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Thursday, January 02, 2020

The Busy Spouse/Partner.....

Some spouses are so busy that they are only seen on weekends or on days they fall ill and cannot go out to work.......






Some spouses have walked out of Marriages because they did not bargain to marry a busy person who does not spend time at home and does not know the meaning of family....This busy spouse claims they know but cannot afford to stop working to be able to provide for family.......


There are some married to busy spouses but manage the time very well and do not have a problem with their going and coming.....

Some claim their spouses claim busy because it affords them time to play with the side piece (side piece refers to male or female here)

Some spouses even demand that their wives quit working and when the response is NO;all hell breaks loose.

Are you one of those married to a very busy spouse?
Is their being busy a problem or have you learnt how to cope?
Can you give tips on how you manage this?

Has anyone walked out of a Marriage or a relationship because the other person was too busy?

I am married to a very busy man and we only find time to do things on the Weekend but that's fine because I am also very busy and the times spend travelling to work also affords me time for myself,time to find myself,time to spend time with myself and time to love my self alone....Space is needed in Marriages and relationship,space to breath,space not to be too dependent on the other and space to be able to make decisions and know that it is what the other would do.....I love being married to a busy man,dunno bout you!

Oya gist us!

44 comments:

  1. This post is for people with spouses and partners. I will come back and read comments

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    1. Oh really? Are you serious? That's what this post is for?? Udomminit?? Ok.

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    2. 🤣🤣🤣@ 16.33.

      I married a doctor. We dated for 2years b4 marriage so I knew what I was going into. I also understood that my ability to support him especially when he is needed in cases of emergency, no matter what time of the day is my own service to God and humanity.

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  2. Una dey try.
    I always miss my hubby greatly whenever he travel. In fact na that time I dey feel horny pass.

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    1. 😂😂😂😂

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    2. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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    3. Fan must bring sex into it!😂. Chai, this woman.

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  3. I would like to be married to a busy man too because i like being alone but having the feeling of someone is in my life for keeps.
    Like that i believe we would long for each other more, do more dates night when he is keep busy and also have lots of things to gist and talk about.

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    1. I can't.
      There was a time hubby traveled for 2weeks,one Yoruba guy in our boys squatter started looking so handsome in my eyes.

      Na who do me this reach 2020?Jesus fix it

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    2. Oh Fan, you will not kill somebody 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

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    3. I don't do gumbody o,but on thing I love you for @Fan Emmanuel, you're always you.

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    4. Lol... @fan Emmanuel... it’s not easy , my hubby has been away for a year plus now, it’s not easy, getting horny is beginning to die off slowly but when he is back, he go hear am😁

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    5. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 I love you guys

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    6. I am quite busy,can we hook up plz if u based in lagos? But I love career minded women who are goal getters too

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  4. I agree with you on the space ish, Stellar. I am not married, but when I do,I sure would have my own room so I can enjoy some serenity. Also, because I can't stand bedroom clutter, this is more than necessary. I think I am wired quite differently because I relish long-distance relationships. It affords the couple the room to be independent enough to ace their goals and when the couple meets, the sparks are in triple Xs.

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  5. time to read comments ..............

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  6. If youre too busy for your spouse youre too busy, and too much of everything is bad.

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  7. When I hear women quit their jobs because their husband's asked them to, I feel really sad. For me, I can't quit my job, except there's a better offer on ground.
    There are ways to handle such issues to make the family better. In this buhari times, are women still quitting jobs....with no solid plans to fall back on?
    I don't mind a busy husband, so long he does his duties diligently 👌
    It's all about understanding.


    Sluttychic.

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  8. Good for couples to be busy but also know when to go on vacations just the two of you, or spend the weekend alone enjoying each other.
    Too much space can kill passion and communication.

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  9. I always wanted an offshore worker, where he works for a month or 2 weeks and back home for 2weeks or a month, i feel we will work out better that way hmmmm. He comes home and we have mind blowing sex, cuddle, love ourselves, then he goes back and back again we us waiting to tear each other apart, cook when i want and no one being a burden to me 🙆🙆🙆🤦🤦🤦🤦

    My sister always frown at me when i say that, that everyone need a man around. Maybe I'm just weird, or have not found that man yet, that will make like being with him forever

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    1. You should thank God you're not one of the BVs that "offshore" guy chop for this blog

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    2. This is just me.....exactly my kind of marriage if God willing. A friend once told me " you better marry a seaman or politician, with these kind of guys you will enjoy matrimony".
      She says i like being alone too much and if i marry a man that is always all over me i will get bored or not appreciate him😁😁😁. #True.

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    3. Me too. I wish to marry a sailor. No see finish syndrome as I always like to be in my space and too much affection gets me bored.

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  10. I am the busy person in our marriage and because of the maturity with which my hubby handles the challenges, I thank God everyday for blessing me with him.
    You see, sometimes I wish I was like him, make money and yet have your time under your control; in my field, it’s not like that. You mortgage your time just to satisfy your company’s clients and this has negative effects on the home front.
    However, I think (from the perspective of a woman now) the couple can make it work, the busy person has to understand that it’s your responsibility to ensure things that fall under your purview are done. Meals, keeping the house clean, etc. you don’t have to do them yourself, know the things that can be delegated and delegate effectively. Where you need a helper, get one! If the job you are doing, that’s taking almost all your time, can’t afford you the opportunity of getting a paid help, consider whether the job is worth it.
    I will admit that aside the job itself, Lagos as a city adds its own wahala to the whole mess, such that even weekends are tiring. This means that any little time I have free on a weekend, I am more inclined to spend it on myself, instead of with my spouse.
    But years into marriage and childbirth, I had to tell myself the truth, that something must give in order for me to lead a saner lifestyle and play my role in our kids’ lives. And so we worked something out - but I admit not all are that opportune.

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  11. Am about to be in this position as my fiance job is in shift,1 week of morning and 1 week of night.while i work from 8 -6 Monday to Friday..
    I wonder how I will cope during the days he will be on night.
    We met through the single and mingle forum and I thank God everyday for making us meet.
    God bless you Stella for the platform.we are coming back soon for our thanksgiving..
    Long live SDK BLOG.

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  12. I like busy partners. Coz small things like salty meal, the TV volume too high, AC too cold or you are laughing over a phone call can cause fight.
    I love my company seriously. Weekends we can do family day out that's if we are free.

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  13. My husband is a busy person and I like it. He fills up for absent days when he's around.

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  14. My husband used to be a very busy person, but 2 years he had to resign and now, his time is quite flexible. If there's anything he's just a phone call away unlike before that his schedule was so strict.
    We now have time for family time and bonding with the kids well, and the pay is quite great,so it's a win-win situation for us.
    And most importantly, I now have time to start building my career steadily.

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  15. I've always been a busy person, I hope to fine a balance as time goes on

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  16. I love him busy, dont like seeing my man around all the time maybe because I enjoy my own company alot and creative when alone. Let him go and come, as long as he remains faithful and has time to date me as before and the kids, no wahala.

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  17. I thought I liked them busy because I was busy too and liked my time alone. But things change very fast when you become less busy. In fact, you start fighting g because nothing replaces that close bond and the presence of your man when you want him.

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  18. My hubby lives and works in a neighbouring state to where I and the kids reside.
    When we newly got married I wanted to apply for a transfer to his state of residence because my organization have branches there while his company does not have where I reside but he took the decision that I remain in the state where I work. He used to visit every weekends but now comes once in a. 11 years down the lane, I'm enjoying every bit of the space.

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  19. I will say,different strokes for different folks!
    I don't love them busy!lol.I so much love being with my hubby.so much.we talk,laugh,play,gossip,plan,in fact we do a lot of tns together! Most times I m just in awe of the gift God blessed me with(hubby).I pray couples really enjoy their marriage cos that's what is meant to be.
    On that note,whatever works for u is fine so long as u both are happy!if u like them busy fine, if not then find a way around it!But make time to ensure your kids pick up all the good traits they can from u,cos they r d first legacy u have.if u don't train dem,who will?.lol

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  20. Nice comment from the married ones 🥰

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  21. Presently not in same city with my hubby and I so much love it cos of the longing to see each other.i love having my space.

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  22. I don't like busy hubby and my husband understands that. I must see you everyday,we must to talk.

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  23. I am the busy one,sometimes I work monday-sunday,no kids yet.
    I cook stew and soup and keep in the freezer.
    My hubby ain't a picky eater,most times he picks me up and we go out to eat pepper soup for dinner.

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  24. I married a “busy”spouse. He is not working and makes no money but he’s never at home. Used to say he’s hustling but he’s just busy chasing pussy. I don waka.

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