STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN A LECTURER WANTS TO GBENSH YOU
My supervisor is asking me for s#x or the sum of 80k,this disturbance has been going on for 3months even before I wrote my final exams,I thought I could manoeuvre this situation,I've made calls too but nothing has been done,the man is still insisting on s#x, anytime I go to his office,he'll be like I should wait for him, let's go to a hotel or something,he refused to attend or give me my work for correction and defence is next month,I'm still in chapter 2, I can't even record him coz he knows everything about the BBC tape etc etc,so he's very careful,you will drop your bags and everything at d door, he'll tell you to search your self or he'll search you himself,...
Good afternoon bvs, Stella Nwayioma God bless you, pls I'm not thinking straight ATM,so pls pardon any error and lack of composition,I'll go straight to the point...
My supervisor is asking me for s#x or the sum of 80k,this disturbance has been going on for 3months even before I wrote my final exams,I thought I could manoeuvre this situation,I've made calls too but nothing has been done,the man is still insisting on s#x, anytime I go to his office,he'll be like I should wait for him, let's go to a hotel or something,he refused to attend or give me my work for correction and defence is next month,I'm still in chapter 2, I can't even record him coz he knows everything about the BBC tape etc etc,so he's very careful,you will drop your bags and everything at d door, he'll tell you to search your self or he'll search you himself,...
I don't have that 80k even if you sell me and my business and I can't ask my mom for d money,she knows about the s#xual advances too,coz we reported d man to a former hod but the hod said there wasn't any evidence and he can't just go and accuse my supervisor,that my supervisor could make it unbearable and worst for me .clearance is coming up,I've not even had the complete clearance fee that I'll now be going to pay a professor 80k,I've prayed a lot too, some persons are saying I should sleep with the man,that it won't be more than 30minutes but I ask myself,how many demons is that man carrying on him??....
I read here about vaginimus abi something like that where the vagina walls clamps on the penis,I want to use that as an excuse,will it work??
While kneeling down and begging him,maybe even shed a few tears and I need to do it before Friday this week,(I hope he's not on this blog before I'll be busted), I need to defend,I'm in chapter two,defence is 1 week away,all hope seems lost, wish I had the money...Pls Stella and all the bvs Biko what should I do?
Oh Dear..................Please dont do it Ooooh..........
Oh Dear..................Please dont do it Ooooh..........
Imagine someone that has a daughter or probably sister or wife. God will punish him. Don't do it dear, cos you will sleep with him till you leave that school
ReplyDeleteAll the advice, I think are appreciated but it's too late. Her defence is Friday which is next tomorrow. If only her Chronicle was published much earlierir was sent earlier at least she could start executing some of the advice.
DeleteNothing prayers can not do. Do mid night with him. Get a chair, sit him down pray on the chair telling him what you want him to do.
Good luck.
I think this requires serious prayer and fasting. You will come out victorious. Is there no other official you can report to? He is way out of line. He will also soon meet his Waterloo.
DeleteStella should do giveaway quickly if not more sob stories like this will keep coming up
DeleteGet the number of your school chief security officer. Brief him on everything. Agree to go to the hotel with your supervisor. When you get there, send a message with the name of the hotel to the CSO and your mum. Delay him for a while there till they arrive. Poster, you need to be smart about it.
DeleteThey all have to be on standby the day you will go to his office to agree to have sex with him. They can even trail you guys in another car if possible.
I hope this helps.
I had the same issue with Dr. Obed of blessed memory, his wasn't demand for sex or money (He was a man of God), but his strictness and unnecessary wahala, i just started working then and couldn't afford leaving the office all the time, after chapter two, I continued to write and didn't take it back him, finished and went to type, he said he wasn't my supervisor anymore and I said okay and didnt bother about him. I prayerfully went for defence and had a B.
Deleteposter go with swag lafresh advice.
DeleteGod keep you, dear. Have you heard of spy lens. Just like a pair of glasses but records both audio and video. it costs btwn 8 and 15 thousand, here in Nigeria.. it's about time we stopped this madness
DeleteSorry for what you are going through but believe me even if you pay that man will still sleep with you, may God help you.
ReplyDeleteDon't do it. Worst being worst carry your mother and your siblings go to his house and beg him in front of his wife and children. Let the wife know or even his pastor, what he's been demanding. Na so some lecturers dey die like ant o.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo, that lecturer/prof wey dey demand sex needs to be castrated. It's his type that gives men and the educational system a bad name. At poster go on jumia and buy a spy camera/ recorder for 3-5k. This spy gadget are in form of pen or eyeglasses. Or you set up a camera/video recorder and hide it in a hotel room when done with that Place a call to the man to come that you are ready to give in. Make sure you go emotional as you express your disappointment to his demand.And also make sure he admits to all his sexual request. Don't forget to have friends at stand by who would break in when you start shouting rape. And before I forget you can record your conversation with him on fone but you have to be smart at it because am sure the Prof is a serial sex requester for sex from students.
DeleteThis is a good advice and this should be recorded, if you and your team are not allowed into his house still record the move of your presence in his house. Your mum should go with you to your HOD and make a demand for a change of your supervisor if he refuses to stop. Get higher authorities involve. The he goat is not average of loosing his job and possibly jailed.
DeleteOh dear, I’m so sorry about this.
ReplyDeleteIs it only you he is supervising? Do you know any male student he is close to or respects? Perhaps, find out and have the person go plead on his behalf and say that you are his sister. Some of these shameless men have one or two people they respect.
Unfortunately, Nigerian universities are not equipped to take these cases and like your HOD said reporting would only get you into more trouble. I don’t think tears would work for a man like that, it might even turn him on. Men like that don’t care about tears. If a male student or lecturer friend doesn’t work then go with your mil to beg him. I don’t know what else to tell you but I feel really bad about this because I hear a lot of stories of people who have to go through it.
I can also assure you that if you even decide to sleep with him, he won’t let you go. He’d want to keep you so you can continue to be his pleasure pot. So don’t even consider it at all because it’s already a fail proof plan. If above doesn’t work, I’m afraid sometimes desperate measures call for desperate actions or how do they say it again? I will arrange boys for someone like that o if it means looking for the 80k to pay them to give him some beating of his life. So sorry dear, I would have also suggested something but this forum is not the right place.
If she hires people to beat him up and he's hospitalised or killed as a result, she will fail cos nobody will supervise her project at such short notice. And that's even before anyone gets caught or starts confessing.
DeleteThe Real OA, I am speaking for myself dear. Not asking the poster to do same. The Nigerian Justice system is messed up, even with evidence they’d still take the side of the lecturer because they are all the same.
DeleteYou need to see how a Prof. (Woman) was angry about the BBC coverage and said the victims were to blame. Unilag has taken measures but it’s only because of the outrage not because they truly care. Not every school has a committee that takes up matters like this, in my school we had a lecturer like that who was into sexforgrades but he was eventually demoted not for the sexual harassment but because despite all students do to pass, he’d still fail them and the course was an easy one so the school was upset he was wasting students time and perhaps wasn’t teaching them well thereby making them fail.
Nigerian lecturers and frustrating students! So it's even a whole professor that is demanding for this kai i feel for you cos i know how school can be..even after this BBC issue this lecturers haven't learnt a lesson. We need serious cleansing in this country. God will make a way for you out of this!
ReplyDeletePoster do not have sex with him.
ReplyDeleteDo a three days dry fasting and prayer and ask God for mercy. Mention the name of the lecturer and watch God do wonders. Please keep us updated.
Exactly. Take up the matter spiritually. He is not wiser than God. Sheybi he thinks he is taking all precautions from being caught, instead of stopping himself from destruction. It will shock him.
DeleteShow him a fake HIV and hepatitis B result
ReplyDeletePoster follow this advise, if you have any medical doctor working in a government hospital or a lab scientist, let them help you
DeleteIf the leech is desperate he will insist on protection or the cash
DeleteAunty go into fasting and midnight prayers
Turn the power of GOD loose on his matter
The man go use condom or collect money.
DeleteSorry dear,it’s just a phase and it would be glide over. Whatever you do don’t give in. May God pave a way for you.
ReplyDeleteIts not fair when men take advantage of a situation to frustrate a helpless student, why put this girl in a tight spot? If I say make trailer fail brake locate your car now, u go say I'm wicked.
ReplyDeletecan you buy an engagement ring with pretend to be married and start forming pregnant till you are done with your. Get an engagement ring, wear it always, get a good friend of yours to act like your husband, take him to see the man. Let that guy tell the man how you are pregnant and how the doctors place you on bed rest, let him understand that the only thing that is giving you issues now is the project so that you can have your proper rest.
ReplyDeleteYour borrowed husband should talk to him like man to man, you both should beg him. Do not let him talk to the man about your defense, how he can help his wife to finish her project on time and start her bed rest. You too will like as if you are regnant, try this format and see.
mama that tactics no go work oh...Engagement ring ke
DeleteIt won't work o.
DeleteYou are even considering sleeping with your lecturer? SMH.
ReplyDeleteSince your mum is aware, she should look for the money for you to sort your lecturer since your HOD said he can’t do anything without evidence. What has your mother advised? Does she want you to sleep with your lecturer?
Some parents do this every time and it’s no big deal.
I hope this isn’t not a SCAM?
Don't give in to his cheap blackmail. If you're a Christian use psalms 35 to wage spiritual war against him. Wake up midnight,naked yourself,write down his name and step on it naked while commanding the angel of the Lord to uproot him out of your way. Make sure you're standing Stark naked on his written name. Do this prayer and fasting for 3days and watch God part the red sea for you.
ReplyDeletenonsense, so if she no naked God will not hear her.
DeleteThis is close to practicing witchcraft o
DeleteBetter to practice the witchcraft you call it than to sleep with him.
DeleteSince the man has decided to be a wizard to her nu, let her become a witch to him o.
DeleteI believe your school has higher authority other than your HOD, go and report him to the senate, at least you have an HOD who knew about your reports. All these Lecturers devising other means to prey on students. Africa!
ReplyDeleteShe needs evidence to do that.
Delete80k for Christmas rice ? Is it not too much for only you!!!
ReplyDelete@Poster;There are smart watch you can wear and record whatever it is;Audio or video..
ReplyDeleteor does he ask you to remove your wristwatch as well before entering his office?
You can also braid your hair;after braiding pack it together and do the "Doughnut Styling" then put a small phone on "Record Mode" and fix it inside that doughnut style firmly,while using a fancy ribbon of #100 to hold your braids together..
Enter his office and record everything;your braids is the least he would search..
You can also fix the phone at the centre of your Bra as well;or does he search there as well??
@MARTINS
For Phone/Fashion Accessories..
@ Poster the 3rd paragraph of Martins Aboy make sense ooooo.
DeleteJust buy small phone with recorded and record every conversation between you both..
Martins has given you great options, all the options work like magic. Just go ahead and ask him to get anyone of them so that you can use it to deal with that foolish man.
DeletePoster, hiding a recording device in your hair is what came to me as I was reading your chronicle. Do NOT sleep with him or pay him any money no matter what. And you know even if you pay that 80K, he'll still demand sex.
DeleteMartins Damn you are so smart..I just thought about the last option for the girl to do...God bless you...Poster dont sleep with that rabid dog...My dear Pray very well o..That was how one lecturer in UNIPORT was disturbing my sister from Year 1 then but Unfortunately as God may have it, this man was kidnapped and killed and my sister was able to graduate in flying colors...Keep praying and if possible fast, I put that man in my prayers then o plus my mother's dangerous prayers...
DeleteThe man may be a BV o. Just saying
DeleteHnmmm this is serious
ReplyDelete3days praying and fasting my dear.
ReplyDeleteThere are smart watches and pen you can use to get all the recording. Please don't ever sleep with him.
ReplyDeleteDrop his name or the dept biko.
ReplyDeleteThere is too much awareness of this topic right now for you to give in. Plus you don't know who would be able to help you here.
How come you are still in chapter 2 when defence is 1 week away? I hope you are not looking for an excuse here.
ReplyDeleteI can assure you that these lecturers sometimes behave like gods. I just recently went through this process and my supervisor was a woman, I’d call her endlessly and she’d fix a time that isn’t convenient and when I do manage to meet up she’d cancel on me. Meanwhile, she’s aware that I have a job but I had to do what she wanted to complete my project.
DeleteMine took weeks to even approve the topic. The day for defense came and passed oga wasn't even bothered one bit. They just like to feel like mini gods
DeleteTake a 3 days dear and call on God. Believe it. It works.
ReplyDeleteI have been there and graduated without anyone of them even hugging me.
P:S I was not sleeping around too, neither did i have boyfriend.
Take your friend with you to the man's office and tell your friend to record the conversation at the back of his window if possible.
ReplyDeleteYou can use small phone and pit on record wear gown or skirt and wear tight under,then put the phone under your tight and put on record..
May God fix it for you dear...
Wicked man..
Another great option I thought about...Please act very smart..
DeletePlease is he using metal detector to search you ?If not, please put a small phone in front of your bra well packaged, and don't be too suspicious, keep begging him and be asking questions relating to sex so that he will expose himself very well. Wicked and stupid people everywhere
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Use condom and do it
ReplyDeletePoster you can do what was done to one AAU lecturer some years back, agree with him, make reservations for the hotel then arrange for your friends to hide in the hotel room to record the conversation before exposing him.
ReplyDeleteDid you graduate from AAU? Engineering? The guy was my lecturer.
DeletePut a small phone inside your pant, will he touch it too? You can put it down below. This reminds me of uniben lecturers (2008/2011) mcb in particular.
DeleteI had this same problem with my supervisor. Same problem. By the time Jesus was done with him, he used to give me transport fare every time I went to his office. He would gist with me, laugh with me and then give me t.fare. Infact we became fast friends and I got a B in my project.
ReplyDeleteFirst off, u can't be sleeping with a man, whether he's ur boyfriend or whoever at this point in ur life. u either face God squarely or not at all. Partial obedience is no obedience. You will pray and call this mans name like your whole destiny depends on it, sad but that's the reality of a beautiful naija student with randy lecturers on the prowl. My dear, I prayed like I wanted to die. This man cannot and will not defile my body, That was my cry to God. I called my mum and she started praying as well, cus even money to type project we never see finish, talk more of bribe. Infact I stayed for 3days without going to see my supervisor, on the 3rd day of my prayers I walked into his office and knelt and begged him that I didn't have money for my project, so I have no money to give, and sleeping with him is not even an option for me. He got up from his seat, gave me a hug and a peck on my cheek and said I should forget about it. Sat me down and started putting me through on how to write my project so I can at least get a C, cus I was already behind schedule due to his shenanigans. When we finished ,he gave me transport fare, and told me to come back 2days later to show him my 2nd chapter when my mates were already on chapter four and five. I kept going back prayerfully, same reception, just corrections and take your transport fare. At the end I got the same B Chicks were using their money and body to get. All Thanks to God. I didn't have money, or a body to be defiled but my dear I had Christ and I still do. Do u truly have Christ as ur father? Turn this battle over to him and watch what happens. Someone might say I'm advertising Jesus, but when the chips are down, Jesus always comes through. You can DEPEND on him. And it doesn't even matter if Ure a Muslim.....just put your trust in Christ and zero out every other alternative. He came through cus HE knew I had NO alternative. It is well with you. Infact I can't tell u how many lecturers God saved me from. One even almosy tore my script in my first year because he wanted to sleep with me. I cried but I handed him over to God, He got sacked and I got an A in the same course. See Ehn let me just stop here. It is well with you. But just know, Jesus is Not a myth.
I PRAY SHE FOLLOWS YOUR ADVICE
DeletePlease can i be your distant friend ?
DeleteI remember my own time it was even our fellow student that went to the man nd told him we should pay 20k each nd when schl authority heard of it they told us nt to pay any money to any lecturer stating that project is free nd that i we shuld report the lecturer if they threaten us....but who wan try report them when d outcome go make that person G.p fall like old mama breast....my girl jst pray there's nothing God can not do.
ReplyDeleteSend a DM to Ruona Mordi the BBC journalist thru Twitter; I'm sure she would be willing to assist you on how to handle this useless lecturer!
ReplyDeleteChile, why is there so much air of suspicion in chronicles lately? Once money is mentioned, i see scam, Christmas, giveaway, etc.
ReplyDeleteLike would anyone even encourage her to give in to blackmail and proposition for sex, let alone give her money. I can't with some of you sometimes.. 🤦♀️🤦♀️
Imagine if Joseph had succumbed to Potipher's wife, will God have made him
ReplyDeleteKing in Egypt?
Do not succumb to this temptation/trial.
Post your dilema on Twitter along with the school & your department. Make sure you ask for help and retweets. Loads of Jaguda NGOs are on Twitter waiting to fight for such a cause.
ReplyDeletePray on is head for there is no peace for the wicked.pray with the book of psalm .and see God intervention.
ReplyDeleteYou should have changed your supervisor, if it is not too late, request for a change of supervisor
ReplyDeleteDO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM. I REPEAT, DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM NO MATTER THE CONSEQUENCES.
ReplyDeleteSorry i'm typing in caps. I'm hoping the message will sink in
Pray and have faith in what you want..
ReplyDeleteI wanted to say use a body CAM and remembered that you don’t have the cash cos it might be expensive. God will help you
ReplyDeleteI formed married from 200l till I left university... This lecturers can be very wicked.
ReplyDeletewhile didn't your HOD change supervisor for u?
This is so easy na dear poster, agree to meet him up in any hotel of his choice but arrange with your mother, your pastor or any senior person you think can help you. All they have to do is walk in on him trying to sleep with you, just seduce him very well and make sure you remove all his clothes, go to the bathroom to wash yourself from there with the extra small Nokia torch you place inside your pants just send a text message to your people who are already outside the hotel to come inside please remember to indicate the room number. Be very sharp and don't give him reason to suspect any foul play.
ReplyDeleteTo add to what others said, research on how to write a good project. Continue writing other chapters of your project. Look for others that can mentor and guide you, go to the library and get past projects and maybe follow the format. Avoid going to his office henceforth. I don’t really understand the use of these supervisors except to guide you to write your project well. All the best.
ReplyDeleteThere is a recording device very little and very cheap. check online and buy it. it can fit in anywhere. The man will not even know that it's a recorder. Recording pen is also very cheap, you can buy it. Another easy way is to call his bluff. Trust me I have done it. Stop begging him, don't even go to his office again. Be ready to have an extra year, it will not kill you. He will forget about you and face other things. The main thing is that, you have been begging him and he sees you as desperate right now. This same thing happened to me in my final year, I had very good grades, I called his bluff and refused to even go to his office again. Anything wey him want, make him do. Patapata na extra year and I have the right to choose a new supervisor. Na the man dey beg me to do my project. That is his modus operandi, you have to change it for him, when he sees that you no send am, fear go enter his body.
ReplyDeleteSet him up. Agree to the hotel thing, but make arrangements with some men (that you're related to) so that they burst in when u give them the signal that he's in a compromised position. Let them take pictures & video, put on the internet first even before giving it to the useless school authorities
ReplyDeleteYou can apply for your supervisor to be changed, write the letter to your HOD copy the dean of student affairs and VC, your wahala is solved...
ReplyDeletePoster, he sees your desperation and he's capitalizing on it. Approach this with what I call an "If I perish, I perish" mentality. Call on God like never before, make your declarations and then approach him (your lecturer) with boldness. Allow God fight this battle for you. We Igbos call God "Omee mgbe o nyiri dike" i.e He that acts when even greatest of men have failed. It is well with you.
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