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CONFUSED WOMAN

Dear Madam Stella


A big thank you, Your blog has thought me so many things pertaining to life. May God continue to increase you in all ramifications. Ever since I got introduced to this blog by a colleague of mine in 2013,it has been wonderful.my day is incomplete without going through SDK.


To my Honorable BV’s, who have made this place a fun house,“Una too much” Thanks for always making my day.(Abeg na advice I need for this chronicle,no be curse,Na me- your fellow BV Dey talk 😁.


Now let’s get down to the main gist. It’s going to be a long read but please bear with me,I’m not very good at summarizing stuff. This gist involves 3 different men.(Kelvin,Greg and Steve)



Years ago, I met this guy in school, let’s call him kelvin.he was in his final year while I was in 300level.we dated for close to 5 years. He was so possessive of me to the extent,that he doesn’t even want my friends around me,because he feels they are of bad influence to me,of which they are not.


He beats me,say some hurtful words to me.

We finally parted ways because I couldn’t contain his character.which he’s regretting till tomorrow.there was also trust issues.


Funny enough,I’m this nice,church going and humble girl who cannot date two guys at a time. I’m loyal to the core when It comes to relationship..


I finally graduated after him,got a banking job as a marketer in another state. all hell broke loose.he tried by all means to stop me from taking the job offer because of his selfish reasons but I refused and stood my ground. I acceptted the job offer and moved to my new location.That was the beginning that led to our break up.


Kelvin will travel down from his base to mine unannounced,simply because he feel or think I might be with another man (Remember I said earlier that-there was trust issue)I got tired of his attitude that I had to let go.


After 10 months,I lost my job because I couldn’t meet up with the targets demand. During this time,I’ve already broken up with kelvin.


I relocated to Lagos in search of a new job and was lucky to have gotten one.


Now to the second phase, I met Greg during the course of my job. The first time I met him was the very day he proposed marriage to me. Until now I still wonder how it happened. I was never desperate to get married.He was living in South Africa while I was in Nigeria.we only met thrice before we got married and the marriage parked up after few months.

This guy is a package of lies.he painted a picture of him so well that he made Me believe all was real. I never knew that he was after what he can get from me. Initially I saw the red flag the first time he asked me for money.


Generally When it comes to money in relationship,like the guy asking me for money, my love no dey reach there o. Except I want to willingly or freely give it to you or buy stuffs for u without you asking.Greg started asking me for cash that he wants to use it to complete a part of his house which got demolished. I refused. 

He tried to play a fast one on me because I already told him my total take home pay and the total balance in my account.(I told him because he asked for it and I felt,I should be very open to a man I’m getting married to)


I took in the 2rd time I visited Greg.I was so ashamed of myself,like what will my family and people around me say? That innocent girl.so she was just pretending to be a good girl bla bla bla.


We got married,I resigned from my job,relocated to South Africa.we stayed together for few months and discovered that we were not compatible so we went our separate ways.too much emotional,verbal and physical abuse. Greg will call me names ,say things like- See you ,you are not even my class. I’ve dated so many high class girls. You are not even wise. You are this,you are that e.t.c. I went through pain in the hands of Greg. So many things I can’t type now.

I gave birth to my lovely son after 9 months of jumping from one house to another,looking for where to hide my shame when I left Greg’s house.


Also, thank God for the multi international company i worked for.while this truama was going on.the company called me that they are planning to open a branch in South Africa and they would like me to head the branch and team and they re-employed me as their staff. I tried to push this jobless Greg into the company but he was not so adamant to work.
3 months after,my company closed down for some reasons.sacked everyone and left me as their employee.I cried hell.the reason for my tears was,after the effort I put,with Greg stressing me out not to do the job.


My boss who I remained grateful to,asked me to say what I want,if I will like to come back to Nigeria to work? I told him no that I will like to work in one of our branch Canada.the reason why I chose this option is because I needed to go far away from this thing called marriage.i needed peace of mind .that was how it was approved,all trip paid for by my company with accommodation for 1 months before I settle in. I took my son who is 7 years now to my mum and traveled to Canada.


Third phase, Two years after,My son joined me.

I met Steve in Canada .Steve is my best friend till date.steve prosposed to me after 4 years of just friends and I accepted his proposal.Steve takes care of my son like his.(He is also a single dad) My son calls him dad. Steve is such an humble guy. He loves me so much like he said.he respects me,threats me like an angel ,listens to me,shares ideas with me,we make decisions together. He is 34 years old while I’m 38 years old. His working but I earn 10 times more than him. I’m still in doubt if he truly loves me or he’s with me because I’m comfortable and to some extent I lack nothing. Though he doesn’t ask me for cash.once in awhile I do things for him that he least expected.


Another issue I have with Steve is our s#x life. When it comes to banging,he’s a 2mins guy. Most times he feels so bad immediately he ejaculates. I’ve told him we will go and see a doctor which he agreed. He can smooch for like 10mins but immediately he inserts the rode is phammm. I’m ready to assist him get through this even if by tomorrow we ended up not married.


Kelvin who is now based in US contacted me again,got my international number and we reconnected.Seriously I won’t lie I still love kelvin.i used to tell Greg stuffs about Kelvin while we were just friends .


After few months,kelvin called me to informed me that he’s getting married. I was so shocked. Then I blocked him on all angle except my official number. I didn’t know he had it when we reconnected . He sent me messages asking why I blocked him? That is not what I think and I told him plainly that now that he’s married I don’t think we should be in touch anymore.once in a while he will send messages. He’s wife gave birth to his first son then second (2kids)


Since Two months ago,Kelvin has been on my neck,begging for us to come back that he got married to the lady because he needed to get his stay. That I should please forgive him for everything he has done to me.that he’s a changed person now.asking his siblings to plead with me. That I should have coded that it wasn’t real,that he gave me a clue and he thought I understood.


Stella and Bv I can’t seem to take this boy kelvin off my mind. Please advice me on how I should go about this? Should I remain with Greg or go for kelvin. I just tire jarry


Sorry for the long episodes.