself to be vulnerable in the bedroom because you are afraid of being judged by the one who you have loved the most. Unbottle yourself and breathe and just be you!

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  35. As usual God's SAN will give excuses on His behalf.

    Stop believing that karma is playing catch up with him. Why isnt Karma sympathetic to his wife who remained a virgin????
    Please explain that God's defenders....


    Good things happen to bad people,

    Bad things happen to good people.

    Poster, your D is just refusing to cooperate with you????? Haba!!!! Some crosses we carry though.....


    I have no words of advice...
    But at least you chopped life then so maybe you should be sated by now.... lolz

    Keep trying, keep giving your d€/k inspirational talks to connect with Madam's P€_=/y.

    One day, the combination lock will show up...

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    1. @Devil's advocate

      The karma is with the hubby He is the one complaining
      He is the one comparing his wife with sexual experience and suffering from the lingering memories of fornication.
      He is the one feeling hungry and unsatisfied with sex.
      He brought the chronicle here, obviously he is the one bothered and having sleepless nights not the wife.

      You understand now?

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  36. When I got married my husband told me he doesn’t want to kiss anymore (millions of germs get transferred). There was a time we had sex twice a year. Years later he wants to do better because I have totally lost interest in him. But he is just a zero in bed.

    Unlike you poster I do not love him anymore. Being with him is a chore. I woke up one day and became this way. All the emotional manipulation ... I’m just over it. I don’t know where this marriage would be in the next few years.

    PS - I have a vibrator.

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    1. Truthfully, asexual ppl should just start their own matchmaking website and date each other. In this age of born this way, and free to be me, the asexual ppl should just find their own kind. Imagine two times a year and no kissing, so wtf you got married for? Then expecting complete faithfulness and if you were to file for divorce you would hear sex no be food, and sex is not the most important thing in a relationship.

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    2. Enter your reply... story of my life. my hubby is not good in bed at all, but thinks he's all that. I'm about getting a vibrator. As for love, I don't love him again. I don't even know why I'm still married to him.

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  37. Gay man ๐Ÿ‘ฌ

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  38. Sir, believe it or not u have Spirit Wife. Go for deliverance.

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  39. Hmmmmmm, some things are quite difficult to understand. Me that married as a virgin, for almost 19yrs now, I HV bn lounging, wishing and praying that hubby will step up to my sexual needs, from the night of our wedding that i first experience sex, i knew i hv very high libido but despite Hubby's huge dick and past exploits he so much talk about, he only does missionary style, initially i was shy to complain since i had fantasies from books i had read and things my elder sisters had told me about sex,shocking when i demanded for varieties, his response has always been " never mind we will get there" he's always reoccupied with so much academic activities that's or frustrating and to think i hv suspicion of him codedly cheating,makes me mad because i don't understand him, I'm supper honey but with fear of God, anyway I'm still waiting for us to get there, it's just that I'm 43 and he is 57 somehow i hv consoled myself that may be some are not meant to really enjoy sex despite their desires

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  40. You may not be in good in bed as you think. Being promiscuous or having a high libido is not the same as being good in the bed. Perhaps you are used to doing perverse things you may be too ashamed or disinterested in doing with your “innocent” wife. Or you assume that thrusting quickly is the dame as good sex. Perhaps the both of you are just not compatible in terms of preferences for foreplay and penetration. You may be a selfish lover who derived pleasure from the performance of sex as opposed to actual intercourse which may make her uncomfortable or feel objectified. Also, check if you always praise her on her moral virtues which may make her uncomfortable in letting loose. It’s not easy to unlearn social conditioning in a society that condemns sexuality in women. So I wonder why you’re assuming she’s the problem. If she wrote a chronicle I wonder what she’d write. I’m sure you guys have tried it all so just keep trying, also consider individual therapy for sexual addiction or perversions. Nothing wrong with loving sex, I do too. But we also have to be considerate to our partners while seeking our own pleasure. All the best

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  41. Guys please stay away from watching too much pornography. That's what the poster is suffering from.

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  42. Stroy of my life. Guy you just replicated my situation. I married mine a virgin. Everything is perfect except sex. I go weeks before we do one miserable round and the wait continues. Me that use to run 7 rounds marathon without drugs. It's well but I am frustrated.

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    1. It's good for all of you who want to use other women to fulfil your fantasies and think you can get 'lucky' by marrying a virgin. You popped the cherry ba? So live with it.

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  43. It sounds like you guys are sexually incompatible. It is a tough one to fix if you don't include the use of sex toys maybe see a sex therapist? If u continue like this, despite your good intentions, you will either cheat or start to resent your wife. Sex is the intimacy that binds in marriage. Think on it

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  44. I don't think he wrote in for advice. I think his chronicle was sent to correct some misconception he mentioned up there. Poster, what I got from your story is wife is beautiful and all that and you prolly married her because you thought she'd make a great partner. You weren't wrong with this so thank God for you. What you lack with her is sexual attraction though I find it hard to understand why a re-blooded male won't be attracted to a woman he describes as 'a beauty goddess'. Since you've tried the conventional methods to remedy the situation to no avail, just cast the matter over to God since you said you pray. As a believer, I do know that sexual fulfillment in marriage is a blessing from God. Don't allow guilt over your past lifestyle stop you from approaching the best sexual and marriage counselor there is (God) for a solution to the problem. God cares about every detail of our lives and also about His children keeping their marriage covenant. I believe if you go to Him with this motive, He will intervene in this situation. God wants His children to be happy and to fulfill each other in marriage but we have to trust Him by doing things His way as singles or as married couples. Don't settle for a sexless marriage or yield to temptation to adultery. I encourage you to learn your lessons and teach the younger men who are coming up to avoid the mistakes you made. Some have done it and got away with it, you did not so there must be a purpose to it. God can use this experience in your marriage to do great things in His kingdom.

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    1. Your case is different 20:39. You have a reason. And you still often do the do.

      The problem I see with the poster is that he brought it on himself. Because when he was sleeping with different women he was busy judging them as if he was any better. He didn't see any of them good enough to wife, but good enough to sleep with. So he was just using them. Maybe at least one was really in love with him and wanted to marry him. But he felt he was too good for them. So yeah I agree with all those shouting karma. For the wife, we don't know her story, so we can't say.

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    2. Do you realise people get married when they are ready and stable? Financial and emotional stability! But may date all the same. For example, my GF in the university would have been perfect for me. But then, I wasnt ready. When I became ready, she was no longer available as she had gotten married from her NYSC days. The Nigerian economy surely delays marriages. The only regret is not sticking to the word of God of no fornication. That way, one will not have the pre experience and that may help.But hey, we sin differently.

      As someone pointed out, this isnt really a Chronicle for advice but to correct the impression that if you are not "doing" at home, you must be cheating or gay.

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  46. Dear poster, in all your write up, I did not once read you mention how your wife rates sex with you. That your sexual curriculum Vitae is so rich and she a virgin does not necessarily translate to you being better in za oza room. You don't know how to make love to this woman yet, you are using 'techniques' you believe turn all women on, loll, no 2 women are the same.... Plus this is what tasting up and down causes, you have too many experiences to compare with, people like this nothing satisfies them for long, you get excited for a while and unto the next excitement. Even if you had married Sharon Stone, along the line, she will still bore you. You have decided to cope with this issue, good for you. Work on yourself.

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  47. Hummmmm don't know what to say.
    D one I love I don't enjoy sex with
    The one I enjoy sex with I don't love
    But u still went ahead nd marry d one u don't enjoy sex with.
    That why cheating is everywhere. What is your opinion on this

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  48. When I got married I realized that my days of exploring sexual positions were over. Hubby likes only missionary style and that's all I get even when I was pregnant. I love doggie but he doesn't feel it's right.i doubt if I have seen my hubby's willie in daylight as he is always hiding it unlike me who is a nakedo.asides our boring sex lives, I wouldn't trade my hubby for anyone else. He is a good man and loves me deeply.

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